Don't compare everything with America and Americans... Western culture is just so culturalless .. they would even share their partners with their besties in the room .. would you do it too just because it's so normal in Western countries... Asian conservative culture is best... every Asian countries has its own unique culture & beliefs... Western culture has brought nothing but stupidity whether it's LGBTQ or Nudity or drugs we should not learn from the people who have Low IQ than us ...Just Because you know how to speak English doesn't mean you have to act like or behave like Westerners...

Wow.. he actually said that 😂

😂

I remember him saying that n I asked did I really just hear that? 🤣🤣🤣

Lmao Jungkook's delulu moment

😂😂😂😂 I was like JK relax they won’t get married

😂😂😂😂😂

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

To peel a shrimp

LMAOOOO PLS. that's the loml

😮😮🤣🤣🤣

my mannn

He is😂 But how are you soo sure that he is YouR mAn....

Was searching for this/ JHopes view

Ikr? Like I respect jk's and v's opinion but tbh that's childish

Amen sistah

I was shocked when I watched people's response in a street interview where this question was asked

Only for men though, apparently women "can't" and if they do then that's cheating and utterly unacceptable, they must wait at home for their partner to return after banging and what boggles my mind is that THE WOMEN ARE SO SUPPRESSED THEAT THEY THINK IT'S FINE TO LET THEIR PARTNER SEEK PLEASURE SOMEWHERE ELSE ???!!! cuz why? And I quote "If she has longer legs than line and he's attracted to her it's fine becuz I don't have that", what breaks my heart is the way the ladies were so visibly and terribly insecure that it's evident on their faces with the way they say it so sadly. What pathetic society to live in honestly, it's just so sad how hard the partiality goes, its gotten to thr point that the women just choose to stay single having the satisfaction rate going higher for the unmarried women and the populations decreasing.

​@@hearteu5260well women won't be able to sleep without any emotional attachment while men can sleep around with no feelings attached. But yeahhh the mentality of it being professional relationship and not cheating is just way out of pocket for us. EDIT: Lol alright everyone, my bad for generalizing people. Of course not all male and female are like that. Not trying to offend anyone here. And ofc just because you don't have any feelings for your sexual partners doesn't mean you should be doing it when you are already in relationship. Personally as a female, I won't be able to sleep with anyone I don't love. Even if I am in relationship with them, I won't do it unless I know I love them. But that's me, people you do you.

​@@rusmasubba6906Women most definitely can sleep around without emotional attachment, where did you get this idea of it being otherwise?

@@rusmasubba6906 How brainwashed are you by men that you actually think women can't sleep around without emotions attached?

True that!

Well said 😂

FACTS!

Yeah. And if I see someone struggling, I help them out of instinct, my partner would have no opportunity to do so lol Maybe the partner helped because no one else did 😅

You are wrong sad to say

The perfect definition of toxic unhealthy relationship!

It would be really nice if that didn't sound like a generalization. Not everyone is like that, we are perfectly capable of being happy and secure. But we can't say EVERYONE. I do hope thats common knowledge lmao.

​@@you.will.kn0vv Did you even read the original comment? OP didn't mention "everyone" anywhere. They were just stating a fact: Korean dating culture is fucked up and so is its societal views on most topics. You don't have to glorify a country just because you like some aspects about its culture and whatnot, just acknowledge that Korean society is incredibly backwards, and that isn't going to change any time soon.

@@you.will.kn0vvObviously not every single Korean is like this, but the fact that this is a nationwide debate implies A LOT of Koreans think it’s not acceptable, which implies an unhealthy, controlling, possessive, toxic dating culture.

