The Cost of Love

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The Cost of Love

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Жыл бұрын

The plaintiff dated the defendant and claims he was aggressive, possessive, and controlling. When she tried to break up with him, he threatened her with a knife. Now she’s suing him for the cost of a car. The defendant admits that he made mistakes, but he insists he’s trying to turn his life around because he has a child with the plaintiff and wants to be in his life.

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@Malaan7 Жыл бұрын

They both need aftercare. This was an extremely delicate case. Mental health help is so important.

@Bossylady2752 Жыл бұрын

Agreed

@rose-Ze Жыл бұрын

I feel we need more mental health hospitals in care and out care treatment

@diamondlear8639 Жыл бұрын

I agree, Gevia is my cousin, and she has her own demons she’s fighting. I’m glad she’s away from him.

@jasoncunningham8061 Жыл бұрын

I strongly agree

@dawnmatthews6424 Жыл бұрын

No, she just need to stay away from him the abuser, when you use the term "both " you're either justifying or making excuses for his behavior or trivializing her experience, let's call a spade a spade.

@bridgetts4767 Жыл бұрын

I feel bad for both of them.. she’s scared and he’s suffering. I pray he gets the help he needs 🙏🏽

@Tamisha710 Жыл бұрын

Me too. I'm nearly in tears. I wish them both healing.

@jadeacampbell5206 Жыл бұрын

@@Tamisha710 facts. I did cry

@kirkmo1666 Жыл бұрын

Facts

@howdyyall4352 Жыл бұрын

This case brought tears to my eyes. The brother needs help for his mental health and I'm happy he's accepting it.

@m.waymire Жыл бұрын

I'm tearing up to. I feel for him and can identify with this young man because my brother has schizophrenia. I hope he takes advantage of it for his own sake. I was glad JM was patient and offered him help, that touch my heart as well. Makes me wonder what she was thinking about when she knew something was wrong with this man and she has children ..Lord!

@sippingnstyle3736 Жыл бұрын

My water works kicked in he seems like he is a good guy but mental illnesses kicks in and try’s to control a person prayers for both ends

@charleswindom3305 Жыл бұрын

I thought I was the only one

@ak24553 Жыл бұрын

She terrified of him. I pray she heals as well.

@livinmabestlife Жыл бұрын

Right. I am a therapist and I wish I could offer treatment

@jrenea87 Жыл бұрын

He’s talking fast because he’s anxious. He’s scared that he’s in front of a judge again having to explain himself and that he’s a new father. It does NOT justify anything he’s done to her. She needs to protect herself until he gets the help he needs.

@tjneverdefeated4394 Жыл бұрын

I’m sad for both of them

@shannaholmes833 Жыл бұрын

He’s scared because he don’t want Judge Mathis to go off on that *ss. He’s trying to own up to what he did to avoid JM wrath because he already knows. He needs to accept and seek all the help he can get.

@scottrogue946 Жыл бұрын

Honestly I think she should get full custody and leave him alone. He can’t possibly be reformed and be a good father. He is nuts 😳

@johnnyhughes5534 Жыл бұрын

@@shannaholmes833 and he doing it looks like he trying

@NubianP6 Жыл бұрын

@@scottrogue946 that’s a really sad, and cynical way to view mental illness. I definitely think that all of his visits with his child should be supervised, and I don’t think she should even think about getting back into a relationship with him at this time, and probably not ever, however, to just write him off because he suffers from bipolar disorder, which is very treatable, is unfair. There but for the grace of God, all the chemicals in *your* brain are balanced. Psychological disorders can often be traced to physiological disorders, i.e., chemical imbalances, and that is no fault of his own. I just pray that he gets the treatment that he needs.

@jaredhowze8305 Жыл бұрын

One thing abusers always have is a girlfriend, you don’t ever hear them complain about being lonely.

@njeriassata7541 Жыл бұрын

Wow! I never thought about that. You are right

@K_Cole0128 2 ай бұрын

Never.. and they keep a line up..

@tangelacarter6620 17 күн бұрын

Great, but sad point.

@kimberlysimon7927 17 күн бұрын

That’s bcuz most abusive ppl scope out ppl they know they can belittle or take advantage of

@jaredhowze8305 17 күн бұрын

@@kimberlysimon7927 I just don’t understand how they can get so many women attracted to them, like initially attracted to them

@josl1345 Жыл бұрын

I definitely hope he gets the help he needs. I'm glad he was open to Judge Mathis's assistance, and follows through on that. Hope she stays safe and strong for herself and her children.

@laurielambert7593 Жыл бұрын

Ditto!

@tefnut93 Жыл бұрын

I really pray he does, Hurt people hurt the people around them, brother almost made me cry he so broken

@jadeacampbell5206 Жыл бұрын

Me too. I actually feel for men like him

@ToOpen6seven Жыл бұрын

Amen and me too!!

