Karissa and Adam, I love you guys and everything you are doing! I found you through the Spillover Podcast when your episode came out. I really resonate to Alex's experience and the fear, yet its slightly different. Thank you Alex for making what I assume is many of us, feel less alone. I didn't have a lot of exposure to Christianity growing up, but within the last few years, especially the last few month I've been drawn to Christianity. Within the last 2 months I left an abusive marriage, my ex was not accepting of religion either so outside of the abuse I don't know if it would have ever worked. Being 32, divorced, I have a lot of shame, I'm also afraid of never finding the right person. I just purchased my first Bible, its really overwhelming to understand and I feel like I have this "clock" but how do I become a Christian, have understanding and be able to find a suitable partner if I don't even know who I am yet with my walk with Christianity. But I'm determined to read the Bible in it's entirety this year, if anyone has and recommendations or help for new Christians feel free to let me know.
@dearyoungmarriedcouple Жыл бұрын
Aww, Ashley. So thankful to hear your determination to develop a close walk with God, despite your circumstances. There's a beautiful story of your life that God is writing as we speak! I would love to personally give you Bible studies if that's what you're looking for. Send me an e-mail and ask the team to put it in my personal inbox. hello@dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Much love to you! -Karissa
@ashinthewildd Жыл бұрын
@@dearyoungmarriedcouple thank you so much I would love that! Sending an email now 🤍
@sarahkessler2456 Жыл бұрын
So beautiful that you came to lean on God in your tough time. I see so many times people find temporary things to help them cope in the tough times. Also, reading the Bible is such a wonderful place to start in your journey in your relationship with God. It’s so simple yet so many Christians don’t fully read it. I’ll say a prayer for you tonight ❤ God bless you!
@marissawharton4084 Жыл бұрын
You could also check out the "Bible in a Year" podcast!
@susaneathorne1178 Жыл бұрын
Dive into the books of John and Romans
@Fawn_love Жыл бұрын
Seeing Alex break down and think she isn’t good enough truly broke my heart. I pray that she finds that peace in the Lord and overcomes that pressure she has put on her self. I pray that the Lord does bring her that man that will lead her and one day she can become a mom. Keep trusting in Jesus Alex and cast all your cares on Him 💖
@marciewilliams5233 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the great podcast… Alex I wanna give you some encouragement I’m now 60 years old… I was single at 30 a very committed Christian willing to wait met my husband at a friends wedding out of state in November dated long distance was engaged in April married the following January 1, 1994 at 31 I had my first child at 37 a son, and at 41 I gave birth to quadruplet girls yes that is four at one time and we did not do in vitro… my son is getting married this June at 22 and three of my quads are currently finishing up their freshman year at Grand Canyon University their sister went to heaven early when she was 7 1/2 months old… Being married to the right person it’s hard so it’s worth waiting for being married to the wrong person as a Christ follower can be heartbreaking… I think part of what you learned in this podcast time is it’s more important to be the right person have your relationship with God first and wait on his timing you don’t need to find the person God will allow them to find you keep seeking Jesus and if God wants you married you He will allow your paths to cross along the way… And my 22-year-old son‘s opinion is that if you don’t know in six months that you could marry someone they are not the one… dating is not meant for fun dating is a process of elimination towards choosing a mate for marriage… especially as established as you are and the men that you would consider should not need more than six months… Don’t waste your time! I will be praying for you! 🙏🏻
@Xx.bygracethrufaith7 ай бұрын
you have such a sweet story I hope she sees it
@chelly24682 ай бұрын
I’m 28 and single after a very bad 5 year relationship, just trying to heal and listen to God more. But it’s hard with all the stuff I hear about if you’re almost 30 then it’s too late. Or all the pressure about having kids idk. I feel so stressed after what I’m hearing on the internet. At 28, I feel like I might as well stay single forever. Especially because of all the problems with my vision and hearing, I made a decision not to have children, I don’t want to pass down these issues, they’re pretty severe. It’s so depressing and overwhelming ☹️
@abigailfwilliams Жыл бұрын
I see Alex getting married and having the life she wants and then writing a book about all the relationships and dating! It would be a great read.
@bradjenkins3146 Жыл бұрын
I was single until I got married at 42.. I still struggle with being very bitter. All the ministries I was involved in, all the offerings did not seem to help or get a move from the Lord. Married a lady from the Philippines. My heart goes out to all of you, I have been there.
@madvillainy68459 ай бұрын
42 for an XX isnt gonna work the same.
