Is Having An Open Marriage A Good Idea? (Pros VS Cons)

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Is Having An Open Marriage A Good Idea? (Pros VS Cons)

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2 жыл бұрын

An open marriage is when both partners agree that each may have sexual relations with others. But is it a good idea?
You or your spouse is considering the idea of having an open marriage, but you want to know what you're getting into before you commit to it.
So, what are the pros and cons?
In today's episode of Relationship Radio, we talk about whether or not having an open marriage is a good idea and give you everything you need to know before agreeing to this type of relationship status with your spouse.
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@barryc9115 3 ай бұрын

If your partner ever approaches you and even mentions opening the relationship, break up with them immediately, and if you’re married, file for a divorce immediately! 100% they are already cheating on you. If they aren’t physically cheating yet, they have been emotionally cheating and already have someone lined up….100% of the time! Just save yourself the emotional damage. They don’t love you, accept that reality and get out asap.

@42BETWO 2 жыл бұрын

Open marriage is a contradiction.

@corysmith3447 3 ай бұрын

How ? humans are pair bonding and not monomgous most want side affairs with one main partner

@howardjohnson2138 Жыл бұрын

I've been married to my wife for 50+ years and not only have I not tired of her, but think about things I wish we'da done a LONG time ago.

@GREGHIGGS1 Жыл бұрын

That's called life.

@corysmith3447 3 ай бұрын

@@GREGHIGGS1 Divcorve, cheating, abuse is life

@Gentilejedi 3 ай бұрын

Back in the 70s, my parents had a group of friends (married couples) that had a foursome. Two of them started meeting privately guy/girl and started having an affair. The one guy, friend of my parents, he came over the house, crying that he made the biggest mistake of his life, they managed to work out their marriage and stay together. But it did a lot of damage. My mother told me this several years ago.

@thomasjust2663 2 жыл бұрын

There was significant wife swapping in the phone company my father worked for, it seemed to foster a lot of divorces

@kenofken9458 2 жыл бұрын

I never realized it was a particular thing in the phone industry. In some historical accounts of modern swinging, it got its start among World War II pilots who tended to have short lifespans and so survivors would take on the wives or girlfriends of their fallen buddies.

@deborahrouse5644 2 жыл бұрын

If a marriage is "open" then IT IS NOT A TRUE MARRIAGE.

@kenofken9458 2 жыл бұрын

A true marriage is whatever two people decide it is.

@deborahrouse5644 2 жыл бұрын

No it isn't. Over time people have skewed the meaning of what marriage is, and your explanation is no exception.

@kenofken9458 2 жыл бұрын

@@deborahrouse5644 If it isn't your own marriage, you get no say in what it is.

@deborahrouse5644 2 жыл бұрын

@@kenofken9458 I won't debate you........

@deborahrouse5644 2 жыл бұрын

@@kenofken9458 I won't debate you........

@johnheart6890 Жыл бұрын

Short answer: No way..look at poor Will smith and his crazy wife- so much pain that it spills out uncontrollably onto others- no good.

@mikefawcett1982 Жыл бұрын

This video is spot on. Resonates completely, I need some help in navigating this conversation with my wife, as she wants it but I don't. 25 years together.

@MarriageHelper Жыл бұрын

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@johnengelbrechtnyjets Жыл бұрын

Divorce her immediately

@malingawoo 10 ай бұрын

She has already cheated on U or has at least lined up someone to replace u

@THunt-ss4hy 8 ай бұрын

Drop her. Seriously that’s a straight up red flag

@Hen-of-the-Month 9 ай бұрын

Thank you both for making such excellent content widely accessible! I've been watching your channel since I was engaged, and my husband and I recently celebrated three years of marriage. I go back to your content time and time again to help me reflect and re-enter myself within my relationship.

@xwritersobx3238 2 жыл бұрын

Getting a divorce currently from trying this

@JaredVonJared 2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear this, friend

@anonymoususer4866 2 жыл бұрын

Ive heard of people splitting because they tried this in their marriage. I think if someones going to have an open relationship or be swingers their future marriages can only be successful if thats the precedent that was set from the very beginning of the relationship otherwise feelings will be hurt.

@kenofken9458 2 жыл бұрын

@@anonymoususer4866 A lot of the time when I hear about cases where it split up a marriage, it turns out the split was already 90% complete when they went into the open arrangement. If you open your marriage in an attempt to save it after unresolved cheating or other deep and longstanding issues, it will fail. Always. That's not something inherent to open marriage.

@sarahalderman3126 Жыл бұрын

@@kenofken9458 precisely only you left out the fact that there simply is no other reason to enter into such activity.

