Girl MJ, you knew it deep in your heart that Tom wasn't deeply and madly in love with you but you still believed that he probably will eventually. The lack of loving in his body language with you throws the biggest clue. I myself had delusions with a wrong guy, he said to me 'I thought we were just killing time' and that was when I ran away! Fast! I felt ashamed of myself for not listening intently to my gut and my heart. I took on a solo backpacking to heal and focused in my career, put solid bricks to protect my wall (my heart) then a man came. He followed me abroad and did every possible way to make me feel loved and wanted. Married with him now for 10 years and loving him more and more each year. The heartaches were so worth it because it led me to my husband. I hope you find your full healing MJ.

Misleading title. You're back home cozy in bed. You've moved on a bit or a lot since you're able to talk about the past with smiles. And with a friend's support who somewhat gave you the will to talk about this topic.

You deserved a good man…a much better one.Tom is not a family oriented like you, Tom dont want commitment. you are a very responsible loving woman that deserved more better. Were always here to supporr you. Stay happy, blessed & safe.

I won't say anything bad about Tom but I knew from the beginning that he didn't value you as highly as you deserve. I know he had reasons for going home, but he couldn't have done that if he loved you as much as you deserve. I'm so happy that you are mature enough to realise that this is a huge step forward for you. Have faith, you will find the RIGHT person and so will our friend, Tom. I pray you both find happiness.

🌴🌴< < < TOM SEEMS SO MUCH HAPPIER NOW. HE HATED IT THERE. > > > 🌴🌴

You're not alone Meljean. I, myself are on the same process of healing and self-love. First, I've thought that this could be really hard as I'm not even know how to start to love myself. Not until I realize that self love is choosing myself more than anyone else. All the things that I thought I can't do such as eating alone, travel alone, sleep alone in a hotel room, do things alone, I finally did it and never been so happy. During this process, I learn things about myself like what do I want, what do I need, and what's the best for me. I was never been in love with myself until today. So this time, we should choose ourselves, fill our inner child desires, make time for ourselves, be kind to our selves so we could be complete and whole again. We got this! Laban ra jud ta diring dapita!

It's Tom's loss, not yours. A better man with different life goals will come along and recognize the treasure you truly are and will give you the place in his life you're deserving of. ❤ U.

Breakups are hard to deal with. Things will get better over time for both you and Tom. I'm sad to hear that you both went your separate ways. I will suggest to the both of you to take all of the time you need to heal. there is no need to rush things and both of you are still young. Enjoying life. I wish the best for you and Tom both.

I think you and Tom just caught each other at the wrong time. He's still young and wants to travel and quite frankly he isn't done playing the field 🤨

A little woman with the biggest heart!! You have a much wonderful life ahead M J... you really do. May the creator continue to guide and protect you always and forever. Much love MJ.

Feeling ko dahil na din yan sa mga comments na ang daming cnasabi about tom na wla nmn talaga tau alam sa totoong nangyayari. Hoping na maging okay din ang lahat. Hoping for the best for both of you

Who cares, you are one of billions of people. Not that important.

Although it isn’t our business. But this is good news. You deserve so much better. You’re an amazing and beautiful person. Take time for yourself. God has a plan for you.

M.J. You are the most positive person you need someone who will take care of you. Someone who not so young. Anyhow, take care 🙂

I understand. Something happened to me many moons ago like you were just going through. The good thing a few years later, I found the right person, and we have been married for 40 years. Things happen for a good reason. Trust in God he has a plan for u.

MJ Tom probably didn't like living in the Philippines anymore but I knew that breakup was a long time coming because too many family members were involved in your relationship. It seems like you and Tom never really had a lot of privacy because family members were always walking in and out of your house all the time. Tom as a foreigner I am sure was not used to that type of life and it seems to you are a family person. MJ that's a good thing and I can see you have a good heart and wants the best for your family but if ever you are in a relationship with a foreigner again please please don't have so many people always walking in and out all the time because the relationship won't last and you would be heartbroken again. MJ this is good advice I am giving you I am not coming from a bad place and I feel for you. With time you will heal and find love again. If it's God will that you and Tom be together again try and have more privacy in your relationship or even go live in Ireland or some foreign country if you want to. MJ May God heal your heart and bless you with true love again.

