Wow keej tshaj plaws li o thov peb cov poj niam yuav tsum ua li zaj no nawb zoo kawg ua tsaug

What your Father said to you was right...There's a reason why Christians should not mingle with Non-Christians. You were raised from 2 different worlds...However, since you blindly chose him; Kuddos to you for trying to make it work. It's not too late to go back to God again & repent. Remember God loves you, sister!

Lady, I passed on your techniques just to keep a cheating loser. My health is way too important. I would rather live alone in peace with my children than than in pain because your spouse has checked out.

Doesn't matter about old tradition or going to church a cheater is a cheater and hoooeeesssss will be hoooeeessss hahah

I guess if you can’t beat him join him! Ob leeg liam mas.

Dayum! Muaj peev xwm kwg lis! You go girl! Show him what no other woman can't do! 🤣🤣😯😯

Lol, how do you make sense of this. Keep in mind it's one sided and enlarged. The concept of "if you can't beat them, join them" can make sense in the Hmong. Women are stuck and cultured into submissiveness. Many of the things that we see with light from the US culture are simply not there. But, wow, talking about rearranging values, this woman did a super job and sustained some family hope. Intelligence is a measurement of processing complexity with known circumstances. And I believe this sister is very intelligent.

Yog kawg os. Liam vim koj qhai!!!

That’s why God says for a Christian to not yoke with unbelievers. That’s if you are truly born again/saved at least and it is VERY unlikely bc of the way you describe life. A house divided in two will not stand. You made your bed, now lay in it!

That’s right, if you can’t beat it. You might as well join it.

👏👏👏👏

Txoj kev ua neej tiam no ntshe yog peb hmoob ua neej rov qab lawm

Kv g xyaum os yg neej g kawg ce raw vaj tswv xb

Txiv neej lub siab thiaj li txawj lim hiam tshaj plaws yuav tsis tau ntuj ntoo

❤ GOD is real!

NAAHHHH, I WILL NOT JOIN HIM. I WOULDN'T ALLOW MYSELF TO SIT THERE AND SHARE MY HUSBAND. I HAVE MORE RESPECT FOR ME THEN LETTING HIM TREAT ME LIKE THIS. I'M GONNA DIVORCE HIM THEN GO TO THE CLUB AND HAVE THE TIME OF MY LIFE!

Lady I give you credit for putting up with him 15 years of cheating life wow. 👏👏 you for all your hard work. Best wishes to you and love yourself

Txoj kev Mus kev cai tshiab lawm tsis txhais hais tias koj Mus yuav cov coj Qub kev cai es yuav poob rau txoj kev txomnyem vim nws coj Qub kev cai. Txoj kev txomnyem kev muaj nyob ntawm tau Tus neeg xav kom lub neej zoo ces lub neej zoo hos Tus neeg tsis xav kom lub neej zoo ces mus vaj tswv los nws yeej tsis mob siab khwv os

Religion is not an excuse. A cheater will always be a cheater. You’re willing to stay and stoop up to his level. You’re in denial that he don’t love you anymore. Should of moved on the minute you knew he was unfaithful in year 11 when you’re still young! Now you wasted your whole life away.

Sister, you just haven't met the evil man yet. Not all men are like your man. With other men, you either get beaten or killed if you chase him like that. You should consider yourself very lucky

Religion has no part in cheating. I have seen plenty of Christian cheating, and none Christians love their spouse, but when your womanly intuitions tell you that something is wrong, listen to it, don't blame the devil. We as women need to be independent and not rely on the men so much. Take care of ourselves, pay our own bills, and most importantly, take charge of our money.

Yep, I agree!!! Sometimes you gotta stay to torture him! Because there is only revenge after that, I feel you!!!

Kudos to you for trying save your marriage. For me, I would have left already. Too much time and work following him around and seeing him with others. Definitely not for me. I love myself wayyy to much to put up with all that.

Some women are so desperate, why hang on a cheater? You must be fine with him sleeping around and than you getting sloppy second, aren't you worried about disease he maybe getting from those women? You must have a lot of faith in a cheater.

This is why almost all niam tsev always blamed the poj nrauj that they're the one that ntxias their husband or used woodoo to make their husband's leave them. This story is a perfect example that if your husband doesn't love you anymore, he'll keep cheating until he finds one and leaves you.

