I know I have to be ok with uncertainty and the unknown but ocd looks for an absolute 100% answer

I came here for reassurance, and didn't get it at all! Thank you! You did point out that even though I been in treatment for a few weeks, I still haven't truly accepted the uncertainty.

Really great advice. Thank you so much. I'm being asked a lot about this on my channel and this really helped. You are bang on. There is no gay and straight. They're just terms that denote a leaning. OCD loves a "one or the other" view but it's not like that for most people. Homophobia terrifies us into thinking if we have any feeling for the same sex then we're gay and therefore our whole life is over and we get panicked. I love your description thank you so much this will help a lot of people. If you have anyone struggling with their sexuality please feel free to send them my way I mentor people and have a lot of experience so I'd love to help.

Really honest and blunt vid, what's been helping me so far was applying my own type of mindfulness. What I do for my mindfulness treatment is tell myself to put the possibility out there, for example, I had something happen where I was picking my lips, idk why, out of nowhere the thought of kissing a guy came in my head and I felt okay about it, then I thought "wtf just happened, did I enjoy that, am I gay??" what I chose to say to myself instead was "I thought about kissing a guy and I felt something, i felt good, I liked it, it could be false attraction or just the thought appeared in my head when I was doing something else, could be a compulsion I'm just overthinking, idk, but it happened, it is what it is" what I'm doing is putting the possibility of liking doing things with a guy out there. Even though it triggers me, and makes me feel like I'm coming out, I end up feeling better by not trying to constantly neutralize and not taking the thoughts so seriously, and what's funny is, you'd think saying that makes me gay, but instead, i thought about it less, and felt dumb for even obsessing about that, I guess saying triggering things like that for my mindfulness is accepting the possibility and accepting uncertainty

I get so much anxiety because of this but I know that I want to be with girls. That is what I actually want in the end. I started having these anxiety atacks once my ex girlfriend broke my heart and I couldn't think about other girls because deep down I steel loved her, but the tought about me being homosexual just started coming and now I only think about this when I panic, because in the rest of the time I know I'm straight, but what actually started this was the loss of the woman that I loved.

It started three years ago and I don't wanna diagnose myself but it gives me stress thinking of it even if I say I'm bi it just doesn't feel right. But it makes me second guess so much.

I’m a woman, and since I was about 14 (am 22 now) I’ve really tried to convince myself mentally that I’m a lesbian. I think it started when I was 14 and thought I was slightly attracted to a female and because I was raised conservative and Christian I thought that made me 100% homosexual, and I’ve spent the last 8 years or so sort of obsessing over that.

Keep it real. Thank you for that

When these thoughts first started to pop into my head it would give me mad anxiety but now after around 6 months the anxiety has gone. And it feels like the ocd is playing tricks on my mind and making me feel like I enjoy the thoughts

This was actually very helpful, thank you!

Hello guys, In my opinion this is the best advice you can get. When i read the comments below hOCD videos, it is all about, i have these thoughts but i love girls/boys and so on. The thing is, as long as you are scared by the thoughts your brain will do it's best to bring it back on you. Just because you THINK something, doesn't mean it is true. Learn to accept the thoughts and let them be there. When i have these thoughts i'm raising my arms in the air (in my brain) and say: I don't know. Maybe I am, maybe I'm not. I don't know! You won't figure it out in your brain. I tried it for six years and didn't found the answer yet. I was obsessed to find the answer and from time to time i'm still trying to figure it out. But a few weeks ago I had a big moment for myself. I honestly questioned myself if these constant questioning, answering and arguing with my brain brought me any assurance? Simple answer: No! I accepted the truth about this topic: there won't be a final question in my life, that i answer and everything will come to an end and i will be free of this shit. This is just the truth. So what can i do? I can accept the thought to be there. Maybe i'm gay, maybe I'm straight, maybe I'm bi, I DONT KNOW AND I DONT CARE ANYMORE. I am the boss of my life and i chose what i want to do and what i don't want to do. I'm in a committed relationship with the love of my life. Does this interest my brain? No! Did i try to explain it to my brain, that these thoughts doesn't make sense that it tries to convince me, that there is a chance i'm gay? 100000 times. Did my brain gives a fuck? yes. Do i get daily intrusive thoughts? Yes. Since I'm accepting the possibility that i won't know for sure, but i'm chosing to live MY life as i want, I'm doing much better. Just by accepting the thoughts, nothing will change in a bad way, it's the opposite: you will feel better. Another advice i can give you is to observe other intrusive thoughts you have frequently. For example thoughts about hurting someone or crashing your car on purpose. I do have these thoughts. What's the difference between me and a guy with harmOCD? Nothing but the fact that I DONT CARE and let the thoughts be there and don't try to figure out what that means for hours. Sorry for this long post. I tried to write down my thoughts about this and try to give everyone hope for OCD. LOTS OF LOVE from Germany

