This reminds me of a story I once heard about a man stuck out at sea. A boat came by and asked if he needed help and he said “no thank you god will save me.” And the boat passed. Another boat comes asks of he needs help and he has the same response. A third boat comes by his response is unchanging. Eventually the man drowns and dies and when gets to heaven he asks God “why didn’t you save me?” And God says “I sent you three boats.” God wants us to have faith but he also gave us brains with which to think and reason and choose what is best for us. Refusing the miracles of modern medicine is not an act of faith it is deliberately letting yourself drown.
@bushdenae Жыл бұрын
I remember this from the pursuit of happyness so I heard this in little jaden smith’s voice lol
@savanaashleigh626 Жыл бұрын
I find it sad how obsessed they are with having more children that they aren’t prioritizing the ones they already have.
@kstromm6361 Жыл бұрын
Just like the Duggars, she didn’t list any scriptures. Just these weird controlling ideas that benefit her husband. Her saying sin doesn’t mean it’s just what works for her, it’s saying anyone that doesn’t follow it is sinning. Makes my skin crawl!
@FeministCatLadySpinster Жыл бұрын
It always starts out as "this is for me, not you", and turns into "actually, everyone should do things my way". 🥴
@kristenmae6761 Жыл бұрын
They can never just keep it to themselves.
@thecollinskidsfamily Жыл бұрын
Here’s the difference…I don’t say do anything my way. Just Gods way.
@britnicox3929 Жыл бұрын
LMAO not him trying to get her to stop talking about the fact that he lied about a vasectomy on camera… This man knows exactly what he did and knows the Internet would roast him for it. I can’t imagine dealing with the kind of betrayal that would be
@sandralantau7395 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for recognizing the problem of parentification in big families. It causes psychological damage that goes beyond "not having a childhood". It means you lose the opportunity to develop your own identity as a person!
@SeontaSkky Жыл бұрын
I believe whole heartedly that if biological men gave birth there would be no large families. That’s just my opinion though.
@andreashields6983 Жыл бұрын
I come from a huge family similar to this. I spent my entire childhood taking care of my siblings. Now I don’t even know who I am without constantly taking care of someone.
@PGOuma Жыл бұрын
This!! More people need to realize what they're putting their kids through by having so many kids or by simply just neglecting them. My older sister was the main one taking care of us while both my parents were busy slaving away so that we can make ends meet
@smolexfundie6458 Жыл бұрын
Holy cow, solidarity my friend. ❤️ oldest kids of many
@azarahwagner2749 Жыл бұрын
That’s trauma for you
@yeet7463 Жыл бұрын
Lying about getting a vasectomy is 100% abuse lmao Also for him to say I’ll have as many kids as God allows as if he has to go through pregnancy or birth 🙄
@Raccoon_Chic Жыл бұрын
He for sure would not be saying that if the roles were switched .
@savanaashleigh626 Жыл бұрын
According to everything karissa shares, he doesn’t even help her with the kids either.
@SarahJaneSays Жыл бұрын
Having more kids basically had no effect on him, while it sounds like she’s suffering with her health with every pregnancy. He gives me every ick possible.
@NotARealHomestead Жыл бұрын
I’m gonna admit to not going that far into this but if he lied about having a vasectomy and continues to sleep with his wife without her knowledge, that’s no longer consensual. I know someone who went through the exact situation and ended up going through an extremely dangerous pregnancy and eventually divorce.
@savanaashleigh626 Жыл бұрын
@@NotARealHomestead that is so sad :( it’s really unfortunate these things happen.
@helenr4300 Жыл бұрын
How manipulative. Telling your spouse, when faced with the potential that another pregnancy could kill her, that 'I am not going to sin, you have to take responsibility, but you need to know that I will see you as a sinner for protecting me'
@littlemamared7486 Жыл бұрын
Either he lied about a vasectomy or their communication is horrendous. Stealthing your partner is a disgusting abuse of trust, and if that's not what happened, then their marriage is a mess communication wise.
@sarahschwartz3990 Жыл бұрын
How does one not know if their spouse is getting surgery or not? Like she just left him to get a serious medical procedure without even wanting to how it went?
@sabrena5515 Жыл бұрын
My thinking exactly. Sure it's an outpatient surgery but how would you not know? It still takes at least a few days of recovery at home. Even if he would have somehow gotten the procedure and recovered without her noticing, neither of them ever thought to mention the topic again? I don't understand.
@kerribernard4278 Жыл бұрын
@@sarahschwartz3990 I was wondering the same thing. Wouldn’t you know if your spouse had surgery?
@bushdenae Жыл бұрын
@@sarahschwartz3990 mean it’s a pretty simple outpatient procedure most people go home and just sit out of work for a few days pretty easy to fake why you’re laying around at home 🤷🏾♀️
@alexwyatt2911 Жыл бұрын
@@sabrena5515 Thank you! This was _exactly_ my question. Most people recover in a day or two, but it’s still uncomfortable. Did he spend a weekend icing his crotch for no reason?? And did he fake his follow-up appointment and test? This is such a *huge* lie. I wouldn’t be able to forgive my spouse for something like this. It’s such a violation and the consequences are so life-altering.
