I hit my brother when I was 12 and he was 10 or 11. I have cried about it maybe 5000 times after it happened. I love him to death and don't care how much more I will cry to fix it. there was no blood though and no brusers. Still hurts.

@@beautifulmaking730 You sound like a good person, thanks for your comment.

I can relate. My older brother hated me from the day I was brought home. He ghosts me to this day. Can't even look at me.

I'm 72, my family laughed at my body, skinny and pale and I was called "One Lung". Nothing I did was good, it was always good for a "Blind boy" and even today I'm in a constant battle for perfection which I can never reach. Bullied at school, I'm sure you know how it feels. Then I've made mistakes, the emotional cost is always with me. It's a hard road we walk my friend but I hope it leads to something worth while.

@@JohnWilliams-iw6oq I feel for ya. People can be so damned cruel, and when they are family, it hurts even more.

EMDR

Music is actually very good for your head heart and soul .. not anything that hurts you in bringing bad feelings or memories but besides God music is my best friend. The lyrics hit like better than trying to make it make sense to a human being... plus I don't trust anyone with personal issues. So please don't let music seem as the problem

@@trishamccarty3202 I read what I wrote and can’t find your personal take on music being the problem. I suppose people read what they want and take it based on their personal issues. If a song makes you nostalgic, if it makes you think of someone you lost, if it makes you anything but upbeat, it is not putting you in a more peaceful para sympathetic place. Take that how you will.

Thoughts with you. Christmas can indeed be hard.

I am so sorry.

That idea that you don't want to pass on your bad memories to an empathetic person is the product of a defense mechanism in your own mind that wants to prevent you from thinking about your bad experience because of the painful emotions. If I may, I would suggest you consider going back to therapy but tell the therapist that you're not ready to deal with the memories directly. Any good therapist should be well aware of something like this and will help you work through your issue in other ways. Therapists also go to therapists when they feel they need to so it would best for you to be more concerned with how your issue is affecting your life than worrying about how the therapist will feel.

I have only one son, if I lost him, I would shut down and find no value in life. I can’t imagine being in your shoes, I hope and pray you find the peace to carry on. I hope the murderers were caught and severely punished, keep strong my Brother!

Glen, my brother was murdered by a coward. My Mother was devastated for over 10 years. She told me she would never get over it but she was able to live with it. I am so very sorry for your loss of your son.

Find an EMDR therapist

Bless you. Seek or ask and you shall find peace.

Sorry, buddy

Yes, there is. You just have to realized that you are never alone. You probably had some part of you tied up in your wife, so her death left you feeling like a part of you was amputated. However, your mind is actually capable of regenerating that part. If I have listened to Jordan Peterson well enough, then it would seem that one of the ways, if not the best way, to figure out how to regenerate that part is to talk about it. Also, use reason to guide you, because the universe is a very reasonable place, for instance: if you drive a smart car at top speed into a solid steel cubed object which is significantly larger than the car, then that car will tend to become a lot more like a crumpled tin can than a car. Reason is always by your side, you may not apply it to your decision-making processes all of the time, but the outcomes of your actions are not dictated by your mind, they are dictated by reason. What has helped me is having a well thought out plan. A couple of years ago I permanently ended (that is what I believe at least) a decade+ long cycle of depression, which at its very lowest point had culminated in a 99.9% loss of my will to live. I had no reason to live because I was sleeping. I was sleeping because I had decided that reality was too painful to be awake for. I was angry, so angry, but I eventually decided that I was physically alive, so there must have been a reason for it. I fought on. A couple years ago I had a breakthrough of sorts. It is written in the Bible, that the God of Christianity is love as well as some other things, but also, and this is a bit harder to prove, that the God of Christianity is Reason. I had a bit of an epiphany. Reason made humans who were capable of reason because reason is pointless without companionship. Also, companionship is pointless without reason. Ergo, the goal of life is to be like God (Reason), by being reasonable, in order to produce the best possible atmosphere for companionship, so that we may commune with one another in everlasting Joy. Sadness and Loneliness are temporary, but joy can be unending.

