Ask Pastor John Episode: 827 Transcript: www.desiringgo...
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@joelnenadovich81415 жыл бұрын
Yuck. It's a horrible feeling. I was with a non believer when it happened to me, ruined my life for a year and a half. Was so happy I broke free of it. I'll never do it again, I have been strengthened and renewed by Christ.
@thatswhatsup7125 жыл бұрын
Amen
@2ndPigeon4 жыл бұрын
How was your life ruined? Did you get pregnant or something?
@nonami_066xswqoqowiwl3 жыл бұрын
Yuck ?
@NJ-wb1cz3 жыл бұрын
How is shaming yourself "strengthening"? It's extremely easy to disconnect with your past self to avoid feeling uncomfortable, but it means essentially running away from yourself and your feelings, which weakens and limits you.
@josephkirimi54533 жыл бұрын
If you regained your purity back it shows you are in a false church. The truth is this Hebr.6:4-6, 10:26-29, 1Corinth.5:11-13.
@reveyen43434 жыл бұрын
It makes my heart rejoice to see there’s still some good Christians out there that truly love God! Let’s keep fighting the good fight my fellow Christians!
@kamvelihlem62074 жыл бұрын
You know when you come across something you really needed to hear, except you weren’t looking for it? Such a great feeling.
@MrMrjack183 жыл бұрын
Having a relationship is not a sin ! you guys are hilarious..
@michaelhenderson6786 Жыл бұрын
@@MrMrjack18 that’s true actually, and obviously I can’t speak for all of us believers, but I suspect vast majority of us don’t believe that having a relationship is sinful. On the contrary, many kinds of relationships are blessed and even ordained by God, including our relationship with God through Jesus. So, I’m sincerely curious as to why it is you think that believers would believe relationships are a sin?
@sr.mental5876 Жыл бұрын
@@MrMrjack18 I think you misunderstood. The point is the symptoms of a negative relationship, not the whole concept as negative.
@chinweokorafor43387 жыл бұрын
This man has the spirit of wisdom. God bless you sir.
@edwardelliott57564 жыл бұрын
Pastor you showed great empathy for this couple without compromising the truth. Bravo and may God bless you.
@kevinhughes34777 жыл бұрын
I'm extremely touched by the balance here. Though Dr. Piper did bring conviction, he also balanced it with recognition of real repentance and with mercy. Truly an awesome balance of grace and truth
@adesojialu10512 ай бұрын
God bless John piper
@harrycicero2636 жыл бұрын
This makes me realise how messed up my relationship is...
@jamesolson66695 жыл бұрын
And i hope it helps you realize how great a Savior you have!
@regul8or714 жыл бұрын
Respectfully, conviction is a call to action (as difficult as this action may be). :)
@bean74964 жыл бұрын
How is it now?
@epicsex90722 ай бұрын
What about now
@joezeller77 жыл бұрын
The way you began this spoke to me. Thank you for not making light of immorality.
@samcho896 жыл бұрын
Joseph Zeller i
@2ndPigeon4 жыл бұрын
What convinced you that this was immoral?
@Gr8ness4 жыл бұрын
Vincent Kierkels unmarried! That’s why...
@2ndPigeon4 жыл бұрын
@@Gr8ness What does marriage have to to with morality? He wasn't cheating on anyone.
@Gr8ness4 жыл бұрын
Vincent Kierkels if you’re a Christian or have any knowledge of the Bible, you would know that fornication is a sin. (Sex outside of marriage)
@angloaust15758 ай бұрын
Paul said if they cannot exercise self control Let them marry! God is greater than all our sin!
@okimawilcox15504 жыл бұрын
I'm reading people on here saying that sex ruined them for years. They are full of shame and regret. If you have repented, you should not be suffering for years with regret or looking at yourself as damaged goods. Comdemnation comes from the the accuser of the church the devil.
@LeafOfAutumn056 жыл бұрын
Pastor John, I am in same condition,😖 We feel the same and have been praying that God forgive us, and help us become better at serving the Lord in everything we do! We are really sad and sorry for what we've done:( Prayed with tears, Heart broken for the sin that we committed.. My girlfriend and I loves each other so much but we are not ready for a baby and any of it... But we are ready to serve the Lord in everything we do.. Lord forgive us😖 Thanks for the hope
@ashishpaulbannu4775 жыл бұрын
Bro marry her if it is god's will😊😊😊
@trishawhitehouse42265 жыл бұрын
I truly hope you have either broken up, or gotten married by now.
@PrinceJes5 жыл бұрын
Marry her
@michaelg49194 жыл бұрын
I think differently about it: In Genesis 3:24-25 it says that a man and his wife will become one. In 25 it says they were both naked and weren'd ashamed. Because you are naked when having sex together I think then you become one. If you are one that does mean you are married and thus unashamed of having sex together. If you weren'd married you might feel ashamed afterwards. So the shame indicates if you are married. But shame can also mean that you think you sinned. The thing with the emeny is that he want to feel ashamed whether we actually did or not. 1. if you ask god for forgiveness he will grant you mercy. 2. I think that like the baptism (which shows the world that you are indeed a child of god and a follower of Jesus) comes *after* you have acepted Jesus as your savior (and that he died on the cross for our sins and then rose from the dead on the 3rd day) also the wedding can come after you are already married. Let me explain: With the wedding and the marriage you show the world that you belong together and are one. You actually become one flesh in front of god by having sex and therefore are already married by his standards. This quote right here suggests that you'd become one with (=married to) a prostitute if you have sex with her. www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20Corinthians+6:15-17&version=ESV From this perspective I think the best thing you can do is make the marriage public by "marrying" :) You are both christians and love each other so I see no problem. Bless you.