@Travelling_with_my_dog Жыл бұрын
gross that he would lie to her about a vasectomy. I would have divorced him SO fast. Also, the argument about trusting God to give you right amount of kids has always seemed deluded to me. God gave us scientists who created birth control, and gave me the sense to use it.
@alexwyatt2911 Жыл бұрын
I agree with you 100% about all your points. First, lying about contraception is such an enormous betrayal. It doesn’t matter the gender or person, lying about contraception of any form is a violation. The sex is no longer consensual at that point. And the consequences are life-altering, especially for a person who has such poor health. I would never be able to forgive my spouse for that kind of lie and betrayal. He was risking her life. Second, it’s always been bizarre to me when Christians refuse medical intervention because they’re going to “trust God’s plan.” To me, it’s so arrogant for them to assume that medical intervention isn’t part of “God’s plan.”
@viridianacortes964211 ай бұрын
They had birth control for women in the Bible! There was birth control for all ancient women in those times. A lot of religious texts that served as a list advice will tell a woman how to avoid pregnancy. These dummies.
@annabananabones08 Жыл бұрын
I had a coworker whose husband was pressuring her to have more kids. She had had a dangerous and complicated pregnancy and he was still pushing her. She got pregnant again and her and the baby passed away. That was heartbreaking to get that news. I still have her number in my phone
@wooogie672 Жыл бұрын
husbands forcing their wives to carry a pregnancy and give birth multiple times is so gross. (don’t read if you don’t want to hear about child death) this happened in like the 2000s with a woman who probably struggled with schizophrenia or some sort of psychotic disorder. her husband forced her to get off her meds to have more kids and she ended up killing them in a psychotic episode when he left for work one day. i don’t remember the woman’s name but it was truly heartbreaking for both her and the children because it could’ve 100% been prevented
@annabananabones08 Жыл бұрын
@@wooogie672 Andrea Yates, right?
@wooogie672 Жыл бұрын
@@annabananabones08 that sounds familiar so probably was her
@annabananabones08 Жыл бұрын
@@wooogie672 yeah, she was probably suffering from post partum psychosis. She drowned all of her kids. It was unbearably sad
@faithstrickland350 Жыл бұрын
29:02 Doctor: hey if you keep doing this you will potentially die Her: continues to do it and almost died and then questions why that happened to her I’m sorry. You almost died, experienced massive trauma because your body can literally never heal or return to a state of normalcy between pregnancies. That is so sad and heartbreaking. God created doctors too for a reason and maybe was saying through all those appointments “hey get the hint”
@JuliaMarieH Жыл бұрын
Yes! God gave us birth control too!
@lizcollinson269211 ай бұрын
@@JuliaMarieHand doctors (the ability to science) The parable of the drowning man comes to mind.
@mckaylaaelisee Жыл бұрын
Watching them interact I cannot imagine that they even.. like.. each other?
@fp1912 Жыл бұрын
So she asked him to read the book before making a decision and said it was important to her that he do so. He proceeded to read one paragraph and then didn’t read it at all, made the decision without her and without doing the one thing she asked, and then lied about it. Wtf? That’s so disrespectful of her feelings.
@gracekorch7480 Жыл бұрын
Somebody tell Karissa that things aren’t automatically sinful just because she disagrees with it. Lol
@savanaashleigh626 Жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly.
@SarahL9568 Жыл бұрын
I’m about to be super religious just so I don’t have to rationalize or think about anything. I’ll just hear gods voice saying what I want to hear. Who cares about the health of my spouse or finances or children’s futures. No question about what’s the right choice for my family. And looking down on people who have to make tough decisions. Hallelujah!
@SarahL9568 Жыл бұрын
Also Shaq will be my best friend and give me a car 👼
@nikotademetra1016 Жыл бұрын
@@SarahL9568 me too I’m tired of thinking and I want a new car… where’s Shaq 😂
@toomuchsci-fi Жыл бұрын
Not having enough quiet time is my nightmare. I have three siblings and our house felt like there was constant noise and it was exhausting 😕
@lizziakemi2763 Жыл бұрын
my siblings were grown and out the home bc of a large age gap but I can't imagine not having any privacy or peace away from 9 other kids and my parents 😬 I'd build a fort in the woods or something 😂
@gnomie2.0 Жыл бұрын
So do these people also abstain from all medical intervention because they trust God’s will? Did she not take prenatal vitamins? Do they not wear seatbelts? Do they not lock their doors at night? I’m curious where they draw the line when it comes to taking actions that affect their health and safety.
@savanaashleigh626 Жыл бұрын
Weeeellll, her youngest daughter has been in the hospital twice in the last 15 months because she was SEPTIC from a UTI. Seems to only go when she no longer has a choice. I promise I don’t stalk her, I just happened to see a post about it.
