SO TRUE. They should've revealed their red flags in the 2nd round and talk about it afterwards. Or something like this.

@Tomatism27 Right? Or slowly reveal worse red flags each round. So awkward them being like "oh haha that's crazy you were almost married, ok bye"

​@@well_alby_damned There was an old show like that, called Baggage. Kurtis Conner did a hilarious reaction video about it.

Calm down, Katherine.

@katherinewheeler9606 Frankly an insane response to someone making an observation about a youtube video when you're watching Cody Ko. The dude literally makes observations about youtube videos for a living, so why are you here? 😂

it’s his goblin mode kicking in

Shit made me laugh every single time too

@@zak1265real lmao

the lizard part 😭

Seriously though why are they all RIPG?

this is real :( I feel ya

i was thinking the same thing :/

Agree

that’s very true, but i THINK they mean more about people who purposely are rude to their family and dont try to be close at all, some parents are good but unfortunately had children who became egotistical and mean along the way bc of other people they met in their life. but i could be wrong on what they mean specifically.

@@eatfeti Could be but then they could've phrased it better.

There’s lots of things people have no control over that could be red flags though

ig the person just wants to be with someone where they can start a family and have a big wedding and have both sides of grandparents and stuff like that. I agree it shouldn't be called a "red flag" bc it doesn't make the person a bad partner it's more of just a preference

Exaxtly

LITERALLY

like what 😂😂

maybe he meant like talking to many people while casually dating is bad.

Use a comma

one of these things is not like the otherrr 😭😭

reading this right now completely out of context before watching the whole vid is so funny and confusing 😂😂

Fr 🤣😭

did i miss this whats the timestamp lol

​@@xnngit's at the end

i feel so bad for the guy he was 15 and just doing what he was told when they said no bathroom breaks😭😭 just salt in the wound to get fired for it on top of that

I couldn't believe that story 23:34

he also gives gay best friend vibes

Totally ​@@77768

he has the strongest serial killer vibes I've ever seen on one of these shows. Gives me the extreme creeps.

Ya notice how he just said "ex" and not she/he?@@77768

@@aspenisthebest Think its the blue eyes. Blue eyes tend to look weird on a lot of people unless they're ginger, though it often makes them more attractive, it looks wird.

Me on my lunch break realizing I’ve been targeted

tbh i either eat or shower/get ready/do my makeup while watching cody LMAO

I know that he knows but in that moment I felt like he was watching me lmao

NAH BC I USUALLY WATCH CODY AT ANYYYYY other time of day but today i decided my lunch break and i get this comment from him i cannot

me mid-bite of my sandwich staring at the screen like 😮.. he knows

i assume he meant like people think hes leading them on/not making it known to people hes talking

not to be that person especially because i know nothing about and dont really believe astrology but that guy is definitely a virgo hahahahaha just cuz he is extactly like my virgo exes and he felt like he would be toxic exactly the same way they were hahahha does that make sense?

All of these dudes are beta. Men aren’t allowed to be real anymore because testosterone is threatening. They’re all moping around and quieting their voices like their overbearing mother librarians are hovering and scolding them. Pathetic.

@@blondie9909 No, it makes no sense. To insinuate that all people who possess that single toxic trait do so because they share the same birth month is insane.

​@blondie9909 bro what? You say you don't care about them and then proceed to call Virgos toxic

Right... so many of these made no sense to me. Like obviously don't talk about your ex on a first date, but you'd assume that as you got deeper into the relationship, it's important to go through what worked and didn't work in past relationships. Also, history and emotional baggage is important. I worry because I got out of a very abusive relationship last year, and I'm terrified to date and overall just still traumatized. One of the things I know for sure: any future partner will have to be filled in.. not to make them "jealous" but to explain why I might have trust issues or certain fears or traumatic responses... The good relationship with the families thing was also dumb. I try every day to have a good relationship with my parents, because I'm an only child and really want to keep family close after others have hurt me badly. But my parents are not stable, not only was my childhood filled with abuse, but they scream and shout and gang up on me to this day at 24 years of age, leaving me to stay isolated in my room to avoid it. I refuse to move out because they're older and need someone to care for them. I'm a kinder person because of my traumas, because I know what the receiving end feels like. I have and can have successful relationships. It just sucks that these men made it seem like women have to have perfect lives or something... people struggle and those people end up more dimensional, compassionate, interesting, because of it.

That one made no sense to me at all. My husband and I talk about our exes all of the time. Not because there are any lingering feelings or anything, but because we've both had funny or interesting experiences with the people we dated before we got together. I really don't understand the fundamental insecurity at the core of modern dating relationships. There's all this paranoia about cheating, about wanting or not wanting commitment, etc. How hard is it to just... do what you want to do and be honest about it???

