The Difference Between Busy and Non Busy People

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Жыл бұрын

Some people are not busy. They appear calm, collected, and in control… but still productive. They are enviable in the life they live. What do they understand about life that others do not?
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@rachelt727 Жыл бұрын

“Rest is not laziness” writing that down to repeat to myself constantly.

@scruffytuna Жыл бұрын

I think we should also accept that things are temporary... AND that they're not supposed to last forever. If you have a bake shop that was very successful for a few years then something came up and you had to sell it, it doesn't mean the business was a failure. It just worked for that season of your life. Same with relationships, friendships, exercise routines. Maybe things ended, but you gained rich experiences and lessons from it.

@elsagrace3893 Жыл бұрын

Seems especially true of MARRIAGE 😂🤣😂🤣

@maangeladomingo4089 Жыл бұрын

I definitely agree! @jackie

@benmorrison8823 Жыл бұрын

Hey! How are you doing today?

@raymondnewton2388 Жыл бұрын

I learned to accept loss and move on after things and relationships had ended.

@julierichens4218 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for putting that into perspective. 😊

@rosalindluper2801 Жыл бұрын

What wonderful insight. As a mature single woman I find everyone in my peer group busy being busy. They seem to think that if they 'admit' they have free time, it will be a sign that they don't have enough friends or that they are not wanted. They fill their days with endless activity and don't have time for real friendships. If you have a crisis, which by definition is unplanned, they don't have time to help out. I really miss the days when people would just pop round and no-one was too busy to lend a hand. It's all rather sad.

@suzannah. Жыл бұрын

Dearest Rosalind, your words are very thoughtful and heartfelt. They resonate with me. I too, feel what you have felt from 'busy'. xxx

@juliab628 Жыл бұрын

So so So true. I, find the very same.

@maryr6300 Жыл бұрын

For me, the people who tell me how busy they are, are usually the ones who complain the most about how busy they are.

@laurafprim Жыл бұрын

A boss told me once that he DESPISED that i walked and not run whenever i was going from one place to another bc if you run it looks like you're working harded. I replied that i did get the work done and he said 'i know you do but still it makes you look bad" ... i'm glad i dont work there anymore

@juliab628 Жыл бұрын

Oh my, how awful . I'm glad you no longer work there. You are wise. Your productivity was spot on yet still, you were judged unfairly.

@marcelhaik8035 6 ай бұрын

My last boss made me leave the emergency room and said he needed me at the restaurant-with no regard to my health or sickness. Found out later that they could have functioned without me.

@jack0451 Жыл бұрын

When I say “I’m busy”, it’s just because I don’t want to do something and I use that as an excuse.

@lauraholbrook8852 3 ай бұрын

This is exactly why i stopped inviting people out.

@barbaradelira6790 9 ай бұрын

I hate that I feel guilty when I stop & rest. I really needed to hear the last part of this video. Even Jesus rested on Sunday. Society has made us feel that slowing down a little means we're lazy.

@rebeccarendle3706 Жыл бұрын

This was all so true. I am British. But live in Germany. I love that in Germany shops are not open on Sundays. You are not allowed to do noisy work at home eg use a hammer, lawnmower or washing machine etc..because this should be a day of rest and quite to allow people to rest.. Because of these rules, it makes it easier to relax, have family time etc on a Sunday..something I have learned to appreciate since having children.

@mariahsmom9457 Жыл бұрын

Love this approach. It's a collective value!

@kimgordon3695 Жыл бұрын

Sabbath replaced by 🌞 worship.

@karlabritfeld7104 Жыл бұрын

I totally agree! I lived in England and Canada years ago where shops were closed on Sundays.

@SirenaSpades Жыл бұрын

Blue laws replaced by WEF

@jenniferlanders5741 Жыл бұрын

I love this!! This should be adopted world wide; Sundays off, stores closed. A REAL day of rest. ❤

@karenrich9092 Жыл бұрын

My husband was a non busy person I think. He lived by his calendar for as long as I knew him. If you wanted to have a piece of his time you had to "get on the square". This was a requirement for everyone from "The President of the United States" to his daughter's friend who had a birthday party and everyone in between. He always made time for his job, his community commitments and to play on the weekends. Sadly, he passed nearly 5 years ago and I still miss him, but I remember what he said to people, "How can I help you be successful today?"

@gretchenpersinger2575 2 ай бұрын

This is really beautiful... it seems he understood that each of those "squares" represented the truth of the limits we as humans live in. He sounds really wonderful!❤

@valeriehowden471 Жыл бұрын

I used to say I was busy at my previous job. It wouldn't have been I good idea to say stressed, overworked, and verbally abused. Much happier without that paycheck I left 14 years ago as I have found other pursuits which give me joy.