Napresure si Tom noon kasi sa tuwing may upload sila both sa bahay ni Mj, commentors are saying "WHY DON'T YOU PROPOSE TO MJ" and other phrases na mag asawa na sana sila ..blablablabla..which is , hindi pa ready yung isa sa ganun plan.. nasense ko na yon last year pa na baka nga kumalas ung boy dahil sa mga comments lagi na ganun.then ayun na nga😅. dedma nalang, kasi ung tipuhan ni Tom , ayaw pa talaga magsettle. Sana ate Mj, makahanap ka na ng truelove po pero don't rush.. just enjoy life lang.Silent viewer mopo ako.Ngayon lang ako nagcomment po..hehehe

Just find an older man with a good pension that you find attractive that can love you and your daughter!

You will find a better or just the right man for you MJ in the end. As Filipinas we are very religious, you just need to pray for the right one and you will find the right one. Give time to heal and continue praying for the right man. The Rosary prayer is a very good prayer, just an FYI.

His loss in All honnesty, you Are a beautiful individual and an amazing woman ❤️....if I was in toms shoes I'd never let you go 💕

I already knew, I didn’t like him anyway I was supporting because of you. I can tell from previous videos he seemed annoyed by you. There is other fish in the sea girl glad you healed now you can move on and find the right man for you.

Bata kapa Mel marami kapang makilalang lalaki sa mundong ito:) ako 36 first time kong nag ka boyfriend sa tanang buhay ko at finally nag meet na kami last year :) pray ka lang gali na mahanap mo yung totoong tao para sayo:)

Hate to say it, but I saw it coming. You will be fine/Keep your head up.

BEHIND THAT BRAVE BEAUTIFUL SMILE, THERE IS AN ELEMENT OF HURT, BUT YOUR LIFE WILL BLOSSOM LIKE NO BODY'S BUSINESS, WISH U ABUNDANCE HAPPINESS N LOVE, GOD BLESS U MOMENT TO MOMENT, TAKE CARE, STAY BLISSFUL ❤️🙌

Hello Meljean, enjoy your family, enjoy your life. You are a beautiful young successful woman.❤❤

I already since that things did not work when you go home alone after your last trip together.Its really difficult to be in a relationship with other nationality when we are stiil younger.Ive been tbere too so i understand it.

tks god MJ, got rid of that crook who never loved you from beginning, only used you....MJ you are our star, we all love you ....❤ stay strong.

Its for the best for u to broke wt him he is not ready yet for any responsibilities n of course your still very young one day u will find a better guy in ur life....

I'll be direct and blunt. If what you said the "wall" is really high up, it's a clear sign you had been hurt badly (not referring to physical abuse). That's how human protect themselves from getting hurt again. Anyway, all the best in meeting your future true soulmate when you are able to remove that "wall".

i am a person that believes what happens is ment to be, when one door closes anouther opens hang in there it all works out for the best

Life is the same in every country with relationships, some make it some don’t, you’re a survivor. ❤ great content

I didn't know, because I'm not a subscriber of his. Ever since I heard him saying private info that should only been between you two on your channel in a video & saw your reaction of disapproval. I will now start watching your vids again knowing I won't see anymore scenes of you being disrespected.

Someone out there is for you MJ & you deserve the best because you’re the BEST🌼💜🌸

I think you deserve someone better. God bless

I'm sorry you and Tom didn't work out.. but it is what it is, will continue to watch both of you guys because you guys are both amazing people.. Wish you nothing but the best 😊💖

Breaking up as a couple is not always about hate, some relationships just are not ment to be. His goals and yours do not align, it's very simple to understand. I do hope you do not build those walls to high, after all life is short and living it alone is not what people are ment to do.

