1.Look them in the eyes +Embrace 2. Disconnect from cell phone (go on walks). *Call them out when they are distracted by technology/screens 3. ASK what you can do to help (during stressful situations). Putting the needs of your spouse ahead of your own. SERVE 4. Be patience with each other. Be persistent and consistent when implementing change. *wait in Gods timing. *Give them the best part of your day not your leftover time.

16 years ago before I confessed to my wife. I took her for a stroll in the park and asked her many questions and shared my past honestly... because I believe that a marriage should be pure and all that can harm it should be removed and brought to light. And if the person truly loves you... they will not reject you and help you and pray with you and help you heal. Then you do the same for her. Bo open and honest...

I found this podcast by chance, and I love what you two have built together. I pray this podcast open doors for you both.

Thank you so much for your show, my husband & I have a 30 yr ever growing, loving marriage. I’m excited to learn how to love my wonderful husband even more!!

Thank you so much for this teaching 🌹❤

Wow, thank you for this today! I am commuting to put my phone down before my husband gets home to reengage with reality and really be there to spend time with him not in a virtual reality

Excellent job, you guys. Well done!

Where is the place for people to leave a REVIEW? This was done 4 years ago, so I don't know if you read the comments.

Great stuff! Thank you so much

Wow... yes guys: what is your gut reaction as uou interact each day... so true.

I am 64 and my husbandd is 66. We have been married for 47 years and we are on empty. I have been slowly losing my eyesight since I was 38 and now am very near total blindness. My husband is so unhappy that his retirement won't be what he thought. He worked hard all of his life. I would like a recommendation as far as reigniting our marriage. We are uncomfortable with real intimacy at this point, but we would like to have a better marriage.

what can I please do? thanks again!!

I think video screens in restaurants should be banned.

private please thanks again!!Douglas Stearns

I am problems with my wife we're having a serious sexless marriage 💑 🤵‍♂️ 👰‍♀ 💒!!

I would say, the young 21 year old girl should not ask if her fiancé has looked at porn (obviously, he has at some point otherwise I would question whether he has the gift of celibacy). What she should request of him is, "when we are married I would like for you to channel all your sexual energy into me and I into you." That would be exciting rather than accusatory. Is a commitment to remove desire (as if a man possibly could) an important part of the marriage vows? Open communication (the first part of this podcast) is more important than an attempt at dampening natural human desire and attraction. Desire obviously has its place in Creation by design. Let's be real, sexual immorality has been occurring since Noah's day, but that isn't what corrupted the human race before the deluge --it was the mixing of fallen angels with humans. Those angels were incarcerated and the Davidic line continued unbroken until Jesus. I would take the advice from an Apostle and instruction from the Lord over anyone else's advice: 1 Corinthians 7 7 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. 8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. 12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

What if you honestly and truly wrestled with God, you prayed for your spouse and your marriage, you served for a decade or more, depite emotional abuse from your spouse you tried to be humble and work on it, and now after all that you are worn out, your body is getting old and not working right for sex anymore because of low T and ED, yet you have the libido of a 20 year old but can't cash those checks because your body just doesn't work that way anymore, and finally she starts to get it, and she honestly does, but you are just done and can't feel that love anymore! What do you do?

In my case, intimacy outside the bedroom is plentiful but there is none in the bedroom.

What of your spouse had narcessistic treats...