@AndromedasLight17Ай бұрын
Yes, her one child was limp, eyes rolling back in her head, barely moving and this B left to go to lunch with family instead of rushing them to thr hospital. One of her kids almost died from being septic and she almost killed a dog by leaving wet food out for it and leaving for two weeks. The food rotted and the dog got very ill. She didn't take it to a vet.
@gnomie2.0Ай бұрын
@@savanaashleigh626 I just saw this! Thank you for the response, even though it’s very sad. 😩
@gnomie2.0Ай бұрын
@@AndromedasLight17 totally disgusting, all of it!
@luce2498 Жыл бұрын
"thanks for not being forceful" *forces her to have kids by lying to her*
@Uneclipsed Жыл бұрын
I...there are no words. How did she go from not really wanting kids, to insisting on having so many to point of risking her life? Something just feels so wrong here. I'm trying not to be judgmental, but it's really difficult when they just seem so unconcerned about what having ten kids is doing to them physically, emotionally, financially, and are cavalier about being able to adequately and intimately parent that many children. I don't know why they think they're trusting God with this. Did He not bless us with common sense? Everything about this just seems so selfish to me.
@moistcr1tikalsfifthtesticl9528 ай бұрын
She's made blogposts where she details her medically neglecting a few of them because of her views (which resulted in at least one of them almost dying) and is very pro corporal punishment. She's an awful parent and so is her husband
@jjanon2371 Жыл бұрын
It's so suspicious that he claims money was coming in even though he was unemployed. He just stopped planning, budgeting and thinking about it? How? What if he chose to get a big loan and just scrapped all his budgeting so that Karissa wouldn't find out? It wouldn't be the only significant thing he's lied about.
@annas5752 Жыл бұрын
Id be willing to bet that they won't admit they get government help to avoid losing conservative viewers
@abbydiaz1220 Жыл бұрын
@@annas5752she said they don’t. I always thought maybe she did and not hate at all. Because I followed her for inspiration on how to raise and keep it together raising kids. But some things weren’t making sense.
@AndromedasLight17Ай бұрын
They're shady. She told everyone God provided their money. Like no! God doesn't just rain down money on you.
@Chelseabee55 Жыл бұрын
How often do these kids interact with other children outside the home? Home school, home church, home sports coaching???
@Chelseabee55 Жыл бұрын
It makes me so fucking angry she is putting herself at risk and putting her children in the place to not have a mother
@RaetheSaint Жыл бұрын
I’m only 20 minutes in but worries me most about this is that there isn’t enough healing between pregnancies if you’re having a kid almost every year. This leaves her so much more susceptible to long term health complications, especially when she was already having problems early on, that her husband would never understand because he doesn’t have to go through any of that. Her husband making this decision while it’s physically impacting Karissa and him LYING to her about the vasectomy is not only insensitive but also abusive in my opinion
@LynetteA6811 ай бұрын
Plus she already has MS!! There’s no cure for MS & it’s a death sentence it’s just a matter of how severe it is. My stepmom had it but hers was slow progressing so she lived to around 65 but she was house then bed bound for MANY MANY years!! It was a terrible way to live tbh.
@KC-dx4qt Жыл бұрын
I have to dip out half way through. I lost my mother to MS complications. Those kids you’re bringing into this world deserve their mother! Heck, I am old and I still need mine! Very selfish of her husband (imo). See y’all on the next one ♥️
@PGOuma Жыл бұрын
I am so sorry for your lost ❤️
@KC-dx4qt Жыл бұрын
@@PGOuma Thank you, I appreciate that 🙏🏻
@Chelseabee55 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for taking care of yourself, I am so sorry for your loss ❤️
@KC-dx4qt Жыл бұрын
@@Chelseabee55 Thank you so much 🙏🏻
@StylaPet Жыл бұрын
Do these people wear seatbelts? Do they go to a doctor? Do they have jobs? Why do all that stuff when clearly you don’t trust god to keep you safe, healthy and provided for 🙄 the mental gymnastics here are crazy
@shawneeGoes Жыл бұрын
I couldn’t imagine being forced to have sex because it’s gods will
@BHaney Жыл бұрын
Me either, that’s ridiculous.
@Ivy.Huesmann7 ай бұрын
it’s literally rape….
@AndromedasLight17Ай бұрын
It's called r@pe
@theoriginalpandanon Жыл бұрын
My win for the week is that we finally got our health insurance in order which couldn’t have come any sooner considering I’m 37 weeks pregnant with our second child. Also, I cannot imagine having so many children especially as someone who has high risk pregnancies. It jeopardizes my health and I have to be extremely careful to keep my babies healthy during my pregnancies. I also think that it is selfish to have so many children when their older children will have to be parentified in order to make sure that the younger ones are taken care of.
@petermj Жыл бұрын
win for the week: was presented with the opportunity to be a full time nanny for a family i’ve known for 5 years and adore. i took it and i start in two weeks, so excited!