@iarm0513 Жыл бұрын

She really took him to court to get him some help😢

@JMoKnow Жыл бұрын

When she said, "I have never met a man who caused me so much pain." Wheeeeeewww chile, that hit home. He seems troubled and needs help. I hope they can move forward in healing.

@brucenevils2154 Жыл бұрын

This case brought me back to my mom's second marriage and I cried. I still carry the scars to remind me So I understand this case a little too much.

@darrylperry9798 Жыл бұрын

@@brucenevils2154 Yeah I hear you man , some things stick down low in us forever until we see something similar to ours and it rises back up.... I'm riding with you man on it.

@brucenevils2154 Жыл бұрын

@@darrylperry9798 thanks for the kind words and understanding

@darrylperry9798 Жыл бұрын

@@brucenevils2154 Aw man no problem I understand what you mean.

@JMoKnow Жыл бұрын

@@brucenevils2154 I feel you! Trauma can affect you for the rest of your life.

@bajangenetics400 Жыл бұрын

I feel sorry for this woman! She seems genuinely sad and afraid. She needs therapy.

@honeycolored1809 Жыл бұрын

She dose not need therapy, as long as she learned from this she move on! Life lessons!

@5822huron Жыл бұрын

She will need therapy

@beverlyhall4578 Жыл бұрын

She also needs self defense class along with gun shooting classes and safety.

@DC45193 Жыл бұрын

@@honeycolored1809 ignorant has hell. Therapy to address her trauma, how cope with this crazy man due to child, self esteem, etc....but she black I guess she don't deserve that service to better herself.

@jackiewallace9231 Жыл бұрын

She chose this by choosing to have a baby by an unstable man.

@toyalasha5421 Жыл бұрын

I became a victim of domestic violence for years because I took my ex illness lightly. I thought I could help him. I almost got killed thinking I could change him. Thank God I made it out.

@generationalcursebreaker5397 Жыл бұрын

Same! I’m glad you made it out queen!

@blackbeauty1804 Жыл бұрын

Me too Toya, I thank GOD everyday. I sometimes beat myself up because I have a very poor choice in men. I sometimes feel bad for my daughters because I chose shit as a dad for them

@SamuelsReview Жыл бұрын

Life is a learning experience without a manual. As long as we're not repeating the same patterns, we're growing. Congratulations to you for making it through 😊

@Passion85031 Жыл бұрын

Same I thank god you made it out as well

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

@@SamuelsReview The OP on this thread is an example of how our ignorance and/or stigma can hurt us individually when dealing with someone who is mentally ill or being someone who is mentally ill. She was very fortunate to recognize that she did not have the tools to deal with phenomena.

@deniseroberson6081 Жыл бұрын

Aweee they got me ready to cry over here!!! I pray he gets the help he needs!! She spoke so beautifully as a woman and a mother I applaud her. I pray the best for their child

@teresaj.4103 Жыл бұрын

This is serious. Women are murdered every day by men just like him. I pray that this young lady and her child remain safe.

@blacktowken1232 Жыл бұрын

Both ways

@Tortilla.Reform Жыл бұрын

@@blacktowken1232 not equally though, not even close. Women are in much more danger from men than the other way around

@laurielambert7593 Жыл бұрын

Every hour. Hope they both heal.

@Bih1stOfAll Жыл бұрын

@@blacktowken1232 Here comes the "not just women" crowd 🙄

@simonjudahisrael9651 Жыл бұрын

Women need to do a better job of picking men. He says he's been damaged since 14 the signs that you shouldn’t lay down with him were there from the beginning

@monumentalmoments7757 Жыл бұрын

His growth has allowed him to be humbled, listen to sound advice and apply. Hope this is a new consistent pattern within him. He appears genuine. I want him to have an outstanding relationship with his child and IF his anxiety, irrational thinking, and high emotions come to a demise, in prayer they can all be a family again.

@evelyngonzalez6238 Жыл бұрын

Amen

@mskaydee18 Жыл бұрын

AMEN!! 🙏🏽

@ashsooofire919 Жыл бұрын

Amen

@kay22100 Жыл бұрын

That apology could be to try to get back with her later. Abusers are manipulative and even use tears

@opulence_prime Жыл бұрын

Yeah, I didn’t find it genuine either. He don’t know any other way to be.

@isaiahakaic6386 Жыл бұрын

I agree but he needs help. Sucks that people have these mental issues

@lancelaws6128 Жыл бұрын

She needs to focus on herself and her child, he needs to sort out his issues.

@TheBigOxUchia Жыл бұрын

No one know the heart. We can only think we do. I try to take people at their word, but that doesn't mean get back with them. I do believe he is asking for help with his disease and for her to forgive him. He sounds like he just wants to see his kid. I don't think he is healthy enough to do that right now, but hopefully he will get the help he needs.

