The blond girl is so deep in denial.

I used to think it was ridiculous how people could care so much about neglect or cruelty towards animals, when there are so many people suffering. But it really hit me one day that animals are vulnerable, just as vulnerable as children and completely defenseless. So it does take a special kind of sick person to harm the defenseless.

THANK YOU GAVIN DE BECKER AND ALL WHO SHARED THEIR VERY IMPORTANT STORIES~

24 minutes in-Look at Gavin's compassion and warmness towards the young woman who is convinced her husband will not assault her again...saying repeatedly 'if you were my daughter'. His wisdom is so obvious. I do believe and hope this woman ended the relationship.

Not being believed is the hardest part.

I had an 'aha' moment around the 5:31 mark, after Menelika's story. Gavin comments: "Basically, interacting with women in a way that would predictably make them uncomfortable.” At a previous job, they hired a young man who had attended our corporate events. He had once made me feel uncomfortable by trying to join a conversation I was in at a hotel table, and getting so close to me that I felt his hair on my neck! (I brushed at the sensation and turned around to find he had pulled up a chair next to me and was leaning in super close.) After he was hired he aggressively threatened me in the office and was labeled as "very dangerous" by someone who would know (I'm witholding the specifics to keep the story generic.) It wasn't until I saw this video, that I realized the individual's early behavior at the hotel table was purposeful and a signal. Wow.

Wonderful info female teens need to see this

This was me not once but twice so happy I finally left and never looked back

Young blond woman is still in denial.

21:19 I’m picking up a few *RED FLAGS* 🚩 I wish her the best, but I’m not optimistic!

Gavin de Becker tries confrontation but he is faced with more and more resistance. 32:58 (hope she saved herself)

I really hope that woman leaves her husband. She's being abused and is in a violent relationship. She seems to be in denial even though she's clearly discussing several pre incident indicators. He's already hit her, she's scared when he drinks and she admitted to avoiding him when he has a beer.

Thank you, thank you. I'm so grateful, I knew I was right.

GOF is an incredible book. I was beyond thrilled to find this master class. The MeToo movement for domestic violence has yet to come but we will get there. Oprah said it best, 'Every women in America needs to read this book.' I recommend it to my friends.

I remember her story and it was absolutely horrifying what she went through.

Hollywood and television have a lot to answer for. When I was a little girl growing up in the 1960s we watched shows like Bewitched Samantha Stevens had the perfect home the perfect marriage the home was spotless everything looked like a perfect Utopia. The Brady Bunch, Leave it to Beaver, The Donna Reed show her home was beautiful her husband was a dream husband she always looked gorgeous not a hair out of place. This is not realistic, this is a fantasy. Yet as a little girl I grew up with this implanted in my subconscious. I would love to see as standard subjects taught in high schools for students profiling and phycology so that when young women graduate from high school they will be better equipped to read the signs in people. A lot of Christians or religious people get themselves into trouble a lot because they have silly belief systems that teach that you have to be nice to everyone and Oblige to their needs. I was a Catholic for a long time and can tell you that there are predator men who go to church just to suss out Christian ladies. There use to be an old adage with some men they use to say I want to meet or settle down with a nice Christian lady. Many religious women are too kind in this area and too trusting because they think they have to be Submissive to all men especially their husbands. What women , teenagers male or female teenagers and children need to be taught is that life is not like it is in romantic movies or movies like the Truman Show, it’s no utopia.It’s all film and fantasy there is no Prince Charming or knight in Shining armour coming to whisk you away to his majestic Castle. I am wondering now whether we should be getting more wise and start realising that men may be defective in some way and are geared to be aggressive.

THIS IS WHEN SILENCE IS GOLDEN FOR THE MAN

I live above a woman who is regularly in domestic violence incidents with a man. I hear screaming and yelling and things being thrown around and what sounds like punches being thrown. I have called the police twice. I have no idea what their story or situation is, but management says she is the only person on the lease. I have heard her scream "Get out, get out!" so that tells that he isn't living with her downstairs, but his continuing to be here means she has either given him a key to get into our building or she's letting him in voluntarily. Either way, it seems like she is allowing her abuse to continue. It's also not fair to the rest of us in this building to have to deal with the havoc these two are wreaking on us, because if this man is dangerous - and he sure sounds like it - and has weapons, then she's exposed the rest of us in the building to danger as well. I am happy I grew up in the 90's with the X-Files. "Trust No One". A motto I have always lived by and one reason I have never been in a domestic violence situation. I would never put myself in one. I read TGOF in 1997 and learned from it. I wish all women knew about this book, including the woman downstairs. I'm so tempted to prop up a copy in front of her door.

Excellent book

Of course men don't feel afraid. Why should a predator feel threatened?????

Wow this poor woman goes to her pastor and gets absolutely no support I wonder what her view point is on God now. I hope she can see past the ignorance of that pastor and not blame this on God because imperfect pastors they're men. they have no idea how to help people in abusive situations.

What about Chis Watts? He was a very strange case.

You know these women reached out to the young blonde woman after this session...here's my advice, my phone number. I think the best way to hold up a mirror so someone sees the reality of their life is to just share your similar experiences. Makes me want to watch the famous 'There's a guy in a hole' speech from West Wing (Leo, recovering alcohol, talks to Josh about his PTSD).

Gavin said he never heard of a case where there wasn’t a warning before marrying- something like that. My X beat the crap out of me after we came home from our honeymoon, as soon as we walked in the door. It escalated-

I feel that Gavin is very sympathetic to abusers in this video. He needs to talk to Lundy Bancroft who studies abusive men. An abusive man is not a good match for ANYONE

I love how he desperately tries to force the girl in blue to being a victim despite her saying she instigated the fight. The gaslighting is real and it’s ironic actually 😂

23:33 [29:52] The longest childhood

The second time you are a volunteer is insane. Some women just cannot leave. It’s arrogant and misogynistic to have such black and white thinking about abuse. Most of what he says in this episode flies in the face of new research about abuse. Research Lundy Bancroft’s books.

Thank you Mr Debecker.Please do this again without women who waste your time venting their stories. They're too similar to what we hear even from our neighbors, coworkers,etc.Speak more about recognizing the risks,the reality of cognitive dissonance, etc.Your book saved my son from getting kidnapped and me from murder.God bless you 😊

These women are so brave and strong for speaking about their experiences 🫶💗