INFJ Perfectionism is NOT Perfect - How it causes Burnout and Self Doubt

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Ever felt like you're in a maze of overthinking, constantly chasing perfection's elusive tail? Today, let's unravel the intricate INFJ perfectionism puzzle together.
Hello, seekers of wisdom! Ever been caught in the loop of overthinking, self-doubt, and the pursuit of perfection? Join me as we unravel the mysteries of INFJ perfectionism, exploring its impact on our well-being.
00:00 Intro
01:12 Unrealistic Standards
03:21 Over Analyzing Decisions
05:43 Comparing
08:00 Procrastination
10:27 Rumination on Mistakes
12:24 Difficulty Delegating
14:35 Conditional Self Worth
1. Unrealistic Standards
Dive into the INFJ penchant for setting standards as high as the stars. While ambition is admirable, we'll explore the thin line between motivation and the potential toll of unrealistic goals on self-worth and accomplishment.
2. Overanalyzing Decisions
INFJs are known for deep introspection, but perfectionism turns decision-making into a complex chess game. Let's dissect how the fear of mistakes and the 'what if' mentality can lead to doubt, hindering our ability to make choices with confidence.
3. Comparison in the Age of Highlight Reels
Explore the relentless game of comparison in the age of curated online lives. Perfectionism turns innocent observations into a perilous journey, fostering feelings of inadequacy. Discover how to redefine personal success and turn comparison into a source of inspiration.
4. Procrastination
Delve into the paradox of procrastination, a strategic move fueled by the fear of imperfection. We'll uncover how this delay not only affects tasks but also stunts personal growth. It's time to break free from the pursuit of perfection and embrace progress.
5. Ruminating on Mistakes
Explore the INFJ gift of hindsight and how perfectionism turns it into a battleground of self-criticism. Discover the transformative power of shifting our perspective on mistakes from personal shortcomings to opportunities for growth.
6. The Delegation Dilemma
Understand the challenge of delegation for INFJs driven by high standards. Perfectionism's reluctance to share the load can lead to burnout. Learn why embracing delegation is a strategic move in the sea of collaboration."
7. Conditional Self-Worth
Unpack the trap of linking self-worth to external achievements. Understand how setbacks can challenge conditional self-worth and discover the importance of cultivating self-acceptance beyond the fluctuating winds of success.
Together, let's navigate the intricate journey of personal growth and well-being. Stay curious, stay inspired!"

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@kelseymartens5417 6 ай бұрын

I find your videos so helpful and insightful. Most everything in this video seems to hit home. I've made great progress over the last couple years, but much more growth is still required lol. I think for myself I've experienced the most growth opportunities in "burn outs". Even tho they are so very painful, I'm too stubborn to make changes before it happens. Then it seems easier to just do the things cause I have no strength left and I can either hold it forever or just do it finally lol. Not much advice I could give other than just do what feels right. Keep going and eventually you will look back and see clearer. For now, just take a step, and another one, keep going!

@kalisarah9581 7 ай бұрын

Having a small child was helpful to a point as they just throw themselves at things and life is fast so you do have to be less perfectionist sometimes....but still did all nighters to do birthday cakes to the standard I set (and she came to expect!) 😆. It's so inherent it is a real battle to let go or to accept you might not that day do the best you could. I wanted her not to be similarly tortured but I don't think she's an infj although we are similar in some ways. Having a more spiritual understanding of life is helpful but there's always the critical voice. I do envy those quite content with slapdash or not having expectations of themselves as it did I'm sure contribute to my getting an unusual pain condition but it has allowed me to achieve certain things. A real sharp and double edged sword!

@MBTIMinds 7 ай бұрын

Hey INFJs, how do you deal with the Perfectionism Monster?