Swedish Death Cleaning and Mindful Consumption

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The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning is a book I read several years ago and just recently re-read and decided to finally put into practice. Rather than a quick organizing project, this is truly a way of living and thinking about our relationship to our things and our own mortality. I also recently watched the entire show on Peacock and the principles in the book are beautifully represented in the show. By changing my relationship with accumulating things and truly realizing that every day could be my last, this process has helped me re-shape how I view my things in a beautiful and I hope sustainable way. To see part two of this series Whole House Declutter | Swedish Death Cleaning Part 2
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@Iinfiniteknowing Жыл бұрын

I had to empty my parents home of 60+ yrs.Intense!I did it I over two so called vacations and 2 garage sales, Facebook marketplace,siblings coming to take things.The last push was 3 straight months while not working.please do this for your family if you can and if you can't maybe family /friends can help you

@marylut6077 5 ай бұрын

Cleared out 50 yrs of stuff when pack rat dad sold the house. Swore I would not put my kids through that

@lindaanderson8329 Ай бұрын

Found the same thing right now!

@annellis8412 Жыл бұрын

After cleaning out my mother in law's house that was loaded with stuff, I refuse to leave that mess to my own kids. I've been working on this for several years and I'm finding it getting easier to get rid of stuff. I'm fascinated by the fact that I may be ready to get rid of something today that I wasn't six months ago.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Something shifts and it honestly has surprised me as well!

@carolholt3313 6 ай бұрын

If you have no legal connection (responsibility) or emotional connection to someone's home and stuff, just walk away.

@Lovesapuzzle Жыл бұрын

Our parent let go of most of their stuff when they downsized to a retirement community from their 4 bedroom home. It was hard for them but a real gift for my siblings and me. When they passed and we cleared out their condo, we did it in a single day. We had a plan, knew who was taking what and what was going to the charity shop. They had some papers/photos and personal items that we wanted to take more time with so, we boxed that up to be addressed at a later date. All in all, it was a smooth and stress free process. I'm sure it helped that my siblings and I had agreed on a plan and are generally supportive of each other.

@abbyh.593 11 ай бұрын

I read Swedish death cleaning after my dad died. He had so much stuff to go through it was very eye opening. Even a decade after his death my mom is still finding random objects he had hidden away. Going through all that really made me want to minimize my possessions.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 11 ай бұрын

I'm sorry for your loss, Abby.

@susan5661 6 ай бұрын

I’ve been decluttering for 3+ years. It just gets better and better. More peaceful, so easy to clean and care for. Minimalism for me is just having the things that serve me well. And no one walks into my home and says where is all of your stuff. They say, your house looks so great.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 5 ай бұрын

Always such a great compliment!

@elib7311 8 ай бұрын

Your master closet is the size of some tiny houses! 😂😂 By the way, thanks for being real. Exhausted, frustrated, no makeup, just…real. Donating to a Women’s Shelter would be awesome. One of those saved me when I was only 21. Also, if you have cosmetics you never opened, they take that as well. Some men don’t let their wives wear cosmetics, and makeup is such a treasure for some women who weren’t allowed to even have so much as lip gloss.

@lisasproul8027 Жыл бұрын

I started this process after clearing out my moms apartment when we moved her to long term care. I didn’t want my kids having to go through the same thing with our house where I have so much more than my mom did. I don’t want to store stuff I don’t use. This was a good reminder to keep going!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

It's sobering, isn't it? And I'm so glad you liked it!

@spmarsh3747 Жыл бұрын

Yes, I helped clean out my Dad's house and emptying out 60 years of stuff was work! While his stuff was organized another family member who died left a daughter an absolute mess of things that should've been thrown out decades ago: I'm determined not to leave that kind of mess for anyone to deal with. Every other year I go though this process and what makes it a positive experience is knowing I'm keeping up with it and my family won't have to deal with it. What will be a challenge will be getting rid of 2 boxes of papers and move them to digital site!

@teresamartin4735 11 ай бұрын

lisasproul8027: I'm doing the same exact thing. Doesn't it feel good once you get over that hump of hanging onto stuff you don't need or use?

@LisaShear-fb6nd Жыл бұрын

Always donate suitcases in usable condition! There are so many kids in the foster system that have no way to ‘pack’ their few belongings and have to use a garbage bag- social workers are great about getting these kids luggage from donation stores!

