I wish I wasn’t jealous of anyone, but I just can’t help it, I really want fix this. Whenever I get jealous I get so heated for some reason and it ruins my whole day and mood
@yvindpedersen83603 жыл бұрын
Same with me
@kevstone76523 жыл бұрын
same
@dinonuggets72543 жыл бұрын
Yah that's true
@untaughtbiblelessons3 жыл бұрын
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@parthoroy50443 жыл бұрын
exactly mate it not only makes us feel bad but also kill us emotionally 😖
@ds24654 жыл бұрын
People do not like to admit they are envious because it means that you are admitting that you think you are not good enough. Envy is just an angrier way to show one is insecurity.
@IbarraAlejandro4 жыл бұрын
Sad but true... That's how I feel.
@raymondtendau27494 жыл бұрын
Admitting you are envious of another man is an admission of inferiority.Therefore no man likes to admit to that.But Enviness is a natural Phenomenon and not the real problem.The problem is not knowing how to deal with it.
@IbarraAlejandro4 жыл бұрын
@@raymondtendau2749 You're right.
@r.pinheiro5493 жыл бұрын
No That’s not right at all. Sometimes you get handed a bad hand in life.
@untaughtbiblelessons3 жыл бұрын
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@trinitysmith22263 жыл бұрын
It’s hard to not be envious when you’re watching someone else live your dream life.
@brookebishop20923 жыл бұрын
I agree.
@mrbanks86753 жыл бұрын
💯
@prasangiattale39773 жыл бұрын
Same here
@Itsmetahh3 жыл бұрын
Exactly while the rest of us know we never going to be like the celebrity’s. 😒I mean it’s possible but I’m just being honest that I just don’t see my self with the dreams I dreamed of.
@Jhonsmithandy3 жыл бұрын
Wake up from this dirty bed and make your life dream come true instead of watching other doing it
@doczero12964 жыл бұрын
It's even worse when you're jealous of your best friend. I love them and I do not think that they don't deserve what they have BUT deep down I wish I had what they had. I am in conflict with my own self and I hate myself just for even being envious of other people let alone my best friend.
@richardhanssen6724 жыл бұрын
Me to, but just know its completely normal. But keep doing stuff that make you feel good. Start small, clean you room and take care of yourself, then step by step keep doing good things for yourself. Most important is to keep desciplined
@tk_06134 жыл бұрын
Omg exactly same
@claraclara92424 жыл бұрын
same
@Raven_48753 жыл бұрын
same... I support my friend. I'm so proud of her. But I'm jealous. She deserves so much but I'm jealous. I feel like a failure
@oncetwice59423 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way. I’m glad that the people I know are genuinely happy with their lives, but it sucks that I can’t experience happiness thanks to depression.
@anointed99able4 жыл бұрын
In tears right now...wasted so much time. No more
@maryannhope82764 жыл бұрын
Good for you Peaches.
@jasonosborn81544 жыл бұрын
Did you deserve the tears
@RosieeRafiq4 жыл бұрын
Me too!
@hadescx72103 жыл бұрын
Its been a year. Let us know how u r
@untaughtbiblelessons3 жыл бұрын
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@pratishthatripathi258411 ай бұрын
I’m proud of everyone that actually searched this up to confront their negative traits and work on themselves. This was such a refreshing perspective. Thank you Mel 💜
@beyourbest274 жыл бұрын
Most people who envy came from a toxic place. Parents whom compare their children to others, bringing them down. The feel like they're not enough all the time.
@dnbdiva22273 жыл бұрын
I think you are right, they havent been shown love so it becomes resentfulness over time. They then look at others and say well they dont deserve happiness!
@raven-kn6lv3 жыл бұрын
I don't really think so. You can have a good up bringing and still be jealous or envious of other people simply because you do not have what they have. I think those who are brought up well are able to cope and deal with it better than people who come from toxic homes.
@korkordile12182 жыл бұрын
@@raven-kn6lv same. My family, my friends and my social media is has positive aura. But there is dark envy in my personalities... i can't control it...
@Nicole-ee3sb2 жыл бұрын
so me being envious my whole life is rly my parents fault for comparing me with other kids, great to know
@celinamilian2 жыл бұрын
Yep and they need to forgive their parents
@AshtonColby4 жыл бұрын
That’s key: “you feel like they don’t deserve it”. I never heard it put like this.
@mimiladolescente28983 жыл бұрын
Exactly , she's summing up all my feelings with one phrase
@shxxylophone89693 жыл бұрын
They don’t
@untaughtbiblelessons3 жыл бұрын
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@danchuk39273 жыл бұрын
Every girl I met told me I deserve "another girl" and they just delegate that chance to another person, which are limited, while she's hooking up with others that don't deserve having a girl in the first place. I'm therefore in an eternal loop of loneliness.
@jbenno7021 Жыл бұрын
@@shxxylophone8969 yes, like when the bosses family get promotions. Those feelings are justified.
@kfsm15874 жыл бұрын
How does my KZfaq recommendation know what I'm going tbrough
@ToniToussaint4 жыл бұрын
kashaf salemm Siri is getting smarter
@sivakumarsubramaniam23884 жыл бұрын
kashaf salemm honey everyone goin through this... but only few loud like u n me. Good that we realise it and doin something about it.