@1010QUEEN7 Жыл бұрын

AMEN

@paulapitts7927 Жыл бұрын

She needs to stay away from him and be weary of him because he is unstable and dangerous

@scottrogue946 Жыл бұрын

What people don’t understand is you can’t love the hate out of somebody. I refuse to date anybody with these types of anger and mental health issues. Being single is so nice 😳😉😩🤦🏾‍♂️

@burgerbish Жыл бұрын

I wish I knew

@oodief88 Жыл бұрын

Exactly Scott! That's how people end up dead. Trying to love the anger out of a person who is unstable. I know that people can change, but I'm not the type to wait for the change.

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

Part of (if not most of) the reason people may think they can "love the hate out of someone" is the prevalence of stigma and ignorance surrounding mental illness. The brain is part of anatomy just like the heart, lungs, etc. Body parts are prone to illness.

@ariamarshall5161 Жыл бұрын

EXACTLY!!!!!!!!

@K_Cole0128 2 ай бұрын

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

@papalegbasson2447 Жыл бұрын

She has to let this man go. His issues seems deep rooted. I see manipulation and violence in his aura.

@blulicious2 Жыл бұрын

Right. His energy scares me.

@beb5407 Жыл бұрын

Read my aura Papa Legba's Son 👀

@scottrogue946 Жыл бұрын

I hate the fact she “spoke life” into him at the end. He held you captive m’am 😳

@generationalcursebreaker5397 Жыл бұрын

Right!!!!!!!!!!!!! If she go back she might not make it

@locafly Жыл бұрын

@@scottrogue946 Yeah, because you can't be positive when someone has been negative to you, right? Let's continue the negative cycle as opposed to being forgiving and doing better by yourself and asking the Lord to forgive. Yes, let's continue to hold onto the negativity so that it can take over our whole being. 🙄🤡

@kay22100 Жыл бұрын

He’s the kinda person we see on fatal attraction. I hope God helps him and it may be done through counseling and medication. He needs to remain single !!

@wadilotus Жыл бұрын

I'm surprised he doesn't have an extensive prison record, he seems unhinged.

@scottrogue946 Жыл бұрын

I think he should be locked up for life. You can see in his eyes there are no redeeming qualities

@heavyqueen9524 Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@CookingwithCj319 Жыл бұрын

The way he kept putting his finger at the corner of his eye. I was trying to figure out if he was catching a his tears or if it was a mental health sign idk.

@SamuelsReview Жыл бұрын

@@CookingwithCj319 😒

@opulence_prime Жыл бұрын

This is a fatal attraction. He has an emotional disorder and I understand it but JM advice is as good as it’s going to get. Supervised visits and getting this man into treatment.

@abmatos2522 Жыл бұрын

That’s the first thing that came to mind when he said “I was scared to give her space”.

@racheldent6138 Жыл бұрын

Run lady runj

@livingonpurpose23 Жыл бұрын

The ending was so touching. He needed her words of encouragement. She spoke life into him and the whole case you could tell he had a lot going on that he wanted to let out.

@JMoKnow Жыл бұрын

She sure did speak life into him as the Black Queen she is!!!!! Even though she was abused, she still manage to basically tell him, "King, FIX YOUR CROWN."

@erikarobinson3557 Жыл бұрын

Smfh y’all are so CLUELESS! When will y’all get that speaking life into these same bums that kill you every five hrs is useless! Wake the hell up BW! You wonder why you’re constantly losing in relationships! BW are the ones who aren’t married because they REFUSE to take themselves out of what is familiar! You don’t owe the BM no damn loyalty! Sheesh🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

@GemOfJade Жыл бұрын

And this is why black women will continue to be abused by these emotionally unstable men… because the community praises the women that continue to coddle them.

@Bih1stOfAll Жыл бұрын

@@GemOfJade Exactly I'm not condoning mammy behavior. He isn't a child and admitted he's had issues b4 her. It doesn't make her a queen that she stuck by him and put her life in jeopardy

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

@@Bih1stOfAll Our lives are put in jeopardy by people with various illnesses. Maybe even moreso by people who have mental illnesses, but don't recognize it.

@ShesFromVenus Жыл бұрын

I feel sad for them both. I hope they can get the help they need, I can tell he really does need support mentally & emotionally & he wants to try. 💛

@timothybanks2927 Жыл бұрын

Yes, this is sad to watch...I think they are both good people just need help and support. This is a classic example of a good hearted intelligent man who just has to put in that extra work. At least they were respectful to each other in court! Give him the support and he'll be just fine. GOD BLESS BOTH OF THEM.

@racheldent6138 Жыл бұрын

He need to be in a mental health ward he's a toxic abusive man

@ShesFromVenus Жыл бұрын

@@racheldent6138 You need to be quiet. This comment is toxic & abusive. Didn’t the man agree that he needs help? Who are you to put somebody in a “mental ward”? This is why people don’t talk about their mental health concerns openly. Bye.