@maypong2007 Жыл бұрын

I am looking for this day to come

@TheNerdistheWord Жыл бұрын

It doesn’t just happen on its own. You have to make it happen.

@allison_diehl Жыл бұрын

I just left a job to start working remote and have a more flexible schedule to be with my family. This comment was very encouraging for me. ♥️

@allison_diehl Жыл бұрын

I just left a job to start working remote and have a more flexible schedule to be with my family. This comment was very encouraging for me. ♥️

@valeriehowden471 Жыл бұрын

@@allison_diehl glad it helped. My position was part time. It was 70% of a full time position. It was in health care. There has been about 20% increase in patient load but now there are 2 full time and one part time position (80% of full time hours). These 3 replacements still complain how heavy the workload is! Looking back, I don't know how I survived 3 years of it!

@miken1463 Жыл бұрын

There is a difference between being busy and in the “flow state”. I choose to spend my time doing activities that are connected to cooking, gardening, exercising, reading and getting together with like minded people doing gardening (native plant restoration projects) and exercising running/cycling groups and yes a hockey team! When I am gardening and cooking and running I am in that flow state and super happy.

@coraluz3247 Жыл бұрын

I felt I was finally in the flow state today, it was a really great, happy, and productive day in my site of values:)

@margueritechromo1383 Жыл бұрын

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@juditharsenault2131 Жыл бұрын

I was busy all the time before I retired. I hated my job for about 3 years before I retired. I retired at 62. I'm loving not being busy. There's pressure from my family to be busy and also to work a part time job because my retirement is modest. I resist the pressure because I'm happy. I used to be tired all the time and also spent more money on gas, food and just about everything. I became extremely frugal. I can save a little every month for an emergency account. I wish my family would be happy for me.

@LauraMacMillan-cp9yk 10 ай бұрын

I have learned to say something like, “Not everyone is the same. The way I live now represents, in my mind, success, and peace, and happiness … I feel lucky.” (or, “blessed,” - depending on my audience.)

@sarahr6089 10 ай бұрын

Wow, I can really relate to that @juditharsenault! I have just retired and I value quiet time on my own. I am struggling to feel confident with that way of living though, I feel like others don't approve and I can't stop that bothering me, which is frustrating!! An emergency fund gives great peace of mind and I am slowly building mine up 👍

@ebbypetes 5 ай бұрын

Don't worry about them. You be happy for you. I'm very proud of you as I love the same way and it's so fulfilling. ❤❤❤

@sharpedance Жыл бұрын

I appreciate how thoughtfully, precisely and calmly you speak. It makes it easy to hear and comprehend your message the first time through. The work your invested to prepare for this video shows that you do what you are teaching and value the viewer’s time. Thank you!

@benmorrison8823 Жыл бұрын

Hey! How are you doing today?

@bethannsmith4969 Жыл бұрын

This is how everyone used to speak. I noticed a change between 2000 - 2005.

@zerocarbdoc Жыл бұрын

I minimalized sugar and fast food and soon after clarity and motivation manifested.

@karek4635 Жыл бұрын

I think people answer "busy" as a way to let the person they are speaking with know that they are not open to being asked to do anything by that specific person. For example, I know a woman who asks how people are doing to test the waters, and if they reveal they have the afternoon free, then she will pounce and ask for favors and projects to be done, and once you have revealed that you aren't busy, it's a lot harder to say no without feeling awkward. I assume if someone is asking pointed questions about my life & schedule they are trying to find a way to demand more of my time, so I will always say I'm busy. Busy means I already have plans to do what I want, even if it's organizing a drawer, taking a shower, or reading a book, which are all valid.

@benmorrison8823 Жыл бұрын

Hello! How are you doing today?

@Upaymybills 11 ай бұрын

@@benmorrison8823busy clipping my toe nails... click.

@LauraMacMillan-cp9yk 10 ай бұрын

That was my thought too. If you admit you have unplanned time, a surprising number of people will start to make demands on it. “I have my afternoon already planned,” is a complete sentence - and easier to say, for a lot of us, than just. “No.”

@sagebay2803 Жыл бұрын

This was such a great video. Thank you. I am alone ALOT and I really love it; yet I feel guilty when I say no to almost everyone. I just love making things, hiking, kayaking, reading, etc....all on my own. I only want a few close friends now. I have let go of almost everyone as I think the pandemic woke me up. I had no idea who I was. Everything was "to get more money". I lost my job and my health and I think it was the best gift ever. Anyway, thanks again.