@clausita4 жыл бұрын
@@sivakumarsubramaniam2388 Everybody? I don't think so. Enjoy.
@DavidChandra4 жыл бұрын
@@sivakumarsubramaniam2388 and me... Envy is scary.
@mortadahasaad5304 жыл бұрын
Your google search, your chats with with people, everything...
@InnerVisionStudios4 жыл бұрын
Jealousy and envy will wear you down. Thanks for all the tips in this video Mel.
@novaknovakovic15853 жыл бұрын
This was great, thanks, been searching for "what are the signs of an extrovert?" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Deyriannal Startling Dominance - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? It is a great one of a kind guide for discovering how to stop your shyness and anxiety issues without the normal expense. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my colleague got excellent results with it.
@anna.3183 жыл бұрын
It is very exhausting. I'm tired of feeling this way and I want to stop it😭
@untaughtbiblelessons3 жыл бұрын
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@Arrow-9992 жыл бұрын
I am also envy of the thing that why others are not envy of others,why and how they are happy with what they have
@tiagonthego5 ай бұрын
@@Arrow-999they were given more love and probably made feel like they were enough from a really young age :).
@Darthbelal4 жыл бұрын
Envy has two parts. One part is that you want what the other person has. The second part is that if YOU can't have what the other does, it should be taken away from that other person. This is a very toxic belief that people should work to rid themselves of. Do the best you can and don't worry about others......
@KaikaiDokeshii3 жыл бұрын
@bright path same
@curiosityshop22973 жыл бұрын
I don’t think it should be taken away from the other person but it is more of you can’t get what they have.
@maddiem3332 жыл бұрын
yeah it’s envy vs jealousy
@Lightslayer-p1i2 жыл бұрын
I feel this way. I'm so caught up in it that I wish this person would dissappear or just suffer. that would make me happy. I hate her and she have everything I want. she's younger and better. I watch her grew up from trash to gold. I hate seeing her happy. it boils my blood. sometimes seeing her makes me cry
@tiagonthego5 ай бұрын
@@curiosityshop2297nah, it should be taken away 😂
@ErikaK4 жыл бұрын
Focus on yourself and on your own path, look outside for inspiration because you want to improve yourself and become a greater version of yourself. If they can have it, you can have it too, and there's absolutely nothing that you can not achieve!!
@livinginthemoment82544 жыл бұрын
Erika K 😃😃😃😃😃😃
@ErikaK4 жыл бұрын
@@livinginthemoment8254 ♡♡♡♡ sending lots of love!!!!
@knowingtruthisbliss27174 жыл бұрын
I cannot achieve beautiful face and physique like theirs... what about that envy?
@Netsfan244 жыл бұрын
Knowing truth is bliss I bet those same people who supposedly look “better” than you would also like to have some of your positive traits, such as intelligence, personality, kindness, ect. We can play this game with anyone. Physical appearance is way overvalued in today’s society. There are so many more amazing traits that people don’t see on the outside. God only created one of you and no one else can be you better than yourself. So be proud and happy of yourself and don’t worry about what others have that you might not, cause I can assure you that there are things about you that they want too.
@kateoloughlin87744 жыл бұрын
@@knowingtruthisbliss2717 I will NEVER be miss world. I have the Holy Spirit lights my road and Heart. When you buy a homeless person food and a bottle of water let that be your beauty. In the ens it's the beauty that counts. Kind regards from Ireland Kate. 👱♀️🇨🇮💖💖💖💖
@lillianrutter19033 жыл бұрын
I never knew what caused my depression until just about an hour ago. My friends went to get their nails done. They sent me a picture and I immediately burst into tears. That’s when I knew that I wasn’t ok
@maryellenputnam-reinhardt33052 жыл бұрын
You’re not alone.
@bilge88962 жыл бұрын
i feel you..
@banana48162 жыл бұрын
Yup i get the feeling of being excluded, or not being able to relate from your friends. This feeling of missing out is similar to what you felt i would cry on the spot and worse have panic attacks, once i would have been aware of the thing that caused me to feel envy.
@tyd8077 Жыл бұрын
Your real friends would have invited you. Hope you found better friends.
@Midnightdarkness-jr2yz Жыл бұрын
Honey that’s not jealousy that’s just them being fake friends
@rosie6 Жыл бұрын
I think realizing how toxic and pathetic envy and jealousy is, is a sign you are a kind person that deeply doesn’t want to feel this way❤ it’s a good thing. Turn that envy/jealousy into fuel to make urself grow and heal. I saw this saying which was “ if you are always happy at the success of others, you will be happy often.” That’s so sweet.
@Maryam-cy6cv3 ай бұрын
Well said 💕
@IsaGirlGamer4 жыл бұрын
I love this woman. She is so wise and down to earth
@tompops33114 жыл бұрын
I hated her. Are you a child. It sounds like she is taking to a kid. Her voice and attitude pisses me off
@tompops33114 жыл бұрын
@drpooja Gupta Yes. Agreee. *Forced Vaccination IS RAPE*
@empresserica4 жыл бұрын
Yep
@dalehoward83524 жыл бұрын
Me too!
