Postpartum depression is no joke. You legitimately check out and at times can become repulsed by your own child. Some say "how on earth is that possible" but it is. You eventually come around, but it takes hard work and understanding that you're evolving, not disappearing. Sounds unbelievable, but absolutely true. Keep fighting, mommies out there.

No judge forgiveness doesn’t mean you allow toxic people into your life.

Idk about that advice. Forgiveness doesn't have to involve inviting toxic people back into your life. Being related is no excuse to treat people terribly.

That was awesome how step dad validated her feelings and genuinely apologized for his wrong doing !

I hate how ppl tell others how to deal with trauma , it’s good to forgive but you are not obligated to continue a relationship with the person that caused your trauma just because they’re family smh I’ve cut off my own parent and my life has been so peaceful ever since . Do what is best for you , don’t let someone convince you to force a relationship with someone your not happy around.

I disagree with the judge. U can’t keep inviting toxic into ur life no matter who it is. Who wants to go back n forth with the same issues over and over. Either ppl want to change or not. Move on!!

Thats horrible advice. If someone is continuously abusing your relationship, character, feelings, cut them off and dont look back. Family, friends, whomever.

She’s protecting herself by keeping her distance which is smart Judge 🙄! Until this lady is able to heal in her heart and forgive her mom from her heart then she can come around her mom!! I just shake my head at Judge a lot theses days 🤦🏾‍♀️

He keeps calling Valerie “MY daughter” and it’s tearing her apart

I wonder if he actually see's her as his daughter. He keeps saying MY daughter with emphasis when he refers to his bio child.

I’ve never cried so much watching a case.... this case made me realize that I have the best parents ever, and they have truly been there for me...

This was a beautiful case. Just happy to see two people mend a bridge regardless of what happened in the past. Love conquers all

Mathis sometimes protecting yourself is separating yourself. I don't blame that lady, you can't allow toxic relationships to occur because it's a family member. Set boundaries!

Not all 'Mothers' are loving and nurturing. I couldn't imagine what she went thru in foster care. There's nothing casual or light about being abandoned by a birth parent...Forgiveness doesn't magically erase the trauma. either.

Yes, he wasn't her biological father however, he was the only father she knew, she loved and trusted him (he accepted the role), and he end up breaking her heart. Everybody failed her, her biodad, her mother and him, he probably did it unintentionally.

That apology was for her not for her father, I felt the authenticity, love, and passion. I also felt hurt being let go, and weirdly enough I was doing the same. I love that she did that, because while she was apologizing, she was also forgiving ❤️

The fact he keeps saying “my daughter “ referring to her sister is so sad. He doesn’t understand her hurt. He is the only father she knows yet he won’t take accountability that he hurt her by abandoning her.

You can see the hurt looking at her smh.

My dad was very toxic. I was one of these people who tries to make it work and build a relationship, and it broke me based off people telling me to forgive and give him another chance. I cut him out my life and it's been the best decision I ever made sometimes your peace of mind is worth more than a relationship with family remembers

Judge M sometimes annoys me with how he minimizes peoples traumas. Him laughing when she said that her mother has never admitted to her addiction annoyed me. It’s not funny and sometimes not owning what you’ve done and how your actions have wrong someone can be really harmful. Her mother NEEDS to acknowledge what she has done in order for them to move on. Period Judge M you ain’t no psychotherapist … counselor… psychologist or psychiatrist so please please stop. This advice you be giving AINT IT

He didn't see her as his biological daughter because if she was his biological daughter he would have bent over forward backwards and sideways

I don’t care if you gave birth to me if you treat me badly I don’t want a relationship with you

Glad to hear stepdad was the best dad and they seem to be a beautiful family despite the low points but I’m glad to see he picked himself back up.

Just because someone is your blood relative does not mean you have to keep giving them chance after chance to hurt you. Step away and design your life peacefully if they cross your boundaries you have every right to stay away from them.

