Her cutting down the tree made me so upset, my grandma wished to be buried with a decomposable casket and a sapling, so she could become a tree. She is now a lovely premature willow. Imagine if Doris had a similar story..

I'm a former cemetery caretaker and her using those chemicals is going to absolutely erode those stones so fast. We use a specific cleaner, usually D2, which removes biological pollutants from stone. She is doing massive damage. She also needs specific permission not only from the families but from the cemetery to do that cleaning (which she definitely wouldn't get, because cemeteries have caretakers for a damn reason, and families approach them to ask about cleaning, not some random Tiktok woman).

This woman totally gives the vibes of a high school bully who will say the meanest shit to you with a big smile, then act all innocent when you call her out. "Why are you so sensitive?? I was just trying to be nice!" 🥺

The cupcake thing made it abundantly clear that she’s doing this to appeal to kids.

“The Dhar-Mannification of grave cleaning” is a BRAND new sentence

Wild theory but maybe Doris WANTED to be buried in the forest and surrounded by nature and you just came by with your chainsaw and said "FCK THAT!"

I work in the funeral science field, and as blindingly angry as this makes me, the only thing I can think of is to either contact the cemeteries she’s defacing or local authorities. Turns out, you can’t just walk into a cemetery and destroy the headstones like that. She makes my stomach churn. Please respect the dead holy shit

She is doing this in Puerto Rico and it feels low key white savior…. She also tried giving away 100 burgers for “charity” and nobody wanted them.

I just imagine Doris asking her family “please plant my favourite trees next to my grave so I can enjoy the shade” And then some random woman cuts them completely away and sprays your grave with pepto bismol

She 100% damaged every single grave she "cleaned"

lore about that lady: she has been arrested (or tickted i dunno) several times for illegally cleaning resteraunts with unsafe soaps

She's finna get haunted by the ghosts of all these people for the rest of her natural life.

the stupid questions are just plain insulting like: "was she pretty?" or "did she like cupcakes" and then she proceeds to bite into a cupcake with that cake-eating grin like dude there is a DEAD person under you

I watch a guy who gets permission, researches the story of the people, and does serious repairs (reattaching headstones, getting a jack to lift and reset sunken stones), and overall is extremely respectful of the people buried there. No neon colors, no children's show voice, no spooky scary setting, no fOr FrEe or mention of money, just respect That is respectful and an amazing way of preserving someone's memory hundreds of years after their death, and long after their resting place started to disappear. He started because of his dad in his own family's graveyard This is gross. Purely for money, ragebait, entertaining children in the most disrespectful way. These are very new graves, these people's friends and children are likely still alive. But instead their graves are having shitty amateur horror movies made on them, no respect or care about who these people actually were. There's so many people that hijack good deeds because they're becoming popular, she's justmore obvious

I hope the families sue. Because holy shit thats so much disrespect. Also, if theres ever a dawn of the dead moment, you just know they will all go for her first

My father’s a firefighter- and the clip of her cleaning that grave honestly made me die a little inside. My dad lost a friend a few years ago in a house fire, and I can’t even begin to imagine how furious he would be if he saw this lady cleaning his friend’s grave. Honestly- the respect she pretends to give is fucking disgusting.

"Was she pretty?" I can't. People are upset about what killed her and Dorris in the forest, but this line? "Was she pretty?" THAT is the most disgusting question in my opinion.

I gasped when she started chainsawing the tree around the grave. It’s a tradition in my family to plant a tree above/bury a loved one below a tree and let the land reclaim them as a symbol of them continuing on in this world in a different fashion. The idea of a stranger cutting the growth back is horrifying to me - I’d be devastated if it were my/my family’s grave. Her disregard is appalling.

“ when I die I’m haunting her “ same man same.

I’ve seen a TikTok where these girls posed by their favorite tombstones that they felt described their personalities, and commenters were mad I said it was disrespectful. I can’t imagine going to see my dad and sister’s graves, and see people doing a photo shoot nearby for TikTok. I would be livid.