@jacksonprice94713 жыл бұрын
Same situation, update?
@YoxxSHIxx4 жыл бұрын
Keep it in your pants! One of the biggest mistakes I ever made was not waiting for marriage. My way is now harder because of my own disobedience. KEEP YOURSELF CHASE!
@derekharrison88894 жыл бұрын
I'm in the same situation even though I married my now wife
@samcummings2614 жыл бұрын
Hindsight is 20/20 huh brother?
@YoxxSHIxx4 жыл бұрын
@@samcummings261 worse decision I ever made. Leave the porn alone too. Women are made in the image of God they are not to be treated as objects for our sexual pleasure. God will hold us accountable!
@samcummings2614 жыл бұрын
Naldo amen bro, pornography and sexual immorality is one of the most destructive sins there is. The United States has become proof of that.
@petitbun21327 жыл бұрын
Ask for forgiveness with sincerity and God will forgive you.
@RyanGalazka6 жыл бұрын
Whoever has ears let them hear.
@rhysf.5055 жыл бұрын
Quite a change of pace hearing someone say that male virginity is a good thing. The message I've geneally got has been unanimously opposite.
@2ndPigeon4 жыл бұрын
Whatever floats your boat dude. All I can say is, you'll be missing out.
@charliechan68924 жыл бұрын
@@2ndPigeon be missing put on what?
@2ndPigeon4 жыл бұрын
@@charliechan6892 Your sexual prime if you wait too long.
@2ndPigeon4 жыл бұрын
@In Hoc Signo Diliget Well if god has a problem with it, he'll tell you right? Because he's good. Sinds he hasn't told me if I did anything wrong or not, I'll continue to have a good time. And I see no reason te follow the words of primitive, ignorant goathearders about what I do in the bedroom.
@kyleg44534 жыл бұрын
Vincent Kierkels He gave us His word in the Bible. Married couples are happier if they begin virgins. Don’t waste God’s beautiful gift of sex!
@JayJay-ck1vs4 жыл бұрын
Please pray for me. I'm still struggling with this kind of sin. Please pray for me.
@vongaibaye8054 жыл бұрын
Praying for you
@bean74964 жыл бұрын
Jay Jay how are you know ?
@bean74964 жыл бұрын
I'll pray for you
@PATAMA123454 жыл бұрын
I will not pray for you. You made it yourself. It's already done
@bean74964 жыл бұрын
@@PATAMA12345 I don't understand
@rahulkagdiyal81806 жыл бұрын
Pastor John's wisdom definitely guides me to the path to become a better person
@brisnar14 жыл бұрын
My bf and I are born again Christians. After dating for a little while we had sex. Despite asking God for forgiveness we realized we were getting on each others nerves constantly. We both felt insecure about each other. We broke up for a little while. After much praying, we got back together. We both apologized to each other for falling into sin. We decided to abstain from having sex until we get married. We want to do things right. We can never go back to how we were before having sex but God knows of our repentance and that's what most important. Sin makes you hide from God (just like Adam and Eve did) but remember that that is exactly what the devil wants you to do. Don't let him win. Remember God's sacrifice for your sins. Pray as much as you can. After asking for forgiveness make sure you don't go back to sexual sin again.
@2ndPigeon3 жыл бұрын
So how can you be sure you're forgiven? It would suck if you only found out after you died.
@ifeawosika9663 жыл бұрын
@@2ndPigeon Jesus forgives all sins. The only sin that isn't forgiven is unbelief of the Lord and savior Jesus.
@2ndPigeon3 жыл бұрын
@@ifeawosika966 Was that an answer to my question orrrr?
@ifeawosika9663 жыл бұрын
@@2ndPigeon it was to you.
@2ndPigeon3 жыл бұрын
@@ifeawosika966 I asked how can you be sure you're forgiven and you didn't give me a "how".
@yijordan3166 жыл бұрын
I'm dealing with this right now. I'm living with my (first) boyfriend of 2 years, and while i've always believed in Christ, i've only recently gotten closer to the Lord and have been feeling a lot of guilt over this. I don't have any other place to live, and i've tried to abstain from having sex but it puts strain on our relationship. I've asked him to marry me, but he wants to wait for a big wedding ceremony while I just want to make it legal and get the license. It's just hard to be in this constant state of sin and not feel ashamed all the time, especially during intimate moments.