@tslilbearshoppe9870 Жыл бұрын

I think we are not meant to keep our friends for ever. Well maybe 1 or 2 but if you don't grow together then there is always friction. Do what is best for you and your family and remember peace is more important than anything. Introverts always feel guilty but we really shouldn't it is who we are.

@karlabritfeld7104 Жыл бұрын

Good luck with that.

@SirenaSpades Жыл бұрын

My default answer is no. I don't feel guilty at all. I have to really carefully weigh in an invitation before I will give an affirmative. VERY CAREFULLY. As in .01% will be a yes. I have worked hard to pare down my life. Consider why you would feel guily when preserving your time.

@SirenaSpades Жыл бұрын

@@karlabritfeld7104 Good luck with what, saying no? It's easy. If you are a yes person, therapy may help. Setting better boundaries is needed.

@micheleohmer4117 Жыл бұрын

People are too busy? Many people spend a lot of time on social media but can't keep in touch in real life. We choose how to spend our time! Make time for people who make time for you.

@juliafisher5844 Жыл бұрын

That last sentence 100%

@Heyu7her3 Жыл бұрын

Social media can be accessed while we are doing other things. We can watch these KZfaq videos while cooking or while at work. It's not necessarily an either/ or.

@staceyjordan Жыл бұрын

Great words of wisdom Joshua! Thank you for the reminder! Even God rested on the 7th day!!

@susanoline5823 Жыл бұрын

He commanded us to. My, we hardly hear the Ten Commandmremts anymore!

@kimgordon3695 Жыл бұрын

Keep His commands & succeed ... Psalms 1 : 1-3

@kimgordon3695 Жыл бұрын

The Sabbath is Sunset Fri til Sunset Saturday but not for Constantine*

@jessicaderstine4061 Жыл бұрын

And on that note, I'm going to bed early tonight. My need for rest is huge and I've filled my margin to nill. Back to the drawing board to add back in rest.

@juliahurford9722 Жыл бұрын

'better is a handful of rest than two handfuls of work and chasing after the wind' Ecclesiastes 4 verse 6. Hooray permission to opt out at times!

@angelasnodgrass6621 Жыл бұрын

I agree with take one day a week to rest. I try very hard to make sure I do that. Great video. Thank you.

@renee6524 Жыл бұрын

Currently reading the book, Essentialism. I want to be less busy and a tad more spontaneous. I do not think this will be an overnight change for me...but recognizing that being busy does not equal happiness.

@therichbuddha3277 Жыл бұрын

Didn't see this comment before I wrote mine! Yes, great book, check out his Effortless also.

@renee6524 Жыл бұрын

@@therichbuddha3277 yes! Have it and will read it as well.

@valerierogers9609 Жыл бұрын

I've never seen a badge of honor awarded for busyness.

@leannewith3 Жыл бұрын

I totally agree with what you say about rest. So many people see it as lazy to take that time out to rest, but it is so important.

@gotit902 Жыл бұрын

This has absolutely got to be one of the most lucid explanations! Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

@kathyesargent9088 Жыл бұрын

Not me ever. Now I’m retired not busy and when I worked organized is key, boundaries definitely ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@VeganMangoQueen Жыл бұрын

YES! Learn to say No & you have a choice👏🏼 I think some of my INFJ personality traits prevent me from being busy lol. Slow living is where it’s at.

@juliab628 Жыл бұрын

I'm also INFJ and I feel this to be so true😊

@minimalizingwithnine5711 Жыл бұрын

Joshua everything you say in this post is true. I saw myself described and I have experienced what you talked about. I am currently working on giving myself permission to rest. It’s very hard for me. I was raised with a hard work mentality. Resting =laziness. God has been showing me with very real circumstances how important it is too rest, say no and stand firm in my priorities. Thank you for the reminder to know my goals so I can remember my end goal when an opportunity is presented to me. This post is timely! Thank you!!!

@gypsybelle4757 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your weekly videos. They are a welcome respite to help me refocus on the things that matter most!

@norahdenovan8658 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Joshua , I make time to rest everyday, I make my favourite tea& have it in a china cup& saucer with a biscuit. I love this simple ritual it makes me happy ❤️🙏

@michaelmartin3257 Жыл бұрын

This is a great video, thank you! Our culture is being poisoned into thinking "things" define a person and will make you feel better. Only when a person aligns their will with God's will, will they ultimately be and feel complete. I know more people that "busy" themselves with nonsense and are stressed out most of the time. We ARE our own worst enemies. Many blessings to you and yours! Keep these videos coming.

@ebbypetes 5 ай бұрын

Amen.

