didn't she break the law so many times.... you should have sued her

"i honestly feel like u guys like me a lot" LMAO I DIED UR RIGHT THO

I think what makes this worse is the fact your own family members didn't even stand up for you even though they should of and were in the position and had the power to do so. As always great vid

Don't become so tolerant that you tolerate intolerance. Something to think about

your skin looks so beautiful :O

You transitioning is none of her business, you didn't have to justify transitioning to her or anyone. She is a complete bigot

Were you not able to talk to your aunt and uncle about the issue? I know where I'm from its illegal to treat employees like that

Omg girl I'm so sorry that happened to you! I just want you to know that God loves you no matter what, and I'm a total supporter of the LGBTQ community! I believe that God loves everyone, even if they change their gender. You were born a woman inside and you totally deserve to have the body you always have wanted. My fiance and I have already agreed to adopt soon, and be supportive if our child is transgender, gay, lesbian, non-religious, or whatever they want to aspire to be and believe. :) I wish everyone Christian was like us, but I wanted you to know that we love you just as equally as anyone else! You're no different than any other human being, you're just super special and unique and any man/woman would be so lucky to have you!But I love you soo much and I love your videos! I myself am a straight white female, but I find so much understanding and inspiration from your videos, and that I should love everyone no matter what! I just wanted to thank you for opening mine and my fiance's eyes! You're truly a blessed angel, and you are SO beautiful girl! Stay confident and never take shit from the haters! If they mess with you, just let me know and I'll put the fear of the LORD in them, lol! Xoxoxo, have a blessed day Victoria! 😃😳😺👸👗👛👠💄🌸🌈

So happy for this video, I usually put your videos on when I'm having trouble sleeping. They put me right to sleep and a long drawn out video like this is perfect !

I also had the same thing happen to me. It's so hard to deal with honestly because it hurts so much when you think you were being supported so I totally understand. And the part at the end about being handicapped is so true and I felt like I was for so long after I was fired from being transgender. BUT you're right there is a shit ton of other ways to make it. it's just harder. I love you girl. Keep being strong.

hey love recently stumbled upon your channel and im just loving you! thanks for sharing this story as im sure a lot of trans out there go through similar situations. just wanted to give you my support, stay beautiful inside and out!

You should have been supervisor instead of Becky's ass. I cursed one woman OUT for being mean to her workers once in a restaurant.. She embarrassed them, then I in turn embarrassed HER.

I am so sorry you went through all of that pain. You are so strong! At such a young age! I admire your courage to stay true to yourself and do what is best for you.

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I'm a biological woman who's married to a man, but I encouraged my kids to always be open minded about people with different interests. I have explained to them that we are all made s certain way we don't come from one strict mold, and whatever they feel, if not agreeing than they need not bother but don't make rude comments or call anyone out. I said if they agree, then also don't call anyone out but let whoever it is know they have their full support and encouragement. God does the judging NOT HUMANS! unless it's for court cases or somethibg:)

This doesn't really compare, but in high school they tried to tell me how to wear my hair. I have very long hair, and in my senior year of high school it went down below my waist. So I'd wear it down (because how else would I wear it?) and it would sometimes fall in front of my face. And I'd just leave it, because A) I didn't care, B) I could see clearly, and C) It kind of made me look like Cousin Itt from the Addams Family. So the school security guard came up to me and said I either had to comb my hair back and out of my face or I had to cut it. I asked why and he said it was so I could be recognized if I ever did anything. I told him that I was the only one who looked like me. I'm 6'3'', I wear a butt-ton of denim, I have waist-length hair, I was the only person I'd seen at the school with a full-on beard. It's pretty hard to mistake me for someone else. So I told him that if he ever saw me with my hair cut, he'd know that I'd done something I wasn't supposed to and had cut my hair so as to avoid being recognized for whatever crime I had committed. But in the end, I had to talk to some school officials. I basically told them to eat my crème fraîche because I wasn't going to cut my hair. Then a year later I shaved my head for a totally legal reason and not to avoid being identified for that guy's murder. Okay, I didn't kill him. He was alive when I left. I have a lawyer.

Your words of encouragement have empowered me. I've been scared to death of telling my mom that I am going to transition to female, but you're right. My happiness shouldn't be stifled for any reason. Thank you, boo. I love you and I thank you. ♡♡♡

I have just discovered your channel and I have to tell you how amazing I think you are. I love your honesty, and how open you are about everything. You are such a sweetheart! Sending positive thoughts your way :)

I hate that feeling of defeat. I was fired from Sea Life Aquarium for being trans. I was put in a situation where they pinned someone elses bs on me and repremanded me, as a way to get me to quit. They had no evidence that I did anything wrong, but they tried to fire me anyway. They pulled the exact same BS on my friend not even a month later.