@sct4040 Жыл бұрын

Tell me how to donate to them directly. I have 2-3 suitcases I can give them, still in good condition.

@user-vp8xq2by3b 11 ай бұрын

Yes! I made the same comment, ♥️

@carriel3054 Жыл бұрын

12:13 During our last move I found FOURTEEN rolls of scotch tape in various locations around my 600sq foot condo. And in case you're wondering, I am *not* a professional gift-wrapper 🤣🤣

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

It's truly remarkable the things we can't find and then buy again and it just goes on and on. And thank you you're making me feel better! LOL

@veronicamartini9659 11 ай бұрын

I just spent two days Swedish death cleaning my primary closet, linen closet, under bed storage, nightstand, coat closet and second closet and now that it’s done I feel tired but amazing. Like you mentioned there is no big before and after difference, but I have 6 trash bags to donate, a couple of bags of trash, and about 20 items to sell. I too came across shoelaces, paperclips and foreign coins, and so many items stashed away. Now all that stuff is gone and I have space in my closet to breathe. One thing I learned is that so many items of clothing were bought in the hopes I would look like someone else, and I now realize I need to find my own style and look like the best version of me. Thanks for your very honest inspiration and humor.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 11 ай бұрын

I love to hear it, Veronica! And yes, our homes can breathe!

@evercuriousmichelle Жыл бұрын

As a 32 year old, I have found a good way to do the same thing with a slightly different reason: I plan to move abroad one day, so I need to start slowly trimming down my items such that I could feasibly fit my life and two or three suitcases at some point.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Fabulous reason and I love this!

@jumpgenx2571 Жыл бұрын

I think you are already a minimalist. The way you talk about being deliberate in only having things you use and love is pretty much the definition of minimalism. It’s not about a number of items or the amount of square feet you have. 💕

@louisedamjanovic3983 Жыл бұрын

Family and children’s services would love to have any working suitcases, backpacks, duffle bags for kids in foster care!

@Lovesapuzzle Жыл бұрын

I've never approached it a death cleaning but rather like move cleaning. I decide if an item is useful/important enough to me that I would take it with me in a move. It was amazing how much I let go of. I like to think that now someone else is making use of those things.

@wendybeattie6935 Жыл бұрын

Suitcases are good for women’s shelters and foster homes

@keithallinder6232 Жыл бұрын

(Jane) The "random shit" comment made me laugh out loud because I know EXACTLY what you meant. I have been on an extended quest to de-clutter, simplify and let go of things that don't bring me joy anymore. Some things that have helped me along the way are: 1. I have a designated spot where I put things that I THINK I want to part with but I can't pull the trigger. Then I periodically go back to them and my response is almost always immediately one of two ways. Either it's "gasp" I love that and want to use it again or, more often, "I forgot I even had that" It's time to go. 2. I have learned to give myself permission to get rid of things that for many years I enjoyed but I don't anymore and maybe someone else will. 3. I forgive myself for my buying mistakes. Keeping something I don't like/use just because I feel guilty about buying it (even inexpensive things) does not make it worthy to keep. It just prolongs the guilt. Thank you for being so open and getting this conversation started!

@kathyn91 Жыл бұрын

I appreciate your honesty about how you navigated this process. I have the same pack rat tendencies and it's so emotional and exhausting to go through all the tiny crap that I have shoved into cabinets and drawers. It helped to hear you be so honest about your challenges. Thank you!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Yeah it’s a lot. So glads it’s not just me!

@ashlynneeley7302 Жыл бұрын

I wish my grandparents would have done this. After they passed away it took my Father and Aunt over a year to clean everything out and sell the house. They were hoarders and it was very stressful and emotional for my father and aunt to have to deal with all of their belongings after they both passed away. We all tried to get them to get rid of things while they were alive and they never did.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

That’s heartbreaking for everyone involved. Thank you for sharing that.

@FiveHungryTravelers Жыл бұрын

I’m at a stage in life (with 3 little ones) where this process feels unattainable. But I think when we do seasonal deep cleaning I want to take this mindset into it. Be intentional and find freedom in letting stuff go instead of finding the process a burden. I want to be mindful of the new things I acquire for the time being (again, tough with kids!)

