“You don’t want to be the thing that clings so desperately to the raft that you can’t let go when someone comes to rescue you” Wow

"Be the useful person at the funeral. Hows that for a goal?" Literally a life changing quote for me.

The craziest thing about this lecture is that he just experienced everything he talks about regarding having a sick family member and such. And what I love most is that he was 100% correct and not only had wise words but leads but example and I would argue it saved his life after listening to the update podcast with his daughter recently. Jordan is a hell of a man and I have so much respect for him.

Whenever my depression kicks really hard in and feel suicidal thoughts i come here to listen mr.Peterson to get motivated and think i can live a meaningful life. You are the father figure of a fatherless generation of man. I'm 19 I don't want to feel like this all my life, it's hard but everyday I try to improve something.

If only I could afford a psychologist one tenth as brilliant as Mr Peterson.

Damn! That last sentence about being a useful person at a funeral really struck something in me. I can't change the situation but I can make sure not to make it any worse! Food for thought.

When your therapist really does have the answers.

I forget how how much I love this man and how much I owe him. The Internet provided me with the Dad I never had.

Been coping with depression through out my life, I got a dog 2 years ago and it was easily one of the best decisions I've made in a long while. They're lovely expressive animals who can find joy and appreciate the simple things around them. Its helped me greatly when it comes to interacting with people, and even some degree of talking and speaking.

The way this man uses allegories to ruthlessly beat home the essential point is amazing.

I’m elated that your health is improving Dr. Peterson. Much love.

I love YT. I can learn all I want without having to write an essay about it.

If you're hyper orderly, get a roomate. You know? Roomates are messy, horrible things. They are going to leave hair everywhere and force you to live with it...

This guy is sharp. Everything he speaks about he hones in on and delivers truths packaged with realistic advice. High marks.

Do not manufacture misery, there is enough naturally occuring trouble in life. No need to make any extra, for others or yourself.

"if you're hyperorderly, get a dog." I learned this by accident! I got my first dog when I was 29, a puppy. I was hyperorderly to the point that it interfered with my responsibilities. I would sometimes be an hour late to work, because I had to make sure the house that I was going to come home to was immaculate, though I lived alone and never had company. The first three months of having the dog we're not good months. I cared about the dog from day one but it wasn't until I actually fell in love with the dog and it became more important than the cleanliness and orderliness of my surroundings that I got better. What's funny is, after that, my house was kind of a wreck all of the time because I never learned how to do regular house cleaning. To an outsider, cleaning house looked like my hobby. I was always cleaning and reorganizing in my spare time; when that compulsion was gone, I would look up every now and again to find my house was an absolute disaster. I had to learn in my 30s how to keep a functional house clean.

I can listen to Peterson all day

This man helped save my life from depression and despair. I doubt he's aware of just how many lives he's touched.

I really love his hand gestures when he speaks. It makes the imagery of his words far more effective.

3:39 "And then there's the alignment of nihilistic chaos with the intrinsic desire that someone will come along and tell you what to do..demand for the tyrant to come forward" This speaks a lot of messages to me. I can remember a few years ago and honestly even now, I don't know what I'm aiming at and I don't know how to choose what to aim at. I've said to myself that I wish that someone would come along and tell me what my life should be spent trying to achieve because I don't know what it should be used for.

There's so much, and so many complementary insights into Peterson's core ideas in this one 12-minute segment. Thanks for clipping it out and presenting it!

His deathbed example really struck home with me. It helped me deal with the loss of my dad in 2012, and the loss of mother in 2019. I'm an only child so I had little choice but to deal with both. Pragmatism in the face of tragedy prevents it from turning into hell. Thank you, JP.

I discover something new every time I watch JP, even from the videos I repeat

The video just popped on. I listened for a minute. Then I kept listening. Some times a serendipitous message comes at the right time, and this was it.