@petersusia16 жыл бұрын
I know how difficult it is to deal with all this. Honestly it sounds like you should confront him with the way your feeling. He has certain obligations as a dude. He might want a great wedding tomorrow but you might need a simple one today. Me and my girl have struggled with this too. I think we're just gonna go get it done. I'll definitely pray for you guys tho. Take care
@carisaf77296 жыл бұрын
All I can say is you are going to want more than anything after marriage to have a man of God who leads you spiritually and puts God before you. It will be the hardest thing you’ll ever do, but you need to leave him and pray for him to get saved or to repent and be surrendered to the Lord. And if he doesn’t move on. Speaking from 15 years of marriage of experience from your same situation.
@carisaf77296 жыл бұрын
And getting married now at the courthouse is not the best idea because it will not push him to repent. And believe me you are going to want a husband who will repent of his sins.
@williamthird45206 жыл бұрын
I agree it is hard, and it does put a strain on a relationship when two people are attracted to each other. Self gets in the way, we tend to think we have to please others to be happy, Even when its wrong. How bad do you want this to stop? What are you willing to sacrifice for the sake of righteousness, make it happen, believe me you will succeed and God will make away for you, with or without this guy. God loves you to much to see you miserable. God bless you.
@trishawhitehouse42265 жыл бұрын
Carisa M Amen! That’s right on! You want a spouse who KNOWS they are a sinner and whom to turn to for forgiveness and to be cleansed. Someone who protests on the issue of their sin, is someone to run from.
@axeltech9914 Жыл бұрын
My advice is, marry that person immediately.
@muddajayjay176 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this Pastor John for this I really needed to hear this! I was struggling with guilt and condemnation from a similar situation this bring light to everything I was and am going through...
@mikelandryjr73107 жыл бұрын
Don't live under the same roof,watch faith movies,repent and rely on Jesus
@jeremykientz6 жыл бұрын
mike landry jr I bet you’re a fun date 🙄
@cemetarygates794 жыл бұрын
Faith movies?
@alfredbarilotti63284 жыл бұрын
Just remember, a guilty conscience is sin. Confess it!
@tessalogan5865 жыл бұрын
I hope you marry her !(:
@ewnetmussie36743 жыл бұрын
No words...that was great👏👏...we need a generation not a person like you...God bless you pastor john!
@ocrancienthistory33264 жыл бұрын
Pastor John is masterful at answering these questions.
@anniesquyres67374 жыл бұрын
That first part where he said things could never heal made me instantly cry. I fell down a rabbit hole at 12 and idk I just wanna get better. More than anything I want to get better.
@chaneydupreez22394 жыл бұрын
Conviction is a call to action. Call upon the strength of Christ then you can conquer all! ❤️ Good luck and stay strong in your conviction.
@anniesquyres67374 жыл бұрын
@@chaneydupreez2239 yeah Ive turned from it and I follow christ but I'm just so afraid of never being able to to have a healthy marriage someday or bond properly.
@katja83232 жыл бұрын
I can feel you a lot! But nothing is beyond Gods healing! He can restore and redeem you! Of course it doesn't mean that we can do everything we want because God will heal us afterwards BUT if we have failed and regret it he will heal us for sure!!! Don't believe the lie that Jesus forgiveness and healing isn't enough for you. Don' condemnation yourself. Have faith. You are loved❤️
@k6maz Жыл бұрын
@@anniesquyres6737 the LORD GOD almighty is powerful and can change your situation. Glory to the LORD Jesus Christ
@johnmax63885 жыл бұрын
Pastor John is right in his sayings, it's a kind of encouragement for those who want to flea from such evil that destroys the spirituality of a Christian before marriage. I would be so grateful to pastor John for this incredible message and he has the devine knowledge of God in spirit. The words he speaks to the very young man not only for him, but also me. Because I'm in the same situation. What I have done is I knew, but this message gave me a way to avoid such type of wicked activities which impurifies my spirituality. Now I know for sure, Jesus always forgives me though I'm so trouble shot for him. May God bless this servent of God. Amen.
@okimawilcox15504 жыл бұрын
Let me add that not having sex does not make you pure if your heart is full of bitterness or envy. A repentant porn-star is purer than an angry, bitter, jealous virgin pew warmer.
@starwalk3r Жыл бұрын
I disagree with Pastor John here. Once you ask for forgiveness from God, then you automatically have it. You don't have to "feel bad" for months after your sin. God does NOT and NEVER WILL condemn us if we turn our heart to Him. Only Satan, the accuser of brothers (the children of God), will continue to harass us on our past sins. Remember that our sins are separated from us as far as the east is from the west. We are freed from sin! There is no condemnation! We are justified in God's eyes through the Lord Jesus and what He did for us. Stop feeling bad and start living forward with a new heart and new mind!
@Collidedatoms7 жыл бұрын
The only thing missing from his advice, he should have told them in my opinion, to seek to get married as soon as possible, don't wait, do what you must do to get married because then this can never happen again.
@EveLyn-sc2yh6 жыл бұрын
Gino Vincenzini Marriage does not fix sexual immorality. Infact they should deal with it before they get married. Otherwise, they will be setting themselves up to some major marital challenges in the future.
