Interesting conversation, it is culture in most places for the child to have fathers name only if she is married to him. Else child bares mother’s family name . Hence the elders are right👌🏿👌🏿

Beautiful mom

haibo, inhlawulo eyokugeza amantombazane nokuthi umthathe ubuntombi ngokomthetho, eysbili ingane iyathengwa

🤣

🤣🤣🤣

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Exactlyyy lollll

@Simangaliso Sithole having full independence/having parents that understand the times were in/having a small connected family...where they dont push/press for things to be done in THAT way but seek other ways to keep tradition yet not delay life on things that have never really been seen to have an effect on ones life.

Thank you for sharing 🥰

Even with different fathers?

Also Xhosa we pay damage the first pregnancy we call it.(ukuwiswa ibele )he has damaged yu.but second pregnant u already damaged

Same with most Basotho traditions.

@@nicolam4513 Yes, each child might have her/his own family name or totem.

Hayi bo.

Its cslled inhlawulo it loses meaning because you call it damages ukumithusa ingane yomuntu icala period.

Too much

I'm not seeing it though??? I'm seeing Zinhle making sure that Kairo has a father ,a mother and a loving home. I'm seeing Zinhle not doing the bitter baby mama drama coz we tired of it!! I'm seeing Zinhle and Kiernan co- parent healthily

@@melaninkosijoseph6904 agreed

True

Too much

Yes the title is literally “THE UNEXPECTED” isn’t like the pregnancy. The pregnancy is the reason for the show. The pregnancy is the show

I love this content for young South African girls ♥️ Too many pregnancies with temporary boyfriends not enough knowledge &🧠understanding of what it takes to be a parent.

"The Unexpected" is the name of the show.

Lol seems that’s all the show is about

it's not really about damages, but about the baby

Ownership and to see if you'll be responsible for your child.

@PearlMgwenya he has to buy isbongo to show commitment… cause if both parents aren’t together and the mom is the only custodian of the child, she will constantly have limitations to the things she can do ngomtwana, ubabakhe engaziwa where he is. E.g travelling, you would need permission from the father, if the child has the dads family, you can’t make medical decisions as a mother if the child has the dads surname into ezinjalo. Now, you aren’t guaranteed ukuthi he will be voluntarily be in the child’s life engahlawula but atlst ukuhlawula it shows some sort of commitment in the child’s life + ukuhlawula involves 2 families . You won’t have to look for him up and down if there’s need for his signatures.I don’t know if you get it.

@ Audrey Gugue uy chaze kak’hle sthandwa I love this show for South African girls it really sheds light on the fact that our culture was intended to protect us and not to constrain us as it’s often unfortunately perceived

A child born out of umgcagco automatically takes the mothers surname. Hence if the father wants to change that he must buy. Its not forced.

She always will

It’s her baby daddy it’s a different love ♥️ Compassion guys I’m just glad she’s not bitter. Sis went through the most with that man 🙂✨

Is it a must to take the money to the martenal grand parents or not?

I have an ask... who has to use the "baby's damages money"