That one thumb down is from someone who doesn't want to accept uncertainty!! Brian is absolutely on the money here. He's instilled these same concepts into my brain where no one else could. If you want to rid yourself of this shit, talk to him. I mean it. I haven't felt the need to ritualize in months now.

hello, i just want to thank you so so much for this video. i experiences the start of what i very much believe was hocd 5 years ago when i was 15. i was watching a youtuber come out as gay and he said “i never knew i was gay growing up” and i had an unwanted intrusive thought of “omg what of that happens to me and i’m actually gay” bc i was never exposed to the idea of homosexuality until i was 14 so it wasn’t really something i had thought about. but a simple thought turned into a living nightmare. i would scrutinize and pick apart every situation determined to find an answer. i never had really thought about it either bc like i said i wasn’t exposed to it so i knew i definitely liked guys but what i didn’t know what if i liked girls. i would look at girls and be like “do i just think they’re pretty? do i want to do sexual things with them?” and it was a constant battle. i didn’t even know about hocd at the time and i didn’t even know that i had regular ocd until just recently when i realized i displayed a lot of the symptoms and it explained so many of my behaviors. which by the way, i have reached out to both my psychiatrist and therapist about this to take the proper steps i need to. but i’ve been doing a lot of research on ocd and i stumbled across a video about hocd which was a while ago while i was sort of coming out of the obsessiveness and learned to deal with it and it honestly triggered me and made me spiral back into a depression. because this woman was saying “ you are not gay it’s an intrusive thought thrying to convince you that you are” and i don’t think that that’s fair to say. because like you said everyone at some point in their life questions it. while ocd sometimes distorts your thinking and makes you obsess over something that may not be reality, it may be something you’re actually questioning but your ocd makes it more difficult to differentiate if it’s real or not. i was brought to a therapist and she said the same thing. that sexuality is fluid and that men who claimed to be straight later in life turn to same sex relationships. and i totally agree no one is 100% one way or another. she said that i am so young bc at the time i was 15. i have not been in a relationship so she said i won’t have a better idea of it until it happens. that was the moment i did exactly what you said to do. i stopped trying to find an answer and i just let myself feel how i felt. and through that it helped me realize that i do have a sexual attraction to girls. i am not sure about an emotional relationship with a girl but i keep myself open bc if i was to catch feelings for a girl, i would not deny it and i would be in a relationship with her. your message is really important bc once you accept that it could be a possibility, it opens your mind up to new opportunities and ideas. i think the best advice i can give is be with who you want to be with. and don’t try and put a label on it. trying to label my sexuality with ocd was so damaging. so tonight i was looking more into ocd and a video about hocd came up. because i learned to overcome it i was nervous something would be said that would trigger me. and sure enough there was. NOT YOUR VIDEO BTW. they were saying “it’s all a lie, you’re trying to convince yourself you’re gay but it’s not true”. but going through hocd and sitting back made me realize that i actually did have some sort of attraction for girls beyond a platonic stage, and that i was actually suppressing those thoughts. and if i’m being honest i’m still not 100% sure how i feel and THAT IS OKAY. and i am SO SO HAPPY that you made this video bc when you said “just because it’s an intrusive thought doesn’t mean that the fear isn’t true”. i started crying out of relief. bc by not accepting that it’s only fueling the fire and accepting that that could be a possibility and that it’s okay not to know, and that I MAY NEVER KNOW was the GREATEST THING IVE EVER DONE FOR MYSELF. i’m letting myself go with the motions. and it may not be the same for everyone. it might be just an intrusive thought, it might be denial, it might be both. but whatever it is it’s important to know that no matter what just be true to yourself and you will feel so free. i felt so pressured and trapped and those videos of everyone saying “it’s not true, it’s a lie don’t pay attention to those thoughts bc you’re not gay” only made me feel worse and i was starting to question everything again thinking like well now do i think i have an attraction to girls bc i brainwashed myself. but then i came across your lovely video and i am so happy i did! i’m so sorry this was so long but i wish i had seen this when i was going through it bc this would’ve helped immensely and it helps now bc like i said those other videos really invalidated the fact that i let myself be open to the idea in order to free myself. so thank you so much!! i’m sorry this was so long but i just wanted to thank you especially for speaking on a topic that is barely talked about. bc i thought i was losing my mind when i was going through this bc i had no idea this existed and it is such a lonely depressing feeling. so thank you so much!! and i’m sorry this is long but i appreciate you and this video!

