It's like a spiritual awaking for me I've lived most of my life on autopilot what a shift in my thinking julia is a gem.

Not kidding, every one of your videos comes at the exact moment I need to hear what you’re talking about.

I absolutely had to listen to this message several times. I have to keep reminding myself the way others treat me isn’t a reflection of me but rather of them. And you’re right it’s hard because we are humans and we seem to take things to heart and it doesn’t make it any better when we’re struggling with learning how to love and trust ourselves(It actually makes it a little worse) I really needed to hear this message such a great message thank you again for continuing to share these GREAT MESSAGES with us. It’s so greatly appreciate it. Thank you🙏🏾

Your message is pure empowerment in the context of emotional maturity. I truly appreciate your vibe/ simple yet complex subjects/ the black and white presentation aesthetics/ the soothing voice. Invaluable❤️

Collaborative over competitive mindset has been one of the most transformative for me.

One of the four agreements is "Don't take anything personally." I was reminded of it. Also I have positive thoughts about Julia Kristina. I could share them but I'm not convinced she's dependent on hearing them.

-People are not reacting to you, they are reacting to them/ their thoughts about you -See things you do/ wanna try/ goals as experiment, sth. you want to experience (you re going to win or learn) - be there to catch yourself when you fall IT's not the outcome that we are afraid of but what we make the outcome mean about us -We don't fear what others think of us but what we make it mean and think about ourselves (what we think they could think about us=our own insecurities) -most events are neutral, we react to the meaning we give to them (what do I makf this Situation mean?)

I dont stop watching your video. Audio always perfect.

People are reacting to their thoughts about us Experiences are neutral but we react to what we make it mean about us. See things as experiments. We’re not afraid of the outcome but what we’re going to make it mean something about us. We don’t fear what people think about us, we fear what we’re going to make it mean. We worry about what people might think about us because we think of ourselves that way and it’s a sensitive topic. We need to change how we think about ourselves ❤

You brought back to my memory of something I once read…….often times the way people treat you is more of a reflection of how they feel about themselves than they do about you. 👍

Yes it's true that we have our own expectations of a given outcome....but it's when other people give me expectations of an event, and they fail, it's on them, but it screwed up me too.

Managing our minds is definitely a game changer for me. I could show a picture of a forest here in British Columbia to 2 people. Person A would think about how beautiful the land is and considered going on a hike. Person B thinks it would be a great spot to start a logging business. Are these 2 thoughts wrong? Nope. It is a neutral event but we make drama out of it in our minds and we lash out, backed up by how we see the world and how the world should run. I feel that emotions run high in politics but we create theses emotions in our mindset. So great to hear from you again!

Thank you for this video which supports and reinforces the things I'm working on in the Shift Society!! For anyone who is on the fence about joining the Shift Society, let me tell you that it's SO worth it!!! 👍😁

I would never be with someone who’s telling me what time to come home. I’m not a child!

Thank you. The messages are so nice and concise. Perfect. Thank you for helping so many of us lost or misunderstood children. I greatly appreciate the light you shine in the fog. Blessings to you Christina!!!

I don't know why but I like you I like the way you talk your energy your soul everything about you. Goodluck and wish you best of the best.

PROBLEMS ARE CREATED IN OUR MINDS. SO true!!!! Your videos are always relatable. Always. I found you a long time ago through YT4B and you're an inspiration. Mindset is everything and my turn around was my burnout, the BEST that ever happened to me. I began being AWARE of my thoughts, then learned the power of my thoughts and now I manifested my dream life. Everyone can do it and it all starts with awareness, which you mention so often too. Thank you

This is saving me so much money. I listen to them, and ask the questions to my self and journal these. THANK YOU!

I try not to be snappy and rude with my mother, but she’s a perfectionist Julia.

Julia kristina at her best. Thank you for this film. It feels like julia kristina knows me personally, can see all my flaws , and might help me fix it.

I really needed to know peoples' behavior is not about me but it's their reaction toward me. I deal with passive aggressive people alot and I couldn't understand it until now. Thanks

People also project their unhealed traumas on to others.

I have not finished the video, only a minute and 44 in actually, but I just wanted to share that today I relapsed. I have been... circumventing my issues lately even though I always tell my kids and wife to push through, not get past them. I need all the shifts I can get. Thanks in advance for what you do.

Our experiences as well as our environment play a key role in how we interpret things - especially our thoughts and/or words that others say to us. There's way too much self-loathe in this world when there should be more self-love. This is a great video and such good advice!

I think I you’re right, I want to watch this one like once a week. So they’re not reacting to us they’re reacting to their thoughts about us. And we aren’t reacting to fundamental truths about us, we’re reacting to what we think they think about us and what what they think means about us.. phew! It’s all just so convoluted, do we even like this person at all? lol

Don't take things personally. I have been struggling with this lesson for more than a decade, and this reminder is synchronously timed for me, because I've been beating myself up for stuff going on in my life now. Thank you

I am currently reading your Book and it has been really helping me to see that I am not who others think I am- and the issues I am having relate to reacting to my perceptions of what others are doing in relation to their thoughts - so, it matters what I think of me- and what I need to do in order for me to be able to neutralize this cycle.

