Hey Bump Lovers, We would love to hear back from you.... Are you an ardent believer in ubuntu? How far are you willing to go to help out your less privileged relatives? Help out a fellow Mama by letting us know below.

I love the way pumla articulates her opinions and I wish to meet her one day. She is so informed

For me giving is like a calling 🙏🏾I can’t stop from giving no matter what I get from the receivers🙏🏾but I thank God for Blessing me with so much🙏🏾,I saw this from my parents they never lack anything no matter how ✍🏽,I know my life is a result from giving .MAY GOD HELP US ALL.

One thing I learnt about givers is that it's always more natural than logical. Know this and know peace. Most givers have no limit.

Rachel Mwine!!!!!❣❣❣❣❣❣❣❣❣❣ I am always looking out for your opinion. You are always on point.

Pumla has cracked my ribs😂😂. I hear "if you give God 10%, who is that relative you are giving 30%?" 😂

I've loved this conversation, this content will never grow old. I cant believe I'm coming across it an year after it was uploaded.

Angie talks less but when she talks OMG. Blessings Angie en much ❤

We lived in a two bedroom house, raised by a single mother and over 20 at some point in the house. But to date, thirty years later, I was the only one who improved the house. I tried to solicit funds from all of them and none gave me a coin. Am the only one who looks after Mom. Even her DSTV, no one can even pay for it. This really hurts me. Manuella i do not agree with you on giving according to how you make because all my siblings and cousins claim the same..give back

I AM CRYING! I am an orphan brought up by my grandpa with all my cousins yet my uncles were alive but non of them is minding him at 96 on his death bed .As they are helping let them not be expectant. They can also get transport and send them to visit their parents during long holidays.Thanks

Funny I watched the video wearing exact same top as Rosette! I kept trying to see if it's the real one 🤣🤣 My take away is give not expecting to get back otherwise you will be sorely disappointed. Look at it as giving to God and he will be the one to reward you. Proverbs 19:17

I grew up in a large family and we harbored extended family from both sides and right now we are the enemies to them. It is good to help, help where you can and God rewards you either sooner or later.

Growing up I have been on the receiving side. My uncle took me to the best schools. I will forever be grateful.

Clearly am a late bump lover... but I enjoy how Angie always brings a different perspective that is her own plus her style is riveting!!!

Wow, this episode is just so powerful. Thank you ladies for addressing this issue. To be honest I am a beneficiary of Ubuntu but at some point in my teenage I got entitled because rather than treat me differently I was treated as a child in the homes I lived in and given privileges. When those privileges were taken away I would act like a spoilt child. Unfortunately for me being a total orphan I didn't have someone like Manuela's mum telling me the right way to behave when you're taken in. It is was only until 2021 when I turned 30 that I learnt this "NO ONE IS ENTITLED TO TAKE CARE OF YOU. NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING" so you ought to be grateful and not entitled. I have since repented and make an effort to support my maternal Aunties who have raised me. They could have thrown me in the village or orphanage after my mum's death but they didn't. Instead they raised me like a Princess (Sometimes even more favored than their own children). I am currently living in the USA thanks to one of those aunts who moved heaven and earth for me. I am still on a journey of financial stability but I thank God I am able to make some small contribution to my extended family atleast once every year. Many people become averse to Ubuntu because of the way the beneficiaries behave but I believe if we understand our callings as Rachel pointed out, God will give us the grace and the provision so no one goes without. If it's not your calling and you are practicing it out of love, duty or obligation make sure to discuss with your spouse so you're on the same page. Also, I really think families should do it together and not separately because you are one unit. Apply Pumla and Manuela's principles.

There is a clear difference between giving and being exploited. Be led by the Spirit of God to not be exploited, but to be a blessing. 🙏🏽

A very good topic. An upper hand (a giving hand) is better than a lower hand (a receiving one). An elder once advised me to help from a distance and if i am to help, i should never feel strained doing so. For instance, do not borrow to help someone, it is OK to say you do not have when you dont. Manuela's plan is the BEST option, set a percentage aside and when that "pool" of funds is dry, until next time.

Thank you so much Bumb love. This hit close to home, I believe in being selfless and Ubuntu all the way

I agree with pumula. Helping from distance better. Love you ladies.

