I Was Almost A School Shooter | Aaron Stark

I Was Almost A School Shooter | Aaron Stark | TEDxBoulder

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After growing up in painful, abusive conditions, Aaron Stark was on his way to an atrocity, until simple acts of kindness changed his life forever. What is causing the rise of violence and are our current fears and solutions just making it worse? My name is Aaron stark. I am 39 years old with 4 children, 2 cats, one dog, and a beautiful wife. I am a stay at home dad; my wife is the breadwinner of the family. I am a comic book fan, a pop culture junkie, and a lover of the sciences. I have more knowledge about superheros, pro wrestling, and comedy than anyone really has a right to. After growing up in very abusive and violent circumstances followed by over a decade if personal recovery, I am now a happy family man. I recently shred a very personal story of my triumph over my past, and it has changed my life forever. My mission is to let people know that no matter how dark it may seem, there is light coming. We really are not alone. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@sir7851 4 жыл бұрын

“Bad parenting and lack of governmental help” Government: *Video games*

@zellto2120 4 жыл бұрын

yup

@thepleo62 4 жыл бұрын

Zellto facts

@ATRIXstudio 4 жыл бұрын

„America”

@madisonsingleton6102 4 жыл бұрын

ɴɪᴄᴇ ɢᴜʏ ɴɪᴄᴇ ɢᴜʏ

@Corbin-kq3ho 4 жыл бұрын

Democrats: Trump, and guns

@karagothshlomidabush3727 3 жыл бұрын

he is right you know ...“A child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.”

@KittyKits-ju8vz 3 жыл бұрын

Powerful quote.

@karagothshlomidabush3727 3 жыл бұрын

@Kyle Sky yes .... i know what you mean and you are also right thing is ... not every man is as strong as you and me ... some break under the presure

@HittoTheAssassin 3 жыл бұрын

It takes 2 to make a child. I takes a Village to raise them. My guy didn't have a Village to help him. But he had a friend. A lot of times that's what we really need. Faack I'm still cryin

@tida9804 3 жыл бұрын

It's an African proverb - they always get it spot on

@moemo1358 3 жыл бұрын

Naruto could have burned down his village if not for yurika sense other friends

@aaronstarkauthor 7 ай бұрын

Hello everybody! I'm Aaron Stark, the guy in the video. I just wanted to say thank you for listening, and for giving such amazing comments. This TED talk has changed my life. Today I get to help people in ways I never imagined, and for someone who spent my life feeling worthless and invisible it really means so much to be able to be help maybe show someone else that there is a way put of the dark. Today, I work full time as an assistant manager at a gas station in Denver, and also travel across the country speaking to schools and law enforcement and educators in the hope that I can maybe help them see that kid on the edge in a different light, and give some love to people they don't usually feel deserve it because they need it the most. Thank you all. You are not alone.

@chedder3390 7 ай бұрын

Really?

@chedder3390 7 ай бұрын

Oh you are him, this was a great speech

@heisenkirb8348 7 ай бұрын

I still come back to this Ted Talk because your story was so powerful! Thank you for sharing this with us. May the universe bring you nothing but peace and prosperity for the rest of your life.

@soanywayistartedblastin8463 6 ай бұрын

You're a legend mate

@smileyface8057 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing! Your story has really inspired me and I hope you get to live the rest of your life out in peace

@aaronstarkauthor Жыл бұрын

Hello everybody! I am tge guy in the video. It's been about 5 years since I did this talk, and it has totally changed my life. Today, I travel the country speaking to schools, counselors, parents, law enforcement, and anyone else who will listen about how we need to give love to the ones we feel deserve it the least, because they need it the most. That we need to help the kid in the dark see that he is wrong when he thinks he can't be helped. That the best way to teach people in pain is to see then AS PEOPLE. I'm a regular guy, I still have my day job working full time as assistant manager of a gas station here in Denver. I just keep speaking because I feel like I should. And yes I read the comments because why not? Lol Thank you for listening. You are not alone

@cornondanob6722 Жыл бұрын

@loathethical Жыл бұрын

real.

@OhKnow379 Жыл бұрын

Cheers brotha. Have a good one

@nickmckee6818 Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@peepeepoopoo25 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for speaking out about these things. I am so glad you are happier now

@reddrumdrum 4 жыл бұрын

Are we ignoring the fact that the social workers thought he was doing it for attention, they deserve to be fired

@milesmccue9388 4 жыл бұрын

Stew-A-Rew more like thrown in prison

@arcangel707 4 жыл бұрын

Stew-A-Rew exactly. They nearly caused a school shooting

@HoochGuy 4 жыл бұрын

The government doing what they do best, nothing.

@Waddlejpg 4 жыл бұрын

*In jail

@zachbarber3211 4 жыл бұрын

Social workers are generally not so intelligent, that's why they become social workers.

@christianordonez5704 4 жыл бұрын

Schools: I'm going to pretend like I didn't cause that

@cjham5272 4 жыл бұрын

Actually the parents did but I see your point

@bucheurdesbois1761 4 жыл бұрын

@@cjham5272 Well, the school is suppose to help in these type of scenarios, but most times, it just end up by making the situation worst

@MrFreshfreddie 4 жыл бұрын

Bucheur Des Bois School community is just the mirror of society.

@kid7591 4 жыл бұрын

It’s the video games, smh

@AugAug989 4 жыл бұрын

But they didn’t

@betorockmetal Жыл бұрын

When he said his friend was in the audience too I just couldn't hold my tears, I just cried. I wish everyone had friends like him.

@AlexMarquesVideo Жыл бұрын

Same, I lost it at that part.

@MustacheCashStash125 Жыл бұрын

We all need friends like him

@465marko Жыл бұрын

I just had something in my eye, that's all... an eyelash or something. You guys all cried like babies tho lol

@bazhumke4040 10 ай бұрын

@465marko underrated comment haha you're a real one for this

@jamessummers5946 8 ай бұрын

That’s true. But I think of it as “who can I be that friend to?”

@FBarbarian Жыл бұрын

We had a classmate that was a small scrawny guy, really quiet kid, and always just sat in the back and drew something (he was really good). He was teased a lot, I probably had a few jokes at his expense too, but after a year together in school I noticed the teasing was turning into bullying, he had no friends and I remember thinking that he might flip out someday because this is not a sustainable way to live, he's stuck at having to go to school, yet his experience there was miserable. I saw that because I've been in that position before. Talked to a few of my friends to stop picking on him and we decided to stop this completely. Anytime someone would come to bully him, we'd talk to him, if they didn't stop, we'd threaten them with a beating if they continue to bully our small friend. He started hanging out with us all the time. He still almost never talked, but I think he felt safe around us. For the next 4 years he was not bullied anymore. After graduation he went to an art university or something. I wonder where he is today. Hope he's doing alright. The bottom line is - be kind and protect the bullied kids from the bullies.