@oklol52764 жыл бұрын
tom pops she’s just trying to help
@princessstella65523 жыл бұрын
I'm jealous of my friends because I'm the only one who doesn't have experience in relationships and I hate it when they talk about it. I'm also jealous to them because they're getting more friends than me and they are way more popular in both social media and in reality and I'm always the one who is left in shadows and unappreciated and I hate that feeling. To control my jealousy and envy, I disconnect with people and do some things that I enjoy like working out, long walks, travelling etc. and I'm not telling them or anyone because I feel like they wont care if I tell them.
@dvmeena51353 жыл бұрын
i hope you find happiness
@missjk6043 жыл бұрын
SAME! My best friend love to show off and always interrupt me , i wanna be social but she always steel opportunities for that and i l left feeling unheard, i always feel awkward and unsociable when we are together in a social events but when i am alone I'm social and have fun with it , also she always trying to prove that she is right and i should agree to everything she say ,i feel i am in constant competition , i am so exhausted at this point i don't know if it's just envy or hate , but i can't do anything coz she didn't harm me directly and i feel guilty to feel this way ''may be she just being herself, and im a bad person to think like that" it's a circle of guilt and envy, also i spend most of the time with her (not by choice)so i feel exhausted and in a bad mood all the day i don't know what to do .
@darioguerrero25803 жыл бұрын
@@missjk604 sounds like you're dealing with a narcissistic friend, and they're good with 3 things: 1. Flattery 2. Making you feel guilty 3. Anger
@stellagyan69422 жыл бұрын
@@missjk604 why is she your best friend?
@estevaobulhoes8950 Жыл бұрын
I'm in a similar situation, I hope you're in a better phase now
@karabomoalusi88104 жыл бұрын
I've never developed so much jealousy until recently. I don't understand this emotion. However I'm dealing with it. I needed to see this.
@untaughtbiblelessons3 жыл бұрын
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@josephstalin1333 жыл бұрын
Same. I never cared that much about others until recently.
@MiDaY_i2 жыл бұрын
in a way i feel like social media is a huge catalyst to this problem :(
@aafkgirl91 Жыл бұрын
@@MiDaY_i It really is 😔
@sakuranovaryan92613 жыл бұрын
Not to bore anyone with my rambling just wanted to say a few words.I'm also a very jealous and insecure person. I hate that about myself but it's really hard to change my toxic ways cause my parents have always compared me to others and belittled me..for days I've hated myself and felt like a horrible piece of shit. I never really hurt anyone in jealousy but I think I hurt myself a lot. Because I wanted to be a good person who just doesn't feel these horrible emotions.I say this not to justify my thoughts and feelings but to state that this can happen to anyone. But at last I accepted that it's in human nature to be jealous and insecure...just don't be too harsh on yourself or you will suffer. Remember to never hurt the other person in your jealousy . Bringing other people down will never help you and you'd probably hurt an innocent person who's just trying to live their life. Try to find a productive way to feel better. Do things that make you apriciate yourself. Earn your confidence by doing substancefull things. You don'thave to do great things even the littlest things like helping your mom or writing a poem can change your mindset.Or even better try to find the source of your insecurity and try to understand how to deal with it. Remember the solution of pain is in the pain in itself. I hope I made sense and wasnt too preachy. I just wanted to help anybody who's feeling jealous and insecure and hating themselves or can't escape their toxic patterns. It is a toxic trait but it is also natural and can be solved by talking sound measures.It's important to talk bout complex emotions and not just demonize yourself or people when they feel them. We're not born as good people, we fuck up a lot and learn to be somewhat good as we mature...I think.thas all. Good luck to everybody out there♡
@hammed1593 жыл бұрын
this is really amazing, i hope you overcome your toxic traits and you fulfil your full potential
@HimFurst14 күн бұрын
Thanks for sharing.
@raymondtendau27494 жыл бұрын
"It is not to your benefit to see and hear everything"-Seneca
@MzSoulll4 жыл бұрын
I like this quote.
@raymondtendau27494 жыл бұрын
@@MzSoulll it is so Damn true..im sure thats why you love it.😁
@untaughtbiblelessons3 жыл бұрын
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@redpalex3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, social media..........
@morningglory78313 жыл бұрын
Also there is this thing where People who did that, stay just a average life. You get motivated from getting jealous and envy which God made so you can get better. Everything was created to balance your life. No matter how much times they try to help you it's something you just can't get over with. It gets even worse when u get older. The older womans are more jealous and envious. I notice guys flex for fun but womans think about them self so heavy that the ego kills them. Guys: will find the solution right away: Damn his killing it I wanna be like that too. Time to get a job and kill it. Womans: why she deserves it? what a bitch,, The funny thing is This happen since 152 AD. Japan emperor has a long history of writing things down and it's something that has been coming down for years. Thats why you see all these womans wiriting things in internet and try to find comfort from people around they wanna hear the ultimate. " I would be like that too if I were you.. you ok ". There is problem with this. They actually think they are right and not wrong. that's why you see all these lonely womans writing and talking all day to a strangers and if one agree's she gets comfort and feels like she's right again. That's why so man humans come to army and finally see's their selfs because they straight tell you how u are really quickly. If you have someone scary watching over you, You can't be negative anymore.
