I hear you. It's illogical, confusing, frustrating and spins your head, amd hurts. I had something similar but it was more drawn out hot & cold. I've given it up to the universe and focus on myself now. I missed him so much at first but now there is a WONDERFUL peace. I'm going yo manifest a non-avoidant next time ;) Someone who wants committment, loves it and is happy to stay. Good luck, sorry this happened but it's probably a blessing in disguise

I hear you and feel your pain. really sorry to hear this happened to you. I was there too. My story is nearly the same as yours but genders reversed. We were together 7 months. This discard was so sudden, painful and heartbreaking that I needed to seek professional help. But only then I found out how much my attachment style, unresolved childhood traumas and previous ex partner's betrayal played role in my triggers, feelings and emotions during last relationship with avoidant and later in my healing process. I am only gratefull for that last part😉 🙏 I know karma has no expiry date and I will do everything to heal to be able to spot avoidants miles away and don't give a chance to trick me ever again. I wish you loads of self love💖

One thing Lee - "treated her better than any ex prior". The truth you know is that you treated her better than what she had told you about any ex prior. Why do i say this? Because she will be telling the next person bad stories about you to make him feel like the best she has ever had. This is how modern women whitewash bodycount. "Yes, I had multiple partners in the past but you are so much better because x, y, z."

use the 'space' time to move the hell on!

@@chiaraA. Yeah it's probably what the DA is thinking too because subconsciously they feel they're not good enough and are scared of their partners breaking up so they do it first 🤷

If it's been 3 months and she hasn't contacted you once, it's over man let it go. You don't want someone like that back anyway

@@LeeEverett1 it’s only been a month of no contact at all. We had a couple of interactions in the first two months. She even reached out to my boss and expressed interest in coming back to work with me part time.

​@BruceJC75 Mine came back 10 months later, hadn't changed mind, but they always come back (as long as the connections there). What she's doing at the moment is indirectly trying to communicate with you. Reaching out to a third party to see you is definitely a sign she wants contact, but fears will still be playing out... So, live your life from here. If she circles back, it's your decision

WOW!!! Same here My “boyfriend” and I we’re having so much fun daily( laughing, kissing, telling each other we love one another) and his father was in hospital for 3 months. We talked every morning and he kept me updated on his dad. His dad passed on Jan 25th, and that was the end. He came over to tell me his dad passed and I hugged him and gave my condolences, and he lightly pushed me away and even said..”I don’t mean to push you away but I have to go and check on my mother.” He stopped calling and responded to my texts since. I felt some type of way! I wrote him a letter on Feb.6 telling him I will give him space to grieve his dad and I won’t be calling him since he wasn’t responding to my calls anyway… He ghosted me… He popped up at my house on May 8th from Feb 6 and said he was sorry. No explanation or anything… He did not say one word on why I haven’t heard from him in literally 3 months. He was talking like we on so in love and he is ready to marry me…. I’m looking like..” This mf is crazy… I did research and dismissive avoidant popped up and he has checked the boxes on each video and therapist I have heard. And I swear……He just called my phone why I was typing this!!! OMG. I just hung up on that crazy ass man!! Lord I swear I thank God it happened like this! My advice to you and myself is “Run for the hills and don’t look back! We are not psychotherapists for these crazy mf’s!! Bless you🖐🏽🖐🏽💯💯

​@@verasmith1900Crazy story, Vera

@@verasmith1900 Good luck for the future

@@verasmith1900 girl, great advice and response...you must be a secure attacher. He needs to sort out his own issues

Yes I can. What would you like me to talk about? Please tag me in your response @katyamorozova

@@KatyaMorozova Like how to reattract them, and do they ever come back ? even if its years after a break up ? and what is the strongest motive that makes them come back ? and what keeps them from reaching out ? Do they ever regret their decision of walking away ? Do they ever feel nostalgic about the relationship ? Now all these questions are under No Contact what so ever. Thanks Katya.