@Omen465 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your kindness

@pfb74 Жыл бұрын

You are a guardian angel. You and your friends. How human of you guys, ironically. 🤘🏾

@dharrison1st Жыл бұрын

❤️

@phantomryuu Жыл бұрын

Thank you for showing kindness :(💗

@declanhugors Жыл бұрын

Stark saying to "show your friendship to someone who deserves it the least" is something I kind of disagree on. Bullies usually originate from terrible environments as well, but instead of keeping to themselves, they take it out on others. Essentially, they ARE "the school shooter" someone who doesn't care who gets hurt as long as their emotional tantrum is fullfilled. What I would have said is "show your friendship to someone who needs it the most." Bullies don't need friendship until they stop bullying. A shooter won't need friendship until he lets go of his ways (but he'll have a death sentence so really that's a bad example here).

@mystedgy8496 4 жыл бұрын

"The friend that saved my life is also in the audience" Respect to that friend

@melissarequeny2268 4 жыл бұрын

EliTe EdGy when he said that I broke :(

@entername7140 4 жыл бұрын

Mel Requeny respect that indesd

@Star-vg7ix 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you friend. God bless you always. Because you stepped in you help to save a lot.of lives and give this man a life of his own.

@naliny121 4 жыл бұрын

big ups to that guy

@acidgiraffes 4 жыл бұрын

Nobody cares about your opinion fortnite pfp

@michellel9595 4 жыл бұрын

That woman is a pathetic excuse for a mother. How dare she say that to him.

@Icyking510 4 жыл бұрын

I felt so bad for him. Then when he said he's a happy father of 4 and great wife I was so happy.

@coolFactsFactory 4 жыл бұрын

Well you should try giving her some love and maybe she will change as well

@icebearisreadytotokyodrift8369 4 жыл бұрын

@@bjrnfrederiksen6319 See, the internet is aggressive.

@iored 4 жыл бұрын

@Himanshu Gupta He didn't kill people because people had empathy towards him. That will change anybody.

@noyesh2544 4 жыл бұрын

@@bjrnfrederiksen6319 you should not hate someone enough that you want them killed

@chestio3488 Жыл бұрын

"I'll buy you the razors next time if you do a better job" is the most horrible thing I've heard this month. It is devastating what Aaron Stark went through. I am proud of Aaron for standing up and giving one of the best TED talks, and I wish him the best!

@IlaughedIcried 8 ай бұрын

When I was 15, my mother handed me a sharp steak knife and screamed, "Here! Kill yourself! Do it! When I come home, I want to find you dead on the floor in a pool of your own blood!" She also threw me out of a moving car on the highway....dropped me off at a movie theatre three suburbs away when I was 10 years old and told me she wasn't coming back for me (and she didn't)...tried to drown me in a swimming pool when I was about 8....refused to take me to the hospital numerous times, such that I had broken bones that were left to heal on their own with no medical intervention...I could keep going. Things got a hundred times worse than all of this when I was a teenager; by the time I was 16 she was regularly kicking me out of the house for days at a time, and threatening to lock me in a mental institution, which she eventually did, despite the fact that there was no reason at all for me to be there. I was an honors student, an overachiever, I'd never smoked or drank or done a single drug except aspirin...my only failing was that I wasn't anything like the child she'd wanted to have, and she hated me for it. The sentence she screamed at me every day of my life is one I still hear in my head constantly, like a mantra: "You make it so hard for us to love you!!! WHY CAN'T YOU BE EASIER TO LOVE???" It should have been obvious to my teachers, friends, peers, everyone around me that I was growing up in a severely emotionally, mentally and physically abusive home. But if they did have an inkling, they did nothing about it. I longed for someone to save me, and no one did...I had no savior, safe place, advocate, nothing. To this day, I think about the person I might have become if someone had reached out to me with love, safety, kindness and protection.

@SOGEKI_LEE 8 ай бұрын

@@IlaughedIcried Damn very touching story I hope your doing good these days 💗

@PhoenixAttact 8 ай бұрын

@@IlaughedIcriedSo you of all people should see why people like him almost resorted to lashing out in one of the most horrible ways. What he went through was not normal and as you say "you've been through worse". So even if you happen to have more resilience than he did you should also have more understanding because of your experience also yeah?

@IlaughedIcried 8 ай бұрын

@@PhoenixAttact First of all, I DON'T have more resilience than Aaron does -- not at all! I think he has more resilience than I do. I've ended up chronically ill, disabled, totally alone and passively suicidal 24/7. Second, YES, I have a deep understanding of what he went through -- that's why I wrote this comment. I'm not sure where you're getting the idea that I'm criticizing him or chastising him or something. My intention was exactly the OPPOSITE -- to show empathy and to reinforce the message in this video -- that childhood abuse, violence, neglect and lack of love and acceptance are devastating conditions that can destroy someone's self-esteem, self-worth and belief that they have any kind of future, and that we need to be aware of how vulnerable children are to trauma, not gloss over or ignore their valid pain. Whatever negativity you think you're hearing in my comment, it's an incorrect interpretation.

@lordroy88 8 ай бұрын

⁠⁠⁠⁠@@IlaughedIcriedthat’s terrible. I’m so sorry. But now that suffering doesn’t have to be gone through again.

@arcie3716 Жыл бұрын

This needs to be shown at schools

@nutsack6656 7 ай бұрын

they obviously wont because they want it to happen so they can start the crocodile tears and get that sweet cash

@griffina5192 7 ай бұрын

@@nutsack6656 wtf? how do school shootings make money?

@diggychase 3 ай бұрын

they showed it at my school once

@kevinrath3988 Ай бұрын

But it was a very different era tho , 1990 is wild . Bullying is real deal , i really believe bullying has gone down alot today compared to 1990 but school shootings goes up alot idk why . And most of the shooters we have todat never bullied at school either

@801_finn Ай бұрын

💯

@vegidio 4 жыл бұрын

His friend didn't save only his life, he probably saved dozens of lives.

@gregorypeck1946 4 жыл бұрын

The world needs more friendlies like him

@goldenapplesaga5446 4 жыл бұрын

Something that motivates me to be nicer to people too.

@kimbo5769 4 жыл бұрын

There is one treasure that should be kept and cherished and that is friendship.

@sunnnnchip 4 жыл бұрын

Your right, kind word, a warm smile, and a reassuring thought can potentially save hundreds of lives in this situation

@avajohnson3510 4 жыл бұрын

Vinícius Egidio Maybe they shouldn’t insult and abuse him to the brim of insanity

@beverage7335 4 жыл бұрын

*"When someone treats you like a person when you dont even feel human, it can change your entire world"*

@Mateus-pu9uf 4 жыл бұрын

I almost cried

@jimjunglecock2866 4 жыл бұрын

It’s almost as if we watched the same video

@Mateus-pu9uf 4 жыл бұрын

@@jimjunglecock2866 lmao

@murakamipillow 4 жыл бұрын

Macaku same

@lilywatson3455 4 жыл бұрын

I stopped in the middle of the video and let it run as I was going through the comments section. Literally as I started to read this, he started saying it.