Greetings from Laguna Beach , California. When the right person enters into your life you’ll know. You seem to be a very nice person. Enjoy life , family , friends life is way too short.

no one is surprised about Tom leaving...and no one cares..go look in the mirror and see who you really are?????

You know, most of the time it happens for the better. Me being a male foreigner here in the Philippines went through the same and at first it hurts but you start to realize with time it's ok and move on right. The next one will be even more amazing. Obviously if it didn't work it wasn't meant to be. Keep on smiling and always be happy.

I'm sorry it did not work ..

I kinda figured you guys were gonna go your separate ways. Tom is too much of a free spirit. He want's to live full time in Thailand. MJ is very family oriented and I don't believe she can be away from her family for long periods of time. You have deep family roots. That's not a bad thing. You both are just on different paths and life goes on.

When you're ready to start dating again, there is going to be a long line of potential suitors. Good luck!

MJ time to focus on yourself and do what you love.

So I guess you just didn't like Tom that much otherwise you would have aligned your future with him, right? Usually women expect the man to be a protector, provider and a leader in the realationship, so therefure it's logical for the man to expect the women to at least follow and cooperate.

Jean its a good thing that you surpass on things that you have been processed. I notice when the last time you left Tom in the hotel and return to Cebu. Just be happy am here for you to support on things you need to do. Take care always on your travel and endeavor your hard work. Focus on your moto and goal in life. 😇

It's all good. There's no need for you or Tom to explain yourselves to anyone. It's really nobody else's business in the first place.

Hi Mel. I knew it all along. If the love is not there from him then it's time to move on. Ive watch you both and not once he didn't kiss you infront of the camera. You will find someone that will adore you. What's not to love about you. May you find your soul mate. God bless.❤❤❤🙏

Just now I know that you're separate with Tom until I watched this video ..I'm so upset because you too are amazing couple 😢😢😢

🤣 You Reap what you Sow 🤦🏽‍♂️

He’s not for you.. that’s ok. Just DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY!! 💋💖🌷👠🥰

Finally … she said it! No bitterness! Everybody can now stop harassing her! It was a process - on how she can emotionally go on while her heart is grieving. She vested more than 100% but it was not reciprocated. The lure of everything carnal (night life, women, drugs, you name it) is in a place, Bangkok and not to MJ. I guess, in retrospect, it was not LOVE, at all from his point of view. On one hand, he showed her “do things for yourself” and she did. Now, I am more excited in her solo travels and people she will meet along the way! The Irishman labels himself as a traveler, a roamer - he’s NOT! The only travel he knows is Thailand for obvious reasons! Well, well … Shakespearean drama - “all’s well that ends well!” But first, most anticipated for me is … Vingle’s wedding! When will it be? And the Paris trip! MJ, make ur contents more exciting with upbeat music! But I am hedging my bet on - Japan, South Korea! GOOD LUCK, MJ and Godspeed! You are still blessed!

You can tell with his body language if the man madly inlove with you

The joy of being a KZfaqr....Nothing is private 😭 Sorry to hear. Hope you will find your happiness. Enjoy life! 👍🏻

