I'm sorry for your loss. I can only imagine.

Sharing in laughter builds intimacy💗😊

Cool, my wife and I like to make each other miserable. But I still have 18 years left to perfect the art.

Congratulations

I’m not crying YOURE crying! 🥹

Congrats

Hopefully he doesnt have the same attitude when you need to be corrected constructively

I think in every habit Ed Mylett "compound pounding" effect is the best solution... in sport, in business, in relationships. 1. If you use compound pounding in sport, (exercissing for an hour) you will see no results in 5 days, but you will see big results in 100 days. 2. If you will say a good morning to people, you will see no effect in 5 days, but you will see a great difference in 100 days. 3. If you will practice the compassion for your partner and make some good deed, you will see no or small difference in 5 days, but you will see a great difference in 50 or 100 days, you will see how much you mean to them. People see this compound pounding effect in the nature.... the garden looks the samne after few days, buta ftera 100 days it looks different. Therefore you can not tell if your values are working after one week, because you see the effect after 100 or 140 days. Maybe each couple should practice this technique, If I will make something small to make my partner happy, for a little moment, they will remember these little moments. and good calm or happy mood increases the immunity of the body by 50 percent in 4 days. So their kids will learn the same technique. They will learn that if they will read a book 10 minutes a day, it has great impact on brain. Next time it may be 20 minutes a day. But if you stop doing the healthy habit now... after a week it makes no difference after 140 days the results change for worse, you loose muscles or you lose some skill or motivation etc. Good deed may be also making a pizza or small things. People actually enjoy small things much more than big gestures. because it´s about living in the moment...... Big gestures (expensive car) mean that you actually burned out too much energy to make a small effect, rather than small gestures that after time create a great effect of connection, and people like you for your authentic personality.

@@ultimatedoug2227Corrected? Dogs and children need corrected, not adults.

@@judegrindvoll8467 ok lol good luck in life

If you keep being a good person, stay open to relationships and are willing to take the chance and make a move, there is a chance. It’s hard to believe but you need to be open to other people being interested in you, if you don’t think any girls could like you, you won’t notice when they do. Good luck and God bless.

Bro u don't need all the girls. U just need one. And u don't want someone liking for someone u aint. Be yourself. Develop non romantic relationships with females. You can't handle a relationship if you can't handle a friendship. Trust

I also feel that way, because modern girls are hypergamous, and there´s ALWAYS a potentially better man out there for any girl you´ll ever think about being intimate with

Do you have love in your heart?

@@kaledon6 Agreed. There will aways be someone more popular, more confident, more charasmatic, more articulate, more successful, more competent. But the mark of a relationship isnt all those things. Its time spent and willingness to love the person as they uniquely are. To see the world through their eyes and be a friend to them. To trully treat them as if they were made in the image and likeness of GOD. I think the same goes for any type of healthy relationship

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Yes, communicate like it’s your last hope, because it is!

Agreed!✨

I think people get turned on mostly by younger couples. Old people humping isn't so attractive.

Yeah, but... Are they having more than the younger generations because they are increasing their amount or because the younger generation are decreasing their frequency?

@@RandomPerson-nd2ey I don’t think we know because of the paucity of research that has been done on the sexual activity and satisfaction of older couples. It’s for sure a field wide open for research work of someone wished to undertake it, and then we could begin to answer those questions you raise.

@@AFringedGentian hmm, just learned a new word. "Paucity". Thanks for that!

Yay! Good luck ❤

My husband and I are in a similar situation..two small kids with no family to watch and we cannot afford to pay a babysitter often. He is also recovering from testicular cancer (both chemo and removal surgery for one) so that has caused some problems. I wish you best of luck with your dates!

So how is it going? Are you finding your way back to each other? I hope so. Romance is so very lovely.

@@bonniebrown5102I’m so sorry you are going through this so young. When my husband had his strokes the youngest person in the support group was 20 years older than me. None had kids at home. Few were even working. If you are part of a church there are often older couples who would love to babysit for you for free. I know I would adore babysitting. We never lived near family either and it does make it much harder. I hope this gets better for you.

Oh, yay. I hope everything goes better than you planned.

Eh the title of the book sound gross

I am a Christian and sorry I found the title of that book a bit painful too! Not that my opinion matters… glad it worked for you!

Thanks for sharing what helped you! The other comments show people really do just judge a book by the cover 😂 super immature

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Saddest thing I have ever heard due to the 2 totally separate paths on the same road.

How about couples counselling? Sending them this video might be just as helpful though actually

Sex isn’t the only way to be intimate

​@@sherbetstrawcounselling is wack .Figure it out yourself.

