“I don’t understand why half the world is crying, when the other half is crying, too.” -Janis Joplin

I love this so much. You can hear him talking to you just like a father would tell his child. It’s in the care of his voice that you can rest assured there is good out there and that person for you is not an absent abnormality but rather a necessity created just for you. Your someone is out there, don’t stop looking but also don’t stop being your best you because that’s who they’ve got their eye out for.

I kinda teared up ngl His eyes was thinnking of his wife and he was recalling some of his own memories. MAN.. I felt it

Man I wish my dad talked to me like this. Literally my depression would be cured.

I like how he is trying so hard to not sound romantic 🤣

And make sure that person is a life partner you can tolerate. Remember looks change, money comes and goes. But if you can't stand the person you wake-up next to each day. You're not just wasting your time but their's.

“Maybe that’ll be good enough...” I think that line was so underrated..

Thanks again, Internet Dad. I was waiting expectantly to hear some really realistic, downright pessimistic thing that we’d probably missed the boat, but JP goes around and says something completely realistic, but not at all pessimistic thing that just says that, yes life sucks, but do the right things anyways. And sometimes life will surprise you.

This guy is always sincere and well informed.

Fear of rejection is what holds most people from getting the person they want. Everyone has been rejected at least once and it can be traumatizing

“Do what you can to be attractive to the people you want to be attracted to you” is incredible advice. I’ve had so many friends either believing they had to settle for less than they desired, or accusing those perceived out of their league as being shallow for not overlooking their (often fixable) flaws. You can do better! Focus on personal development to become the type of person you and others can be proud of - not only do you deserve better, but your future potential partner deserves it as well.

Don't recommend looking for "love" online. There will be scores of people there, not always with the best of motives. Some guys just looking for sex. A better way is to enrol in a live class in a subject that interests you. That way if you meet someone, he/she is there to learn, you can also see them face to face and not behind a screen. You share a common interest, they are not there from ulterior motives and at the end of the day, whether you find a love interest or not, you will have learnt something and increased your knowledge base. A win-win scenario I would say.

Dating sites are the worst places to find "love", especially for a guy. I recommend NOT searching for love, either online of offline. The best way to find someone is through your personal journey, meaning its best for you to focus on your career, hobbies, be a good person, and eventually you will have people attracted to you.

A wise man once said “who by worrying can add one cubit to his stature” “sufficient for the day is its own trouble”. He ask for your faith in him! You would be surprised what He could do for you’re worries! Add that to your message JP for the recipe of a perfect solution! Though it’s easier said than done

The simplicity of this is amazing. Just be you, try, you WILL fail, move forward and keep trying and you will succeed.

"You don't get what you don't aim at. You might get what you do aim at. And your aim might get better as you aim, as well." JP

"Maybe that'll be good enough." I've been trying all that for twelve years now ... it's definitely not good enough.

I watch a lot of these clips. This one stands out as being just the right gentle, sweet response. Very compassionate and nice to see where there is so many harsh clips on these short videos.

I'm 29. I'm not even looking for love at this point. Maybe having at least one girlfriend in my life would be nice

Rather than trying to find love, try to nurture it with people you know. Love is developed over long periods of time. People often misattribute attraction for love. Attraction is ephemeral, love is resilient. It can endures a lot before it actually fades.

In just a word, "Try". This is how everything in life works. Try and if you fail, try once again. Work, relatonships, everything. Thank you mr Peterson.

Honestly I’m done with trying I’ve lost count of the dms I have sent the rejections etc etc in spite of putting myself out there working hard being financially stable etc it’s still not enough some people die alone and I’ve accepted that’s ok

I'm not worried about it, because I know it will never happen, so worrying is pointless.

You don't find love. You give it. The rest will take care of itself.

I’ve found love. …she just didn’t love me back. She meant the world to me. It didn’t help that I pushed her away with my own damn insecurities… I really miss her. She can’t stand me now, though…

The amount of lives this man saved and improved... he is the hero we dont deserve but we badly needet

It would be hard to find love in a loveless world.

I was single for so long being introverted and cheated on at the end of high school and not having many reliable social circles basically non existing. So when I finally met someone I liked I didn't know what to Do. Did I forget how to fall in love again or was I too scared to even consider my feelings. Not until she left Australia back to her home in Japan almost 12 months ago did I realize my mistake. Next time I will remember not to let go so easily

Don't chase love, money or success. Become the best version of you and those things will chase you.

I love how he admits the uncertainty of it but assures us that we'll regret if we don't try.

That’s beautiful. I love how you simply explain things that everyone can understand. We hope….