@thatfootyshirtguy1450 Жыл бұрын

This guy was failed by everyone and has still come out the other side. Such an inspiration. He deserved so much better. Hope he's living a happy life now.

@drummeralbertrivera9577 9 ай бұрын

And he’s already living a wonderful life. 🥹☺️

@meannush7552 9 ай бұрын

MUCH better

@jiren7976 8 ай бұрын

I struggle to relate to any positive sentences, comments. They sound cliché and empty, but this comment almost made me tear up. I almost didn't write this comment because I'm scared of being open, I feel vulnerable. Posting this comment helped me take a step forward.

@lordroy88 8 ай бұрын

@@jiren7976being open puts you at a lot of risk. But it can mean so much to people who really understand and love you.

@aaronstarkauthor 8 ай бұрын

@jiren7976 hi! Im the guy in the video. I just want to say, it's really awesome that you faced your fears like that. I know I don't know you, but I'm proud of you. I hope.youre proud of you too.

@dimitriussmith9669 7 ай бұрын

I can't stress enough how important this quote is, "We have to give love to the people we deserve it the least"

@christinadodd5780 7 ай бұрын

💯💯💯💯💯💯 Even to the mean ones! Because they're usually the ones struggling the most.

@jared305 4 жыл бұрын

To his one friend at the time: thank you.

@aezzil3536 4 жыл бұрын

Pretty sure he hasn't changed

@rydermcgovern6619 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@kmbby 4 жыл бұрын

I wonder where he is now

@gemmaaa2781 4 жыл бұрын

@@rydermcgovern6619 what

@lagxhighland7517 4 жыл бұрын

пи-пи Ка-ка in the audience as he said

@Utonian21 4 жыл бұрын

"Love the ones you feel deserve it the least, because they need it the most" Damn, that's a hard hitting quote!

@jojo.s_bekaar_adventures 4 жыл бұрын

this quote punches me in the heart, everytime i see it

@6-O 4 жыл бұрын

shout up Patrick go to your rock and drink sewage water

@Buttercup516 4 жыл бұрын

That got me crying

@uamdz680 4 жыл бұрын

Kohlton Miller I literally read that as he said it lmao

@somerandomguy3037 4 жыл бұрын

Its truly hard to do

@ytuser_3122 Жыл бұрын

The fact that his mom suggested he asked him to buy better blades to cut himself made me pick my jaw up off the floor. No one should be told to or go forward with ending their lives, especially from the ones that brought you into this world and should raise you and help you with living in this world.

@Dolphinboi 11 ай бұрын

If his mother was bad so was he for wanting to murder innocent teens via shooting

@steph678 6 ай бұрын

Parents like these are more common than you think

@ClashColors_ Жыл бұрын

“love the ones you feel deserve it the least because they need it the most” i love this quote so much

@michaelfarrell4824 5 жыл бұрын

If a child is not initiated into the village, he will burn it down just to feel its warmth

@michaelsetree6619 5 жыл бұрын

Michael Farrell let’s be friends

@michaelfarrell4824 5 жыл бұрын

You've always been my friend dude :) You always will be, I love you man

@randomguyuk2 5 жыл бұрын

Is that a quote or did you come up with that?

@michaelfarrell4824 5 жыл бұрын

It's an old African proverb, I just thought it was relevant here

@emceeunderdogrising 5 жыл бұрын

Great proverb.

@Rangerman69420 5 жыл бұрын

This man needs to speak at schools.

@coolchrisj 5 жыл бұрын

302 All da way to give more ideals?

@Rangerman69420 5 жыл бұрын

@@Miracle_0417 Lmao

@thyenergiser6852 5 жыл бұрын

They will probably make fun of him and call him all the names in the book. At least that's what my school would do.

@Nautilus1972 5 жыл бұрын

This man should be kept far away from schools ...

@goonervillegonad3662 5 жыл бұрын

No, the guy who helped him should. This guy hasn't really done anything to deserve such credit. Just think about it for a second....

@felictyafton9456 Жыл бұрын

Probably not the same thing, but at my old secondary school (I live in England), there was this 13 year-old who was picked on horribly. Being the coward that I was, I stayed out of it, afraid of getting into drama or worse, sharing her bullying. She had no friends, her parents were on the rocks as it was, she was poor, getting beaten up almost daily and her mental issues were in a downward spiral. One day, I saw her leaning against the school wall next to a bike rack, looking at something in her hands. I finally worked up the courage to go up to her and ask “Hey, are you okay?” I know the answer was probably no, but the guilt had been eating away at me for ages. She quickly hid the thing behind her back and suddenly looked nervous. “I’m fine.” She replied, quickly. “You look kinda lonely. Want to come and play tennis with me?” I’d offered, knowing that anyone associated with this kid got beaten up before hometime, but I was suspicious of what she had behind her back. Her face crumpled. A few tears leaked down her face and she threw her arms around my neck. It was then I felt what she had in her hands, the sharp point of a knife pressing accidentally against my spine. I threw her off a little too quickly than I should have, admittedly, and grabbed her hand. She was holding a steak knife and looked terrified. “Please don’t tell anyone!” She begged me, letting me take the knife off her and looking scared. I still don’t know if it was the right decision, but I said “I won’t.” And I never have. I tried to befriend her over the next few days, despite the newfound bullying coming my way. It was terrifying that she was this close to either cutting herself/committing suicide or knifing someone. If I hadn’t gone over to talk to her, I dread to think what would have happened. I learned my lesson from that. A little kindness can go a VERY long way.

@user-dp2jo6eo5q Жыл бұрын

This is so fake lmfao

@petahEM Жыл бұрын

@@user-dp2jo6eo5q shut up

@lw1xwyd828 Жыл бұрын

@@user-dp2jo6eo5q Your username describes you

@hanaemori4885 Жыл бұрын

@@user-dp2jo6eo5q For real lmao

@avaaa444 Жыл бұрын

Straight out of wattpad 💀

@shintyty 8 ай бұрын

"Love the ones you feel deserves it the least, because they need it the most" this line hit me hard

@bruh-fy1il 4 жыл бұрын

Video starts: Audience applauds: Aaron: “I was almost a school shooter.” Audience *dead* silent.

@atlantatoxic8009 4 жыл бұрын

That's cause the speech started lol

@heykobe8437 4 жыл бұрын

Also cuz it was deep and maybe this commenters thoughts or beliefs influenced the scenario

@doncamotes5540 4 жыл бұрын

Lmao what did you want them to do? Keep applauding?😂😂

@bruh-fy1il 4 жыл бұрын

No I get it I’m just saying it’s a weird hook to start off.

@lucasx9098 4 жыл бұрын

@@doncamotes5540 dude I am literally dying rn after seeing ur comment lolll

@Tyraannn 5 жыл бұрын

U have to be a brave man to stand in front of thousands of people and say I was almost a school shooter.