It's crazy to compare this to another lady I've seen cleaning graves (edit: A Grave Attraction, I believe) She finds the ones that are completely overgrown and so coated in things that you can't read them. She cleans them carefully with soap safe for the plants and the stone, and does research on the people, telling us their life story and getting in contact with some of the family if she can. She leaves flowers on the graves and is super respectful the entire time. You really get the sense that she's doing this to share forgotten stories. This....well, it's certainly not that (Edit: like many of the replies, I was also really worried this vid was going to be about her and I was trying to figure out why Jarvis was against it. Glad to say they're different people! Also, I believe the channel name is "a Grave Attraction")

My mouth dropped when she said “what killed her!?” like that is just disrespectful especially with that tone

This made me think of this tumblr (?) post i read a couple year ago. It was about someone cleaning up the grave next to their father's & buying fresh flowers for it bc it looked abandoned. And at the end it turned out the guy who was buried there was a child predator and thats why no one cared for the grave 💀

"sixto patia! what a unique name!" "Daniel was a well respected family man..." thats wild

me on my way to use arsenic, mercury, and battery acid to clean the playplace at the chucky cheese

She absolutely targets graves with Spanish names because it'll be easier for her to get away with the disrespect. She suddenly knows how to treat the deceased when they're a "true American hero." She's damaging the stone and surrounding soil/foliage. She's disgusting.

We had a neighbor who lived across the street from us, who would come over and weed whack our yard without permission. I thought for years he was just being nice, until I told someone they could park on my yard, and he freaked out calling it "his land". Weirdest thing ever.

There's a victorian/Edwardian era graveyard in my neighborhood and there are now notices posted asking people not to "clean" the stones as they are being damaged

hey Jarvis, my name is Luke Chambers and I’m the son of a former Cemetery owner. my dad used to own Grandview cemetery in Tennessee and everything that she is doing is not allowed. painting on the gravestone especially could be considered defiling the grave and legal actions could be pursued, you are somewhat right about that the property is owned privately in a sense. The Cemetery owns the land, The families own the plots. that being said it is the cemeteries job to take care of the graves and the grounds work around the graves as she could be liable for an injury on our property, which is not okay obviously. also the flowers that were placed on the Marker that was on the ground, they are supposed to be either placed by the family, the grounds team for the cemetery, or an associated flower shop worker with that cemetery. it could be seen as disrespectful if someone were to put unwanted decorations on the Graveston/Marker. I hope this was helpful!!

I saw that walmart bathroom woman cleaning a baby's grave, that lived and died long before she was born. She was pretending to give a fuck whilst using industrial-strength cleaner and commentating about how she felt that the family just didn't care, and it just made me so upset, who do people think they are? Worse still, it was posted on r/mademesmile, which is meant to be a wholesome, 'look how good people are' subreddit.

Long-winded story incoming, because this struck a very particular nerve for me. When I was a child, I lived across the street from a cemetery. I never saw anyone there, and it just seemed so lonely, you know? Honestly, a lot of really bad stuff happened at that point in my life, and I didn't have any friends, so it never occured to me at the time that it might've just been me projecting my own feelings. Nevertheless I, being the determined six year old with near complete lack of supervision I was, began taking a washcloth and gently wiping down the headstones and righting the very few flower vases that were knocked over. I found a lot of comfort in it, there was no pressure for me to act a certain way. I learned a lot of the names of the people who were resting there, and I'd talk to them about how I was. I'd talk about my hopes that they were having a fun, happy afterlife, and once I had to go home, I'd thank them for listening to me and that I'd see them tomorrow. I'm in my thirties now, and I remember those times with a lot of love and fondness. I live half halfway across the country now, but I wonder how the cemetery is a lot. I hope it's still being cared for as it was back then, without me and my washcloth of hopes, lol. All this to say, I'll never understand people who treat graves and cemeteries in general as clout fuel. It's so very disrespectful to both the people resting there and the families of those whose bodies are at rest.

Can we arrest her? For like lying or disrespect or being obnoxious? There has to be something we can arrest her for.

Her cutting all the plants around the grave and then putting crappy plastic ones there actually made me upset. That's so insulting and disrespectful to me, those plants could have been placed there by the family. They could have been growing for decades. Even if they werent, the plants would actually provide protection and shelter from the elements. I genuinely hope this woman gets in legal trouble and has to shut down her brand.

i feel like something stops being rage bait when you're activley doing a bad, harmful, immoral thing - you're not baiting shit youre just being a bad person LMAO

Her behavior is actually disgusting, its so incredibly disrespectful for her to cut down the plant life around the graves, and then to use her pink sauce foam spray that isn't even actually being produced officially Someone should take her to court.

“exhuming bodies… FOR FREE!!” got me CRYINGGGGG

When she not only chain sawed the tree, but also TOOK IT UPON HERSELF TO PLANT HER OWN PLANTS I was so pissed, like that goes beyond cleaning, she is taking it upon herself to make essentially permanent alterations to the decorations of the grave supposedly without permission. It's just so wrong.

