This is the first part of Jeff Durbin's series on the Kingdom of God relating to Divorce. apologiachurch.com apologiaradio.com
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@chalinechurch98084 жыл бұрын
The clearest teaching I have ever heard on this subject. Men love and respect your wives with actions! Women do the same, God bless you all in your love for Him and your obedience to love not just with words but also with deeds!
@philipbuckley7592 жыл бұрын
it is totally confusing, to me, this speaker is all over the place...
@ThePowerOfFaithNetwork5 жыл бұрын
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord - 1 Corinthians 7:39
@WoodchuckNorris.8o5 жыл бұрын
13:00 He did not RELAX the Mosaic code. He said that it was given for hardness of heart, and that the right thing to do is not NOT divorce in the first place.
@zirkattwell39925 жыл бұрын
In just the first few minutes he got my attention...the way he unpacks the Word....I'm impressed! If only this is how every Pastor could teach the Word, there'd be less troubled Christians
@DAhonda2473 жыл бұрын
Dan G I’m pretty sure you’re a lonely person to the core with no real true friends. Maybe you’re mommy but I’m sure she probably doesn’t care for you much either, kinda like the rest of the general population.
@alaskayoung34132 жыл бұрын
@@DAhonda247 funny that you seem to be doing very thing you’re calling this op. Takes a special kind of lonely ignorant imbecile to just make negative comments to a stranger for no reason.
@philipbuckley7592 жыл бұрын
he goes off the deep end, from the start....
@valeriemegan038 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this i needed to learn so much more about this topic cause i struggle with fear in my own marriage i do love my husband i respect him and adore him very much we both love God very much he left and said it was Gods will over his life to not be my husband anymore and i had a hard time understanding how GOD would say that it is for his will to be not married to me and be okay with him leaving me and cutting my out of his life completely . when i got to the end of this video it made me get on my knees and pray cause i know its not God speaking into my husbands life but the enemy saying lies ...thank you for sharing this video ..xo
@sbryan0607 жыл бұрын
He's wrong. It doesn't matter what he says if it is not consistent with what God says and God REQUIRES men to take care of their wives. There is no alternative, he's been deceived. The most loving thing you can do is wait for him and pray for him to repent and return to you. The Lord will surely bless you if you do this!
@jeffroberts29347 жыл бұрын
sr bryan is correct. Do we follow God or mans example... In Jeremiah 3 we see God grant Israel their certificate of divorce (not his choice but he grants this out of love). God then waits still calling Israel his "wife" and saying "I will lure you back to me". Follow the example and command of God and not the tradition of man which is divorce and remarriage. Remember love is the command that sums up all other commands so love hopes all things believes all things and endures all thing! So, hope/believe/endure for the sake of your husband!
@TheB1nary5 жыл бұрын
You will always find people willing to "talk into your life" when it comes to marriage and divorce. I married young before I was a Christian; the young woman had an affair with my own Dad. Got pregnant. Had the baby (who was disabled), had another affair with someone else and left the home. Left me with the little boy (who wasn't mine). Years later I met my current wife in Church. Love at first sight. She has raised that little boy with me and 28 years later we will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary. We have four other children together. Lots of people said, "you can't ever get married again". I was 19. They told my current wife: "he's divorced - on God's junk heap". Some said, "it doesn't matter - do what you want". Every Church I have attended since has denied me entry to the ministry because I am divorced. When Christians hear about it, they immediately divide into several camps. Just like this thread. I pray that you have gotten your husband back Valerie - but if not - that you have, by the grace of God, found a life not only in Him but with someone who loves you and has dedicated their life to you as they should. Blessings.
@mrpadillaofficial5 жыл бұрын
@Elize Elisma No he is not a false teacher my friend. We can test him. And also test you.
@mrpadillaofficial5 жыл бұрын
@Valerie Green that last part Jeff said goes completely 100% against with what your husband did. You didn't catch that but I did.
@tricktroymcguinness73745 жыл бұрын
1 Timothy 5:8,: "Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."
@Job_Siciliano2 жыл бұрын
What does that mean exactly? Does that address “dead beat father’s”?
@dannychapman2758 Жыл бұрын
That means we intentionally do what we can to contribute both spiritual/material needs - This doesn't apply to ppl who are TRUELY disabled and can't do either.
@dannychapman2758 Жыл бұрын
@@Job_Siciliano If that dad is intentionally (He can provide, but won't) withholding the manifestations of the love Timothy is describing - yes.
@doreenhuse36948 жыл бұрын
You just became my favorite KZfaq preacher, I watched you witnessing to Mormons and I've been watching those videos, I was so surprised when I came across this video, by divine appointment indeed! You have a GOD given gift in delivering GOD'S message and making me understand, I praise GOD for you!!! Love and blessings be abundantly ours in CHRIST JESUS OF THE BIBLE for any other jesus is man's ideas!
@Chirhopher7 жыл бұрын
Great. Grace, Peace, and LOVE in CHRIST JESUS. Yeah, this is one of the ministries that has had a huge impact on me. i watched Brother Jeff's teaching on The HOLY TRINITY and Dr. White's, and they blew me away. YHWH Is Doing Big Things, Brother. Keep pressing in, persevering till the end with great endurance, by Grace, through Faith, in YESHUA; Fearing and Loving YHWH. GOD Bless you
@britzel712 жыл бұрын
This is so powerful! Thank you for preaching God's True Word!!! I've needed this message, this truth for so long. I sought answers from a pastor and was left helpless. Thank you...
@oar-N-oasis11 ай бұрын
Thank you brother Jeff for your unbiased boldness and courage to teach about divorce.
@jorgekalkman27725 жыл бұрын
You're not listening to God's revelation bc He hates Divorce and there's no excuse for it. "Wht God has put together let NO MAN set usunder". Divorce is a lifestyle of adultery and you will be condemned for it! 🔥💯📖👊
@jamessheffield41734 жыл бұрын
Matthew 19:8 “He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.”
@BennettJonWayne-xw9vi8 ай бұрын
The permanence view actually encourages adultery by removing the punishment for it instituted by Jesus Christ Himself. There are two exception clauses, in Matthew 19:9 and in Matthew chapter five verse 32, and you CANNOT REMOVE THOSE VERSES FROM THE BIBLE. They are there to MAKE CERTAIN THAT MARRAIGES ARE BOTH HOLY AND UNDEFILED. In the Bible days, the penalty for immorality was the death penalty. If the adulterer was stoned to death, the innocent party was not also stoned to death, and would be free to remarry. Adultery is serious business to God, and defiles a marriage. If the adulterer is rewarded for their actions by no penalty for immoral behavior, immoral behavior is encouraged, and accepted as a normal part of a marriage. The unconscionable acceptance of adultery in marriage that is promoted by the permanence doctrine's removal of the exceptions instituted by Jesus Christ Himself are an abomination to God, making a mockery of holiness in marriage by forcing an innocent spouse to "put up with" adultery on the part of a betraying, lying, deceiving, and unfaithful cheating spouse.
@tricktroymcguinness73745 жыл бұрын
John 14:27 - Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
@stubowl12 жыл бұрын
i Love this church. Oh God bring me to a church like this.
@LGSkywalker824 жыл бұрын
Amen Pastor Jeff! Great summation! I've never had this explained as fully and completely as you just did. Amazing teaching brother!