If you react to circumstances then you are giving away your internal power - you aren't living through your internal locus of control. I subscribe to Neville Goddard's 'everyone is yourSELF pushed out' In other words, everyone's (percieved) behaviour towards you is a reflection of your concept of yourself.

Julia, *high five* and thank you as usual 💖

I am new. I love your videos and they are truly helping me to dig deeper. And empower me to be the best I can be. Sating the boudies with my kids and others.

Love this. An absolute game changer for me and my relationship with my husband ♡♡

Failure is painful not just because of the meaning you attach to the result but the time, effort, resources and sacrifices you invest in that particular project.

🤯🤯. Wow. That was intense. I am definitely going to have to watch this again. But from what I grasped, it seems to make sense. What holds me back is not a fear of failure but I hear my mom’s voice and other voices from my childhood criticizing me. So I end up not doing . Not that I actually hear the voices. I should clarify. But it just triggers these moments from my youth when I was criticized. If that makes sense. One of these days I will overcome!! Thanks so much.

My brain resists this so much. It just tells me, "well, if you think you suck AND they think I suck, then I must suck." 😢

The best counseling videos on KZfaq!

I love and hate (😂🙈🙈)your videos at the same time because there’s so much truth in them and invoke a need to change and grow!! Thank you Julia!!!! Xx

Thanks for the advise. I hardly comment on KZfaq videos but yours. Appreciate your insight and advise again

Wow, you put it in a way that it resonated with so many of us , thank you Julia ❤

Valuable information always so empowering to listen to U . Thnx U ♥️

Day one under your mentor an I'm impressed. Il stay under your podcast mentorship

Once again I have learned a lot 😃 I needed this so badly because I am always lost in what others are saying 😂. Now I feel I can work on this right now. TY again and again.

I have seen a few films of Kati morton. I am back here. Julia kristina is much deeper, knowledgeable, professional, cuter, nicer TO ME.

Julia…. I genuinely appreciate you and your work!!! ❤️

My thoughts on you are that you are amazing. Thank you for your help and insight.

Your video popped up in my KZfaq feed at just the right time. I ended a two+ year new friendship with a gal I liked and had fun with. I knew she was “ fragile” and I always took a lot of care to be kind, compassionate, and supportive. Unfortunately- she viewed a comment I made as “unforgivable” simply because I disagreed. I tried to move past this hoping she would too but apparently not. So I made the decision on my side that I was not a good friend fit for her. I do have enough confidence in myself and like myself to know it is not my issue - and your video explained it even better. I do feel sad though; it has been a tough week for me but I know time will improve that. I’m newly retired and want to enjoy this time of life; it’s the right decision to eliminate people who bring too much drama and are too needy.

I think the world of you, to NO Ends and No Matter What!!

Wow!! Check, check, check... A game-changer for me. Know thyself.

JK you are fabulous. After a 29 year marriage I now find myself alone in my thoughts, but your channel challenges me and puts them in the right perspective. As we say here in Australia, you are such a good egg! Thank you

I think you’re a very intelligent young woman Julia.

A wonderful talk. I'm understanding more about the mechanics of self-esteem and feeling freer than ever before. Thank you.

thank you!

Awesome content! Clear communication is key in mitigating a lot of these issues.

I discovered your content thru my wife. So, glad I finally listened lol. This is the first video of yours I've watched and 🤯🤯🤯! It's like I felt it was going to be amazing and subscribed and liked the video only 10 seconds in. All I can say is THANK YOU!

I am feeling extremely seen rn and I don't know how to handle that. 😂😅 Yet again your video comes out precisely when I need the message in it. ❤

Much gratitude Julia 🙏This is a great topic 🙂Listening to u now. I hope you have a lovely day 💗 Iyvonne Heisner 😎

Hi Julia. I have been using your videos in team leadership discussions. It’s incredible how well they apply in leadership. People (including myself) try to be an effective leader while still.dragging around this kind of baggage. It’s been very effective and lead to great discussions and change. Thank you 🙏

So grateful for your KZfaq content and book!

Crows and Ravens are actually impressive birds, LOL! xD This video indeed needs to be watched more than once in order for all of these ideas to register properly. For many of these neutral situations, "The war is in your head.". More often than not, failures are best seen as lessons. 14:38 - The thoughts of any given individual are that person's own business. (If a person has severely distorted thoughts and then actually acts on them, then this is an entirely different issue.) I like your hair, actually, LOL! xD I like that you film your videos in Black & White, even though most things in life are not B/W ;-) Many thanks to you. Cheers!

Thank you Julia 🌹🙏🏻

5am! He is gonna get it!

