Influence Techniques: How To Influence People In Five Simple Steps

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11 жыл бұрын

Influence Tips: In this video Paul Mascetta breaks down his patented GRIPS method for influence.

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@YD8189 8 жыл бұрын

Evolutionary psychologists would suggest that we are hardwired to immediately respond to someone we see for the first time in one of four possible ways: 1) as an ally; 2) as an enemy; 3) as a potential mate; or 4) with indifference. The default response is indifference. (It can very quickly become any one of the other three). One can see this simply walking down the street. The vast majority of people pay no attention to you. The challenge becomes converting indifference to alliance or intimacy. Clearly, it's much easier to execute the former. Jecker and Landy researched something that is now known as the "Ben Franklin Effect": Get someone to do a smal favor for you. ("Would you watch my place in line?") Research shows that we like people for whom we’ve done favors. As Benjamin Franklin had once noted, “He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another, than he whom you yourself have obliged." So, while another person may be initially resistant to you (I believe it's merely indifference) the easiest, least painful---and counterintuitive--way to begin influencing someone is by not doing them a kindness but asking them to perform one for you.

@RobertAtkinson 8 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the info. Had not heard of it before, very helpful! Thanks

@protogenoi1 6 жыл бұрын

That is great, so scenario. Three girls at the bar, you want to be involved intimately with one. GO. You approach hey ladies "lets do a game, you are having a good time, lets make it all better and a night we will end up talking for some weeks plus you are cool girls right?, so we start the truth or shoot game." Lets do a game you are wearing the clothes, no permission just say it because there is no option you are having a good time, lets make it all better and a night we will end up talking for some weeks plus you are cool girls right? This is borderline hypnosis / persuasion / yes yes thing with "reinforcer" built in so we start the truth or shoot game the "comand" / plan to have all of the above / to be cool etc.. Robert, that is what there is to it buddy. Than be yourself, you do not want to be the one that after a week with a girl you end up caught beign fake during the discussion rememebr rolle with the yesses, combine techniques such ass yesses and the foot in the door with sulivance nood as your last question, buddy you will have them on a silver plate with whipped cream and cherries Anyway private message me if you feel that I miss read the situation and you are not in the situation I placed you in no way or form. 5I know I watched your videos and heard all you said and feel about family) Last thing, you want her number? Simple after the above there is a kind of ball rolling, so add her name and give her your phone and just before she touches it (not before NOR after) say "write your number, we will get coffe time and date " Good luck bud

@ciaranlittle38 5 жыл бұрын

John, I must commend you on your correct use of 'whom', not a lot of people seem to know when to use it, and contrary to popular belief, it's not as difficult as one may think. (I wonder why that is?) I'm not sure about you, but I thought that 'that' when used as a pronoun corresponds with neuter pronouns opposed to feminine and masculine ones such as 'he' or 'she'. Perhaps I'm forgetting something when I say that using 'he that has' might be wrong, and still, I ask the question: "Doesn't 'He who has once done a kindness...' seem more correct?". You certainly mentioned some great points in your comment, sir.

@nelsonmileswilson 9 жыл бұрын

I like this,,,,Because this shows a different level of high intelligents,,Well done young man.

@josiahklein70 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this! I am a scientist, academic, rationalist, utilitarian; I strive to see things clearly as they are because it is best to do so. The only problem is that the majority of people are unwilling to accept ideas outside their comfort zone. I either make them feel stupid or just plain indignant. These videos should help in convincing people to take a step or two outside and into the truths of reality to which I am accustomed.

@jjk2one 5 жыл бұрын

This "grips" technique" is what we learned back in the 80's for being a successful real-estate agent. Keeping contact with past clients is invaluable.

@sabaspamungkas4569 7 жыл бұрын

Thanks for it. Realy helpful for me.Thanks!

@golsam4592 6 жыл бұрын

Wow!!!beautiful presentation

@paulv7744 5 жыл бұрын

Got what I was looking for. Thanks man.

@JamesJames-pj8fl 8 жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed this video Paul. Keep it up!

@pastintel 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Very well put together, and to the point. Love videos like this... xoxoxoxoxo

@oc5000able 9 жыл бұрын

YOU ROCK ... GREAT presentation

@RonKINGnyc 8 жыл бұрын

Very helpful brother!

@derekchan6935 9 жыл бұрын

you are a legend my friend

@BellaRose_Music 6 жыл бұрын

I learned alot by watching your video !!! 🤠 this was worth my time

@ajit31ytut 3 жыл бұрын

Brilliantly put.. Great stuff 👍

@derek3778 4 жыл бұрын

Brilliant! You deserve more subs.