@peterscott8534Ай бұрын
Wow… thank you Jeff for your faithfulness to His Word. I thank God for what He has deposited in you. I have so much ignorance in my heart and I want to know truth eternal and practical. Glory to the Lord Jesus!
@johnathantmurray2 жыл бұрын
6 years later and still so solid! Praise God for your gift Jeff! Thank you!
@johnruiz30597 жыл бұрын
For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. Romans 7:2-3 KJV I was digging the sermon until it contradicted Scripture. God hates divorce, Jesus states that in the original plan divorce was not permitted + no man should separate what God unites, Paul states that God wants the separated spouses to remain unmarried and Matthew was speaking to the Jews that had a tradition that if a betrothed person(under contract/ covenant) fornicated then they could put them away. Only 2 reasons for Divorce 1. Death 2. If your fiancé/ betrothed fornicates before the "I do" event. If your spouse leaves or if you are separated, you must remain unmarried.
@seankelley97896 жыл бұрын
John Ruiz this is the interpretation I believe I hold to John Piper gave this interpretation under the context of the Greek used for sexual immorality was also used when Joseph was going to "divorce" Mary in the engagement phase but as far as physical abuse I do agree with separation but for the point of reconciliation but I definitely have to disagree with durbin on remarriage and I love durbin but I believe u get one in a lifetime that's y more emphasis should be made on the courting of ur future spouse you'd better do your due diligence
@richadruhe6 жыл бұрын
where does it anywhere say a woman can divorce, or that a state may divorce a couple? (much less the church)?God invented marriage He invented divorce by any other name it is not thevsame. The hardness of heart does not make you a meany it makes us disobey God-i.e. not stoning the adulteress.
@celmca1016 жыл бұрын
Correct, God only allowed divorce due to sexual immorality before marriage. Just as Joseph wanted to divorce Mary after he came to know that Mary was pregnant. It’s disturbing that people that call themselves pastors twist the Word of God. That is the very important reason why we must know the Bible. We need to test the spirits.
@melaniehickox65125 жыл бұрын
Okay, so if my husband is beating the crap out of me, I have to stay with him. Got it. Um, I think you mean three.
@jwill55485 жыл бұрын
www.gotquestions.org/remarriage-adultery.html
@rosealexander90075 жыл бұрын
I don't think Divorce is a sin if you're mentally and emotionally abused in the marriage!! And that's all I'm going to say about that!!
@derrickandchelseamcfall48486 жыл бұрын
REALLY??? You believe it was just assumed and thats why it is left out of Mark??? or maybe you are misinterpreting "for any cause" and the way it is said in mark and matthew actually mean the same thing. Jesus would it be lawful under any circumstance (or is there any situation in which it would be ok) for me to get a divorce??(not can i get a divorce for any reason i can conjure up.) Jesus says no.
@butofcorpse6765 Жыл бұрын
Please pray for me, I am in the same spot I was years ago. I got complacent and foolish, and fell away from my responsibilities. Please, lift me up in prayer, and pray for my wife and our children.
@HisWordisLife4U5 жыл бұрын
There are verses in the bible that say you can get a divorce. The verse that says you are free does not mean you are free to marry again. There is not one verse that says you may marry again when your spouse is still alive. There are many verses that say it is adultery. No matter how or why you divorced, people are not free to marry again until that x spouse is dead. You are wrong Jeff.
@MMAGUY133 жыл бұрын
Yes you are right
@HisWordisLife4U3 жыл бұрын
@@MMAGUY13 I wish more people knew this they would try harder to fix their marriages and understand they will not go to heaven if they marry again while their spouse is still alive
@grant2149 Жыл бұрын
FACT👍
@HisWordisLife4U Жыл бұрын
@@mlaurent8905 No one said you had to stay with him. If you choose to get a divorce you simply cannot be with another man until he dies. You can be single and celibate
@HisWordisLife4U Жыл бұрын
@@mlaurent8905 You will have to research this yourself if you care what the Bible says. Unfortunately the Bible also says if you marry agian when your first husband is still alive it is adultery. It is very plain in many verses throughout the Bible. God would not contradict His Word. God expects us to ask Him who we should marry since He is the best match maker. Did you choose who God told you, you should marry? If not, you have no one to blame but yourself. People get themselves in all kinds of trouble when they do things against God's will for their lives, but it doesn't change His rules. The list of people who will not make it into heaven include adulterers. God made Eve for Adam--He was the original match maker. And they never divorced...so, I am not super sure why you brought them up as an example of anything to support your point. It makes no sense whatsoever. You must have thought your marriage vows were what? a joke? When you said til death due us part, what do you think that meant exactly? Til either of you get tired of being married and want a new spouse? No.
@godzillioinaire8 жыл бұрын
I always hear that same screaming baby in the backgound :P awesome sermon! Glory!
@marceloribeirosimoes89595 жыл бұрын
HATE - REJECT, CAN'T TOLERATE, DO NOT BEAR, TO THE DETRIMENT OF LOVE - TO PREFER (ABSOLUTELY)
@bchodge17 жыл бұрын
Where does the old covenant law say that divorce is permissible? That's a blatantly false statement. Jesus is not in conflict with the law because there is no law that permits it. The Pharisees interpreted Deut 24 as permission and commandment (the grammar does not bear that out), but the law only deals with the injustice done to the divorced woman.
@jenvince4878 Жыл бұрын
Only when its related to fornication
@tricktroymcguinness73745 жыл бұрын
1 Corinthians 7:15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.
@tobiasstamenkovic96284 жыл бұрын
Oh man, bless you brother, i love your sermons. I cant remember ever uncontrollably laughing while watching a service before. "Because she wasnt pretty anymore." I can only imagine the Lord sitting there in the "meme Picard posture" when he saw that...
@adirafearsjesus77787 жыл бұрын
The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? So Jesus said divorce not in any reason except adultery. But when that happens you have to stay single. It is the concequence of choosing the wrong spouse.
@LOT1165 жыл бұрын
No, Jesus said that marrying a divorced person was adultery, except for case of fornication. There are legit reasons for divorce but only one for legit remarrying. You have to read multiple texts about in from Jesus and Paul and then combine them.
@lindenhouseeditingservices52365 жыл бұрын
Dan G this is actually the standard Protestant view, based on scripture, and has been for centuries. It’s a new, reactionary view that persons can only get divorced for adultery (false, the word is pornea) and then can never remarry. The very churches that are responsible for the divorce crisis because they said pagan things like, “By the power vested in me by the state of ... I now pronounce you man and wife” are just reacting to their deep error in joining matrimony to the state. As Christians, we’re not supposed to join the state with our ceremonies. That’s the whole overriding message of the Old Testament. So maybe you should take your complaint to a pastor who is breaking covenant with God and making covenant with an earthly government. It’s a speck and mote in the eye issues.
@leviwilliams96014 жыл бұрын
@Dan G where is your prove?
@leviwilliams96014 жыл бұрын
@Dan G again prove?
@leviwilliams96014 жыл бұрын
@Dan G You do understand this is case law right? It is for a specific issue.
