Maybe there's a part 2?

@@okamiangles7121 I sure hope so

Oh this isn't the only vid in this series ! Or I guess not the only reaction to this subreddit. Maybe it's in an older video? I think the other vid where he reacts to this is titled "The Cis Straights Are Trying (Not To Be Transphobic)"

@NonGrata fashionable vile abuse, that’s interesting. Do you mean men like you colonising and appropriating womanhood, screeching and crying to come into women’s spaces while mocking, threatening and harassing us?

So if Sex doesn't exist, then why in the hell are Trans people attempting to become, and be unquestionably perceived as the opposite sex? Make it make sense, please.

I hate humans too

@@mr.x2567 It was great that my friends threw him out of the party. There are some good ones

@@ArtemisPearl I hope that person had to walk home from your party in heavy rain and a high wind and that they dropped their phone ten times on the way.

Which is why I identify as an emotional support demon. 😈 In all seriousness. That is f*cked up. That “learn to take a joke.” Thing is so stupid and frustrating. 🤦‍♀️

I swear, some people think that saying it’s a joke is a social free pass. And yet if someone said a similar thing to them, they would be appalled. This tells me plenty of the content of their character, which is they are cowards, and completely lacking in emotional intelligence.

They think being gay and being trans are the same thing except that being trans is like gay ×2

Gosh, I'm non-binary transitioning ftm and people seem to assume I'm into women all the time and like... I'm only romantically into women, but not sexually, and I literally thought I was bi because of the assumptions of others. It's wild.

Brilliant, so you told them you're a woman and you're attracted to women, and they suggested that instead you be a man attracted to men.

You got the letter squad. And then there’s me with the demonic looking profile picture. But seriously. That “you’re not gay if you’re trans” thing was always a question I had before finding out I was a trans female myself. The answer being “does it matter?.” But yeah. That tripped me up for a couple years. 😅

@@mrcattoonist4766 gay x2 omg that’s hilarious 😂

Exactly, being queer is just as much of a choice as your skin color or eye color, you're just born as the person you are, nothing more to it

@Stripes Hi. I’m 41 years old. I fought too long and hard to be proud of being queer for someone to tell me it’s a slur, thanks.

@@bigjedimullet So what is it then? What does it actually mean?

@Stripes I call myself queer. I’ve been called slurs. Even if it was a slur in the past, I’m sure older queer ppl in the community take back the word w pride :)

@Stripes the word queer has been “taken back” by the lgbt community. Not comparing the 2 situations of course, but in terms of how words developed, it’s similar to how only black people saying the n word is acceptable If an lgbt person says queer, or a straight ally who is obviously not being insulting, it’s all good man - am a bi trans man

Ugh, yes... You go, nonbinary internet friend! I'm not a masculine woman either - I'm genderfluid between being a feminine woman and a masculine man. My mom is surprisingly understanding, saying "we all feel like that, inside." 😳

​@@LilThreat88lol, sounds like your mom could benefit from some reflection 🥚🏳️‍⚧️

@@MuseofIago I know! She's a cute egg

satan loves u 😇

It's them who apparently cannot fathom that feminine afab non-binary people and feminine trans guys exist.

Yea I get that! I’m personally lesbian, but I identified as bi for a while. It always pisses me off how ppl assume I like women just because “a man hurt me” like bruh-

the only person who turned me gay was Maleficent from Sleeping Beauty and that’s cold hard facts

Right? They need to stop giving men so much credit.

@@bigjedimullet Maid Marian for me

As a pan person I do sometimes say about myself that I'm tired of one gender because of multiple mismatches in a row tbh. But I agree, that doesn't mean anyone "turned me gay/straight".

bbbbbbbbbut the universe centers around me 🥺

As an actual tomboy, I get told: why cant you just be non binary? You cant win either way

Most tomboys don't have the *personality* of a man beyond the superficial interests anyway.

@@MateoLeibowitz- you forgot the whole paragraph of "b" before the "b" and after the "b"

Yes! This, right here!

Fine. What difference do they think it makes whether they believe in trans people or not? It's not like the trans people need their permission or approval to exist. Oh, I guess this was someone assuring you that *you* are alright but there are some LGBTQ+ people that they are still bigoted about. And you need to know that for some reason.

Yea- that’s-

Exactly! Either you accept all of us or you don’t!

So… am I like Santa? To these people? But I’m also gay… sometimes they can see me but sometimes they can’t? /j (Also, I’m trans non-binary for context)

What? Gay is a sexual preference trans is claiming a man can be a woman why do they have to be somehow connected ?