Hey Jordan you are awesome and we are bigger than any obstacle in this world. Be it withdrawal or loneliness

Jordan Peterson's tone is like: "🙄😒" He's sick of y'all's shit about "love" 😂💞

So is creating a profile on dating apps/social media the right way? NOPE, not at all. It's only gonna lead you to worse depression. You just have to get over the fact 1.that love is subjective and it's not everything 2.Sometimes looking for love is the worse thing you can do, the more you try the more suffering without results 3.Love is overrated, you might not be as fulfilled as you think anyway after you find someone. CONCLUSION: live your life as if love doesn't exist. Ask yourself: what would I do if I didn't care about love? Would I go to that trip? Would I take on this hobby? Would I hang out with these people? If the answer is no, STOP. You are desperately looking for love in the wrong places. Love MIGHT find you but you must first stop trying so hard

I'm not worried that I'll never "find love," I'm just worried about being alone for the rest of my life. The problem for me is, I really don't "want" love. I don't try to put myself out there, I'm not very social, the idea of being in a relationship sounds like it'd be more stressful than fulfilling for me right now. And quite frankly I don't think I have the capability of "loving" people who aren't my family. But this comes with the price of being forever alone.

This man is very nice. I really don't get why some people hate him.

A down-to-earth and straightforward answer. I love it.

I watch this and I still have the thoughts to myself “I am not good enough for anyone”. I am worried I will never be enough for someone and worried of rejection.

I've been doing everything you said for many years now my dear Dr. Peterson. I have a job I'm proud of (software engineer), I just bought a lovely apartment at a great neighborhood, I try to eat right and exercise regularly. I'm not amazing looking but I put effort into it. I'm 34, a bit above average height and quite lean/muscular. I play the guitar and read books and have many other interests. I've dated hundreds of women by now. That's not a brag. I haven't gotten into sexual intimacy with any but a few. Those I really wanted did not want me back. I try not to fall for all the obvious traps like showing I'm too enthusiastic too soon, or anything like that. I always pick the lady up from home and bring her back, pay for the date or put effort with good wine and fruit if it's a park date and basically try my best to be a gentleman. Still alone and don't know what to do anymore :(

Them brows thooooo.! ;)

This is the best dating advice I think I've ever found on KZfaq. I've never personally found it "difficult" but there's so many videos and channels on this platform that tailor to helping people find these secrets, but this is just as simple as it is. You gotta love yourself first or you won't have anything to offer another. Then, baby steps...

I've never been so reassured about not finding love in just one minute, masterfully done

If there is one person to take advice from… it is Jordan Peterson.

I'd say that step one is to love yourself unconditionally, while working towards making yourself the best best version of you that you can be.

I've accepted it.

I’m so glad this man exists

Thanks Dad

I love this guy his smart kind and really wants to make the world I’m so totally jealous of his wife lol

Simple but good advice for everyone! And a very positive outlook. Thank you JP!

I've just met a very special person. Its very early days , but my intuition is already telling me this is gonna be for the long haul. 35 years old, thought i'd never love again. Thought I'd never get married. Now the possibilities seem boundless all of a sudden. Cos I took action. Thank you Jordan for your priceless advice ❤

I've tried all that and never succeeded. The reason is because I hope. I hoped that I will find someone. I hoped that I won't stay alone forever. So when my efforts don't bear fruit, I get disappointed and feel like I didn't try hard enough or that I'm not worthy to find it. But no, I am worthy, and I did try my best. What I've learnt is that putting too much hope into something might or might not happen is a dumb way to live because when it doesn't pan out the way you'd want to, you feel disappointed and even worse, you might even be depressed. The lesson that I've learnt is that I shouldn't be hoping too much. I'm fine where I'm at. I don't pressure myself to find love. If it happens, it happens. I find myself being more calm, more neutral. I can see that I can finally have joy in the little things in life. I also took relationship/love/marriage etc from the pedestal and put it on parr with being single. I'm more stoic than ever. It can be hard to come to terms with the possibility of never finding love, but it's worthwhile journey on its own. I'm never ever going to lie to myself that "someone is out there for me". Because it may very well be that no one is there 😅.

I think I enjoy being single (been about 18 months) after 19 years of not being single, but I do get lonely from time to time. The thing is, I am now 35 and not getting any younger and I wonder if this single life is sustainable, or if I'll grow old and regret not trying to get back out there, because I'm not trying to date anymore. Is this normal?

It looks as though I'm going to lose my fiancée. The Algorithm is definitely on point!