I'm queer and I've always known this and when I came out it FELT right but I've recently started having obsessive thoughts about gender identity and I can tell you both of the feelings are different. So take it from someone queer with possible OCD, if you feel like you have OCD, you probably do because that's what your gut is telling you.

This was an absolute eye opener, thank you! This all started for me over something incredibly stupid and just an intrusive thought saying I was lesbian for two days after I couldnt eat or sleep and then for around a week after I felt amazing and that I had indeed healed, it came back in full swing but this time its a lot more different, it's not just a fear of being lesbian but I keep imagining taking part in lesbian sex and my mind is telling me I'd like it.. what confuses me here is that I don't know if its jusy an intrusive thought or a real feeling? The funny thing about this is that when I first had the thought I forgot until then it came back... if i forgot the thought that easily does it mean its insignificant?

i have a lot of the hocd symptoms but my situation doesn't really match up to any of the comments i've read on videos about hocd just to clarify, im a 14yo girl, and most of my friendships when i was a kid were with other boys, and in my life i only had 2 crushes on boys (ive also had a lot of boy crushes in series and anime, but i dont know if that really counts :/ ), and bc of that, a part of my brain tells me im lesbian, but most of my life, i felt "closer" to boys, and the thought of dating another girl just isn't for me. i just want this to stop, im scared that i might be lesbian and my parents will hate me, but ive talked to my mother and she said she could never hate me, no matter what, but it still makes me scared. now i cant really imagine myself dating a man or a woman, it just looks like i dont feel attraction to anyone, i dont know what to do anymore :(

you helped a lot thank you

I have HOCD and TOCD, I think I'm a straight man, but the OCD won't let me know for sure, it makes me feel like I don't know who I am, or worse, I could change into someone I'm not, a gay person or a trans woman. Ive been struggling with this for a year, it all started during a shrooms trip I should've never done, I thought I was going to get raped by a gay guy during the trip, luckily I didn't but during the process I asked myself "what if I'm the gay one?" I thought about it and decided I was straight, but the drugs wore off and the thought never went away, it wouldn't allow me to decide. A few weeks later I was scrolling on my phone and noticed the voice in my head got higher pitched, I then panicked and asked myself "what if I'm trans". I still struggle with both types of OCD, as well as PTSD, anxiety and depression. I'm just starting therapy now with OCD specialists, after a year of hell. I know this is against the point of this video, but I hope I can figure out who I am, I need to know if I'm a man or woman, gay or straight or somewhere in between. Don't do drugs, I was perfectly happy being a straight man before I had that scarring shrooms trip and now I'm stuck in an endless cycle of questioning who I am to the core. I need this to end, I can't take it much longer.

I have been suffering with this off and on. Since I was 22 because some guy was trying to get into my pants by telling me that I may be a closeted gay or bi. Long story short I loooove females. I dont care about that, I truly and already know. But eventually started to look at gay porn and never liked it. But there were two times I forced myself to climax to gay porn. Dont enjoy the material and sometimes I was crying and made myself climax. I have been told by therapists and psychologist that it was due to physical stimulation. When I did this it mentally scarred me.

That was eye opening holy shit

This has been reassuring, its about accepting. Acceptmkng that there is no answer because the question is pointless because my brain has is chasing security in knowing. Honestly, I do know and I'm not! but still my brain craves something I can't give it. In many ways it's like being in a hamster wheel constantly chasing but never reaching a destination.

I have been having anxiety and I’ve been having obsessive thoughts about being gay because I don’t want to be gay at all but I keep having the thoughts

Hey Brian, Can I message you? Been suffering for 9 months and I´m loosing my mind.