​@@mira.ryou know nothing shut up

...b...bb...bbbbuut your boyfriend might get jealous if you help her? Lmaooo 😂

It would be more appropriate for your assistance than your man's

@@ohnonotagain8935 and what's the difference? Like it's a freaking leaf ? Why should i care ? 😅

​@@ohnonotagain8935you're insecure. Lol it's a freakin vegetable. He's not feeding her. He's literally holding the leaf down for not even a second 😂

​@@ohnonotagain8935what? It's appropriate to help everyone no matter the gender or friendship status 😅 y'all crazy

I was looking for this in the comments. I used to have this insecurity and I just thought I was the problem, and kept working on not feeling this way, trying to understand why this feeling would crop up even though it didn't align with the values I thought I held. It caused a lot of dissonance in me. Eventually he cheated on me, later on I got into a healthy relationship, and now none of these signs actually bother me. Then I looked back and realized, it's because I knew in the past that my partner wasn't doing those things for me, and only did those things for others when he sought to gain a benefit (sexually, emotionally, or otherwise) from that "kind" gesture. Now I'm with someone who would go out of his way to help anyone who needs it, and doesn't expect anything back. It's all about context, intention, personality. If you're feeling this way in your relationship, you either need to work on yourself, drop the partner, or both. It's not always just the first one.

yeah I would not like if my boyfriend did that. it's weird. she has two hands she can get her own leaf. a man helping a woman in certain situations is great but to get her leaf for her food? that's just weird to me and more intimate. I'm not even Korean. I love your example! exactly.

Exactly. I would want my partner to be a kind person but certain actions are a bit weird like yellow flags but not red. Like I think the shrimp one was your partner peeling shrimp for your friend and I immediately thought, "like the whole table including me or this person in particular?" Bc that changes how I feel about it.

Ew I hate having ketchup on my hands. Just let him no big deal

@@anonyyy85 they basically said it all depends on context. If he always does that for everyone then it's fine. But only for this ONE girl? Nah. This is why I think the whole green/red flag thing is ridiculous. Because everything can be too mundane to be a red flag, but it is indeed a red flag in the right context. And the same goes for the green flag.

Exactly only insecure possessive people would find an issue with it tbh l

What if you have five girl friends but he only goes the extra mile for one of them? Because that’s the real issue

@@myouniverse0613 it’s all about the context. The people in this video focused too much on the what but not the why. The holding down the leaf is not an issue, it could be a hard to open jar, getting a heavy luggage out of the car, holding the door open. They’re singling out Koreans by doing this like it’s such a special Korean thing when every race and nationality practice infidelity and relationship insecurities.

@@ft.jackjimmy7282 Yeah that's also what I think. No one action is the problem, it's the why that is important.

@@myouniverse0613 I don’t think helping a little is the extra mile. But if I feel there’s an issue, I’ll talk about it with him. But you can’t be guilty until proven innocent in a relationship.

This. Lol cause why am I sitting there watching her struggle? And typically if my guy noticed it first, he would nudge me to help my friend. It’s not his friend. It’s my friend.

Thisss! Like why do my bf have to do shit for my girl friend when i CAN help her myself

whoever notices first should help, regardless of gender or whose friend it was to begin with.

@@delfyincit’s a damn leaf, she’ll be ight

Yes. Problem solved, no one gets put in any situation. The other gesture which may diffuse the situation is for the guy to offer his own gf the leaf if she wants one.

This is the best actually 😂

My man just wanted to eat peacefully 😭🤣

@@Strawberry_0408 exactly, avoid drama that's not needed

I second this, I love him 😂

Yes🤣🤣

Yeah, but you just said it was attractive too.

@@kmanc418 Because attractive doesn't automatically mean in a romantic sense? I'm attracted to people who are kind. Meaning I gravitate towards people who treat others with kindness, respect, courtesy. As I said, I value this not only in a partner, but in my friends. Because I grew up like this, with my family as an example. Not everything is romantic or sexual 🙄 you're thinking just like the repressed Koreans.

Agree!

Absolutely agree with you, this was how I thought as well so the whole conversation was just absurd to me.

​@@nenegrey2282it happens 2 or 3 more times with your same friend(clumsy or on popular). Or is this extended to all single women or just your friends?