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

It sounds trite but attitude is everything with this! You have to look at it as a blessing - that really helped me the 16 times I wanted to quit 😂

@KathyBaird123 Жыл бұрын

Hi Jen, thank you for this video and being so real! Both of my grandmothers and also my mom who passed in 2019 were “collectors” of pretty little things. In fact, one grandmother would say “there’s a garage sale! Let’s go see what I can’t live without” 😂 Both my daughters tell me they appreciate some of these things, but they don’t want them. So I finally curated - well, mostly - what I want to keep into a small china cabinet - also given to me by one of those grandmothers. So now my granddaughter loves to play with them. They might as well get some use!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Love this! Keeping a few pieces is such a lovely way to honor the person and not have it all feel like too much.

@yvettesummers1339 11 ай бұрын

I laughed when you swore. I feel your pain. I'm trying to declutter. now I have a boot full of stuff that I can't quite to commit to donating and a box full in the corner that im not sure what to do with ha ha

@tracyprice4935 Жыл бұрын

Omg I just love you Jen Lefforge! Let’s just acknowledge the silliness of setting up a camera to video myself reading a book 😂 This is why we all love you….you are keeping it real❤️

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

I mean it’s just odd….🤣😂🤗

@barbarakhan5275 Жыл бұрын

Exactly! Too many channels do not feel genuine.

@TheMagicInWonderland Жыл бұрын

Very true! So weird when lifestyle channels do all of the shots … like waking up and brushing their teeth… when they have to set up the camera to do it! 😂

@amybrinkley2012 Жыл бұрын

I turn 50 Sept 8. My 19 year old son is moving out in two weeks.This is my sign to get this done. I’ve done it small scale and I cry watching Hoarders, so I’ve got to watch this show and Just work through my House.

@abeamzn1898 Жыл бұрын

Thank you. For me retiring I have started a process of clearing things out I don't need any longer. It is quite a task.

@sct4040 Жыл бұрын

As I retired, I have purged my closet of clothes, handbags and suitcases. It’s quite a task and took 3 years and counting.

@lurkingcaro Жыл бұрын

I've been moderately minimal the last few years, and it has really changed my perspective. It feels so much better knowing what I have and being intentional. It scared me at first, but now I don't think I could go back to my old cluttery self!

@summerwatson8239 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for showing us yourself in the weeds. I often feel shame in those moments and it’s so helpful to see you who I admire so much in that place.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 11 ай бұрын

I’m in the weeds the majority of the time! Right there with you.❤️

@catherinefreemantle3396 Ай бұрын

Not super super boring. Actually super super helpful and insightful. I need to read this book.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Ай бұрын

Oh I’m so glad you enjoyed it Catherine! Thank you

@leejuhsu 9 ай бұрын

I used the same junk company you used about ten years ago. Their professionalism and speed (they came right after I asked) were awesome, but the price is so expensive. They helped me get rid of two old ceramic toilets, which I had already placed by my driveway. They came and loaded them and handed me a $240 bill! I had bought them brand new for $80 each at Home Depot! Had I known the cost was so steep, I would have let those old toilets sit in my backyard as flower pots.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Two things: there's a typo in a slide (the cracks are how the light gets in I guess;), and I refer to this closet as our master closet but I wish I had called it the primary closet. That's all! Thanks for being here!

@rhillyermiles Жыл бұрын

Primary! I keep forgetting to use that word, I fall back on main bedroom, etc., but it doesn't sound right.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

@@rhillyermiles It's hard when you've been saying something your whole life but I'm determined to get it right

@homesforokc Жыл бұрын

Lol, I’m a realtor, and I STILL forget!

@fwebster6226 11 ай бұрын

I prefer clips like this rather than the sped up version - they are more inspiring to body double with

@litasanford7595 Жыл бұрын

Jen, I really loved this. I’m working up to this project. I’ve regretted getting rid of a few things when I powered through a major purge. I like the idea of a gentle approach.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Also the last time I did a big purge I wasn't thinking about the next generation - I should have been! This approach feels much more long term to me. Good luck!

@magicgemmaster7055 4 ай бұрын

I'm taking care of my 90 year old mother; and I am unburdening myself of so many of her things. I do not want someone else's memories., Tupperware, appliances, blankets, sheets etc.