How do you test yourself, on where you are in a spectrum, to be honest, i'm not intentionally reassuring myself, but i've never felt bisexual or gay in my early years, sexual orientation is fixed right of the bat, i naturally feel comfortable towards women and get repulsive towards men,

I think I may have TOCD but I really can’t decipher if it’s that or I’m actually experiencing dysphoria. I feel like I am dysphoric but what if I’m tricking myself I need help.

This all started when my neighbour knocked my door who’s a lesbian so I thought in my head are u attracted to me or what if your attracted to me so I asked myself what does this mean why am I thinking like this does this make me a lesbian now so for weeks I couldn’t eat or sleep I’d cry all the time but now I don’t get anxiety anymore about it the thought is just stuck in my mind and it feels like denial when Iv never ever questioned my sexuality if I try to do erp imagin the worst things I just don’t get anxiety or butterflies I’m confused 🙄🙄😩

My mind is totally gone crazy, my hocd is getting worse and worse. I know that i am straight with all confidence but still is disturbing i am totally depressed.

I always get this thought that I must do an experiment on some guy just to conclude what is happening with me. I also get a thought to date a guy but when I actually think of doing that i feel depress that how can I even think of that it's like after every 20 min I somehow get this thought though i dont want this think to happen.....i dont know what to do....is it a symptom of HOCD or I'm just not try to accept??

Brian, my psychiatrist has given me anxiety medication and I feel the anxiety decreased a lot since then. Nowadays when I do the ERP I feel less anxious and the groinal doesnt come. Should I keep doing the ERP? Obs: I’m also been counselled by a psycologist and I do understand that I can’know for sure I’m straight.

Sometimes I think I am growing as a Straight man. Many, many times, people said to me that a I “had something”. Now, I can see a lot of things that I disagree. My behavior can be seen as a non straight guy, but in my thoughts the physical contact with other man is gross and completely horrible. Think about it do not mean that I have other sexual orientation, but mean that I can reflect deeply about it, even it been terrible for my mind. Life sometimes is hard!

Hey Brian, a short question. How do I know I am not Reassuring myself while doing ERP? Because ERP is only possible while anxiety is around. You need to be anxious. I am not anxious anymore after ERP but sometimes still do this kind of "ERP" but it became more a ritual so see if something happens down there. I am only focused now on the groinal response, the thoughts, images or else don't bother me anymore so much. What shall I do?

hi! well i just wanted to drop my story and how i’m getting better. at first, i got reminded of the time that i thought i had liked a girl, when in reality it was more of a friend crush because i didn’t feel anything romantic nor sexual. thing is, i didn’t know it was a friend crush and i told her that i ‘liked’ her. in the end, that same day, i told her that i just wanted to be friends because i really didn’t feel the same way on how i feel about boys. this was just a moment of my life, i was 12. before and after this, i’ve always been attracted to boys. i basically forgot that 7th grade happened as a whole because i felt like that was a phase for me (no hate to the lgbt community!) it’s been 5 years and now the memories came back. at first i thought i was questioning, but the thing is i’ve never looked at a girl in a romantic/sexual way and i was never into that stuff to begin with. i remained close friends w the girl and she even came out as a lesbian. she came out two years ago and i was really supportive of her as a friend since i was really boy crazy. i started taking quizzes when this all started, they all came out as straight and i felt satisfied but then the doubt and the memories came flooding in? i even asked my mom if finding girls pretty made me gay because i was really depressed. she reassured me and said no, and 14 days later i told my parents about hocd. they dismissed it as hormones and being honest, after telling me i felt really good after but the thoughts were there. i’ve been feeling better but due to real event ocd along w hocd it feels like hell. after 3 months i slowly got back my attraction to guys so now my doubt is whether i’m bi or not. i have bi friends and i absolutely love them but i simply don’t see myself w a woman (my ocd brain just went ‘um wym? this happened’). at this point it’s really annoying and i know that they’re not true, but they’re just in the back of mind right now:/. i really wish to get therapy but i’ll have to wait till i’m of age because my parents think that the thoughts are gone since i’ve been going back to normal. i’m sorry if i triggered anyone! i just really want to get married to a guy and have kids w him;( and not w a girl

And also I acted on it and before you know I thought of a woman instead and I still felt guilty about it it’s driving me crazy I hate this false attraction I just want it to end but now my mind is like “you’re ether bi or gay” but I know I’m straight been straight my whole life I just want this to end and does it mean I’m gay please help ?