Okay when it comes to helping, I think discernment is key. Just make sure you do not sow among thorns or on rocky grounds but rather on fertile soils. Some people want to take advantage of others and even have ill motives. Above all, give help with a mind that you are doing a service to God but not to people...in that way, yo reward shall be Devine. Obuntu for me👌

I love this...thanks ladies😍

Oprah Winfrey once said that her success has not been in the amount of trees or houses she has, but her success has been in the amount of people whose lives she has changed through giving them education.

This is real talk!! Love it..!

The reasoning of Pumla is for a real Economist. its a great show indeed.

Loved the whole talk around selfless giving and asking God to bless your seed 😊😊

This was a great topic loved all the insight from the ladies. It hit close to home

Thank you my gals for sharing 💕 have learnt a lot

Wow! Great topic, Understanding the times and season is so helpful👌👌❤

Thank you ladies. I really needed this. God bless you all.

Balance this topic. Me I can go on and on. But all I can say once I reviewed my black tax account. I was able to live my life. I do what I can now.

Amazing content!!!!

This topic has hit home for me. Coz in society right now, there are so many new sides to it. I always remember my Mum, and I like it that Manuela says this Mum shouldn't worry about the kids, they're probably having fun. As a child back then growing up in a full house, it was easy to see it from a child's perspective. But when we switch roles as adults, I get to see my Mum's perspective. She was open to helping and looking after many kids from relatives, but when I look at the home management skills she had to engage to manage the home I'm like Cheiii! It's no wonder that in those years I would only see her fun side when she was with her sisters, or her friends. That's when I would be like, wairraminit, you mean Mummy can laugh? You mean she can even tell jokes? So the emotional and physical demand is also something to consider. E.g having many kids plus other kids from relatives always called into question the aspect of attention, care and fairness when there were fights or misunderstandings? And like you've said, the feeling some of the the relatives' kids sometimes have of not fitting in or the like. I think this is the emotional burden some Mums end up with, of knowing that no matter how hard you try, there's always complaints and backbiting that will come back to you as a Mum who sacrificed to help. So I really do appreciate and admire my Mum for that sacrifice. I admire her for her courage to even go beyond and pay fees from her own pocket, even when it wasn't her own blood.

wow this has come in at the right time thank you ladies😍😍

Wow I needed this energy thanx ladies Angie and Rachel 🤝🙏🙏

Ooh God this was so helpful,thanks to bump love

The major problem is doing the helping and expecting something in return and I think if yr doing something with higher expectations u end up disappointed!! Angie really spoke out my heart!! ... thank you ladies

Hmmm! Ladies, thank you for sharing! The good news here is there are atleast mechanisms of helping and the most vivid or common but comfortable ones is helping from afar! I know many people will say ABC...but there are details that someone who has never gone through won't understand! Sibling rivalry may go along way,the host's discomfort may lead to funny behaviour that the beneficiaries may misunderstand! The desire or guilt feeling of having to pay back is so heavy to carry! Then ofcourse we have not touched the bit of those that will exploit you as the host because their own either sister, brother etc helped you! So help us God!

Thanx ladies. You represent many of us

This was a good discussion 👌. Young families need it.

Wow this is so amazing, I reasonate wth the discussion, thank you ladies

Well done ba Dia, I have learnt alot from you.

I agree with setting boundaries and checking your black Tax account and ascertaining that you will be compliant. I must say that I grew up in that extended family. I vividly remember when mum could not afford Immaculate Heart Girls Sch fees, my uncle (husband to my mom's sister) sat I and my sister and had a chat with us...the Late Didas Tibigambwa told us that he would do anything to ensure we got education even if it's not the best because that is what he can afford. And he told us how going to poor schools didn't stop him from excelling at national level. He called out his children and told them to understand when things change and it seems hard because we were also children that needed to be taken care of. We studied hard and Didas' generosity produced a lawyer and an accountant. We have grown up together, we look out for each other...we celebrating our successes and being there for each other in the difficult times. To the world, I am the last born but to me, I am the 2nd last born coz then Didas' last born comes after me😂😊 To whoever is in this situation; from Didas, I learnt that on earth we serve God through serving his people and this is sacrifice. You sacrifice your time, money, friends among others...it will get hard, you feel like giving up (coz mehn, I was a stubborn kid!) But "joy will come in the morning" those young ones will make you proud. And as you are in that breaking part, pray so much, for your family, and those children of God that He has placed in your life to give them life, to nurture them. I am sure if uncle Didas was here, he could be proud of never giving up. My aunt too, I call her super woman coz mehn she whopped my a** Last, you are a phenomenal woman, be strong and keep serving God through helping His children.