@alecandreacarey Жыл бұрын
11:12- this is the problem. Where it’s true men like variety of women, they only respect, settle down and marry one type of women; the good girl. Good girls are meek and don’t date much. I know it sounds harsh but stay with me. Men know if they want to marry you within the first six months of being together, they may not say it out loud, but they know by this point. Ask any man that really loves a woman he will tell you he knew even earlier than that. As crappy as it is, men will tell you what they want you to want hear if they think you will put yourself through it and most of the time you will. Alex is right about having this conversation only it should be within six months rather than right up front as that would scare any person away. Obviously he should be a Christian also. You can’t follow a man who doesn’t follow Christ. I give this advice with love because I truly care for Alex and the generation of women being hurt by damaging societal pressure to not marry young. The lie to sleep and date around. The lie to not marry young to one person forever. Young men arent committing and marrying women because they don’t have to. Young women have been fed the lie to not settle down until 30+ and to sleep around. Not to mention we have Egirls, who essentially pretend to be their girlfriend online, filling the void of a relationship. It’s a sad cycle. I’m 28 years old and just like Alex’s parents have been married to my high school sweetheart. I’ve been with him since we were 15. Im lucky and i never forget it. I have actual survivors remorse. It devastates me and breaks my heart to see what young women are going through. I optimistically see an end as young men are now realizing and changing their ways. Unfortunately, it is too late for most millennials but with God there is always hope. I pray for all young women and Alex also. she has a special place in my heart and I think about her all the time and pray God‘s will be done. Sending so much love! 💗
@Anonymousejfi3jdujejejdieo2 ай бұрын
Not true. I know plenty of women who were not good girls and had quite the reputation. They are happily married now to good men, have kids, and houses. I think at the end of the day it comes down to luck
@33Weiss Жыл бұрын
Oh goodness, I love Alex Clark so much. She cried, I cried, someone pass me the tissues too please! God I pray you bless Alex, that she learns clarity and understanding through Your eyes, that her walk with You goes deeper than before as she truly comes to understanding her identity in You. God continue to bless Adam and Karissa as they use their ministry to speak and pour into your children.
@amymitchell9985 Жыл бұрын
This entire session was just amazing. I’m so thankful to Alex for her vulnerability. I so wish Alex understood her positive influence on so many lives! Because of her podcast I’ve been cutting out seed oils, eating more red meat, and drinking raw milk. It has reduced my fatigue and mood swings significantly. In doing so I’ve been a better and more energetic mom and wife. I have really been walking aside Alex as she has started this huge health transformation. I pray that she will start a huge spiritual transformation and God will fill her with so much delight and take away all of her shame! She has so much value and worth. Satan tries to fill her with his lies, but God will prevail!
@letsuseourbrains7 ай бұрын
Girl! It's like you are telling my story! I adore you so much. I WAS there. And at 32, within a matter of months, got engaged and married to someone I knew for 2 years as a coworker and friend but had not even considered before. My therapist told me, it can change so fast. And it CAN. When you KNOW, you KNOW. You AND the man. You will find him. I truly believe God will give you this desire of your heart. Seek HIM first. It wasn't until I did this, truly put God as number 1, that my husband, who had been there all along, "appeared".
@MaxJones-dj5ub2 ай бұрын
So basically you hit the wall and had to settle for a guy who you had previously friend zoned because you couldn't get Chad to commit? Got it. Cool
@Lydia_grace_l Жыл бұрын
Oh honey, the ONLY standard is Jesus Christ. You lean on Him and look to Him alone! I will begin praying for Alex weekly 🙏
@Jharris1893 Жыл бұрын
Hi Alex, I understand how you feel. I just turned 30 in March. I thought I would have been married years ago. I am learning our relationship with Jesus comes first, no person can fufill our hearts the way Jesus can. I have been in the Air Force for 11 years, alot of times I have had men and women tell me they were initally intimidated by me until they got to know me. Sometimes success combined with a strong personality can come off as initmidating to men. Ultimately don't compromise your walk with Jesus to fufill a timeline that the enemy is trying to tell you. What he wants is for us to rush to get into a relationship, without waiting on the Lord. When we do that we end up out of Gods will. God can do anything, when God says its time for marriage and a family it will happen. The more we try to force doors to open, the more pain and heartbreak you can cause yourself. In the season of waiting, its the time to develop our walk with Jesus, the world will tell you just date until you find the one. Repeatedly dating different men can create more soul ties and more heartache. Jesus give us free will but, He is jealous over us, He wants us to Himself, He calls us to be seperate from the world. In todays world people say waiting is crazy or unrealistic, hope this scripture helps you. But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint” (Isa. 40:31).