@heythere37804 жыл бұрын
I have never gotten jealous for materialistic things, but I have gotten jealous of someones happines when I feel down or when I fail at something. I try to catch it while it's happening but it's sometimes hard. It doesn't last long and I get over it pretty quick but it's a sucky feeling.
@NenaLavonne4 жыл бұрын
Hey There 🦋
@tiffanysar-lecluze56793 жыл бұрын
Same
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@anava70303 жыл бұрын
I get jealous of peoples life and spiritual happiness because I feel like I’m fundamentally not as good as them so I’ll never get to experience what they experience everyday of their lives and that I’ll always be unfulfilled
@omen39492 жыл бұрын
I'm happy for you that you are making progress, let's keep the faith
@aellefy2 жыл бұрын
Look at us all trying to get better by recognising this emotion and propelling us forward, at the very least, we can be thankful for that❤
@cory8242 Жыл бұрын
This comment needs to be pinned to the top. Thank you for looking out for us all
@favouragbozo829711 ай бұрын
Sometimes I wish these emotions will just fly away
@meghnawahid32793 жыл бұрын
I used to be so jealous of other people...it actually ruined my life.but I am slowly overcoming this heinous feeling.
@n.m62492 жыл бұрын
Well done
@Human1136 Жыл бұрын
How do you do it? I've already ruined two relationships already.. :/
@AddieWagenknecht4 жыл бұрын
I've definitely been struggling with my friendships with people who married into extremely rich families, retire at 28 and spend their days shopping and going to the spa while I work 2-3jobs to cover my families rent. Its been hard for me to be around them, but i dont know if its envy, just extremely unrelatable anymore for me and I dont know how to handle it. I enjoy their friendship but its hard to explain how much I can't afford that they never think twice about.
@tatzumani25914 жыл бұрын
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@rosed.4 жыл бұрын
I don't know if this will help..but I have learned that material objects do not bring true happiness. Maybe temporarily it does, but, I feel that true happiness comes from within. Like being a hard worker like you are. And being good to other people. And above all..love. There are different types of success in life. To me, you are successful and down to earth. I admire hard working people.
@AddieWagenknecht4 жыл бұрын
@@rosed. that's a great point. I try to never compare but also comparing is somehow part of being human and part of me does want that $5,000 jacket- I know it changes nothing about my happiness or me as a person, but it sure looks nice on :) and I wonder what it would be like to be able to buy 5 of those without thinking or having to save for a few years.. it's not even jealousy, more like curiosity and wishing I didn't have such expensive taste :)
@rosed.4 жыл бұрын
@@AddieWagenknecht I can understand that...it's a luxury to be able to do that, & there's no harm in being curious. I hope that I didn't offend you with my reply. And, you never know..maybe one day you will win the lottery☺
@AddieWagenknecht4 жыл бұрын
@@rosed. 😬😂🤞💓
@uWuqt3 жыл бұрын
I feel happy that I get to recognize this feeling of jealousy. I am constantly jealous whenever someone gets higher recognition than I have. I always want to be on top of everything, and it's sickening. Now, I realize that it is up to me to use this feeling to be better or worse.
@afrykanqwin3 жыл бұрын
Been struggling with envy and jealousy because of witnessing all the blessings others are receiving while struggling with so many things falling apart in my own life. Asking God to help me overcome this toxic emotions.
@celinamilian2 жыл бұрын
@𝓜 ☼ false; you sound toxic like your daddy Satan. Have you forgiven your mother.
@ohirinaaАй бұрын
How do you feel now?
@moonlit63114 жыл бұрын
I don't feel envy so much as I feel stupid when someone else is doing better than me. I feel like I haven't worked as hard or that I just have bad luck or misfortune. I might have a second of "Why them? Why not me?" But as soon as I say it, it's gone. I feel they must've worked harder or had better luck and that the world just does what it does.
@cupopenforever40642 жыл бұрын
I start feeling jealous for the most irrational reasons, most common being ones with having a good social life. Even though I'm able to identify this feeling as unnecessary, it just hits deep down. I want to appreciate people and feel happy for them but I also want to fix myself first. I'm happy I found this video and was able to read experiences of others too, thanks!
@estevaobulhoes8950 Жыл бұрын
Me too mate. I strongly relate with the "fix myself first". I hope we can figure it out soon.
@flowersmile1234 жыл бұрын
I love this message. Have the mindset and belief... Abundance - there's enough for everyone, you're not in competition with anyone. Be happy for others, it's a sign that it's possible, you're on your way and it's coming to you.
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@lessismore85332 жыл бұрын
I won’t waste my time celebrating what I don’t have, but I won’t punish others for having something but I rather just not focus on them if it’s bringing me down. Being happy for them is giving them attention so I rather just ignore it all together. Not that I don’t wish them the best but I rather put my energy somewhere else
@andrewattenboroughtwothumb46974 жыл бұрын
I have always been jealous and envious of others and have never really been lucky in life at all
@banonymous81892 жыл бұрын
“Think about possibilities, think about abundance, think about dreams & success, those are infinite.”🙌🏻
@randomcarrot79703 жыл бұрын
"Envy is when you not only want the other person has but there's a part of you that feels like they don't deserve it."