This young lady is so full of grace, she is poised and has forgiven with true respect and balanced equanimity for the good her dad has done, despite the failings. I hope that every good blessing follows the lives of the young lady dad and redemption and wellness for her mom also. God bless.

BUTTTTTTT some people including PARENTS can be so toxic that even after forgiveness they still don't DESERVE access to you 😒 her mom is in denial and is still very toxic obviously so for the daughter to protect her own peace and sanity and mental health she should in fact make peace with NOT HAVING HER MOM in her life until mom decides to get help with her own demons !

It's ok to cut toxic people from your life. Related or not.

“I realize she wasn’t going to quit. So I just joined her” after speaking of seeing her turn to another person, neglecting the children, and it scaring him. Never seen an Asian as a drug addict. Especially meth.

sad part about this is that he never considered her oneof his. Even now he says “my daughter” instead of “daughters” and “the other kids” meanwhile she keeps saying he’s a good father ,grandfather and how thankful she is. Also,she also calls him “dad” …he doesn’t even speak about her like she is his.I hope she gets a lot of healing and love

Its sad he had the mindset of can't beat em then join em. But I'm glad he ultimately got clean though🙌

JM advice is toxic as hell. There is no wrong with loving from a distance if she is more harmful. Staying in a draining relationship is tiring mentally and physically 17 years is a long time of torment. Her mom needs to take accountability and get help. Then maybe mending the relationship and coming together can happen

After all the crap she’s been through it’s no way I would’ve sued her .. I would have considered that money a gift for her and her daughter

Those repeated "MY daughter" comments are extremely Cringe.

I really appreciate this case, love and respect was demonstrated 💕🙏🌻

JM whattttt going to Forster care and you parent can’t admit to their wrongs isn’t a laughing matter. It’s hurt there!!!

I am so happy to see she forgive her dad and happy he was able to rehabilitate himself off of drugs. Also, I don't know why Judge Mathis think it is healthy for her to continue a relationship with her mother. Her mother was probably given an ultimatum and she keeps going to prison and on drugs. Her mother could have possible steal from her, violent with her, lie on her or keeps unsavory characters to her. You DONT have to have a relationship with your parents.

Some family relationships cannot be repaired and Forgiveness comes from the heart💔

“My daughter” that’s kinda fucked up. She referred to him as dad and he couldn’t say “when I got her sister”.

Her blaming her father and not the mother for choosing bad friends and partners is so textbook. Her mom literally still isn’t in a good place and here she is saying she is this or that because she needed her father. That’s kinda messed up

Some people aren't strong enough to constantly put up with abuse that comes from someone who is supposed to love you more than life.

Interesting how JM is being so nonchalant with his success with beating drug addiction, but praises certain others.

That double standard. So when they deny doing drugs in Judge Mathis face they all kinds of crackheads, but when her mother denied doing drugs to the daughter then it's something to laugh about. So she shouldn't disconnect herself from her mother. Sounds double standard to me....lol

Involving a drug addict a person into your world is difficult but it’s more difficult when they are your parents. I can completely relate to her point decisions of not wanting to involve herself with her mother. Totally different and more complex than a family member who struggles with drug abuse

Terrible advice some people need to get cut off

Definitely know how it feels to want your daddy. At any age. I miss mine, wish he had been making better choices so we could’ve been closer.

I am in tears from Judge Mathis message, when you do wrong by me, Ima love you from a far. Don't cut them off- deal with them with a long handle spoon- Forgive and Laugh!!!

No jm you're not obligated to deal with people just because their family or have been your friend for a long time. You matter your peace matter. CUT THEM OFF!!