Hey bro as i asked before can u make a video on step by step to recover from (SO)HOCD ... i m sure many of your subscribers would need it

I am a 17 yrs old straight male and I am dealing with hocd for 2 months and it just convincing me and now I feel like I lost the attraction towards girls but I knew how much I loved and get attracted by girls but now my heart starts beats faster when I see a boy because of fear and I am feeling very ashamed and guilty so, I couldn't speak to a boy with eye contact. I am crying daily pls give a solution.

I've been better when it comes to this and I just started accepting the thoughts and letting them come and go but what bothers me is that i feel like with any problems characters have in books or a show the problem relates to me. I don't know if thats ocd related but honestly whenever I do think about being bi it just doesn't feel right and I wouldn't wanna spend my life with a girl Does that make sense or does it make things worse

So I’m straight and I have liked girls for my entire life and I still do, I have never been sexually attracted to a male but I just have obsessive thoughts of fear of being gay even though Ik I will never it’s just obsessive thoughts that are a pain in the ass and they are on and off and just for clarification I am straight

I’m not sure if I have hocd or if I’m just a huge over exaggerating, I’m a 16 yo male dating the girl of my dreams and I love her so much, but sometimes my brain randomly asks “am I gay” knowing that I’m not gay and never will be, and I get mad at the question because it keeps reappearing in my head repeatedly, and I than i get mad at myself because why am I questioning my sexuality knowing that I’m straight

This video was a trigger for me lol

I'm sorry, if my grammar isn't that good (I'm living in Germany and I'm 14 years old) About a week ago I thought about kissing a man, but it didn't disgust me. Since then I have questioned my sexual orientation. When now I'm seeing a man, I'm thinking: Would I want to kiss him? Before these thoughts came I've never been attracted to men, only to women. I fell in love with different girls. I just want to go back in time. Now this feels like depression: things I used to have fun with do now seem worthless; I feel worthless; I have to cry; I'm avoiding contact with men, even with my brothers (It was also hard for me to click on this video, because you're a man); I'm not productive -> I'm not good at school anymore; I can't eat that much; Sometimes I can't sleep; Days feel like weeks; The thoughts about being gay feel so real, that I think, I'm gay. I asked in several forums for help. But all of them said, that I'm just bisexual or that I'm too young to know my sexual orientation, which made it even worse. Now even I don't know, which sexual orientation I have. I'm scared, that I'm just denying my actual sexual orientation. I'm always looking for answers on my questions, but I can't find one... I will have to get professional help. Well, It's good to know, that I'm not alone.

Can hocd come in bouts. All they sudden they started in 8th grade then idk they kind of faded. Then they were triggered by reading a book in school abt someone coming out and a couple weeks later I read about hocd and intrusive thoughts and worked on accepting them and then they went away. Then a year later I was watching a show and someone came out and then I remember thinking a girl on the show was pretty and basically the thoughts have come back and I feel very trapped. I feel like I used hocd as an excuse for the real truth. Every time the thoughts come back they r more real and believable and in between them and before they started I always liked guys and never questioned it. I really don’t know if I have hocd or if I’m using it as an excuse for the real truth. The thought of having to date and marry a women and do that stuff with her grosses me out and makes me sad and scared bc it does not excite me. It’s not the life I had always dreamed about and was excited for.

I've had HOCD for 1 year now, and after all those months my mental state has been destroyed. I went from mentally strong to completely broken and I don't feel straight. I feel completely bisexual and I've got the false attraction too this is just too much for me now,

would you say that your hocd is cured ?

Do people who are in denial, and are fully aware of the fact that they are, try and get help with ERP or try and pass it as HOCD? or do people with denial not even want to think about it at all so just put the thought away

I CANT know. I will never get my assurance!!!

Is this approach to HOCD similar to the gender fluidity thing, I am trying to forget my past thoughts and not think about my future, and live with the fact that I may or may not know my sexual orientation, and that that is completely fine.

Please everybody here look up Wim Hof breathing excercises. I’ve completely eliminated my ocd and anxiety by doing these meditation techniques and taking cold showers in the morning. The benefits are way more than just no OCD. I have so much more encouragement , energy, and soul power.

