Honestly the advice this film gives is timeless and simple: nobody likes a self-centered, selfish, self-focused, withdrawn, and full of self-pity person. However, a person who genuinely cares about others and puts them first will naturally have a much more attractive personality.

"Boy, has she got personality!" Said no man, ever.

I'm autistic, no one ever told me this stuff, this is incredibly helpful information.

Being nice to people will generally gets you far. But just remember, don't let anyone takes advantage of your kindness.

People make fun...but this video actually helped me lol.

No way this short film from 1951 taught me more about communicating with others than the entirety of internet lol

In the early 1980s I was in high school. One day while sitting in class, out of the blue, for reasons i cant recall, the school 16mm movie projector was rolled into the classroom. And they played for us several of these old, antiquated, 1950s Coronet instructional films on how to date, how to be polite, how to behave, etc. My classmates laughed through them. The wooden acting, the cheap production values, the heavy handed preaching, the over politeness, the squeaky clean activities (a picnic, a carnival, a weenie roast, bike riding, a day at the park, dinner at home with the family, etc), the innocent slang of the time (gee, golly, swell, etc). I on the other hand, wasn't laughing. To the contrary. As someone who was being raised in a severely abusive, dysfunctional home, i found these films to be quite charming. A sort of a time capsule of a more innocent era. DON'T get me wrong. I had no illusions. I was well aware that the 1950s wasnt so perfect and innocent (no decade is). That there were negative things going on in the 1950s, such as crime, corruption in government and private business, child abuse, segregation, poverty, suicide, violence, etc., for examples. But still, it seems to me that there were SOME things in the 1950s they were doing so right back then that we were doing so horribly wrong in the early 1980s, more so today.

As a gen z... We honestly need more videos like this, it actually helps Identity any personality issues we may have and places a good à example of how to behave

I think this is really simple, thoughtful, effective advice. I don't consider it manipulation at all. It's actually really obvious: Being kind and putting others before yourself will benefit you and improve your life. And people will like you more, so then they will put you first too. It's give and take, and how to build relationships with people.

when they just casually walked up to bill and introduced themselves- I was in shock at the straightforwardness. I would feel so much anxiety in that moment. Then I saw how he reacted and he was glad and they all started to have a nice conversation. Not only did bill feel less awkward but probably all four of them did. That makes me want to get over my own fears and be that kind of inclusive and outgoing personality that makes everyone happier

Her interaction with her little brother is sweet!

At 4:00, Bill realizes then how easy it is to manipulate people and begins to consider a career in politics.

Wow, this was really good. The message is simple, yet powerful and timeless. "If you want to improve you personality, focus on the other person." A good message indeed.

This is awesome, its like an instructional video for sociopaths. I can't wait to sample it.

Old lady here (63 next month 😊) and i have to say it has kinda warmed my cold black heart how many "youngsters" are liking these relics. Spoiler alert- i thought they were hokey even when i was a kid. But there is such an honest wholesomeness to them that makes them endearing.

This film is very much not really about what we today would call "personality." This film gives good tips for making interactions more pleasant. I think a lot of people would write this off because of the language used, but this is just plain good manners.

You don't find this video. It finds you.

The way Bill changed so quickly from being aggressive to being kind to his mother to get what he wanted makes him seem like a psychopath xD

My takeaway here is to keep a cool head even when it gets awkward or when your upset. An issue I’ve been dealing with my whole life, my mind starts racing and suddenly I’ll get too talkative, and take over the conversation, or the opposite, and go so quiet that it falls into a silent atmosphere. I just need to remember to stay calm, think with my head, and not just reacting to what’s in front of me, but look at my environment, and match the atmosphere in the room.

This video unexpectedly helped me a lot, the quote "Your personality is how you affect others" and "If you want to improve you personality, focus on the other person" will forever be in my head from now on

I had an acting coach who drilled into our heads that "personality is what you let others see, not the real you."

The message is, "Be nice to other people."

The advice in this movie reminds me alot of the book "how to win friends and influence people" written around the 1930's. It was a great good and offers very solid advice.

Time to put these films back into schools.

LMAO @ "Who's the sucker?" 4:45

Forwarding this to my coworkers.....

this old video is much better than all those influencers who promotes products to improve your personality...