@Asyphinix 4 жыл бұрын

especially in this current political climate...

@jameswat6806 4 жыл бұрын

Thousands then, millions now.

@Lakupeep 4 жыл бұрын

Or you have to REALLY want that juicy attention ! :)

@karlatorress13 4 жыл бұрын

@@Lakupeep exactly...

@MischievousMunchkin 4 жыл бұрын

Lobster Johnson being angry at the world for the constant abuse neglect and harsh times it put you through is not attention craving.

@sydneysmith2545 4 ай бұрын

“When someone treats you like a person when you don’t even feel like a human, it changes your entire world” wow.

@joeclark9497 Жыл бұрын

“You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view… until you climb in his skin and walk around in it.” - Atticus Finch

@andersnelson 3 ай бұрын

I remember that quote

@Ewgene 4 жыл бұрын

Let's take a moment to consider that his friend: - saved Aaron's life - saved the lives of possibly a dozen or more innocent people - saved possibly a hundred friends and family members from a terrible thing - (in)directly lead Aaron to live a happy life with the woman he loves and his kids

@jimmybeast4076 4 жыл бұрын

But ur an FBI agent

@zakskingdomm 4 жыл бұрын

JimmyBeast what has that got to do with anything

@miguelash886 4 жыл бұрын

@K L Absolutely true! It might sound as a cliché to many, but kindness, empathy, compassion are way more powerful that people acknowledge. We need more of that. We all need to be some Aaron's friend.

@jacksonreginald4735 4 жыл бұрын

JimmyBeast bro wtf does that her do with anything

@goldenapplesaga5446 4 жыл бұрын

If you listen to his discussion on CNN. Pie also saved him from committing suicide. Not kidding

@OlliOtter 4 жыл бұрын

His last name is Stark. Stark means strong in German, and he’s pretty strong to have come out of such a terrible situation.

@jiangciyang3860 4 жыл бұрын

WAIT THEN TONY STARK IS TONY STRONG

@OlliOtter 4 жыл бұрын

Jiangci Yang yup that’s the joke

@thetimetraveller2671 4 жыл бұрын

This was so obvious to me (because I am German) that I didn't even think about it.

@Katharoskills 4 жыл бұрын

-No name given- wow k

@ianmartin6643 4 жыл бұрын

He's iron man

@junie1017 6 ай бұрын

"Love the ones you feel deserve it the least because they need it the most." Really hit me.

@evantilley6192 Жыл бұрын

"Love the ones you think deserve it the least, because they need it the most." That ones going in the list of sayings that helps me keep myself on the right track.

@BD-vr5lu 5 жыл бұрын

*Everyone cheering* “I was almost a school shooter” *complete silence* Wow what a way to start off

@SilkyLew 5 жыл бұрын

"I was almost a school shooter, but i decided to be a ted talk shooter" (loades magazine)

@Mike-xj9kl 5 жыл бұрын

@@SilkyLew omg 😂

@embersanimals8125 5 жыл бұрын

Ikr

@BD-vr5lu 5 жыл бұрын

Young Man exactly that’s what I meant by my post

@jmo4479 5 жыл бұрын

Yeah I noticed that too..

@shamiahledington7932 4 жыл бұрын

Just imagine if that alone kid could see the man he would be today

@tahamohammad1741 4 жыл бұрын

He’ll probably put the needle and gun down and break down in tears

@CampbellJTuba 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah would have been good for him

@steampunkastronaut7081 4 жыл бұрын

He kinda did, when his friend treated him with kindness.

@gabrieldorregaray1440 3 жыл бұрын

Danm dude that was deep.

@alexy33t46 3 жыл бұрын

He was in the audience , he was mentioned

@alanmctaggart4371 11 ай бұрын

Aaron, you are an undisputed champion of life. To go from a childhood devoid of any real kind of happiness or foundation upon which to build positive meaning to the great man that just gave this talk on that stage....it's almost unbelievable. You are the resilience of the Human Condition, personified.

@kronicdragon7381 3 ай бұрын

This should be mandatory viewing in public schools. Thank you for sharing.

@vishakalsnosns 5 жыл бұрын

Audience: **woo** Him: "I was almost a school shooter" ***immediate silence***

@sran438 5 жыл бұрын

Vishal P Him: *Explains story* Audience: :(

@paolopappalardo9976 5 жыл бұрын

@your majesty mrmac215 exactly this labeling makes massmurders. how about aproach ppl. in a neutral but kind way?

@falconplayz6118 4 жыл бұрын

Paolo Pappalardo the label makes nothing. Its the people around them and the person themselves

@Zinaroth 4 жыл бұрын

@your majesty mrmac215 Everyone has the potential to commit acts of violence and it's a communal responsibility to make sure that noone gets to a point in their life where that becomes a reality. All people contain all facets. It just depends how you shine your light upon them. So your point is mute.

@ten.10thousand 4 жыл бұрын

Him: *pulls out 45.*

@ashcarey670 4 жыл бұрын

i love how he doesnt tear up when he is talking about his life and his abuse, its when he talks about his happiness

@ashcarey670 4 жыл бұрын

@@deleted-user-82u3ht92 awwwwwww thank you!

@garethhancock8525 4 жыл бұрын

First of all , at from 6:00 to 6:15 He was tearing up about the abuse not happiness , and secondly ..... You so copied n pasted your comment , regardless he's a top cat , great talk

@MaryTenney 4 жыл бұрын

He doesn't feel he deserves it 😕

@ashcarey670 4 жыл бұрын

@@garethhancock8525 didnt copy and paste it but thanks, i guess and sorry i didnt notice it.

@ashcarey670 4 жыл бұрын

@@MaryTenney yeah! its really sad

@zadman0447 Жыл бұрын

Ive watched this ted talk 3 times. All multiple years apart and I have to say this is one of the best ted talks I have ever watched, and it has had such a huge impact on me.

@Pyroscheme7-4 4 ай бұрын

Back for my second time in a few years here. Such powerful knowledge in understanding people. I wish more people would think this way

@robertbalfour4313 Жыл бұрын

My brother you are the man!!! Please keep sharing your message because this message saves lives. I was bullied by a school principal and football coaches, I was threatened and thrown out basically because I didn't play football. All I wanted to do was learn how to learn. I want down a dark road until I got clean/sober at 26 yrs old. Ironically I ended up working in a prison where 2 of my class football stars ended up, 1 was shot in the head robbing drug dealers and the other died of an OD. I'm 62, retired from corrections and now I'm an addiction counselor for young kids. Thanks for your talk!

@lastking3916 4 жыл бұрын

“When someone treats you like a person when you don’t even feel like a human it will change your entire world” I felt that 😕

@lyoncannon9149 4 жыл бұрын

I heard that as soon as I read this.

@amberdenney4217 4 жыл бұрын

Felt it too.

@WolfyLix 4 жыл бұрын

Human race felt that.