You are amazing ladies.

Thanks my dears, I have learnt a lot from this, you guys have inspired me

Am all ears my realers Bump love inspires me alot ts the best show av ever watched keep it up Ladies your big deals to some of us mwaah

I love you guys so much. Every topic discussed is an eye opener to me. i have leant a lot from all that is discussed. stay blessed guys

Hello Ladies. Thanks for this show. For where the blessing goes or comes from after you helping is really up to God. This reminds of what I told my mom when she was at that moment of Mukyala Mulondo's dad I told her the blessings are coming to us. And honestly I see some things that are happening to me and I just see the blessings if My mom's good heart

Great topic! It's better to help from a distance because the people you bring in will always look out for a problem. Love you all

Amazing, Powerful, Knowledgeable,Beautiful and Above all God fearing Women i just love ur show. Thank u for all the advises u share.

Thanks great and wise mothers this topic is really very good

Oh my God this episode was mine U have spoken deep to my soul.

"You reap WHAT you saw not WHERE you saw" woow. Thanks ladies for always coming up with great 👍 shows. Mwe abasinga

Wow this is amazing ladies thx n God bless u.For this in particular i have settled mi mind.i was buddened at a time coz of the same black tx "thing"

Great topic! I have learnt a lot from all of you amazing and beautiful women! ❤️ May God bless you abundantly in Jesus's Name. Amen

Thanks bump love. As for my husband an I we have support from distance and and within. Majorly we have ensured that the people we support make it and are not a burden to to us as adults. Helped so many get jobs. Small businesses. We can't ran away from obuntu. Nice time

Thanks ladies I have also grown up from an extended family..we never had our alone time as siblings cousins from all over would be at our home..even up to now Kudos to my parents 👏 bse its really not easy

Bambi ladies thanks for touching lives. I celebrate u

God Bless you ladies Thanks Pumla for the good introduction

Yes the intellectual ladies are here with so much wisdom. Kale mbagalanyo ba dear 🤝

You ladies are amazing. Pumla you are so realistic!

Interesting topic, close to home. Someone wrote a book about why we as Africans don't grow financially. We tend to harvest small mangoes which can't be eaten. It's always good to grow our finances and be a blessing without complaining because we are stable financially and able to help without allowing the people we are helping to be a burden. We can only give what we have. I may have the money to pay school fees but not able to raise the same children especially when they have parents.

This z nice I enjoyed it God bless you all

What a discusion!! loved it. i think these are issues of the heart riyalee. Helping God~s people!!! with the right intention is second to none. Gods people! Gods people! we are blessed to be a blessing

Learnt a lot from this.. thank you

Yesss it comes back 10000 fold!!

I loved this sooo much

Like Manuela i grew up in peoples homes and i believe i am where i am because someone somewhere sacrifised the little they had, so yeah, ubuntu 1000%. Thank you ladies.

Setting boundaries is vital!. Pumla made some great points. Most people who are wealthy and are able to pass generational wealth to their kids are grandkids are people who gave but gave wisely!. Yes, we have the Ubantu thing in Africa but we hardly generate generational wealth because everyone’s issue is our obligation. Some people, you help them and then come back and help their own own children.

Banange Angie you are a rare gene. I like your perspective always, it's an eye opener.

Thx for the show ladies much lv you u all

This was a great session.

I have learnt alot thanks ladies

As for reaping what you sow, I totally get it. Coz I've been in ministry for a while now, and I know that not all that you sacrifice for will appreciate or give back, but as sure as God's word is true, it always comes back to you, even if it has to be a stranger! But it always comes back!

The lady with the white braids is so lovely...motherly and all... Good conversation... Love from Italy

I might say ,I stayed at my maternal uncle place for more than 10 yrs . Life wasn't so soft but I tried to find my own life ,I never imagined am among his family member however much he was literally giving me everything, this is because I wanted them to be free at their own home ,not to feel like am a badden to them so most of my time was spent with nannies helping them here and there and most of the new nannies /maids couldn't think we are related until some good time . I really cherish and love them so much

I always watch you ladies.Everytime I get a break. ❤

Oh Manuela..you made me tear at Minute 39. God bless your mum..I need her to speak to mine who is also doing so much ubuntu but with zero boundaries.