There's no point in being anything you're born as, I was born white with brown hair and blue eyes yet nobody asks me what the point of me being white with brown hair and blue eyes is, there's no point in me being trans either, I'm just like that cause that's how I was born

People saying “cis” is a slur is like saying “heterosexual” is a slur; except “cis” and “trans” have nothing to do with sex or sexuality of course.

That's right Rose.

Except for the whole synthetic Hormones, and the surgery shit.....Right? In reality, you are a money supply for Big Pharma.

@@keirfarnum6811 you genuinely expect the bigots to have more than a second grade reading comprehension?

it's funny. 8 years ago, tommy asked everyone to call him thomas. no one has even mistakenly called him tommy in 7 years. people change their name all the time with no problem. hell, i officially changed my name to my childhood nickname. it's ONLY a problem if tommy would have wanted to change his name to tammy.

@25centprodigy Can't get the obvious in your dome? Go straight to the home!

Your parents are speedrunning going to the nursing home.

They just want something, and then try to excuse it with all of those bs excuses

@Zwodder based XDD

I really resonate with 3 year old you there. I always hated mirrors as a kid, it never looked like me in the mirror. But I was always told that autism and sensory processing disorder can distort one's perceptions to not align with reality, and by about 8 I knew quite deeply that even my mother wouldn't believe my version of events as anything more than "I recognize that you perceive it that way" if it didn't match her perception. So I just... blamed a lot of things I now think could have been gender dysphoria, on distorted perception and sensory processing disconnects and general appearance dissatisfaction common among tweens and teens, because I had no idea what I wanted to do about it or how to get anyone to believe me at face value.

trying is all we can really ask for. always prefer someone who is confused but cares over a transphobe

More people need to learn that you don't need to understand someone's identity to respect it

I know it’s hard and probably frustrating at times, but the fact that both you and your grandma are trying to understand each other gives me hope. I genuinely recommend watching a movie called “Glen or Glenda”, directed by Ed Wood. It’s not a competent movie (the acting is terrible and the writing is clumsy), but it’s *remarkably* progressive and compassionate. It tracks both someone who’s a “transvestite” (we would probably now refer to them as non-binary or genderfluid) and someone who pursues gender affirming surgery. Yes, it was made in the 1950s so there are some very wrong assumptions about mental health, sexuality, and parental influence on gender presentation, but it’s mostly pretty accurate and it does take the stance that, yeah, trans people just happen in nature and should be treated like human beings.

I get people being confused about the LGBTQ community, especially with the trans community, where things can sometimes be complicated to understand if you haven't experienced it yourself. As long as your grandma isn't purposely being rude to the LGBTQ community, she's fine with me.

@@xinim-san8011 At least she realizes halfway through and tries to correct it. As long as she respects your gender identity, it's all that really matters.

Exactly!!! I feel that this also applies to sexuality too: like why can’t they be x? Was this due to trauma? Imo the most traumatic thing about being queer is peoples reactions. Because some people think it’s okay to hate on others due to things that don’t affect them XD

Yeah, because simply claiming to be what you aren't, and never can become is the solution.....Right??

@@hime273 The solution is to mind your own business and provide some common fucking courtesy. "You can't be a man/woman, you'll never be one!" is just whining. Trans people aren't going to change because you say so. Cope. Also, you didn't answer the hypothetical. Would you be okay with being told or forced to be something YOU aren't because someone with power doesn't like you as you are now? And I'm not talking about dress code, I mean a new identity, potentially recognized by law.

​@@hime273 Trans people have always been their true genders. The pretending comes when they are posing as the gender assigned to them at birth. A trans woman had never truly been a man any moreso than Daniel Day Lewis ever truly was Daniel Plainview from "There Will Be Blood:" the true identity of the actor remains the same regardless of how deep into character they get for the role. Transitioning is a process of taking off the costume, not of putting one on.

@@tjenadonn6158 you said that so beautifully

"I bet if you tried harder......."

I am a cis woman and do want a smaller breasts only thing stopping me is money. one thing I have never understood with why cis women with already large breasts want to make them even bigger

Same here, I wasn't the most feminine "girl" growing up, but in high school I realized I was different. I started by cutting my hair. I also feel uncomfortable with my boobs, especially when I am called "pretty" because of them, people just assumed I'm a girl just because of my body.

same vibes as "have you just tried being happy" at depression

That is just not true.. I had a big chest growing up and hated it. Also heard this from other woman with large breast. It is not because you are cishet therefore you love having (large) breast.