@MKermy 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah sure

@chachcadi271 4 жыл бұрын

I was the 2,000th like

@classicartfoundation639 4 жыл бұрын

This is a Ted talk with a difference, no slick salesman bollocks, just straight, gritty info right from the heart

@momlover6036 4 жыл бұрын

Strange Lights epic gamer

@nate5051 4 жыл бұрын

@@momlover6036 seriously stop this isn't a joke

@momlover6036 4 жыл бұрын

Pungybub cool

@zedwadi5135 4 жыл бұрын

@@nate5051 very epic

@nate5051 4 жыл бұрын

@@momlover6036 you're sad you liked your own comment bc no one else would

@23pounce 9 ай бұрын

Getting up in front of people and telling your story is heroic. If ONE person doesn't shoot up a school because of you, you said the lives of the would be victims AND all the people who love them and would be ruined forever if they lost them. Bless you.

@Lizziefg Жыл бұрын

This ought to be one of the most emotional presentations I've ever watched... "We have to give love to the people who we think deserve it least" ❤

@cursedex3755 5 жыл бұрын

*"Love the ones you feel deserve it the least, because they need it the most"* Damn that's pretty deep

@autumn4442 5 жыл бұрын

If you think they don't deserve love, odds are other people think that too.

@roydamanna 5 жыл бұрын

Sadly people are to busy idolizing people who have already so much attention and love. Because they want to be able to say that they are part of the popularity and know what its about. Its selflove. Fishlove. You love the fish? or you love the way you feel when eating fish? People use the word love so many times it loses its value. (same with the word racism)

@glenntaylor9519 5 жыл бұрын

Jesus said same thing: Love your enemies, anyone loves their "friends"

@hanoli7933 5 жыл бұрын

I wish i could love but idk how to...

@derkommissar4986 5 жыл бұрын

Lol t series be like

@Pennervomland 5 жыл бұрын

Imagine you being his former classmate and hearing this for the first time

@bvv874 5 жыл бұрын

I would’ve been like damn you could’ve killed me Why didn’t you godammit

@amandawarrenburg1242 5 жыл бұрын

that would be so sad

@genericwhitekidthesecond4330 5 жыл бұрын

@@bvv874 r/thanosdidnothingwrong ideology

@Shain3333 5 жыл бұрын

Don’t bring religion into this. It feels like those pastors taking advantage of school shootings to try and convert people to Christianity as a way to deal with their grief. Using violence to spread religion is awful as history showed us many times, and this is just another form of combined use of the two to take advantage of people when they’re feeling worst

@christinaalvey5053 5 жыл бұрын

@@Shain3333 if people kill innocent people thats not God but demonic

@NoHurriesNoWorries 8 ай бұрын

It's comforting to know your not the only one who grew up in a violent abusive home being told you're horruble.

@zakiskursnogalinaja1832 7 ай бұрын

You're* But other than that I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. Hope things are better

@tara26777 Жыл бұрын

“Love the ones you feel deserve it the least because they need it the most” What a message 👍🏼

@tombrickson7542 4 жыл бұрын

1. illegally bought gun 2. Not video games 3. Completely the parents fault.

@billnyeishigh8650 4 жыл бұрын

@rxp56 that's completely false

@alexreyes7237 4 жыл бұрын

rxp56 not true at all actually

@kaeliannmarie7630 4 жыл бұрын

@rxp56 okay dude

@MikeHawkbaby 4 жыл бұрын

rxp56 Tell that to Mexican, Italian, Haitian, etc. gangs and cartels who illegally obtain massive orders of weapons from different countries. Guns are more “rare” in countries where they’re illegal because only people doing ILLEGAL things have them. There are bad apples everywhere, and I’m not saying 🇺🇸 doesn’t have a problem with shootings because we do, but anti gun people think illogically and we as a nation shouldn’t point the finger to guns.

@MikeHawkbaby 4 жыл бұрын

And yeah video games are turning kids to killers apparently.. Welp this next generation should be really good at building, because they sure play a lot of fortnite. As a matter of fact, with that logic I’m going to MAKE my nephew play fortnite. Fortnite is obviously setting my nephew up for a great career path in architecture, while video games like call of duty are turning 100 million+ kids into mass shooters! Our children are dangerous!

@nessg1043 5 жыл бұрын

Man, some people should never be parents.

@jackcarterog001 5 жыл бұрын

You're talking about his parents?

@TheGamer14300 5 жыл бұрын

jackcarterog001 obviously

@_keigen_ 5 жыл бұрын

@@TheGamer14300 Yes, while his parents aren't good parents by any means, if they didn't become parents this amazing man would've never been.

@tophu7903 5 жыл бұрын

Some people should never have existed.

@ihavenosubscribers8845 4 жыл бұрын

Ness G then he wouldn’t exist

@mkultra2877 9 ай бұрын

Just make bullying a damn crime already.

@YuriMomoiro 6 ай бұрын

Works pretty well at least in Sweden.

@trolledbg6967 3 ай бұрын

What would he considered bullying

@danerook 3 ай бұрын

Bullying is normal

@danerook 3 ай бұрын

Teach kids to fight back

@yasininn76 Ай бұрын

Yeah no, you can't ban bullying, but you CAN unban fighting back.

@tiah1927 Жыл бұрын

As a mother, my heart breaks for the small boy inside of him. I want to wrap my arms around him and show him genuine love!

@acmulhern 4 жыл бұрын

He had the absolute levelheadedness and courage to call social services and they sent him back to his abusers rather than listen to what he had to say? Shame on them!

@WhirlwindandHeatburst 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, social services seems to have quite a history of doing this. Ever hear of a child getting murdered by an abusive parent, even though the other parent tried to get help to stop them? It makes me sick. They seem to always fail them.

@ellisar94 4 жыл бұрын

As a student of this field this is incredibly disheartening to hear. Those people clearly didn't use their best judgment or took policy to leniency. Clearly this is a case of negligence and harm to the child. It just sucks because bare minimum it need to be immediate harm to him...this is why we need to advocate for change in policies.

@danielsayre3385 4 жыл бұрын

I know of someone who quit being a social worker because she suggested a removal, they didn't remove. Then a parent killed the child.

@RealityCheck6T9 4 жыл бұрын

His mother may have been a narcissist. Her act may have been very convincing.

@drxshock6957 4 жыл бұрын

That's not even the worst of it, especially in the UK.

@clumsyninjaxx9362 4 жыл бұрын

The most dangerous person is someone who has nothing to lose.

@camdensparks524 4 жыл бұрын

Lose*

@thomas_iv3634 4 жыл бұрын

Damn right

@jeff-hd9og 4 жыл бұрын

camden sparks aren’t you a genius

@memegod3645 4 жыл бұрын

the most dangerous people are not dangerous people. It’s the people trying to prove that they’re dangerous people.

@GripsGrips 4 жыл бұрын

That’s why I fear bums and tweaker a

@sticky2803 Жыл бұрын

One of the best TED talks in history, always an incredible story to return to.