@Sarah-sm3pb Жыл бұрын

There is so much truth in this video! Great practical advice. God created us to seek Him, and until we do so, we will constantly be seeking fulfillment in that which leaves us empty.

@12Pearls12 Жыл бұрын

Joshua..you are a gift..such great observations about what really matters in life!!

@LisaHice Жыл бұрын

So good! Thank you! This month I am having to practice saying no as so many fun invites, events and also balancing of church, health, home, work and rest.

@kristinhassler7222 Жыл бұрын

Wow, you nailed it on so many levels!!! This is something I still struggle with, but continue to work hard on keeping my "business" in check. Thank you for continuing to remind us of how to live our best lives!! Many blessings to you and your family.

@heatherz.rothstain6021 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. It came at the perfect time when I was wrestling with whether or not to take on more projects at work while I’m a full time mom.

@faith.hope.love.3036 Жыл бұрын

This was the BEST, THANK YOU!!! (It could not have come at a better time for me and it was TRULY a Confirmation for me and my life! ❤️ GOD BLESS YOU!!!)

@lizziemcdougall2767 Жыл бұрын

Another well-timed message. As I head into the new school year, I am hoping to be well-rested and less busy. Making this a focus and an intent is the only way that I will experience a better work-life balance. Thanks so much for this video.

@aggiesart6 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for remember me off this. After a near death experience last year, i was so clear, i knew what decisions a had to make❤️

@carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679 Жыл бұрын

i don't say "i am busy"...I say "I still have things to do" or "I'm doing things". The difference is that "busy" is not under your control. "I am doing things" mens that I have chosen to do these things and I am in control of my time and energies. Most people won't "get that", and I don't care. For me, it's a small trick of the mind and the mouth to remind me that I am in charge, not others. Therefore, I am not "busy"....I am in charge of my thoughts and time.

@helenebennie3961 Жыл бұрын

I love that. It's good psychology.

@kimiimore Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this! I always wondered why everyone's always so busy and im not when i also have a career and have other stuff going in my life. I completely agree that being and saying that you are busy is kind of a mindset.. i have a lot of things to do but i dont let it define me. Im glad i found some answers through this video.

@jenshark4 Жыл бұрын

Most of the time I say “I don’t have time for x” but the truth is I have time but maybe not the energy. To do anything in life, it could be something you want to do or something you don’t want to do, you need both time and energy. If you are lacking one of those things then you can’t do whatever it is you were going to do.

@thelmakatherine5396 Жыл бұрын

I am not "busy" but rather have a very full day doing and being the person I have chosen to be. I have had to learn to say No. It was hard. Some days I feel that have no control over my days given that my days revolve around my children's schedules, but then I remember that I am truly in control because I chose my vocation. I have chosen to put my all into this season of life and anything that does not pertain to that gets rejected.

@simplycj5460 Жыл бұрын

Lots of wisdom in this message, Joshua. Thank you for sharing. I always appreciate your sincerity.

@elkanaharthur7713 Жыл бұрын

I especially relate to what you said about rest. It doesn't come naturally to me. I need to be intentional about it and guard it! 🙌🥰

@AngelInk-Poetess Жыл бұрын

This is exceptional wisdom. Thank you for sharing your wealth of insights and understanding. I’m definitely forwarding your videos to the people I love, especially my college-aged daughter. With gratitude! ♥️

@brucechavers3848 Жыл бұрын

Great video Joshua. I believe everything you’ve been trying to say for years you just said. You have inspired me to use my time differently which to me means focus on what you believe your purpose is. Thanks!

@yvettefluehr493 Жыл бұрын

This really hit home with me. Thank you for a new perspective.

@MissMrshsherm Жыл бұрын

Thank you for posting this video. I needed this affirmation. ❤️

@mikew8573 Жыл бұрын

We are our own designers. Being a minimalist, more of a loner adds so much quality to my organization. I've always been a planner, organized guy. So yes I have many busy days but they are productive and when those select opportunities come about I can easily make the time to go enjoy them. Get off the beaten path. Great video Joshua. Thank you!

@marystackpole118 Жыл бұрын

OMG!!! Thank you Thank you Thank you! That's what we all need to hear and do!!!♥️♥️♥️

@Bessie66 Жыл бұрын

I’ve never been so busy since watching your videos and minimising - it’s a good busy though 😂

@andrea859 Жыл бұрын

I agree with this Joshua. I am now in the not busy category.

@mindymudge7247 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your videos, I enjoy your talks and am encouraged by your ideas.

@opasfda Жыл бұрын

Your voice is so peaceful. I found this channel today, and my house already looks better, and my mind is already cleaner. Thumbs up!