If you remember her, you are not alone. You will always have your happy memories to draw upon, and be grateful of. It's better to have had and lost than to have never had. I don't mean to be insensitive, just know that time is the best healer. Hang in there, bud

So sorry to hear about your loss. May I suggest going to a therapist to talk through your feelings? It could have the following positive benefits: (1) You won't be completely alone - someone to talk to (2) S/he can help you process your sadness and especially note if it's getting out of hand and dangerous to you (like depression which can lead to things far worse). (3) The very action of finding a therapist will move you off dead center and get you moving in at least SOME direction (which can help if you feel completely stuck). Also, consider going to a local church (in person, not a TV church!). This can help you be part of a community and can help you deal with your loss. "A threefold cord is not quickly broken." You can find friends there and others who are or have experienced what you have. All the best, my friend. I'm a Christian. I know that true Christianity is something that has gone greatly out of favor in 2022, but you'll find comfort in the Bible and the story of redemption through Christ. My prayers are with you. You're not alone. That said, please take some steps to keep from staying alone. It won't bring your beloved wife back, but it will help you deal with the sadness and potentially make the life you have in the future better. All the best, friend. Tom

May you find peace and reconciliation in your daily life. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Make peace with God. Then, you will find peace.

leave god for when you feel better. Right now you need to seek help. It's easy to decide to live with anxiety since it's not fatal. But the truth is anxiety kills the person that you are even if it doesn't kill your body. There is help. You just need to find it. here's a little solid fact: you will not be able to beat anxiety on your own. And If you need motivation, here it is: Anxiety is called the disease of Lost Opportunities, because those who decided to live with it looking back at their lives see that they were too anxious to act on any opportunity that came their way. Seek help, and in the least bless yourself with the comfort of knowing that you tried even if you don't find the fix.

Rob, I got the best tip for this, watch Matt Khan - Happiness. like 3 times. and all of it will disappear and you will actually be happy waking up AND go to bed with peace. Please watch it you will love it. Matt Khan - Happiness.

EMDR

@@beautifulmaking730 Thank you so much 👍

this isnt his channel dumbass he didnt intend for this clip and title pair. and anyways if you pay attention you can construct a means to solve the issue, which is 1) identify the obstacles 2) figure out the solutions to them 3) do something to cement, or "update" said solution in your mind. now you would wisely go and search up how to identify said obstacles and their proper solutions because that seems rather complex.

@@hckr_-gh7se i didn't say this was his channel, I was just pointing out that whoever posted this clip isn't very good with titles. But is very good with clickbaiting.

I’m sorry for your loss. I have had a rough past but found comfort and Hope through Jesus Christ. I hope you can find the same

Have you tried EMDR therapy?

I had 3 miscarriages also. I know I will meet my babies in heaven and that gives me peace. We cannot dwell on what we can’t change, but we can have the peace of GOD ALMIGHTY through all bad things on this earth. I hope and pray that you find the peace you need.

@@tabs617 God bless you Terri

I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you. Whoever the idiot was who said "Time heals all wounds" needs to be viciously beaten.

I’m sure he knows more than you … I know he is not a nasty person … and that he is super smart …. and that he has a great education …. and has helped many … probably more than you. As a human being he has suffered much as we all have. I’ll say a prayer for you for God to bless you. ❤️🇨🇦

@@mmmmlllljohn I do not doubt his vast knowledge and professional expertise. However, these are not enough for the task at hand which I believe is more important than individual development. I shall not be persuaded by any appeal to authority or appeal to ridicule or appeal to force. I stand by my opinion. Feel free to stand by yours.

You’re subscribed to TYT, aren’t you?

Yeah -- I expected more from him. Interesting insights on emotions, etc. -- but the "how to" is lacking.

because those videos are always cut and if you see him live its completely different - I think the goal is to learn that you can handle that right now and that your body reacts in a normal way

I thought he made his point very clearly. Your anxiety is a result of the obstacles that you create for yourself. First identify those obstacles and then create small steps to help you gain the confidence to face those obstacles. Once you get to the point where you have faced that obstacle, you will probably realise that it was not as bad as you created in your mind. Then as a result, you can start changing your perception of these obstacles that you keep facing. The issue for people is that they are too fixed on the obstacles or worse, are not able to identify these obstacles. It's always a challenge but by taking small actions, it's never impossibly to overcome.

@@goranrobson6243 Some of those obstacles are not created by the one who has to continue avoiding them. Sometimes people end up with PTSD or C-PTSD and the anxiety and ruminating takes over a part of almost every waking hour and some sleep hours also.

@@bozzskaggs112 Sure yes... Those are severe cases. I think the principle is the same though but requires many years of therapy to overcome.