@nayotomutuna8938 Жыл бұрын

She is so scared of him. I feel so bad for her and I hope she gets therapy

@valeedadavidson678 Жыл бұрын

HIM AS WELL

@kapripetit8633 Жыл бұрын

yes, but seen all the red flags and still end up having a child by him smh

@ncqueenbee9838 Жыл бұрын

@@kapripetit8633 this I will NEVER understand. A person's true character shows within the first 6 months to 1yr of a relationship. I hope these women realize that a baby will NOT change him. It will only tie you to him forever.

@MikaelaSimone Жыл бұрын

I agree with therapy but after she leaves the state. He is crazy.

@dark8prince201 Жыл бұрын

@@MikaelaSimone certified

@kedahals7520 Жыл бұрын

I actually believed him at the beginning of the case when he apologized, but I would still steer clear of him, even after he gets help. I pray he actually shows up for the Free help Judge Mathis has offered him.

@racheldent6138 Жыл бұрын

She need to stay away from him he's trouble and very dangerous run run run as fast as you can

@kedahals7520 Жыл бұрын

@@racheldent6138 so true 🏃🏾‍♀️

@naturalvirgolady6547 Жыл бұрын

I’m glad he’s getting the help he needs because I can tell he really needs it. I believe he wants to be a better person. We all should have that goal.

@kkhaze Жыл бұрын

STRAIGHT FACTS THOUGH 👌🏾💪🏾💯💯💯

@bigbecky1540 Жыл бұрын

I hope she gets her son & run for her life!!! 🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️

@ddavis8988 Жыл бұрын

"I'm not perfect." That's the 1st sentence in the "I ain't shit" handbook.

@lisavee4670 Жыл бұрын

🤓📙

@y_e_i8213 Жыл бұрын

🤪🤪🤪

@fjerome5958 Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@kkhaze Жыл бұрын

PREACH 🤦🏾‍♀️🤔👌🏾💪🏾💯💯💯

@np6765 5 ай бұрын

🎯

@gheath7636 Жыл бұрын

I love you Judge Mathis. This man is broken and you have given him a chance to heal

@hotfishfromsharktale Жыл бұрын

How she keeps her head down. I see myself when I was in an extremely abusive relationship in her. I wish the absolute best for her, and for her to stay away from him.

@hadjacherif5678 Жыл бұрын

I know he abused her but I can't help but feeling a lot of compassion for him. He just needs love, lots of it especially for himself. I pray they both heal.

@DC45193 Жыл бұрын

he needs medication....dude is bi polar

@bj7057 Жыл бұрын

Bipolar is no joke. I have sick people in my family. I'll never forget the day my brother almost strangled me to death. They won't take their meds after a while and become dangerous. In the end he gave up and chose suicide. Run Baby Girl, RUN! Please.

@indiagiselle447 Жыл бұрын

He needs to be locked away before he kills her or someone else

@Shonda-vj7qb Жыл бұрын

He’s about to make me cry. I believe he’s sincere he just needs the true help. 🙏🏾

@kkhaze Жыл бұрын

STRAIGHT FACTS THOUGH 🤞🏾💪🏾💯💯💯

@peacefaith560 Жыл бұрын

they both do

@lorylove492 14 күн бұрын

So it's fuck the abused woman I guess lmao

@Shonda-vj7qb 14 күн бұрын

@@lorylove492 oh no, not at all. She’s the obvious individual of concern. When it comes to the abusers some genuinely don’t care about what they did, don’t want help and ready and willing to do it again. This young man appears to desire the help and is apologetic, genuinely, not just for show. We care about both of them and their paths in life. We’re all human and make mistakes. The question is what are you going to do about correcting it?

@OneNationUniversal12 Жыл бұрын

He gave her hell, I can tell, and his only concern is getting back with her not his child, he needs the help asap..

@misterbee66 Жыл бұрын

Seriously.

@leggs4113 Жыл бұрын

My heart breaks for both of them. He needs meds and therapy. Sadly He shouldn’t be around his child at least not now. I appreciate his honesty and apology. This case made me cry.

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

Yes, I agree with you. Until he demonstrates verifiable signs of healing, neither she nor her child should be around him. Even then, she should proceed with caution.

@racheldent6138 Жыл бұрын

Not good for her to be around him

@jaznichole1566 Жыл бұрын

So you telling me She didn’t see him as a red flag 🚩 from day freaking One?!!! Cmon now… at some point you gotta know your worth !! Lord smh

@BreakingFreeNarcLove 14 күн бұрын

No they wear masks until they don’t

@Ischelliem Жыл бұрын

3rd. Sis make sure you get that retraining order and have family and friends with you all the time. Get supervise visits, Co parent and child support!!!

@audrelordhammercy612 Жыл бұрын

If the plaintiff ever happens to see this video and read the comments, I’m so glad you’re being supportive of this man but you need to protect yourself because this still doesn’t feel safe. You deserve real love. Real love doesn’t hurt. I hope he gets help.

@krystingrant6292 Жыл бұрын

Facts

@redshark1981 Жыл бұрын

He look crazy , my daughter couldnt bring him to me

@wadilotus Жыл бұрын

Right! I saw 'red flags' the minute i looked at him, not to mention when he opened his mouth.