@@shadowhunterartemisBecause people don’t go to therapy and pass their problems onto others, which just creates a cycle of insecurity and cheating that spreads to everyone else

i think the nectar ones are usually worse bc they don't know how to produce these types of videos, cut at least has someone asking questions to stir things up and they edit better to cut out dead air

Am I the only one who enjoyed this much more than the ones where there’s someone being a jerk? I liked how nice everyone was, but I guess it doesn’t make great “content”

@@derinwithaq5811it shows you’re a kind person who values stability, it could be a sign of maturity or intelligence because you aren’t sucked in by petty conflict. Wrestling attracts a different audience than Ballet, you know?

@@icu3869can also be a sign that you're FUCKING BORING

Personally I think these men's opinions and versions of Red flags were demeaning and oversimplified with not much wiggle room for real life situations or hardships. They just came off as boring and vapid to me, but still shitty.

Right? lol wow

Hey man shit happens

she didn't want to sound ableist lol

i feel like shitting your pants is more relatable. cause we've all done it, right?

i would be lmao, no way am i waiting like two years. sex is a big emotional thing too

NOOOOOOOOO LOL

Omg i have been thinking so hard about where i know her from, thank you i can watch the vid in peace now😂

Oh god no not the PS5 song

I promise you it's not an accident she's on this. And she's probably releasing an album soon that the record company is going to force a hit out of. Industry plant all the way

THANK YOUU - i was triping cause no one else seemed to mention this

I was thinking about this as well. What if your family is shitty but you ain't. "No I'm not gonna date you because your parents fucked up and you don't have a good relationship with them now"

This^^^^ 1000%

Who cares if you choose your parents. People have preferences. Someone having a redflag is them knowing that something may come with issues that they would rather avoid. Generally it should be seen as a redflagg. Nothing wrong with being a good choice even if you had issues. You just have to work alittle harder. Short people gotta work harder, different races depending on where they are gotta work harder, different genders work harder depending on culture etc. Tha'ts life.

@@martagustafsson5749 Yeah, the most toxic guys I have dated have "a loving relationship" with their mother.

@@iKickBullies probably said by a white guy

i agree w u but what i think happened is that he didnt wordit right and meant to say like people who are shitty to their parents by choice just because ?? yk

@@petra3217 ok but im going off of peoples words and not what you want to read into it.

I completely get that. My parents are the same way.

Everyone in the room did 😔

yes!!!! i laughed🥲

I pointed that out to my husband bc I love to combine words like that and it was hilarious!

Yes exactly I laughed.

@@wat5709 At least they have the excuse of being on the loud set with mad people talking over each other, but Chotis' elderly father had a tough time hearing it in room alone, with speakers, and a zoomed camera shot on the guy saying it who he also knows 🙄 Chody just a geriatric clown🤡

Nah, I hate older movies too. They're always incredibly predictable, I can guess what's gonna happen within the first 2 minutes. Modern movies are way better in my opinion.

nooo! there are so many amazing old movies! & awful ones to make fun of!

Check out criterion collection, there are some amazing older movies in 4k

not all of them are predictable, its more like a limit in special effects that make it seem unrealistic but some have amazing scenarios despite that @Random-sk6hm

Yeah that was a terrible take ngl

Facts considering he was born 40 years before it came out.

Never watched it either

Exactly! And he seemed like he didn’t even know what it was too. RED FLAG!!

FR wiiiild that he looked it up

Yeah. It was before my time too, but it’s a solid movie. And whenever I hear 🎶 don’t you, forget about me 🎶 I think of that movie

exactlyyyy

100% plus a broken engagement 😬

And if you have kids, like me. 😅 like i gotta have some communication with the babydaddy, since we are coparenting the same child.

It's def unfair, but I guess I kinda get it. Coming from toxic parents, I have a lot of issues. There's baggage there and not everyone is equipped to handle that... Or they just don't want to handle it. I get it. It's a lot 😅 Luckily, my husband came from a similar household so we are able to relate to each other's struggles and accept each other's "baggage". There was a time in our relationship, though, where we were hella toxic to each other 😂 we had to figure out what traits were basically cPTSD and which were just us being assholes 😅 We've been together 13 years now, and better than ever 😊

Totally agree with you!

i completely agree and was just thinking that about the “bad relationship with parents” thing. it’s completely unfair

Thank you! It always irks me when someone says that because most people would love to have a great relationship with their parents - but not everyone has that privilege. A lot of parents are abusive unfortunately, and that doesn't reflect on the kid or their ability to love a partner/children.

Can you imagine trying to throw rocks at your neighbors without a Cody Ko video to keep you entertained 😩😭

Same😂

I dont like the red flag either however its pretty much agreed that it only is the case if the parents are normal

Ngl this is actually genius and such a clever name lol

We've done this with our cats!! We don't have a cool nickname for it, but we know who's cat is who's and what happens if we break up 😂 we've been dating 7 years now though!