Thaum pojniam muaj kev ntseeg Vajtswv tsis txhawb pojniam zog mus rau qhov zoo es tseem mus tham hluas nkauj ces dab ntxwgnyoog txoj kev nkauj kev nraug los nkag rau koj ces koj ho mus nrog koj pojniam pw ces Koj transferred txoj kev qias uas koj ua rau koj pojniam ces hnub no koj pojniam tau dab ntxwgnyoog lub siab lawm nws tsis paub ntseeg Vajtswv lawm ces koj lub neej thiaj li poob kev txomnyem koj pojniam tsis hlub koj lawm los mas kwvtij aw🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲👿👿👿👿👿👿

Me viv ncaus aws... lub neej tas sus no ces tsi matther li lawm os. Cov XF kiag los twb ua laus nraug lawm os mog.

Tsa chij dawb lawm os. Siv dhau 200 tus maum lawm...😄 🤣 😂 😆

Peb txiv tsis phov siav es lawv tseem khov kawg as 65 los tseem taus2 kawg os nej cov txiv Liam2 es thiaj zoo li xwb

Koj ua Yog kawg nkaus lawm! Txiv cob txheeb twb ntuas tias: 1. Koj mus yuav Vauv, Vauv tub sab, nrog Vauv tub sab, 2. Lawv haus beer haus cawv, koj nrog lawv haus beer haus cawv, 3. Lawv sawv lig, koj nrog lawv sawv lig. Raug kawg nkaus lawm. I like it 🎉 pib, 1 hmos 10 zaus. Xaus, 10 hmo, yuav luag tsis tau 1 zaug!😮😢

you must be proud for saving your marriage after going through a long, miserable episode. you're in denial that your husband no longer loved you. just separate and move on with both of your miserable lives.

Women are just like a used car for us men….Amen ….👍👍👍👏👏👏👏👏Hahaha

Thick skinned to the max!!! You win, sister!

I applaud you, sister. You are STRONG! Torture his arse. 😂 May you find happiness again.

Wow. You got lots of guts! Most women would of just left or stay like a dumb person and and cry like a baby. Im proud of you woman for standing your ground. Even i couldn't do what you do.

It’s best to stay within your religion. For every religion, the morals are very different.

Koj niag txiv twb yog mloog koj lus kawg ib txhia txiv neej mas yeej tsis ua tau li koj tus txiv li os nawb.

My brother in-law goes to church, but he is eld cheater niam mo ah in Laos. I see lots of people go to church is not very nice at all too. Church and non-church people have nothing to do people. It is people mind.

Yog li koj txiv hais koj yeej tsis paub Vajtswv. Yog koj paub Vajtswv ces koj twb tsis nrog koj tus txiv lawm os. You forgot about God and how powerful he is that you look down on yourself and stopped loving yourself. You let yourself fall and never went back to God. With God and allowing God to lead you, everything good will wait for you only.

Sister koj hais yog tshaj li os ua li koj Yog lawm

Cas muaj tej tus poj niam muaj peev xwm ntxim hlub npaum li tus no tiag ces thov qhuas koj nawb tus me muam.

Koj twb mus ua dab los Vajttswv tseem hlub koj es nws qhia koj los koj tseem rov dag koj thiab

Sister- I am so sad that you have to endure this much pain. Remember when ur husband cheats, that means ur value is over for him. b

What kind of world do my Hmong folks live in? How come everyone lives surround by their VJ, D*dong, Alcohol, and Karaoke Club only. Don’t they have anything better to do and enjoy this beautiful earth before they say goodbye? The mental and emotional rides Hmong folks as this couple put themselves thru for the 30 seconds feeling is beyond me😢

“Liam Vim Koj Qhia” is the perfect song for this story 😂

Religion don’t matter. Religion have nothing to do with cheating. Period. Leave Religion out of relationship. Cheating is the person.

Don't force someone to love u sister Please love ur self

You should of buy aot of life insurance on him

Hais Yog kawg li

I advise my children to marry Christian xwb vim traditional nyuaj dhau lawm, we have both side kev coj

Religion is not to blame but the person itself. However you did some things not too correct. When he had another lady with you all, YOU should have a guy there too. That is the correct way, it is only fair.

Niam tais aw zeg no no ua tsis tau lawm ces coj ib tug hluas nraug los ua rau nws saib kiag xwb los mas Seb nws puas txawj mob los mas txhob kes nws li ua li thaum nws ua rau koj xwb los mas

I'm just going to put this out there. It seems that affairs are mostly blamed on the poj nrauj. I truly believe that it is the husband who is to be blamed. If a husband loves and I mean truly loves his wife and family, he would not move in that direction even if tus poj nrauj tries to sexually entice him. He should know is place no excuses at all. If he moves in the direction of affairs and we accepted that giving him an outlet saying .... it is the poj nrauj who los txeeb koj lub neej. I think if we continue to say that it is ok for Hmong men to do that. I'm no expert in marriage... it is just a thought.