@LauraLegends4 жыл бұрын
Before even watching this I am already so jealous of how many subscribers you have EDIT: I am happy for you Mel there is enough to go around, there is infinite abundance and possibilities
@inassefadil20223 жыл бұрын
wtf
@AmberPlaster223 жыл бұрын
Your candor and honesty is breathtaking Laura
@KaikaiDokeshii3 жыл бұрын
I got jealous because I saw someone with really good tweening skills QwQ
@untaughtbiblelessons3 жыл бұрын
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@beautyngwenya5883 жыл бұрын
Jealousy is witchcraft stop it guys
@spencerd93253 жыл бұрын
I'm envious of everyone enjoying their lives whilst I have MS and can't walk more than 5 mins. I envy everyone not having a worry in the world whilst eating animals and calling each other good people
@JUSTJESUS80592 жыл бұрын
I have to admit the struggle with this emotion is valid . I try and tell myself you will have your chance but it’s not easy to get over this emotion.
@n.m62492 жыл бұрын
It's a problem for everyone, I think it's a feeling just like hate, love, sadness all of them are natural and humans shouldn't feel bad but they should be in control of those feelings
@paulangelomendeja67172 жыл бұрын
This is the talk I needed. "So much abundance in this world. Happiness is not limited."
@2legit2Kwit4 жыл бұрын
I’m 45 now. I feel like I’ve finally experienced enough to see that the grass is not greener. I never envy someone else’s relationship, career, family dynamics, marital status, and am happy for their successes because I’ve been where they are and I know that there is no monopoly on love or success. This is a great TALK! There’s enough to go around! Thank you, MEL! You are a true gem in this world.
@ealing264 жыл бұрын
We will depart from this world empty-handed.
@2legit2Kwit4 жыл бұрын
Naughty Aj so true. When my brother died at 35, that truth hit me. He left his youth and his worldly possessions but gained a purified soul before death and a one way ticket to heaven.
@untaughtbiblelessons3 жыл бұрын
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@lessismore85332 жыл бұрын
True. Even the ones you’re envious of aren’t immune to it
@isabelpinales74094 жыл бұрын
"Nobody is in competition with me" There is abundant for everyone 🙏🏾 amen!
@ShaySznn3 жыл бұрын
Amen
@davisholman81492 жыл бұрын
I have never felt envy/jealousy. It is simply a trait that I will be forever thankful for. I have always been genuinely happy for others - it means that if my friend or family member succeeded, then I can too. There truly is plenty of good to go around.
@mercyvili33724 жыл бұрын
Thank God! I never felt this way and I pray it should be so forever.... When close friends and family are getting more successful, it's makes me happy and more happy because I believe am the next one in line but if it's opposite, it's makes me feel fear for my life... I don't why.... It's makes me happy and gives me hope to see people on higher levels. Well said my lady❤️
@star-angeliah82624 жыл бұрын
I completely understand what you mean. I feel lucky when the closest people to me have great things happen to them, I dont feel jealous for some reason. If I did feel envious or jealous of others & what they have, I think 💭 "The Spirit world & the universe would do something to remind me how lucky I am to have a wonderful husband, 4 fabulous healthy children (+1 baby girl miscarried now in spirit world), a lovely home, food in our tummies, fresh water to drink, a car to drive & the health that we do have ~ especially the miracle I was given when the hospital saved my man after 2 heart attacks & a cardiac arrest. I may be disabled but I am forever grateful for the abundance of all amazingly great things in my life❣"
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@Sgqebhe4 жыл бұрын
Her outfit looks so amazing 😮
@chris21taylor3 жыл бұрын
You dare not say you envy it!
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@parthoroy50443 жыл бұрын
You jealous?
@sheilacastillo3988 Жыл бұрын
I’m not gonna lie I get jealous of other people. Because of my insecurity but that’s some thing that I’m working on in this really helped me out a lot
@gabriellesinclair9712 жыл бұрын
When you see somone having what you want, tell yourself "I know what I want and Its possible for me too." "I can have that too." "I can work towards that" "Good for them!" "They deserve it." "We can all be successful togther"
@RawOlympia Жыл бұрын
As someone who is disabled, that is hard.
@egdrifts15042 жыл бұрын
it's hard when everyone in your life is better then you. Always outshined, never recognized. it's tiring it's angering and it's unfair
@marydrawz35653 жыл бұрын
I can't just "knock it off". It's kinda ingrained in me... So the only way seems to just stay to myself
@lessismore85332 жыл бұрын
Exactly it takes time
@joannesaltfleet20714 жыл бұрын
Its natural to feel envious when someone else gets something you want for yourself as it shows you are interested in that thing as if you weren't interested it wouldn't bother you. Its when envy turns into nasty actions is when it causes problems!
@beyourbest274 жыл бұрын
There are some things you can't change which have big impact : your height, frame of your body and the way you look. And since we're living in a world where you have to be beautiful, intelligent etc to get someone to love you or want to be with you. Yes it's real
@xxxluckycharmsxxx3 жыл бұрын
damn you called me out on my bs. There is enough happiness to go around, and my envious feelings are limiting my chances of achieving said happiness.