That was me in high school. It is a real phenomenon

Yep. This. Back when I came out in the 1990s, we used to use the Kinsey Scale, but in a modified way. We used it to self-describe our sexual orientation: K0 for no-attraction to the same sex, through K6 for no attraction to the opposite sex. [It runs from 0 to 6, BTW.] And I noticed something back then: there was *_MASSIVE PRESSURE_* on any men between K0 and K6 to "choose a side." Men who were K4.5-K5.9 were basically forced to "round up" to a K6, while any men from a K4 or below was *_forced_* to "choose heterosexuality." The men who identified as bisexual back then were generally in the K4 to K4.5 range: too interested in men to deny it, but still interested in women enough to not be able to deny _that_ either. This is why I don't say, "Choose to be gay," but "Choose not to be attracted to members of the opposite-sex. No, no pretending! Choose to stop having any physical or emotional response to members of the opposite-sex." Because doing this avoids the trap that closeted/repressed bisexuals present.

I know I've thought - why the heck did gay people ever risk so much for sex? I mean why not pretend to be straight or just not have sex and just be friends if you're gonna get killed or arrested otherwise? But I'm probably ace. I think it's hard to relate in the same way to a person who is trans. Cause I mean, I personally don't think of my gender as seperate from my sex. I feel like if I suddenly switched sex then I'd be a guy. Idk if that makes sense. Or if that's unusual for a cis person.

@@Semety Because it's not about sex. You see, not all of us can, "pass." It used to be legal, in the US and other countries, to (1) Fire men who were "effeminate" or women who were "insufficiently feminine"; (2) To refuse to rent to them; (3) To serve them alcohol; (4) To _throw them out_ of their apartments; (5) To _murder them_ by using the "Gay Panic Defense" [i.e. saying, "The F===0t made a pass at me!"] This is why, one the drag queens and trans girls fought back at Stonewall, all of the femme gay men and butch lesbians joined in. _They were _*_fed up_*_ with the constant abuse,_ based solely on their personality and appearance. They fought back because they had no choice, because they couldn't hide. The rest of us, the ones who _could pass,_ only started living out after those of us who _couldn't pass_ paved the way. And here's the thing: the more people who are out, the easier it becomes for more people to come out. And this, in turn made it easier for same-sex couples to, well, _just live_ and be a couple. Not having to hide and play, "Historians Say they Were _Roommates,"_ made gays and lesbians … including those who could pass … more visible. Which, again, made it easier for more and more people to come out. And that includes people between 0 and 6 on the Kinsey Scale, even if they're in a hetero relationship or even marriage. So no, no it wasn't "about having sex." It was about a hell of a lot more. It's the sex-obsessed sex-hating christianist-supremacists that made it all about sex. But they only did that because _they want control over _*_EVERYONE'S_*_ sex lives, including you heteros, including asexuals._ Everyone.

I think for some this "choice" mentality is a sort of thought shortcut. Like for religious people who follow the idea that one can't help having some "sinful" impulses and/or parts of themself, but they don't actually commit a sin if they don't act those impulses and it's one's "cross to bear" to choose and deny a part of themself in the name of belief. Regardless of the person in question being of those people's faith or not, naturally (at least in the case of Christianity).

Yeah. When people deadname me, what they're telling me is that they never cared enough to practice using my new name. It is not hard!!

I often use the analogy, it's like someone in the witness protection program who has to change their name. If you find out their old name and start using it, you could put them in great danger and cause them a lot of unnecessary distress. Aside from that, it's not uncommon for cis people to change their names, like how women in traditional marriages change their surnames, and people in the arts, entertainment, and sports will sometimes change their first names.

And it's not just trans people who don't want to be deadnamed! This isn't new! My found brother changed his name when he became a legal adult because he was named after someone that was abusive and he despised. I haven't spoken his deadname since then (about 20 years ago). No one in my family does. That's not his name. Meanwhile, his birth parents and his siblings deadname him whenever they talk to him. And then complain that he hardly ever goes to visit them. Gee, I wonder why.

It’s definitely not just a trans thing. I have a close friend who always hated her name. When she was a teenager, she found this close alternative name that she preferred. She asked her mom, and her mom said the name was beautiful. She probably would have named her that if she knew the name at the time. Her dad said she had to wait until she was 18. So she did. Another instance of this, two twin girls I went to college with decided to change their names socially. They didn’t go through the legal hoops. They just knew that college was going to be full of people that they never met before. So they used different names to introduce themselves. And nobody knew until a few months in when a former classmate of theirs ratted them out. They explained and we continued calling them by their preferred names.

It's not hard to be considerate of their preferred titles if you care about them and their mental welfare. Trans people are trans because they need to be, not because they want to be

No, that is full fledged transphobia hidden behind a veil of assumed victimhood.

hehehe yess i am an eldritch creature >:3

They're not afraid of us as people, they're afraid of us as liabilities for their social standing. They are afraid we'll go off and turn society against them. Having been trying to live my new life at work, the only person being turned is me against myself, inside.