@Drudeed6 жыл бұрын
I will be copying this from a message above from Lola Bear ( thank you Lola Bear :D ) - The bible says: 1 Corinthians 7:36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry. And again in Exodus 22:16: And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. Am I missing something? I just wanna hear what's the right way with dealing with this sort of situation
@wonjulee925 жыл бұрын
No man
@trishawhitehouse42265 жыл бұрын
I agree. Part of the problem is that people are waiting too long to get married. They have years long engagements, and its ridiculous. Don’t preheat the oven if you aren’t going to cook anything!
@wonjulee925 жыл бұрын
Disagree, marriage is not the way out of this problem.
@honesthose4 жыл бұрын
Just a correction : The blood of Jesus doesn't cover your sins, it eradicates them.
@2ndPigeon3 жыл бұрын
You got a jar of it somewhere?
@gracedaniel30624 ай бұрын
I have been living a holy life and sexual purity in Christ, but i got a job at a christian home, because i cook for a living, when i got this job i thanked God a lots because i thought that it would make me to serve God the more, but boss has been a huge temptations to me i avoid him for so many months seducing and forcing me always and yet pretends to be a man of he preaches all the time yet forces me to sleep with him😭 this month i fall for it, ever since then i hate myself even though i have asked God for forgiveness yet i feel miserable 😢 but i want to confess to his wife maybe this is the only way to have my peace again, please all my brothers and sisters in Christ pray for me i feel like God won't forgive me again cause i know the scripture 😢
@johnmax63885 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this wonderful message. God is so gracious to me. Thank you LORD.
@abhilashb135 жыл бұрын
If you able to listen to pastor john then you are on the right way no one speaks uncompromisingly as him. God bless amen
@nevilles.50665 жыл бұрын
Paul Washer and Francis Chan are the same.
@abhilashb135 жыл бұрын
Yes brother i heard about paul washer and his preachings as well he is very powerful
@merdaz57424 жыл бұрын
Try Derek Prince videos
@raptorphotography29166 жыл бұрын
this comment session i suggest should be turned off
@vegetablehead6 ай бұрын
Unfortunately, you can't have do overs in life. But that is no reason to be alienated from the opportunity for one to restore their chastity. The saying goes, once you do something, it is easier to do it again. The big problem is that most young adults continue in the same behavior pattern. Repentance means not only the cessation of immoral behavior, but a complete turn around and making a greater effort to pursue purity. Honestly, every intimate experience you have with someone else, no matter how far you go, or exercise restraint...you are just adding to the pile of the heap of mess that you will bring into the marriage. So do your future spouse a favor. Keep the baggage at a minimum and you will have a greater chance to have a dynamic marriage relationship. There are no guarantees, but I promise those with less baggage will have better outcomes.
@leoc28374 жыл бұрын
Wise and godly counsel, I hope you are not a cessationist!
@setapartsanctuary26572 жыл бұрын
most of his group is , idk about him.. He's a great man of God, I just hope he knows how real the charisma's are .. they're in operation today 100%
@framboise5952 жыл бұрын
I slept with my girlfriend . Now what ? You just marry her and that's it because in God's eyes marriage sanctifies sex.
@strezoh7 жыл бұрын
I Liked this video.
@Spillers72 Жыл бұрын
If they are adults, maybe they could consider just getting married if they love each other. Just go do a simple ceremony. Plus, they should think about protection. It's better to use some protection if your not ready for a child.
@singleladyable5 жыл бұрын
You must both repent then marry so you will not be in sin from then on.
@2ndPigeon4 жыл бұрын
And what if you don't love him/her? How can that lead to a happy relationship?
@sonicsoftly4 жыл бұрын
@Odd Fish these Protestants are so black and white brainwashed sometimes
@sonicsoftly4 жыл бұрын
@Odd Fish see that's how disconnected American Christianity is from the source. The Orthodox Church is the real deal but you omit its existence from your response with the same old Catholic vs Protestant, don't worship Mother Mary blahdidy blah. Christ is MUCH bigger than your narrow western minded viewpoint. Think of the ACTUAL church of Asia minor, the monastics in Greece, Bulgaria Ethiopia and Russia. Do you think that perhaps you might be MISSING something? It's not so black and white. Christianity wasn't even European for the first 300 plus years!Christ's message came to the Americas soiled by colonialism. An Orthodox or a Catholic priest can be consulted as a spiritual authority that can prescribe something specific to these two people by meeting them face to face. KZfaq and the comments section and a "one size fits all response" is exactly the kind of simpleton consumerist Americana version of Christianity that gives itself such a bad name. God is so much more MYSTICAL than your one size fits all prescription.
@sonicsoftly4 жыл бұрын
I slept with a girlfriend before I was saved and we got legally married for the wrong reasons and God actually separated us because we weren't right for each other. Simpleton Protestants seem to think that they can just grab a bible and start preaching and telling people what to do. It doesn't work like that! That's how false prophets are made. It's foolishness! Where is your actual authority? Where can you cite it? The Church is a body with rules, rites and sacraments. It was agreed upon in the formation of the Church directly descended from the 12 disciples. You can't just rewrite the rules 1000+ years later and sail to a different rock and call it something it's not. I'm convinced this is why America was doomed from the start.