@zhyarjasim4 жыл бұрын
I have being envy of people right and left this last week and it just got so much stuck in my head that I have lost focus on my other life plans that I was working on . Thank you for the advice it really cleared my head of this toxic feeling .
@untaughtbiblelessons3 жыл бұрын
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@kaly_ths_2912 жыл бұрын
I want to add to this. The feeling itself isn't the enemy. It's natural, you're allowed to feel it and not suppress it with forced happiness. But once it slows down, then you need to let the positive thoughts and patterns suggested in the video to flow over it and continue working towards your goals.
@ernestjazendelacruz88113 жыл бұрын
I am crying after watching this, I always compare my life on my friends' lifes, the celebrities I adores life... Literally everything i can get envy to , I get envy to. Thank you for reminding me that the success of others was a sign that It is really possible and that there are something a lot for everybody.
@SashaTorte3 жыл бұрын
When I get jealous I somehow wish I had the same things as the other person. It never occurs to me that the other person doesn't deserve it
@rikkapotatosalad47213 жыл бұрын
Y'know I started to feel envy when I started middle school when I saw someone on the internet that is good at drawing it's been two years now, it started to get serious when my hair was starting to fall out from stress I'm glad I found this 😃☺️💗
@MsNotaBene3 жыл бұрын
"It's a sign that it's possible" "be happy for other people"
@carbikesale21342 жыл бұрын
When you work insanely hard constantly and do everything you can and still things don't workout and then you see someone who is barely doing half of the things you doing but somehow they are successful or living the life you want... Now here it messes you head. I mean I don't wanna be jealous or envious but what else can I do? Pretend everything is okay? On top of that, you start feeling guilty and bad about yourself for being jealous. Its insane. I hope I can be successful and never jealous of anyone.
@phuongmainguyen15134 жыл бұрын
I feel envious most of the times. But i know it, i know that i'm envious. It sucks. But not that bad when i know envy is presenting. But it keeps coming back again and again.
@EdwindePaula2 жыл бұрын
I needed to come here and thank you for these words. It's been around three or four weeks I watched and internalized this video, and the change I feel in my life is unbelievable, undescribable! abundance is the key word.
@emilyc56253 жыл бұрын
Thanks Social media 👏 I have a friend that gets so angry whenever she sees people on Instagram with a baby bc she keeps trying and can’t have one . She’s literally depressed every day saying what did these people do right . Sending her this video
@elitaniad4 жыл бұрын
This is how I know my phone is listening
@untaughtbiblelessons3 жыл бұрын
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@clarcc3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@lilianavalerio6003 жыл бұрын
It's hard not to be envious when at my age everyone is getting relationships and marriage and I can't even get someone to spend time with me much less get in a relationship, I feel like everyone else is in on a secret no one will tell me, and I shouldn't stoop to lowering myself to uggly disgusting guys just to find love, neither should I have to kidnap someone and force them to love me... Its a horrible feeling situation and cycle and its not fair, I try not to be like this but I don't understand... I'm stuck
@ahmedalmeleh2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for this. I recently just started my professional career in IT. I used to look at my friends profile on LinkedIn and he was Senior IT / two times my level of rank and I am still at the bottom of the pile and used to think he doesn't deserve it. Until I heard that success is obtainable for everybody not just a set selection of the population.
@NenaLavonne4 жыл бұрын
Wise words, Mel. We are enough as we are and that comparison will never bring us happiness or peace. ♥️😊✨
@lessismore85332 жыл бұрын
It’s complicated hearing “we’re enough as we are” and “there’s room for improvement “ mantras both coexist in the same universe.
@junecash2589 Жыл бұрын
Never felt envy in my life. I'm so happy for good things to happen to people.
@skullcrawler183 жыл бұрын
Today i think, first time i feel this at age of 21 🤣 and I never want to feel jealous or envious again ,it feel like i had become a negative crappy personality for a short amount of time
@NancyVictor4 жыл бұрын
You are yourself, be you and live for the moment, life has so much possibilities than to limit yourself only being envious of others.
@ranaamna99563 жыл бұрын
It is the first video that i watched on jealousy because really feeling it, and i learnt the point. When someone gets an opportunity or any good thing, 1. JUST SEE IT AS A SIGN OF POSSIBILITY, if he/she can have that thing that is a sign that you can have that too. 2. REALIZE THAT THE OPPORTUNITIES AND THE THINGS YOU WANT ARE NOT LIMITED, THEY ARE INFINITE AND ARE IN great ABUNDANCE so if someone lives your dream in any way, then realize that your dream is still possible in some other way. Just look around and find your own opportunity. If you don't see any, then create the dream you want to live. "IF HE CAN DO, I CAN DO" ( M. Ali Jinnah)
@mstwelvedeadlycyns3 жыл бұрын
You have no idea how the other person you envy got to their point of life. Nothing to stop your dreams and goals. Terrible feeling. I gave up on that when I realized it did not serve me a purpose. Love this video.