Nobody ever says they are "Scared and confused" about trans people. That is classic projection of your own feelings...scared and confused.

​@@hime273 Imagine arguing with people over their own lived experience.

or in many cases with the "jokes" the punchline is that we get hurt or something similar... and that's funny to them? Absolutely inhuman levels of sadism.

@Jane I’m sure even sadists would even think this is going too far. At least some of them.

I think, they claim the joke defense when they notice that they aren't getting anywhere with the serious statement they actually ment.

It's a "Schrodinger,'s douchbag" situation, where they wait until someone says something like "what the fuck you can't say that" and only then decided to say "it was a joke" Last person I met like this was a literal textbook sociopath whose entire personality was "I have more money than you"

Tip for everyone reading: If someone says something that is rude or offensive, you call it out, then they say they were joking, this is gaslighting and often times used by narcissists. I don't see anyone else use this tactic accidentally. Be very weary of these kinds of folks, and if you do this yourself, you are telling others you don't care about them at all and have a severe empathy deficit (whether you think its ok or not).

You go boy

Good luck, dude(?) And remember to stay safe, and don't bind too long in a day to protect your spine, should you want to bind

Im so happy for you, dude!

​@@_StarlightRose_Thanks for the advice

​@@thunderbird2412Thanks!

And, to play it safe, ask if its genuine questions or not

i don’t like that me existing means me being the default lgbt educator for every cis-het person i’m around.

I guess at some point I hyperfixated on lgbt+ labels and definitions, and online I’m around a lot of queer people so I can, off the top of my head, explain an identity or something like that to someone who doesn’t understand, but I totally get that not everyone can. My parents get stuff wrong sometimes and that’s ok because they’re trying, they’re just gen x.

It's not my job to educate every cis het person in my life.

I will try my darnedest I suppose

i use that phrase but put air quotes around the “girl” part

Tell them that, "No, the girl you knew was my twin-sister-from-a-parallel-universe. But in _this_ universe, there is and always has been _me."_

I had friends who needed it explained in very simple terms: If I get to be gay without them calling me an ex-hetero or talking about how I changed my sexual orientation, I also get to be a dude without being labelled a former girl.

You were though

​@@leonrussell9607why are you here....?

Sometimes I wonder how many people who think sexuality or sexual identity is a choice are (in the case of straight/gay) bi, or (in the case of trans) some form of nonbinary. They may not realize it about themselves, but if they think there's a choice, maybe they have that leeway within themselves? I don't know if I'm making myself clear.

It isn’t.

@@mr.x2567 hun, it ain’t even worth responding to-

@@mr.x2567 It isn't the root of those comments, or it isn't a choice? Because I know it's not a choice, but I'd like to know if you think something else is the root of those comments?

Yeah. It’s like people saying that being gay is a choice. No it’s not. It’s a competition and I am failing miserably. 🥲 (Every. Single. Crush I’ve had has been straight. Help meh.🥲)

THANK YOU So many people just don't understand this

​@Stripes ma'am you're obsessed with Jaimie

@Stripes Then why do you like to start petty arguments then?

@Stripes ma'am you have over 1k comments where you call Jaimie a woman. You are obsessed

@Stripes does describing a woman as tall, smart, feminine or nerdy magically make her a "subcategory" of female and hence less of a woman?

Yikes on the last part. If anything it's harder to be conned into conforming with autism, but that means harder to convince to be cis since almost all media and social pressures are to be cishet...

As an autistic person, 😭😭😭😭😭😭

Interestingly enough because of your unique thinking process it more fully affirms your identity as autism is more associated with thinking both creatively and analytically, making for a very real combination of “I only accept the facts and then I run wild with them”

that's kinda disgusting and ableist not gonna lie

@@teritt Plus there's the whole 'less likely to go along with social stereotyping than allistics' thing. My mom was pleased as punch whenever anyone said that I seemed 'unusually resistant to peer pressure'... when that trait helped me come out a few years later, she was VERY upset and tried to make me think I was just caving in to stereotypes, lol.

❤

“And both will eat you if you knowingly and willingly engage in transphobia!”

​@@trevorchester4439 what are you talking about?

Lol, maybe that's what the cishet people don't understand. 😅

What a selfish attitude that woman showed. She claims that it'd make her "feel so uncomfortable" even though it's the right thing to do, and she didn't care that her blatant transphobia made your friend uncomfortable.

Why do y'all want to be referred to in the third person?? Is they/them supposed to be for somebody with Multiple Personality disorders?

@@hime273 no it's also used for singular people

@@hime273 they/them can and has been used in singular form when you dont know a person's gender..for eg someone tells you their manager wanted to talk to them....they haven't said what gender their manager is (see what I did just there) so you say oh what did they want to talk to you about.

