Why Singles Don't Get Married Early

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Why Singles Don't Get Married Early | Kingsley Okonkwo

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@Olafoods_ Жыл бұрын

God please if I will ever make any mistake let it not be in marriage.

@kereenuzondu8397 Жыл бұрын

If you know the purpose of marriage, you will marry well.

@khadijatpreciousishaq3321 Жыл бұрын

Marriage doesn't make you happy Marriage makes you better... so you have to be happy first Thank you sir.. More Grace🙏🙏🙏

@jessyjonas4988 Жыл бұрын

There is a level of responsibility and focus you can only get when you start to take care of another

@krayonnesilva390 Жыл бұрын

Men CHOOSE who to marry but i don't think that makes it any easier than women selecting from among their suitors. As a man you still have to select who likes you (not just who you like alone) from among the ladies you meet, i ve seen young men get really hurt by ladies. As a young man of early 30's i discovered that the journey is not as easy as they make it seem. People ask you What are you waiting for?.. As though you can just walk into the market and buy a wife like foodstuff. But however I've learnt a lot from Pastor K and wife over the years. God bless you sir.

@violettachikungu7975 Жыл бұрын

You are very right

@olorunfemiloveth3043 Жыл бұрын

Pastor K thank you sir

@marychukwudubem6014 Жыл бұрын

It’s not easy on both men and women. These days I don’t understand what is happening in the realm of Love ❤️

@Jenken297 Жыл бұрын

@Kyran, I get your perspective but you seem to misunderstand the message. It's about roles, the male is to do the chasing and proposal, the female is to do the attraction, acceptance or rejection. In other words, marriage can only start with the MAN's proposal. You get? Two reasons why it's difficult for men of these days to get married is women are now multi dating like men used to do, increasing her pool, so men are receiving breakfast equally (this is a lengthy discussion). Second reason is Men's of marriageable age will not propose to the right woman. What they are looking for in a woman is ridiculous, their taste is too high, at the end of the day, they get served breakfast.

@suhgodlove5375 Жыл бұрын

@@Jenken297 please am really confused, what of a man who says he loves u very much n wants to get married to you by saying it, he doesnt gives but expect instead from the lady, asking from the lady but instead telling you he doesnt have while being an indépendent worker, shld the lady continue or stop pls i need help

@mabelamahagan2793 Жыл бұрын

I am in my last stage of being in my twenties,yet,I am unable to make money for myself:I am working;I only receive a little allowance.

@damilolabakare8160 Жыл бұрын

The most important thing is to Marry RIGHT and not just to marry EARLY. There are alot of people who married early and later regretted doing so. Everybody's journey in life is different. Some of the great men in the Bible like Joseph and Isaac didn't marry in their Early 20s.....

@Nexus_Algo Жыл бұрын

Lols, I agree with you o... But using great men in the bible as example doesn't cut it, do you know the life expectancy then??

@aghoghooghenevwairhe9042 Жыл бұрын

@@Nexus_Algo I know right?

@abeekuworldchanger380 3 ай бұрын

Exactly. Marrying early has worked for some, but I've also known several people that divorced as well. Marriage is the second most important decision we make after our relationship with Jesus Christ. If we get that wrong, then other areas are bound to fall apart too .

@oladunsiajala7144 Жыл бұрын

A fine woman can also be virtuous 👌

@hopebirungi994 Жыл бұрын

Can't get enough of pr Kingsley.. Not only do I enjoy listening to him, I get to learn a lot Thank you so much sir. May our Good Lord continue using your vessel

@olawuyitaiwo2250 Жыл бұрын

Marry right and marry early if you can. Balanced teaching. Thank you sir

@nountrending Жыл бұрын

You're right. Some people are not just desperate to get married due to some experiences they had in the past or probably they are too ambitious. They just wanna take things slow, and wait for when it's right.

@ayaosicharity8295 Жыл бұрын

amazing, have been celibate for a long time now, though is not easy but God has been strengthening me by his grace.

@ichooseviolence2532 Жыл бұрын

Lies. Someone has definitely been clapping your cheeks

@ayaosicharity8295 Жыл бұрын

@@ichooseviolence2532 i don't have to convince you on that sir.