I do agree God doesn't make mistakes and I feel like trans is a natural thing and that we're all Earthlings and we should love each other no matter is we where born a certain way!

Thank you for sharing! :-) Hopefully things continue to go well on your journey! Also thank you for your support and sharing your life with us. I recently met with someone from Employee Relations, so I will be starting my transition in the workplace soon.

This is an older video but I just watched the whole thing and wanted to send love to you, sweet girl! Glad you were able to stay true to yourself after essentially being forced to quit. I'm also glad your current job is supportive of you

This situation is horrible. Good for you for sticking up for yourself in the end. You better than me for upon my last day there, I would've given her a good cussing out.

Wow, isn't it illegal to fire someone for their sexual orientation? My job I recently quit from had this idea that I was a lesbian and I was called out for something that I did not do. (They said I went into a stall with another associate for sexual purposes) So I quit, no one will judge me for any reason whether I'm LGBT or not. I will not tolerate that. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.

I love your attitude. I see so many people nowadays playing the victim card for such trivial things and it makes me so happy to see people who are dealt with difficult situations but are still so strong and refuse to play the victim card every chance they get. Slay girl.

Just found you, may or may not be binge watching your videos right now 😂 I think you're so awesome, and absolutely hilarious. Hope things are going well with you! xx

I totally admire your strength and confidence. What advice would you give to someone who is much older but confused if they are really trans or just more female in their outlook? Thanks

Wow... That was not Becky's place to tell you to stay a boy!!!!??? Wtf!!

what a brave, genuine soul you are! thanks for sharing this story.

You have so much patience. I would have swung at her so fast. Btw I LOVE YOUR VIDEOSSSSSs!!

Way to go girl. That sounds like such a shitty situation. Wish they could have been more compassionate, but no job is worth putting your life on hold :( love you!! 😍😍

I think you wanted to please them at the time !. And you just you came to your senses ! And know you living your truth! I 100% understand you ! Most of us go tru that as well .! Much love !

So this is like the third video of hers that I watched. But why in these older ones does she say her name is nicki?

Thank you for trusting us enough to share your story, Nikki.

Omg, me too! I was the first employee at my Walgreens to get employee of the month! Yasss, hunty! ♡♡♡

you should get bangs 😍😊

I really enjoy your videos. You are funny and you seem like a kind person. By the way you have a great sense of style and remember to be strong and don't give a fuck about the haters

the aunt and uncle part made me really sad :'(

You are a sweet soul. And one of the most humble lgbt KZfaqrs out there! I'll pray for your happiness. I hope you only encounter from now on, people who will treat you with the respect and kindness you deserve. And eventually, what we all want; love from that special someone forever! Peace and love you brave soldier; keep fighting the good fight.

Wow Nikki thanks for sharing. That is definitely a horrible situation and you had to deal with people who have a very bad personality. I wanted to hug you and say sorry for these ********* Love your videos keep the coming

oh my god, when you said that becky said "why can't you be a gay boy" i relate so much, i'm FTM and my mother said "why can't you just stay a lesbian" when I came out to her as trans.

Damn girl, that sucks about your aunt and uncle and their apathetic feeling about the whole thing and letting it go down... sounds like you owned your job and did the best thing at that time in your life for you. And unfortunately somebody screwed with your own opportunities and possibility by asking you to do impossible things that were stated as not literally not possible for you anymore. Good to hear this honest, earnest story. I think it's super important. xoxo, much love - Diana

The reason you won the first ever employee of the month is because your family owned the restaurant.

do you have any I I'd used on how to get another one

Can we be friends!? I stumbled upon your channel yesterday and have not stopped watching. I’m so happy that you have such a positive outlook on life & situations. I try to put myself in someone else’s shoes who are either negative towards me or other people so I don’t take it personally and it really does make a big difference. But anyways, your amazing, beautiful inside & out🌻

Thanks for sharing this. This had to be such a terrible time for you. I absolutley love your videos!!!❤❤😂

So sorry that happened !! Love you so much Nikki

Sweetheart, I too am a trans woman, and I was also fired for being transsexual. I was also denied unemployment benefits, and denied the appeal. In the decision case document, it did not refer to me as a trans woman. It referred to me as a man wearing makeup. Right now, I have a LGBT rights lawyer considering my case. Stay strong, honey. This world is against us, but together, we will stand strong. You are amazing. You are a warrior. You are everything that makes a real WOMAN!

what state is this?

you're amazing! keep doing what you're doing! :)❤

Thank you for sharing your story -you are amazing!

it amazes me that people still treat people this way, and on the word of an imaginary man that lives in the sky 😥 I'm so sorry this happened to you! at least it's in the past now and you've moved on ❤

You're the best, I'm glad you're happy in your skin the way you want to be ♥️

Made it to the end. You wanted us to let you know. Anyways, I'm sorry that your Aunt & Uncle didn't support you. I can understand having family let you down there.