@tricktroymcguinness73745 жыл бұрын
Galatians 5:18 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
@tahado14 жыл бұрын
I pray that you study this out in the Greek text and the difference between sending away (separation) and giving a certificate of divorce. They are 2 separate actions and both are required. Yeshua said that if you send a woman away (without the certificate of divorce) you cause her to commit adultery. It’s a mistranslation. Just as it is today if you marry a person that is only separated you are committing adultery. There was no change in Gods perfect law
@sbryan0607 жыл бұрын
This discussion with the Lord regarding D&R is documented not only in Matthew but also in Luke and Mark. The only time the "exception' is mentioned is in Matthew, and it happens to be the one book that was written directly to the Jews who were still under the law at that time. Could it be that he was referencing the ONE EXCEPTION that was listed under the Mosaic law? If that were the case, it would sure help explain the rest of the scriptures which seem to suggest that there's no cause for remarriage once an oath has been made. Just some food for thought.
@BennettJonWayne-xw9vi8 ай бұрын
The permanence view actually encourages adultery by removing the punishment for it instituted by Jesus Christ Himself. There are two exception clauses, in Matthew 19:9 and in Matthew chapter five verse 32, and you CANNOT REMOVE THOSE VERSES FROM THE BIBLE. They are there to MAKE CERTAIN THAT MARRAIGES ARE BOTH HOLY AND UNDEFILED. In the Bible days, the penalty for immorality was the death penalty. If the adulterer was stoned to death, the innocent party was not also stoned to death, and would be free to remarry. Adultery is serious business to God, and defiles a marriage. If the adulterer is rewarded for their actions by no penalty for immoral behavior, immoral behavior is encouraged, and accepted as a normal part of a marriage. The unconscionable acceptance of adultery in marriage that is promoted by the permanence doctrine's removal of the exceptions instituted by Jesus Christ Himself are an abomination to God, making a mockery of holiness in marriage by forcing an innocent spouse to "put up with" adultery on the part of a betraying, lying, deceiving, and unfaithful cheating spouse.
@csmooth22884 ай бұрын
We also have to remember that Christ was there to uphold the law so during that time he was affirming Moses's stance on the certificate of divorce in deut 24 and not opposing it.
@sbryan0604 ай бұрын
@@csmooth2288 the certificate is objective and not up for interpretation; it refers to the terms of the law given in Deut 24 which, when viewing the Hebrew it was essentially when a woman would lie about her virginity and he finds out about it. Since he paid for a virgin and she wasn't one, he had the right to divorce her (hand her that certificate)... hence the exception clause for "pornea" found in Matthew. The Word is consistent. But beyond this it's more important to understand that marriage is a representation of Christ and his church (Eph 5, 1 Peter 3, Colossians 3, etc.). To justify divorcing a spouse for any reason is to invite the same judgment from God concerning you, since Christ represents the husband and we, the church, represent the bride. The Word teaches in many places that when we choose to sin we make ourselves ADULTERERS spiritually. Should then Christ divorce us? I hope not. And if we agree that we do not want to be divorced from Christ for our unfaithfulness then we aught not divorce our spouse for any reason since God has made us one with our lawful spouse.
@csmooth22884 ай бұрын
@@sbryan060 thank you for that it's makes perfect sense I've been trying to piece the puzzle together but how would also explain what Paul says in 1 Corinth. 7? About the non believer abandoning their spouse.
@canigetachannel6 жыл бұрын
A world full of reprobate Minds......
@mrpadillaofficial5 жыл бұрын
Thank God for these preachers
@sbryan0607 жыл бұрын
I absolute love everything Jeff stands for but I believe he let his cultural lenses shroud this issue (like we all have at times). This is rare from Jeff but it's not a very good exegetical conclusion. The Greek word "douloo" means "to enslave, to be a slave, to make a slave of, be subject to, serve and obey" and is NEVER used in relation to the covenantal bond of marriage. When Paul speaks of the binding character of marriage, he uses the Greek word "deo", not "douloo". 1210. deo, deh'-o; a prim. verb; to bind (in various applications, lit. or fig.):- bind, be in bonds, knit, tie, wind. See also 1163, 1189. 1402. douloo, doo-lo-o; from 1401; to enslave (lit. or fig.):- bring into (be under) bondage, x given, become (make) servant. We can see some examples of Paul's usage of this word "douloo" throughout the Scriptures. It is consistently used in the context of slavery and submission. "And having been set free from sin, you became DOULOO (servants) of righteousness." (Romans 6:18, The Scriptures) "For though I am free from all, I made myself a DOULOO (servant) to all, in order to win more," (1 Corinthians 9:19) "So we also, when we were children, were under the elementary matters of the world, being DOULOO (enslaved)." -(Galatians 4:3) The Greek word for "bound" in this passage is "deo" (Strong's #1210) and means "to bind, to tie, to put under obligation, bound by law, duty". In context, it refers to being tied by obligation to the marriage covenant and is the exact same Greek word used by Paul in other passages related to the marriage bond. "For the married woman has been DEO (bound) by Torah to the living husband" (Romans 7:2) "Are you DEO (bound) to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed." (1 Corinthians 7:27) "A wife is DEO (bound) by Torah as long as her husband lives" (1 Corinthians 7:39) If his conclusion is true, I don't believe this is how to prove it from the text. May the Lord Jesus Christ lead us all into his truth in every subject, especially the controversial ones.
@grant2149 Жыл бұрын
Facts people get confused with bondage and bound.
@khosrofx79745 жыл бұрын
Brother Jeff i love, God bless you
@TryHardCryHarder6 жыл бұрын
"'So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.' They said to him, 'Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?' He said to them, 'Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.'” (Matthew 19:6-9) So actually, it is true that you are not allowed to divorce except for adultery. So yes, Jesus did not abolish the Law but He did fulfill the Law in this regard by establishing the true purpose of marriage, indicating that the Law only permitted divorce due to the hardness of the people. I am disappointed with where this sermon went very early. Completely unexpected from this Pastor who I usually admire for his excellent Biblical consistency and exegesis. An astonishing error for something Jesus resolved in an attempt to trap Him regarding this very issue.
@kaylacheney22846 жыл бұрын
Thir7ySev3n So your telling me my mother was right to not get divorced from my abusing father? She put me and all my siblings through so much because she wouldn't divorce him since he didn't cheat on her? He just would beat her and abuse her daily yet that's not good enough ....
@westb10286 жыл бұрын
And how powerful of a message for forgiveness than the fact that if one separates from their spouse because of adultery, one can still not remarry. It’s so amazing. 🙏
@westb10286 жыл бұрын
kayla cheney she can leave him, just can’t get remarried unless he dies.
