That sounds good when you haven’t invested time, money and effort…. Not sure how many can just say…”oh well.”

If you "mess up" the no contact rule, break contact, step back. Delete all their messages, photos, and get rid of any other reminder of them. Go and do something creative and use the emotional energy to create something new Realise they are not perfect and if they were the person you thought they were, they would have still been in your life and not have left you for some other guy (yes, that is what they have done, sorry to break it to you dude, it's always another guy) If they come back, ignore them. You are not responsible for their mistakes, and the only reason they are coming back is because *they* want something. They are not doing it for *you*

I just broke it.... she posted a picture of something that meant a lot to both of us as a profile photo. I texted her and she said it reflects her love for me... wtf. She broke up and now announcing her love for me to the world...

No Contact Rule is just a way to detach yourself from your dumper ex and start focusing on yourself. There’s no sense of showing them that you have changed especially when your dumper ex is automatically in a rebound relationship and started to ignore your messages again. Also, there’s no sense of talking to your dumper ex if they are not even willing to talk you on an emotional level in the first place. Yes you can talk on a platonic level but these actions may lead to miscommunication and misunderstanding and lets your ex move away again and you yourself opens your wounded heart again. Don’t forget that your dumper ex planned the breakup all along for months and create this negative version of you in their head. Using the no contact rule makes their guilt more high and soon they’ll make a decision to talk to you and regret all of those false negative version of you. Meanwhile while your dumper ex is building up his guilt while they are in their rebound relationship, you can go into dating someone new even just for friends and tell your new partner slowly about your situation with your ex and they will understand it no doubt. after some months and your dumper ex will be dealing with that news. One of the reactions with your ex would be mixed emotions of being happy that you’re now happy that you find someone new or most cases jealousy acts high. But again, it’s a normal reaction from your ex coz they are hoping that you are still miserable from the breakup and they are thinking that you are still head over heels over them. You can be friends casually if you are ready to talk to your ex through texting and after sometime you both build the lost attraction and when emotions gets comfortable enough, you see in person and maybe talk about the failed relationship and maybe somewhat perhaps it could work the second time around. Also, you will also make it clear to your new relationship that your ex wants to talk about your failed relationship. Your new partner of course will be saddened by that but they will understand.

My ex who broke up with me imposed a 3 month no contact rule. Ive messed but he also gave in but i think now ill stop because I dont want to be blocked and it will be worse

In the article, "How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back If She Has A New Boyfriend" you said the best time period to for no contact is 45 days (section 3), but in section 6, you mentioned a shorted 14 day of no contact. Which should I use? Thanks

I used to be in a relationship and broke up for 10 months, after the breakup, he guilts trip me by saying “ you’re ignoring me after my birthday what if I did the same thing to you, and one of my aunt had passed away”. He wanted immediate communication from me he shouldn’t have broken up or not suggested a breakup in the first place, and you’re right about this quote.

i had gone for no contact for 5 month but after that in few meetings I ask for relationship she start she start behaving rude

I been a month 1/2 still crying heart broken don’t wanna eat don’t want to do anything ot sucks he really broke my heart ! I broke my 5 week no contact yesterday on his birthday! He said he going through a lot his mom got sick we talked for at least 5 mins and never responded to my last text … I started lurking he commented under his cousins picture on facebook “what a beautiful cousin I have “ from that I got so anxious and more depressed he seem so happy ! Like how can he be like this

What if he shows nothing at all. How can i let go. We were togesthrr 3 and half years .i did brake the rule and called. Dont want to do this anymitr pl help ty

I broke nc on purpose to be sure that im over. I thought i would have anxiety like in the beginning of break up. And this time i feel nothing. Im cured, lol

My ex she was telling me that I was childish selfish tell me how must I take care of my kids how must I love them she make me feel like guilty about the hole situation she trapped me with the little help that she needs me to pay the rent her i ignore her she was not happy about it.

This is really great... If you broke your intended no 30 days no contact period two days earlier, you are still not ready for winning your ex back, you missed the whole point of NC, so you have to start again with the complete 30 days. So right! 😅

Ex broke up with me a month ago... she had a new guy one week later (a former fwb of hers), and she's still with him. She wrote me this... "You didn’t do anything wrong. Sometimes things don’t work out. We both contributed to how things ended but it’s no ones fault. Thank you for the great memories" -- I'm going no contact, but sounds like I'm toast lol

I broke non contact after 30 days and It occurred that he has rebound. I don't regret breaking NC, it hurts but at least I know

God, I wish she was guilting me. She’s a coworker. We have to work together at least once a week. This week we’ve had to work together three times all day. That’s not the worst part. She started seeing another coworker not long after we started to have issues. Like weeks. So I’m doing no contact with a person I’m around literally all day and her new man is just down the dock. Oh and they moved in together, like two weeks into their relationship because he was homeless! I try to be friendly so there no tension but she’s right there and I make more conversation than I should. At first it was fine but no matter how polite she is, I’m clearly just bothering her. I don’t contact her outside of work. I workout 6 days a week, gave up beer, I read, I bought a convertible, I cut my hair short (which everyone loves) and dress better. Everything else is going my way…accept her.

What To Do When Your Ex Ghosted You & After 1 Month I Begged Her To Talk To Me Which She Did But She Was Not Interested & Then Again She Stopped Replying To Me. What Should I Do?

Did I miss how long should the no contact rule is? Is it supposed to be a month?