Wow, I need to watch this one again! So deep and understanding as well as insight realty. You can tell he is well seasoned. Thanks for this universal help! I enjoy all of your lectures. Smile 😊

This video reminds me of my mom. When her parents died, a whole family quarreling over family assets caused complete chaos for months following the funeral, tearing apart a lot of long-held family relations. Meanwhile, my mother became the bedrock for family members to go to when they were ready to actually discuss how they'd felt in the preceding year, and how to start repairing burnt bridges with other family members. She lives this goal every day. She's the useful person at the funeral.

He is spitting out the facts that we think we know of but we have nothing to with the knowledge at all. I love how he points the real deal in his conversations and lessons, also making us remember the things that we are doomed to confront. So much to learn from him.

Man... most of his students will be amazing psychotherapists. Canada should be very grateful for such brilliance... Thanks for recording these dr. JBP, and thanks to the uploader

I was that reliable person at my mother's funeral - helping to lead the ceremonies and being there for other people. The problem is that it was my way of displacing the grief and anger I felt.

“You’re not the plan, you’re the thing that can confront the obstacle to the plan.” He has a way of taking a step back and viewing situations from a logical place. This has been the mindset I’ve had for a while but the clinging to the raft or stick to stay afloat cut deeper than most of the podcasts, interviews, etc. No one person can be the plan, only help lead others to carry out a plan or mission. Thank you for posting this. This video has been in my suggestions for weeks now. Very glad I watched this today!

Well damnit, i think i'm the guy who doesn't have the micro routines in place, cause i procrastinate a lot and i just put a lot of misplaced energy into getting up and doing my things. And also i recently discovered i didn't feel encouraged by my family (or friends for that matter) at all, cause they don't think i can handle responsabillities, so thank you Mr Dr Peterson, i'll manage i think, life and all Edit : I'm helpful at funerals though

This video is great help. So much stuff I needed to hear

This is EXACTLY what I have been trying to tell people. You are not the plan. You are the tool by which the plan is carried out. Obstacles are not a reason to give up. They are the natural mechanism by which your plan is challenged so that you can make a BETTER PLAN.

Thank you Jordan Peterson for this Video. This really changed some of my thoughts.

This is one of his absolutely best, most powerful, and timely speeches.

Man, I can listen to this man all day.

Another thought provoking, meaningful, educational and motivating video from Peterson. His work is a much precious gift to a humanity that, despite its technological advancement and modern life style, is still very much learning who it is.

Good job cameraman!

I’ve revisited Jordan’s lectures from time to time.. and each time I listen to it, there’s something more.

Wow, I love his passion and the way he explains things. I needed to hear this.

This man will be widely regarded as one of the greatest philosophers of our era. Or any era. Mark my words

Thank you for the wisdom Mr Peterson 🙏🏼

This is extremely helpful. Thank you for sharing.

Silently listening and paying attention. The students are very very blessed to have this articulate and wise man.

What I've learned from Buddhism is that life is suffering, only the living suffer, and we have a choice of how much suffering we have in our lives. It's unnecessary suffering that we really need to rid ourselves of and in society.

Can't wait for his comeback May he completely recover

Listening to this awesome person is changing my life. Probably a lot of other lives too. Thanks Mr. Peterson.

I needed this. Right message at the right time.

We are going through family chaos. My son told me about this man and a few hours later this showed up on my KZfaq feed. Never heard of him before and what he said made a WORLD of difference to me!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you SOOO much Jordan!!!!!!!!!!!!

Had to spend a week with my mum in intensive care last year until her passing my aged farther and my brother could not be there much. One of the hardest saddest things I've ever had to do but it was very peaceful Then organise her funeral and deal with all that for the first time ever and all this intales .for the first time in my life i came right fulfilled one of the things a loving son could do but hard so very hard loved my mum

Flin vk... Wonderfully kind response ... support, comfort are precious and essential for healthy development/maturation.

Fantastic! Totally on the ball. Enjoy your time with your parents, but always be ready in mind that everything is impermanence. It's sobering, humbling, and helps you grow.

this guy is a living legend for psychiatry for the average person despite the advanced level of some of his talks,

This speaks to me in a whole new level...