@TheB1nary5 жыл бұрын
I don't think she was, no. I'm sorry you all had to go through that. Bless you friend :(
@charlesbannerman1065 жыл бұрын
9:27 Affirms grounds for divorce and remarriage based off of non-conforming standards (abuse) 26:10 Jeff hypocritically chastises pharisees but does what they do. Blows trumpets so everyone will see 38:33 Back handed slap which is what Jeff does to Jesus word 45:45 Asks about divorce 46:40 Jeff quotes "what god has joined together let not man separate" 47:00 From the beginning it was not so, and whoever divorces his wife, commits adultery 51:25 To the UNMARRIED and the WIDOWED 53:40 REMAIN UNMARRIED 55:50 "Set free from divorce" (Says its not adultery) 57:28 God hates divorce Malachi 2:16 Never gave permission 58:00 Jeff creates new standards for divorce and remarriage 59:02: Says that if a man cant provide, is poor, Says divorce and remarriage is OK 1:00:30 Jeff Qualifies again divorce and remarriage because he is afraid that what he say will be used as justification. "Cites Bon-sons thesis as opposed to the scripture LUKE 16:18 1:02:11 Jer 3:8 claims God divorced ???? Yet somehow remains faithful and brought forth christ ???!??!?!?!?!?!?!?! 1:02:40 Now says adultery isn't grounds for divorce says forgive and reconcile ?!?!?!?!?!?!?! 1:05:14 Now claims that you are still married and need reconciliation, then claims in the same breath that if they are "abused" they are not "married" again ............. 1:06:00 Jeff then says that under biblical grounds you can "remarry" (Cites NO scripture)
@UkuriNkunda2 жыл бұрын
Marriage is a complex thing and personal think depending on people's situations. only God can know the true foundation of that marriage and who stay married and who doesn't. We have to understand salvation is a personal thing and personal journey, marriage is the same thing that is why we have to leave it to God and allow God to guide us personally because remember some.stay and die I don't think it is God's will either so pray and be guided by the Holy Spirit and He shall guide u to stay , to let it go and be restored in one way or another but divorce isn't the end of salvation or anyone's destiny God is able to forgive and restore anyone as any other sins or failures in our lives ..But teaching about it it is good at least those who goes into it know what is about and those who divorced understand his grace too..God Is love and He is able to redeem all of us as long as we repent and follow his leading. Shalom be blessed
@TheB1nary5 жыл бұрын
Sound exegesis and pastoral application. Thank you!
@windyday85984 жыл бұрын
the word of God says that if the unbelieving spouse wants to leave "let him leave". we do not have to fight for it. we can let them go. read that scripture fully. if you insist the believer go and "fight" for that marriage, it is contrary to the revealed truth. i disagree with you in that context.
@philipbuckley759 Жыл бұрын
good point....
@invisibleinkling14748 жыл бұрын
Thanks, Jeff. These words are fitting and my heart rejoices when the Word is divided rightly... like apples of gold.
@richardsguitarstudio5 жыл бұрын
Since approx 70% of divorces currently are issued by women, please address what us faithful ex husbands who did not want divorce should do according to scripture. Seems backwards to constantly refer to the men regarding instigating a divorce nowadays since it's primarily women.
@duaneking2732 жыл бұрын
Read the whole chapter of 1 Corinthians 7. That will help give you an understanding of situations that may be out of a persons control.
@tonyparry77715 жыл бұрын
Why does The NT clearly say the Law is "obsolete "? The Law was given as a school master to lead us to Messiah. My take is we are now under the Law of Christ. Does anyone know the OT verses Jeff is referring to about food, shelter, love etc?
@kallyjon4 жыл бұрын
None, false teaching, no reference, made up story, using several passages put together
@melissadauer8757 Жыл бұрын
I like to listen to this pastor , this time was playing things I was okay listening to , to maybe help me go bk to sleep , feel asleep to this sermon , not a good sermon to fall asleep to, was getting a talking to in my sleep. Choice wisely when you are having trouble sleeping , but choice wisely what you might hear when sleeping and the voice tone 😂
@josephhogan72805 жыл бұрын
@apologiastudios Pastor Jeff, I admire your apologetic approach, and am currently in a nasty storm (separates, divorcing) and am standing on God’s heart, promises, and Word; but it has not been easy and I’ve had failures. I am under constant spiritual attack because of this, as well as I have started a men’s ministry for men who stand for their marriages. Brother, I’d love a chance to have some dialogue with you.
@christinepastrama12755 жыл бұрын
Joseph Hogan my son is going through the similar situation. His wife kicked him to the curb with nothing to his name. She was having a work affair. She threatened him so he gave her full custody of his two boys. Now a year and a half later she’s made a mess of her life, is self medicating all the time. He is working for his church and is a loving dad. He’s trying to get custody of them now that he is stable but she’s wickedly fighting him. But he grows stronger in Christ each week, i I’m So thankful that he never turned away from God through it all. Know your fellow believers are praying for you!
@benjaminsmith42215 жыл бұрын
Bro, Jeff most likely wont answer you bro. You got to go to his church otheerwise I really think there is to many comments to answer.
@325ariel Жыл бұрын
@@christinepastrama1275thats still his wife.
@jeremycbarnhart23056 жыл бұрын
My heart broke when I heard one of my favorite preachers and someone I tell people about and suggest to hear, speak on this subject as though he honestly seems slightly lost. There is nothing GOD - our heavenly father - allows us to divorce for any reason anymore than He would allow Christ to divorce from His Church. A genuine and deep study of the Word, the character of Christ, the very fact God uses very strong language in saying He HATES divorce and even that it was simply some things Moses came up with for 'a wicked generation...' etc. Divorce is no more allowable than Christ deciding to leave His people.
@michaelquintana6786 жыл бұрын
no the bible says you can divorce if your partner was unfaithfull and had relations with another person
@LOT1165 жыл бұрын
You leave pretty much of the Scripture out by stating that.
@johnborland78654 жыл бұрын
God hates divorce more than abuse? God hates divorce more than rape? God hates divorce more than adultery? Oh your god sounds like someone I’m not interested in following.
@idadda42425 жыл бұрын
One of the few things I have ever heard you talk about I disagree with brother I have been preaching about divorce, broken families, for 25 years. if the Christian is a part of the choir they are with me, 999 out of 1,000 just don't care, hate me, think this sin is popular (divorce) and move on. Being someone abused by my father, we suffered that abuse, been abused by my wife who sexually abused my son. Only adultery is acceptable in this era of grace. We, the church, are supposed to intervene in abuse, trouble, etc. When there were people just, only, refusing to work, spreading gossip, hateful words, the correction was that they did not get to eat. How much more to protect the abused children, spouse, work to save marriage and honor it in all thing, correct the abuser, get the whole story --- The last great generation hated divorce, their good fruits spoke of them, this generations fruits of marital divorce leading to devastation and apostasy - spirtual divorce has brouht in my opinion suffering like the world has never seen -- a few of us are preaching repentance to this apostate and wicked church and country My mother was cheated on many times when my dad in homosexuality did so in the 80s. She would not give uo until he moved out. My wife tried to kill my boy when he was a baby, abused him emotionally, neglected him. I called on the church for help, got none. Only when she sexually molested him was it done for me. The Word of God is truth and all men liars. It is the Body of Christ's duty to help, take in the abused family, rebuke and protect them from the abuser. If they will not stop, treat them as publicans 0- and how do we do that? Copy Jesus, Paul. Pray for them but without access to the church, witness to them, preach repentance, The last faithful generation hated divorce like few 'Christians' do today and fought tooth and nail to keep marriages together. it was as it should be: shameful and horrid to behold the destruction of a family. And if you read any studies on divorce you will not find that the WWII generation was so in bondage and so much abuse was put up with. The COnrary, when marriage was sacred there was not as mich. Since 1952 and the free for all marraige laws, many studies have shown all manor of any ill you can name: mental, social, political, crime, et al have exponentially gone up: spouse abuse up %2,600, teen suicide up %150. Having been abused and seen my son abused I know my God and His Word is right. The church and society simply neglects the ones who need their help in these situations - not a permission to undo what God put together. Having been through my parents divorce and my wife's abuse - I know though most every day i wanted to leave and get me and my son away, I did the right thing protecting him and obeying the literal word of God on the subject in the whole counsel of God. Abuse is not good, in any part of marrige, not an excuse for divorce, and definately not an excuse for the church not to do its job as it did with the people who gossipped and were then not allowed to eat.