Hey bro, i have OCD growing up and since last year it got worse. I had panic attack due to an incident that occurred and i fainted and hit the back of my head( but not very hard). I couldn't remember anything around that time but i do know when i got up everything was black and everything sounded very loud. After that i stuggled with health anxiety and religous OCD. But lately since the start of this week i have been struggling with thoughts saying i am gay when i am not attracted to men but women. It started very randomly and has been giving anxiety alot but now it just has me confused. I never had any attraction to any man in my life and literally the day before all this started i was attracted to a girl that i know. Now i get these weird constant thoughts sqying i am gay and thoughts trying to convince me i am when i don't want to. I am very confused and bothered by this. Does this mean i am gay? Beacuse i don't want to be with a guy i want to be with a woman. I always find it gross seeing two guys together. I don't ever get aroused at the idea of gay sex but i do get aroused by women. But since this started it has been hard for me to figure out.

It sucks I can barely deal anymore. I need to talk to someone who has this. I can find girls sexy or hot but I do not desire then sexually and could never be with one romantically. I’ve been diagnosed with ocd and my mind can just not settle on the what if.

is feeling sick normal :( I've had this for 7 years, I'm 23 now. I use to be so attracted to men and loved intimacy , but now the thought of that just makes me feel sick 😭 this wasn't an issue until the start of the year 😭

Is it okay to still label myself

I say this without hesitation, if you're suffering with HOCD, just work with Brian. My HOCD got really bad right after I got married. I live in NYC and theres plenty of OCD help here. Honestly I spent thousands of dollars and made no progress until I skyped with Brian. He's in a league all his own and I can't thank you enough Brian for giving me my freedom back.

I have been having these thoughts about the fear of being either bisexual or gay for about 3 years, and I hate it. I talked with a few therapist and when I talk about this I get the feeling that they evade my questions and it makes it worst. It makes me feeling like I am inventing all of this and it is not worthy of their attention , or being in denial. Am I suppose to talk to a specialist?

How about I’m my case all the way till I was 19 when hocd first came into my life I had never questioned my sexuality if anything i was the man among my crew cause I always got the chicks I was a pretty boy with an attitude and that was a magnet for chicks and I live it and enjoyed it never before that night did I question sexuality I lived women. (Which night are my referring to)? You may ask well it was a night I took 2-4 pills of ecxtasy and smoked like 7 joints back to back. That day I had what I now know was a severe panic attack I do t know what the hell was happening to me. So I decided to just sleep it out. But when I woke up the feeling of fear was still there and all of the sudden the question came into my head “why do I feel this way? I’m I gay or something and boom 24 years later I still suffer from this but it’s been. So long that I actually forgot what it felt to live without this thought so now I just think I’m in denial even though I’m married and have 4 kids. By the way I’ve never been with a man sexually and I don’t feel like I want to but yet the though won’t leave me in peace. To the point that I act weird around other man I forgot how to mingle with other males and I just come across as weird or gay. I feel like everyone thinks I’m gay. But me it jUst crazy shit. I don’t even know how I have live this long like this without taking my life God knows I’ve thought about it. It sucks because you can’t talk about it with anyone with out them thinking you just need to come out because you are in denial. But I feel like I come across as gay to everyone and I always walk around with Shame and numb

I have a question, can HOCD make you have sexual thoughts about the same sex, and try and convince you that you like it, or is it just because you are gay?

i did your gay porn exposure and now i feel much better but i dont know how many times do i have to do it.. everytime i had an urge in the last 3-4 days i did this exposure and i feel that it has become a ritual as it kicks my anxiety away (and lowered a lot my sex drive because of too much fapping).. should i stop doing it ? am i doing it wrong?

What do you think about those therapists who use the "paradoxical intention technique" saying to someone with OCD that they're in denial...and they should try it...may be they're gay". It took me years to overcome that conversation. I have been talking to a lawyer about it now that I'm in the proper recovery process, because that's a destroying statement they must not say to someone with HOCD. If this happens to you, if your therapist says you're in denial, use the law.

I have this and I’m openly gay. Like I think about being gay allllllllll the time. I’m obsessed. And I try to get more feminine too…idt this is just for straight guys I think gays can have it too

Yesterday I convinced my self as a gay I feel comfortable and having arousal. And i watched gay porn it feels good for me. And I'm planning to download gay dating App for the first time. But after a minute i feel like I don't want to be gay. I feel disgusted to my self. I feel like I betrayed my self. I don't know if I had a HOCD or just i'm just indenial .

