funny how your conversation changes when your circumstances changes

She spoke a entire dialogue of bullshit. At the end of the day I don’t want my daughters shacked up with a guy playing house.

We're living in an age of wickedness. We okay anything based on feelings. The lack of order is being emphasized.

Marriage is Holy Matrimony between two people in the presence and eye's of GOD the Creator. "And what God joined to together, let no man separate." You don't even need to spend exorbitant amount's of money to do what the two of you need to say to each other; your vow's to one another. Just elope like me and my wife did! 35 year's strong; and still going strong! Because we married each other for love and companionship! #facts #praiseGod

This is why the black family, wealth, property ownership and morality is extinct.

LADIES AND GENTLEMEN… GET MARRIED 👑👑🙏🏽🙏🏽🌹🌹

Marriage is a commitment with God, two people, and their families. That's that problem, people are worried about paper work. It's about God mostly.

I can understand why people don’t want to get married, it’s just a piece of paper but to me it’s what it symbolizes. Being someone’s wife or husband is a different level of love and respect.

Marriage is legally binding for accountability reasons...people she is referring to want the perks of a committed relationship without the consequences of breaking a vow you made

I still want marriage my parents were married 40+ years until my father died real love traditional he provided she kept the house and and took care of us family vacations everything I’m a school teacher and I want that someday

Spirituality and love are the main ingredients to holding a marriage together .

Why would I want to hear someone's feelings on marriage when theirs wasn't successful.

I'm glad these celebrities have no choice but to address the elephant in the room. The numbers don't lie. People are leaving these relationships for a peace of mind.

LaLa is full of so much cap 🧢. Interesting how the thought process changes when the circumstances are different.

I prefer the piece of paper over someone's word. People change their mind over feelings. The piece of paper reminds you of the consequences. We need some form of regulation.

Yes a marrage license is just a piece of paper as is a dollar its also just a piece of paper...

That's not the reason, people have a shorter attention span these days. Relationships are way shorter. People are just fine with wasting their time being in three two 4-year relationships and moving on to the next person. That's the reason why people aren't getting married. With social media and everything people have more choices than ever and some can't handle that power

She's right some people don't get married for those reasons, and feeling they have to change a lot goes into it

Her goals didn't change she said its sad they they don't, but she understands.

I read the comments. She is only explaining how relationships have changed, not anything on a personal level.

I'm not understanding these people commenting about her hitting a wall when she had a whole husband and now doesn't because he made a choice to be unfaithful? She did commit to her husband, he just chose not to commit to her.

Nah I made a promise before family and Yahweh and I will do my best not break that covenant. My word means everything to me. Finding out how to better love my husband is one of my daily goals.

I hear people constantly say they're not in relationships because they want 'peace of mind'. They have more options now. But if you ever have a deep conversation with those people, they're not even at peace alone. And if you have so many options, why are you still unhappy? Those options are not working. And most people need to work on their mental health and childhood trauma. Then worry about a relationship later. We're listening to broken people give advice on the internet based on opinion and no experience. We don't know these people's personal life situations. And marriage is not an option for most people because they're not in a position to be a wife or husband. Wait until that person can attract the person they want or finances in order. We always hear a different story.

The reason why most people don't want marriage is because they are in situationships not relationships. When u truly love and find your person, mate in life...trust me u will want marriage, children the whole nine. ....Period!!!!!

My mother always said show me your friends and I’ll show you. What you’ll become

"IT'S ALWAYS BUSINESS NEVER PERSONAL."-Nino Brown Marriage is a business contract..💯👑

This is clearly the relationship that Jay-z & Beyoncé have

People are fickle. Just because she didn't have a successful marriage doesn't mean she can't give advice. She's a beautiful woman, quit hating!!!

I talk to a lot of seniors in my line of business. There are ups and downs in relationships work through them the end game is to keep the family together. When you walk into a marriage thinking what if you’ve already started your path to destruction. It’s really sad. When I walked into my parents house and saw the huge dinning room table gone I was in shock. It took me a minute to realize that it’s my turn to take over. I’m the eldest child and the best cook. So my house it is! The circle of life

Layla isn’t marriage material that’s all next …

Men have been saying that as an excuse not to get married and to make women feel bad for wanting to be married but now when a woman who has gone through divorce says the exact same thing, now yall disagree??

The goal should always be marriage but that’s just me! ♾️

"We're living in a new day and age.." period!

Women killed it I wonder when they will just admit this shit

We been taught “marriage” for a piece of paper.. create a soul tie and marriage has happened spiritually between souls

I truly believe that marriage is just for the religious people who honor God. Who practice what they preach. Because this is really a godly platform. A contract between the two man and woman and the creator. Out side of that worldly people in this time and age, need to build friendship and respect and enjoy each other's company. Done deal!