@canigetachannel6 жыл бұрын
Gentlemen, I really enjoyed the sermons from UK thank you so much
@SicMundus75 жыл бұрын
Great exposition starting out but I was stumped when Jeff got into the two camps stating Jesus was taking the side of shammai. I dont see or believe that at all. I dont see that He was suckered to take any side like they wanted Him to. But rather He flanked and exposed them with the truth. Jesus didnt lend himself to nor practice the foolishness and qaurreling attitudes of the religious. He always cut right through them. Its really suprising to me when learned men such as Jeff (he regularly references the Greek) do not seem to be aware of the fact that "apoluo" ("put away" in the stated passages; and occuring 170 times in the NT) and "apostasion" (bill of divorcment; occuring 3 times in NT) are two diff terms (they are not synonymous). The heading in your bible may read "divorce" but the stated passages have nothing to do with divorce but rather the wicked "putting away". To say that this (blantant) translation error has perpetuated great confusion and harm for so many is an understatement. Dont take any preachers word for it; and certainly not mine, (on this subject or any) but you must study the word for yourself.
@DrDemolition975 жыл бұрын
Genuine question, where does Jeff get the part where he speaks that failure to provide shelter, food, clothing and love was grounds for divorce in the OT? I haven't been able to find it so far. Thanks for any help
@rayzina1474 жыл бұрын
But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” 1 Timothy 5:8 ESV don’t know about OT but the New Testament makes it clear
@truthlibertyjustice4all2554 жыл бұрын
I don't know, but in the New testament it says if any husband our father would not provide for his household he is WORSE THAN AN INFIDEL AND HAD DENIED THE FAITH!
@AdamThao923 жыл бұрын
Exodus 21:10-11 is what you’re looking for
@derrickandchelseamcfall48486 жыл бұрын
dude you give so many reasons that are simply not in the bible for divorce. Its sad. sola scriptura brother
@neilhunter86655 жыл бұрын
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@mrpadillaofficial5 жыл бұрын
Wow He gave you bible verses and you threw them away. Solo scriptora my friend
@IsaacSteele4 жыл бұрын
His scriptures are based on going back to the mosaic law which also allowed polygamy. Does Jeff also support polygamy? Jesus was confronted with the Deuteronomy 24:1-4 divorce law by the Pharisees. Jesus said Moses added that precept for the hardness of their hearts. Jesus then took the standard for divorce all the way back to what God set up in the garden of Eden. Why Jeff takes the Pharisee’s side and reinstates Deuteronomy 24:1-4 is beyond me. Even in the Old Testament God told them that precept wasn’t from him. Jeremiah 3:1 They say, If a man put away his wife, and she go from him, and become another man's, shall he return unto her again? shall not that land be greatly polluted? but thou hast played the harlot with many lovers; yet return again to me, saith the Lord. God said the author of Deuteronomy 24:1-4 was “they” and contrasted that with his heart on the matter and it was completely opposite. Again, why Jeff wants to reinstate a precept Jesus said Moses added because of hard hearted people and God already repudiated hundreds of years earlier through Jeremiah, it’s really beyond me.
@cinnamondan49844 жыл бұрын
You have a couples KZfaq account LMAO
@analogkid49573 жыл бұрын
@@IsaacSteele so are you saying The New Testament allows Divorce ?
@mexicanbeautyqueen79886 жыл бұрын
What if u got divorce before u got saved to an unbeliever who worships another God?
@luisangelflores39516 жыл бұрын
Bri Alvarez I was wondering that
@SisterCarolee4 жыл бұрын
Pray and ask God to change his heart. If he doesn't you can separate.
@derrickandchelseamcfall48486 жыл бұрын
jeff durbin. I love your videos but you really need to listen to Voddie Baucham's "the permanence view." Matthew is the only book that has an "exception clause." So with all the other commandments he says "you have heard it said that ... but i say ..." but when he gets to divorce Jesus says you got it right..? And people said it would be better not to marry (matthew 19) Why would they come to this conclusion if Jesus said divorce was just fine? The relationship between Christ and the church is represented between husband and wife. This is reason alone to renounce the idea of divorce.
@jeremycbarnhart23056 жыл бұрын
Agree - I am blown away by Jeff's powerful and genuine preaching and deep theological grasps, but there is simply no 'okay' for divorce. My wife and I were married in 2005, and then on the 3rd of August, 2013, I received an email from her saying 'life's too short.......etc' and she left. I spend each and every day - literally EVERY DAY - ring on my finger, praying desperately that not only will the Lord lay it on her heart to return but that true believers will be involved each day in her life to lead her back and to humble herself and have a soft heart and get back together for God's glory. I miss and love her. There's nothing she could do or say that would make me desire not to welcome her back. God HATES divorce and has never ever said it's 'okay'. There's nothing I can say or do as a disciple of Jesus that would 'allow' divorce... Please pray for Jeff to have God's true and solid cornerstone of truth in this matter. Please pray also for my wife's heart to be reached by God and by other disciples to return and serve Him together. God bless. J
@adeseleqyecoma86815 жыл бұрын
@@jeremycbarnhart2305 What if a man falls in love with someone else and leaves the marriage?
@melaniehickox65125 жыл бұрын
Adese Leqy Ecoma Adultery. Still not okay.
@FullAutoApolotics5 жыл бұрын
@@jeremycbarnhart2305 But he expects you to repent and get back to work, praising and doing the work. He said through Paul, if they walk, and are not Christians, let them go. You may not be clear to remarry, and I admire your tenacity, but do NOT ruin your life. Grace and Grace alone bud, I had to learn that the hard way, same as you. But forgiveness and separated from sin as far as the East from the West. Move on bro, anything you hold onto thinking it's that heavy is re-crucifying Christ or negating His power over sin.
@FullAutoApolotics5 жыл бұрын
@@adeseleqyecoma8681 Adultery, living in it non repentant, that's hell. As that would fall right into 1 Corinthians 6:9-10:
@philipbuckley7592 жыл бұрын
God hates divorce.....and is angry with sinners, everyday....
@joshottinger63802 жыл бұрын
Sooo. divorce IS a sin. Right? I'm just looking for a yes or no answer.
@michelefoz45695 жыл бұрын
Omy gosh!! Some of these comments! People, Listen to the word of God, hear it, then do it!! Thank you pastor for this sound word!! Very theological & right! Loved it!!
@LordPotato10116 ай бұрын
this should be the national church..
@HammerHeadGarage7 жыл бұрын
i Love the Lord and want to follow his law, but let me ask you what do you do when the wife of your youth has put you aside because she doesn,t want you anymore? Am i suppose to stay single for the rest of my life? I wasn,t happy with our life situation so i came up with a plan to change how i lived and the pace of my life. I offered her this and she rejected me and my plan. I could not stay living the way i was and had to change.
@FullAutoApolotics5 жыл бұрын
What is the only unforgivable sin my brother?
@jwill55485 жыл бұрын
www.gotquestions.org/remarriage-adultery.html
@jwill55485 жыл бұрын
No ! you can remarry! Seek the Lord and you will be fine!