The first thing that guy said was that's my STEPDAUGHTER.. the girl never acknowledged him as her stepfather she said this is my father.. he also said wanted his own child that's when the mom got pregnant..he also knew she was in Foster care

I like Judge Mathis how are u going tell her to continue a relationship with her mother...U didn't extend that relationship with ur dad 🤷🏽‍♀️🤔

I agree with what judge did. He had a mother and misses his mother . He doesn’t want anyone else to miss time that they could have spent with positive memories

JM got me Rollin,Where you go The dog house? JM done made my day

She explain her hurt real well. I felt that

I disagree. Make boundaries, love yourself get out and NEVER look back. Therapy and meditation changed my life . Toxic people fell away as quality, peaceful, GROUNDED people seemed to come into my life naturally. I’m still amazed by it and it has been two & a half decades since I was twisted by David. Absolutely profound, I never looked back . THANK GOD.

Lol JM didn’t forgive his father. 👀 look who’s talking. I love him tho.

I don’t appreciate how he keeps saying “My” daughter while referring to the other daughter. You can tell he definitely differentiate the 2

I love this show, I have been learning so much about the law.

I was wondering why she kept saying she forgave him. Now I see why he let her go into FC and didn’t even try to look or get her out. It’s the betrayal you been playing daddy since one. But when the chips are down you run and don’t look back.

Judge Mathis is such a smart man, but sometimes he says some ridiculous stuff. To tell a person to continue a cycle of being abused in some way just because it’s someone they are familiar with is insane. She’s doing the right thing by walking away and not allowing them to continue abusive behavior.

Everything isn’t forgivable. Be a court judge… ur therapy advice is horrible.

Excellent advice on dealing with family who are struggling with addiction.

Wow, I personally needed to hear this. I had a best friend of over 20 years that drained me mentally,emotionally & financially. I finally got fed up & blocked her cold turkey. She’s shocked that I cut her off, to the point where she involved my son in the matter. To this day, I still don’t want to speak with her however judge Mathis said, I need to leave to love from a distance. I like what he explained on loving near & far. I wish I could have the courage to unblock her, I’m still hurt.

Judge Mathis is a real talkative judge! Lol!

God bless this family, I get it, blessings to this beautiful young lady

I like how Judge Mathis took his time with this case ❤

I like the speech JM gave to her about forgiving her Mom. However, on many occasions when he has spoken of his Dad it doesn't seem like he ever forgave him for abandoning him. IJS

Forgiveness is hard for me and I know it’s something I need to work on.

Thank you, Judge Mathis!! You preaching about forgiveness is everything!! 'Family sucks, friends suck. .let's move on!!' LOL. Cope. I love supporting this channel! God bless Judge Mathis!!

I wish JM would let these people talk. We hear his story every single case. It’s annoying, and that’s toxic. She doesn’t have to deal with her. She isn’t here for his advice . It’s a lawsuit. Second, he talks too much. Allow the people to tell their story. Instead of trying to tell them how to deal w the toxic people in their life. Just because you deal with toxic people doesn’t mean she has to. That’s trauma that can be avoided.

He’s a good man with a bad past .. Glad she forgives… we’re just passing threw here .. Forgiveness has to be our portion!! 🙏🏽♥️

He didn't love her..he loved his daughter because he could have taken both of them with him .love is not just words.

Wow I can’t believe he’s suing and so soon. This is his child and after he did what he did causing her the horrible childhood events that were horrible! Wow not cool

Awww I feel sorry for her 😞 I know she's not biologically his but he still accepted responsibility of her by marrying her mom. I feel like becuz she wasn't biologically his, he didn't try finding her and didn't care enough to keep in contact with her to know her exact whereabouts when she was adopted. At least he apologized tho for it while her mom is still in denial. I wouldn't advise her to keep in communication with her mom when she doesn't want to take any ownership of her wrong doings tho like JM did. Shouldn't let ppl continue to hurt you no matter who they are

I believe sometimes you have to separate yourself from people to heal and get better yourself. Hard 2 forgive when they keep beating u down. That advice of JM may not b the healthest for everyone

This so-called dad is a real piece of work! I’m truly disgusted at his diction. His constant utterance of my daughter vs the defendant is why women should always be extremely discerning in whom we allow to share our DNA with. For all intensive purposes, the defendant probably respects him more than he ever will. From his perspective, she was always a step daughter ☹️☹️☹️

Smh he's sorry!