The drake face kills me 😂

I'm a female and although I'm not transgender or anything, I am slightly androgynous I suppose (I don't know how wise to explain it) I really want to cut my hair short and everything but I was too scared to even wear a beanie at my school. I put it on then when someone saw me, I took it off. How did you get the courage to shoe your feminine side? I love you so much!!

What was the dress code for females?

your're so beautiful and I'm sad that you had to go through this. xoxo

I feel like you have a law suite you could file

I also was fired by the phone company. I was told that I didn't fit the company's public image.

You're so beautiful! Very strong, too! Keep on keepin' on, girlie.

She treated you that way in the end because she was trying to push you out. She can't legally fire you because of who you are. She treated you like garbage and threatened you like that because she knew you'd hate it so much that you would want to leave. Same thing happened at my job. I'm a cis woman, but the boss for whatever reason did not like me, and decided that she no longer wanted me to work at the company and threatened me with the stupidest things I have ever heard in my life… so she got her wish, I got tired of the bullshit and I left. I have never been happier.

god this story is so sad im so sorry this happened to you

You are seriously my favorite human being!

Yup I know that this is 7 years at present. Listen to what I have to say. This is my experience, but it is many other also. This is going to sound sharp and harsh. But I don’t tell anyone anything. If you read this, and you have experiences similar, or maybe you see the situation that you went through,you should have. Just any connection to what I say. If you held off and you ended up going through a 180, and it’s been a long time, and people have changed. Let me and hopefully others know, and if we can understand what the difference is, maybe someone can make less mistakes, and I will guarantee that you will, more than likely, get a reaction like you made a mistake, then they will flip back because you don’t change back for them. Anyho, if someone who says that they are family, friends, anything, and if they say how much they love you, or care about you, or anything like that. If they have concerns, they will sit and have a conversation with you, and certainly not talk at you. Keep that in mind, and look at the differences between with you and at/to you. They just might sound like they truly are there for you, but stop and listen, be analytical. Record the conversation, make sure that they don’t know. It is a proven fact, people act differently when they see that blinking red light. You might be recording all day riding bikes on a trail. They might have seen the camera mounted on your handlebars several times already. But as soon as everyone is slowed down and grouped together closer. Then someone will notice that the camera is there and pointed in their direction, not at them. They will do a flip mode, and if the red light is flashing, or they ask you if you are recording, flip even more. Got to put a show on for anyone who might see the video. Now, once you have the talk/s, you can ask others what they hear, or if you are able to drop a gopro or whatever close enough. What does others think that you trust. This can be a boss, family, friends, whatever. Now this is key, if you feel hurt, understand if you feel anything that is not good, and whoever is in the talk/s, doesn’t have the heart to pause when you say that you feel bad, or anything not good. Then they are willing to discuss what what and how. Because they truly love you and/or care about you, not concerned about you. Then you got a decision, wait, and get others thoughts if you are not sure. But especially if that person. Listen, if that person has no concerns about you crying, and going through distress. Furthermore, if they come out and insult you or basically insult you, and you know that they know what they are saying. You will know it when it happens. Don’t live in a fantasy world where people change. Yeah parents have to go through a process, because there child just died, or is about to. Doesn’t matter if they are going to get another child, just happier, and improved. Some need time. They would have been supportive before about everything good. If you are made to feel ashamed or whatever, especially if you don’t need them. If you are 16, 17 whatever, and you have a friend who is supportive, and you can stay there. Hold your touch and even smile and agree, if you have stuff you want to get out of the house, and I would look at the situation, don’t go in there room and steal anything, but if you have games in another room, grab your game and the television along with the setup that you primarily use. That goes for everything. Don’t take the living room television, if there is only that one, and don’t take the family computer if they use it as much or more than you. But understand if anyone does not have a concern about your feelings and input, and you do for them. Gone. That is it. As for as this situation. Yes, young, and other parts of the situation. I would probably check with my parents. They would end up with some bad reviews. If not a law suit if applicable. That Becky would fully understand that if she did not respect me, and she did not respect my work that I put in, and my family did not respect my feelings when I was not hurting anyone, and I was in understanding with my other family. Then lets go. I would not want front page news, if a lawsuit is applicable. Most of the time, it will be settled behind closed doors, and if you feel like you want to stand up for others. You better come correct, and represent, and take it all the way. The whole time, making sure that everyone knows that you are not mad, and it’s not about the money, it’s about standing up for good, standing up for others who will come after you. You respected and cared about ______. You put your heart, soul, and blood sweat and tears, in. If they had that much concern. Then hopefully other people would see that when someone says something or is going for a change, and previously they done their part, then it will be returned. Each situation is different and people change, but give or take 10%, and when they hit rock bottom, they might change, or put on a show.