@ichooseviolence2532 Жыл бұрын

@@ayaosicharity8295 most of you women are 304's... So yeah you have to convince me

@ayaosicharity8295 Жыл бұрын

@@ichooseviolence2532 lol oga leme jor

@saitamadecember2806 Жыл бұрын

It's not easy for our generation, especially if your parents are not financially well off and if you have siblings to support financially...you have to go beyond and above before your finances allow you to even consider marriage...I don't think it's fair to compare us to wealthy western countries, the struggle is real in africa.

@marthangafor6414 Жыл бұрын

These cultural pressures are not helpful either. Why should someone miss out on a good partner because of responsibilities to siblings? It's a good thing to look after one's family but not to their detriment. We need to find a better way of balancing these things.

@seyithevioliniststv2939 8 ай бұрын

I met a young man who married at 20. Pastor Kingsley is correct!

@Valery-bq4fs Жыл бұрын

I'M 31 AND I'M NOT READY. NO ONE CAN PRESSURE ME. BUT GOOD SERMON PASTOR

@abeekuworldchanger380 3 ай бұрын

Same age . 31 , single christian guy. Stuff to work on, but I trust God that the right partner is out there for me. Singleness in our 30s in a blessing too.

@shafauabimbola9734 Жыл бұрын

Your mate in animal kingdom 😂😂😂😂😂

@callmezolo Жыл бұрын

23-24 years of age for a man to marry is to early sir, not in this current nigeria economy... I can bet it that the man will be yet to figure out his life's direction at 23-24, talkless of taking care someone's daughter and his kids.. I will advise men to marry at 27-28, and also marry a lady of lower age margin like 25-26

@victorfreeman3371 Жыл бұрын

Very sensible and more realistic idea.

@callmezolo Жыл бұрын

@@victorfreeman3371 thanks friend

@TheFavourBoluwade Жыл бұрын

In developed countries, marriage is often between ages 19&25. The age range common to Nigerians is determined by environmental factors. It doesn't make the early ages wrong. At 18, they have a job, housing is sorted, education is almost done because at 22/23 master's is in the bag, there is a regular income flow, so early marriage isn't a big deal to these people.

@callmezolo Жыл бұрын

@@TheFavourBoluwade we can as well agree that this is exactly why DIVORCE is rampant in developed countries... At age 19, no man regardless of your financial status or stability, is yet to figure out what he wants.. At age 19, a man is still carrying a baby brain .. they need to grow to at least 25-28 years, before making marriage decisions

@TheFavourBoluwade Жыл бұрын

@@callmezolo Very understandable.

@obanwotaiwo2565 Жыл бұрын

I enjoy Pastor Kinsley's message but let's not leave out the financial crisis that can frustrate your life you marry as a man without having things in place to take care of the family you trying to start. E no go funny oo! Una eyes go clear.

@obeyGodOnly Жыл бұрын

The thing is even guys are that chasing you are only in it for the chase the moment you agree they turn the other way and will now be expecting you to chase them

@dzifahbethel1745 Жыл бұрын

Indeed marriage is supposed to make you a better Person ❤️

@mettandipnkongho8054 Жыл бұрын

We shall marry someday in Jesus name

@oluchijessica2843 Жыл бұрын

Amen!🙏

@kayodesalami3352 Жыл бұрын

A simple reason I couldn't marry at 25 was unemployment after service. Got a job with very low income until 28, i got a good career and still growing and now 30. Well, at 28 I broke up 10 years relationship, may be I assumed I was in a relationship but wasn't making sense along the way. But I never had an opportunity to marry early. Being happy is key. Before taking another responsibility. It is well. Thanks for your teaching pastor Kingsley.

@krissy9581 Жыл бұрын

Love thy Neighbor (esp wife) as your self. There is a loving that is experienced by one before it is being shared. I TOTALLY AGREE with you

@kayodesalami3352 Жыл бұрын

@@krissy9581 thank you.

@hairs_and_wears354 Жыл бұрын

Pastor K thank you for always sharing! I will marry well in Jesus name, amen!