@IndyAmi Жыл бұрын

Perfect timing! I had watched a few videos on this topic and already ordered and received the book when I saw your video pop up! Good news! Supposedly you don’t need to start it till 65 so we’re ahead of the game! I’ve found that if you take a drawer, cupboard or closet one at a time and take the stuff to Goodwill after each area it doesn’t get as overwhelming… remember decluttering is a lifetime project… I am also being choosy about what I purchase! 😄

@inkyfingeredcat 10 ай бұрын

Jen you are a joy to watch … you’ve got my kind of sense of humour too … your voice over to your b roll of you reading made me proper laugh out loud

@cynthiajohnston424 11 ай бұрын

Love this - the honesty , the reality , the dry humor , & viewing a YT video that is relatable - a mature woman in a ball cap 'n tank top getting help fr. her yellow Lab ! 🐾🐾 💙 " Gentle & methodical ... peaceful & balanced " " We're gonna get there . "

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 11 ай бұрын

Hurray! I love all of that! thanks so much.

@marleneschick4768 3 ай бұрын

I read this book prior to finding this video...but I have watched this video of yours more than once. I find it extremely inspirational, the REALNESS of it! Thank you for sharing this experience of your life.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 3 ай бұрын

What a kind comment!! Thank You!!

@rhodastephens-yoder5693 2 ай бұрын

I give the hotel amenities to the local food bank. I was also able to give the bags of soaps and hair care to people collecting donations for the survivors of the recent fires in Lahaina, Maui. Homeless shelters and women’s shelters are also a great place for donations, especially for “professional “ clothing.

@cathyberetski1472 Жыл бұрын

Your video is very relatable. Thank you. It's nice to know that there are many, many other people in the same situations. In my case, "It's out of sight but not out of mind!". I, too, have travel items, etc., in bins or bags. Although I am very organized, I get overwhelmed and exhausted for lack of time, energy, and busy schedules. Once I get things in their place, I take photos, stand back, and admire my work. It creates peace in my mind. I keep a daily to-do list by priority and geographic travel on errands, and rearrange it, as needed. After our Mom died six years ago (at nearly 90 years old), 😢 it took our family a very long time to sort and separate items and keepsakes in our childhood home (built by our Dad and his father and brothers/brothers-in-law) before we put it up for sale. Mom was organized, too, and a collector of things. Grieving and going thru the process created tears, anger, and laughter, along with many memories. We pulled together and accomplished it. I did take many photos of the process before and after, as well as photos of items we were donating, selling, or discarding. I don't want my family to have to go thru the same detailed process when either I am unable to do it myself or after I die. This morning was a high-energy day for me. Therefore, I began by walking and caring for our dog, eating breakfast, sorting and reorganizing items under the kitchen sink, prepared a full-course meal (head start), and started on other household chores. I'll need a nap this afternoon. 😊 I look forward to your future videos. Cathy

@theMermaidRhonda Ай бұрын

It's funny how certain videos pop up just when you need to see them. I've been really working on decluttering (not very successfully) lately and this video really has me motivated to get it in gear. My favorite aunt and uncle both passed away recently and it made me realize that I would much rather have memories than stuff. They went on vacation with us every summer and I have tons of great memories of those trips with them and my cousins and I cherish them all. After I watched one video of yours, I went in my bedroom and cleared out one drawer of my dresser. I would have done another but I had to get dinner going, so I'm jumping back in after this video. When I went through that first drawer I looked at al of it and made quick decisions on if I would wear it now or not and a TON went into a bag to be taken out. I have a lot more work to do, but your videos are motivating me in the best way..:)

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Ай бұрын

Rhonda that is so wonderful to hear!! And for the record I am still not done (over a year in now) and we just took a big basket filled with stuff to charity TODAY! Definitely a marathon not a sprint!

@MySweetSammy Жыл бұрын

I am a minimalist! (myself only ...I do not force my family to be minimalists) That being said, I have been decluttering since 2014! They neighbors must we thought we were moving out lol! I did Swedish Death Cleaning in 2021 and 2022. I've already passed my nice jewelery onto my daughters and daughter-in-law. I've pointed out things that hold meaning for me, and things that are simply decorative. So my kids *know* what to save and what to sell! And they also know they don't have to feel guilty about my stuff - whatever they decide to do with it!