@@Nairrrrrrr I think counselling has its time and place! I do think if you’re self aware then working it out yourself is better but sounds like these parents aren’t very self aware

Men express their love through long and hard work for their family. That's in their mind. Many women don't know this, and it's a shame. Men don't speak enough either. Ask him if that's true.

@@fenriswolf-always-forward The 5 love languages can be a helpful starting place. My husband's primary love language is words of affirmation, so I talk him up regularly, because that's the kind of love he most appreciates. Acts of service is one of the love languages - it's unlikely that it's the primary one for half the population though.

So it's all his fault is it? Have you really listened to this talk? Have you talked to your husband and told him what you want? Have you asked him what he wants? Listen to this talk again and ask yourself what can you do rather than just blaming your husband,

@@TheForexExpertshe clearly stated that her husband didn’t care enough about her happiness. I don’t see how she’s to blame

20 yrs!, means the chances of romantic relationship happening is preeetty slim. & Even after 20yrs if u need validation for your decision, means deep inside you know you f*cked up, either leaving him Or choosing him in first place. Tbh.but Hope ur doing fine though.🎉

I’m always intrigued and enjoy his talks with his family

Yes that’s right. It was a great and wonderful lecture

Sex is needed for man ~3-4 times a week. Period When men dont need that much, he is ill for something.

That is super sad. Praying for you Cassandra. May God renew your intimacy in Jesus Name.

Living through the same as a man. Have had the conversation about it many times to no avail. Hope still remains on my end - hopefully the same holds true for you and things work out!

@@Blitz1276 I pray God helps your marriage. This is so sad to see couples deprive one another of the most important act keeping marriage together.

It can be fixed with a divorce. Why put yourself through this?

Same.. roommates for 10 years.. no sex or even a date in 10 years.. I cannot wait to be divorced

What if you are in a relationship with a man when you are over 60? You cannot be suggesting all bets are off, are you?

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Does she like you now? Do you like her now?

Is your wife Michelle Obama? She said that too about Barack.

@maxonout she likes me now. I like parts of her. I should look into this shadow of mine.

@jsharkee she's certainly a strong person. Which is great when they're supporting you but bad when they're not. My mother in law is a tough woman who married a younger man. She was the oldest child in a big family. She's the boss. Michelle Obama is obviously tough, Black people receive a lot of harassment and bullying. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

She's his wife

wow I didn't know that !@@elyz98

Maybe ask her to try HRT. It really helps with libido

@@alexarihani2902 Her hormones are changing for biologically normal reasons. Please don't mess with them. Think of all the stuff coming out about birth control lately...

You sound like my husband, in a way. Only we're on our third baby, and our oldest isn't 5 yet. My sex drive is pretty low right now, which I'm told is normal. He hasn't initiated sex with me for at least a year. I actually can't remember the last time he did. I'm the only one who does, even if it's a few and far between quickie. It honestly breaks my heart, and bringing it up with him hasn't changed anything. I'm a normal BMI and he says he's attracted to me. It makes me feel like I've lost some value I had to him. Have you tried initiating the act with her?

@sitcomchristian6886 Actually, since I wrote this almost 2 months ago, we went on holiday, had sex a couple of times, and now have sex every couple of weeks, though I initiate as usual. I figured that having sex brings us closer together and our home life is more relaxed.

​@sitcomchristian6886 your husband, in his mind, may subconsciously be afraid of being rejected, feel he's respecting you by not bothering you about it, or a combination of both. Hash it out with him. I was that guy, and did not realize how it came off.

I haven't had sex weekly with my husband since our daughter was born 5 years ago. Few times a month max. 3 month old baby now so maybe once a month. I think he watches porn more than I'd like him to but mama's tired so I'll care more when the baby's older lol

@@destined4purgatory643I’d dread being in your husband’s situation. I understand the baby is young. But as a man I bet he is struggling I truly don’t understand why women don’t understand how much sex is a critical need in a man’s life Have you asked him how he truly feels in the relationship and in his sex life? Is he satisfied?

@@flash12319 2 or 3 times a month is fine with him. I keep it fresh and make it seem spontaneous (it's not I plan that shit all day lol). I know it's important. I may not always be in the mood but the benefits are great. He's happier, more helpful, and pays attention to me and the kids more. The older the kids get the more I can actually enjoy it too (no worry of them waking up ect.)

@@flash12319porn is just an excuse no man needs porn

@@flash12319my husband has a habit of getting home from work and expecting dinner and sex. I talked to him about dropping one of the days. He got upset. I guess it is very important.

