INFJs and Money Problems

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6 ай бұрын

Money can be a challenging topic for INFJ and INFP personality types. Many introverted intuitive personality types suffer from money ambivalence, which means they experience conflicting thoughts about money. INFJs and INFPs do need and want money, just like anyone else, but we don’t usually want money in order to acquire more material things. Instead, we want money because we want increased freedom. We want the resources to pursue the rich experiences that help us thrive in life.
For INFJs and INFPs, the ambivalence we feel around money comes from the fact that so many of us have money shame. Managing money is often not a skill that comes to us naturally. On top of this, we also are drawn to many activities in life that we’ve been told will not make money, or are not practical enough to give us income on which we can support ourselves. So, even though we want money because we want increased freedom in life, we also avoid the topic of money, because it makes us feel badly about ourselves and it brings up old memories from the past when we were told that whatever it was we wanted to do in life wasn’t going to make money.
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@LaurenSapalaINFJ 6 ай бұрын

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@colonelgraff9198 6 ай бұрын

We don’t feel worthy of our abundance, and when we get it we see our abundance as something that should be given to the rest of our tribe. Then have nothing left for us.

@OlgaJonas 4 ай бұрын

Nailed it

@aaronpicking4935 4 ай бұрын

couldn’t have said it better 😊

@cynthiajohnson9412 6 ай бұрын

I think INFJs also consider more money to be equated with more external stuff that needs managing i.e. bills, rental property, taxes, banking, accountants, lawyers, and investments, etc. We aren't externally focused and those extra tasks and concerns of managing money really daunt and overwhelm us. Not saying we can't do them, we'd just rather not. And we certainly don't like having to shift back and forth between internal focus and external focus based on a schedule attached to money management.

@YAMISOOLD2009 6 ай бұрын

Well said! I have never been very happy that pensions mostly disappeared and were replaced by 401Ks but the good thing that happened was the promotion of mutual funds and especially those that are set up to basically "set it and forget it". If I had to sit down daily and figure out what stocks to buy and sell and a given day I would go bonkers!! Some other types just love that sort of thing!

@MaxMonsterGaming 6 ай бұрын

I am fine with managing money, but I am terrible at asking for more of it.

@earlspencerulunzi5722 3 ай бұрын

As an INFJ, today, I will register my presence with this comment. Cheers to those who support in quiet presence.

@Queen_Sylvia 6 ай бұрын

Let’s talk about that amazing sweater! 😍

@fredv3043 Ай бұрын

It's amazing. Discussion over lol

@ASMRPlaylistQueen 4 ай бұрын

What my spiritual teacher has said is that wealth doesn’t change people, it just brings out more of who they already are. Because it allows them to express themselves in a larger way. Hence, it is a superb test for our soul that we will fail in many lifetimes before we finally learn to put money in the right spiritual perspective.❤

@MiroirSauvageon 6 ай бұрын

Keeping a low bar in terms of money is a coping mechanism I think. I think asking for a fair share of the pie means first putting into light all the times in the past when we were only given breadcrumbs. And that hurts... Lots of resentment, and disgust come up when you finally raise the bar and start asking for what’s due. They aren’t very pleasant emotions to feel. It’s painful. And also, it looks bad (to the unexperienced eye..). Being angry is still too often equated with being mean. And we don’t wanna pass as the mean one. Hence... tucking the ´ugly’ feelings away and accepting breadcrumbs. Also, personally, I find it very rewarding to share my talents, help in any way, and just practice my passions. It’s so rewarding in and of itself that I usually don’t think about monetizing it. I’m just in the moment. Not anticipating how I’m going to support my future needs... I’ve recently found though, that giving stuff away for free or at a very low cost opens the door to one-sided relationships, where actual respect/love are lacking, cuz you’re taken for granted. Be it in business or personal life. And damn... do I want actually healthy connections and consideration... So, if putting price tags on things instead of being an open bar is what it takes... That’s a real motivator

@samuelj.rivard 3 ай бұрын

Omg yes!!!

@howaboutno2023 6 ай бұрын

You are telling the story of my life😶

@brocklytodd5317 6 ай бұрын

You know what they say.. Mo Money Mo Problems.

@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142 6 ай бұрын

THÉ LESS YOU CARE ABOUTH MONEY , The more you need it ‼️⭐️ 8:10

@ricardowilkins 6 ай бұрын

Travel is my inspiration.