@oneofmany70512 ай бұрын
I know this was done over a year ago as I write this. Just within the last week I happened upon a couple of YT videos from the channel called Fr. Moses. One was about how some boys don't become men and the other was how some girls don't become women. In the one about girls not becoming women, Fr. Moses talks about a young girl's relationship with her father and how it should naturally transition to a deeper relationship with Christ before then finding a husband. I thought it was interesting that something similar was mentioned here.😊 I was struggling with similar challenges in my mid 20's, things came to a head for me and I pretty much threw up my hands and asked God to show me what He wants me to do. I was in tears and just opened myself to God the best I could at the time. And that is when I started talking with my now husband. We were married a year later; that was 18 years ago. However, my faith deep dive didn't happen until about 6 years ago. God definitely called me to the deep. And my husband and our children converted to Orthodox Christianity with me 5 years ago. For me (and a growing number of others), the Orthodox Christian faith has allowed me to go to the deeper depths that once seemed so elusive. There is a richness - a treasure trove - of information and resources about God that no other religion can even come close to. I remember my first time going to an Orthodox Christian church and just simply BEING there was an emotional experience because I had never before felt that close to God. The spiritual journey I have been on since then has been quite rewarding. Are there still times of struggle? You bet! But now I have the tools and spiritual guidance to walk through those struggles because I know God is carrying me through them. I pray that anyone reading this opens their heart to God's will for their life. ❤
@kaylaballinger495 Жыл бұрын
I relate!! I've felt so many of these same things all through my 20's. At 31 and with PCOS I feel like it's going to be impossible for me to have kids, but maybe God is making it seem impossible so he can prove to me who's ultimately in control.
@megarakadmea9 ай бұрын
I hope it’s the same for me, I’m in the same circumstances you are. I just go through a process of perennially thinking this will be when I’m good enough and then going, “No, nobody will ever love me and I have to be ok with that.”
@jeffkooienga6515 Жыл бұрын
I'm viewing this episode from the outside looking in as I have young-ish sons and they are entering the dating / marry area of life, I love what they said about being in an intimate relationship with God. If we truly want the desires of our heart, surrendering it all to Him and knowing him first and foremost then He will truly give you what you want....but realize it will happen in His time, I think Alex is a wonderful young lady and ultimately God will use her in mighty ways and also give her the desires of her heart....trust in Him and trust in His process....He will take you there!
@Destinyirus278 Жыл бұрын
I relate so much to this. I expected to be married by 25, now turning 25 soon & I’m not even in a relationship. My life changed forever when I got a life changing injury that left me disabled at the age of 18. Since then all my “goals” & expectations that I had haven’t happened. It feels hopeless sometime.. definitely needed this episode it hits close to home ❤️🙏🏾
@NurseYolie Жыл бұрын
Everything she is saying is how I feel. So glad I came across this video.
@whitneyyoung8342 Жыл бұрын
You don’t have to meet that standard, it was finished on that cross, girl! As a married homeschooling mama I’m still repeating that to myself, a perfect husband can’t fix that feeling, trust me! You do fall short and you aren’t perfect, we live in a fallen world, but we can never meet the standard. That’s the point of Grace. We’re living in a fallen world and we have glimpses of what He has for us in our earthly life but we’ll never be enough, we can never earn what He gives to us through grace.
@terryteramotojr Жыл бұрын
Even though this was geared toward women I think this is valuable for us men as well. It surprised me how well I can relate to Alex and her struggles with faith and entering in her 30's still single. I will never understand how her ex boyfriend didn't feel the same time crunch in his late 30's. I must be one of the few guys out there that doesn't want my future kids to raised by a dad that's too old to keep up and play with them.
@nathan.d.c Жыл бұрын
believe me, the 30s are the age I'm dreading, as a single in his 20s. I feel like I'm getting nowhere with relationships and I feel like, by 30, I'm just gonna move on, because at that point, I don't feel like it's worth it.
@mrsmora4 Жыл бұрын
I am married and Alex...I still related sooo much to some of what you feel, even as a married woman. So, your episode did help at least 1 person. Thank you for this 🙏 I cried a lot but learned some hard truths too
@Destinyirus278 Жыл бұрын
Wow.. this hits close to home for me. I’ve legit been struggling with this lately. As my birthday is coming up, I’m kinda in a similar boat as Alex. I relate to her so much here.. I’ve been struggling about all the life goals I wanted by now, the fact I want to be married, I want to be a housewife I want children.. and it just doesn’t feel like it’s happening for me.. at the same time I’ve kinda stoped trying. This video hits close to home.. I’ve been praying about this lately & the fact this popped up on my feed is so crazy to me.. GOD is always here for us. GOD is good. 🙏🏾
@Jim5745 Жыл бұрын
Powerful and convicting episodes with Alex Clark. Rooting for her. 🙏✝️❤️
@LindsayCombs6 ай бұрын
Wow, Alex’s honesty is blowing me away. What an amazing woman!! God is using her & is shaping her story, moment by moment & day by day. ❤
@acengvivian4693Ай бұрын
This really is beautiful. What stood out for me was realizing I have that fear of diving deep into intimacy with God on my own
@mosoho Жыл бұрын
Can’t wait for the follow up to see how far Alex has come.