Tus niam tsev koj tham hais tias txiv neej 50-60 xyoo tsis muaj dab tsi, nej cov poj niam los yeej tib yam thiab qhuav qhawv twb tsis muaj qhov nplua li lawm thiab mas, txhob sib sib thuam, koj niag txiv liam ces hais koj tus txiv xwb, txhob hais tias txiv neej tag nrho, peb tsis liam li koj niag txiv dev liam os nawb

Good lawd. I have to applaud this lady's game!!!

You did a wonderful job, sister. May God continued to make your heart strong.

Ua li cas koj yuav ua heev ua luaj rau nws thiab os poj hmoob koj twb hais tias koj yog tus ntseeg vajtswv no tabsis tsi yog tu ntseeg mog vim yus tsi muaj keb zam txim os lov.

Thaum pib sib sib hlub thiaj tsi kav laus. Hlub ntxov hlub rov ntag mas

Thanks for sharing. I love to have a good wife like you so I can smile all the way the the grave💙💙💙💙💙

Niam hluas aw thaum kwv muaj siav ma nws care u thaum kwv tuag tag es tij nyob xwb ces mam rov lo hlub u yog kwv tsi tuag ces tij yeej tsi rov lo 😅❤❤

Tej laus yeej ntuas kom tus txiv tub sab ces koj tub sab tus txiv tub nkeeg los koj tub nkeeg, ua li koj ces yog kawg

Ruam li koj thiaj mag koj niag txiv tsim. Koj txoj kev xub nws yog ib txoj kev ruam. Koj yuav xub nws mas nws sawv kev tham hluas nkauj ces koj sawv kev mus nrhiav hluas nraug kom phim nws xwb pob. Koj tseem yuav mus xyaum kom koj quav dej quav cawv thaum kawg koj liam tag tsis muaj neeg yuav koj. Nco ntsoov tias nws nyiam yus mws thiaj yuav yus ces yeej muaj lwm rus txiv neej yuav nyiam yus ib yam thiab. Koj ntshai tsam koj mus nrhiav dua ces tau tus liam2 lawm xwb. Ntuj aw! Koj nrhiav tau tus liam los tsuas liam li koj niag txiv dev xwb mas. Tej zaum koj muaj hmoo koj tseem tau tus zoo dua koj niag txiv dev na.

It’s a good message for poj nrauj

Tsi tsim nyog koj yuav mus ua neeg quav dej caws vim niag txiv Liam txiv cheater ntawv xwb! Look at him now! He's not worth all that he put you through.

Sad that mens are like, sad that religious still play a role in our lives, sad that some women still can't be independent..what else

I thought you studied the teachings of the Bible.

I believe no one is worth me ruining my body for. You are wasting your time. Focus on your kids seriously he's not the only man on earth. I don't know maybe you like the drama too. 🤷

Tus niam tsev kuv xav tias koj tus txiv yeej ua txhaum rau koj lawm tiag tab sis nws twb hloov lawm yog vim li cas koj tseem pheej xav tsim nws pauj thiab yog li koj kuj tsis ncaj ncees thiab

It’s so easy to say don’t blame the poj nrauj. If she didn’t know he’s married then she too is lied to but when she knows and is willing (seems to be a lot of the cases) she needs to be called out too. Koj hais yog lawm tim tus txiv los yeej tim cov poj nrauj ib yam. It takes two to tangle. With this said, your man doesn’t deserve you. Why waste your life on someone who doesn’t see your worth? You think you tortured him but you’re the one who’s hurt. He didn’t give you what you wanted which is his love, why give him the satisfaction of being with him while he has other women too? You gave him the best of both but you only got hurt. Li cas los qhov tseeb koj ua li no vim koj hlub nws tus tso tsis tuas yog koj tus mob tshaj los yog koj.

Why peb cov pojhmoob es zaj twg lo yuav nyob uv yuav nyob ua cav lwj sib ib xwb ne yog? Es yog uv uv es thaum kawg lo rau yus es piam tag lawm yus ma li tau no es yog yus YEEJ lo yog yus SWB ne lawm.

I am wondering what would hurt less, join him like you do or divorce.

Cov sisters aws, after listening to your stories. Kuv xav tias my late husband was an ok husband😘

Zaj dab no hai tau tu saib heev 😭😭😭😭

It true, koj Yeej tsi paub Vaajstwv.

Tus vivncaus aw...koj niam koj txiv mas yuav khuvxim lawv ib tus mivntxhais zoo

ua neeg nyob tsuas muaj ib zaug xwb, don't hang on to a toxic relationship, learn to let go.

Niam tais aw.. koj npwb dhau. Koj nrhab loo rau nws cov cousins ces nws plawv nres haha, game over!