@@jasminema dont bother. theyre a troll

Depending on who you ask their concept of how it would go is more like "This man started--" "Hello gender police? Yes, someone here misgendered me, get the cuffs and batons." Judge: "You committed the unforgivable crime of not being woke. You are hereby found guilty and will be fined 50% of all monies, imprisoned until you go woke, and wear this pretty dress from now on so you never forget you should be girly not a big strong man that's biologically correct."

most trans people i know only correct pronouns when it’s someone else being misgendered.

Me: silent agony

@@SilverAceOfSpades don’t be afraid of correcting someone about your pronouns. It’s better to slightly inconvenience them than to fully inconvenience yourself

They probably met a couple of trans people that got mad over being misgendered and assumed one person reflects on the entire community.

Totally know what you mean, I'm in a similar situation myself. Although I want to come out so that I can be more myself, I just don't want to hurt those I love :(

You are loved don't SH you deserve love

You are loved, take your time to come out when you're ready Even if its just by online strangers like myself, you are loved. I hope that helps

@@_StarlightRose_ I appreciate it, thank you❤️

@@jojo14040 I try not to but sometimes the emotional pain is too much and if I don’t distract myself I fear I’ll harm myself as to not live with that pain anymore because it’s the worst and most unbearable pain I’ve ever experienced

I can relate so much to this, as someone who's also on the aroace spectrum. Another thing is when people ask "How do you know that you're *insert sexual orientation that isn't straight* if you've never done it before?" That's like asking a straight person who doesn't have a partner yet how they know they're straight.

@@baqq169 Oh gosh, that gets me too. Or even just like "you'll like it when you try it, just trust me." Like ew, no. As a sex repulsed ace, the last thing I would want to do is put myself through that, presumably with someone I probably don't even like even in a romantic way, just to confirm I'm ace. That sounds like a first class ticket to a traumatic experience ^^" Idk, it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth altogether. All of this just amounts to people assuming that cis het is "normal" and therefore everything else is "abnormal", when in reality it's just different people being different, and there's nothing wrong with that. People don't have to have the same experiences as each other to respect those experiences and empathize or sympathize as needed.

The only way that is acceptable is if you and the other person is doing that “why can’t you just be normal!?” Meme.

@@Silentgrace11 Lol I agree that having to go through that just to say "hey, looks like I'm actually ace" would be very traumatizing. Also, about the whole "being cis het is normal" thing, the fact that people actually think that anyone would legitimately choose to go through all the discrimination that comes with not being cis het is just insane! Like, no, it's just that some people just so happen to be different from you, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. There's no "normal" when it comes to gender and sexuality, just existing.

Normal is an illusion. What’s normal to the spider is chaos to the fly

On the flip side, I personally love to say that stuff satirically among friends, it's one of our favorite pastimes. Your typical "Oh, I'm not transphobic, I've got trans friends" stuff :) All of the friends in question - including myself - fall under the trans umbrella, so we're just kind of taking hate and flipping it around for humor? Wouldn't do that with anyone I don't know though, but that's one way to ease the hate if you need :)

I'm not a racist, but....!

“I have a friend of that role, so I’m not bigoted even if I say something bigoted.” -🧒🏻

You've quoted my racist family perfectly. This is exactly the ignorance they spout 😢

Or saying no offense befor saying something offensive

“I don’t know? Can’t you take a kick to the nuts? Wait hold on. Let me get my steel toed shoes.”

Thank you so much!

You are too, don't forget that

Thank you, you too what are your pronouns

Thank you❤️❤️💞

@@jojo14040 if your question was ment for me: my pronouns are she/they 🥰

It might be good for your mental health to be in less contact with your mother and spend some time with people who are supportive

​hard to do when i live with her and will continue to live with her until I get enough money to move out. And other than the transphobia and homophobia, she is a good mom.

​@@barryledgister4496 this is the most unhelpfull comment ever

@@barryledgister4496 you are absolutaly pathetic for trying to justify transphobic behavior a mother should support her child no matter what and you saying this mother should support their transgender child is wrong

@@barryledgister4496 what reality living with a transphobic mother stop justifying transphobic behavior

I think it’s a case-by-case thing. If I come out to my mother, who I’ve lived with for decades of my life, and I’ve known for a long time, I want to at least try and educate her, because I’ve seen the good she’s capable of, and that being ignorant is not her fault, just the fault of the society she was raised in. Yes, there’s the possibility she won’t listen and keep being a bigot, and in that case, fuck her, but ignorance is not something that can never be cured. (I say mother because it happened to me, and she said some hurtful things in the past but she has changed thanks to me not dropping her right away, and by trying our best, we both overcame difficulties and grew as people. It can work for any relative/close friend/person you care about in your life). If it’s a random stranger, especially on the internet, it really doesn’t matter. Educate them if you feel like it, but you don’t have to be an enciclopedia for some person who’s weirdly obsessed with what’s between your legs. That bigot probably wouldn’t care even if you did try to be kind and helpful, so avoid them like the plague.