@kenofken9458 Жыл бұрын

@@sarahalderman3126 There are many other reasons and far better ones.

@psychic644 2 жыл бұрын

This is an excellent video ! I 100% agree that open marriages are a no win situation. There isn't anything in-between. As a spiritualist, I see it at more the level of consciousness people are at. In many cases, they don't choose the right partner to begin with. Those who choose to evolve release bad marriages. They allow that cycle of their lives to end. In doing so, they grow spiritually. In time, they open to real love at a soul level. I see it as a much healthier way to live.

@felicitygrace5113 Жыл бұрын

Thank you. This is what I have believed for some time and felt inside of me like an inner voice. I have been on the journey of releasing and alechemising a past relationship and truly feeling the gradual spiritual shift and change in me.

@psychic644 Жыл бұрын

@@felicitygrace5113 Releasing is the most empowering thing we can do. It's the key to attaining genuine self-esteem! It wasn't easy for me, but I found was well worth it! Wishing you many blessings on your spiritual path!

@loveapureheart Жыл бұрын

As a spiritualist what do you think is the key to me getting a partner I can start a family with? I been depressed, anxious and struggling lately. I just want stability

@psychic644 Жыл бұрын

@@loveapureheart First and foremost is your relationship with God. Knowing your spiritual beliefs at a soul level for real. Being secure within yourself is a reflection of that Divine connection. This is how you create real stability within yourself. It is through your faith and trust in God. When you can do this you will attain peace within. You won't be anxious and depressed over not having a partner. If you can do this, you will naturally connect with the right partner in God's time frame. Sending you many blessings and much love!

@gc2161 3 ай бұрын

Being single is better. That way you can help married couples through their journey of discovery.

@EbbieBailey 3 күн бұрын

I feel like my husband is about to ruin not just our marriage but our entire family with his “need” for an open marriage. I don’t know what to do.

@kenofken9458 2 күн бұрын

I'm in one myself and happy, but clearly it's not for everyone. The choices are really two: Go along with it, which you do not seem inclined toward, or there will be a parting of ways (assuming he cannot be persuaded to leave off the idea).

@EbbieBailey Күн бұрын

@@kenofken9458 thank you for your response. I feel like even if I go along with it I’ll be unhappy, I’m sick of the idea of it alone. It seems like either way it’ll have the same result, losing my family.

@Jan-hu1hk Жыл бұрын

Monogamy has at least 50% divorce rate as well so its 50/50 either way, just life your life

@loveapureheart Жыл бұрын

Depends on the culture actually

@Jan-hu1hk Жыл бұрын

@@loveapureheart true but to say that monogamy is the only way that works isnt really true because monogamy cna come with many difficulties/problems as well. i think its best to just be open to how u feel with ur partner and be open minded and see what works out best for the two of u.

@gordonbecker1456 8 ай бұрын

I would take 50% over 98% any day

@BryonG9 4 ай бұрын

@@gordonbecker1456…it’s not 98%… where are you getting that from? Because that’s not true.

@barryc9115 3 ай бұрын

@@BryonG9 It is if they were opened later. If they started open they fail at about a 94% rate. Google is your friend. The stats are atrocious concerning open relationships.

@firsttbone Жыл бұрын

Relationships are changing because people aren't being forced or shamed into staying in toxic and abusive relationships!!

@kenofken9458 2 жыл бұрын

Open marriage has worked for me for a long time. I wouldn't have it any other way. If a therapist says they won't help someone if they won't give up "the lifestyle", that's an admission of their ignorance, not some inherent flaw in the arrangement. It's not for everyone, but for some of us it's the right way to live.

@deborahrouse5644 2 жыл бұрын

It's NEVER the "right way to live". If a marriage is "open" then IT IS NOT A TRUE MARRIAGE.

@christianmagno984 2 жыл бұрын

@@deborahrouse5644 spot on!

@dustinevans2223 Жыл бұрын

It’s like going to drug rehab and telling them you don’t want to stop using. How can they help you if you don’t admit that it is the problem?

@barryc9115 3 ай бұрын

It WILL fail…. Give it time. But it does have a 6% success rate.

@kenofken9458 3 ай бұрын

@@barryc9115 A 6% success rate is only a problem if you're among the 94%. I've been a six percenter for far longer than most people's traditional marriages I've known have lasted.