@jwill55485 жыл бұрын
Grace Marie I am born again believer and you are scaring people into thinking they are going to hell for divorcing and remarrying for any other reason than sexual sin! Of course a a couple should try to save their marriage but that is not always possible and the Lord knows this! There is only ONE unforgivable sin! www.gotquestions.org/unpardonable-sin.html Stop being so legalistic.
WOW i just listened to all of this. We cannot divorce only in adultery not being beaten, not being provided for. God made prison put your husband in prison dont divorce him. Please stay in the marriageeee love him or her and forgive them. Love themmmm let JESUS HAVE GLORYYYYYY. Me and my husband did adultery and God saved our marriage.
@Chirhopher3 жыл бұрын
So, when i first came across the Teachings of Headship, i was Discipling someone.. i leaned towards my having my Wife and Daughter's sins laid on me (not in †he same measure as CHRIST, The HEAD; my HEAD/†he Head's HEAD) but, Scripture Does Lay Out that Role, rather repeatedly.. how is it that a Wife's Sins will Not affect Her Head/Husband any more than the Husband's will affect His Body/Wife?
@aribbonatatime6 жыл бұрын
Can't agree with this interpretation. Only for adultery or in the case of an unbeliever who leaves. This saddens me :( signs of the times I guess.
@FullAutoApolotics5 жыл бұрын
1 Corinthians 7:15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace And what was that pesky unforgivable sin again?
@neilhunter86655 жыл бұрын
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@hellenicspirit98492 жыл бұрын
Jeff....you're a champion.
@brianramirez8255 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for breaking it down like this. Its all Biblically very clear.
@Samwiser717 жыл бұрын
Who shall we follow, Moses? or Jesus? Of coarse we follow Jesus. Moses himself said Jesus would come and to hear him in all things. Jesus taught that to divorce and then to marry again is wrong except for fornication. And that don't mean 25 years later, that means when they first came together. Paul says the law, that same law Jesus said he didn't come to destroy, the law of God, bounds them together so long as they both shall live. If you think it's ok to divorce, then let me ask you where is the love in divorce? Where is the Charity (Charity seeketh not her own!) in divorce? Is not divorce what I want? Me I what I feel? But yet we are not our own, we are bought with a price! I feel, if you cannot agree with Jesus, He is not your Lord.
@michaelquintana6786 жыл бұрын
Sam. i sometimes i think it might not be God will for me to remarry. i have already messed up for the rest of my life.
@antlers1635 жыл бұрын
“I hate divorce” - God
@ConejoCarFlipper8 ай бұрын
You need context.
@antlers1638 ай бұрын
@@ConejoCarFlipper: Can you clarify your assertion…?
@joyfuljeff9128 Жыл бұрын
Also read 1st Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. AND IT'S NOT ALWAYS THE MAN WHO IS AT FAULT. LOOK HOW EVE WAS THE ONE DECEIVED THAT RUIN THE WHOLE HUMAN RACE. GENESIS 3:13
@jimbefit30735 жыл бұрын
Jeff Durban - MY Question is!! WRT : "What God has joined together , let no man put usunder." Yet we go around Rubber stamping Gods name on relationships. Jeff, it sounds like You claim that ANY relationship leading to marriage is ordained by God. What- did Satan go to sleep? Is there somewhere in the Bible that says setting up relationships is off limits to Satan ? Not enough space here, there's a LOT more to my story. But i thought i had chosen well.
@cinnamondan49844 жыл бұрын
Jim Befit was Jeff too liberal for you LMFAO
@romaniankid1861 Жыл бұрын
If you can reconcile after adultery with no trust issues I would die of shock. Too many pastors talk about divorce and haven’t lived through it.
@TimothyTitusDaugett6 жыл бұрын
He was doing well until he started making up circumstances for divorce that the law of God does not state. He literally just invented circumstances for divorce at the end. SMH.
@wilfredotollinchi12246 жыл бұрын
Timothy Titus Daugett I agree with you. I like Jeff durbin but he NVR spoke bout 1 Corinthians 7:10-11
@westb10286 жыл бұрын
So sad huh...
@FullAutoApolotics5 жыл бұрын
1 Corinthians 7:15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace
@jorgekalkman27725 жыл бұрын
@@FullAutoApolotics shut up dude...you don't know what you're talking about. You're taking scripture way out of context. Really shut up. You're bringing a worse judgement on yourself. Smh.
@grant2149 Жыл бұрын
Excatly. He gives his own laws adding to scripture
@mlaurent8905 Жыл бұрын
Gosh reading these comments 😮 I’m to stay in an abusive marriage? He is not a believer and left this year after 23 years- our children have suffered greatly by his hands and with verbal/mental abuse- I was abused by him in all forms. Thank you Lord he walked out. But I’m still to be bound by him? Can’t seek divorce? And if I find a true man of God in 5/10 yrs I’m condemned?
@ThePowerOfFaithNetwork5 жыл бұрын
For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law that binds her to him. 3 So then, if she has sexual relations with another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress if she marries another man. Romans 7:2-3
@redbird18246 жыл бұрын
If you are married to someone who has a former spouse that is alive you are committing adultery.Romans 7:2.Adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of God.1Cor 6:9.Don't be deceived!!Don't get yourself in this situation! If you are in it get out!Half this congregation likely falls into this category ,in this wicked and adulterous generation and is now comforted in their sin.Beware of slick teachers like this wolf in sheep's clothing doing this video.Stick with the Bible as if your life depends on it because it does!
@calicat78558 жыл бұрын
thank you very much. I needed these words. so glad I found you and ur way of teaching
@printface4935 Жыл бұрын
Not a single negative comment; I think that's improbable.
@user-tb7iz1vf7p6 жыл бұрын
I would advise the woman to live away from her husband or vice versa until things get better. Pray and fast for the Lord to work. I think that if after some time, nothing happens... it would have to be something God would seriously have to confirm that relationship. At the end of the day, I do believe Jesus restores relationships and he requires us to forgive one another.
@jeremycbarnhart23056 жыл бұрын
Speaking as a believer, teacher, disciple of Christ who councils, etc. it's dangerous and detrimental to a relationship to be apart for any reason. If they are saved it is imperative to be together, not apart. I am heading to bed and don't want to 'preach' for the next half hour, but suffice it to say - if you have a deep cut you don't keep one or both sides of a wound APART until they 'heal'. They MUST be brought together to heal. period. Also, to be apart creates a dependence on self, friends, even 'apart' on its own; when folks spend time apart it creates a false 'peace' and a false idea that 'being away feels so good'. I could go on, but please realize that it is a detriment to a Godly relationship to be apart. It defies every aspect of God's character and scripture..
@jwill55485 жыл бұрын
Flower and sometimes He doesn’t restore them!
@jimmywhiz24957 жыл бұрын
Apparently the only thing that isn't a sin is giving money to a preacher other than that I think you're just pretty much sinnin'
@truthprevails12606 жыл бұрын
Proverbs 28:9
@joebobjenkins7837 Жыл бұрын
If you have to wonder if its ok in the eyes of God, the answer is yes. There, saved you an hour.
@marceloribeirosimoes89595 жыл бұрын
My question is: HOW WE KNOW THAT GOD united that couple?