@davefx_ Жыл бұрын

Please may i say this sir and anybody can quote me......Sir K you're one of the wisest men in Nigeria and the world at large am so happy to jam you in this life sir thank you God bless you sir K ❤️❤️

@cynthiamoregbuniwe1803 Жыл бұрын

Swears 🙇

@UgoiykeSonia Жыл бұрын

Pastor K is a Top notch ..... You don't fall in Love , You walk in Love....I always say to people , if you fall in Love , you'll definitely stand up.

@sandrasamuel9286 Жыл бұрын

Pastor PK God bless you. Pls when are you coming to Port Harcourt

@cynthiaawuzie6942 Жыл бұрын

Thank you our P.K for always putting smiles and laughter in your messages 😍😁😁😅😅🤣🤣🤣.. I'm always joy-filled.🙌

@agathaunoma6980 Жыл бұрын

Please the volume is too low

@paulineelotowa5791 Жыл бұрын

I love the explanation of marriage in relation to school. O boy school can be stressful but so worth it at the end. Eh God give us Grace oooo...na family to di spoil all the matter completely, just had an expirienc

@SpiritTribeTV Жыл бұрын

Thank you Pastor K for this

@cferdinard Жыл бұрын

You are teaching good Pastor 🙏🏻

@GeorgeGraceOfGod Жыл бұрын

Many men are *"Professional Testers"* 🤔😁

@favourobilor6393 Жыл бұрын

God bless you sir I'm always blessed by your message

@joshua_Oladiti Жыл бұрын

God bless PK for this message 🙏 But can we stop pulling down our own nation with our words, it might sound funny but wrong words have contributed heavily to the problem of Nigeria. We self-sabotage ourselves and laugh about it especially on social media which isn't supposed to be, let's build our nation with our words🙏 Nigeria can have 24hrs power supply and will have in Jesus name!!!

@jdcharlie Жыл бұрын

I love your faith but there is nothing wrong with what he said. Does your country have 24hrs power supply? No. That is a fact. Not negative confession. Please you are not "more Christian" than him. Let us be Christians but let us be wise.

@ibukunibitoye5315 Жыл бұрын

More blessings Pastor

@kafunyakaswilo6634 Жыл бұрын

Your teachings are on point Pastor K.🤗

@akwaugo31 Жыл бұрын

I have learnt so much from you pastor K, God bless you.

@gloriaijeoma6488 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much sir k God bless you greatly

@akosuabonti5448 Жыл бұрын

God bless you Pastor K

@oyebanjibukola3320 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Pastor K

@misswisdom3821 Жыл бұрын

Thank you pastor

@dativahnyakato7898 Жыл бұрын

Your such a blessing pastor k 😊 God should continue blessing you

@Chifloxy Жыл бұрын

Thank you pastor for this wonderful teaching. May the good lord continue to increase you in knowledge

@kelzo9678 Жыл бұрын

God bless you pastor K

@BrandonsPodcast Жыл бұрын

Thank You Pastor 🙏

@adedejiracheal541 2 ай бұрын

You don't fall in love, you walk in love... continuity

@dorcasyahaya215 Жыл бұрын

The reality of this message.. I can relate to the programming of Ladies minds ..

@goodnessjustus7360 Жыл бұрын

I learnt alot from this message, thank you sir 🙏

@odunayooluwatobi8405 Жыл бұрын

Amazing message 🥰🥰🥰🥰

@coletteokoro9311 Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 my ribs ooo. PK is always making sense in a very funny way 😂

@helenbalogun131 Жыл бұрын

I thought it was only me oo...I laugh paaa

@HOPIW Жыл бұрын

Can’t wait!🔥

@johnmary6880 Жыл бұрын

God bless you sir

@benitajames6795 Жыл бұрын

Thank you daddy ❤ your message is very enlightening

@maryokodike5660 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Sir

@peacemarkanson4776 Жыл бұрын

I just want to say thank you for the great impart this message has added to my life. God bless you sir

@irenemueni4404 Жыл бұрын

Amazing

@audace646 Жыл бұрын

THIS MESSAGE 🙌🙌🙌🙌

@MrChikamogbo Жыл бұрын

Very Informative.

@ugochukwuemmanuel4847 Жыл бұрын

Wow...powerful...thank u sir

@lilianademu2296 Жыл бұрын

Solid message. I wish I watched this 20 years ago.😊God bless you for sharing your wisdom with us. I believe its still never too late..