@ForeverLuxeDesigns3 жыл бұрын
I have been feeling jealous of everyone lately I have been by myself this entire pandemic trying to work on all my flaws it just seems like everyone takes for granted what I would die for and now that I'll be 42 next month my dreams of being a wife and a mother have went down the drain, man I've made so many mistakes maybe I need a break from social media 😪
@aroosamakhdoomi98762 жыл бұрын
Better late than never
@YouTips4U4 жыл бұрын
Excellent video Mel! I have two friends that are bitter and unhappy constantly about anyone that has success or money and I have actually had to distance myself from them because they are so negative about everything in life. Being a very positive-minded person, I found myself constantly trying to help them see the bright side of every situation that bothered them but sometimes it just becomes too much of an uphill battle. I pray they will change. Thanks for sharing 😊
@Rachel-pk9iq3 жыл бұрын
Theres a girl in my school,she is always recognised by everyone and here i am sitting in a corner...i dont even have true friends to begin with..But looking at whatever social media things like Snapchat or ig,i always see photos or videos of her with her friends...laughing and hugging each other while i just stay at home alone..i have social anxiety and its just like i feel uncomfortable outside of my house..i cant express myself to others and i can only be myself at home ALONE..it makes me so emotional thinking about it.Just bc of her having friends makes me wanna change lives with her and b jealous of her. Everyday i just stay on my bed without texting or calling anyone...but even having to eat with other people or like a dinner with my OWN FAMILY makes me uncomfortable bc like what if they judge for my way of eating..what if i have something on my mouth?Ik they dont care but my stupid brain cant think otherwise... Looking at that girl makes me think she is perfect and has a perfect life..she even has BOY BESTFRIENDS.. She has like 100 friends how is that possible? I wanna change myself completely from my looks to my personality but ofc thats not possible..im literally crying..
@cinnamonbun55303 жыл бұрын
I feel you. You don't have to suffer. Seek therapy. I tell you it works. Ask for help from someone from your family or literally anybody!. I know it's difficult but please try.
@cathytaylor90563 жыл бұрын
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@greyman6623 жыл бұрын
I’m sure that girls life isn’t perfect, truth is nobody’s life is perfect. Make self love your only priority and do things that make you feel good!
@arjunmahajan404911 ай бұрын
I am just envious of people who are child prodigy, people who have natural talents at singing, acting etc. They get material success so easy.
@monicadiasdenoronha4 жыл бұрын
you explained everything about envious in just 4 minutes. Congratulations. I totally agree with you!!! You're awesome!!!
@rosietheriveter13 жыл бұрын
I have a coworker right now who is extremely envious of me. She was born in another country where the "All American" blonde, blue-eyed woman is viewed as the ideal beauty. I am also tall, in shape, and confident, which are additional traits that she doesn't possess.
@calmandcool82294 жыл бұрын
I am never envious or jealous. I realize the person with the new bag, boyfriend, car, shoes, jewelry will eventually go through their junk and throw it on the curb. They are just things. The person who wants those things is suffering inside.
@luizfernandosimao50624 жыл бұрын
I was always very envious until the day a friend received a promotion. At first I was jealous, but I was ashamed to feel that, because he is a great person. I took a deep breath and said: He deserves all the success in the world and I also deserve it. Besides keeping me motivated, saying this every time someone achieves something, improves my self-esteem.
@wherebirdsfly4 жыл бұрын
Let me just say: you look so freaking pretty and in shape
@odinnido82992 жыл бұрын
I L💗VE YOUR PIECES OF ADVICE, THANK YOU 💗💗💗
@taraball10304 жыл бұрын
I needed this today...so badly!!! Thank you!
@NenaLavonne4 жыл бұрын
Tara Ball 😊✨
@Oxygen_544 жыл бұрын
You'll be okay
@sassyteume34102 жыл бұрын
im so jealous and envious of my old bestfriend. she's just so perfect rn but like why i deserve it too :( and to my neighbor that my parents used to compare to me when i was young
@jazzyjazz45644 жыл бұрын
OMG this is what exactly I needed to hear ! I can’t thank you enough for this short but useful clip. I’ve been battling with myself because of my envy with the people around me. I’ve been asking myself why I can’t have what other people have? And then I stumble upon this video and now I know how to re arrange my way of thinking. Again thank you so very much 🤗
@lenakataeva7525 Жыл бұрын
I'm so tired of envy and jealousy. I always said that I was happy for others. But I was feeling robbed. I admit it now. I can't lie to myself anymore. I'm starting rn reprogramming my reaction to others success.
@duongwth3 жыл бұрын
"envy is not only want what the other person has but the part of you feel like they dont deserve it"
@CocoyMoya19856 ай бұрын
I love how she defined envy vs jealousy... it was spot on
@EYRM92 ай бұрын
God knows what and when to give anything to anyone.. you might thing someone lives an easy life and they're better than you, buy you don't know what they're going throw and what they feel or deal with everyday..I'm telling you this based on so many life experiences and stories I've heard. “You shall not covet.” Exodus 20:17 However, you should ask God for everything,, EVERYTHING. nothing on this earth can't be solved or healed by God that created galaxies, medicine, atoms... everything in 7 days. Ask God for help. "For I, the LORD your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, 'Fear not, I am the one who helps you.” _ Isaiah 41:13
@traceyhall89794 жыл бұрын
You just touched on something my daughter is struggling with right now. She’s a recent college graduate and is struggling with getting her life started while some of her friends and classmates “seem” to be moving on in theirs.