@yelena86 Жыл бұрын
Wow Congrats on your new job. Good luck 🙏❤️
@petermj Жыл бұрын
@@yelena86 thank you so much! 🖤🤍
@littleealyssax0x Жыл бұрын
If he is hearing voices from God, 20 mg of Zyprexa should help with that auditory hallucination.
@kerribernard4278 Жыл бұрын
😂
@Shadeflower15 Жыл бұрын
My win is that I learned how to drive a mail truck and finished my training on Friday! I only have one more week of academy before I start working as a mail carrier 😊😊😊
@gongalicious Жыл бұрын
I simply do not want kids! For me there's there's many reasons, but one of them is me not wanting to pass my health issues onto another person. I'm not super religious anymore but I feel like not causing another person to suffer like me is more godly than having a kid because I'm "supposed to". I also need birth control to help with said health problems; it's medical! I love kids, but they just are not in my life path and that's okay! I don't want to experience pregnancy and I want to live my life the way that is right for me. I wish these kind of people would understand that.
@savanaashleigh626 Жыл бұрын
I don’t think all women are “supposed” to have kids. I think some are, and some aren’t. That’s ok! The Bible also say to be wise, seek knowledge and not be a fool. A lot of Christian’s forget that. I think you are being smart by making this informed decision, for what it’s worth.
@Ravenousxrellik Жыл бұрын
I'm glad for them and their family that their beliefs are sustainable and that due to his career and their network they can remain comfortable and keep having kids, but the insistence that this is the correct way of life will have dire consequences on a lot of families without the same monetary privilege.
@alc246 Жыл бұрын
So glad they can be so confident of the revelation God has given them. Incidentally, God gave me an equally convincing revelation that children are not for me and I am exempt from the Collins Way of Being a Faithful Christian.
@marleneflanagan7137 Жыл бұрын
My win for the week is, my daughter's boyfriend came over to ask my husband for her hand in marriage!
@KalyElizabeth Жыл бұрын
Congrats ❤
@caitlingoodwin9208 Жыл бұрын
I had severe preeclampsia with my last two (out of four) children. The maternal fetal medicine specialist told my husband that I would likely have a stroke or die if I got pregnant again. So he had a vasectomy that he scheduled the day our son left the NICU.
@caseyw.65509 ай бұрын
22:35 I really don't like how he said God told him he would take care of his wife's health IF she stays connected to God. So is Mandrae gonna blame his wife if she has more health issues? Will it her fault for not being connected enough to God?? Really gross.
@AndromedasLight17Ай бұрын
If they lose a baby, he will blame her is what he's saying. It's sick
@laurence.d.a Жыл бұрын
Being pregnant for the first time with my first child (and my symptoms being very delibitating at times), I'm increasingly impressed/shocked at how some people are willing to be pregnant so many times. ZERO JUGEMENT HERE, I'm just like: "How do you do it?!?!?" 😂😧
@kelviannaepperson3677 Жыл бұрын
I'm pregnant for the first time also. I finally got a pregnancy pillow but still have pain in my legs and weakness. I have a disability and am thankful that my baby is doing well. I have a hard time getting around so I worry about being able to be there for my baby but I know I'm an attentive person.
@melisaroberson2209 Жыл бұрын
I think it’s so tied into their identity and self worth that they just will themselves through it. And being pregnant again is prioritized above all else, like taking care of the ones you already have.
@kierstenhale763 Жыл бұрын
Literally. 32 weeks with my first here and I think about Michelle Duggar a lot 😅
@Samantha-dv4je Жыл бұрын
I’m very into fundie Fridays and watching things about fundamentalism….I just found this chick on Reddit and I was MORTIFIED. Thank you for this video, you’ve got a new subscriber!💕❤️💕
@phoebestone1694 Жыл бұрын
She said she hasn’t been allowed to make money on social media bc she’s not verified… that’s got to be a lie ( maybe a form of false Christian persecution?)
@savanaashleigh626 Жыл бұрын
She could still make money. Lots of problematic Christian’s on Instagram and KZfaq make money.
@yelena86 Жыл бұрын
You don’t need to be verified to make money on any platform. As long as you have a decent following that likes your content they’ll support you and buy your products services etc. She’s lying or is just ignorant about how it works😂
@shadygirlxoxo10 ай бұрын
She does ads on Instagram all the time!
@PGOuma Жыл бұрын
I think that this is a great conversation to have that a lot of parents and potential parents don't realize. Time, attention, support, and love is so crucial for each one of your kids to have in their early developmental years and if a child does not have enough of this in their early years, it can impact them lifelong. Also yes, it sickens me when parents let the older siblings take on the parent role, which results in them losing their crucial childhood. I don't come from a big family but I come from a lower income family. Both my parents had to spend their time slaving away to make ends meet (understandable), which resulted in us becoming neglected and not receiving a lot of attention and support that we needed plus they were already really strict parents so I personally also felt unloved and like a burden. This also resulted in my older siblings taking care of me and my older sister taking the overall parent role. She expressed to me many times once we were older how she felt exhausted and that there was too much pressure on her shoulders and that she couldn't finish out her childhood. It broke my heart to hear that but at the same time, I really appreciated what she's done for me, growing up. This is why it's an issue for having so many students within 1 class with 1 teacher because not every student gets the help and attention that they need. This also resulted in kids who are special needs that don't know that they are special needs in being neglected and called "dumb" or "lazy" just for them being themselves. I'm speaking from experience and didn't realize that part of myself until I got older
@KelseyDunlevy Жыл бұрын
The mental hoops these people have to jump through... I'm exhausted just listening to them. I can't imagine actually living it.