@vmyers8040 Жыл бұрын

He needs help

@lisavee4670 Жыл бұрын

Exactly 💯

@gt4lifegt4life35 Жыл бұрын

He is crazy as hell

@generationalcursebreaker5397 Жыл бұрын

Don’t take him back . He is not sorry boo he’s a narcissist they are never sorry even if they say it!

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

He suffers from a mental health issue(s), but not necessarily narcissism. Please stop using that diagnosis as a catchall for every mental health issue.

@duffygh4638 Жыл бұрын

Notice how he was dodging the questions about his treatment.

@marcuspope6995 Жыл бұрын

She should definitely not take him back but at least he's seeking help she needs to monitor that child and stay protected

@K_Cole0128 2 ай бұрын

With tears and snot.. keep it pushing. And keep your child safe.

@EtotheKmmmK Жыл бұрын

This is a tough one to watch. I def felt this man's pain, appreciated his honesty and hope he gets the thorough help needed to be productive in both society and his children's life. I also hope the mother finds it within herself to continue to heal from the decisions that kept her attached to him and levels up from here on out ✨

@rickybobbydastar6534 Жыл бұрын

She shouldn’t have let a guy who Clearly shows sign of impulsiveness, bi polar & physical aggression, get her pregnant. But some of these women always think they can change and help A man . I hope both of them bounce back & dude gets help

@laurielambert7593 Жыл бұрын

Yes!!

@laurielambert7593 Жыл бұрын

@@rickybobbydastar6534 Agreed.

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

@@rickybobbydastar6534 She possibly is in this situation because of her emotional challenges. The issue is pervasive in this country.

@rickybobbydastar6534 Жыл бұрын

@@sereneamani1713 oh emotional challenges I like that . Another “term” for not thinking and no accountability for her own actions

@naturallymayah5047 Жыл бұрын

I was tickled when he asked if JM was going to pay for the treatment. I’m rooting for him to get the help he needs. Prayers for them both.

@justhereyeah1112 Жыл бұрын

Right!! “It cost a lot” that was sweet! That’s the number one reason why people don’t get help, med management and counseling takes so much you can’t just walk in and get what you need

@naturallymayah5047 Жыл бұрын

@@justhereyeah1112 so true!! It is not cheap by no means. It was sweet! Lol

@martientegelaers6522 Жыл бұрын

go home with your praers, ths people do need help

@oodief88 Жыл бұрын

It's amazing how all a person had to do is talk a good game and people automatically think they've changed. Leave these unstable people alone. Kudos if they actually do change, but don't sit around waiting for the change.

@m.waymire Жыл бұрын

There's no game in him he's sick and he can only say how he feels... She knows now to stay away from him until he gets his head together.

@LeauxNBehold 5 ай бұрын

I completely agree with you; I think the difference is that most people don’t interact with or work with people like this and so they don’t recognize it as a game. I’ve worked in populations with some of the same issues and you are absolutely right that it is a game. More often than not. It’s a lie from them and an attempt at manipulation. They’re not interested in being accountable, getting help, or doing better, they just want access to people. I don’t believe he’s sincere at all.

@nikkinic2269 Жыл бұрын

9:18 "Mental illness" is really a SPIRITUAL disturbance. This man needs GOD and healthy spiritual guidance. **I cast EVERY demonic, negative energy from the cells of his body and the tissues of his brain. God wrap your healing energy around around this man and make him SPIRITUALLY stable; thereby making him MENTALLY whole. **🙏🏽

@wildfiregirl1556 Жыл бұрын

In Jesus name Amen.

@romerobryan4648 Жыл бұрын

Awww my heart melted all throughout this segment. His honesty shattered my heart into pieces. And her body language and encouraging words for him at the end, made me lose it, to the point I cried real ass grown man tears haha. Funny but seriously, hoping he takes the help given by Judge Mathis. Episodes like this, makes me LOVE judge Mathis although e can sometimes be such a hot head 🫣🤣😅

@m.waymire Жыл бұрын

No shame in tears sweetie. JM actually gained some cool points on this one cause sometimes he can be a butt. 😉

@SupremeBytes Жыл бұрын

Thank you for being transparent and commenting, King. Glad to see men like you in the comments 💟

@kkhaze Жыл бұрын

STRAIGHT FACTS THOUGH 👌🏾💪🏾💯💯💯

@keysha3317 Жыл бұрын

I'm afraid for her🙏🏾I hope he gets help and there should ALWAYS be supervised visits perhaps even police escort.....smdh

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, it is at this point where what you suggest is needed.

@sherritrotter1156 Жыл бұрын

She was very descriptive and on point about everything....he knows he was WRONG!

@lexiesierra9673 Жыл бұрын

I had a EX with anxiety, codependency, and insecurities like this guy. But those were RED Flags for me. We broke up. NO KIDS TOGETHER either. Women & Men, You do not NEED to have children with a partner that has these type of issues. I say "need" because contraceptive have been around since the 1950's. So, no excuses! Every person needs to help themselves before they date anyone. Her story is one of too many..