@abigailfwilliams Жыл бұрын
As an Apostolic cuteservative this has been the coolest thing to watch!! I love to see what God is doing through you Alex.
@Destinyirus278 Жыл бұрын
I wish I could give Alex a hug. But i appreciate her being so honest & vulnerable here. It takes so much courage. Ive struggled with a similar thing. Feeling like I’m being punished/ or feeling guilty for not being a better Christian. The fact I’m still single & then when I got health problems , and diagnosed. It’s changed my life, the fact I haven’t got better Yet, it feels like at times it’s karma or punishment for not being good enough person or getting angry at God & then feeling bad about being angry. I believe in God, I pray but I know I’ve been struggling with my faith which I’m embarrassed to admit. this video really felt like a message to me, it made me feel less alone & makes me realize I need to strengthen my relationship with God. So Thank you all ❤️
@dearyoungmarriedcouple Жыл бұрын
Oh, Destiny. ❤You admitting the struggle in your faith is the first step in growing in your faith. Clearly, He's nudging you in this season and through this video. Indeed, this is not just a session with Alex, but aired to help YOU, Destiny. Find that quiet place with Him. Please feel free to reach out if you have more questions about your walk with God. hello@dearyoungmarriedcouple.com. We'd love to come alongside you. --Karissa
@Destinyirus278 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for doing this video. It was so therapeutic for me, I relate so much to this and find myself in a similar position as Alex and feel the same way as Alex.. This felt like God was sending a message today that I needed to hear. God bless you all thank you🙏🏾❤️
@sarahclark4662 Жыл бұрын
We love you Alex! Our walks with the Lord all look different and it doesn't mean that Christ loves us any less. Those comparison thoughts are form the devil. Your walk changes as you get older. It was when I was seeking the Lord the most in my singleness when God blessed me with an amazing man. Truly, I did NOT SEE HIM COMING. I was so in love with Christ. My love for the Lord has grown even more since I got married too. My husband brings me closer to the Lord. Be patient and wait on the Lord Alex. Pursue Him and you will find that peace you seek. Praying for you sweet friend.
@ijc122119 ай бұрын
Alex is definitely being called into greater intimacy with God and the fact that she feels inadequate is precisely why He chooses her. Many prayers for her.
@iindseycantrell912 Жыл бұрын
I was crying right along with Alex. Great interview/ counseling💗
@NicoleRippy-zm9vw Жыл бұрын
This is such a beautiful session! I have tears remembering being about Alex’s age and feeling called and scared as well. You all did a great job working with her, and Alex I’m praying for you!
@Blahblah12445 Жыл бұрын
My husband always tells men it’s evil to “waste a woman’s prime reproductive years”.
@kellyakuhata2842 Жыл бұрын
It's more evil to be full of pride and think as if one can live without God.
@cd4playa12456 ай бұрын
It’s our evil culture that brainwashes young women into doing this. It’s not entirely these women’s faults that things are so screwed up. No one could have anticipated how insane the internet would make humanity.
@alan71033Ай бұрын
Alex calls the children hers not ours. Her man’s not gonna be in charge. It’s her babies, her baby food, her choices her ideas the man’s not the leader of her home. You’re helping her make a broken home.
@Blahblah12445Ай бұрын
@@kellyakuhata2842who said anything about living without God? Of course there’s God.
@Blahblah12445Ай бұрын
@@alan71033oh yeah wait until she has to grapple with her husband’s opinions. That’s such an important skill and makes the marriage work. It’s a team effort.
@NicoleWilson-rg8ix Жыл бұрын
It’s so beautiful to see Alex’s growth and nobly facing scary thoughts. You’ve got this, Clark…♥️
@camp2886 Жыл бұрын
Aww Alex! Like with any of my close friends, I am rooting for you and can’t wait to see you arrive at the moment you’ve always longed for! 💕
@Naefisk Жыл бұрын
Have you considered an age-gap relationship? My husband is 16 years older than me, and if I had written him off because of his age, I would have missed out on the opportunity to be in a godly marriage with a wonderful Christian man.
@Annasustar Жыл бұрын
This was so well done. Alex is a voice for so many women. I love the vulnerability this session showed. I don’t know if book recommendations are accepted here, I’d love to recommend Phylicia Masonheimer “Every women a theologian. Know what you believe, live it confidently. Communicate it graciously”. Alex you are a gem and I’m continuing to pray for you! You are incredible!