Even if you werent transitioning, anyone can have long hair, you see people of all styles and genders with long hair. What doesn’t kill you makes u stronger!! You tried being respectful, it’s sad she couldn’t. And yes the whole firing thing makes perfect sense

hon,your not alone i was also fired for being transgender,by a temp district manager.He was a total a-hole to all trans workers he was a total transphobe. Our manager of the store was fired and a new worker who was always late and many times didn't show for work got the managers position.a total cluster mess.in the end they treated me like i was 3rd class citizen.it sucked majorly.

the us has very few protections for trans folk, she would be in trouble in the UK though, Beccy would probably lose her job over it tbh.

Omg Becky reminds me of past employers just in the sense that the atmosphere totally changed when they walked in 🤐

i just love your dimple, and your lips... such a cutie! glad things are better for you now. take care

you are such a sweet person I just started watching you on you tube your great to love you

Love your voice! It isn't loud and annoying

The drake insert was awesome lol

I'm so glad you have a job that you love now!!! :)

You can not be fired for that, only if you did not tell you tire sex on the application and in some places you do not have to tell your gender Get a lawyer

you crack me up xD lol keep doing you! Much love!

She didn't/couldn't say "you're fired' because it's actually illegal. Good job for leaving sweetie.

Lol I stopped the video at 3:10 just to say LOL my supervisor was actually named Becky and she was actually my favorite LOL

You always look So Cute in Tans & Browns.

She could get fired. Discrimination is against the law. She needs that to happen to her so she knows that is not how society works anymore. She should not be in charge of anything let alone people. She will get what's coming to get. Karma

you worked at copelands?

Plot Twist: Their names actually are becky and tom which restuarant was she talking about?

I know this video is a little older but I would have just kept growing out your hair and let her take you off the schedule- then take her to court. "Becky" definitely shouldn't have that position if she is so unprofessional. If I was a customer and heard her on the phone talking about an employee in front of everyone, I would personally say something. idk if she still has that position but she definitely shouldn't and you have the perfect reason to take her to court which will get her fired since your aunt & uncle didn't do anything. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

Damn near everyone from Louisiana is like that trust me Ik!!!

What was the restaurant?

i would of sued for discrimination im transgender mtf and i know discrimination can be a big thing when your transgender

If your aunt & uncle own the restaurant brand as a chain or corporate owned chain, your sexuality was never a question, you worked hard for them, and your choice to change didn't effect your work ethic and habits, then there isn't good reason to let you go in my eyes just because you made a decision regarding your body and your image in regards to your sexuality.......she is just unprofessional and judgemental. She was hiding behind policy as a way to control you and have a way to terminate you if you didn't give in. Like you said, she didn't have to agree with it, but it's your choice. And it didn't change how you work or how you represent the company. She didn't have grounds to terminate you until she found a loop hole!! WOW! I'm sorry you had to go thru that, I really am! And I'm also sorry that you had no support from your family, your aunt and uncle actually.

Yeah, you didn't have a choice therefore were driven out of your job. Sorry to hear and glad you learnt from it. Compromising "happiness" is normal sometimes - in a balanced and reasonable way. Strive for contentness... not happiness all the time. But do not compromise your integrity, ethics or morals xx Positive challenges are the best reflections in the long run... just a step in the massive staircase called life

Discrimination like that should be illegal, it's a shame that transgenders, lesbians, gays, bisexuals, etc. get treated that way. smh, I'm bisexual and Christian people tell me that I'm luke warm Christian because of it, like ummm... well you can hold that opinion because my faith is between me and God and you don't decide that

this made me so sad. 😖

I love u girl ❤️❤️❤️ just know that babe :)

Well I do not know alot about religion, but if there is a god and if god do not make mesatakes then the fact that you are transgender and going from male to female, then that could be seen as your part for letting people learn to accept that people are different and you are doing your part for helping people accepting this subject. :-) Please take this positive since I mean it in a positive way. I admire transgender people in generel and I am aware that transgenders people realy can have it hard because of other peoples wiews about this. I mean it, I belive that I would not have the mental resources to go through something as though as what transgender people can go through. :-)

You are beautiful! (I am Pre-Everything transmale)

YOu need to get a back bone because I promise you if you claim she's not wrong then you're going to find yourself being told what to do, fired, abused, and discriminated on a regular basis. She has no privileges being a person of faith (not a virtue) over you. If you give her those privileges though, you're not going to be a happy person

you were so brave!

I was fried for being transgender to I was working in a cansio where I live

You're beautiful inside and out!

you're amazing.

You are amazing! I only found your channel recently but I am OBSESSED! .....not in a creepy way😉

ur related to Lisa vanderpump?

Omg your uncle and aunt did nothing.. Rejection or not being supported by family hurts the worse. As a side note, Nikki, I love your voice, your dimples, smile! If we knew each other I'd love to be friends with you :')