@adagator33 Жыл бұрын

Amen

@libatalklieb5793 Жыл бұрын

Your advice is total rubbish. You should advise them to keep away from people like him.

@m.waymire Жыл бұрын

Yes one of too many , luckily she lived to tell it.

@wildfiregirl1556 Жыл бұрын

Thank God you didn't have a kid. Blessings.

@orihellcon Жыл бұрын

This falls on deaf ears.

@1MChantye Жыл бұрын

Great case and great outcome. If people were more loving and understanding this would be a beautiful thing.

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

SO TRUE!

@koyadora09 Жыл бұрын

Almost made me cry! I know so many men like him. They drink and do drugs to cope. I empathize with both parties. It’s a sad situation.

@nikkinic2269 Жыл бұрын

I like the way this ended. They both seem like good people. I'm praying for the HAPPIEST of times for them all.

@pookulj Жыл бұрын

This was one of my favorite episodes. I love to see the Judge recognize a issue and show compassion. I just knew he was going to light into him about the abuse.

@DiUnadulteratedTruth Жыл бұрын

This case was very emotional. She really tried with him, but he needs professional help. I hope he really accepts the help from Judge Mathis in order to better himself, so he can be there for his child. He doesn't know it, but he is not ready to be in a relationship with anyone, until he takes care of his mental health.

@ninadavis5517 Жыл бұрын

The problem I have with this case and hundreds like it is why do these young ladies rush to get pregnant before they really get to know who they're mixing their genes with. Love doesn't solve all problems.

@bonitathompson1640 5 ай бұрын

EXACTLY!!!!

@bresymone8761 Жыл бұрын

She needs therapy herself. Abuse and the kidnapping can forever be traumatizing. I know first hand. It took forever for me to regain my strength back after the abuse. It alters your entire mindset, for the worst!!! Please get help beautiful!

@ebonylaw9607 Жыл бұрын

Yes! Her body language when he was speaking to her at the end said A LOT!

@bresymone8761 Жыл бұрын

@@ebonylaw9607 it read all over her. She's still afraid of him and that's the scariest part. I say that because if he goes to her with the right words and sweet nothings, she'll go right back. And it'll be worse the next go around 🥺

@aurorapena5720 Жыл бұрын

Tears actually started coming out my eyes, these two are each such beautiful people . They both deserve so much healing and so much love and so much happiness. I’m so happy JM is going to help this young man.

@racquel2386 Жыл бұрын

I love this episode … Prayers to them both💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

@Mr.Boring_Man Жыл бұрын

She had a baby with this unstable man? With that being said, he needs to be in inpatient care and on meds, not dealing with the pressure of being a father.

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

True. She is also unstable and may need meds and outpatient care. Mental illness affects families and communities.

@Ange_D Жыл бұрын

When someone shows you who they are, believe it....No Excuses!!!

@anniet494 Жыл бұрын

NO SHE NEEDS TO LEAVE, he is manipulative this is not gonna change

@zortizfcc Жыл бұрын

The way he rolled his eyes when she was talking about a very traumatic experience that HE caused and then again when she saying that she hoped he got the help he deserved made me look at him sideways.

@SS-qr5pf Жыл бұрын

I hope she has learned her lesson while she’s young and doesn’t continue to date this type of man-child. I feel sorry for her because there is definitely something lacking in her self esteem to tolerate his behavior and she had a baby by him. She needs to ask herself why, she knew who he was before she had his child.

@shellmac1383 Жыл бұрын

My ex was sweet then crazy. Couldn't deal with the crazy anymore. I got out but with scars....

@sassarific Жыл бұрын

I hope if she ever dates he doesn’t come after her or the new man. The defendant seems super unstable. I wish mental health therapy was available for free or at much lower costs for people who really want & need the help.

@SamuelsReview Жыл бұрын

They have programs to help people, but they have to be referred by a school or social worker.

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

@@SamuelsReview There is self and family-referral. Even well-trained law enforcement officers, etc. I'm in California and can't speak for every state, but from my experience, it's true in many major cities in other areas.

@SamuelsReview Жыл бұрын

@@sereneamani1713 In California, a person can enter a facility for free counseling without being referred by a 3rd party? I'm in GA and they require a referral.

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

@@SamuelsReview Interesting. Thank you. I lived in GA for quite a while, but I was not in the mental health field at the time.

@blulicious2 Жыл бұрын

Lord...ladies please watch who you procreate with. Have some standards for your womb.

@MishasMama Жыл бұрын

Any advice for the men?

@johan01030709 Жыл бұрын

He talks too fast because he doesn’t digest anything when he’s being held accountable. He hears excuses and uses them. I’m thinking maybe schizophrenic

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

There is so much to diagnosing specific illnesses. What diagnostic source are you using as a reference?