I really learned a lot from this one, and I thought I knew a lot about psychlogy already :) Thanks, all best from Copenhagen, Peter

Pretty much spot on 🎯🤷‍♀️👍 I totally love the advices, really good❣️ Thank you so much for sharing 💖❣️

Much needed video. Thank you!

Thanks for sharing! I'm going to keep this in mind today. The self- trust exercise was outstanding. I bought it a couple weeks ago and found it super helpful😃

Oh you were so right in the beginning of this video. I will be coming back!, to listen again and again. So right on what I needed to hear. All five puzzle pieces I've been looking for...it all clicked is what I mean to say and thank you.

I love it! it’s not what they say, rather it’s what they say they I think is true , or believe about myself. Awesome! Definitely words to live by. I love this content because it helps me find strength and meaning for my children. I think I’m gonna sign up and be shifter. It’s hard to go without listening to your videos.

Your hair is fabulous btw😂🙂🥰

It is a great video. I am here to trust myself more each day to have a more inspiring life. I continue to develop self-trust with my ideas and thoughts. I learned that when I was part of the shift society. I needed to trust my thoughts and my abilities. trusting my thoughts has allowed me to express myself more, send many voice notes in different languages (shift society goal), go out on dates and have a lot of fun, have better conversations and have more confidence for my plans to travel around the world soon

Julia Thank you for a life- changing advice. My job is to get good and solid in myself because I can trust myself and I know where I am going and why.

This is excellent and life changing. Thank you Julia ❤

I think you are terrific, and you are helping me. Not to be to critical of my self. Thank you Julia ❤️

Love your work

Thank You, Sooooo Needed This!😃

Excellent! Thank you for taking the time to post such a powerful video. It is full of wisdom.

Very powerful mind set.

Your videos always on time. This message was so comforting. I have lots of work to do within myself.

Thank you so much from Saudi Arabia, I love listening to your insightful videos, keep them coming and have a great day. 🌻

Thank you so much for the information

Wow really good one and very relevant to what i am going thru . Thank you

So timely. Bless you!

Queen. You are everything!!!!! Is it possible to be a fan of a counselor?! Because I’m your biggest fan. You are amazing!! You’ve helped me so much you have no idea. Thank you x10000. God bless you!

You are awesome, thank you for taking your time to film these videos! ❤️

luv it but I dont know how seeing everything as an experiment would apply going on dates (lets just say). That brings A. expectations B. potential negative bs from the other, C ruffled past pain or unresolved issues, D. boring date , E. my emotions rattled for no reason then thinking "this is the reason why I dont date" .. dunno I dont know if Julia is looking clearly at 19:20 , it is worse to think and do something malicious than to think and not to act.

Thank you for posting

Always love your videos. Super quality info and insights. Thanks for making and sharing them. This one was extra helpful on my morning walk. ❤️

Thank you Julia! I've been working on this. Certainly isn't easy but it does get easier 🥰

Can you please talk about emotional abuse in friendships? And narcisism in friendships? Thank you.

I agree with absolutely everything you say in this video.It gives perfect advice! I couldn’t Thank you more.

I get it!! So good ♥️

If my man came home at 5 a, I would be pissed too.

This is so good. Thanks.

This just blew my mind, thank you for this

Great videos ! So helpful !

Thank You so very much for the amazing video, Julia. You and your work are just wonderful 🙏😇❤️👩‍⚕️

this was amaaaazing! well done!

So I don't mean to find reasons to NOT like this but I can't help thinking the following: All or almost all communication and learning involves other people having thoughts and opinions. For example, if someone has a thought about our truly bad behavior, such as if WE are or I am rude to someone, or make disparaging comments about someone else, do the thoughts and opinions of others saying I am rude not count? I know a lot of your lessons involve disclaimers such as "Now of COURSE I'm not saying you should go around being a jerk and not care about who you hurt" etc and that's really cool, down-to-earth talk and its' appreciated. But getting into the SHIFT mindframe can really involve retraining our thought processes into auto pilot, because there's a fine line between thinking and OVER thinking for so many of us that in turn, causes the "What if" or neurotic mindset when we're being introspective or just worrying too much about what others think. So how do we find and hone that fine tipping point where we can SHIFT without effort when needed while still being able to be mindful where it's warranted so we don't go from caring about other opinions too much, into being complete A holes? Also, some of these lessons regarding knowing that we react to our thoughts about the way someone treats us, seems to conflict with the concept of boundaries. Because you need to FEEL and THINK something about what someone does in order to determine that your boundaries have been crossed. If you retrained your brain to not have bad thoughts about what people did or said, because you didn't have the feelings you did about what they did or said, you probably wouldn't even care enough to determine that anyone crossed your boundaries in the first place. In fact, would you even HAVE boundaries? THanks for all you do!

Very helpful, thank you

You're so right thanks for this info

Thank you ❣️

Always a good day I can listen and learn from u!!!