@betsywilliamsonyoga Жыл бұрын
Fruitful wombs 🤮 Also, sitting next to your children durning church or bouncing back and forth between them to help them with schooling isn’t quality time. It’s just being in the same space together. No offense on the church part. But I don’t think watching Netflix with someone is quality time either. But anyway, win of the week. I was offered a new job today and I took it! 🎉
@Chrxssym Жыл бұрын
Watching this. He groomed and preyed on his wife . In the beginning he said he met her at a club and pursued her very fast. Aka narcissist love bombing. He is an emotional abuser. Praying she gets released. The look I see in her eyes is similar to the abuse I’ve seen my mom encounter from my step father since my childhood. Mandrakes body language is off as well.
@ashcraft555 Жыл бұрын
My biggest confusion about people who (like this family) focus so literally and fully on a specific line of the bible is that they are not following all the other parts. Why is "be fruitful and multiply" the thing that is important, but not laws against wearing different fabrics, working on Sunday, following specific dietary restrictions, forgiving debt, taking care of the poor and imprisoned, loving each other, or treating your slaves in specific ways? There are nearly a million words in the bible - why are those four words not only the ones that are most important but that are so important that these families keep going when they know it has a higher chance of ending in the death of one of the parents?
@MindytheQuick Жыл бұрын
Thank you B for coming to these videos doing your best to not judge another's choices. The ironic thing about those in deeply fundamental/evangelical circles is the mockery of non-judgment that the "world" has, while they can't tolerate anyone judging their own judginess. I come from an evangelical background myself, and have always felt torn. I love Jesus very much, but I never felt close to him the way I thought I should. Only lately has that happened in spite of my upbringing, not because of it. Many in this certain culture have elevated Marriage and Babies (and what happens between the two) as almost bizarre idols. We will allow (and even encourage) a spouse to stay in abusive relationships because "Marriage". We keep having children (while refusing to prevent it) because "Babies". Not that God doesn't value those things, but when protecting the institution becomes more vital than protecting a spouse's safety, or protecting a child's need for an available, attached, and attuned parent, we've lost the whole point. And I think that's something very insidious that I didn't catch until I was an adult: the god that is sometimes preached about is not an attached, attuned, or safe Being. So it follows that attachment and relational safety isn't a priority in relationships in that world. I went through two psychiatric hospitalizations and easily could have had more. I only have one child. I can't imagine what would have happened if I'd said "let's leave it up to God". I'm not sure I'd be alive. I've only just begun to reattach to my precious child who had to live through a mom who wasn't emotionally available consistently. I heard someone once say God gave humanity the job of subduing the earth, which means managing resources. It would be ridiculous to not manage land or animals well because "God will provide". In the Bible he literally gave us that job. It's ok to "manage the resource" of having children (pardon if that sounds crude).
@pantaleimona10 ай бұрын
Two houses and two cars? Privilege. Something so very many people do not have regardless of the amount of faith they have in Christ. In my opinion, there's very real danger in what I hear so many "christian influencers" espousing on social media. To feed the hungry is a great and grave responsibility, not to be taken lightly or served up haphazardly or with pride. Most influencers I've listened to appear to subscribe to a belief in Biblical inerrancy, but define chapter and verse through the lens of their own opinions. If the water we offer is poluted and the food spoiled, how have we helped the thirsty and hungry among us? And what will we say as we each stand before God in the last day?
@ayygsandmelk Жыл бұрын
I think that these people forget that God can work through doctors, and having children even though it's a good thing can be an idol.
@TaylorX3 Жыл бұрын
_I am a Christian and I'm not a mother_ In my personal opinion it sounds like a great way for the devil to guarantee death, family disfunction and poverty for a lot of families. She almost K.O. trying to have kids. If she passed away would that have been a win for God? Why is the near death experience not a sign from God? It's giving greedy and selfish on both their ends.
@laurence.d.a Жыл бұрын
At the vasectomy part of their story. Huuuuum WTF.
@Ilgashmilga Жыл бұрын
I don’t understand how trusting god with children is to not have any form of birth control, but trusting god in finances isn’t about not having any financial control, they have jobs, savings, etc
@JulieAVL11 ай бұрын
Also, this viewpoint debases women to just being forced incubators.
@oldringo6963 Жыл бұрын
This is so disturbing.