@faveurpierre5748 Жыл бұрын

Pastor K is very wise. God bless. More grace.

@joyugbome7681 Жыл бұрын

Am blessed! May d Lord continue to enrich u with his wisdom in Jesus name!

@udochukwusunday7325 Жыл бұрын

Great massage. Remain blessed Sir. The audio isn’t at it best today.

@emilybas5718 Жыл бұрын

Bless you sir

@lindafokam998 Жыл бұрын

Marriage is not designed to make you happy, it makes you better. When you are better you can now be happy. The purpose of marriage is to be a better person...... All in all what I understood is that you have to be happy yourself, have good self-esteem and marriage would be just an addition. Thank you Pastor K.

@ebukareuben5785 Жыл бұрын

💯 true Linda

@foyinlolasworld6072 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Pst K

@Dinma487 Жыл бұрын

I really want to come for this seminar ❤

@obendei Жыл бұрын

Pls work on your audio volume: technical team

@misha894 Жыл бұрын

Yes please!!!

@michelleadebiyi2341 Жыл бұрын

yeah I agree

@Blessed-me6tf Жыл бұрын

I agree!

@ttfamikel791 Жыл бұрын

Awesomeness

@vickyrichie6211 Жыл бұрын

Thank you sir.... Am really blessed to have you in my generation

@ezenwadarlington8509 Жыл бұрын

Thanks sir

@gamuchiraishengwe8230 Жыл бұрын

Am in love with your sermons .....though am in Zimbabwe

@mastergrace4255 Жыл бұрын

Great

@chinwestella5082 Жыл бұрын

pastor K, you no go kill me with laughter, 'the Lord invited me'.I always love your message. Thank you sir.

@adedejiadetola1809 Жыл бұрын

I can't wait

@shalomakaelu Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this, pastor K. But what if you always get attention from the kind of men you don't want, genuinely?

@colletteikeanyibe1487 Жыл бұрын

Exactly and most times u won't want those that want you.

@BlessedAreThePureInHeart Жыл бұрын

And sometimes ;those that want you, aren't good for you ....Some people don't have anything for you to look forward to . Eg. Spirituality -0, Looks -0,Money -0 ,Leadership -0 . Good character -0 . Absolutely nothing ......

@colletteikeanyibe1487 Жыл бұрын

@@BlessedAreThePureInHeart 😂 I tell you. Complete nonentity. And I can't use because they want me, and want them. Mbanu

@BlessedAreThePureInHeart Жыл бұрын

@@colletteikeanyibe1487 my sister .... 😔

@colletteikeanyibe1487 Жыл бұрын

@@BlessedAreThePureInHeart God dey nwanne

@BlessedAreThePureInHeart Жыл бұрын

@@colletteikeanyibe1487 Yes oo.. I'm not married yet . And to be honest ,I don't think about it . I'm working on myself ...By watching vidoes like this and creating the best version of myself .... I believe ;sometimes, we attract who we are ...

@godsgrace4682 Жыл бұрын

Wow👏👏👏👏👏😊😊😊😚❤️may you live long Pastor Kingsley......you are such a blessings to me since I started following your sermon.... When God's time comes I'll have my man,❤️🙏🙏🙏

@RogerEKPE Жыл бұрын

Please note there's a serious volume balance with most videos... Below average!

@preciousglory6735 Жыл бұрын

It’s well 😅God help and give everyone single a life time joyous partner 🙏

@preciouschinazam1940 Жыл бұрын

Diamond rings are not hawked on traffic. Thank you Sir

@Olafoods_ Жыл бұрын

Wisdom

@lailasule543 Жыл бұрын

I wish I heard this years ago. 😢

@sundayomowumi Жыл бұрын

I wish I know PK 10yrs ago but it never too late,God bless you for sharing your wisdom with us

@marthangafor6414 Жыл бұрын

I think it's ok for a woman to have agency when it comes to choosing a husband. Ruth was the one who approached Boaz. There really is nothing wrong with a woman knowing what she wants and going for it wisely. No one should be passive about such a life changing decision. Great point about hunting lol. Women need to change tack then 🤣🤣🤣 I remember my burger disappointment too lol

@Jesssuuusss_. 3 ай бұрын

Ruth never proposed to Boaz A word to the wise is enough 😊 Or else years after marriage if bad times come, he'll tell you that he never wanted you, but you were the one who forced yourself on him

@marthangafor6414 3 ай бұрын

@@Jesssuuusss_. you need to study your Bible again. In that cultural context, what Ruth did was to indicate her availability to Boaz and he responded positively. If a man has to throw it into a woman's face that she proposed to him, then it's more of a reflection on him. He too has free will.