This episode made me cry.

Forgiveness is the biggest load of bullshit people continue to preach over and over. You won't be afforded the opportunity to continue to damage me. I'll deal with whatever I have to deal with emotionally, forget you exist, and move on with life.

He lend that girl 3000 is yall keep talking about him calling HIS DAUGHTER HIS DAUGHTER he clearly cares about the girl In if he doesn't want to call her daughter he does not have to because guess what that is not his damn daughter!!!

It’s hard to forgive your parents because they should do better…

Mathis, please stop trying to play therapist. Many counselors tell many to disconnect completely. NEVER RUN BACK TO WHAT HURTS YOU WHEN IT TEARS YOU DOWN.

Both my parents abandoned me at 5 months and live in the same city as me. I will never reach out to a parent that abandoned me, I’m the prize that was given to them. I wish a mf would tell me “that’s still your parent” NO TF IT AINT.

Wow.. shes gorgeous... love her eyes and smile....

Something is not adding up for me. If they've been hanging out on Super Bowl weekend and they are in each other's lives, why didn't he know that she was putting in Foster care?

Judge is wrong again about dealing with people who have caused you trauma. You do not under any circumstance have to keep folks around.

Judge mathis acts like forgiving a friend for a silly reason is equivalent to forgiving being abandoned.

It’s him repeatedly saying, “my daughter,” while referring to his biological daughter while she there calling him dad 😢

Lawd she's making me cry

I guess the plaintiff took the phrase "if you can't beat em join em" literally

Forgiveness does not require reconciliation...if someone is to toxic to be in ur life...no matter who it is cut them off...ur health ... peace and sanity comes first!....now do forgive them but DNT feel obligated to put up with them PERIOD!!!!..for the judge to tell tht is basically saying put ur sanity at jeopardy just because there a "loved one"

I hate the judges advice to the young woman! How do you tell her to negate her feelings of being abandoned and uncared for to except her mothers decision to remain as she is. Am I saying throw away her mother, absolutely not but I am saying protect your peace!! You can forgive and not force a relationship that causes you more harm than good. Forgiveness is not acceptance of foolishness, it’s freedom from the foolishness that was done to you by that person.

Hold yo MOMMA accountable! FORGIVE yo MOMMA! This mans is a STEP father! He owes you NOTHING! He also had no LEGAL RIGHT to you!

Wish he wouldn't consistently give bad advice... you cut toxic ppl off until they accept they have a problem and are ready for help

JM always jumps to the conclusion that the guys the bad guy. “So you moved into to a high rise and left them to this” “you didn’t come over”. The whole while he wasn’t allowed.

Judge Mathis I have relationships like this. I can relate all too well. Very insightful to hear you speak on it in this way.

DK about his life advice. Do what's best for you. If that means limiting or cutting someone out of your life sometimes that's what you have to do for your own sake.

What an inspiring episode Judge Mathis makes it so obvious why he received an Emmy He hilarious ,yet he makes so much sense . I appreciate him saying to handle your horrible family members with a long hand,e spoon , forgive and block them. I love this father and daughter and the way he steps forward and admits his wrongs

17 minutes in and the case finally begins.

People closest to you should be good about not being hateful enough to warrant never being forgiven.

Sometimes you gotta block them LOL

JM can't tell people what to do but I also get what he's saying. In my life I've found that neither being naive nor cutting people out of my life usually works. Some people I just gotta learn the right way to deal with them and make the right space for myself so they don't hurt me again. You could say I should just cut them out, but then I'd have no friends or family. Life isn't always easy or fair, but if you can laugh and stay above the BS you'll be better off regardless of what you choose to do.