I understand your message, Owami, but I want to share my own experience. I used to earn more than my husband, but I didn't want to tell him because I was worried about how he would react. However, when I finally told him, he was very supportive and said that we were a team. Two years later, he started earning three times more than me, but he remained humble and supportive. In my opinion, it's important to caution people against getting involved with someone who can't handle their finances. It's not about how much they earn, but rather how they manage their money. For example, my husband was debt-free and very good with his finances when we met. Therefore, my advice is to date or marry someone who is financially disciplined, has a clear vision and is working towards it, and is also mature and secure in themselves. It's not about the amount they earn, but rather how they handle their money and their life goals.

And after he pays with my money, I would say "thank you baby". 😂😂😂 As women our level of delulu is unmatched 😂😂

Singing " I have been through hell and back" on your behalf ninja 😂

I wish they would teach this to women in church. Praying for marriage does not change a financial abuser. Whey would they change if it's so nice.

If we are being honest, most black South African women have experienced this level of financial abuse. My ex did the same to me. Just listening to Owamie’s story is so triggering. When he got an opportunity to work abroad, I literally did everything that I could to help him secure that job because I refused to have a stalker on my hands. Now I’m free and almost 5 years sober. Drunk in love for who?

I love when you post personal story times, I never skip them ❤

Iyho! Jonga I experienced financial abuse in my past relationship, i was so skinny guys, i looked sick :( because i literally leaved to make sure that man was ok. If ufuna imali, he would even tell me how much and i JUST COULD NOT SAY NO. He grew wings ke sana if you know what I mean and whatever job he got - it was beneath him. He would go and work, the following week he has resigned because that job is not for him hehehehehe and I would continue to support him. But the day he decided to leave me, i felt like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Jonga i was so excited that the relationship has ended yhu yhu after that ndingemhle, i gained weight and started glowing. Sana never again!!!!!!!!!

Owamie, you were a good wife. Never beat yourself up for it!

I was there once. Never again. A man must make money, period. Most of them have nothing other than money to offer anyway

I've been single for 13 years. I am a gentle soul and man take advantage of it.

🤣🤣😪😪Been there... done that with a boyfriend🤧....dumped him....and now I have a permanent, ridiculous narcissistic stalker.😵‍💫

Wena Owami u are a real one let me tell this is most women's story but not all are bold enough to share

Owami is the big sis we never had hle. The details on how we become popeye in love and what to look out for👌👌👌👌priceless

"the validation you have to give a broke man" 🙌

Ninja your divorce was a blessing in disguise to you 🤝🤩

Never regret leaving poverty

Someone should host Owamie on to Hell and Back please😊

I Pray all Young Girls find this video.. 🕯 I will share this video all over and make sure that it reaches the masses.. 🙏🏾 This notion of being a Mbokodo is NOT on. This is a tough lesson we all hsve to learn as women and some learn it early, others learn late. Either way, Thank You for sharing.. 🙏🏾

currently in the same situation, I feel financially abused and I also console my self ka gore'' he is a good guy with good heart'' i feel exhausted!

Advice from my mom. "Never let a man know all about your finances." Men are providers for a reason.

Old Owamie and old me same WhatsApp group Sana. Some times it's like you are exposing me. Yhooo ndake ndamuncu for love

Speaking of Xhosa mothers. My grandmother was married then my grandfather passed away. She then got a boyfriend, apparently that guy would knock at night and my grandmother would ask before opening "uyiphethe imali?" Meaning "Did you bring money"😂😂 If guy has no money, girl is not opening that door... 😂

He'll make less than you, he'll still cheat & beat you up.

Nurses and taking loans for their partners 😂🤦‍♀️ It’s common thing/story here in Botswana 😂

Bathong, it's like a movie😂😂. May our little girls watch this and learn. Relationships are supposed to be partnerships. If you get to a point where you are doing above your hundred consistently then stop and reflect. This is sad hle.

Ninja that was me in 2010, buying him clothes n paying for rent, immediately after he got employed, he was gone.

I’ve heard this story before because I’m a long term ninja. Everytime I hear it, I’m like yoh! 😅😂

Some partners are ungrateful, gotta be selfish in a relationship and be your first priority. Never ever help out a guy financially, he will never use his money again, he will save his and chow yours.

Owamie you endured a lot in that marriage 🥺🥺

Male ninja signing in 🎉

Just imagine,knowing that you can afford to spoil yourself and someone is manipulating you to think is for your own good.😮

A lot of women have gone through this, and it's so sad because men are on podcasts going on about women not bringing anything to the table.