Well.....have fun calling your significant other my girlfriend or boyfriend for how many years ya'lll stay together. Us married folks can enjoy honoring our partners as "wife" or "husband".

Translation: nobody her age wants to marry her is what she means to say

Being married spiritually with God at the centre of your relationship is more important than legal paper work. Legal paper means nothing its just business

Commitment does not exist without legality! I am currently married 32 yrs and counting! Lala got luv for you but you sound silly as hell

The way them sunshades popped on all of a sudden I thought I had just been neutralized

The Wall is Undefeated.

Anyone who’s had a bad divorce will tell you it’s really hard to want to do that again.

I’m a married man and I actually agree with what she’s saying. People don’t necessarily need to sign a legally binding document “marriage certificate” to be happy in a committed relationship. If I ever get a divorce I’ll never get married again.

Young ladies choose wisely

A business agreement when you got married to your ex, you should of married for love and happiness, and a life time partner. Young ladies, please don’t listen to this person, she is bitter and wants all relationships to be bitter. God loves marriage!🙏🏽❤️

She’s right though, Idk why ppl seem upset. She’s merely speaking truth of what a majority are expressing. If you pay attention, it’s definitely NOT the goal for many. They just aren’t “pressed” about it anymore 🤷🏾‍♀️

People dont want to go through the trials of what commitment brings yet want the rewards of what commitment offers.

That wall hurts Rest In Peace the god father

She said it’s sad to her that marriage isn’t the goal. She didn’t say that’s how she feels about marriage. Look at the comments going in on her because her marriage ended. Ppl can change their mind, it’s allowed! Shame on people for being so judgmental 😐

You get what you work for. Media is not selling marriages, media is telling women to BOSS up and you don’t need a man. At the end of the day everybody wants to have someone they can grow old with. It’s all going to depend on how much damage you do to your reputation in the process of getting to a point of actually realizing it.

Y’all crazy, this woman experienced marriage with a high profile athlete and he had a BABY ON HER A DECADE IN like??? OF COURSE her pov changed should she be like rahsheeda and fake the funk? foh i know women who’re 29 who got married at 19 not for love but because she’s in the airforce it just made sense at the time it make even more sense now they both making money and she still cheated on her perfect and i do mean perfect husband twice once she got so depressed over the side nigga her husband had to help her out of it.. the last one was cheating on his wife too now she got it all out her system and wanna have kids with her husband and is having trouble tf type marriage is that?.. my father left my mom 25 years ago to marry a woman he thought would elevate him she didn’t he’s been miserable ever since he thought he was going to be a famous photographer in NY but he messed up and got her pregnant on the way literally while he was leaving my mother and had to become the head of another household while i was only 10 that was not the plan for him but he had to ride that out idk if he was cheating the whole time in his marriage but he definitely had a side piece in the quarantine okay so idk what type of marriage y’all looking for but everybody don’t wanna be tied by no paper work to mfs unhappily wed AF just to say you married lmao some people want to be able to trust and love and grow together and that’s it y’all clearly ain’t never been tied to shit definitely ain’t never had no money or assets to fight over and i ain’t even a lala fan, but she ain’t lying. Y’all just too broke and broken to comprehend what she’s saying because if it was coming from a divorced white man with money saying he not ever walking down the aisle again which they do say that a lot wouldn’t nobody be saying nothing but y’all want black women to just be married so bad damn being happy, just get married 🤡

That wall undefeated

She’s absolutely right! The days when love was one of our top priorities, are over. If being in a commitment and union isn’t respected anymore, then what’s the point of compromising.

If you don't get married and you are engaging in sex, then you are living in sin. Getting married also grants you security. 💯

Now she’s marriage counselor now …the wall hitting and nobody wants her ..go back to Melo

Marriage is a choice, just like anything else. Whether married or shacking you still have to choose to be in either on a day to day, heck minute by minute basis. While I do believe marriage is more then “a piece of paper” from a spiritual aspect 1st and then other areas. I also believe that if Lala met someone with a deep desire for her and marriage (similar to her sister friends Kelly or Ciara’s partners desire, commitment, friendship, honor, respect and love for them) then I absolutely believe this amazing, strong, beautiful Queen would remarry. Similar to Jeanie Mai’s heart being reopened to the greatest love for her life, Mr Jeezy. Only time will tell Queen ❤

yea folk say this shit but its NOT JUST A PIECE OF PAPER

The problem is there’s third party in this contract which is the government and it’s what messes the contract if it’s just you two agreeing to be there for each other till death it works…it worked for my mom and dad and it’s working for me

Why does she looks like she's 50

She’s 50 talking like a teenager. Hanging around those kardashians to much .