@mamajinimurphy56405 жыл бұрын
I’m Positive GOD did NOT WANT marriage between us. I thought since the spiritual umbilical cord never got cut, then leaving would prevent cleaving. One day God spoke to me - another subject- ... And He said,“Go to your husband now… “ So, Nevermind what i think. God accepted him as my husband therefore I think its the consumation of the marriage. And God gives free will - right or wrong. What do you think about thar?
@marceloribeirosimoes89595 жыл бұрын
@@mamajinimurphy5640 - I thank you for your answer. But I think that, first, if the marriage is something that The Creator arranged, I mean, this specific man to that specific woman, is one thing. BUT, I think that when we read "GOD united", maybe that's just for those are REBORN, REGENERATED (man and woman) and they got this direction from The Creator. And when we get the direction from The Almighty, we know it.
@philipbuckley759 Жыл бұрын
it is taken that all marriages are valid, regardless of what belief system or what motive...
@marceloribeirosimoes8959 Жыл бұрын
@@philipbuckley759 So, for you it's like, "no matter what job I have, If it is killing, robbering, etc., it doesn't matter. The point is, to work. And if I'm working, it's good", right? See, I say this because many agreements on paper are not agreements at all. Not to mention the so-called "marriages" that were purchases of child girls to be sex slaves, prostitutes, serving as messengers for traffickers, or end up as sources of organs for organ trafficking. In addition to these cases, there are "marriages" for convenience, for having nothing else to do, for egocentrism and interest in being happy, but NEVER making the other person happy. Therefore, to understand that every marriage started from the only legitimate principle for this - to have the conviction that my goal is to make my spouse the happiest person in the world at all times - is to have my head buried in the ground, ignoring everything that is called "marriage" and it was never that. I hope you understand that I am not trying to educate you, not to "sound" arrogant falling you what is right or what's not. But marriage is way more than to live on the same address having some time for sex and sharing bills.
@davidwendt98796 жыл бұрын
so sad to hear this, as you are wrong...how was it in the beginning?
@mrpadillaofficial5 жыл бұрын
So sad to hear what Jesus said? Are you kidding me?
@mrpadillaofficial5 жыл бұрын
And what else did Jesus say?
@philipbuckley7592 жыл бұрын
how many times does one have to say....abuse is not a Biblical reason for divorce and remarriage......
@grant21492 жыл бұрын
Excatly
@johnellis76146 жыл бұрын
MARRIAGE IS FOR LIFE --- NO DIVORCE ALLOWED Luke 16:18, Mark 10:2, Ro 7:2, 1 Cor 7:28, all of Old Testament
@FullAutoApolotics5 жыл бұрын
1 Corinthians 7:15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace
@FullAutoApolotics5 жыл бұрын
I would also point to the fact that if you do want to argue that with God he should remind you there is one unforgivable sin
@charlesbannerman1065 жыл бұрын
@@FullAutoApolotics A wife is bound as long as her husband lives; but if her husband is dead, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. ITS FOR LIFE REPENT
@LOT1165 жыл бұрын
Ernie Ray let go of one doesn’t mean you can get another spouse...
@FullAutoApolotics5 жыл бұрын
@@LOT116 I haven't. But it does say you don't have to chase them down if they are in sin. If you are in that circumstance and everyone against remarrying here followed the law they are quoting, I need you to help me stone my ex this afternoon if you have time?
@londonderrry Жыл бұрын
There is a fundamental problem with this idea of divorce and remarriage, and the problem is this. Marriage is a picture of Christ's marriage to His Church. Now every picture is an imperfect representation of the actuality, but Christ as the bridegroom is always ready to receive back His wife, as there is an unbreakable bond between Christ and His bride, the elect church. How can Christ go back to His bride if she's already remarried and the wife of another man? We read in Ephesians 5:31-32: "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church." If the husband and wife are one flesh, then the idea is that you can't break "one flesh", and neither can you break the union of Christ with His elect church. The second problem is that the Old Testament Scriptures never permitted a wife to divorce her husband, but only a husband to divorce his wife. The permissible reasons for divorce are one: sexual immorality... not abandonment, not cruelty, not a failure to provide. There is one reason given... sexual immorality (Deuteronomy 24:1.) Thirdly, if we are going to demand consistency, then we would expect to see a precept about remarriage in the Old Testament, Gospels and the New Testament (1 Corinthians 7 does not speak of remarriage), but there is nothing there about remarriage of either the "innocent" party or the guilty one. The speaker seems to suggest that the House of Hillel was the overwhelming view of Jewish society, but if that was the case, then why would the Pharisees even be asking Jesus about the controversy. Hillel had been deceased for a couple of decades when Jesus began Hi public ministry and Shammai only died in 30AD. Shammai had been the head of the Sanhedrin, and his views were only firmly rejected AFTER 70 AD with the Jewish revolt. So when Jesus is asked about the controversy, He is being asked about a real controversy where both sides had significant support in Jewish religious society. But what is Christ's response? He speaks of marriage as an unbreakable union which man cannot break. We read in Matthew 19:6 "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." So if Jesus says "let NOT man put asunder", then why is the speaker here telling us that a spouse can divorce for a whole list of reasons? That's not the teaching of Christ here. In fact, what Christ is teaching is a rejection of both the schools of Hillel and Shammai which both permitted divorce (for various and differing reasons) and remarriage. While God certainly permitted men to divorce their wives for adultery "because of the hardness of their hearts", this still does not dissolve the marriage union. That is why Christ's teaching is that it is not only adultery to divorce your wives for unbiblical reasons, but "whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery" (Matthew 19:9.) Note the response of the Apostles who are astounded by Christ's teaching. Now why would they be astounded if Jesus was simply teaching one of the two prevailing and popular views of His day? They were astounded and said "If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry" because they rightly understood that His teaching was far stricter than either school of contemporary thought, and so strict that they questioned whether a man should even consider marriage if he could not remarrry when his wife failed him in some way. Paul in 1 Corinthians tells the believing spouse to be at peace if the unbeliever departs, but never tells them that they are free to remarry. To suggest otherwise is a gross misunderstanding of the text. Paul in Romans 7 says very clearly: 1Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? 2For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. Paul's teaching is the same as that of the Mosaic law, and of Christ, namely that a woman is bound to her husband until the death of either party. If she remarries while her husband is still alive (without any Pauline reservations here), then she is committing adultery. 1 Corinthians 7 is not teaching a new doctrine on remarriage, but simply saying that if an unbeliever refuses to honour the covenant of marriage and leaves their believing spouse, then it is not the fault of the believer. It is not teaching that they can simply "move on with their life" and remarry the next man they meet in church. This speaker's position while representing a more "conservative" side of evangelicalism is simply not Biblical and it's obvious why. It not only permits remarriage of the innocent party, but permits remarriage of the guilty party as well. Take this example: So a 50 year old husband commits adultery with his 20 year old assistant and his 50 year old believing wife divorces him. The husband remarries his assistant and then goes back to his ex-wife's church with his new 20 year old wife. The pastor asks if he has repented and the man says "yes pastor, what I did was wrong, but now I'm remarried." The pastor accepts that and the 50 year old and his 20 year old model wife sit are admitted as members and sit down in the same pew next Sunday with his 50 year old believing "ex-wife." How is that showing any respect to the covenant of marriage, or showing a fallen world that marriage is a "one flesh" union that man is not to put asunder?
@grant2149 Жыл бұрын
i could Not agree with you more. 💯 correct. He is scared of losing church members most of these false people teach wrong on scripture.