He was even so annoyed in those couple vlogs, and you will be trying so hard to show up as a sweet wife

Queen Ninja you bought him a playstation🤣🤣😂 only love can hurt like this😂

Him cheating on you was a blessing in disguise for you Ninja cause if he didn’t cheat you’d still be in that marriage. Look how far you’ve grown without him❤

The Blogger they blog about❤🙌

You were not dumb 👑 Ninja you were inLove,he was dumb for cheating on you 😢

Owami it's not that the other people he speak with like lies, these type of men have their own way of appearing or sounding innocent to other people and they make you look like you are making up stories. The struggle is real girl, I'm currently in the same situation and the worst part of it is that even my own family sees him as this good guy

Ey big guy has lived shame 😂 😂 😂 the worst part is him coming here to youtube with your enemies and talking shit verry slowly at that ! Rhaaa sies man.

😭😂Kwa Xhosa!! I remember my mother was telling me that her mother (my grandmother) would ask a man who is shelaring her before he even enters the gate if "uyiphethe imali" if not she would tell him to go back 😂. I always laugh at this story, so yes Owamie there is some truth in what you said you heard about Xhosa women. 😂I'm not gonna bekezela too, I'm taking a page out of my grandma's book, "uyiphethe imali" if not boy be😂

Can we talk about how beautiful Owamie looks,the contrast of the top to the background +makeup is incredible ❤️

You are not alone my sister, nna I will never forget the day I used up my mother's hard earned money for my registration fee at VUT on a boyfriend and only realised the money was finished at R1500 from R4500, I even had to settle for Sedcol cause how do I go back home without registration receipt yet the money is finished??? Boys don't deserve less street smart girlies 😅 they deserve dikgeleke tsa basadi, I'm far in life with honours In progress now but damn girl I was dumb to the core.

Love your stories, they're always informative, manipulation is real and the manipulative men can waste even 20 years of your life but we fall, we learn ans get up keep fighting Ninja😊

This was me until a few days ago. 😭😭😭 literally everything you are describing. Worst thing I'm about to graduate and all my savings are gone. And all the bad treatment I received is still somehow my fault.

Kahlebo, I think I have to watch, I'll use earphones and no one will know what's going down.....now pass me the teapot and the largest cup, let's sit down, relax and learn, phela as men we also want to join the girl talk conference

There are so many points in this video and I wish I could comment on all of them. 😂 Buying him clothes for work so he can look decent 🤣🤣🤣 I wonder how bad he was looking

This is why im single for 7 years,im scared i will become dizzy inlove again.😂😢😢😢

girl i think u were bewitched. thank God for your life and deliverance. this was an eye opener for me too

ai no you were dizzy dizzy🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂i bet he misses the money

Oh Owamie I remember when you were working on your birthday then he surprised you with a Cake😂😂So Ma'am that was your money🫢🤭😂and I remember a plant he bought for Lil studio and you said you have beeeeeen asking for it😢oh Owamie you have suffered in that Marriage😭😭

This behaviour I saw it in my mum but with her siblings. She never said no and they'll milk her dry. This is because my grandmother would say she loves her more because her husband my grandfather loved my mum and made him support them. She was trying to buy their love and make up for my grans mistake instead of telling her upfront that it's evil.

Forgive yourself for selling your self short because you were too afraid of diapleasing people,but let this be the end, forgive yourself for confusing deal breakera as human imperfections, you now know what is needed is not perfection but maturity.❤❤❤

he was in his Soft guy era mus 😂😂😂😂, before the the soft guy era trend even trend on tik tik.

Eish guys, when we are younger we marry for love. We have pure intentions, as I got married at 21, I really didn't care about how much he makes. I was just happily building our family. Hard & painful lesson to learn... Now at over 30, I know better & do better.

It's not safe to say "not my man", it took you 9 years to see the true colors and I think we really should learn from you.

Yhoo Owami I'm listening to your story its exactly what I went through for me it was even worse,It got to a point of physical abuse. Thank you dear for sharing your story. Stay blessed ❤

I’m on the process of detaching because wow, the guy spend most of the time in my place and doesn’t help with anything…I used to spend about 1K on food when I was alone and now I’m on way over 2K. Moguy even use my toiletries. On pay day I have to cook my food for both of us, he never orders. When we go to his place he literally has nothing!!! CHERRY ON TOP he says he doesn’t know nice places for dates as he never took anyone out on a date and his exes would accept that!!!!!

I've been saying "Yho" throughout this video. Yho mahnn Owamie, I'm soryy you had to go through that. hayi mahnn this guy was abusive Dammit!

This episode had to be on To hell and back 😂

I'm so sorry sisi but you are a very wise woman.Not forgetting umuhle maan...yasss gul!