Sir, I just want to say that my boyfriend broke up with me because his parents won't allow us to marry. V r the childhood best friends, 5 years before v were in love with each other. But that time he told me that his parents didn't allow us to get married, to each other. And he broke up with me. But after 5 years, he again came to me and said that he still loves me, but the thing is that his parents won't allow us. V both were again in a relationship but after 3 months he again left me. Because of his parents, I want him back, but don't know how to make him realise my importance. And this is the 10th day of my no contact rule. But still, our families are very close friends and our families use to go to the same church, I don't know what to do, so I use to ignore him every time I see him, even though every time he tries to talk in the same circle in which I m talking, and want to talk to me in the same, but that time I don't respond him. Even though v both know that v both love each other a lot. I don't know what to do, When I took your test, I got 70. I don't have the money to buy your videos, Because my family is suffering from today's situation of covid, So I don't have the money to buy it. But still, hope that u will help me in my problem, I m in this big complex situation, can u please help me? So now I m the one

I was in no contact n he texted me saying WE ruined our dreams n he wanted to be a family to guilt me but however HE broke up with me n ruined that HIMSELF bc he treated me like shit! I ignored him of course!

I broke no contact Rule. I congratulated him on the year. He also wished me a Happy New Year. He told me to do my academic work well. I told him I would never bother him again. Has he ended his relationship with me? 😔

He made comments I was childish as well for ignoring him n it was MY decision..... SMH

Man I mess up

I accidentally viewed his story. Will it effect? :")

Love you so much Chris your the best gorgeous one 😍 xxx

Will I want him bad so badly so he texted me on whatupp and he said his sorry and all that shit and I was speaking to him ordinary and he said bye fuck I messed up when I didn't said bye to him to cause he left me without explanation and I wanted to know what happened between us so I said let talk when you're free and he didn't reply actually i wasn't willing to answer him but his sister she was helping us getting back together and I really regret to have listened to her if it's was me I would ignore him specifically he comes back to ask for forgiveness and one more time after 2days I texted him I was in such A bad situation I regret it I really told him that he broke me fuck and now I am willing to ignore him life ignore him forever if it's cost he really hurt me so mush I just want him to regret his decision and it's wasn't worth it to break up with me for such a thing so I am willing to restart it and this time no more petty and weakness

I’m 31 nd I never been faithful I created a bad habit at a young age nd I grew up just jumping from woman to woman no relationships just friends wit benefits type a bonds. Now my 3 relationship I was in i cheated on them nd hurt them. But all 3 hurt me back by continuing to stick around after my actions nd making me feel I can fix it nd then they meet a new person nd it hurts so bad. Guess u can say taste of ur own medicine. I have two kids out of two of the relationships. This last 1 I was in I cheated nd once again I realized how wrong I am nd tried to do better she waiters around for almost a year we was arguing nd fighting back nd forth to court for are 1 year old daughter nd through the process of that I still loved her I still expressed I wanted to be a family I really wanted to fix it nd do better I told myself I promise I’ll never do this to no 1 nd boom she met someone nd was comfortable enough to tell me she stayed the night with him after a date. I was with her for almost 4 years nd I hurts I do this to myself though I’m not blaming them or asking for sorrow. But guys multiple woman only kills ur drive to be faithful cause it becomes so easy to prey on woman for ur own pleasures nd never have intentions on love or bonds so when u get a good woman or woman who’s whiling to love u u only think about due pleasures. But it’s always those selective fee that u will love nd get attached to nd when the shoe on the other foot it hurts so bad cause it’s Ntn u can do because it’s ur fault. I went 3 weeks without contact just only for my kid nd I felt good about it but my mind couldn’t stop thinking of her nd I broke the no contact rule by calling her last night because she asked me would it be ok if I watched my daughter on Fridays sometimes because she had no life nd wants to enjoy life. But I automatically knew in other words she wanted more time for her other nd I knew in my heart this was why she wanted extra time nd to be able to have a whole night to her self to be him more eventually nd that out so much bitterness nd anger in me nd I couldn’t help but to express how I felt I even told her to be real with me nd tell specific things I wanted to kno for my own closure to let her go nd she told me nd it hurt me I’ve been hurt 3 times the same way I cause my own hurt. She told me she no longer had feelings nd no longer have love for me just just respect me as her daughters father nd wants nothing to do with me nd that she just wants to be happy. I was at work last night when she told me this. Nd it made it 20xs times hurtful. Soon I got off I cried for like 30 minutes driving home in sorrow nd regret nd wishing I can go back to never do that. But listen if u have someone good cheating is not worth it fr as much as I love beautiful woman nd having different woman I learned my lesson this time I learned a lot about me nd I learned sooooo much so much was learned from this. I’m scared to love 😢 I’m truly scared nd I did this to myself. Nd once ur woman get touched or feel a different vibe u a never get that person u loved back. Idc how much time passed. Please treat ppl rite everyone not gonna give the same energy back but always be true nd honest nd if u have a good person at heart it’s not worth loosing them. Nd loosing them to another person will scar u for life but the good thing about it u learn nd grow. I got humbled last night na I’m a man that can say I’ve been wit all types a woman but u can’t ignore who u love. No contact rule will never bring that person u want back. It’s really just for u to focus on u nd do better nd at this point all I can do is focus on me nd me two kids nd learn from this so it won’t happen to me again. As much as I would want my bm back I kno my bm the girl I want is gone. I’ll never get that person. She a come back touched nd the value of her just not gonna be the same smh. 🥺 btw Jesus helps me a lot. He’s also a way to become stronger nd heal pray nd cry it out it helps

I messed it up, not by being too needy but by being too hostile when she came back (I didn't realise at the time I had developed feelings for her 😪)