@HomeStudioBasics Жыл бұрын

"Love the ones you feel deserve it the least because they need it the most." That was one of the most powerful quotes I've ever heard.

@ethangroves8438 4 жыл бұрын

Spoiler: it wasn’t because he played call of duty

@dylan8736 4 жыл бұрын

doom

@lucascongdon309 4 жыл бұрын

Ethan Groves it’s because he played GTA

@dicksouth2566 4 жыл бұрын

nope it was PITFALL

@rogeryang2869 4 жыл бұрын

Oregon Trail

@kylethompson3227 4 жыл бұрын

minecraft

@Pilicast 4 жыл бұрын

Audience: *clapping* Guy: "I was almost a school shooter" Audience: 🗿

@blkstr301 4 жыл бұрын

LMFAO

@Anonymous-pq9sf 4 жыл бұрын

Was isn des fürn pb duude

@azultarmizi 4 жыл бұрын

yo Angelo

@alphen9487 4 жыл бұрын

LMAO

@whatwillmakebethebestforev8556 4 жыл бұрын

RoteSchwalbe yup

@lid6575 Жыл бұрын

Wow, so happy for him to receive a standing ovation aswell! Shows how many people he touched with his story! Good on him

@knowthyself3188 Жыл бұрын

'We have to give love to those we think deserve it the least' - really emotional talk, loved it.

@andersonkwon8296 4 жыл бұрын

*“Love the ones you feel deserve the least, because they need it the most.”* -Aaron Stark

@naveensundar4765 4 жыл бұрын

yup

@ilikescratchingthings7601 4 жыл бұрын

Yup

@marlonpoddalgoda 4 жыл бұрын

yup

@ganigavara7968 4 жыл бұрын

I got to that part exactly as i read the comments

@nightcrawlr1035 4 жыл бұрын

Might put that as my senior quote

@animalconservationist6032 3 жыл бұрын

All it took was 1 kid to ask if he was ok.......

@urmum9999 3 жыл бұрын

yessir

@jalyssapeters3869 3 жыл бұрын

"The most dangerous creation of any society is a man with nothing to lose."

@goldenapplesaga5446 3 жыл бұрын

This is why I do my best to be that one person

@12day1 3 жыл бұрын

If you listen again at the 5min mark he actually was saying that is not what his friend did and it is overbearing when people do that. He gave alternatives that really helped him so it takes more then that and different approaches

@goldenapplesaga5446 3 жыл бұрын

@@12day1 Not necessarily. I mean not in general. There are some people who will have their whole world changed like he said by one person asking if they're ok. There are others who need a bit more. Some people find it overbearing and others don't. My point is basically that your both right but I was worried that someone might read your reply and get discouraged to ask someone if they're ok in an attempt to help them. So I wanted to point out that it does work sometimes and it can change people's lives if it's the right person. Honestly what I find to be the most powerful about his speech was the fact that it was the simple things his friend did that saved him. He "treated it like it was a Tuesday" like Aaron said.

@PaulWalesArt Жыл бұрын

Aaron - you represent the power of all superheroes. Thank you for reminding me that one single act of kindness has such huge impact and that we never really know the burdens any individual is carrying.

@Editmonkey1701 Жыл бұрын

I plan on sharing this with my youth group today. Thank you for being so vulnerable. your story is very inspiring. I'm glad your friend was able to help, and that you were brave enough to let him help you and you were brave enough and strong enough to overcome your pain, and break the cycle of suffering

@stormthrush37 3 жыл бұрын

"The most dangerous creation of any society is a man with nothing to lose."

@JacksonAfroman 3 жыл бұрын

Walter white

@LaggardlySort 3 жыл бұрын

What an edgelord quote that is

@Rando_26 3 жыл бұрын

@@LaggardlySort Its extremely edgy but true

@zackgreen9216 3 жыл бұрын

Joker

@paravalent7974 3 жыл бұрын

@@LaggardlySort "my pee looks like Hawaiian punch and tastes like blood" -not me

@iwaited90daystochangemynam87 3 жыл бұрын

This is what the media should focus on instead of always blaming school shootings on video games.

@oliverjasinski1829 3 жыл бұрын

Video games are probably like 5% of the reason school shootings happen.

@luaist 3 жыл бұрын

@@oliverjasinski1829 actually, 0% of the reason

@luaist 3 жыл бұрын

Mhm... especially after Bugha won $1,000,000 playing fortnite

@johnmarstoniloveyou 3 жыл бұрын

Oli J i can assure u that no kid gets the motivation to shoot a school after getting a victory royale on fortnite

@smortboi1320 3 жыл бұрын

@@luaist it’s unfair to say video games have caused school shootings but the percentage is so minuscule that we should heavily shift focus away from them and think of more obvious reasons why a kid might shoot up a school.

@waltuh2.3bviews3secondsago3 9 ай бұрын

The worst acts that people carry out (or nearly carry out as shown here) are nearly always because of terrible behaviour towards those people, it should’ve never gotten to that point for this poor guy

@goosegod9901 Жыл бұрын

He stated clearly that the problem with people committing atrocities is the fact that their lives are so terrible that they have nothing to lose if they do these things. We have to look out for the men and boys. They are the ones who do these crimes. There needs to be programs for men/boys to uplift them and give them some solace and direction in life.

@dirtyshinobii Жыл бұрын

Wtf? it isn't just males

@goosegod9901 Жыл бұрын

@@waddellar compared to men, women commit crimes at an immensely insignificant rate. So what if a chick does something here or there, everyday men act out. everyday. Stop making light of the big issue which is men.

@muratbilgehan5142 10 ай бұрын

@@dirtyshinobii It is mostly

@nezzled 8 ай бұрын

Women:

@ProfShibe 7 ай бұрын

@@dirtyshinobiiit’s overwhelmingly males what are u talking about

@Anonymous-73 3 жыл бұрын

Finally, proof that shootings aren’t caused by games or anything else the media blames, but by actual stress, awful parenting, and just some well placed misfortune

@promikasen6201 3 жыл бұрын

school shootings are caused by the lack of gun control and laws.

@Anonymous-73 3 жыл бұрын

@@promikasen6201 true

@turner8088 3 жыл бұрын

he said in the video that he didnt get his gun legally, so a law would do nothing to stop this.

@dunzerkug 3 жыл бұрын

We had proof of that, school shootings didn't start with video games. UT Tower Shooting was the deadliest school shooting in US history from 1966 until 2007 when the Virgina Tech shooting occurred.

@dunzerkug 3 жыл бұрын

@@turner8088 But look at the supply chain of that gun, why was it so easy for him to get at all? The biggest source of illegal guns for the US is ones that were legally purchased then stolen because people leave them in cars and trucks or unsecured in their home.

@mknlb50 Жыл бұрын

WOW. He is an inspiration to us all. The fact that he turned all of those dark days into something positive... This is the way.