@sonicsoftly4 жыл бұрын
@Odd Fish it has to do with the silly black and white thinking of the above comment that's so common amongst western Protestantism
@TheGreatAustino4 жыл бұрын
Too much shame within the church
@Xenotypic3 жыл бұрын
not nearly enough, tbh
@purpleviolet2074 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this in a Christian way! May God bless you, Pastor John!🙏🙏🙏🙏
@austinhargrove16443 жыл бұрын
Man, I love this Pastor!
@jay_stack12704 жыл бұрын
Thank you Pastor John. I thank God for saving me today..
@ladynoway62433 жыл бұрын
What about getting married if this desire is stronger for you and your mate?
@nadacolic77753 жыл бұрын
Get married
@classicfitness84783 жыл бұрын
Is it also not the responsibility of each other to make it pure by marrying each other? Marrying someone else will cause adultery too isn’t it?
@damanybrown50362 жыл бұрын
Thank you sir for explaining forebearance simply!
@winterwarriorelite774 жыл бұрын
Get married
@asheagbi7544 Жыл бұрын
He approaches this with so much wisdom. Thank you Jesus for forgiving my sins and turning my heart to you.
@jakeymanzano17433 жыл бұрын
Thank You Pastor John! Praise God for your life🙏
@learnwithjoyfun97012 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much from Pakistan. Need your special prayers please..
@michaelsowerby8198 Жыл бұрын
Whilst I agree with the points Pastor John gave, one important point should be to encourage the couple to speak with their Pastor. Their own church Pastor is in a unique position to put in place any church discipline appropriate for the couple, including safeguards and accountability.
@DimitriChote3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for how you began this.
@Godsmasterpiece19934 жыл бұрын
Yeah. I mean, it’s difficult. I bet it would feel terrible for falling into temptation. There are consequences for sinning.... lack of trust etc like John Piper said. BUT! Psalm 51: 10-12 “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me. Cast me not away from your presence, and take not your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation, and uphold me with a willing spirit”....I believe once you experience God’s grace, you will be more aware of it and thankful for it. YOU’ll SHARE IT WITH EVERYONE!
@Lio.Jakim5554 жыл бұрын
Thankyou Jesus for the cross
@redsky8763 Жыл бұрын
Pastor John; Why was it ok for Solomon to have 700 wives and 300 non wife concubines (sexual playmates) ? He felt no guilt or shame. No prophets came to castigate him. Nor were any sent to him. Must've been ok but now everything a Christian does is sin or borderline sin. Orgys ok for Solomon but evil for the rest of us. Something ain't right here. I await whatever fancy answer you come up with.
@tromboneman4517Ай бұрын
It was not right for Solomon, and it’s not right for any of us. It’s a warning: the wisest man EVER (except Jesus) fell greatly into sexual immorality. We all need to guard our hearts.
@joshuaokoro-sokoh29933 жыл бұрын
I am waiting for you to address people who had been sexually assaulted.
@annamarie4790 Жыл бұрын
I have sinned before God. Led an immoral life of sexual immorality and met my current partner during this time I was so lost, we did not wait until marriage and now we have a child which is a blessing but just now I am coming into the realization the sins we are committing even though we are committed to each other we are sinning before God. I am asking him to pray with me so we can be renewed in marriage and not wait any longer I also said I wanted to abstain. I don’t know if he is on the same page as I am and wanting to see other women to “settle the score” for my past immortality. I am praying for wisdom on what to do and the right choice for me and our daughter. It’s so hard.
@neatstuff1988 Жыл бұрын
I could not disagree with pastor John Moore and I agree with him almost alway. Go to the Justice of the peace get married without telling anyone you can still have your day. You're forgiven in Christ for what you did together unmarried and now forever more you'll be blessed.
@sej94122 ай бұрын
Just a question.. So If Once You’ve Done It obviously it wont be undone,, how does the Forgiveness part applies? Idk if I worded my thoughts right but could someone enlighten me thanks, Wouldn’t it be just physically impossible
@Chong7608 ай бұрын
Congrats! She has now become your new life long wife! And anyone who believes differently are seriously not discerned, been brain washed, and has destroyed more “pre-ordained” marriages than saved them… The biblical standard for entering into marriage is much higher than the average theologically sound pastor thinks or knows. If anyone disputes this truth, just point to the passage of Duet 22:28 & 29. And if they still dispute, let them know that the New Testament DOES NOT bring a new law or commandment about that truth. Simple as that. Oh and if any of you have trouble about what the Bible says about this, just know I have done YEARS of biblical study of this topic and it is now crystal clear to me.
@irmadegraaf17025 ай бұрын
Hello, thank you for the comment. Can you give me some bible verses of why she has become his new life long wife. And what if they later on discover in their dating life that they actually are not fit for each other. Do they still need to stay together, even against their own will?
@TheHelenhunter5 күн бұрын
So you're saying, sex constitutes marriage?