@jiveturkeylee Жыл бұрын

I didn't hear him make any excuses and he seemed to digest everything that was happening but his anxiety flairs because of his emotions and insecurities

@shannonmcdaniel3507 Жыл бұрын

Yep

@Fourlittlefurpeople Жыл бұрын

He's a controlling narcissist, don't ever go back to this man, he is and looks crazy.

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

PLEASE stop throwing that diagnosis "narcissist" around". This man has other mental health conditions.

@wildfiregirl1556 Жыл бұрын

Facts.

Жыл бұрын

This is heartwrenching. I feel for her and she should protect herself, and I feel for him because you can hear the anxiety in his muffled fast speech. I pray for both of them and their mental health too

@thefemalecalculator Жыл бұрын

What a gorgeous lady inside & out. Prayers for them both & their child 🙏

@generationalcursebreaker5397 Жыл бұрын

He didn’t want to give her space!!!! Controlling!!!!!

@tosha0508 Жыл бұрын

Be thoughtful about who you have kids with....

@gt4lifegt4life35 Жыл бұрын

Who you got kids with

@tosha0508 Жыл бұрын

A KZfaq argument in the comments.... Nope

@dollhouseq1530 Жыл бұрын

He wants to see his child but left off the fact that he's been refusing to do that unless she's also involved with him. He still is very much manipulative and controlling...imo

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

Manipulative and controlling behavior is a major part of mental illness.

@m.waymire Жыл бұрын

People with Mental health issues sometimes are, wont change over night. With meds and counseling he will be fine.

@KeishaBeenReleased Жыл бұрын

Glad to see Judge Mathis is getting help for him so he can be successful and in his son's life

@ISayToMyself Жыл бұрын

This young lady has been through a whole lottttt. And she got to deal with this man for the next 25 years?!??😖😔

@Bih1stOfAll Жыл бұрын

25?? No ma'am

@kingmontague1926 Жыл бұрын

naa she gotta deal with this forever

@Bih1stOfAll Жыл бұрын

@@kingmontague1926 Hell no she don't. I myself am getting my kid AND myself a cake for when he turns 18 bc that means I'm free too!

@kingmontague1926 Жыл бұрын

@@Bih1stOfAll Regardless of how you feel these people will have to deal with each other for way more than eighteen years

@krystingrant6292 Жыл бұрын

25 uhh hell no more like 18

@antoniowhitaker7512 Жыл бұрын

This dude really needs help bad . I mean bad. His only motive is being with her not the child

@whoisdickieschnabel Жыл бұрын

This was oddly sweet and sincere. I hope for the best for both parties.

@msmaam912 Жыл бұрын

So much to unpack here.

@Indimulan Жыл бұрын

I can tell by how nervous she was when she saw him, she’s scared. Bless her and her child.

@72RiviRyda Жыл бұрын

It was hard to listen to the defendant talk.

@hateisforlosers6116 Жыл бұрын

This guy seems....aggressive...😟😟😟😟😟😟🙁 but theirs clearly something going on.

@SRT_DRE Жыл бұрын

Most dudes from the ghettos of Chicago are aggressive.

@beverlyhall4578 Жыл бұрын

How could a.d he not see his mental illness? He is decompensating.

@kiasams8715 Жыл бұрын

She should never ever go back to him but i do appreciate him acknowledging he needs help and wanting help. Because most blk men would never get help even knowing they need it.

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

Believe it or not,, mental illness affects men and women of all ethnicities.

@GoInternational2024 Жыл бұрын

I pray for her...healing & serenity. I pray the child is and grows up healthy mentally & emotionally. I pray for him..that gets help for his mental/emotional health issues & that he becomes a self sufficient human being & father. 🙏🏾

@enigmaticladypisces3169 Жыл бұрын

She cannot & should not fix him. I feel kinda sorry for him but I was abused and I don’t go around hurting others. God bless them both. 🙏🏾💖

@NA-8721 Жыл бұрын

So many troubled black men out there this truly makes me sad ..I hope he gets the help that it needs to become a better man and father for his child

@mesee8858 Жыл бұрын

It’s so many MEN out here! Not just black stop with that narrative! I know a tons of good black men. It’s the one you deal with is the problem…

@NA-8721 Жыл бұрын

@@mesee8858 please don't tell me how to state my " OPINION" I can only speak about the community that I come from ..we all know there are " so many men" have a blessed day

@enigmaticladypisces3169 Жыл бұрын

Facts

@misslee3700 Жыл бұрын

N A you are absolutely correct. My heart breaks for some of our blk boys. The way I've seen some "mothers" talk/treat their sons, almost like they're dog on the street, is heartbreaking. Fathers walking out on the family. No wonder why too many grow up damaged. Parents create these Frankensteins with their absence or destructive words, then when they become mentally unstable or destructive, we throw them away. I thank God for the many good parents out there, but these kids growing up in unstable, broken homes I worry about. Keep them in your prayers.