Keeping myself together (mostly) during my Dad's battle with cancer and then sorting everything out after he died is one of of things i'm most proud about. Yes, it took quite a while for me deal with it all after the fact, but having listened to this talk I'm glad I didn't make things worse for my Dad and now I feel much stronger and resilient as most of the bullshit in life doesn't come close to watching one of your favourite people die.

"be the reliable person at the funeral" wow, I took that to heart

What a privilege to have him as a teacher. Jealous! ☺️☺️😍

The best thing for my career was piece of advice...."just be as useful as you can be"

Jordan Peterson, what a beautiful mind. Thank you.

This is the most brilliant man I’ve ever heard speak.

I’ve been struggling so much. I need a boost ... I really do .

We miss you sir. I pray you get better.

This whole lecture is pure gold . Thank you 🙏. Personllay, the most enlightening sentence to me is on 11:02 The perfect description to a situation I deal alot with... mostly the wrong way.

Students are lucky to have such a vocal professor. He’s pretty brilliant

"Be the most relaiable person at a funeral"

Ah. I’m just tired man. Life is especially hell when there is no passion to play with. The game of life becomes a heavy burden

Brilliant! This hit home for me.

Need this talk on repeat

Brilliant. Life could be tragedy but maybe not hell.

Must be difficult to take notes in his classes. So much informaton and enlightenment at such a constant and quick pace!

I am officially writing these key 🔑 things down now and learn something new each time but haven’t been physically writing this down and I must, thanks again for this amazing insight to myself!

I love, respect and admire greatly this brilliant man! Wow!

I love this man

Im really thankful, I thinked about killing myself today because I just felt hopeless but hearing this makes me have hope on the future The world It's just so damn cold man. But mom needs me I can't leave her alone

I love the way he says 'about'. I'm from Yorkshire in England and it's very intreeging.

My whole family back home in another country were sick and we might be going back on lockdown. JBP has really given me a better perspective and take on life in a more practical way.

This man is amazing

In the military, difficult/dangerous/exhausting tasks are deemed "character development".

Wow this is inspiring. I have a funeral I'm going to need to be useful at fairly soon. This is a great way to look at it.

I think this is so different to my college psych lessons. While they were ok, I love how pertinent these lectures are in that they actually attempt to help improve the students lives. I think the most life applicable thing I learned in my psych class was the by stander effect

My heart goes out to all those suffering from depression and/or anxiety..its a nightmare..it is nothing to be ashamed of .you are not alone.. While some people say they got healed with meditation and positive thinking..that is great,but sometimes medication is needed and that’s ok! My friend suffered for a few years.. it was a nightmarish existence.. he tried everything meditation positive thinking exercise eating healthy prayer counseling.. yet it still continued.. as a last resort after trying different meditations.. finally his Dr gave him Effexor extended capsules.. within a few days a slight better feeling then week by week everything was getting better after a few months he was back to his normal self... he stayed on the meditation for a year then little by little he lessened dose until about 2 years later he was off the medication... now 4 years later he’s still fine and here’s where the positive thinking comes in .. he thinks on good things and said if he ever feels like he needs to go back on the medication he has no problem with that! But so far the depression and anxiety has not returned.. What really makes me upset is that people do not understand depression.. sometimes people just can’t help themselves..sometimes it’s a chemical imbalance.. sometimes medication is needed and it’s nothing to be ashamed of at all. I do believe in the power of prayer but if you have a migraine will you just pray it away or will you take an aspirin.. if you have an infection will you pray it away or take an antibiotic.. you see my point.. so just keep in mind .. don’t let anyone shame you by saying your faith is not strong enough or what ever.. if medication is needed seek help.. don’t keep suffering.. and helping others getting busy after you are feeling better.. don’t let yourself get lost in your thoughts if they are not good thoughts.. you can stop them ..

My abusive father died 2 days ago and I haven't felt anything. I thought I would be happy but when I learned of it I just said "huh, ok" don't even feel jealous & usually do.