@alexasparling5553 Жыл бұрын
Alex we love you so much. God loves you SO much. You are called to do what God calls YOU to do, just because it looks different than you thought it would doesn’t mean you are behind or that God don’t know the desires of your heart. He knows you, he’s wept with you. I resonated with this so much, thank you for sharing your experience ♥️
@kellywinner3454 Жыл бұрын
My husband had an “age” goal /pact he and his friend wanted to wait until to get married … he always told me he wanted to wait until he was 30 to get married… and he did in fact wait until after he was 30 to get married to me 🙄…. We dated for 3 years prior to getting engaged… and then were engaged for a year until we were married… after we started having children… he did mention to me he wish we would have gotten married earlier because now he is going to be “older” when our kids are still pretty young….it is frustrating to wait especially for women but sometimes it’s worth it to find the right husband and father to your children.
@CM-sy3to7 ай бұрын
Dating for years is an absolute NO. If you don't get a proposal in 9-12 months, don't walk away, RUN away.
@laelkap Жыл бұрын
I LOVE Alex. I definitely do not think that this poplitics is her purpose for mothering. If anything I think the opposite, that she may need to dial that back in order to focus on faith & prepare & make room for the blessing God is storing up for her. I can’t wait to see where this walk and going deeper takes her. 🫶🏼💓
@The.Modern.Crunch10 ай бұрын
We love you so much Alex, I literally pray for you to find a husband asap! There are men who are ready, they’re out there. And sometimes it’s God changing their hearts weeks before they meet you.
@chelly24682 ай бұрын
I think Alex wants full control of the future and that’s impossible. I understand you can want a lot but a lot is in the hands of God. We have to listen and let Him lead the way.
@krivasn Жыл бұрын
34:40 that’s exactly how I feel. I want to believe I trust God, but in practice I struggle to trust Him
@ohamberboo Жыл бұрын
One of the most relatable and raw podcasts I have ever watched. I love Alex and can definitely identify with many of her feelings. And I absolutely adore the way you both counseled her! Truly see Jesus in you guys ♥️🥹
@madisoncrist938 Жыл бұрын
Awww cinnamon roll! This felt like they were counseling me directly! Thank you for doing this Alex.
@kemya8381 Жыл бұрын
I absolutely loved this and I truly enjoyed seeing Alex in this dynamic. It was so powerful!
@emptysoul50574 ай бұрын
Alex is smart and driven to achieve. That's why she has this show and keeps up with it. I had this problem too. I wasn't as successful but I worked hard bought my own house by 23 and I just knew what I wanted in life. Guys don't like that. My sister left home with a broken Honda, a piano and no plan. My sister was married and pregnant by 19. I wasn't able to get someone to settle down with me until I was 27. Guys like the ditzy girls better. Folks like myself who are not shy and are great at math and not afraid of much just aren't as attractive. But all that aside it's ok women come in all different varieties so never pretend to be someone else to get a man because pretending for years is too hard.
@megangilbert949 Жыл бұрын
This was so good!! So relatable!!
@caleynath26913 ай бұрын
“Seek and read from the book of the Lord: Not one of these shall be missing; none shall be without her mate. For the mouth of the Lord has commanded, and his Spirit has gathered them.” Isaiah 34:16 God has a very special man out there for you.
@hollyrae692810 ай бұрын
I was in the EXACT same place/feelings, then at 34 God brought me the man of my dreams. (Literally…I have had a crush on him since I was 16!) We always knew OF each other, but never really knew the other on a personal level. We started dating and were married within 8 months. If we had dated prior to when we did, it never would have worked out. God had to work in us first. It is now more beautiful than I could have ever imagined. I wish I could tell my former self not to worry and that God had a perfect mate for me, but we both needed to surrender to Him before we were ready for one another. Don’t lose faith Alex ❤️
@fb-yt4ul Жыл бұрын
Karissa and Adam - thank you so much for sharing this video. I’m a new subscriber, over from The Spillover! I loved and valued the vulnerability Alex gave to us watching, in this episode. It was so good to hear more about where her heart is at and it really served to endear me to her even more, as a faithful listener to basically everything she puts out. Praying for you both and for this ministry you have on here!
@YoungApostolic12 Жыл бұрын
Looking at these comments, it's amazing and encouraging! I hope the King's see just how many single people tune into their podcast though it's aimed towards married couples. So glad they did this interview and discussed singles topics!
@kellyakuhata2842 Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately it will do nothing to reverse feminism. Hopefully I'm wrong but I feel not
@bobbuilder528910 ай бұрын
I will tell you what these to knuckle heads won't You are single because you leave no room for him You picked out the names,you picked out the formula..etc Me,me ,me A family AND faith is sacrifice.