Meljean I become your fan for sometime. I became distraught when I saw Tom distancing from you. But when you changed your face and had gone on plastic surgery, dear o dear, ang Filipina beauty na wala na. Being a tisay or to aspire to be a tisay with a perk up nose, that's not beauty. You were so beautiful as Filipina, gorgeous gorgeous gorgeous, you look like a Pinay doll, who' face is unique, para kang pinay manyika. Representing how beautiful ang pure Filipina. i was saddened na pina retoke mo and ilong mo. Please don't be angry, honest lang ako. You are more gorgeous goddess sa Pinay looks pa kayu, ang ganda mo, ang sexy mo . Sino ba kaya ang nag influence mo na mag ganyan ka. It looks na mature agad ang hitsura mo pag tisay ka na at common naman ang tisay look pag nag tatatrabaho o nag work ka abroad, common lang yan. Ssa pina pinagtata-as nila ang Tisay looks, pero mga histura ng artista ordinario lang dito sa labas. Not all tisay looking girls are appealing. But anyway, whatever beautiful ka pa rin, but I prefer ang tunay na pinay beauty mo noon. I'm thinking yoon ang na apekto kay Tom, na iba na ang hitsura mo. We need self confidence talaga, to all girls out there na gustu mag pa retoke, hwag sirain nyu ang real beauty nyu.

WOW I AM SO HAPPY SPECIAL FOR U SMART LADY GOD KEEP BLESSING AND UR NEW CARRIER ,AMEN

The only thing I ask of you MJ is always keep smiling and never ever lose that beautiful spirit you have🙂 Stay Blessed 🙂

Thank you Meljean for sharing this but as far as I'm concerned, you never really needed to. It's your personal life and you oh no one an explanation. I'm glad you're traveling and enjoying yourself. You are always the star of the channel and I will continue to watch and support yours. 🙏 For your continued success and well-being

It was obvious that it would not work out. Tom loves to travel and you are both very young.

I knew it, because it tells on his body language especially when you are in Philippine and going to Vietnam. I watched him thru his moves toward you. Is not clingy nor romantic towards you. move try Filipino, foreigners are not always the best, and speak pilipino for godsake. being Americanize in the Philippines is not really well known like before.proud to be who you are.

I was very sorry to see your despair, loneliness. Pay attention not to words, but to actions.

You have such a beautiful accent that does not sound Filipino. My wife is from Manila and we have been married for 5 1/2 years. We have a 3 year old son together. We pray for you always! Be blessed in Jesus’ name. Amen!😊

I know that when an opportunity comes you have to jump on it, especially in the case of a young Filipina and a foreigner. But maybe you should take a note from Hanna, Chrissy K’s sister, and find a man who is willing to marry you Not someone who just keeps you dangling, because if that’s the case then you are disposable. Don’t get involved with a person who will consider you disposable.

Sometimes God's blessings are not what he gives but what He takes away, meaning God has better plans for you, God bless you more take care 🙏😇♥️ xoxoxo 😘

We are over it already. We miss Bubba but lets move on. Less drama and narcissism would be much better for your videos.

Humble person like yourself MJ God will bless you with a caring and loving person, You have a strong belief in God so he will bring a right Guy for you dear. Trust in the Lord dear. Right Guy will come at the right time. Bless you dear. Sending love from Auckland Nz. Take care 💖💖💖💖

It was obvious..Tom was not ready for a committed relationship when he left during the beginning of building your house. He's young and he wanted to travel the world..meet people..fall in love in every port until he's done travelling. I was surprised he came back to the Philippines after the pandemic. Go MJ..travel and fall in love in every Port too. The world is your Oyster.

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When one door closes another one opens up Mel… I think once our head is out of the clouds, we realize that what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. I’m happy to see that there’s been no negativity about each other. That speaks volumes about you both!

I think everybody here has gone through a breakup. It's not a big deal. We all move on eventually. Then we use the lessons learned in the next relationship. Good luck with your new life and keep looking forward.

I wish you the best in Life MJ. I was told once that, "not everyone that comes into your life is supposed to stay. They are only there to teach us things we need to learn." This was one of those times. 🥰

Live gos on, great memories with Tom. Enjoy life is too short.❤

That's good to hear.. he doesn't deserve you.. so unresponsible... You deserved much better..

I recall seeing him the first time and in 3 seconds said "Nope!" & "This won't work." I have no idea what caused you to go for that, he is light years from who you should be seeking...I hope you've learned.