Peb cov pojniam hmoob mas ruam tshaj plaws. Niag txiv twb tsis hlub yus lawm nws thiaj phov mus txog hnub nws laus tsis muaj zog nws mam tig los rau yus ces nws twb tag nqis lawm los cov pojniam no tseem khav tias nws yeej lawm.

Why would u waste time with him???? Divorce him already smh!!!!!

Don’t you get tired of chasing after a cheater? You’re just wasting away your life for a worthless person. You didn’t have to stoop so low to his level to get even. Could’ve just left his ass long time ago! Then maybe you don’t have to brag it on here about how you don’t care about him and this and that.

This story is going back and forth

😅😅😅

Why are you lecturing the other ladies out there? You chose to keep your dog and stay in that relationship.

Txhob tos lawm os sister thaum lawv mus hlub dua tus tshiab ces lawv lub siab twb tsis muaj yus lawm os mog

Stop blaming the devil if one becomes a cheater! The most dumbest excuses!! It’s the people, not god or devil! When you purposely do it back for revenge, or torture your spouse, you are just as bad as the them! Best revenge is to leave, take all kids, find another lover! Doing what you do might just end up getting you both killed!

The fact that you allow the man you called your husband to disrespect you this much; you degraded yourself below human worth. You made yourself feel high in power but what are you fighting for? LOL

It’s not a flex to endure the humiliation your “husband” put you through. Just for a little wiener and keeping your “family” together. Your family was broken the moment your Husband’s infidelity started. Also, it’s not about one’s religion. Some Men and some Women regardless religion cheats. Some religion is forgiving and some is not. If you really are a true child of God. Let go of what doesn’t benefit you anymore. He will bless you with something better. He is just waiting for you to make the move.

What a waste of time and energy.

Hi sister, do you still have info on Hmong medicine for bad breath? Thanks.

Zoo li koj niag txiv ntawm ko ces twb tag sij hawm zoo lawm mam li los nyob taus taus xwb, tsis zoo qhov twg tuaj lawm os me viv ncaus aw ..! Tiam sis kav tsij muab nws tej kev ntsim siab uas nws ua rau koj mob ntawv rov rau nws xwb ces txaus nws lawm mas

Religion plays no part in infidelity. A cheater will cheat whether an individual is a Christian or non-Christian. My bro in law is a Christian and he cheated on my cousin for almost 18 yrs and probably still does it as of today. He says he's a God fearing man with moral values. He attend church every Sunday and is in a leader group at church. He even had his endowment in the temple...made promises to God to be pure, clean and good but that didn't keep him in line. Ntuj aw neeg liam ces yeej yuav liam kom kawg. Twb ua hluas ntev ua luaj tua nws tus niam tsev lub siab. Tus neeg liam ces yeej ua tsis tau neeg zoo lawm ntseeg vaj tswv tsis ntseeg lo tus neeg phem ces yeej phem.

You can’t make someone love you when they don’t so why keep trying ??!! You are crazy , nobody have time for someone useless in their life !

Another thing, your dad's conversation with you as if church ppl don't cheat, drinks or smoke. I know a lot of church ppl went through same problems you are too.

Qhov koj ua taus li no nrog koj tus txiv los twb vim yog nws tham hluas nkauj ua si xwb thiab koj los nyiam koj tus txiv txaus nkaus thiab. Yog nws nyiam koj tsis heev, koj tab tom ua rau nws ntxub koj xwb. Tsis tas li los yog koj ho nyiam nws tsis heev, koj sau nra khiav tawm ntawm nws yam tsis tig xwb ntiag rov ntsia nws ib muag.

The wife does not care or love her husband, from the get go- she had it planned to torture him to the bone, she was vindictive, that is why she was able to put up with his shit.

Good job, sister! I would do the same thing! Fuxk divorce! I'm petty, I would get even! I tell my husband all the time, I didn't leave MY whole life (family, job, friends) to marry you just to have you cheat on me. You fuxking around? Sshhiiiii I'm fuxking around too. You want a niam yau? Well I'm getting a txiv yau too. If you get another person to hold to sleep, imma need someone else to hold me to sleep too while your not there 😆😆.

I cannot listen to this story lol. Just stay by yourself, u don't need a man like that. Also if you don't want to leave ur kids, just don't re married. Men are headache, I don't know why some women act like they cannot live without a man.

pojniam ncauj ntau thiaj tau kua haus poob 5 phav $ tim leej twg lub qhov ncauj ?

Omg leave already! Y’all are nasty sharing your husband! Move on already find a man just for yourself! I would be scared of aids. Put yourself First, Lady! Can’t stand people like this sometimes

Koj tus txiv phem tsis tau txaus npaum kuv tus