@@analyticaltomato I think with strangers on the internet you have do distinguish between the ones who are genuinely ignorant and the ones stirring up shit "just asking questions". The latter ones just want to sap your energy and possibly make you lash out: such that it looks like YOU are the unreasonable one.

My take: it's pretty much all self-explanatory and literally doesn't need explaining. I'm attracted to people regardless of gender, that's self-explanatory. I'm a woman, that's self-explanatory. They don't need to know ANYTHING beyond that.

@Jane - What is woman? Have fun with that.

@@goawayleavemealone2880 terfs are so shitty because sometimes y’all ask some actually interesting questions but it’s all filtered through this gotcha lens that makes you look stupid

Do you think she meant you couldn’t be a feminist when you had transitioned, because men can’t be feminists? I mean I get the argument that feminism is women’s space, but there are plenty of pro-feminist men.

Does she know that men can be feminists to right? Everybody should be a feminist doesn’t matter who they are. Especially intersectional feminism, which is such an important thing to be part of.

@@adrianghandtchi1562 now she knows!

@@adrianghandtchi1562 Feminism is just the Radical, Extreme Idea _that Women are _*_People,_*_ too._

...or at the very least, bi

Exactly, most straight people wouldn’t even consider it. Heck, when I still thought I was a cis boy (I’m transfem, just haven’t gotten the chance to transition), I kinda entertained the idea that I was bi despite all my previous crushes being girls. Anyways, both of my ex-partners I ended up dating later on since I started considering this were transmasc lol

I’m a feminine trans guy too, and it would be so strange for me to try and be a masculine woman lol

lol me

I think they can't fathom that people who are outside of the status quo (cis, hetero, white, able bodied, skinny, attractive, dress conformity to your gender, etc.) don't strive to be it or as close as possible as they can be. They think if you lack one or more of those desired aspects you need to strictly conform to the rest, kinda like "balancing out", so they can pretend to oversee your "defects" and tolerate you (and thus continue upholding and not (much) threatening the status quo). So why do they are okay with gnc cis people but are confused with gnc trans people? Well, at first, lets be real, they are not okay with gnc cis people. They will somewhat only tolerate them if the rest fits in. From personal experience the people saying you should be gnc cis as an "alternative" to being trans are the ones who are making fun of and calling them slurs when they, for example, are additionally fat, disabled and deemed ugly (especially as a masc woman.) (I mean basically what Terfs are doing). That basically works the same for trans people. They only tolerate trans people if they conform to the rest. (I mean why do you think right-wingers "like" Blaire White so much. If she also was black, fat and deemed ugly they wouldn't tolerate and watch her, even if she would spew the exact same shit.) Sorry for the long text. I don't even know if that makes coherent sense, since it's 1 am here and I am tired as fck and I am probably more rambling than writing a connected thought. Well, hope you have a pleasent day/night. Also gnc trans gang yayyy!!!

Ayo another pretty boy? Ayy?

@@chip4410 only the prettiest of boys of course lol

Just tell her you've been exposed to too many boys and that's why you're a lesbian XD

Maybe explain to her that the physical chemistry just isn't there for you, with males. Hopefully then she will understand

@@trevorchester4439 Oh piss off with that bait lol

@@trevorchester4439 Bruh you're barkin' at the moon cuz no one gives a shit about your transphobic blathering kay?

You have better English than a lot of people who are native speakers.

@@nickberry5520 oh well thank you :))

Yeah. I can barely speak English on my best days. My first language was sarcasm and cynicism. My next language was just meme. 😅

Eh that's just a very necessary divorce from an unpleasant and angry organ... doesn't count . Hopefully have a speedy recovery

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I have heard that one before too, and absolutely no one on the planet has ever decided they were trans because periods were inconvenient to them. People come up with the most bizarre excuses to explain the existence of trans people.

@@jennosyde709 definitely. It's like saying " everyone hates how long it takes for long hair to dry but there's no need to go bald so you don't have to wash / style your hair". So random and completely irrelevant. Not all elderly are like this but some. Hugs. Xx

The response to "are you more than one person now should read" Gender Neutral Pronouns: Are we a joke to you?