Thank you very much @Bump Love. This was for me. Thank point of declaring and praying over the seed being sown in other people's lives is very important. This was the missing link in our giving otherwise we now help from a far. It's less stressful

Mrs Mulondo good points and great example from your mom. Yes give from the heart not because people will talk. I always pray for directions on who to give and how much. Do not break yourself.

😂😂tis Angies thank you for me when Rosette said the blessing line

A very helpful discussion.

Plus I think when you are a woman, relatives from your side, are not as hectic as relatives from your husband's side. Am glad you brought this topic, it has helped me in a way that I should wait on God cz pain will always be there at some point. God bless you

I love Angie's submissions.

Eeeiii Contribute. Hahha. I love it yesss ma'am.

Manuela....thank you for this insight

Hi Bump love🤗 I’m talking to anyone who thinking of helping others or already helping but still have responsibilities of their own! Now my own is, I’ll start with this so that no one judges me! helping as a really a good thing, in fact it is Godly and that’s how important it is! Now before starting to help, you have worked or you’re working intact working so hard to be able to provide for your family that is to school your children and the goal is to set a strong foundation for them! And btw let’s all remember that our goal as to why we’re working hard is for our children to have a good future and for us to develop further! And remember that “your Goal is NOT to help people who will help your family in future”! Because that fact is that getting repaid back just comes as an additional surprise! Not all people who have helped where repaid back speaking from experience🙄! So let’s dust continue with our goal and as Manuela said we help from the little we are remaining with and that will not affect our goal to progress! One more thing, if you’re helping others just because they might be of help in future to your children and in that process you are compromising your children’s education or whatever, by the time those people remember to help your children after satisfying all their need it will be to too late for your children because time would be a gone😐

thanks Bump Love, Nga being a first born is not easy. sometimes being selfish is the key so we able to help others using the airplane scenario

My parents raised their brothers and sisters in our house, we had no peace nor freedom. We grew up with no connection with our parents coz they didn’t have time for us. Today, those relatives still feel us the kids need to help them, they still feel entitled. And non of them helps us. For that reason, no relatives in my house. Period. I help from outside and strangers not relatives.

Ts Pumla's opinion for me...Thanks you Ladies..May the Lord Bless u Abundantly..

Wow what a topic. There’s always going to be disappointment when you practice Ubuntu. However, for the soul Ubuntu is healing and great for us as a human. Thank you for this conversation

I see this in my aunt's home she provides for whoever in her home without segregation , thanks Aunty flo

Thank you ladies ❤

You ladies are a gem. I love the fact yr discussion r not censored, everyone gives their honest opinions.. Now on giving - the Bible says “love your Neighbor AS YOURSELEFU”. So 1- First love yrself then u will know how to love someone else. Best question to ask is if the places were switched wht would I wish *FAIRLY* wish the other person to do for me - or WWJD - Wht would Jesus do.. 2- But also God can ask you to give your all in specific situations. And you will know & you will not b able to shake off tht “calling” away & if u obey there will be a big breakthrough FOR YOU…more than the person your helping…tht will blow your mind away.. Soon or later. But Pliiz it’s a calling & if ur communication with God is solid u will know. I emphasize be sure it’s a God calling Not other manipulations.

I am pumla. Thanks for sharing

Very Very Powerful Manuela, Reaping What You sow not where You Sow.

A special thank u to u all ❤️ ...u have all touched my heart in a special way...love 💕 u all

Thank you for a good topics, helping families from a far or at home I think We should try our best to do it from a far at home if is necessary because because knowdays things things are very bad bad behavior are introduced to our children by relatives who come to leave with us like drug use,gaysim and bad behaviors due to the use of social media.but obuntu is so good.Veneranda from Tanzania

Soooooooo goooooood a topic. Am for helping outside the home,lately people ain't so very grateful,so it's best to cater from there with what I can afford to live without. We grew up with a mum that opened doors for everyone and gave of herself to the point of getting loans to pay fees only for these guys to return negativity so it's from a far.

I wish someone else could tell my mom to take care of herself before giving to her relatives. My is sick but would send money to brother to pay rent arrears. I prefer you send him fare to come back to the village and use the rest for treatment

i am a different kind of African, i do not want to help people from my house, i will help them from their own houses, under my roof, i will choose a struggle i can manage. because bringing in relatives into our homes ones we cant chase...nedda..