@rae_gem Жыл бұрын
Oof, these two sure have a lot of dysfunction in this story that they’re dressing up as God’s plan.
@lindseystein9676 Жыл бұрын
I always thought it’s very interesting some people have such an extreme view on birth control, saying leave it up to god & any sort of birth control method is “going against god.” They only apply that to pregnancy & nothing else though. Why not leave everything up to god then? Why wear a seatbelt ever or take any sort of medications or chemotherapy or any kind of safety precaution. Why are those things not against god’s will, but birth control or “pulling out” is?
@JulieAVL11 ай бұрын
This is such a reckless viewpoint. Having a bunch of kids that aren’t wanted and people can’t afford, and doesn’t have time it capability to raise well will lead to a lot of dysfunctional people. And more overpopulation, homelessness etc.
@madarawijerathne276 Жыл бұрын
As south asian both my parents had large families mother has 4 other siblings while father has 5 other siblings. My mother's oldest sister was never went to school to take care of siblings. My grandmother is so evil to do that to her. When she left after marriage at 19 second sister took the role. My father's family has not done things that extremely still My father's sister was parentified to extent and my father who got government job was expected to fund everything to his family money wise. His mother never expected him to marry and his own kids but be single to fund money forever. And in both families I'm not sure parents did bare minimum for atleast one kid 😅. They very happy go lucky parents. Also at the time birth control is simply available so maybe they didn't even want the kids. So willfully ignoring birth control is so freaking stupid it just not affect them it affects kids directly and society too
@HarryJamesPotter78 ай бұрын
Funny how people like that tend to judge others but are the same who neglect their kids and massively sin themselves. Everything Karissa says has nothing to do with Religion. 💀
@Pintsizeamy Жыл бұрын
I am always so curious what Christians say when asked how they went about populating they earth when everyone was related……..
@Amularessa9 ай бұрын
Girl you have to follow up on this chick! She is in hot water covering up SA of a child.
@BHaney9 ай бұрын
Oh my gosh, what?? Definitely looking into that!
@VW7774 ай бұрын
Is this gossip or do you have real facts with receipts?
@meltedsnowcaps Жыл бұрын
28:30 yes!! My older sister was totally parentified, I remember her putting a pizza in the oven for us younger kids as she was a young kid herself.
@helenr4300 Жыл бұрын
They make the big deal about trusting God for family size, despite the additional dangers. Yet can't trust God to protect these children in regular school, so have to home school to personally protect them (this version of home schooling to avoid mixing with outsiders leaves young adults without the social comprehension to cope with the wider world). I find the combination of home church as well as home school ringing alarm bells. Does it show that they are not willing to explore Biblical matters with other believers but see themselves as the only interpretation they will accept? So he stopped looking at the figures, and decided that coping was God's provision? Could it be due to her carefully budgetting over every meal? Or relying on gifts from wider family and friends?
@carriebrooklyn_music Жыл бұрын
SO glad you are addressing this B! 🤍
@QueenMabb Жыл бұрын
Wow. You handled that really well. I really wanted to say so many things and each time you stopped and said something similar to what I was thinking. For example, the reason things have gotten easier for them is they are using their older children as help mates and buddies. I don't like that she has so many health problems. I dont want to be disrespectful however, there is so much he said that was sooff-putting and just plain wrong. I have studied the quiverful religion and they are major doctrinal issues. Yes please keep talking about them. I could listen to this for days and wish I could be heard I love to sit around and discuss this kind of stuff. Again great job. 🎉
@RastaLlama Жыл бұрын
This is my first time on the channel, I love how chilled and yet clear and concise you are. Keep doing your thing😊👍🏽🙏🏽 Love from South Africa
@ktangard Жыл бұрын
To get to the point where you ignore medical advice and there's a significant likelihood that you could die just because you're mad with God - do you actually care about the living, breathing children you already have?
@narcole Жыл бұрын
My win: I found out this morning that my application for my associate social worker license was approved! I'm in the process of getting a bereavement counselor job and was waiting on my license to go through, so now I should hopefully be starting this new job in May (:
@BHaney Жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your application getting approved!! That is such an important job 💛
@faithstrickland350 Жыл бұрын
You made a great point. Regardless of agreeing with the idea of family planning, there does need to Be an emphasis on taking care of the children you do have. To me It seems they are more concerned about continually reproducing, than being satisfied with each child and the life they have. Idk I could never have more than maybe 3 children so It just seems like such a massive physical, spiritual, emotional, and financial undertaking they are going through all through the guise of their beliefs
@hannahloewen448Ай бұрын
The way he literally never thanks or acknowledges his wife is just beyond disrespectful… these kids are gonna have some healing to do after dealing with this nightmare father
@vanessam31959 ай бұрын
Wow! I HOPE the best for their children, but that's a very irresponsible stance. If he wants to be transparent about their birth control (or lack thereof), then I think they should be transparent about where that money is coming from that keeps their children fed. Money comes from people, not directly from God. So it's not a mystery. Other households are financing their household, which means that in the big picture, EVERYONE could not afford to "trust god with their family size". If they did so, whose household would support all of them? In addition, they didn't "trust God" to let her die or to miraculously give her the D&C that she desperately needed to save her life. They sought medical attention, but have continued to ignore all medical advice. I can't even!