@andreaarthur22585 жыл бұрын
God loves and bless you. He rejoices over you and no sin is to much for him though I strayed he still loved me and omg
@baljeettjinder22624 жыл бұрын
andrea arthur oh my gosh* just a reminder God Bless
@angloaust15753 жыл бұрын
King david committed murder and adultery a far worse sin Although he was punished he didn't lose his salvation Married bathsheba and solomon was born
@framboise5952 жыл бұрын
@ David Chinna Thank you SOOOOOO MUCH !!! Of course it is not a sin as long as you get married , since marriage sanctifies sex in God's eyes. Very simple. But what David did was not the same at all ! It can not be compared .
@daveck989 ай бұрын
The blood of Jesus restores every situation . We are virgins in christ again . The act they did is completely forgiven as if it never happenend
@KrisWolf45 жыл бұрын
My husband and I had sex before marriage. We were engaged for 5 months. We have 4 children, most are grown now. We were both professing Christians. We have been married for almost a quarter century. My love for him grows every day as his does for me. We are in this union for the long haul. I dont feel at all ashamed that we were sexually active before marriage. We have a very strong relationship. For those who've been sexually active before marriage, dont think that it's the end of all things, you can have a strong relationship, it all takes work beautiful worthwhile work. I trust my husband 100%. I will be with him for the rest of my life!!
@thatswhatsup7125 жыл бұрын
Still don't forget to honour that sex b4 marriage is a sin
@thatswhatsup7124 жыл бұрын
Colorado Strong SO CHANGE THE WORD OF GOD TO SUIT YOU THEN.
@kmkmkmkm25574 жыл бұрын
@Colorado Strong God made Adam a wife to help him... and that means that God himself pronounced them man and wife. See Gen 2:21-24. Just because the word "marriage" was not used then does not mean they were not in such a relationship. The bible makes it clear that sexual relations should only be between a married (notice the tense) man and woman.
@not.enoughto.go.around61764 жыл бұрын
It doesnt matter how you "feel". What matters is what the word of God says.. I can say "i dont feel regret by lieing to my spouse because i do it for good reasons" but at the end of the day it is written "thou shall not lie" and in the same way it says, you should wait before marriage.
@KrisWolf44 жыл бұрын
@@not.enoughto.go.around6176 you know your opinion of what I have or haven't done in my life matters little. What matters is the love that continues to grow for my spouse. We have been in a loving relationship for 25 years. That is huge when over 50% of marriages end in divorce. If you say well it's not my opinion, its found in the word of god, it's still your own opinion. There are many Faith's on this planet. Each are the epitome of truth to the believer, so are their manuscripts. The bible is the word of truth for Christianity. The Koran is the word of God for Muslims and so on. Again your OPINION of my life matters little!!
@joshuaokoro-sokoh29933 жыл бұрын
From the Middle East you said, I can't imagine the culture around there, having a certain hand in the guilt they are feeling.
@trpimirkarlovic8383 жыл бұрын
Get married.
@fishingforcandyBW Жыл бұрын
great caption on the video..................................................was hoping for comments saying!! "straight to hell"
@MrPatdeeee Жыл бұрын
"I Slept with My Girlfriend -- Now What?" Well kind Sir, IF you didn't sleep with her; and you desired it; the sin will be the same. Proof...Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust; after her hath committed adultery with her; is already in his heart. And IF that applies to lust, it applies to every sin. Now even worse: When we come out of our mother's womb; there is a "burning desire" to sin (from our DNA's and genes) until death. And we mostly commit it. Sad, but oh so True. And then God does this...Leviticus 26:28 Then I will walk contrary unto you also in fury; and I will punish you, seven times for your sins. (10 X 7 if flaunted!) And in... ...Exodus 34:7 Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving, abominable's, transgressions and sins, and that will by no means clear the guilty; visiting the abominations of the fathers upon the children, and upon the children's children, unto the third and to the fourth generation. This means; there is not a single person "PURE"; on this earth since Creation. Because, we sin ALL the time. And God (whose name is Jesus) KNOWS it. And punishes us, like above. And why our lives are often like hell. Sad, but true. However, ANY "Born Again" (by believing IN Jesus) will have ALL our sins "forgiven" on "Judgment Day". THEN are we "Pure"! Hallelujah! Now in.... ...Mark 3:28 Verily I say unto you, All sins shall be forgiven unto the sons of men (mankind), even blasphemies howsoever, they shall blaspheme (except for one): Mark 3:29 But he that shall blaspheme against the Holy Spirit has never forgiveness, and is in danger of hell. (THE only "UN-forgiven" Sin and it means: NOT believing IN Jesus, before one's death.) End of story and I rest me case... ...in any case kind Sir, Please Pray OFTEN and Praise Jesus OFTEN; for He is the ONLY true "God Almighty"; there will ever have been. And may Jesus bless you and yours always. AMEN!
@damanybrown50362 жыл бұрын
If they got married it might make it easier to forgive each other.
@starwalk3r Жыл бұрын
There is no condemnation from our God and we are justified before Him because the Lord Jesus took care of ALL our problems with God. If you have already asked for forgiveness for your sins (including fornication), then you are forgiven and you should no longer give it anymore thought. God has separated us from our sins as far as the east is from the west. The only accuser of the children of God (we the believers) is Satan, the enemy of humanity and the father of all lies. If you continue to feel condemned and ashamed after asking for forgiveness, then you know that it is an attack from Satan. Do not listen to the accuser, Satan.