@rosieroberts6738 Жыл бұрын

We all…need to hear more videos like this!! Thank you for sharing!!!😁😄😊

@ellen823ful Жыл бұрын

Saying yes to something when you really need to say no gets your life unmanageable fast. Here’s my plan for this fall and winter : Goal: I want to read more. Plan: I will put reading 📖 time in my day. I will say “no” to other distractions for that 30-60 minute time frame.

@louisecote7908 3 ай бұрын

Thank you Joshua for this video! I really like the fact that you say to take a day of rest each week. My family and I have been doing it for more than 7 years and it's been a real blessing to us. This is no surprise God told his people to honor the sixth day by ceasing all work on that day. He knew we needed a day of rest every week.

@marissawussler8669 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this timely video 💜

@frankreime3305 Жыл бұрын

Thank you very much! That‘s the video I need today 🤗

@knitnkitten Жыл бұрын

Beware the barrenness of a busy life ~ Socrates

@flybyniko Жыл бұрын

Wise words, I especially relate to you having a choice regardless of what is imposed on you but, for example, a boss.

@LisaVanGemert Жыл бұрын

This was perhaps the most important video I could have seen today. Thank you.

@FaithfulandTrue949 Жыл бұрын

Such Wisdom and insight, thank you for promoting permission to rest. God bless you and your family, keep looking up 🙏🙌👑

@TuanNguyen-kx7dc Жыл бұрын

This was a wonderful video. Thank you for that.

@pennysara9814 Жыл бұрын

This is profound. Thanks, Joshua!

@chezelleconroy2951 Жыл бұрын

Every video, every time, wisdom. Thankyou 🇦🇺

@knitnkitten Жыл бұрын

recommended reading: 🍯The Tao of Pooh, and The Te of Piglet - after reading all A.A. Milne's Winnie the Pooh books, of course!

@simini1837 Жыл бұрын

Great comment 👍🏻

@stscc2009 Жыл бұрын

Yes yes yes!! This was so good. This spoke to me deeply. Thank you for this.

@Angell_Lee Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your video!

@nzingaward Жыл бұрын

Thank you! This was a blessing!

@ifell3 Жыл бұрын

I've taken a minimalist approach to friends, loads of time aha

@karlyp3920 Жыл бұрын

It's amazing how many people we accumulate over the years and spend time with that we don't even like 😂😂😂😂😂

@ifell3 Жыл бұрын

@@karlyp3920 I have about 60 people on Facebook as friends, if I don't feel I can say "sorry can I borrow a £5 until payday" to them I don't consider them a friend, or they are really old friends that I've spent some great times with.

@karlyp3920 Жыл бұрын

@@ifell3 love this!!!

@suegreenland5989 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for your effort to bring this quality video.

@aleithea2715 Жыл бұрын

What a mighty video. Thank you. It is certainly one of your greatest if not the greatest. Your great statement (Surely lasting happiness and fulfilment can be found somewhere) was the perfect time to tell people that lasting happiness and fulfilment can only be found in Jesus.

@jxph7 Жыл бұрын

5:48 " you can achieve more by doing less " 😎

@tgayer1 Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much, Joshua!

@Hannahgrace901 Жыл бұрын

This is very helpful and inspiring. Thank you!

@annakelian Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this reminder!

@TGYtco Жыл бұрын

This might be my favorite video to date!

@susiecolorado Жыл бұрын

Thank you! I wholeheartedly agree!

@user-us1ss4dw3h Жыл бұрын

Yes. Love this! Thank you.

@smokypoo Жыл бұрын

This is an amazing video, one of your most inspiring, for me anyway. Thank you.

@jayme3557 Жыл бұрын

I'm on energy saving mode. IF I say I'm busy... It will usually mean I'm busy doing nothing ❤️‍🔥

@artfullyzen233 Жыл бұрын

Wow. So good. Thank you!

@kimberlyjohnson6052 Жыл бұрын

Thank you! ❤

@caroc8290 Жыл бұрын

Love to listen to you!

@sudeshnabhowmik1989 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for helping me set up my goal

@paonui932 Жыл бұрын

Great advice , so very true, something not to forget...ever.

@carolannstevens5814 Жыл бұрын

This is so wise! Life is so short. Thank you!

@JulaneLund Жыл бұрын

This was such a meaningful video. Thank you!

@mariavelazquez2881 Жыл бұрын

As always bravo 👏 and thank you 😊!!

@JoshuaBecker Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

@sweetlampe Жыл бұрын

People are busy and don’t stop and rest because then they would have to think about their unhappy life 🤔, instead of enjoying it in that rest. And where does God come into this busy life, oh yeah we’re all to Busy for him too.🙏🏻