Honestly the grossest thing abotu this is that she is doing it to graves because no one is there to stop her. The dead cannot speak, so instead of doing an albeit dumb, but kind gesture of cleaning the graves without recording it, she uses the dead to bait people into interacting with her content. It just feels so gross.

She’s standing on the graves - literally giving me chills, she is so disrespectful 😔😔

There is one woman I watch who actually cares about the graves and their history. She cried when she came across vandalized graves.

Personally speaking, if I came back to my grandma’s grave to replace some flowers and found it scrubbed and polished, and I knew neither I nor any of my family hired the cleaning,… I would feel VIOLATED. This girl is next level self-centered.

There’s a word for this kind of thing in Japanese that I learned about recently, called ありがた迷惑. It means something like ‘unwanted favour’ in English, which is exactly as it sounds. Someone does something with good intentions, like cleaning ‘for free’, but it actually does more harm than good. People who think she’s just being nice don’t understand that this favour is unwanted

From the rooftops! As a caretaker, preservation lover- thank you! People are destroying our stones by cleaning like this. I had repaired 5 children’s stones from the 1700’s, we found a photographer doing boudoir photography with the larger set models sitting on the repaired stones and put a huge crack through it. I teach cleaning if anyone wants to get into it, it’s easy to do right!

12:30 we had "pink sauce" now we have "Pink clean products"

"We found this puppy in an abandoned house!" and it's the most perfect, silky, plump little labrador puppy, a breed where puppies go for $1000

I just want to add, cleaning graves without the proper cleaning supplies can actually damage them and make them worse. This person does not care and is incredibly disrespectful. Edit: holy shit she uses untested cleaning spray not meant for tombstones she is 100% damaging those poor people’s graves.

Finally, someone is talking about it. This girl triggers my flight or fight response. And the worst of it is the ppl on her comments praising for 'respecting' the deceased i-

Anyone who ever even saw a video of a rescued dog or puppy knows that there is absolutely no way that they "found" that clean fluffy healthy pup in a random abandoned house.

someone report her for desecration of a grave! this is EVIL. she is not using stone-safe cleaners NOR is she being respectful to the dead. absolutely evil.

what bothers me the most is when she encourages the commenters to hate on the family of the deceased. whenever she says something like “this grave is abandoned and it’s been neglected” it always prompts the commenters to be like “the family should be ashamed of themselves 😡” which is just so disrespectful to the living relatives

PUT THIS WOMAN IN JAIL RIGHT NOW 💀 genuinely

Hi repliers; sorry, I didn't mean to spread any misinformation, I just wanted to point out my thoughts which were very wrong, so I removed it, so sorry 🙏 (and yes I speak Spanish, and yes I am Mexican)

The difference in reverence that she gives to the non-Hispanic male firefighter versus the Hispanic women feels racist and misogynistic. Daniel gets a eulogy about being a well-respected family man who is missed by many while Bienvenida and Doris get "Did she like chocolate cupcakes?" "Was she pretty?" "Does her family even care about her anymore?"

"Cleaning an abandoned grave" WHAT THE FUCK ARE THOSE FRESH FLOWERS THEN???

I am SO GLAD someone is finally talking about this. I’ve genuinely always found it insensitive that she does this, especially that she never once (to my knowledge) mentions getting consent from the deceased’s family.

If someone cleaned my grandmothers grave without my family’s consent-I’d be TERRIBLY angry. Me and my family drive up to her gravesite and brush it off, look at her gravestone, etc, etc. every 6 months. It’s a time to see and “bond” with my grandmother. Afterwards, we go to her favorite restaurant and her old house. Very fun to do, and I 100% recommend to relive happy memories. :)

That second grave is clearly not abandoned. Even without the obvious new fake flowers in the pot, the grave just looks like it rained recently and there was mud runoff covering the headstone.

The thing is, in so many hispanic countries cleaning a loved ones grave is a whole special thing, in my country its what you do on Dia de los Muertos. My grandma would have a meltdown if we showed up with our paint bucket and flower crowns and the grave was fucking scrubbed

10:34 maybe Bienvenida’s birthday was also on her gravestone. If not, she’s using her death day for her star sign and even then, late July would be Leo

19:47 why does she post like a Mr.beast thumb nail

“to show YOU the power of FLEX TAPE, I SAWED THIS TOMBSTONE IN HALF!”

Why she was suddenly more respectful in the firefighter man grave than in the two latin people one's? That's so messed up

7:02 Bro, as a biologist, I would be sooooo annoyed if someone came along and removed all the wonderful life growing on my gravestone. The worst is when you see people power washing lichens off of stones. Good god the atrocity.