@sebastienroux17906 жыл бұрын
Just marry, own up to the responsibility.
@sonicsoftly4 жыл бұрын
They could be wrong for each other and create a bad family.
@mariahmartinez91213 жыл бұрын
I keep trying to remain pure and I keep messing up and feeling instant regret. Sometimes i wonder if i should be in this relationship with my boyfriend. I dont want anything to come in between me and God.
@nadacolic77753 жыл бұрын
You shouldn't. :(
@yestothetruth3 жыл бұрын
I recommend you lookup this message on KZfaq: _"Born Again Through Repentance And Faith"_ by Zac Poonen. You can start listening at 23:38. The message goes over the foundation you need to lay for nothing to come between you and God. It's the way to receive his precise guidance for your life as well. Peace to you!
@frankiemoore91272 жыл бұрын
Break up, there is no other way. It is what I had to do so that my ex girlfriend. Anyone that is causing you to sin, get away from them and focus on Jesus Christ. Do not put anyone above Jesus Christ
@southernberean81663 жыл бұрын
I’m waiting on my divorce Because my wife has been through three men since she’s left me because I showed weakness and don’t know what it was but she keeps sleeping with other men while we’re going through this divorce in fact that’s why we got divorced for months into our marriage she slept with her ex-husband’s cousin and had a kid and it’s been 10 years now and now it’s finally coming to a head I don’t want to get a divorce but she wants one I feel like it’s because I’m not man enough to have anyone so yes in my case it is being inferior is why I’m single
@yestothetruth3 жыл бұрын
I empathize with you. To make sure your relationship with God stands on the foundation that it should, I recommend you lookup this message on KZfaq: _"Born Again Through Repentance And Faith"_ by Zac Poonen. You can start listening to the full message at 23:38. It is essential that you prioritize your relationship with God as that's the only way to be receiving his guidance concerning anything you are facing. You cannot navigate through things with your feelings, but with the clarity you get from walking with God. People's thoughts about you or even your own thoughts may mislead you, but you can become the man Jesus will make of you and your mind will be renewed according to God's will. All things are possible *with God.* And God's thoughts are most definitely not yours (Isaiah 55:8). So, be on the way to find out God's thoughts about you and your future. That's my encouragement that I leave you with. Peace to you!
@ashishpaulbannu4775 жыл бұрын
Bro marry her if it is god's will😊😊😊
@sonicsoftly4 жыл бұрын
Leave her if it's God's will!
@jontyubbink15982 жыл бұрын
Why don't the middle east couple just get married. If they haven't slept with anyone else, (just each other), just commit to each other and stay faithful to one another before they sleep with someone else because they think they've sinned, so what does it matter.
@THEMECHANICOCMissionViejo4 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@isaacvipin Жыл бұрын
I was virgin till last year but then temptation took over me ..I'm not virgin and i am 38 years old man
@steveprentice45134 жыл бұрын
We don't have these types of relationships in christ. They are of the world and we are not of the world anymore. John 17 v16. We meet a potential partner and have friendship then marry asap as anything else is fornication a sin. God loves you, so love him back with fear and respect, proverbs 9 v10 and his first and second commandment Matthew 22 v34-40.
@kristinakane79684 жыл бұрын
"Asap" marriages are at a higher risk of divorce. Spend enough time alone with your partner and be sure that you both are compatible. I think at least 3 or 4 years is wise.
@joshuaespirifu3481 Жыл бұрын
JoshuaEspirifu
@zephlaow6 жыл бұрын
Thank You Jesus!
@lolabear83496 жыл бұрын
Oh for goodness sake, you've just made these people feel twice as bad. The bible says: 1 Corinthians 7:36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry. And again in Exodus 22:16: And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. The clear answer is they have consummated the relationship so they must get married
@Adam-vp4oe6 жыл бұрын
Lola Bear thank you
@chocolatethunder4576 жыл бұрын
Lola Bear 😍
@michaeldukes41086 жыл бұрын
So they should’ve received a pat on the head, or do you completely disregard Jesus’s admonition to “go and sin no more”? Pastor John’s response was great.
@ohbrother85305 жыл бұрын
@@jonathanhantke6314 True Jonathan. Her interpretation is an old one that used to force people into marriage.
@ohbrother85305 жыл бұрын
Lola, you're being a bear. Lol You sound like a know-it-all Christian feminist. Hahaha
@josephkirimi54533 жыл бұрын
The good news to you is that all that you have been in a false church because you could be knowing all this. If you have been in the true church of God those scriptures would have applied, and also this; 1Corint.5:11-13.
@samaliehannah25522 жыл бұрын
How can I change if I have fallen so many times to a point of no return.
@alieslami2321 Жыл бұрын
Infinity IZ here
@damanybrown50362 жыл бұрын
Would marriage be a plus to their repentance??
@michaelhenderson6786 Жыл бұрын
I think their repentance in faith is what God wants most from them. A healthy marriage is always more than just a plus in God’s eyes. However, the only thing that bears an effect on their sins is Christ’s atonement. Adding anything other than Jesus to the condition of God’s forgiveness would make His atonement insufficient, which it most certainly is not.