I used to love women all the time and stuff but after having ocd for a few months I noticed my loss of attraction and arousal for them and it gets me. scared. What should I do I know im straight still but what should I do its killing me.

Can you just randomly stop doing compulsions? I used to google all the time but I stopped doing it.

Long story short you may or you may not accept the uncertainty and don't dwell on that question, play videogames or something idk

Can you get better without treatment? I can’t afford a therapist. If I tried my best to occupy myself with other hobbies and tried to escape the thoughts, would that work?

I love you bro

Hey,just wanted to ask,have u been suffering from hocd?

i dont know if im just in denial. i dont like i thought i hope. i just dont want to be gay. PLZ JUST MAKE THE THOUGHTS STOP. i fear that i am attracted to women. can it just plz stop. PLZZZZ

@OCD mindful I guess HOCD is a condition. For example a man wants to be in a relationship with a girl but is way too shy. He focus on porn and unfortunately he goes in same sex porn cause he wants to be as good looking as them. Emotionally he likes it cause they have characteristics which he wants to have although he is straight like good body, active in bed and maybe a long ... This causes that the brain is focusing on men. This is the point where the crisis begins. Sometimes looking a good looking bodybuilder and then a drop of precum comes out which makes the situation more horrible. The best thing is not watching any dirty material. Be self confident and make sports like boxing. This can heal hocd.

Sir i am 18, I always loved girls. Watched straight porn. I have been experiencing hocd since 3 months, Now i don't find girls attractive like i felt before, now i don't feel the same for a man, but i get this thoughts and anxiety

How would you describe yourself? I mean referring your sexual orientation?

Are u saying that hocd can be a actual representation of your sexuality? Could someone have hocd and denial? Like denial, but more obsession on it? I’m a bit confused about what you mean.

Do hocd causes tocd??

What if it feels so real

man when it began i was going to burst but i maneged to change my beleifs about homosexuality , and what was ensan is that i was in love with a girls , but it couldn't stop me from having this beleif that i was gay (WTF) , so i started doing teste 3 time per day, i tried to watch guy porn ( icouldn't even see start anny video , well even the pictures) so fuck it used what we call a deken technique (By anthony robins) i changed the belief that homoseuality exist and linked to it to musch pain ( it helped me the porn , sorry but i was so discusted that even now i can't even think about beeing guy) then replaced it by new ones , it helped me a lot , but i seteled down RDV to treat it.

can hocd happen at any age

If only our brains could convince us of positive things rather than just that our ocd ferar is true.

I've had sex with the opposite gender and I genuinely enjoyed it. Yet, the doubts are still there. I've tried watching gay porn as ERP and felt no arousal. Then I tried watching the opposite of that and felt aroused. But the doubts are still there. Is it denial or HOCD?

Are you a licensed therapist?

Can HOCD come from trauma

I think I may be suffering a bit of HOCD with Brian, he's hot 😊

How do I know if it’s hocd

I'm straight but keep having unwanted gay thoughts

Go back to your father, man!

I have been straight for as long as i can remember , i have dated only men I’ve even been in love 2 times and they were boys , my crushes were always boys as well , I’ve never experienced any thoughts of being lesbian growing up , now I’m almost 22 and i am engaged to a man , I was happy bcs I’m getting married to him , but i started having these thoughts a few months ago at first I managed to forget them 85% but i started avoiding looking at girls pictures fearing it would make me lesbian , i tried the sexuality tests on google to prove that I’m straight , i almost completely forgot about it but yesterday i started having these thoughts again i had a panic attack when i was sleeping idk what to do, FYI i have struggled with anxiety and ocd and i had a lot of thoughts that doesn’t match my beliefs, but i always managed to be happy again at least for a short amount of time , what do i do ? I can’t tell my fiancé because I’m afraid that he will hate me or stop loving me , should I visit a psychologist? Or am i really a lesbian? I ask myself if I’m really a lesbian why did i always enjoyed my relationships with boys why my crushes were always boys , i am really confused i don’t know if I’m straight anymore i started doubting my sexuality , am i struggling with hocd? What do you think? And can sexuality change over time?