I had someone agree to take 2 cats, was with him for 4 years and over time we gained 5 cats. One was a stray and he had kittens with each of my female cats and we kept one kitten from each litter so we ended up with 5. In the end he said “your cats” so it made it 5 million times harder to find a place to live. Sometimes people do shady stuff and don’t go with the original agreement because they’re a holes

​@@LadyGl1tch kitty kontract, kitty kontingency, Feline failsafe. Just some off the top of my head.

That doesn't even solve the problem That's like getting a children pre-nup

RIPG ✊🏾

I was surprised there were people who drive with music on all the time

@@derinwithaq5811i can’t have silence at all 😭

It's nice. I used to listen to music all day long working data entry, every day. While driving too. Non-stop. You can still love music and really appreciate it and listen to it, while taking some space to have peace in silence. I noticed sometimes it takes practise in the beginning. It's uncomfortable at first... then it gets better. I think everyone should try to experience that, for their own nervous systems' sake, their own minds, their own sake overall. Just sharing my experience with this. I actually either pray, just enjoy the ride, or think through what I need to now, instead of constant distraction.

my friends think I’m so crazy but the world is already so stimulating like sometimes it’s nice to have a break

wsh I coul experience that, unfortunately with my tinnitus silence is pure hell.

just finished and making my partner read it:)

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Also a child of family abuse and did not want to risk my children ever being hurt...I would hope that the dudes that said this would be open to hearing why the person has poor familial bonds instead of flat out dismissing a person based on that alone...not to mention so many people are children of the system and have no family...doesn't make them less than or any less deserving

my first thought as well.... how is it the kid's fault if they were born to bad parents? just a weird red flag....

not that theyre less worthy of love but if one is extremely family-oriented, then they’ll have a completely different mentality from someone who isnt, regardless of the reason. so its just avoiding wasting time on something that wont work (statistically)

I think it is in general, possibly having a healthy relationship with any guardian or support system. OR, if you relied on yourself to be your own parent due to extreme circumstances, then having a good relationship with yourself and the values you wish to have if a parent ever yourself. Maybe, I made that up based on how I'd approach that situation.

Exactly, some people's parents are abusive or in literal cults and that isn't reflective of them. They can still have a perfectly healthy relationship with partners/children just like anybody else.

No comment on the random imperial alarm sound?😂

Semantic shift better get used to it because it happens with a lot of things. Common ones are swear words which become less taboo (e.g fuck) and euphemisms which become more taboo (e.g “retard”)

I thought it just meant warning signs? Like "this can be indicative of a problem" - but doesn't necessarily HAVE to be. Taking one example from the video, never having been in a committed relationship can be a red flag, but you need to figure out the reason behind it to determine if it's ACTUALLY a dealbreaker. Does it mean you have comittment issues? Or have you just not met the right person? I think red flags are just, well, flagging potential issues. Key word being "potential" as you may figure out it's not actually a dealbreaker.

@@KreeZafiyou described this perfectly.

Semantic drift

That’s subjective though

Na it's sexist, there's no plot and it's unbearably boring

@@hollow_me_out Well it’s a teen movie from the 1980s it’s gonna be a little sexist, because every movie back then was. I’m not excusing it, but literally every movie from the 1980s has an offensive joke. Second of all the plot is that 5 people from different cliques/groups spend a morning together. Not every movie needs a huge action plot or a huge conflict. Some movies are just about about life and talking. Third jt might get a little boring at times, but it’s an overall good movie. It’s just about teens hanging out.

It’s a reductive, patronizing piece of shit

@@hollow_me_out I’m glad I’m not the only one who found it boring

European so dinner but yeah

Lmao duhh it’s not like there’s 500 different comments with the same 5 jokes about it every vid.

i watch it while doing my nighttime skincare

i’m very picky with who i date and this definitely plays a part (although it might be one of the most unproblematic ones on an interpersonal level). when they tell me they only really eat pizza, mac & cheese, and sandwiches on repeat, it already turns me off them heavily. especially when they dislike more fruits and vegetables than how many they DO like, or equally annoying, have ever even tried. i can’t imagine cooking for myself, him, and the kids, if not even more family later, and having to tone down his meal by leaving out crucial ingredients because he’s just so picky - or even worse, having to cook an entirely different meal for him every damned day. nuh uh.

its almost 40 years old,.,,... movie-time-wise it is an old movie

Sameeeee!!!!!!

ong

Same but on my break

SAME

same hahah

same company

They actually all share the same red flag, willing to do a video like this

read this too fast and my brain completely omitted/didn't comprehend the fall guys part that gave this SUPER important context 😂 lmao

honestly... my red flag is not even considering that other people have lived different lives than you... like how can you come out and state that people with bad relationships with their parents cant be a good partner? tf

Dude I literally just did the same thing

This sounds Sus