@mimiwins14 ай бұрын
Thanks for this video. I recently heard about this family but knew nothing behind the constant smiles on instagram.
@Allisonszxo Жыл бұрын
Thank you for covering this
@lizcollinson269211 ай бұрын
Thank you you remind me that there are Christians that are not so extreme in America. Thats you B the sane one, nice to hear.
@kimberlyaustin7030 Жыл бұрын
Win for the week: my Soroptimist club had its first love Dream It Be It, for high schools girls. Went great! Please cover this couple more. Few do videos, usually only on reddit
@simplebeauty12010 ай бұрын
I couldn’t think of a more sure sign that God is telling me to stop having kids than me almost DYING!!!! Like this almost feels like a breeding/pregnant kink than truly doing what god wants. How gave you a sign and you ignored it.
@abbywolf97018 ай бұрын
Breeding kink is EXACTLY what I was thinking! No one goes from “I don’t think I really want kids” to “god is condemning me every time I take a BC pill” without an element of kink 😂
@moonbat783 Жыл бұрын
It's great that this works for them but not every family have the able to be so careless. I have two siblings, I'm the youngest. My parents didn't use birth control at the beginning of their marriage and quickly had 3 kid close in age. We struggled. Sometimes we didn't have food. My parents were stress and sometimes couldn't pay our bills in order to get food on the table. We when to school at the age of 3 so we could get free food. Both my parents are fixed because they couldnt provid for the 3 they had. This come off tone deaf.
@stingerbee9921 Жыл бұрын
Just wanna say it's not birth control or bust... I am so sick of people (especially judgmental Christians) having this attitude. There are other methods for preventing pregnancy that do not involve any medication or medical procedures, natural family planning works great if done correctly and carefully. I hate how she perpetuates the idea that birth control is sin and therefore she just had to keep getting pregnant. It's not a sin, and even if it was it's not the only option. She is being willfully ignorant, a basic search before my wedding taught me that there are lots of other methods to prevent pregnancy. OK, getting off my soapbox now.
@sidneyborrill1994 Жыл бұрын
I feel like they assigned a meaning to their lack of communication to almost… justify the lie about the vasectomy. I don’t really like anything I heard here. Made me feel icky.
@samanthajayne9989 Жыл бұрын
I'm only halfway through but this part about certain Christians confuse me... She says it's God's will if she gets pregnant or not and that it's wrong to prevent them. Yet she went to the hospital to get medical treatment? Wouldn't that mean she was going against God's will?
@kattykit1710 Жыл бұрын
It's funny. He had said at 37:00 that they make time for one on one time with each individual kid, but then all the examples that she gave at 41:00 were all group settings and not one on one time. Just saying ...
@ew5301 Жыл бұрын
God gives us a brain, education and free will so we can make decisions. These people are scary.
@hannabio2770 Жыл бұрын
26:06 - I'm sorry, but this guy (husband) is absolutely disgusting and he didn't LOVE her wife at all! His not taking her feelings into consideration (like lie about vasectomy and not helping much at home), his not caring enough about her risking her life because of childbirth! I'm shocked. It's just my personal opinion, but this kind of behavior is not about believe in god or not - this man just disgusting, irresponsible and selfish person! And she's needs psychological help.
@Furnominal Жыл бұрын
Wonder who was watching their kids while they were making this video.
@nikotademetra1016 Жыл бұрын
The oldest girl I’m sure
@lizcollinson269211 ай бұрын
This woman is a victim, he maybe too but she is not going to live a long life. The damage she has already done is likely to cause an early death. I seriously suspect he could have a learning disability, to avoid the book with such fear. God dies not micro manage he guides and supports you through. These people are not healthy.
@lizcollinson269211 ай бұрын
They are however both perpetuating the indoctrination.
@Mscocoapuffz Жыл бұрын
I respect her choice in life but I’m not sure how great of a parent you can be with 10 kids? Their relationship lacks communication skill and shows a tiny bit of spousal abu$3 constantly wanting your wife to have more kids when he sees her having very rough pregnancies
@nette98367 ай бұрын
What does that even mean? I don't respect her choices and I don't care if it isn't PC enough...what she is doing is dangerous.