The whole point! I'm gonna get a massive hate for this but being extremely conservative is also a problem!

​@@you.will.kn0vv work on it before you enter a relationship. No amount of working through it during the relationship will help, cause if you don't trust your partner this much, you'll never truly trust them, and will eventually go back to your old patterns. This person doesn't trust their partner while they are with them in the same room, I don't even want to know what this person does when their partner isn't around at all and is somewhere with someone else, for days or weeks at the time. You aren't siamese twins, you won't spend 24/7 together constantly. So being this possessive over nothing, is quite disturbing behaviour, and no one should have to put up with it.

So don’t ever get into/stay in a relationship if you’re a little insecure? Sounds a bit unreasonable to me I’m not throwing my 3 year long relationship don’t the drain cos I get jealous sometimes which is a normal human emotion/function… (not over leaves tho lol) most people are a little insecure about SOMETHING, yet still deserve to be in relationships and are absolutely fine in them. If it works for them then it works for them🤷🏻‍♀️

​@@ktxtenskz7441 Seems like I'm just repeating myself here over and over again to insecure people who are trying to justify their actions with "i'm a bit like this, but it's not that bad, we are making it work". Make it work with yourself first and address why you feel like this and/or have the need to behave this way. No one that is comfortable with themselves, their partner and the overall relationship acts like this. Even better, don't start relationships with people where you are their 2nd or 10th choice, so everyone else around them seems like a better fit than you. Be with someone who actually wants to be with YOU and wants a future with YOU, and not someone who just wants a relationship for the sake of being in one.

@@dawnriddler why would I reject human nature? It’s absolutely fine and healthy to get a BIT jealous and be a BIT insecure. But to be too much of that is bad. And why say that next part? I was his first choice and he was mine. I don’t get what you’re trying to say there as I gave no information about my relationship. Or are you just speaking generally? I feel like it’s strange for someone to never ever get jealous of something (doesn’t have to be relationships). Same with insecurity, most people of not everyone goes through it no matter how much. If people were never a little insecure then no one would have the incentive to work on themselves🤷🏻‍♀️

Lol but that was a joke from the guy in the video. I understood that he would be okay with it regdless of what V and Jk say.

I still don't understand why she isn't helping her own best friend !!!!!!

@@krittikabiswas8500 also true lol

@@krittikabiswas8500 IKR!!! LoL, I think we share our braincells... along with our surnames 😂😂

Jin being my biggest green flag lol

My guy has self assurance 👏👏

Jin, jimin, suga and jhope didn’t care

Why?

I mean opening it is one thing but then proceeding to pour it out. That’s too much

I can't stop laughing!! Unless someone is mentally or physically handicapped there is no reason why someone can't open a ketchup packet, lmaooo!!!

@@AlgerWaterlow Agree. Helping someone to open it is totally ok but like the pouring is too much. The leaf thing I think it's ok too, it's not like he spoon-fed her the leaf after lmao.

Yeah it should have been opening a jar of pickles

It's not even that it's a common sense that we should help if someone is struggling. If I see a women struggling to put her bag in the cabinate I will definitely help her . If I saw a men struggling to pull a car I will help him it's not even about gender . It's a good manner to help others . I will be disappointed if someone is struggling and someone didn't help them . I will fall more for my partner if she will help someone in need . Well I have heard that Korean girls are very possessive sometime . What next I get mad at my gf because she is having a good time in a group setting ??

Look, I respect and admire your trust in your hubby but I'm sorry to say women (even sisters) cannot be trusted. They have no loyalty and cannot wait to one up you then gloat when they get the (booby) prize. So dont be surprised when your friend suddenly has many more sudden rescheduled appts that happen to coincide with hubby's days off 😂 Nobody likes to be wrong but in this case, I hope I am. Good luck ❤

@@oliveoyl1802 hubby passed away. We were together for 21 years before he passed n I can 100% confirm he was faithful till the day he passed. My friend is happy n healthy + she’s in a loving relationship. She said it was thanks to my hubby n I. We showed her what a happy n loving marriage looked like n I am truly happy for her 😁😁🩷🩷

​@@oliveoyl1802the perfect comment of someone who'll never experiment happiness in a relationship. Your comment is pathetic and sad .