@SH-vc4cl Жыл бұрын

Thanks!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@jayshahwan525 3 ай бұрын

What an inspiration. As I look around me, I am faced with so much stuff and so little energy. But! Your video encouraged me to push forward. The most important thing I had not grasped before I watched your video is that I'm only responsible for "my" stuff. I'm living with 3 adults who suffer with adhd (or so they'd have me believe), and I've been so frustrated with their lack of follow-through on ANYTHING! So now I will just begin the task of paring down my own stuff. Ahhhh, that just put some sanity back into my life. So glad I woke up to your video this morning. I feel less alone in this process -- and can stop beating myself up for not having the perfect house that's orderly and contained. Off I go with my new perspective -- thanks to you!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for your kind comment. I am SO GLAD I was able to provide some encouragement. This is such a journey but so worthwhile and yes, we can only control ourselves. Keep going!! I am STILL not done and probably won't be for maybe years but this has completely shifted how I accumulate and manage all the stuff.

@annblachly8068 6 ай бұрын

Dana K White teaches how to declutter without making a bigger mess, but only progress. If you get distracted you don't have a pile remaining.

@Ashleew Жыл бұрын

Love this video! I adored this book when I read it a few years ago. Can’t wait to see more of this!

@kimberlyhenson265 Жыл бұрын

Hi Jen! Thanks for being honest about how hard this actually is. I'm not sure I could do it but good for you! :) I enjoy your videos and especially your pursuit of kindness. You are awesome.

@disneymamallama Жыл бұрын

Your honesty is EVERYTHING. I heard you drop the swears and thought ohhhhh you're like legiiiiiit doing this, not just for the KZfaqs!! Love all of this and gosh, it's so inspiring to do this in my current season and not put it off. I've never been a minimalist, but this could definitely help me be more mindful about what I choose to bring into my life.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Just came back from Goodwill (for the FIFTH time in two weeks) and it makes me never want to shop again! So it's also good for my wallet LOL

@suec440 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for taking us on the journey with you. I appreciate your honesty. You didn't make it look like a quick, fun process like others have done. Hearing you say it was worth it makes me want to give it a go.

@user-zx8ri1we7j 2 ай бұрын

My parents every year had a pre-funeral give away. My sibs and I would come over for a cookout potluck. After dinner we would draw numbers from a bowl and could take from the pile when your number was Called. Ayer my dad died and mom went to independent living, it took two weekends to unload the house. So easy.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 2 ай бұрын

I love this!

@thecleaningteacher638 Жыл бұрын

Great video…and I loved your little helper. 🐶💗 So thankful that I found your channel.

@amycarr7045 Жыл бұрын

I’ve moved multiple times and try to do the cleaning out with each move. It is the stuff with memories attached that is the hardest. I also miss some of the things I’ve donated so thank you for saying that! Also rolling suitcases are perfect for moving books or other very heavy objects. I packed my daughter’s iron cookware in one rolling bag and it was great to roll into the truck and then out into the new kitchen. Thanks for being so real!

@dee43567 Жыл бұрын

Hi Jen, I recently found your channels and I’m so happy I did. I also want to get rid of things I don’t need and buy things intentionally to last that are of good quality. I’ve been decluttering the past with (also with Diet Coke breaks 😊) and it’s so freeing. Thanks for making great, relatable, enjoyable content ❤

@middlebunny Жыл бұрын

I love this. Thank you for this honest video!

@katelizh 6 ай бұрын

Such a great help...thank you for making this video

@michellelee5402 Жыл бұрын

I love your honesty about the process. I too get bogged down with the small “bits” . I love the picture of you in your pjs on the floor among the items from your nightstand!😂 Great job powering through to the finish!

@jamiechoi13 Жыл бұрын

I love your closet organizer system! You’ve inspired me to get into my closet and get rid of the things I’ve been avoiding dealing with.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Hurray!! I love that!

@susanfioravanti6331 Жыл бұрын

An excellent reminder to finish the book and reassess. Thank you!

@barbarakhan5275 Жыл бұрын

I am a bit like you. I like things to look nice and also stick the shit in drawers and bins rather than dealing with it. I truly love your channel. Everything speaks to me. So genuine!!

@nicolesmith4307 Жыл бұрын

I loved this video so much. You inspired me to start decluttering my own house. I love how real you are in all your videos so glad I found you ❤

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@epcatcenter Жыл бұрын

Whoever finds my Dr. Teeth loungefly is going to be LUCKY. Love this, Jen. It’s a friggin life long process.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Lol and YES IT IS. Good to hear from you, Liz!

@moecase5050 Жыл бұрын

This is helpful. I’m newly retired and I no longer have the excuse of not having time to clear out my things. I did just get the book. I really want to be organized and uncluttered!