@StFelly4 жыл бұрын
“I slept with my girlfriend! Now what?!” Lol. Repent.
@2ndPigeon4 жыл бұрын
Repenting is such a copout. You can murder, repent and still go to heavon. Where is the justice in that? It's such an unfair system. Also, nothing wrong with having sex.
@2ndPigeon4 жыл бұрын
@Elijah Just what? Fictional?
@micahgrace70574 жыл бұрын
@@2ndPigeon Repentance is a "change of mind" as the term denotes it. When you have a change of mind, you no longer do the things your former mind does which is to murder or commit sexual immorality etc, if you truly abhor or hate that sin by God's Grace you would no longer do it, however if the person repents but does the same thing all over, it shows that he/she hasn't really repented of sin. You don't murder then repent and go to heaven. You repent, have a change of mind and heart to not murder anymore and by Christ's redeeming sacrifice you enter into Eternal life.
@willmin4394 жыл бұрын
@@2ndPigeon It seems you have a lot of anger built-up towards the church. that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth,and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. - Philippians 2:10-11 www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Philippians2:10-11
@2ndPigeon4 жыл бұрын
@@willmin439 Hey do you have any original thougts or are you just gonna quote scripture? Because I care as much about the bible as you do the Qur'an.
@kar3n353 жыл бұрын
One thing is that sometimes some christians wanna wait years to get married. Like one of my sisters friend. They been dating 3 years because of "college" and she wants to sleep with him but he wants to keep wating... i wouldn't be able to wait years!!!! I would have to be honest i cant wait that long. I allrady been waiting 2 years and then wait another 2? Or 1?
@andykwhy93684 жыл бұрын
Hallelujah !!
@pjstake15667 жыл бұрын
Amen
@mattr.1887 Жыл бұрын
What if they waited until they were married? What would stop them from having the same feelings of disgust?
@joshuaokoro-sokoh29933 жыл бұрын
You say they have lost something because they had sex, I personally don't think so. Also what do they lose?
@Sneakerama177 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@southernberean81663 жыл бұрын
I wish I could find someone that would save themselves for me . That’s a unicorn here in the states. That doesn’t exist . . I’ll never find that Evan if I dedicated myself to the Lord
@natalyaakselaleksander45023 жыл бұрын
You will! I’m saving myself for my husband. Been dating for half a year and want to get married soon. There is hope out there, trust in God and press on. Blessings 💕
@southernberean81663 жыл бұрын
@@natalyaakselaleksander4502 thank you for your words of encouragement. I’m 40 and I’ve done so much wrong before. I feel like it’s a punishment. Tell your soon to be that I said he is an extremely lucky man to find a pure and virtuous woman like yourself. MAY GOD BLESS YOUR MARRIAGE FOR STARTING THE RIGHT WAY
@natalyaakselaleksander45023 жыл бұрын
@@southernberean8166 Thank you so much for such kind words. May God bless you! But, no, it is not a punishment. We've all done so much wrong that if God was going to punish us or give us according to how we've behaved, we would get nothing but eternal condemnation. I know it is easier said than done to wait patiently and trust in God. But be assured, I will be praying for you that God blesses you with the right woman at the right time (His time). Be blessed and stay cool.
@groland91835 жыл бұрын
Then stay away.
@adriana47857 жыл бұрын
It is called following Jesus Christ as our Lord also. What did Jesus say? '....Why do you call me Lord Lord and don't obey me? What good does that do you? Please check out OTG ministry "world series"; it is an exellent video to understand the difference between the sheeps and the goats. It seams that every time someone attacks followers of Jesus Christ is same thing. People live in sin and say that they can't stop sinning cos they are sinners. Yes, we are sinners that don't live in sin. Simples.
@pulseofficial3707 жыл бұрын
Adriana Morawietz Just, fucking learn to write properly.
@pulseofficial3707 жыл бұрын
Adriana Morawietz are you serious? Save me?
@adriana47857 жыл бұрын
Time Painters Read between the lines. I'm not a baby christian so no patience 4 baby talk here. Lip service won't save u. If u follow Anderson's unbiblical message of 'once saved always saved' know that once u r "truly" saved it isn't about losing it or not, its about doing the will of God, walk like he walked. Be angry at joke christians but make sure its a holy and rightous anger. Rebuke but don't be a hypocrite. Judge the rightous judgement. Preach 90% law 10% grace. Study the law first so u can see if u qualify for grace. Jesus Christ gave the Jews grace as they understood the law. Jesus Christ gave some the law when he came across some crafty loosers. He told them what "to do" to b saved. Bible is like a puzzle...All must fit. If u believe but don't live holy then you will not enter. The unprofitable servant will have his talent taken away and he will be thrown into outer darkness. All I can say is that when you upgrade from luke warm christian to a born again you will understand everything withought knowing everything. Understand the difference between the ceremonial law and the law we must keep in order to be saved. The 1 commandement is to love your God... you can't tell me that you don't need to keep that in order to be saved. Its basically everything or nothing. Jesus Christ gave his all and he demands all of us.