"love comes to those who believe it" - Celine Dion

JP you are such a gem. God bless you man

I love you Professor Peterson! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Those who worry they will never find love typically have more worry than drive in their life. I love his advice, increase your probabilities and embrace the struggle as part of life.

This man is so frustrating, sometimes he says absolutely wild shit but then he says great stuff like this AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO FEEL 😭😭 but he was spot on with this

"a dating site"? those places are about the worst places to find true love.

Nah, dating sites will only knock you down even further if you're an average looking male. It all basically boils down to looks or power (i.e. money) and if you don't have one of these, you're fucked. That's why my only wish is to forget it all and find some sort of comfort in being alone, no matter how bleak and depressing such a life may seem.

I can find love, but this love won't be the one i want. This is the problem. My love is too idealized, I guess.

Damn. What a fucking dad. Love you, JP ❤

I did this and regret it heavily now because my heart breaks every day. I became vulnerable with someone for once and only got hurt and now am afraid to get back out there.

Just accept that you will never find love, and stop worrying.

Those things never worked for me. Then there came a stalker that wouldn't leave me the hell alone.

Well it won't be good enough...

That was so heartfelt and sweet

Having been left by the love of my life. I know I'll never meet anyone ever again. No matter how i improve my life, i cant allow someone that close again. Women no longer make the effort to connect with someone. Or to allow connection to happen at all. Society has ruined dating. Its days like these i question why im doing all this work. Maybe tomorrow will be better. But i know it won't be

This was so deep on so many levels...🤔

If you’re trying to find love, go to a hopeless place. That’s where Rihanna found her true love, her umbrella.

Really good advice friend, Thanks

Life is easy with you Jordan🖤 Respects

Mr. Peterson has clearly never been at the online dating scene 🙃

damn, i am already doing all that and still worry i won't find my love... i am 39 soon...

I'm 39 and I'm too old to find love now. I'm too middle aged and too creepy to meet a nice lady for myself.

What has worked for me is seeing every relationship as an iteration, as you would do to solve a mathematical problem. Some get it right the first time. Some get it right the 100th time. Don't rush it, but do stick to your own goals and time limits. Falling in love is easy. What is hard is getting over it before trying again while also trying to keep balance in your life.

Does my computer count? I clean it every 2 months, I don't bloat it, I make sure to delete trash files, I don't overclock it too much and I also upgrade it every couple years so we together can keep up with the games that challenge us. Granted, I overuse it sometimes I give it time for itself when I'm at work or out with friends. It's perfect and it's enough for me, for now.

i don't think you can call it true love when she/he falls for your money or good looking. the feels that are inside are matter.

This is so wholesome :3

Wow. Needed to hear this. JP, you always have the words.

Im 24 years old however I believe Im quite mature and understand how life works. Heres the brutal truth. You are alone in this world, you are born alone and you die alone. World is cruel and cold and its you against everyone. Its getting worse because its getting more competitive but not in a good way. I tried to get a girlfriend for the past 3 years, I approached roughly 60 girls and I couldnt get a date with one of them. I never had a girlfriend and I never had a kiss. To be honest the older I get I just dont care anymore. I serve my own purpose and I try to improve myself with each passing day. I stand up and fight for myself. Im only 24 but I feel like a real man. I dont care what anyone thinks. I love me and I will love myself the most until I die cause nobody else will.

Wow as simple as that. I ll come back and watch this again everyday. Hoping to find love or even good friends

Don't worry. Be happy. Bobby McFerrin

Thanks, needed to hear this!

I was quite surprised at his answer of "go on tinder" 😆 I thought he'd say make your damn bed and be a monster, THEN she'll arrive....

“And maybe that (love) will be good enough.” Damn. Sadly, the dating app culture has screwed with any “good enough” theory. 😢

Thank you for validating my worries right now 😭😭😭

You are not alone feel comforted

I gave up on that myth a long time ago. I find my solitude peaceful for the most part.

I will genuinely never find love.

the problem with society is that we are too fixated in finding “the one” but never stop and think if we are worthy enough for “the one”

Agree except in the dating app part. I’d stay away from that

Should I be worried if I never searched for love and never wanted it? (I'm definitley not asexual)

Just give it

YOU are all YOU need

Exactly. Don't worry about the externals. Do your part. Hope for the best.

Love yourself first , Work out , stay healthy , educate yourself , set goals in your life...and someone outthere will love to live with you

I’m 55 and single,the last thing on my mind is finding love. I’m pretty happy on my own.

I stopped caring. My goals are more important.

Actually my worry! Thank you for this!