@laureng4024 Жыл бұрын

Yessss it’s the little things that add up. A spool of thread and a sharpener aren’t a lot but I constantly put things like that in drawers will eventually become clutter. Thanks for the great video Jen!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

I mean we all do it, right? We're in a hurry and we just put some random thing (like a pen that doesn't work!) in a drawer to get it off a counter. UGH! Glad it's not just me!

@mluvskauai Жыл бұрын

This spoke to my heart today, Jen! I’ve been thinking the same things about intentionality in my home. I’m single (can’t blame much on my dogs), work from home, and just finished renovating this gorgeous old house but I feel unsettled. It’s the stuff! Thanks for being raw and real! Time to go clear out some shit! 😎

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

It’s really not about the stuff in and of itself is it? It’s a whole mental thing and tackling it has been so freeing for me!! Good luck!

@SharonAllan 3 ай бұрын

Just watched this video and loved it! This is exactly what I’m planning to do in my home and I’m going to read that book first. Thank you Jen, I love your video😊

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 3 ай бұрын

Oh I'm so glad! Yes, the book is a lovely and short read but there's a lot of depth there. I hope you enjoy the book and the process!

@maryellenstark9383 Жыл бұрын

I have so much to do and this video has inspired me to get started. Thank you for your honesty. I too hide stuff in baskets and bins because someday I might need it. I never want my things to be a burden for my children so it’s time to stop thinking about it and start doing. Great video!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

I love this! Happy to help!!

@amanda7638 Жыл бұрын

Loved the show and just ordered the book. Thank you for sharing your journey! Ever since having my kids I always try to keep up with the clutter because I don’t want it to get in the way of our relationships or leave it to when I’m older and it’s more built up!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

YES this exact thing. Beautifully stated.

@TheMagicInWonderland Жыл бұрын

Loved this video Jen! I did laugh a fair bit - but only because I relate to the frustration etc. We have just bought a house so, this is ideal. We have been here about 13+ years now and I am quite nervous about the amount of clutter I need to get through!! X

@dawnb3091 Жыл бұрын

Jen this was great for you to share with us. I enjoyed it and related to it and learned from it, if that eases the pain at all 😂 Your thumbnail is priceless by the way

@shelleynorthrop9276 Жыл бұрын

I feel like my closet/bedroom etc is in the same state as yours. Very big into shoving things out of sight so I feel better in the moment. This is very hard, time consuming work. Thank you for documenting this real process. Also, I had the final step of taking things to be recycled, donated, etc...

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

It's the part that takes the longest! I didn't document it but I also boxed some things up and sent them to friends. It's that last phase that always takes the longest!

@donnabaardsen5372 Жыл бұрын

Very interesting video, Jen. Yes, I lived in Atlanta, and know all about the heat. Watching your dog joining in while you were sorting, and asking for kisses just melted my heart. As always, such original, helpful information. My home is ready should I die. So my adult child has zero to worry about👍

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, Donna! He's a sweet pea for sure!

@annapower9799 Жыл бұрын

I love this video and the concepts you’ve shared. So many you tubers are doing minimalism videos and I applaud them for pairing down to one pan and one purse, but I think you’ve captured the essence here - what we keep is different for everyone. But what we keep must be useful and having meaning for us - if not, let it go! You’re the best Jenn!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, Anna!! Yes minimalism would feel very austere and not me.

@joannewilliams41 11 ай бұрын

Oh my word this is amazing thank you 🥰 when I lost my dad very suddenly 16 years ago, my sister and I had to sort out/empty our family home and it was a total emotional nightmare. My dad had lived in our family home for 32 years when he passed away (mum passed away when we were quite young) and didn’t clear out anything at all. It was so so painful to do it after losing him and actually we ended up rushing it and now I regret not keeping certain things. This has made me think about my own daughter and I don’t want her to have to go through the same thing. Like you I am in my middle years 😃but it’s great to think ahead and as you say, clear out things that we don’t use/need. Husband will take some convincing but as you say, I can’t force him. Thank you again Jen, you are the best 🥰🥰xxxx

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 11 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry that you had to go through all that but your story is so motivating! Thank you for watching and for your kind words!

@joannewilliams41 11 ай бұрын

@@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge just love ya 🥰🥰

@kimberlyferguson4460 Жыл бұрын

Haha😂 Same here, Jen! I had multiple blankets..so I decided to donate them. You've been an absolute inspiration to want me to do more decluttering.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

So glad to hear it!