@Wavlance 6 ай бұрын

That sweater is adorable

@randomoldcrone 6 ай бұрын

I love myself more having had your clarification, after watching only 2 of your vids this morning. 🙏🏼❣️🌟🤗

@MiroirSauvageon 6 ай бұрын

That is such a beautiful comment 🥺

@SD-rm5ty 6 ай бұрын

In my past I always was on top of my finances but this past year idk what happened. Lol 😭😭

@hugmc 6 ай бұрын

I didn’t like it so when i had it I used too give it away. Now I have learned too be careful with it

@chrissyuy 3 ай бұрын

I think some INFJs would spend money on a house if they had it, as we also really care about controlling/making plans for a secure future. But not anything extravagant or for a status symbol. More probable, a tiny home of sorts (possibly even something portable for taking along in travel adventures, ie, an RV, boat, or conversion van.

@YAMISOOLD2009 6 ай бұрын

I enjoyed this Lauren though it made me cringe since its one of my soft spots! Probably best not to partner up with another INFJ or P if you want to have lots of money laying around! 😋But to be fair I actually did make a good salary for many years but the corporate life did a number on me and I got extremely burned out and physically ill. But my ISFJ partner is now shouldering the lion's share of income making as I transition into whatever comes next for me. I try to support her in other ways and try to think of ways to save and invest. But like you mentioned in another video, we work in seasons and cycles and like you mentioned here, we don't like to focus on money matters too much because they are so grounded in the real world and it is draining to us rather than energizing! For example tax time is almost upon us again and I dread doing taxes!!!

@Seducers 2 ай бұрын

I love travel! Especially by plane The idea of being in a new state far away from people I know is so refreshing & relaxing to me, I literally work for food water shelter & future travel lol. Big homebody also though!

@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142 6 ай бұрын

IN MY MODEST OPINION MONEY IS THE MOST BORING THING INVENTION EVER INVENTED, ‼️ 12:32

@TheWisdomOfTheAges_PsyM_Revd 6 ай бұрын

Our life spans as humans is kinda short so we can not excel in everything in this short period of time. Our deepest desires is certainly not money and material. True that the 3D is kind of boring for us. I know we know we're on earth and that's the exchange that was chosen, that's why we have difficulties. True that I had money shame for most of my life but I finally got over it.

@debjitbera 3 ай бұрын

Lauren , Thank you for hitting the bull's eye.

@ievamartagraudina3639 6 ай бұрын

Thank you 🌱

@carolinebrown8965 6 ай бұрын

I hate having to deal with people. I also can't stand working with tech. My options are limited with jobs. Have had really awful experiences with work which equals money problems.

@restistance4387 6 ай бұрын

Power tends to corrupt and absolutely power corrupts absolutely.

@anneheerdt8701 6 ай бұрын

Oh my, bumping into things is my life. And how I broke my leg in May, sigh

@saucykitty 9 күн бұрын

this has really helped me understand myself. I appreciate your content and efforts

@Pauladwyer9 3 ай бұрын

This is so true! I am an INFJ married to an INFP 😢

@WhammyBamber-wn2jv 6 ай бұрын

Agreed i have never bought into the money system .. to observe what some people will do to acquire money is heartbreaking.....money is only of use to make our experience more rewarding for travelling... meeting new people etc ..

@wittymystic7361 4 ай бұрын

Not buying into the system is largely because the current system doesn't fit with INFJ or INFP values. Check out Sacred Economics by Charles Eisenstein. It lays out a system that is totally in sync with our values.

@missredumbrella 4 ай бұрын

My ambition is to live happily without money

@shallowwatersoriginal 6 ай бұрын

I think the only way is to get famous...but just very famous

@FodorPupil 3 ай бұрын

yep!

@jenwipf729 3 ай бұрын

Money just flows to me...but I have the habit of send it right back out into the world. I feel very uncomfortable saving money because it feels very selfish to me (I know logically that isn't true). I'm a business owner and I feel incredibly guilty charging full price...unless I have a customer who I feel is trying to take advantage of me...they get charged full price!

@craigbarrett2278 4 ай бұрын

It's a hard line. I've told my old boss 'i don't care about money'.....yes we need it. But I've learnt to just cope. Only drawback......no money, no honey. Oh well!