@Watchoutforsnakez Жыл бұрын

The most meaningful Ted talk I have ever heard. So many programs and charities and non profits. How about we expect something from young people by showing them how to wield their power to show kindness and think about how they could reach out to another kid this way. It’s free. And any kid can do it.

@ellap4235 3 жыл бұрын

This is why I always told my kids, "You don't have to like everyone, but you do have to be nice to everyone. You never know what they are going through at home."

@Goofballhero 3 жыл бұрын

Love this, this is exactly what I tell my little brother all the time because I was not the nicest kid in school. Important lesson for anyone of any age.

@goldenapplesaga5446 3 жыл бұрын

You're an amazing parent. I hope there are more out there who tell their kids that kind of thing

@ellap4235 3 жыл бұрын

@@goldenapplesaga5446 Thank you so much! I tried to be :) You usually get about 17-19 years with them living in your home, and it goes so fast. It baffles me how bad people can manage to screw up their kids for the rest of their lives in such a short time.

@_ani 2 жыл бұрын

@@ellap4235 That's so true... I will teach my future kids that 🙂

@goldenapplesaga5446 2 жыл бұрын

@Ronnie Kray Just because you're nice to them doesn't mean you let hurt you. Vulnerability doesnt equal respect. You're right on some level but I think there is a bit more to it that you didn't consider. That's all

@nagnot6718 4 жыл бұрын

“Give love to someone who deserves it the least because they need it the most” Love that quote.

@hemblemichael4164 4 жыл бұрын

The quintessential Christian message, love everybody no matter who they are, especially the people that are difficult to love :)

@IsraelCountryCube 4 жыл бұрын

@Tea spill your boyfriend to who if it was you? Then be glad!

@Vincentlabz 4 жыл бұрын

Christian moral at its finest.

@wavytaeb 4 жыл бұрын

Hemble Michael didn't ask

@Flomen01 4 жыл бұрын

@@wavytaeb Please don't be toxic. No matter who it's coming from, it's still a positive message.

@James-mr5kb 3 ай бұрын

This is so true! The superstar kids get all the attention and praise but the ones who are struggling need support too.

@evilnigga68 3 ай бұрын

can i ask where you live if superstar kids get all the praise

@robynneRN Жыл бұрын

This is powerful. I could feel the pain in your voice as you spoke. Thank you for such a wonderful message.

@asadullohelkhoshimiy3978 4 жыл бұрын

"The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel it's warmth"- African proverb. "When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deep within himself and his suffering is spilling over"

@trudyjay7969 4 жыл бұрын

Asadulloh EL Khoshimiy this is so powerful

@NicolasAirbusA320 4 жыл бұрын

One of the most touching comments I've read so far. Every time I got bullied I've always wondered if I deserved it, it's what you feel right away. I was born with Asperger's Syndrome and Bipolar Disorder, and like it was hard enough already, even my own sister and parents would be intolerant to me and hit me a lot... there was a time I couldn't take it anymore, and instead of shooting up my high school, I tried suicide two times... seeing his man's story brought me many painful memories but I also see that the person who created the famous saying: "Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger" was the wisest person on earth. Today I live with my syndrome having fully accepted it and learned to enjoy my life despite being considered a freak or a weirdo by most people. it's not easy, but resilience is the only thing will make move along and keep on walking.

@TheJerbol 4 жыл бұрын

@@NicolasAirbusA320 Power to you friend! My ex-girlfriend was manic depressive with borderline personality disorder, attempting suicide once while we were together. It's a hole she probably won't really be able to crawl out of, but she's still going and that's all anyone can really ask honestly.

@fairyjuggalo8368 4 жыл бұрын

I had a best friend who did this. She hurted me and a lot of people, i hated her. I hated the fact on no matter how hard i tried to help her she would never listen to me. So, i didn't reply to her messages for 2 month, completly abbandoned her from social media. Then i just received an apology telling me how sorry she was and she wanted to apologize to me first then the other people. I told her that im proud of her

@zacgamble8422 4 жыл бұрын

Asadulloh EL Khoshimiy Wow

@stedunn563 5 жыл бұрын

There is nothing more dangerous than someone with NOTHING to lose

@Ghaemi350z 5 жыл бұрын

Ste Dunn very true

@Brainman_2331 5 жыл бұрын

Well, there actually is. People who cause other people to think that they have nothing to loose.

@nineseven5252 5 жыл бұрын

Dagobert Duck that’s not more dangerous

@Brainman_2331 5 жыл бұрын

Dabuh12 yes it is because it's basically the reason for a lot of children to shoot up the school.

@trevorh6438 5 жыл бұрын

"The man with everything to lose, is the most dangerous of all." -There is nothing he won't resort to to keep what he thinks is his.

@megatron4338 Жыл бұрын

powerful. this touched a deep part in me that i didn’t acknowledge was hurt. your message was heard. thank you for your bravery and showing us strength, how being kind goes so much further than we know. you are so amazing

@mzbn5251 8 ай бұрын

they should make this a mandatory video in all public schools.

@airellevan9684 4 жыл бұрын

When his mom literally said "Do a better job at killing yourself." It almost made me cried, i can't bear to imagine if my mother said that.

@whyismimotaken9351 4 жыл бұрын

I could imagine her saying that out of anger if she finds out, which is why I hide everything

@paxe9401 4 жыл бұрын

@@whyismimotaken9351 Hiding everything is just building up a bad event. Dont hide it, talk with your mother or atleast someone you can trust.

@hele4299 4 жыл бұрын

Same... Parents, mostly the mother, are our most important role models in life. What do we do if we lose everything, and eventually they give up on us too?

@bumbum5689 4 жыл бұрын

i would straight up punch her in the face

@Nekromaniaks 4 жыл бұрын

Man up

@deresolute1061 4 жыл бұрын

“Next time do a better job and I’ll buy you the razor blades” My heart absolutely breaks for this guy. I couldn’t imagine being told that by your own mother, you’re own blood. Definitely brought a tear to my eye.

@Billy-ky6dm 4 жыл бұрын

@misterdan217 4 жыл бұрын

@stefanos7724 4 жыл бұрын

@milk5002 4 жыл бұрын

DE VANOV oh I hope you are okay.

@NBug 4 жыл бұрын

@couragethecowardlydog5926 Жыл бұрын

It's makes me sad survivors in school shootings only want to change gun laws but not help someone from becoming a shooter

@R41ph3a7b6 Жыл бұрын

This was the only TEDx Talk that genuinely made me cry. I'm just glad that Aaron is in a better spot right now.

@louiselowitt2228 3 жыл бұрын

The man gave a talk so good that the man in the audience with crutches gave him a standing ovation.

@kieranv4935 3 жыл бұрын

underrated comment /\

@lonely_toaster3517 3 жыл бұрын

Well then

@sportscarman5 3 жыл бұрын

I noticed that too lol

@henrywong7607 3 жыл бұрын

Where?

@owens.studios 3 жыл бұрын

@@henrywong7607 7:18, between the timer and amplifier

@kayden1421 4 жыл бұрын

When his voice started quivering, I felt that.