@user-oq2mx2pw9r Жыл бұрын

I send this to my wife ans she said it feels depressing

@user-ky2nu5zz1g Ай бұрын

Thank You!! Love from INDIA

@user-jw1bl4hq9j 7 ай бұрын

THIS WILL BE “ GOOD” FOR THE MAN THAT HIS CHEATING BEHAVIORS ARE NOT HIDDEN ANYMORE BUT THE WIFE ALWAYS RESENTS , ALWAYS EVEN THOUGH SHE SAIS SHE IS OK WITH IT .

@JA-jm8bk 2 ай бұрын

If monogamy is for procreation, then what's the logical thing to do after the kids reach 18?

@user-co8uy5rb2s Жыл бұрын

I do not think so.

@jesusalconero8447 3 ай бұрын

Un matrimonio abierto no tiene sentido y no tiene futuro, para no ser fiel, es mejor no tener pareja y estar a la caza de sexo exporadico, lo que también acaba siendo deprimente y agotador, no se puede querer tener todo en la vida, porque se acaba no teniendo nada.

@NS-ur5ss Жыл бұрын

Not sure where your getting your facts from regarding dopamine. The following example states the direct link between action and causation and not the anticipation as you claim. "Just as drugs produce intense euphoria, they also produce much larger surges of dopamine, powerfully reinforcing the connection between consumption of the drug..." - National Institute Of Health.

@gordonbecker1456 8 ай бұрын

Hookup culture has destroyed the relationship between men and women

@randystaller2366 2 жыл бұрын

No, it gives the wife a cover for the cheating she's already doing. Eases her conscience, nothing more.

@pinkahboo925 Жыл бұрын

All these things happens in "monogamous" (which no man does ever) so it's not worse to be open

@MarriageHelper Жыл бұрын

Hey @pinkahboo925, thank you for your comment. However, we disagree. We believe there is ALWAYS hope for a marriage no matter what. If you have had a bad experience in the past that has caused you to feel this way, we understand wholeheartedly. But there is always hope. If you change your mind and decide you would like to seek help for your marriage, we would love to talk to you and will always remain a safe place for you. You can call us directly at 1 866 903 0990 if you'd like to chat. Blessings,

@pinkahboo925 Жыл бұрын

@@MarriageHelper I can't afford you guys but thanks

@MarriageHelper Жыл бұрын

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@pinkahboo925 Жыл бұрын

@Marriage Helper yes I've done it, it's what helped me land where I'm at. It will always be hard times for me as I can't work the money is all his

@williamsummerville1295 Жыл бұрын

“Nature” in the western world… I would invite further clarification on marriage being identified between a man and a woman. Along with assuming marriage means monogamy. I have shared one of your videos (not this one) with a committed non-monogamous same gender loving couple and they have found marriage helper to serve as a great guide. I am their pastor. Clearly, you all have a niche for an unconventional audience.

@mustard4428 9 ай бұрын

This wasn't very helpful. I know what society generally thinks and that monogamy is the default. All of these pitfalls seem intuitive and not worth mentioning.

@gregorylatta8159 2 ай бұрын

Feminism!!!

@jessejames88 2 жыл бұрын

It's animalistic and wrong -- enough said. Any "Christian" who continues in this way is not Christian at all. God bless.

@dieselmonster 3 ай бұрын

Absolute mistake - dont do it...

@gordonbecker1456 8 ай бұрын

The delusion and pure selfishness it must take to bring up an open relationship with your partner

@sarahalderman3126 Жыл бұрын

I mean this is what all men want.

@randystaller2366 Жыл бұрын

Don't know where you heard that, but it's definitely wrong. Men want fidelity.

@MarriageHelper Жыл бұрын

Hey Sarah Alderman, thank you for your comment. However, we disagree. We believe there is ALWAYS hope for a marriage no matter what. If you have had a bad experience in the past that has caused you to feel this way, we understand wholeheartedly. But there is always hope. If you change your mind and decide you would like to seek help for your marriage, we would love to talk to you and will always remain a safe place for you. You can call us directly at 1 866 903 0990 if you'd like to chat. Blessings,

@THunt-ss4hy 8 ай бұрын

No… it’s not

@tongolele17 5 ай бұрын

Personal me i don't think so, i love my wife and to me love is loyalty, transparency, respect, and all the good things you can imagine that is good for my marriage.. If a married is doing well what to full with that and if you marriage is on fire wy to add more fire,,, all the people is doing this no matter how good you Explain thay going to tell you the opposite because thay just want to get away wit it thay will defend all this until is to late.

@gordonbecker1456 8 ай бұрын

Open relationships have a 98% failure rate. So I would definitely say no

@gordonbecker1456 8 ай бұрын

This is why cuckolding is by far one of the most confusing and heart breaking things ever. The husband's must feel like the most worthless thing ever