@etcwhatever9 ай бұрын
I noticed it also...she needs to try to understand the man.
@janeylynn59344 ай бұрын
Dani Treweek has a good book called "The Meaning of SIngleness." Discrimination against singles in the church is a huge problem, as most churches are primarily for families. Singles like myself are typically marginalized in church settings, which gets very old. I would encourage anyone wanting to know more about this topic to read Dani Treweek's book.
@deannapickman4867 Жыл бұрын
Amazing show! I related so much to Alex (even w/o being religious). Truly, thank you so much for being so vulnerable. I learned a lot too! 💕 🤗
@izzieluv Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤ I love you, Alex, and I hope you find a righteous man that God is preparing for you! I always thought I'd be married for at least in a very serious relationship that was headed that way by 21, but I wasn't. I found my husband at 24, I know, still young, but when I was expecting to find him before 21, I was starting to feel like I'd be alone forever. I know it can be so discouraging and hard to watch all your friends get married and have babies, and you're still just looking for a husband. I hope he's out there for you Alex ❤
@kelseymorrison2917 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this episode! I’ve been watching your videos for a little while and I was honestly waiting for y’all to do counseling for us older singles 😂 But in all seriousness, I truly connected with this episode. I’m 31 (almost 32) and I was feeling the same as Alex not too long ago. I turned 30 and everything settled in that I was not married yet, along with no family. However, a little over a year ago I decided to get serious about my relationship with God (even though I had grown up in the church) and He started showing me that He is all I need. Yes, I still believe He will give me the desires of my heart. But He’s just asking us to put Him first and to find the love we’re looking for in Him ❤ I hope that y’all will do more episodes with singles. I will admit that I’m curious to hear an episode about how singles should handle their sex drives. If you’re an older, single Christian, that can be hard to deal with when you’re trying to live for God. So I’d like to hear y’all’s thoughts on that subject. Keep ministering with this amazing podcast! ❤
@dearyoungmarriedcouple Жыл бұрын
Hey Kelsey! Thank you so much for the sweet feedback and for sharing you testimony. We did an episode a couple years ago with Kat Harris on singles and their sex drive (Feb 3rd, 2021). Look it up on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. :)
@JerzyG84 Жыл бұрын
Aww Alex, you are such a precious soul. God loves you. He hasn't forgotten about you and isn't punishing you. 🫂
@E-C_9613 ай бұрын
I'm 21. My mom had me when she was 44 years old. She thought that conception wasn't possible anymore, if you know what I mean, but she was wrong. She had my older brother when she was 30. Nothing is impossible! You might just end up a late-life-mama! The only thing that sucks about that is you'll be quite old by the time your kids are out of the house. Chin up! Best of luck!
@lovelife9448 Жыл бұрын
This was so good!! ❤
@davidjolley92719 ай бұрын
I can see dating for more than two years based on the financial end of the man; especially if a woman wants certain things from a materialistic perspective as a wife. And I think our culture of materialism is part of why men and women are not getting married and having children on a larger scale. I bet that many of the men that Alex Clark has dated was ended by her because the men in question did not meet up to her expectations. I do think it is still possible for her to get married, but after watching a few of her videos I can list out items as to why I would not ask her out and they have nothing to do with her looks or me having a fear of commitment, because I do not.
@DawnSimmons-sd6qj7 ай бұрын
This is the best podcast you have done.
@Addison737 Жыл бұрын
We love you Alex! What an incredible counseling session!
@trizanzor Жыл бұрын
John 14:21 English Standard Version 21 Whoever has my commandments and keeps them, he it is who loves me. And he who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him and manifest myself to him.” Philippians 2:13 English Standard Version 13 for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure. John 12:48 English Standard Version 48 The one who rejects me and does not receive my words has a judge; the word that I have spoken will judge him on the last day. Philippians 1:27 English Standard Version 27 Only let your manner of life be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of you that you are standing firm in one spirit, with one mind striving side by side for the faith of the gospel, 1 John 3:20-21 English Standard Version 20 for whenever our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and he knows everything. 21 Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence before God; Proverbs 16:9 English Standard Version 9 The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps. Jeremiah 10:23 English Standard Version 23 I know, O Lord, that the way of man is not in himself, that it is not in man who walks to direct his steps. Philippians 4:6-7 English Standard Version 6 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
@ShortGirlsClimbCounters11 ай бұрын
There is no such thing as a good Christian. We are all flawed, all sinful. You don't need to have a lot of knowledge to believe and go the heaven, it says in the Bible you need only the faith as small as a tiny mustard seed. You don't need to have the knowledge to explain all the hard answers, as long as you accept and believe all of your sins forgiven in Jesus' name and blood then you will be saved.