@taivenchildress9553 4 жыл бұрын

you mean stuttering big dawg?

@pxnkpaste5792 4 жыл бұрын

He stuttered first then soon his voice got into the about to cry voice so no big dawg meant quivering

@cryinginacoolway9716 3 жыл бұрын

This hurt.

@pigthepirategaming2948 3 жыл бұрын

FINALLY! A REAL I FELT THAT COMMENT!

@scintillam_dei 3 жыл бұрын

@Freddie Reid Damn, I wish I were brave enough to make a speech and get paid for it.

@Featherfinder 11 ай бұрын

“We have to give love to the people we think deserve it the least.” Awesome message.

@Isabellawrob Жыл бұрын

A powerful and brave speech. Thank you Aaron Stark for sharing your story. This has definitely created lasting impact in the hearts of the public.

@RealGhostHawk38 4 жыл бұрын

They really put a timer on this man? He shouldn’t have been rushed.

@azpectral8500 4 жыл бұрын

GhostHawk38 nah if you look near where the timer ends and they start applauding, it resets

@RealGhostHawk38 4 жыл бұрын

Azpectral ooh, I see. I feel like he was sort of rushed though 🤔

@azpectral8500 4 жыл бұрын

GhostHawk38 Yeah I’m not completely sure. I don’t know if there was like a line of people going to talk about their experiences or if Aaron was the only person sharing that night

@jaybridges5964 4 жыл бұрын

@@azpectral8500 it didnt reset, it started counting up, as in he went past his time. kinda messed up that he didn't even get 10 minutes

@MrPiggybossin 4 жыл бұрын

Annoying Redditor your username fits your personality.

@barbaralynnaltorfer3737 3 жыл бұрын

Imagine if teachers actually did something about bullying

@armincal9834 3 жыл бұрын

What can they do?

@jorjastewart5304 3 жыл бұрын

Ikr

@lcf7662 3 жыл бұрын

Less depression, drop in suicide rates

@barbaralynnaltorfer3737 3 жыл бұрын

@@armincal9834 they can make them do tons more work they can stay after school and do stuff and many more thing

@Jack-qu3qz 3 жыл бұрын

@@barbaralynnaltorfer3737 so now what if the bullies bully the kids more because they have more time to.

@tpb_1 Жыл бұрын

Thank you to that man who saved him. This is an amazing story that could’ve ended so badly, but it didn’t. It’s so wholesome

@sherylheidecker9025 7 ай бұрын

Heart wrenching. I am so glad you had a friend who believed in you. How heartwarming that he is still there. Thank you for sharing your story.

@Ann-fx8fe 5 жыл бұрын

He saw and heard too much. His half-crying voice broke my heart.

@adambruins 4 жыл бұрын

xTieter same dude

@jason_7915 4 жыл бұрын

Same

@RealMephres 4 жыл бұрын

This person is a perfect example of how other people can change you, just by acting vile or just terrible towards you, and him admitting this is a step to the right direction; a chance of clarification. I have massive respect towards him and feel sorry for his awful past. I wish the best for him.

@kikilena8242 4 жыл бұрын

How he stuttered while he told his story, I almost cried please everyone learn from this!

@KingDiamondBones 4 жыл бұрын

Kiki Lena to bad nothing works on 50% people

@abmartinez9626 4 жыл бұрын

Y should I when ur profile pic is literally a fuking clown

@oliviarose2110 4 жыл бұрын

Brown Turd are you saying his story is fake?

@filajirak_7105 4 жыл бұрын

Almost?? I did indeed...

@melissarequeny2268 4 жыл бұрын

Kiki Lena I did cry, and am still crying

@louiseb6111 Жыл бұрын

How brave to stand up there and one to tell your life story but to also declare a statement like that!?! Proud of him!

@PossessiveK Жыл бұрын

This brought tears to my eyes. I’m so glad for this man, that he was able to heal.

@animated-solo658 4 жыл бұрын

Him: Its because of my parents News: *SAY SIKE RIGHT NOW*

@nicocharlon4450 4 жыл бұрын

Animated Duo News: say video games right now

@Jahrbii 4 жыл бұрын

Francisco Llamas CNN: Tetris = killer blocks

@blastic728 4 жыл бұрын

Inside Editon: Say it's your uncle right now

@mayrakoiradachshund5741 4 жыл бұрын

@aidan mccauley Really though?

@Toven_WaveWatcherFi 5 жыл бұрын

Damn even the guy in the crutches stood up

@fahimbablu3223 5 жыл бұрын

I WAS GONNA SAY THAT !!!!!!!!!!!! I SAW HIM TOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!

@Mskatie1357 5 жыл бұрын

anthony diaz you'll be surprised how many people feel it isn't, or make no effort to even try.

@minnie7453 5 жыл бұрын

😂

@ducky1016 5 жыл бұрын

Hahahahaha

@collinmankin4334 5 жыл бұрын

Shows how powerful this was

@TheQuackinator Жыл бұрын

I've watched this ted talk several years ago, but it reappeared on my recommendations after watching another TED talk and this time, it hit HARD. I thankfully so far have been blessed to not have very traumatic life, but on the other hand, this video has got me wondering just how many people I've known that I could've maybe loved better and hopefully watching this video will, at least to some extent, help me to seek out and love those who may be low on love. A classmate of mine when I went to school and I didn't get along very well at all, but now he's one of my very best friends. I suspect I became one of his first friends and after becoming friends, I noticed just how much happier he became. Someone out there needs your love and friendship and to those on the other side of the coin, someone out there is willing to give you love and friendship. To Aaron: I don't know if you'll see this comment among the 38,000+ others, but you have not only saved your own life, but I speculate that you may have saved at least hundreds of lives in addition to possibly being a spark to at least thousands of friendships, perhaps to some who didn't even have anyone. I'm so sorry that you had to go through all of that but I also want to thank you for talking about it. It was important for me to see this.

@aaronstarkauthor Жыл бұрын

Thank you. Well said, and I really appreciate that. Thank you for listening.

@jessehensley1171 Жыл бұрын

Dude, you are amazing. I hope that pain you had as a child turns into unbounded joy as you progress through adulthood. Thank you for sharing your story

@omnigulwillofcrota8391 5 жыл бұрын

He got a standing ovation from a guy in crutches.

@TylerTinsley75 5 жыл бұрын

Your point is?

@farisakmal2722 5 жыл бұрын

@@TylerTinsley75 it's hard to stand up when u use crutches (ive been there) and this guy still did it, showing that he is impressed and respects the speaker

@shortthrow50 5 жыл бұрын

Chris G that doesn’t mean much. If the guy was in a wheelchair with no legs, now that would be pretty impressive

@Trown122 5 жыл бұрын

Chris G for that speech id give a standing ovation if i was in a coma

@cheesebandit6148 5 жыл бұрын

He got a standing ovation from a dead man.