16:55 This shit is actually so disrespectful, my beliefs include letting nature freely grow around your tomb, for the foliage holds your essence If this shit happened to my grave I would be furious, why are you destroying me?

I mean, I know you can restore gravestones, but I know it's also SUPER easy to damage them if you don't know what you're doing. Even taking a rubbing of a grave can damage older stones.

WITHOUT permission she, cut down the plants at the grave and added her own plants and flowers, painted their grave, and saying stuff like "was she pretty?🤔" " who put Doris in the forest!!" She couldn't be more disrespectful.

Lamont at Large, Scott on Tape, Hollywood Graveyard, Faces of the Forgotten, Grimmlife Collective, the Graveyard Channel, Dearly Departed Tours, to name a few. Those are some channels I recommend if you enjoy respectful commentary about graves and stories of the lives behind them. I couldn't even finish this video of hers, had to skip over it. I can just imagine Scott Michaels coming out of nowhere while she's doing this and telling her to pack all her pink chemicals and stuff right away, she'd be trembling lol

When I first saw her videos I was like “This is so sweet” and then when I realized how she’s hurting the graves it made me so sad when I die I want it to look old and stuff it’s part of nature and I think it’s beautiful❤

"Bienvenidos is welcome in Español!" is the most mind blowing micro aggression to say over someones resting place. But hey, if its an American firefighter, speak above the grave with the utmost respect. Sure, okay, cool.

“I found a sacred Navajo burial site, and I’m going to clean it FOR FREE”

This is so disrespectful to the people buried there and their families. I hope she gets in trouble for this because that behavior is in no way acceptable.

Here is one horrible thought I had when I saw her say that she tested her product for nine months: She was making videos with that product in places she didn’t have permission to during that time. So she wasn’t even using fully tested and standardized products with instructions for where it is appropriate to use to clean public bathrooms and graves, she might not even know what those chemicals can do

As a nanny to a 7 year old, I can confirm that this woman puts a spell on kids. Said 7 y.o. watched three of her shorts in a row before I was like, "No more. She's doing something nice but only because people are watching and is not getting permission and that is not a good thing. Plus you've already seen what she does for every video." I hate that young children see so much "altruism" for views.

Her saying out loud "FOR FREE" as if the deceased could reach out of the ground and tip her for her work if they wanted to💀

Another concern with using household cleaning products: pollution. I feel like those chemicals would leech into the ground, no?

The graveyard where my Grandparents are buried has a few running water taps to fill up flower vases. Not sure if that's the case in the graveyard she's in, but still. If I went to visit my Grandparents and found some stranger there filming themselves cleaning their headstone and stuffing their face with cupcakes I would be livid.

I'm an architectural historian who's worked in the restoration of both historic and non-historic gravesites. A few clarifying things: - We use extremely specific, biodegradable compounds to clean graves. Because they are far gentler to the many kinds of stone we see in cemeteries, they sometimes require several rounds of application and careful scrubbing with a variety of brushes. Clean Girl using an untested spray on headstones is absolutely doing irreparable damage to the headstones, further eroding the stone or paint and making them more susceptible to deterioration. - The headstones she is cleaning are not white marble, as being dirty for this long would have stained it. They are most likely cast cement and then painted white. The names look like they were written into cement with a scribing tool before the cement set. - The painted headstones are a very common practice, especially in coastal areas. Many headstones in cemeteries in coastal areas are painted white for a couple purposes: 1.) to act as a protective barrier to the stone or cement (which requires reapplication as the paint wears away, and you have to keep applying it forever because removing paint removes the protective layer on the stone or cement, again making it more porous), and 2.) to look "cleaner." - The headstones all bearing the surname "Lugo" tell me that she's essentially cleaning a family plot in a larger cemetery that has become overgrown, as small, private family cemeteries are less likely to have the white paint treatment. Could be wrong here though. - Clean Girl talks about how these cemeteries are "lost" or "abandoned," and that she couldn't find more information online. While that's certainly common (I come across abandoned cemeteries regularly in my work), if you're U.S.-based you can actually find most "abandoned" cemeteries on the FindAGrave website! You can search by area or name. Often, these listings contain the names of most or all of those interred, and will specify whether the cemeteries are public, private, family, churchyard, or other community-oriented cemetery types. Anyway. Her videos make me upset as someone who works in material conservation. 🙃

I'm a geologist and looking at the graves, they appear to be limestone based on some erosion differences at the bottom and such, but basically, using whatever spray shes using (I have NO clue what's in there because I can't find any ingredients list lmao) but assuming there is some acid to use as a cleaning agent, this would ABSOLUTLY be horrible for the gravestones as acids speed up the erosion rates and if the grave is made out of enough carbonate material it will fizz and destroy the grave.