@ZE-TH 6 жыл бұрын

Good information. Thanks

@antwan1357 9 жыл бұрын

When I see the point about gather Intel I know this is good

@LXADDO 6 жыл бұрын

Late seeing this, but brilliant video and well explained 👍🏿 Much success, Lennox Addo

@ZachSmith94 8 жыл бұрын

Very unique perspective on the topic of persuasion - seems like common sense, but like you said, it's not so common.

@leonvivian1 8 жыл бұрын

the more I know..the more I want to be alone. God Bless.

@Beyond_Belief534 5 жыл бұрын

What do you know? Where are you? Are you on top of a nature defying sphere with water declining away from you in all directions without flowing?

@shenadonnagalvez4973 3 жыл бұрын

you are the best

@Atom-Mercury 9 жыл бұрын

I wanna know if you have a book, in which I can learn all those tricks. (I'm more a reading person). Thanks a lot.

@Vandan9166 6 жыл бұрын

Thankyou!

@sharad9822 9 жыл бұрын

Nice!

@BellaRose_Music 6 жыл бұрын

Nice video

@Josef87J 10 жыл бұрын

Do I need to keep on talking or talk ast, or is it ok if I just use normal flow with long pauses?

@Akirama1 9 жыл бұрын

good charisma

@n.jurenic 8 жыл бұрын

Life is a dream for the wise, a game for the fool, a comedy for the rich, a tragedy for the poor.

@bruthascrypt7848 8 жыл бұрын

the game i play is the strategy to win but i stay wise at ALL times,

@josiahklein70 7 жыл бұрын

PriestJesus What if it is somewhere in between for me? What would that make me?

@jjk2one 5 жыл бұрын

The rich think we are their slaves, while they are wrapped in golden chains.

@olayinkasodipo2356 5 жыл бұрын

Nag 7 loop 0

@justlikeyouiamsad6246 6 жыл бұрын

Can this be use in Magic?

@ajmchie 8 жыл бұрын

I would love to see this technique in motion to be able to understand its application.

@savagebeast7830 9 жыл бұрын

Nice

@Guy_007 9 жыл бұрын

wow this diserves a mill views no joke ...

@Beyond_Belief534 5 жыл бұрын

It needs to be a video about shaven Vs hairy balls or something if you want to hit those numbers 🤣

@ufopilotFPV 6 жыл бұрын

I cant get through the first two G and R .. its like i go into daydream and the next thing i know hes talking about highlighting similarities.. clearly something is working here but im gonna move on before he gets my money lol

@esaugamez8885 5 жыл бұрын

What do you mean exactly by analyzing? Obersvation and deduction or logic based off facts? ...

@onisimionut9220 2 жыл бұрын

I believe this strategy is a double edge-sword. It might be useful to know your *target* ( be it interviewer , colleagues...) as it might enhance bonds; however if the gathered intelligence is only used as a means of flattering one to get under their skin , then it is a waste. At timea, differences may come more handy to an employer than similarities. Overall , good strategy just that it depends on someone's purposes while using it.

@notoriousb.i.z.5342 8 жыл бұрын

Very Gangsta

@muaythairaja 7 жыл бұрын

"avoid differences/highlight similarities" sounds like suc king up

@viciovine 5 жыл бұрын

I think sucking up would be more about agreeing on everything the other person says, even he you don't. In this case he is suggesting avoiding those topics of confrontation, which is different.

@PeopleHealthTec 6 жыл бұрын

watch Science Of Persuasion

@catspajamas2961 6 жыл бұрын

precisely the warning signs of a psychopath. Be wary of someone who tries to gather information about you. Be wary of someone who tries to show you how similar you are to each other. Of course someone trying to control you is a huge red flag. Then the last two reference someone using you as a tool for their benefit. Possibly a non-predatory person might do all these things, but you shouldn't stick around to find out.

@wmlam1301 8 жыл бұрын

But, I think meeting people with differences is more interesting

@viciovine 5 жыл бұрын

I agree it is interesting to meet people with differences. But the context is different. Here he is suggesting using similarities and avoiding differences to create rapport in order to be able to influence others. He doesn't suggest avoiding people with differences but avoiding trying to influence them using your arguments on these differences.

@ljyay1793 5 жыл бұрын

63 people were not influenced in liking this video

@babahaftebabamentalitat769 7 жыл бұрын

I want to brainwash sony to give me my playstation account back!

@avico5973 6 жыл бұрын

HahaBABAHAFTE BABAMENTALITÄT

@jordansebert11 4 жыл бұрын

You probably dont need it back... sounds like you're insane.

@Sam-gn6og 5 жыл бұрын

what if you don't give a shit

@thomashunter5232 5 жыл бұрын

there is 95% of ballast and 5% of substance, even worse is that you can't just skip first 3 minutes because the hollow not saying anything talk is spread thru the whole video. peace :)