@ShortGirlsClimbCounters11 ай бұрын
In fact, I think what you believed before makes more sense. There is nothing we can do of our own to pay our way to heaven. If we think our own works or knowledge will get us there, we aren't truly believing or accepting that Jesus died for our sins. I think there are standards to live a Christian lifestyle, but you could be a horrible person, a murderer in prison even and accept and believe and go to heaven. There is so much fear about being perfect - it's really not about us.
@evanbalch2226 ай бұрын
Im about halfway through the conversation, but I’ll say as a 34 year old man that I think solid Christian women and solid Christian men (as in actually dedicated to developing their faith) are unfortunately not always in social circles that overlap. I even notice that they often like different types of churches. Both probably need to expand their circles and also give it a bit more time in terms of getting to know people organically in groups in order to see how prospective partners actually operate in the world rather than what they are showing you on dates. This way you can see more about their character rather than just how charismatic they are. My only direct advice to Alex would be to try and find a guy who is already actively trying to walk his faith journey, even if they don’t align on absolutely everything yet. Inevitably you are going to disagree sometimes. I say this because I see way too many women especially finding a guy who meets all other requirements and then he isn’t actually interested in his faith outside of the social club aspect and then she is rightfully going to be unhappy with him in that regard because that wasn’t ever something he was going to be serious about.
@ailene_e Жыл бұрын
This was awesome and very relatable. Made me wish I had a biblical based counselor as awesome as you two!
@yulias43823 ай бұрын
Alex, if you lived near by we could have been really swell friends. I like you and like what and how you stand for it. ❤
@Adrianam19947 ай бұрын
Alex, if the common denominator and the one thing you do with all the guys is say on the first date that you are dating for marriage. Maybe don’t say that to them but show them with your actions. Men want to feel like they are proposing to you that you have to choose if you want to marry them. They don’t want to feel like they are proposing to you cause they are just giving you what you want. They want to feel like they came to that decision on their own. Especially if they are saying they feel pressured then stop pressuring them verbally
@hypemuch3 ай бұрын
Trust me ,,,, marriage isn’t what you think ….. stay single ,,, you aren’t missing a thing
@bree1984shock8 ай бұрын
I feel like her church failed in educating the actual scriptures. Churches need to be educating teenagers on how to become a New Creation in Christ. Acts 2:38, Mark 16:16, etc. Truely understanding what it means to die to self, being burried with Him and resurecting to new life with Jesus. The hippy Jesus movement with no substance has left so many people without direction
@krivasn Жыл бұрын
32:00 they way Alex feels about her relationship with God is how her exes feel about their relationship with her 😮
@les876210 ай бұрын
Good catch!
@jennyaponАй бұрын
It doesn’t take 2 years to know if you want to marry the person you’re marrying. My husband and I are asked all the difficult questions first date and been exclusive ever since (now married). I don’t even think it take more than 3 months to be honest, most guys use this excuse to waste time for girls. Like almost a place holder, wanna have fun but no commitments
@marcelasolano56111 ай бұрын
Crying because I feel the exact same way
@kaitlynstroud9737 ай бұрын
Alex, stop relying on yourself to do good and be the person you need to be and just rely on the Lord to to that for you. We can never live up to the standard that has been set and that’s the point! That’s why we need Christ. Lean on him with your whole self and everything will fall into place. He has put you in a position that HE will equip you for, you cannot do it yourself. Love and care for you! Praying you find peace in your relationship with Christ!
@user-dr7bx3uo6z6 ай бұрын
Being single again after a divorce is very different than being single never married. I am divorced for a non-Biblical reason, so I can not remarry. I don't know that I would even if I could. Sometimes things don't work out like we thought they would, but nothing in life is guaranteed.
@curlyclouds9 Жыл бұрын
I feel you Alex. It’s like this weird hurdle obstacle that it’s hard to read scripture every day etc
@KaiserBP Жыл бұрын
She got the crazy eyes
@teatreaoil9667 Жыл бұрын
Her brain is wrecked by the high standards of Christians. Unfortunately she’ll never be able to feel like her faith is strong enough. And they’re saying work on your faith then you’ll find a man ugh.
@MariA-yr8kd Жыл бұрын
I loved this ❤❤ Saying this with so much love, but I think it would be less distracting if there was only one person interviewing Alex.
@Jacare19734 ай бұрын
Taking Jesus into your heart is not scriptural. It is false teaching. So many people are being misled by that teaching, thinking they are Christian’s. They aren’t. Acts 2:37-47 is very clear on how you become a Christian.
@alexbozza6139 Жыл бұрын
This is great! 1: we have the same name 💁♀️ 2: I also just turned 30 and she’s saying exactly what I think: especially about millennial men not wanting to commit without a certain $dollar amount
@tiarram5374 Жыл бұрын
Alex is awesome❤.