The way she’s literally standing on the graves?? So disrespectful.

My grandfather requested to be buried inside his favorite type of bush and they were able to fulfill that wish. I was heartbroken to see her cut the trees that the person might of requested before passing

Imagine defacing graves in the most coquette way possible

As someone who works in funeral service you nailed every bit of criticism, this is not only disrespectful but also dangerous. Some of these old monuments can be brittle and you have no way of knowing the specifics of the stone itself. Imagine you can finally come to visit the grave of a loved one and the engraving of the monument was damaged by some reckless yahoo with a stack of chemicals

18:16 I had the same question. Aren't there Tree Laws to prevent people cutting down trees. I remembered a Stadium (or was it a Park?)being sued just for cutting the branches.

That jackass, put a puppy somewhere. Waited for it to be scared enough to cry and started recording. That is disgusting. A no way a homeless puppy looks that clean

there’s a girl on tiktok who gets permission to clean graves and does an AMAZING job, is super respectful, and even tells the person’s life story while she cleans! i forget her name but it’s def worth looking into!

I am so glad im not the only one who finds this disrespectful, all the comments on her videos are “ Your so kind” or “bless your kind heart”

The only "free cleaning videos" i like are the house cleaning videos where she brings awareness to mental health, and that one guy who powerwashes and mows peoples driveways and lawns. Those ones warm my heart

your moustache looks like 2 capybaras kissing

I choose to believe that the shovel did move and it was Bienvenida attempting to defend herself

So happy this guy said his sponsor before diving into the topic and not halfway saying "SO THIS VIDEO IS SPONSORED BY-"

I’ve seen this other lady clean graves on TikTok but she says she uses cleaners that won’t hurt the stone and just cleans all the dirt and everything and she tells you where you can get the stuff she uses and when she is cleaning the grave she tells you about the persons life if she can find something on them.

her doing this without permission was a Grave mistake

17:21 .....did she really cut down plants around a grave.....? WTAF Those plants could have been put there by the family, "to bring new life from death" and she just ripped it all out without knowing what it could mean.

I understand repairing broken or overgrown graves, but gravestones are very important, they are used to sample air purity, a professional can take photographs and swabs of the surface of the gravestone, and then obviously you can read on the stone the year it was placed, that way you can see any big changes in the kind of lichen that grows on the stones because lichen only grows where the air is pure, so if a cemetery has existed for fifty years near a city, and has no moss or lichen growth on the graves you can wonder if that is due to pollution, and if you've put in measures to improve air purity gravestones are a great way to measure whether they are working. Plus you are right about the chemicals being bad for the stone, as is the abrasive cleaning action, one reason grave stones are so valuable a historical resource is you can go find out where someone was buried hundreds of years ago, but every time you apply chemicals or scrub them with anything, you quicken the natural erosion of the information on the stone, making it reach the point of illegibility so much faster. the chemicals stay in the stones and the acids stay acidic until neutralised and most people doing this do not think of that. grave stones hold emotional, sociological, historical and ecological importance and should be treated as an important resource, if illegible due to dirt, use sterilised water to rinse off large amounts of mud, beyond that just leave it alone or get a stone mason to fix it

I remember watching a video if a respectful grave cleaner who cleans graves, possibly for clout, with permission from the families. Not only does she do that, but she tells the stories of their lives / messages from loved ones that they consented to share ofc. I loved it. It was respectful, neat, consented, and it sends a good message with all the stories she tells as she does the cleaning. AND BOY WAS I GLAD she wasnt the topic of this video. That was painful to wattch compared to what ive seen Edit: nvm you mentioned manicpixiemom here as one of the good ones. Yass

She needs to face legal repercussions

As someone who wants a natural burial with a small headstone just to mark it but to be overgrown eventually, this girl is my worst nightmare

A lot of old cemeteries near me have fallen into complete neglect and disrepair and there are adoption programs by the county that people can apply for if they want to become caretakers for a graveyard so that might be an option for people who are actually interesting in taking care of graves

"Cleaning gravestones, FOR FREE!" - who the f*** are you gonna charge, the dead person???

Eating a chocolate cupcake while in the middle of *CLEANING A GRAVE* is wild Edit: also yeah those chemicals from the cleaning products will definately go into the soil and could mess up the plants and grass around it