​@@oliveoyl1802Guess u have no Idea what a best friend is like? A best friend is a person who stuck with u though shit and pushed u to be better and the other way around. Aint no way a true best friend would sabotage someone like that. Also if u have a partner thats not able to be loyal to u, its only a service to show that, that both people involved do not care about u. A best friend also respects how much her friend wants her to get to know her partner and u as a best friend only want to make sure she is happy with her choice and that this is a good person. U know shit gets serious, when someone introduces u to their bestie. In some cases u might not get along with their partner, but along as u know u can trust them to be a good partner for your friend its all good. Your best friend is also someone that would help your friend and her partner and the other way around. When your friend gets so close to another human, that becomes part of her life u respect that. In cases were u notice red flags u tell her of course, since the rose colored glasses shit is quiet real. 🌹🌶

@@oliveoyl1802 so men can be trusted xD i always like when u blame only 1 side in cheating aka women, cheating involve 2 two, you can t innoncent men, both are at fault

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I was having a burger today and the ketchup packet opened up easily but I had to use scissors for the mustard packet. 😂😂😂

Low key the best response 😂

Suga was like, you must earn your perilla leaf 😂

😅😅😅😅

A bit stupid. Stand your ground, dont blindly follow what your bias thinks. Eventho i know he was just kidding.

A true suppoter 😂😂

I am with you, same , my thoughts as well

It’s deep seated insecurity is what it is

I'm with jhope all the way!

It was JK who was seriously so against it. And Jin was like debating with him. I think V was not really against it but was just a teaser at that time.

@@abigailreyes1503 To play devils advocate I think JK would enjoy a partner who teases him Like I just imagine his partner make dead eye contact while peeling a perilla leaf for some other guy and watching Jungkook squirm and pout across the table 😂😂😂😂 I think he’d be into that 😂

They are both possessive lol. I get it. I won't like my boyfriend to go out of his way to help my friend. I would help my friend instead.

they too were joking and being playful but alright

You understand that the perilla debate in Korea is a joke, right? It's somewhat of a meme, similar to the anti-mint chocolate ice cream or pro-mint chocolate ice cream, or the debate about whether pineapples on pizza are allowed or not.

I visited my friend and we went out and on getting back home, her husband washed both our shoes because they were white sneakers and got stained. Does that mean that it’s a red flag. I am married as well.

At the end of the episode they said that those conversations don't reflect their real personalities and hoped people won't misjudge them. Watch the full episode before jumping into conclusions.

Exactlyyyy like opening the packet is fine, but squeezing it for her is kinda... 🤡🤚

It’s literally just squeezing ketchup why y’all acting like he cheating on her😭

Exactly my thoughts 😂

@@Guangdian-qi1ucthat’s some shit a parent does for a child, she can put her own damn ketchup on her food once it’s open🤦🏽‍♀️

It's only Korean!

@@_biss_dont_4k_with_me_ no it's not. It's a Gen Z issue in a lot of cultures.

It can be taken in any context 😊

oh babe don't go to Korea 😅 everyone's spoon goes in one soup

absolutely 😅

Even SEA country don't do it and I will argue SEA countries are more conservative than Korea . They don't even believe in one night stand and have lower divorce and cheating rate than Korea . So your argument about Korea is wrong . Maybe it's a culture thing where Korean are more possessive to their partner or feeding someone is kind of affection .I will be more impressed if my gf is kind and helping to others . If she goes overboard or ignore me and help my friend then it will be a problem but just helping to pick a leaf is nothing of this sort .

Yeah for the McDonald’s one the boyfriend could just open it and hand it back to them… doesn’t need to do it all for her. She only had issues opening the packet 😅