@timkellyD2R11 ай бұрын
As an attorney I want to encourage marriage. How else can we make our expensive car payments?
@Mila-kz8tt9 ай бұрын
Is that ethical to do public counseling ? To put someone's most vonerouble moments for everyone to see ?
@HeyitsJade6 ай бұрын
I’m 32…and I haven’t even managed to find a serious boyfriend. I hardly get past date 5 or 6. It’s honestly so hard as a Christian woman.
@whitneyyoung8342 Жыл бұрын
Just curious, do you have a mentor in your church?
@Daisymaysvlogs Жыл бұрын
❤ Alex
@RickabaughCoaching7 ай бұрын
Love you being vounerable here Alex. Have hope, there are good men out there looking for good women too. My 21 yr old son knows what he wants and has his stuff together and a lot of women his age are still in college or figuring stuff out so he’s patiently waiting too. But I also think we have to move that biological clock. I only took birth control for 2 years, and after the birth of my son, I’ve been eating and living healthy. I will be 50 in 2024 and I’m still having a regular period and my doctor says I’m not even in peri menopause yet 😮 If more women would speak out about having kids later in life, we all wouldn’t feel so rushed to have kids by 40. Can it be harder after-yes, but my little sister was born when both my parents were in their 40’s. No one talks about it much but if I knew I could have kept having babies until 50, I probably would have kept going vs my husband and I going for a snip in our 30’s and calling it a day because we were “getting too old” to have kids. As women we don’t talk about this enough!!! So i feel compelled to share with young ladies because I wish someone would have told me.
@Jacare19734 ай бұрын
I don’t know Alex. She seems very genuine. I would date her even if she’s younger with the intentions of marriage. Unfortunately I’m past the point of wanting children.
@Adrianam19947 ай бұрын
They need to tell her the truth; She’s coming off too strong/ desperate. It’s simple, Men want to chase !
@loveone4life3617 ай бұрын
Your a beautiful woman in Christ. According to the LORDS will may you have the husband Christ is preparing you for. ❤
@CM-sy3to7 ай бұрын
These counselors are going to theologize Alex into a life of singleness, childlessness and feminism while they are enjoying married life. Keep doing what you are doing, keep getting the same response. Give up podcasting and go teach children in a Christian school, pick up a church secretary job or other jobs of support and other feminine attributes.
@britt60846 ай бұрын
I can definitely relate to this. It sucks. I’m 31… I don’t want to wait & do work on myself to be good enough to finally be loved & married. Wtf lol I feel like why can’t I be good enough NOW like everyone else? I guess it’s not everyone though like I think I prob have worse issues than Alex. My bio dad left when I was like 2. & I’ve had mostly shitty relationships with player type guys.. just one legit boyfriend my entire life. lol kinda legit bc it was a long distance relationship with a guy in a different country for 5 years but I ended it bc of what Alex said… can’t wait that long & there was obviously a lot more to the story. Good to know I’m not the only one hating my single life… I’ve been single 6 years since my X & it feels like hell. Idk if I’m being punished either but I shouldn’t be… I’m a good person. Just sharing a little of my story since Alex was vulnerable too. We’re living in a messed up world I always thought my life would turn out differently too but I’m not giving up yet either. Thanks again for sharing
@richardgarcia1184 Жыл бұрын
There was so much in this podcast I related to.
@lynettepinson1745 Жыл бұрын
So why would God give the 1st prophecy if it would "appear" wrong. " For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints."
@haileykeller8357 Жыл бұрын
To be saved, all you have to do is believe in Jesus-that he is God, that he died on the cross for our sins, and that he rose from the dead 3 days later. To be saved and go to heaven, all you have to do is believe in Jesus. repentance and walking for the Lord and doing good works for the Lord are apart of the sanctification process-becoming more like Christ. But only by believing in Jesus are we saved.
@curlyclouds9 Жыл бұрын
You are a beloved daughter of Christ ❤
@myahill74759 ай бұрын
As long as men are getting their sexual needs met why would they be in a rush to marry unless they believed that premarital sex is a sin. There’s no way a celibate man isn’t waiting for his wife to arrive and wants to marry her.
@MaxJones-dj5ub2 ай бұрын
There’s no such thing as non-denominational. All Protestants are in a denomination.
@user-fu2ec1os9s2 ай бұрын
There are many passages that pertains to what a wife from God is, even in Christ. But Alex, a man will find a wife, when he seeks her in the Lord Jesus Christ.
@user-sw4yx6pd6p3 ай бұрын
She wants marriage, but does not want to be a traditional wife. If she dated like it was her job, she would be married.