@Chelle99 Жыл бұрын

Love it! Just randomly- local foster agencies love luggage donations bc otherwise, kids in foster care move their stuff in trash bags.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Yup!! Great idea!!

@cassielmeng780 17 күн бұрын

love your video style !!!!!

@carimccormack9931 11 ай бұрын

Loved your video!!! I felt the same way! I went through this process awhile back…..and to kinda keep it going on to really hone on things that I use and love (that I think I might love it, but not sure) I turned all the hangars backwards and when I do wear a piece, it goes back in the closet on the hangar forward on the rod. It’s been about 3 weeks, and it’s illuminating on how little I truly wear and love! If after 6 months I haven’t worn it and it’s not seasonal, in the donation pile it goes! Also a great exercise- I’m already learning more about myself and use of my things! Of course, I adjust the timeframe to one season for seasonal items…

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 11 ай бұрын

It is SUCH an enlightening process isn't it? And honestly I feel like it's a lifelong mindset (which I didn't understand when I started). Thanks for watching!!

@trishsp3160 Жыл бұрын

After both of my parents were gone, it was incredibly difficult for me to " get rid of" things of theirs that meant something to them, even if the item did not mean the same to me. Unfortunately, due to circumstances outside of my control, I had to make difficult and permanent decisions very quickly, and I still regret some of the decisions that I had to rush through. I hope that I will not leave my daughter in the same situation.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Trish that must have been really hard. And yet so motivating for me because same - I want them to be able to grieve my passing without the burden of having to sort through my things!

@jeanreppy3426 Жыл бұрын

I think we all have to realize this is a project...and to block time for it...I have started to and I've found I'm also buying less...win win...I think after I'm all done...going to be putting this on my quarterly schedule 😊

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Yes. It is absolutely time consuming work!

@de7095 10 ай бұрын

Great video, I hope people take this to heart. My mother recently moved on with me, thank heavens I had recently given away/thrown away most of my stuff because she brought a mountain of stuff with her. It's a mess ill have to go through when she passes away and in the meantime the house looks like a rummage sale.

@kaylaandmarkalan Жыл бұрын

So so good! We did a lot of purging before we moved and it was like a fresh of breath air. I wouldn’t go as far as saying we are minimalists, but I would consider us simplists. We definitely have gotten a lot better about buying stuff, but we too have our things that we love!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Simplists! Yes I love that!

@leslieben789 Жыл бұрын

It looks great! I recently did this to my linen closet where all our medications, cosmetics, etc are kept - and it's such a nice feeling to have the task done, and to know you're not leaving all these decisions for the many objects we have, for whomever gets to sort out our stuff when we're gone. Next I need to do my clothes closet!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Honestly, I've decluttered SO MANY TIMES but somehow it feels different this time around. Good luck to us both!

@leslieben789 Жыл бұрын

@@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Thank you!

@andrearuizdebustamante6550 Жыл бұрын

You hit so many points for me! It’s those little tiny things that get me and sometimes I just shove the last ones I don’t know what to do with because I don’t want to see them anymore!🤦🏻‍♀️. I need to do it! It will probably take me 6 months! 😂

@SH-vc4cl Жыл бұрын

Honestly? Sometimes watching you is like hearing my own internal voice. Cracks me up! Luv ya, Jen Lefforge! Thanks

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 11 ай бұрын

I’m honored!😂❤️😍

@jodyrightnow Жыл бұрын

I am soooo on this journey with you. I didn't buy the book but I watched the series. It really inspired me. AND my heritage IS Swedish! The best thing that has stopped me from buying "crap" is going through everything I have. You did a great job of documenting your process. I just had to do it.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

It's. Just. So. Tedious. Honestly were I not filming the video, I would have given up. So filming it would be a great call if for not other reason than to give you the courage to keep going! That's what it did for me, anyway.

@jodyrightnow Жыл бұрын

@@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge ahhh good point on the film motivation. I was just motivated period. But yes, there were parts where it was a lot harder, physically even, then I thought I could get through. But I just kept going. And I'm so glad I did :)

@irisandu2 Жыл бұрын

OMG...how did you know this is what I decided to do today. I borrowed the book from the library and was about to read and do. I'm in my 70's...lol so I better get on it. Thank you for sharing the mess. I also have a Goodwill pile. The Quiet Man is one of my top ten favorites. I also want MY things about me. I love watching the cuteness of the cottage her and John Wayne make for themselves. Thanks for that memory provoking smile.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

I need to rewatch the movie I love it so much!