@praise3700 Жыл бұрын

😂😂 Pst K o, that’s medium rare steak and it’s actually myoglobin not blood. It’s from the muscle tissue.

@somysjourney9034 Жыл бұрын

THE VOLUME LEVEL IS TOO LOW!! I CAN BARELY HEAR ANYTHING

@beauty_lifestyle_inspiration Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂 lesson learnt 🙌🏻

@domshaksunday1024 Жыл бұрын

My question, is feeling now not important in choosing who you love? because you offend people's feelings and emotions. Also I might be wrong, but making women not consider their feelings in selecting who they love and eventual marriage, I think It gives some men a leverage to not consider their emotions and also groom men without emotional intelligence.

@elijahomede1469 Жыл бұрын

At 24, a man is not too young to marry! People marry at early ages and do well!

@IamRosemary278 Жыл бұрын

Like pastor Iren Emmanuel

@Miss.Kutin-Buah Жыл бұрын

God bless you Pastor k

@hassanadebanke2380 Жыл бұрын

I've seen ladies who go for who they want and both are doing well

@SavvyOlawale Жыл бұрын

What works for A may not work for B. The teaching isn't a one size fits all.

@gifte1319 Жыл бұрын

Ah PK 😂😂😂 you dey think that's why he's not married 😂😂😂😂😂😂. Thank you for your messages 🙏🏿

@lazaruspeter1168 Жыл бұрын

Mr Kingsley okonkwo you're such an intelligent and experience Man 💯🥰💓 Thanks for your lecture 💯🙏

@samsonmela3544 Жыл бұрын

Who is a virtuous woman and whats her characteristics?

@Peter_darock Жыл бұрын

Marriage is first designed to make you better and then happy...

@vitusmowete2841 Жыл бұрын

Sir I really love your teachings so so much.....so real and powerful.... sometimes I have to go back to hear some words again......... thanks for being a blessing to this generation.... I have a question.....what advice would you give to a female medical doctor who is single but has only those below her economic status coming to her for marriage

@DANDY.FASHION.SCHOOL Жыл бұрын

She should pray about it and If it's the will of God, her economic status is nothing. The will of God comes with interruption.

@blessed_one_ Жыл бұрын

She should try to level up. Be confident, speak well, be personable. Pay attention to dressing and grooming. Be around the kind of men she would like to be married to (church, conferences etc). What about her male classmates? Colleagues at work? Nothing wrong with showing a man you're interested, if he doesn't chase you no worries, just move on. Know your worth, being a female physician is prestigious. Good luck!

@angela4christ78 Жыл бұрын

economic status, in terms of money right?? if that is so... I think it isn't enough reason to turn them down... you just need a man who has wisdom, leader not a ruler, hardworking, God-fearing with the fruit of The spirit in terms of character and pray for God's leading, he must be visionary....... although some men can't lead you because they are after your money... once they asking for your money then be careful... understand that they are only coming for your money... let him spend in the relationship... he should be a provider and understand his role as a provider... check the way he treats others around him, don't judge his character based on how he treats you but how he treats others....

@isabelletchoungang7906 Жыл бұрын

I think a woman in such a position should primarily focus on the other aspects of her needs. If a man matches 98% of what you are looking for and he’s making just a little below what you make, why would you sacrifice the possibility of a beautiful and fulfilling marriage because he doesn’t make as much or above? I know we have been conditioned as women to search men who make more than us but sometimes the one who doesn’t is where your fulfillment will be. Just pray and ask God for direction when every suitor comes around. Focusing on suitors who make more than you will be an opening the devil will use to bring an Ahab into your life. And the present income a man makes at the moment you meet his doesn’t determine the future we all he can generate? What are his goals? What is his vision?