Sad. Hope neither of you ever get sick. This is the saddest thing I have ever read, seeing what my father did for his lovely, beautiful wife who had dementia. I suggest a far higher view of your wife. Please.

@maxonout I'm kidding. Also I'm not married.

I guess you don’t have kids

great point of view

You're right. I calculated 4696, but if you approximate a year as 52 weeks (364 days), then it's 4680. Certainly not 30,000.

But arranging a date night at home when the kids are asleep is much easier 👍 it’s not the venue it’s the act

We're in the same situation (except the homeschooling part) this is why putting the kids to bed early and in their own beds is non-negotiable

It's hard, but we're badass. Our family is in FL. No one is close to us, no one. Not a whole lot of friends either. We're doing just fine.

@@robslifting4life Yes that's us too. We have a big family so our kids are their own playmates and we're doing fine. @stevejones224 We also do the date-at-home thing, agree you can make a dinner&movie night at home just as much fun as in a theater/restaurant.

Same. However we have done weekly at home dates now for the last 3+ years. Pick a night a week, give the children macncheese early for dinner (yes mine eat this every single week) and put them in their beds with books (if you have to give them a tiny bit of melatonin that night then so be it). Then one of you either makes dinner or picks up takeout just for you two. Eat by candlelight. Don't wear your pajamas. I bought a nice wood tray and wood bowl that is only for date night snacks; a nice cheese, roasted pecans, and some olives. And wine. Or make popcorn with a movie cuddled up in the couch together. It will take some training to make sure children stay in their rooms but it will be worth it. Trust me. And we enjoy great, regularly scheduled s*x 3x a week.; Sundays, Tuesday or Wednesday and Fridays. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

He can still satisfy you without an erection and you can still have the bonding intimacy.

If that happened, dont you think he also might be hurt from the way you acted? I mean if i had troubles getting it up and then my fear happened and my girlfriend would dismount and cry and then would say, that she wouldnt want to be intimate with me anymore, that would destroy me. Wtf

​@@julianrudert7779Yeah that sounds pretty heartless to me.... If you care for someone you don't act like that. She sounds like a child to me...

There is medication for that. You do not need to take that as a personal issue. Health issues cause that not mental or heart issues.

Everyone has a bad round every now and then. It sounds like you all might not be in the best of health (not to be presumptuous, but since you mentioned the details of flacid-ness and lack of sensation). Try cuddling naked, with no expectations for sex. Really, NO expectations. It will help you to bond and hopefully relax. I would reach out to a naturopath if you want to get to the root causes of what's limiting your mutual sex drive, or the mechanics of it. Modern medicine can band-aid the problems, but they can be problematic in the long term. I'm sorry you all are going through this, but it can be alright if you keep working through it :)

Why don't you just divorce? Why are you trapped in it?

Talking to your father about what happened will be great practice for life with a future husband. You don't want to let things fester for years or decades. I'm older, trust me, these things do affect relationships way down the road. There's a simple formula for these situations: Ask at a good time for a moment to talk. Say: "When ...happened, it made me feel....I need you to.... . " Do not blame, do not argue, do not hold a whole sermon, just factually explain in few words those three points as they apply. Leave it at that. Their reaction doesn't matter, it's not in your control. Keep your cool. Example: "Dad, when you told me the other day that I will never live up to your expectations, I felt hurt because I never wanted to disappoint you. I need you to believe in me and support my plans, even when they're not what you had imagined for me. This is important to me, because I love you."

@@solaveritas2 He's mentally unstable and I think him calling me a thief after he caused the problem (I'm solving on my own without his help) was in one of his manic episodes. Not to mention he probably caused a lot of other problems for me, because of legal crap he got me involved in. There's a high likelyhood that he ruined my credit score, if that's a thing in my country. I had to go to court because he couldn't pay bills after grandad died. Because he legally binded this apartment crap on me. I think I will let it go eventually, but I'll make sure to never get involved with him legally ever again. It's a nightmare that probably patially ruined me legally down the road. A real father would never put his daughter in that situation.

@@solaveritas2 basically, it's definitepy not a standard miscommunication type of problem, but dealing with a mentally unstable man type of problem.

That sounds very very tricky and I’m sorry you’re going through that. Some dads are just not cut out to be dads 😢

@@sherbetstraw dude, he has 2 kids. And for the second one, as I heard, my dad was never written down into the baby's birth certificate. I can't even claim I have a half brother, legally 😑

Neueve supplement changed my life in this area. No pain at all, was in the same boat

This is his wife that the above comment is coming from😊

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