It's weird how a video of 80years old is giving me much usefull lessons than today's youtube and all

This isn't about personality, it's about teaching you how to control your reactions to others.

I actually really like this. Often we think of personalities as something you have and can't change, but this conveys a good personality as just being thoughtful of the other person. Pretty much, thinking of what another person can get from an interaction will both make them have a better time and will make you feel less uncomfortable in the situation.

It's not manipulation. It's helping another person is what improves your mood. Being able to bring joy, comfort, and comradery for the sake of it.

Having autism, I find these videos really helpful and informative, I only slightly adapt the information to my circumstances and use more "modern" language and phrases I've heard other individuals use frequently (ones that are generally well received) Being a teenager has been real tough on me, but, I will say that these old education videos are incredibly beneficial for someone like me. After adapting this stuff into my life I've made many friends and get along with them quite well. It is a hard facade to keep up though, It's knowing how well someone may react to starting to see other sides of me and why.

I think a lot of people could benefit from watching this video. You want to teach your kids to be kind to other people and not be selfish, right?

*Looks down at her butt* "Boy,has she got personality" Me:*dies of laughter* "suuuure 'personality' whatever you say buddy..."

It’s all about being selfless and kind while also have enough self love/kindness to yourself to carry you through these situations

People may make fun of these videos but these videos are really gems on life

Boy has she got personality!!!! 😂😂😂

What I like the most about this video is that it proposes ways of correcting your actions on the spot, after you've just made a mistake, instead of presenting an alternative scenario. In real life, there is no going back, no alternative scenarios, only mending what you have broken.

I thought I couldn't change my personality, but I was getting really sick of the way I interact with others and my self pity....I'm rude, obnoxious, plain arrogant, I don't talk well to my family .....gosh it's a wonder I don't have many friends 😂 I will change and this is very helpful 🙏

Okay KZfaq, now you're getting too personal recommending me this

Growing up in the 60s, the main effect these 'social studies' films had on me was to make me yearn for a frilly, pink dressing table. My parents were into modern decorating and would have retched if I'd even asked, no matter how much personality I put into the request.

I have autism and I LOVE these old videos. All the basics which nobody taught me while I was growing up. I'm in my 40s now, and I'm becoming a more effective human.

The fact that psychology is something so modern, that less than a 100 years ago, there were films like these to educate people, will never seize to amaze me.

You can learn from anyone and anything if you pay enough attention

all the parents in these videos look they like are 10 minutes from going into a retirement home.

I would feel uncomfortable at a 'summer formal' with four people at it.

My husband was going to divorce me, so I changed my personality. Now we AREN'T getting divorced. So, this video is correct.

"Gimme the keys mom if you'd prefer not to 'accidentally' slip down the stairs." - also a winning personality

The cool thing about this is that you can actually do what they are advising you without having to change your personality becaus, this is more about social interaction

It's interesting to see how words change from time to another. What was refered to as ''Personality'' back then, is now called ''Attitude''. Thank you for sharing this cool video.

You see very open and friendly people in this video. Things have changed. Now people distrusts each other, and first interaction by default is suspicion and heavy judging. Making real friends next to impossible even after months, years of knowing someone and it gets even more difficult as you get older, usa is known to look down on people when they're past their 40's. Unlike more civilized countries that increase respect and politeness to people with age.

I have severe depression, Borderlinepd, and anxiety due to abuse by my mother and because she never gave me attention I never learned how to act properly and often times act out because I didn't have a proper parental figure. These help me so much. especially with an emotional and personality disorder:>

I just learned a lot more from the video here than I did two three years of watching recent useless stuff from KZfaq

This is so needed in our society

This would have helped me have a good life. i wish I'd known this 50 years ago.

Idk why, but I'm obsessed with these old timey videos ❤😅

Two man see a women walking "Damm, she got that personality" My people will understand me.

Many read this as being nice to others. I think it’s about being more empathetic with others, understanding where they stand and adding value to every interaction. Not just being nice

This is brilliant. The message is so plain and simple but delivered perfectly.