Hugs dear lady. You are loved and admired. Be well!

I believe most of your viewers or subscribers already know. Viewers can tell that you and Tom's own YT channel don't mention about each other and with the titles of some of your recent vlogs. My opinion is you guys are probably not meant for each other and glad you guys figured that out at early stage of your relationship. LIFE MUST GO ON.

Heartbreaks are always tough! Everyone's had that one guy who doesn't know it's his loss, not yours. Just remember, your beautiful inside and out, and you're worth it! As the saying say, when one door closes, another opens! Expect that new door to reveal even greater wonders and glories and surprise. Take care and God Bless Always!

I felt that he could have been kinder, more affectionate, I felt you deserved better. I hope that you find the love of your life. I am not being negative, just saying that I wanted you to be happy and loved. He just wasn't the one

God will provide you the right man for you in Gods time OK take it easy Meljean.

It's Toms loss, Yes, I understand will find someone else, you are such a beautiful honest person.

Thank you MJ. You have a wonderful life ahead of you and are truly blessed with a great family.

Mj every thing has a reason your in pain now it's natural and you are hurting but as time goes by it's going to be the best thing that ever happened to you God's protecting you good luck in life

A very brave young women, the journey continues....new dreams begin♥️♥️

I absolutely knew it was just a matter of time and I called around 4 to 6 months ago when he came back to visit and was helping you put the tablecloth on the table at your house he seemed very distant a lot of us said he seemed very disinterested something just didn't seem right about him so unfortunately I knew it was just a matter of time but it's nice to hear you're doing well and you still say good things about him shows your quite a good person.

Your a very sensible girl wish u all the very best in life

Sorry to hear that, I think social media has a lot to do with breakups, its gives people a false sense of security...I just hope things work out for the best.

MJ, sorry to hear that. Stay strong, live goes on. Wish you all the best.

Sorry to hear this.

I had my suspicions. I know he didn't like living in the Philippines. I'm sorry, I know breakups are hurtful and hard to deal with. You seem to be taking things pretty well.

Red flag was his lack of love & knowledge about the Philippines. When I met my wife 12 years ago I have not spent a day not researching history, traditions, cultures, languages of the Philippines. That man belongs back in the West. Find a good New Zealand guy that respects Island culture & the many things we have in common, singing at parties being one of them 😁 Not a guy that needs to tell the world about his relationship matters to the world, that is nothing short of repulsive & shows his respect for women in general & making a dollar out of the publicity is just horrid.

I mean...since you have such a strong audience and career here, you probably don't really need a foreigner husband anymore. Good luck

Look at it as part of self growth and experience of love. You are young and beautiful May god bless you and keep you safe 💞🇮🇪

MJ, smile sweetie smile!!!!! Well gorgeous, where are ya taking us now?? Going to love it wherever it is!!!

Very nice explanation. I was sure it was over but it was not my place to ask. For quite some time I felt it would not last. I did not feel that Tom was up for Province life. After i saw the vid of you two going for a shower at the well, I knew it would not last. Haha Sorry it did not work out. If I was younger I would come to help you along. Haha Keep up the good vids. I always look forward to seeing your bubbly nature.

I was ready to cry 😢 with u ..but u didn't .. better things come for u.🙏 ..

May be Lord God have good plan for you MJ .God bless you always Amen 💖🙏🙏🙏

Gosh Tom needs to grow up, he can’t just keep floating around bars for the rest of his life. He’s going to regret this.

CONGRATS, MJ - another milestone! 135K!

Better off without him MJ! Tbh it seems like he wasn't really into you anyway. So many many more better quality partners out there for you!

That is the reason I always be telling every woman and girl to watch out for the man you pick because when they are through getting what they want then they move on to the next one

Hello Jean, noon pa man napansin ko na hindi sya talaga inlab sa iyo.. naicomment ko pa nga yan.. sorry to hear, pero mas maganda na din siguro that's you're separated..