@@starscreamthecruel8026 i hate conflict so I just laughed it off as I was young at the time. As an adult I just wish that people would accept that times and people change. Though people will only believe what they want but it's nice to see when they actually want to learn than equate us to be mentally ill. Hugs. Now I just use sarcasm lol. Xx

Ah yes, transitioning. A very quick and easy thing to do that doesn't risk an enormous amount of social backlash to. [Checks notes] "Escape periods". And there CERTAINTLY aren't birth control pills that already help periods. Nope, gotta go on T, it's the only way.

I can't fathom being incapable of distinguishing the two, it's so obvious that gender and sexuality are different, what's so hard about it?? My dad has asked me why I can't be a lesbian, oh idk dad maybe it's because I'm a man? And I don't even like women exclusively, if I was a woman I still wouldn't be a lesbian because I'm pan, I literally have a boyfriend

So you're just a straight man.

​@@user-rf3ip4vi4zbrother can NOT read

Hey, me too! Transfem wlw represent!!!

Well, yk, my gender subscription ran out and I forgot to renew it, so my gender got taken.

@@trevorchester4439 really? then why have you devoted your entire personality to getting triggered and crying about trans people?

@@trevorchester4439 oh, you might want to get your name changed on youtube then. there is someone with that name who has over 1k post on this page crying about trans people like a toddler.

@@trevorchester4439 neat!

@@trevorchester4439 you're quite welcome.

if it were a choice, some people would choose those identities to follow trends or tell sob stories. That, however, isn't indicative of the entire LGBTQ population.

Trans is a social construct. Trans is a choice. lesbians want real woman. Not stitched on. Dicks. Straight women don't want stick-on either. Straight men want real women. Not wound holes.

​@@stacysmith9834 you cried more about trans people like a snowflake! Hilarious!

“And I can 60% aim for your knee and 100% aim for your nuts. Which you want to choose?”

Oh, and the "I'm sick of boys! I'm going to become a lesbian!" is funny because that's what my sister said a few days before she dated her first girl and learned she was genuinely bi. It's still a weird thing to say on a whim, but in a similar manner, I was lead down the road of figuring out I was trans when one of my exes broke up with me after realizing she was a lesbian. I cried and said, "I wish I was a girllllll!" over the phone in a moment of vulnerability. She responded with, "...Well, are you?" And I was like, "Wait, what?" When I later told my therapist about the break up and told her that bit in passing, she stopped me and was like, "No, go back. What did you say?" "...That I wanted to be a girl...?" "...That's not a normal thing people say in a situation like that." "...Yeah, I was emotional and desperate." "Okay. Well, now that you're no longer desperate, how do you feel about that now?" "............Erm............" The fact I couldn't say no should've been the biggest flag. XD

I hope ur staying safe!!

i don’t think anyone here will judge you for being russian any more than they’ll judge me for being floridian. welcome to the channel mate!

@@babs_babs i didn't consider people judging me, more like being slightly surprised maybe

@@Suited_Nat thank you so much but i myself am actually pretty privileged all around, being a straight cis woman who a) is simply an ally (i can't fathom the strength it takes for gay & trans people to be themselves in this country) and b) isn't getting sent off to die in a war i didn't want. (sorry this reply got so dark, it's just so rough for so many ppl here right now and it's really painful to witness)

@B Your Floridian?! That’s cool! I love going to Florida on vacations. It’s so beautiful on the beaches. And Disney world and universal studios are fun to explore. I have a question. Do you know Grey Still Plays?

right? For them, it's the likely the first or only instance of that question being asked and answered. For us, it's the hundred thousandth.

Actually. I was cis for a while. And my own family was messing up my gender. They kept saying she and her. They still do now. But unlike before I am trans. One time my mom called me Sam out of nowhere. Funny thing is that nobody in our family knows a Sam. So I’ve just started answering to anything. Still have some problems being called a guy and my real name though.

@@shadowking278 That’s insane

@Krys Robin It was funny for a while. Then when they started saying he and my deadname (they don’t know I’m trans.) it just hurt.

@@shadowking278 I’m so sorry

I’m moving to Sweden someday

You'll be embarrassed by all this one day. Hopefully you and your family can look back and laugh together.

​@@foomanxoo Press X to doubt.

​@@foomanxoo Pseudognostic prophetics of antagonistic dogmatics & metanoia fantasies. Just because people, however steadfast, are still subject to change and conversion doesn't necessarily mean they're fated to change and convert in accordance with prejudice-inspired scriptures and predictive dictates on their future states not yet written, shown, and known.

And yet somehow being cis/het isn't a choice. When you think about it, it can't be both. Either I didn't choose to be gay, or they chose to be straight.

I'd ask that person, "Then why do you choose to be an asshole?"