@laurawood4476 6 ай бұрын

Love you and love this video !

@brucekirsch3760 3 ай бұрын

Primary closet is a more appropriate term. Thank you for your videos.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 3 ай бұрын

It 100% is and I’m trying to retrain my brain! Thank you!

@createdbykimi6380 11 ай бұрын

I so needed this today.

@TammySkipperTV Жыл бұрын

First, I love you ❤ Seriously, the authenticity and shared experience is what were all here for 👏 We helped an extended side of our family go through the final possessions of a family member who passed this year, so I've recently experienced that. Also, I spent many childhood years in a home where we routinely bought things we needed because there was so much stuff (never organized) that we knew we wouldn't find something missing. The adults were the worst offenders, not the kids. The peace I want when it comes to possessions is to truly know what is in a space as you described at the end. I can't wait to see the rest of this journey!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Thank you Tammy!! Yeah the next stop is the kitchen. Prayers and pixie dust appreciated.😬🥰

@lynnleipold2617 Жыл бұрын

That’s us! We sometimes buy a tool that we already have!

@sandrahand5338 Жыл бұрын

I get it…random shit. I have too much of that. So, you’ve inspired me to tackle a linen closet today!

@BecomingVT Жыл бұрын

One shoelace, I don’t know i might need one, 😂😂 you’re right the little things are the hardest part to get rid of and it takes for EVER!!! I’m such a fan of this Swedish death cleaning book. Well done my friend!!!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Thank you! This one took forever but I’m super happy with it

@style9313 Жыл бұрын

As per your ush, you’re honest and not repeating the usual: “I’ve never regretted anything I’ve gotten rid of…” So refreshing!🤩😁.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

I had the right idea but the WRONG heart behind it last time. I wasn't thinking about future generations or when I'm gone and that's made ALL the difference this time!

@chrystaltuckness5298 Жыл бұрын

Foster Care! Suitcases and totes may be used by local foster care organizations! These kids are often relocated with their things dumped into a garbage bag. Something in good condition would be such a blessing!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

So many great organizations! I always make sure my things go to the best possible homes and this is a great option.

@createdbykimi6380 11 ай бұрын

Hi Jen, I really appreciate this video.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 11 ай бұрын

I’m so glad! Thank you

@nicoleroberts7272 Жыл бұрын

I love the Quiet Man!!! Great movie! I look forward to getting this book.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

I need to rewatch it!

@virginiaanderson8875 Жыл бұрын

Im glad you showed the book of the person , who created the book and the phrase and who is actually Swedish -

@Benasboysandgirl Жыл бұрын

This looks so hard! I’m not going to pretend I’m ready yet. I’m the same. I have neatly contained drawers and bins of little clutter. Those things need a ruthless eye and lots of time which I don’t have right now. Enjoy the free breathing of a job well done!!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

And also don’t forget you could just do one bin. Like a month. And at the end of the year you’d have done 12 bins and it’s a start! Bite sized might be the right way forward for you right now.

@ginadisenchanted Жыл бұрын

Thank you for being so real and relatable! ❤ Even though we lead very different lives, somehow I always end up saying "Me, too!" at some point.

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

I love that so much!

@ginadisenchanted Жыл бұрын

💖🤗

@chrystaltuckness5298 Жыл бұрын

LOL good timing. Our cheap closet racks fell down, we installed more robust ones, and I took a break from evaluating every.single.item, to watch this video! Passing the donation bin and garbage bag with each trip!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Love it!!!

@juliehanson1175 10 ай бұрын

I "broke" a couple of closets myself. It was great motivation! It has taken a couple of weeks or so of decluttering and sorting, but I have gotten over the hurdles finally.

@lizwright8613 Жыл бұрын

"Here's an illustration of me doing that." I laughed out loud. I was thinking early on that this pairs so well with what you've talked about previously in regard to the inner work of this era of your life. It's a metaphor!

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Жыл бұрын

Liz you’re 100% correct. And honestly I wasn’t ready for this until now!

@robindaniels2987 10 ай бұрын

I just finished clearing out my late parents house. They were very organized. I’m not, so I’m trying to pare down and declutter so my kids won’t have to later😔💕

@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 10 ай бұрын

You got this!