Thank you so much for sharing . I'm a young girl in my early twenties , and I appreciate your transparency. There is so much wisdom to what you've shared

I even ran out of 'yoh'😂😂, it keeps getting wild'er

That moment when you have to become a mother to the broke man and he decide for you how to spend you money😮

I once took out a 40k loan so I could pay my bf’s tuition which was 20k coz Wits wouldn’t allow him to register while owing but he ended up buying me an iPhone 13 Pro max so I guess he paid me back and we still together 😂

That's why I'm insured with Single world. Yhoooo my level of craziness would not allow me to do all you've mentioned.😢

😂😂😂😂Xhosa woman here….Hai Owamie we are not told to find men with money , if you said to not tolerate bad treatment then I would agree.

Wow. So, I'm not alone? Most of what you've shared, happened to me too & that's why I'm single. By choice. I refuse to be in such a situation again. Loafers. A man who can't look after a woman is not a man. Useless. I can't even waste my respect on such a loser. Let's value ourselves my sisters & shake off these "come to eat."

Ninja you have healed tjooo.. am out here laughing, not judging at all... The things we do for love, but it's important to learn from our mistakes

I once sent money to an ex so i can relate to this. I learnt my lesson as time went on because he was lazy and abusive. Thankfully, i never married him and i dumped his ass soon as the red flags showed.

Good about being single is that I can spend my money on me without having to explain to anyone.

I enjoyed this storytime because im having flashbacks of Owamie's vlog. It's how you always appreciated him in the vlogs yet it was your hard earned money. Im glad you moved on.

Yoh Owami this is so true, mina i always meet men who think i have money and they are not even afraid to say wena unemali mos thanks for sharing

I was wondering if you were aware that your ex was a psychopath. I think that he did used you. So much and he knew that he was not going anywhere in life and he wanted to sabotage your progress. I'm so glad you left.

You too looked so happy. I enjoyed your videos so much ! You had to go through that to be here today! ❤❤❤

I'm so sorry you went through that. It's called coercive control. I was in that kind of situation as well but the person was my younger sister. It's mindfuckery. I remember I could do anything for her and she felt entitled to my resources. She was a big baby.

All this things make ppl strong in life, Queen Ninja dont beat urself up about the past those negative energies will pull u down.

Took a debt to close off his debt…Tell me you are a homemaker without telling me you are a homemaker. The good ones, we are wired that way and we ain’t going to stop being who we are because of those that can’t handle us, rest assured going forward we will love and care again. Wiser but we won’t lose our DNA!!!

I know we are the same age and i also once been in a relationship where i had to wear the pens🩳🩲🩲 in the relationship and i ended up dumping him for that coz it was a thing where by now because i earn more i have to do everything in the household with the guy that is staying in my yard so now people are like wena your going to die alone coz o rata zaka is not about loving money i choose to be free i can't afford to burden myself like that am happy alone now🌬

Thanks for the lessons, we learn everyday 😊

This needs a tiktok live m sure a lot of us relate

We live and learn. God bless you Owami and what's ahead is better than what has passed.

Indeed you're the great Boldly Owamie, courageous woman. I love you all the way from 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪

This is too deep, I must say I learned a lot from it as a 42 year old woman.Thank you for sharing my Queen ❤❤❤

Good on you for sharing your story and enlightening others. This is purpose. ❤

Thank you Owamie. This is wisdom! Nuggets!

Thank you for sharing owami. You’re the best. Highlighting realtime issues. ❤🫶🏽love and light to you including healing. I’m also July 6 turning the big 30. Cancerian signing in ✅😘

Thank you for sharing your story, there's a lot of woman out there who have done some of this too, some did this for boyfriends that never married them

I cannot begin to express how much I love when it’s your story times

Honestly this guy have put you through the most

You're beautiful Owamie, never regret doing good in the only way you know how. let's learn from others as well & not fall on the same ditch. You were married to a parasite, he didnt love you at all. Thank God for pulling you out of there❤

Can somebody send this video to my mother, 20 years ago before she got married.🤦

I'm here for your emancipation...woow thanks for your bravery and sharing your journey...this is eye opening❤ you dealt with a narcissist and you didn't deserve all this Owamie

I'm so sorry you went through this girl 😢

Hi ninja, listening to this just opened my eyes 😢

😃😃😃after big guy pays owamie would say thanks bbe knowing very well it was her card😂😂😂😂I’m finished

Every single sentence is stressing me more than the last 😭. Yoh I’m glad you made it out.

I remember the day of the foundation, it was a vlog during lockdown, you were wearing black leggings!

Owamie you really went through it in that marriage shem. Good thing your eyes have opened now🥰

Yhooo 💔 I've been in the exact position... Even worse 😭 yhoooo I've been to hell and back!

Oh Owamie you truly loved that man. So sorry you went through that 🥺🥺