It technically is a choice to be who we want to be. But not when it comes to LGBTQ stuff. I didn’t choose to be gay or a trans female. But I embrace that I am. We chose to either be the best person we can be, or the absolute worst person to ever walk the earth. And that choice is, Or should, be painfully obvious.

@@shadowking278 you know what I meant, don't get Pedantic on me.

@That Man I apologize. But I’m with you on it being frustrating. I’m trans myself. But I haven’t come out to anyone yet. But my brother did. And he immediately got backlash from our parents. They were saying “why are you choosing to be this way?” They’ve even said that being trans is a social media thing.

Yes, also 'you' (singular used to be 'thou', but 'you' was sometimes used in formal situations).

I don't think this is quite accurate. I believe you're confusing "the" (which is a definite article) with "thee" (which is a pronoun). Example: "I would like to take thee to the dance". "Thee" is the singular of "you" (both are accusative/objective).

It isn't their oc 💀

Unironically, the "if you're not something then you're neither" is mostly why I'm queer. I realized I was non binary by realizing that I don't want to be a man or woman, therefore I must be non binary. Then, after that, I figured out that I didn't prefer girls, I didn't prefer guys, therefore I have to be pan because they prefer nobody.

My grams name was Karen and on occasion should could be a Karen(TM), but she would correct herself and had a really good heart even when she didn't fully understand things. I'll never forgot being in the car with her when she started saying some insensitive (but not outright hateful) stuff about gay people because she just didn't understand. I blurted out, "you know Gram, I'm a little gay" (I'm bi/pan but mostly closeted and I haven't dated a girl since high school). That fixed it. She's the only one in my family that knew outside of my brothers who are very accepting and progressive. I'm glad I got to tell her before she passed and that she was really accepting and told no one. God, I miss her

i may adopt this term my self. it fits soooo well.

That title’s quite a banger, I’ll be redistributing this! On an unrelated note, “Gender Rebellion” sounds like a great name for a punk rock band

The simple answer is that sense of identity trumps sexual orientation... And besides, you have zero attraction to women

Can I have you as a mom? Mine died before I figured out I'm trans and neurodivergent, and never really accepted me for who I was.

@@toni2309 oh no! thats so terrible :( well, i hope youve "gotten over" it (the death of your mother, not being trans, im not transphobic). we support you!! you are valid in every way shape and form. (this is not sarcasm, i just am not good at showing proper emotion in text.)

@@toni2309 I am happy to be an honorary Internet mother to anyone that needs one. Including you. I accept you for who you are Toni. I'm also neurodivergent.

@@carolinelabbott2451 Thank you :)

You sound like the type of person that would be in a pride parade that is holding up a sign that says “hugs for everyone.” By which I mean you are extremely wholesome. 🥰 For me. My parents are extremely anti LGBTQ. At least my adoptive parents are. Don’t know about my biological mother. And I don’t care what my biological father would think. *He can bite a fat one for all I care.*

Transphobia is literally someone not agreeing with you on every topic💀. What is a woman?

@@Nonstop_Edits Translation: "D13 F@gg0t! D13!" Because *_that_* is the real reason for the attack on trans people: to justify attacking "f_g_0ts" … because that's what you think "tr@nn13s" are, isn't it? You think "trans"=="trans woman"=="f@gg0ts-inna-dress". You people vaguepost carefully worded attacks that use only dogwhistles and weasel-words. Then when someone calls you out on your bullsh1t, you whine how, "intolerant the homos are," and play the martyr because you're being, "attacked by those mean f@gg0ts." You see, I've seen those tricks before, used against gays and lesbians, 30 years ago. Yes, there was an online world 30 years ago, and I was involved back then. *I'm familiar with your tricks.* You don't fool me. You want to muzzle all of us queerfolk so that _we cannot defend ourselves_ against the _lies_ you spread about us. It's what's happened in Russia. It's what's happened in Hungary. It's what _you_ are now doing in the -Southern- Slave States. Don't even try to deny it. Because, in the end, you want to turn the US into Uganda - you want being LGBT+ to be punishable by death.

​@@Nonstop_Edits I see this all the time on fb. Like you'll be talking about whether or not you should separate your lights from. Your darks when doing laundry and someone will get mad you do yours differently and be all "then define what a woman is!" Like what's that got to do with color safe bleach, my dude? 😂😂

@@insertianameia2224 this is literally on topic. This person is saying they face a lot of transphobia which directly relates with being a woman in one way or another. But that question still hasn’t been answered correctly. Weird when you can just Google it

@@Nonstop_Edits you didn't actually read my comment, did you? Lmao

Most trans people are pretty wholesome anyway. The interpretation of them as sleazy has been manufactured by phobes