@NA-8721 Жыл бұрын

@@misslee3700 I absolutely agree with you it's very sad ! Parents need to do better and put the work in..words stick forever

@heavyqueen9524 Жыл бұрын

I’d be scared for him to have my child also. I 🙏🏽 the help helps!

@generationalcursebreaker5397 Жыл бұрын

You can’t help a man like that boo.

@patriciabrooks303 Жыл бұрын

She didn't know his behind was crazy through conversations. Women don't be desperate to be in a relationship; you may end up with someone like this person.

@m.waymire Жыл бұрын

JM ask her if she knew.. she knew.

@swagmostertv54 Жыл бұрын

Sad Mental health is real🥺🙏 Love Judge Mathis stepping up for this youngman.

@jillcabler2186 Жыл бұрын

He definitely Still got Som going on in his head Chi Coparent leave his behind Alone he ain't seeming to do or get no better he needs some serious help

@queenunitymovement Жыл бұрын

That's why self love 🖤is important it helps you know your worth and it AVOIDS you dating a the wrong people ijs

@iblaqgold Жыл бұрын

I had my son with a man like him. Great dude that struggled mentally. I chose not to put him on child support or opted not have him to be on his birth certificate for our own safety. I was able to stay in control of our lives and as he struggled with mental health I moved to a new state very early in my sons life. He would have to come to us to visit and even then he never knew our address but my son only has pleasant memories and I was able to keep arguments and erratic behavior at bay. Unfortunately he lost his life during the pandemic in an argument with his gf in front of their son. I pray this man gets the help he needs. I pray this mother continues to be the light she is.

@VANITYISFARE Жыл бұрын

Why have a baby with him ? 🙄

@Price8903 Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@Price8903 Жыл бұрын

Why even let that man near your body..?

@steezy7460 Жыл бұрын

Good D

@enigmaticladypisces3169 Жыл бұрын

😢💔💔

@wildfiregirl1556 Жыл бұрын

Too late now. They can only move forward blessings.

@CookingwithCj319 Жыл бұрын

He knew he had these issues and yet he pursued her with an intention to control, abuse and trap her smh. There are a lot of men & women who behave in this manner. That's scary. Hope he get the help he needs and better himself mentally for his child. I love that he is determined to make a change for his child. It's sad when society doesn't take mental health serious until that person kill someone or kills themselves.

@TruestLovely Жыл бұрын

That was my thought. He intentionally pursued her to abuse her. The audacity. F speaking life into him. She needs to stay away from him. He's not broken he's a breaker. I could see all of his manipulation. Saying she taught him. She isn't his d@mn mother. I really hope she is not gullible enough to fall for his pathetic attempt to manipulate her.

@adennis2529 Жыл бұрын

This was so emotional to watch. Prayers sent up for them both. 🙏🏿❤️

@crystabellecampbell5895 Жыл бұрын

This is definitely what i'm dealing with. Met my last ex on social media he moved in due to me being traumatized from a robbery 2months of meeting him. Early March I told him he needs to go home. He started beating me stole money from me months. I was extremely afraid of him. Was so much to deal with. Stole my phone daughter tablet my laptop omg ive never been through so much pain before. Not knowing he's a bandit thought he loved me now im having nightmares cuz the last encountered he choked me robbed me too much. Hope 1 day my daughter an I heal from this

@lisavee4670 Жыл бұрын

Wow, he wouldn't got my real name let alone some kitty😒🙄🤮

@shauwn11 Жыл бұрын

The lady in the audience has lost weight. She looks good.

@fredamiller79 Жыл бұрын

Lord have Mercy on the both of them and their son. Let him get the help he needs!!

@gogokris85 Жыл бұрын

I honestly wouldn’t be with someone that ain’t got himself together or his mind straight. He’s acting odd and off. Furthermore I wouldn’t want him around my kid and he’s acting like that even if he’s trying to do and get help to be better. He put his hands on me, pulled a knife on me, and held me hostage and took my car. No no no.

@freegame1k Жыл бұрын

She definitely wears her vulnerability & till she can hide that , she is definitely gonna keep getting gaslighted by him . Bless her heart. Women need male GENUINE FRIENDS like I do & a brother who teaches me what to look for .

@sereneamani1713 Жыл бұрын

Is your brother a psychiatrist, psychologist or psychotherapist? This goes beyond just being a bad boyfriend.

@freegame1k Жыл бұрын

@@sereneamani1713 does he have to be one of the two to give advice ??? Y'all people like to argue about anything 🤦🏽‍♀️😩

@lelethaman23 Жыл бұрын

THANK YOU JUDGE

@kelvinrepentivehawk 4 ай бұрын

These two young people were the best example of love, understanding and communication I’ve ever witnessed! She is God sent. And I can’t wait to see this young man become great. Because he will!

@deshonebonyrowland-ward4552 Жыл бұрын

She's very nice you can tell... Good energy.... He's got issues but he owns up to them and that is the first step.... I pray if nothing else healing takes place so their child can come first and he can become the father he does deserve to be..