@mom2blessings_sadie8 ай бұрын
I love karissa I also am a mom to 8 children I truly believe life is a blessing my issue with karissa is that she seems to teach women in an aggressive judgemental way at times that to ke is concerning we shpuld never push things on ppl I wish she showed more in a quiet meek spirit n not come of that way you said this is right this is wrong n more ❤
@fleurmal7648 Жыл бұрын
Birth control is an act of worship in my eyes, for my situation. My parents were emotionally neglectful because they spent every moment working to give the bare necessities for kids they didn't plan for (or want). We didn't have resources for diagnoses and all my siblings and parents struggle with depression, largely stemming from problems that money could fix. I don't want the same thing for kids I have. I want the resources, knowledge, and healing to give them a better life than I have had, because they will be God's children and deserve to have a parent who can actually demonstrate God's emotional love to them, instead of feeling they are a burden for existing or don't matter at all. Proverbs 24:3-7 and other verses discuss planning for the future and being wise. It is NOT wise for everyone in every situation to constantly be pumping out kids. The people I know who do that are all the types to post about how amazing their life is online, and then in person they are whining about every aspect of their life, so it's hard to trust that their viewpoint as it is often disingenuous. Having kids is a huge responsibility, parenting shouldn't be outsourced to older kids either. EDIT: also I believe in an all-powerful God. people get pregnant on birth control all the time. If it is His will, no way a rubber is gonna prevent that 😂
@CarolineNotCarolynBoyd Жыл бұрын
Definitely interested in more Collins content
@yelena86 Жыл бұрын
I hope everybody had some wins this week, no matter how small it was. Good for you 🙏❤️
@cindywood4128 Жыл бұрын
They need to communicate more!! They don’t remember very much about their past.
@hannabio2770 Жыл бұрын
I really like this "win for the week" thing! ☺️ Thank you for sharing, Haney!) And everyone who doing it in comment section! 🤗
@ellie720011 күн бұрын
These two seem so perpetually pissed off at each other it's driving me insane. I feel legitimately sorry for the kids who have to grow up with parents who always seem to radiate this kind of resentment for each other.
@Raccoon_Chic Жыл бұрын
As for the 796,000 Instagram followers and only 5,000 on KZfaq : she most likely bought followers on IG. It’s something alot of influencers do . Another way that you can tell that she most likely bought her IG followers is the number of likes on her posts are way too low for the amount that you see following her. I looked at her page and she only has about 7,000 likes on average for each post . If the 796,000 IG followers were real people then she would have a lot more likes but they are just bots so they can’t contribute to the likes . Hope this made sense 😅
@carnystrickland4888 Жыл бұрын
My win was last Friday. I’m about to be 18 and my best friend who is 20 and i teach him different subjects is blind and I went over to his grandparents house by myself for the first time without my grandmother being there. I have been falling in love with him and I want to be his caregiver one day because he has given me a reason to live after everything I have been through. I’m going to write his mom and dad a letter about my desire to help him and take care of him. My best friend and his family loves me so much. I’m homeschooled and I get to see him four days a week for a couple of hours. The only problem I have is my parents reaction to me being in love with him considering it would be so unlikely for anyone his age to fall for him and they might think it’s weird and they are special education teachers so they know how rare that is to see someone who is not disabled to fall for someone who is and want to take care of them.
@juliegeorge3808 Жыл бұрын
Ask him how he feels. If being blind is his only issue, he can be assisted in so many ways to be just as able as someone who isn't blind.
@carnystrickland4888 Жыл бұрын
@@juliegeorge3808I have asked him before and he said he loves me. He has other issues besides being blind and he can’t do much for himself. I should have mentioned that.
@juliegeorge3808 Жыл бұрын
@@carnystrickland4888 That's awesome, and I'm happy for you! :) I didn't mean to imply that you were doing anything bad, if it came off that way.
@yelena86 Жыл бұрын
Good luck to you in everything you do 🙏❤️
@carnystrickland4888 Жыл бұрын
@@juliegeorge3808 thank you so much. I didn’t take it that way at all. I just realized I should have clarified it a bit more.
@kriskross6934Ай бұрын
She’s also almost killed her dog before she had kids. Left for a two week vacation left the dog with a pile of wet food for TWO WEEKS. Came back decided not to care about the food with maggots, mold, and rotting pieces and put more wet food on top of it. When the dog got sick she decided the best course of action was to try and feed it treats and force it on a walk. Never not once went to the vet
@Chrxssym Жыл бұрын
He’s a narcissist. Controlling, and manipulative.
@chibimitchi Жыл бұрын
If God is all knowing and all powerful then how could fallible humans "prevent God's will"? This situation is about the husband's desire for control IMO.
@KalyElizabeth Жыл бұрын
It’s interesting how we are now seeing some of the Duggar children come forward with how broken their family really was. I’m curious in 10 years or so to see how their children are going to be. I obviously don’t want anything bad to happen to them, but you have to wonder how much a parent can really be in a child’s life when they are juggling 10 kids (and who knows how many more will come for this family). In the past, when we didn’t have modern medicine, think of how many children didn’t live very long lives because of illness, famine, or what not, we live in a very different world now. I definitely believe that we are blessed to live in a time with modern science (which is of course a total gift from God) and it’s honestly probably more of a sin to just ignore it. Anyways, I hope I’m wrong about this family, but I’m worried for their kids and if they really are getting all their needs met.
@troypeters6348 Жыл бұрын
When those kids are teenagers there lives will be hell