My Mums funeral almost broke me. I could not function throughout other than in my own way. I supported my Nephews and Nieces as best I could and managed to try to help show the young ones that death is natural and always think of the fun and love you share with someone for ever. My older brothers done all the arranging and organizing and at the time I felt bad because I could not function to assist with that side of the process. I had mental issues for some time because of the loss of my mum and maybe how I handled it. Not sure what I am trying to say other than taking part in some way through times, even if you do not act exactly as you would have wanted to, you can still look back and feel like you done something. I now work in mental health and enjoy supporting fellow people through tough times. Be strong peeps x. Great vid, Cheers.

I wish you a long healthy life dr Peterson

The wonderful thing about FP's teaching style is that it also involves giving his class an insightful therapy lesson as well. I'd sit and listen to him for every lecture during the semester, even though I wasn't taking his class.

"You're not the plan. You're the thing that can confront the obstacle to the plan. And then when you know even further that the obstacle is not only an obstacle but opportunity itself, well then your whole view of the world can change. ... Are you so sure that this is a problem? Is that the only way that you can look at it?" So good, so true.

I haven’t been feeling too good lately & have been fighting with these feelings for years😕. I Will finally seek out the help I need

This man works on a higher plain. Super talk. Respect

I wish Peterson was a counselor, I'd book him in a heartbeat.

2:06 totally reminds me of the experience Jack Nicholson's character has in As Good As It Gets

This man sums up the way I look at life. I am not a professional like him so I cant explain it like him. Manageing Hell. Managing how bad things could get and learning and making adjustments to negative change. Its hard to practice this with others because people are natuarlly pessimistic.

In my capacity I have been called to the scene of a family quarrel with their relative already passed, in the same room they were having the fight no less. From the outside it's unbelievable but Peterson's point about not being able to cope makes sense in that scenario.

Ever consider that the high functioning is what is causing the depression? Stress creates cortisol which can affect serotonin levels. Now, this can go unnoticed, as the body creates all sorts of defense mechanisms to mask the problem, but all it takes is one major negative event that was unguarded for, or in which the person loses control, for someone to fall into one and really feel the effects.

I remember listening to this years about 3 years ago before my mother got cancer. Back then I thought it was very useful wisdom before I became her caretaker, but after she got breast cancer and died of it this July, I hear it as a way to walk through life. I was the one that tried to help everyone through the grief. As people cried I would smile and try to help them through it. When people began to bicker around my mother's deathbed I would try to either advert their attention or solve the problem. My mother was in a comatose state and could hear everything. I made sure that she could be confident in me to keep everyone at the least emotionally stable. At the funeral I had to give the eulogy and meet with just about every person that walked in to pay their respects and I did all of it with a smile. I wasn't naive about the situation either and I'm far from being a rock solid person with good and bad days with handling the grief of our loss. Believe me, in a situation as awful, tragic, and hell-like as the death of a beloved family member is, be the useful one at the funeral.

what a gift to the world he is

The end is my grandma, there at the deathbed helpful, puts the Funeral and reception together. I really admire her and want to be put together like that.

Excellent

If the mean of your personality spectrum doesn't move and you try new things at the other side, by defintion you also get to have to explore extreme versions of yourself too

I think I'll be listening to JP videos for the rest of my life to lift me out of mental holes I find myself in.

This one struck home for me. When my father informed me he was terminally ill I had the epiphany that I needed to be the strong one that held people together, the pragmatist, the "useful" one. Even on the day he died I was there watching over him and tending to him and doing all I could to help my step-mother as that idea of being the "useful" one was my driving force and all the way through the funeral and dealing with his estate. Many of my family have said how important that was for them and that really reinforced my newfound perspective. To be "the useful person at a funeral". I could also see certain people that used it as an excuse to suck the attention up and gain sympathy they weren't entitled to rather than be there for those that needed support. Now I just need to learn how to be kind enough to myself not to constantly be thinking there was more I should have done even though I did all I could at the time.