I wouldn't call this improving your personality, moreso your charisma. Either way, the advice in this video is truly timeless and ideas of focusing on others have been explored in much depth by people such as Robert Green, who reaffirm the concepts in this video.

Forced to watch some of these old films in school back in the "olden days", I appreciate them more now that I'm retired. ;-)

say what you will, I sure do love the clothes the girls and women wore back then. I wore sweatpants and a T-shirt with a football team logo on it all day and looked like a hobo.

As a communication major, everything listed here was spot on. I’m impressed, I expected at least a few tips to be dated, but nope. So neat!

Wow this is what should be played in this generation's TVs... Great moral lessons...am impressed.

Love the 40’s and 50’s tutorial era cinema titles 😂, so many short gem’s too The mom’s acting was natural and pretty well done.

"Ha! The joke's on you. I don't have a personality."

Damn I am watching this after 13 yrs of its upload...glad this gem came across me

How to Win friends and Influence people ~ Dale Carnegie 📖 I read it in 1983 and it’s done me well throughout my life. 🙏🏼🇦🇺 Young and “entitled” people today could learn a lot from these videos.

Personality is truly the most important thing about a person...

Manipulative or considerate? I think it's about telling people to be more considerate and think before you lash out. Which is a good lesson that everyone should learn

fantastic advice. ‘personality is how you affect other people’. Whenever I help others and think of others, I have a much better day and outcome.

Reading some of the comments I see how screwed up people are today just by the way they think and what they say. The message is a biblical principle: think of others more than yourself. It’s very simple and makes life better for everyone.

The problem is that some people have deeper personal problems that they can't cope with. Young people need to know when to seek counseling if they have a really hard time.

These movies were created to help youth learn proper behavior and understand how life really works. I pray our nation will return to this wisdom.

Watching in 2023.. Excellent piece of advice 👌

I HAD IT YEARS AGO., school, HS, work, Army... . Since very young. 64 now, and lost it alot, due to ... life. I am closed up now, and can walk away. but... now realize as I am typing, still can totally engage with a stranger and open them up. Yep... I DO still have it!

This is fantastic... Why don't we teach kids these things anymore?!

Boy! What I would do to her enormous well-rounded personality! I'd sure wanna charm my swell charisma all over her positive character, I would!

This can cure my social anxiety fr going to a college is a real struggle after being homeschooled for years

I love this! We need more things like this today, like an owners manual for life and character building.

"Barney was no longer being a tool"

Great video; great message.... even today.

this is actually so helpful, sometimes you have to make it really obvious what the point is, especially for an awkward teenager like me to understand :)

just be careful everyone not to forget about your own needs when focusing on other people's needs so much... based on personal experience

If kids could get beyond the age of these Coronet films, they would certainly benefit from the information contained in them. Excellent advice!

I am becoming addict to this kind of videos

A lot of people will allow others to get them angry and then blame their anger on those people. No one can make you angry. It's something you choose to be. I liked the demonstration of that in the video with the sister and brother.

When I try to talk to strangers, I happened to choose the worst stranger possible. And that kicks me back, even further.

Reminds me of the book "how to win friends and influence people." It's only manipulative if you make it manipulative. Applying what you learn here in a genuine way is not evil or whatever!

I, unironically, needed to see this. This is such an incredible explanation of personality.

I just applied the same thing in the middle of the video and yeah, it's just work out... learned something😊

How I wish they would have shown me this video in middle school and high school . It would have saved me from so much drama .

Yeah, I’m totally watching this for fun hahaha. It’s not like I’m socially inept and I need to refer to 50’s era infotainment. Hahaha that would be silly.

Social interaction face to face.... something alot of us could do with a brush up after Covid shutdowns and social media sites. An instructive clip 👍

i don't know why on earth i'm getting these videos as sugested to watch, but damn am I glad!

It’s insane how good this is

All the advice given was pretty good. But especially the part of focusing on the other person. If you think about it, when you're nervous while talking to someone it's typically (99% of the time) because you're focusing too much on yourself. So it's better to think about how you can make the other person feel comfortable.

Wow. This is amazing advice and i enjoy old movies and ducumentries

The kid says "Who's the sucker"?! LMAO 🤣 🤣

These videos are a perfect example of how universal and unchanging ethics is