Been in a relationship for 15 years and no plans on getting married. You can make sure the person you love and care about is taking care of. Setup a trust, beneficiary forms for pension, 401k, life insurance. You can ensure your family is taken care of without needing to sign a piece of paper stating you're married. For those that use "God" as a reason, let me know how that works out for you when I have to review your Final Judgement of Dissolution and/or QDRO separating your community property interest.

I unintentionally burst out laughing when I read the caption 🤣🤣 y’all ain’t serious 😂 lala? Marriage ? Hahahaha

How do people not married know so much about married people.... Killin me

Well her husband was cheating and having side babies so I get her stance.

It makes a difference when you compare the rights and benefits Vanessa Bryant had compared to Lauren London! Marriage is powerful. The bond is important but what hood is it if you don’t have the privileges that come with it.

I believe the union of "Love" is what messes things up. Love is an emotion. Emotions can be fleeting. This is why arranged marriages last longer because the initiating factor isn't a "feeling".

She right from what she's saying. You have to do what's best for you.

She sounds hurt and I get it, but don’t take a dump on that covenant because it didn’t work out for you. You guys were going strong until those circumstances, I’m sure we all on the outside wouldn’t know, that changed that dynamic for y’all.

Lala is right...again...like she ALWAYS will be....for me!

Mrs gets respect and Ms gets regrets !😂

Didn’t she benefit from being married to Melo… Im sure she getting some alimony 😂🤦🏾‍♂️

It's more than a piece of paper. It is covenant with God and you & your spouse... what saddens me is that the black family is in bad shape. We need to get back to Honoring God, as a people, as a nation, as a world. PERIOD!!!

When Marriage Don’t Work This Is How they talk😢

Marriage is only a paper to those who never understood what it truly is or to those who masked their disappointment in this new age approach to relationships.

We live in a time to see liberated women choose to be alone. Very sad 😔.

La la a real one...she stood by her man like a soldier

I hate when people say that marriage is just a piece of paper." It is a union, a covenant between man , wife , and God.

she disagrees with the Notion people she even SAID it actually saddens her that it's not the goal for people anymore..some of yall have selective hearing and rush to the comments section.😖

She's One 2 Talk 🤐❗

I forgot how articulate LaLa is…. Get back into media…. Only act unless you’re producing the film… #Oprah

All she saying is "if I can't have that then you won't" she had to learn the hard way 😂😂

I’m hearing a lot of people say they believe that Marriage is not the ultimate commitment anymore in a relationship but producing kids is. I don’t share those values but since so many people are being loyal, why bother with the paperwork?

Marriage is less and less interesting the more "independent" women strive to be. It's not a good deal for the men they want, and the men they want to marry don't want independent minded women. These more fickle and less structurally sound "partnerships" will have to suffice for most couples.

As a married woman, I find it disheartening that a divorced woman is now speaking against getting married. Using phrases such as, “A piece of paper, a business transaction, splitting assets”…is an attempt to diminish the sacred union that God created simply because she got dogged out (allegedly) by her former husband. We all must use discernment when it comes to conversations like this. These celebrities will have you out here stuck on stupid, and broke like Chuck taking their “advice”. Y’all be safe out there! 🙏🏾💕

Tobit 7:14 “And called Edna his wife, and took paper, and did write an instrument of covenants, and sealed it.” Marriage and the paperwork are actually a biblical commandment from God.

What she's really trying to say is I don't want to join a club that I don't qualify for as a member

She lying

I have experienced both .Go for that marriage when you turn 50 and above you will thank me for it.

A fool will sign a marriage contract 🤣

Expiration date reached

She said all this crap after her marriage failed but she has to have a plan for all that mess she is saying if it doesn't work out. So these Modern day women are messing with these young girls minds and the young women need to stay away from women like this.

Marriage has ALWAYS been about business.

Sad world a world of feelings where everyone’s opinion is true 😅 God bless America 🇺🇸

🧢…

She's 💯right ✅️

The crazy thing is that y’all been under that white boy for so long and his rule and his way of life that you don’t know. Marriage was never about love, it was about power and it stood on respect, it brought kingdoms and tribes and families together. It made peace and it love came out of it then so be it.

Being a wife and mother was never the life I wanted for myself. I make zero apologies. Everyone has to live their happiest and best life.

No..! what did she do to her face

Pay attention ladies. This is what happens to a 40 plus year old woman after she realizes that she probably shouldn’t have let go of her marriage without making a firm analysis of the dating pool. Now she’s out here capping. One year away from being a cat lady. 😂😂