@Mattchew22323 жыл бұрын
I've been blessed by this sermon. Question: Let's say a spouse does forgive their spouse who committed adultery, but the law of the land is that adulterers should be put to death. Would the ruling authorities be acting unjustly if they did so (because the offended party forgave them)? Would similar principles apply to rape and murder? I'm a budding theonomist, so just trying to think through these things.
@katyalderton82698 жыл бұрын
Truth! Love it! Thank you! :)
@derekbackhouse26765 жыл бұрын
I was married before, my ex left me, I tried EVERYTHING that I could to keep her, but at the end she went to the loo at church and I never saw her again. The divorce papers came through on my birthday.. My question is, am I free of this or am I an adulterer?
@jorgekalkman27725 жыл бұрын
You have to remain separated! Unless shes dead you are bound.
@ncsojourner2002 жыл бұрын
That is not true.... You're not held liable for another's sin. You are not bound to a covenant if the other partner leaves the covenant.... God doesn't hold the dumped party guilty, he holds the dumper.... You pray, seek the lord earnestly, practice faithfully forgiveness & when they come to mind - bless them. Pray the lord will open their eyes,hearts to His word/His will.... I speak, "health , happiness, & prosperity, lord draw her back to you. Holy Spirit bring conviction & help her repent & truly seek you lord." Lord, I pray for reconciliation, your will, your desire & godly purpose for both of us.... ps138:8 "the lord will fulfill his purpose for me. Lord, your love is eternal;do not abandon the work of your hands." Painful, very difficult Painful walk when one you love & are in covenant with , leaves you.... Be aware of rejection, speak against the hardening of you heart, purpose yourself not to allow the enemy to distract or deceive you with "new" relationships.... Call out for utmost Guidance from the Holy Spirit...... Been dealing with this almost 3yrs, since the wife went the way of the world & stopped living with an enduring faith.... Col 1:23
@ParticularBaptist2 жыл бұрын
Stay true to your oath
@derekbackhouse26762 жыл бұрын
@@ParticularBaptist I did, I am now remarried, have been for 15 years.
@amandaweber45872 жыл бұрын
God remains faithful to his covenant even when isreal was unfaithful and left him.
@ThePowerOfFaithNetwork5 жыл бұрын
Divorce is a sin and God hates divorce and anyone who encourages anyone to divorce is a false prophet and is going to hell. there is no right way to divorce. divorce is a sin period and there is no way round it.
@jaymcmurdo55845 жыл бұрын
I think Jeff makes a mistake here, and it is this. He is still rooting Jesus' teaching on divorce and remarriage in the Law of Moses. I believe Jesus actually takes his view on marriage from a previous point in the Old Testament, namely the Garden of Eden, God's covenant with Adam and Eve. This is really clear in Jesus' explanations. Paul does a similar thing when he deals with Male and female relationships. See 1Corinthians 11:8-9 1Timothy 2:13-14. So the key passages for Christians are Genesis 2 and 3 rather than Deuteronomy. Despite this, I still really like Jeff and appreciate his ministry. I hate some of the judgemental comments on here. Blessings.
@westb10286 жыл бұрын
Correct, you still can’t be remarried unless spouse dies. Sad he gets that wrong. God can change anything, my friend.
@FullAutoApolotics5 жыл бұрын
1 Corinthians 7:10 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace
@cinnamondan49844 жыл бұрын
Ernie Ray Moroni 4:11
@philipbuckley759 Жыл бұрын
@@FullAutoApolotics not under bondage is not akin to not bound.....ergo, no remarriage...
@Job_Siciliano2 жыл бұрын
So what if another man goes into your wife? & your wife refuses to let go of this so called man? She prefers to be with him rather than you? You can give this wife warnings, but she refuses to listen to reason To God
@Mett-iv4es4 жыл бұрын
I am not gonna watch this video now. Jesus was clear... Divorce is a sin. I hope the clip is about that, right?
@philipbuckley759 Жыл бұрын
not divorce, the remarriage.....
@philipbuckley7592 жыл бұрын
divorce is not the issue.....the options are.....reconcile, or remain single....if one can not reconcile, one can remain single....
@gemsgiant2 жыл бұрын
The shadow of old law and the substance now coming is a great response to 7th day Adventists...
@pm52068 жыл бұрын
This is simple. Divorce is not sin, unless someone does it wrong (such as if a spouse burns food). Deuteronomy 24:1-4 is the answer. Divorce is unfortunate. It is sin if the divorced spouse remarries the spouse they already divorced. That is an abomination. Divorce because of hardness of heart is unfortunate, but not sin. Yeshua perfectly explains this if you know the Torah. No one adds or subtracts from it and Yeshua said all of it stands. He was asked this because the Pharisaic law (Talmud) says you can have premeditated remarriage. That is adultery because a man deliberately divorces his wide because he finds an attractive woman and marries her and then divorces and remarry so he avoids adultery. Obviously that is adultery because he thought about it, and remarrying the same person is detestable.
@philipbuckley7592 жыл бұрын
if they can not exercise self control they should marry, not that they should re....marry.....
@Kat_Just_for_Today6 жыл бұрын
If your husband is abusive to you and/or your children can you divorce him or is it still a sin?
@kevinzabihi37686 жыл бұрын
kat Just for today there is an excellent book on this called “Not under bondage.” Jeff Crippen, a reformed pastor in Oregon, speaks a great deal on this. He also wrote about it in a book called “unholy charade, unmasking the domestic abusers in our church. Short answer yes. But highly recommend reading the book, it is not a “liberal” interpretation of scripture, it is very faithful to the word of God and makes a strong case for divorce in the case of abuse
@jwill55485 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!!! Leave!!!! Stay safe and get out!
@mel8469 Жыл бұрын
Amen the LORD Bless you and yours forever.
@ContraMondial2 жыл бұрын
If anyone else is going through the comments. Durbin discusses the moral law of God and Matthew 5 where contemporary Christian’s mainly misinterpret the Old Testament law with an alleged “higher morality” of Christ in Matthew 5.
@earthwatcher20128 жыл бұрын
52:00 AMEN !
@richadruhe6 жыл бұрын
the jews were separated from gentiles by sacrifice, if the "holiness laws" are trashed than there is no sacrifice for others. Jesus, looking to Lev. says there is one cause for divorce. by this Law a man only can give a certificate (in the absense of stoning i.e. hardness of civic heart) for uncleaness. God forgive you if you make 3 + reasons out of one. Consider Samson who left his wife and came to find her and her family must have went to Westminster etc. but she was his wife. Paul nowere uses the word abandonment, he does suggest that IF 1, the unbeliever (in Christ) leaves the marriage (pagan 'divorce') they should not consider themselves bound. A man should marry a believing virgin who is subject and bound until his death. any creed or convention or legal theory that claims otherwise is trash.
@richadruhe6 жыл бұрын
multiply the reasons for divorce then chide ythem to get married...you really cant make this up?!
@philipbuckley7592 жыл бұрын
no one is.....stuck......1 Corinthian 7.10-11 addresses this...10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
@philipbuckley7592 жыл бұрын
except, is a word that means one thing, or reason.....not many....
@evanharris6722 жыл бұрын
Ok forgive my ignorance. I was married before I was a Christian, I was the guilty one in sin. We divorced. Can I get remarried now as a repentant believer?