@tatzumani25914 жыл бұрын
I can only imagine how painful it must be for you to see your daughter in such position. Hope life gets better for her and she finds happiness.
@traceyhall89794 жыл бұрын
H.E. M. You’re so sweet. Thank you. It is, but I can only do the best I can to encourage her to be patient, prayerful and faithful. 😘
@LotusMystery4 жыл бұрын
I don't envy external stuff. I envy skills/talent
@lessismore85332 жыл бұрын
Me too! I don’t envy material things. The talent category is the WORST lol
@tarekgst30864 жыл бұрын
thank you im 18 and i was loking for this video 💚
@allaboardthegravytrain59872 жыл бұрын
Mel I love you. Bought your journal and it helped me get my cams certification.
@Lycancass894 жыл бұрын
I do this a lot when I am really down about being single, and have had bad relationships in the past. I think that there is a limited number of decent men in the world, and they are being snatched up by those I am jealous/envious of. Thanks for the real-talk Mel.
@ManojKumar-mi5qz4 жыл бұрын
I am a limited one ...But didn't snatched yet ...lol
@Aris-Darling2 жыл бұрын
When I am envious of others, I question my envy deeper: what exactly am I envious of? What can that inform me about my own desires for my life? What can I do about it? When others are envious of me, I remind myself that I earned and deserve what I have. That no one can rob me of what I have created for my own life, and that other people’s feelings are their own problem, and my best response is to be compassionate that they feel lack in their lives.
@lou-fatimadeleon64763 жыл бұрын
This was the slap in the face I needed. Thank you. Your explanation has provided the subtle (yet profound) mental pivot I needed to build a bridge over/through the wreckage of twisted thoughts. On the other side in abundance!
@Flyingtaco823 жыл бұрын
I have ADHD and a learning disability. I’m adopted, and the only one in my family who has disabilities. Sometimes there isn’t enough success to go around.
@muskanverma78334 жыл бұрын
Pls don't mind , I'm jealous of you too Mel .❤️
@sandrastevehill34073 жыл бұрын
What I do is let my success speaks for itself. During my junior high school days, I was always left behind in the class. All of my classmates, including my friends, seemed to have their own strengths towards a certain subject while I deal with my own insecurities. Right now, I'm starting to do the things I've never done before because I was scared of being a failure. I'm starting to write books on Wattpad, uploads KZfaq videos, eating healthy, exercising, facing my fear of talking to people, and MORE. I stay away from social media or just unfollow those people that I feel envious of. If I can do it, so you can. Have a nice day!!!
@Chopperwocky4 жыл бұрын
But when people rub it in your face about how much better off they are,its natural to have those bad feelings.
@hughesd.mungus98194 жыл бұрын
Them rubbing it in your face just shows that they are insecure.
@NancyVictor4 жыл бұрын
It means they are much worse than envious people, imagine what they would do if they didn't have it to flaunt it?
@maryannhope82764 жыл бұрын
Turn around and walk away...better yet, RUN!!!
@ginabizzarosghosts78314 жыл бұрын
I hear ya. Going thru that as we speak.
@esthergester2364 жыл бұрын
When someone patronises you and belittles you ...run away from them. QUICKLY. I DID
@brookebishop20923 жыл бұрын
It is so hard to stop feeling envious and jealous everyday. You are crying and angry everyday whether you do or don’t see or hear their accomplishments.
@christineo85104 жыл бұрын
I didn't know there is a difference between jealousy and envy. I learned something new. ☺️ I'm currently a #minimalist in progress 👍 😁 I focus on what's important and my values.
@saritapaloma84268 ай бұрын
Lord, I lay my heart and my desires before you. Search my heart, know my thoughts and see if there is any grievous way in me. Show me where envy has caused me to pursue more over pursuing you. Realign my heart with your will for my life in the name of Jesus Christ Amen.
@CrispyMuffin22 жыл бұрын
Is it weird that i feel envy towards people making friends easily and go to meetups and such without problem? Being autistic, introverted and having had a very tough time in school has made it extremely hard for me to be social. I rarely ever have anything to say that doesn't involve repeating someone or making weird noises. I get jealous because what i see others do with ease, is something that would make me either completely lock down, or just have sensory overload. Stuff's tiring, man
@davund35942 жыл бұрын
I can relate to some of that! I can be quite socially awkward because of my brain damage and some other stuff. I've never had a girlfriend and envy younger people than me (my littlebrother included) who are good with talking with women, and sometimes i really hate it.
@saulcaneloalvarez11162 жыл бұрын
We have to be careful, apparently that's tantalizingly close to inceldom
@celanimaddr Жыл бұрын
I wish I never experienced envy. But it's time for me to get a hold of myself and celebrate other people's success. Every dog has its day.
@priya_jha4 жыл бұрын
What if you envy your siblings because you are being ignored by your patents. Will you roam around to find new parents to receive some love? 😕 But at the same time I love the content of this video ❤️❤️👍
@jassieskitchen.84892 жыл бұрын
Started this video crying and ended this video smiling. Thank you 😊