This man totally changed my life at my high school,,,tell him never to forget to go to Thitani girls,,,, God bless you musyoka zulu
@omobege48703 жыл бұрын
Well said. I needed to hear that closure part. Let him go and don’t chase him, let him running away be your closure , accept that you’re alone and come out of it quickly 👍🏼. Please we need a part 2.
@ismahannoor58503 жыл бұрын
Benjamin you are so full of wisdom and humour💖💖💖
@carondinda16823 жыл бұрын
When a lady ghosts you it means she is done..... Very true 💃
@asantesana56893 жыл бұрын
Another thing don't over divulge messy family history protect your family not matter how many grandmothers were witches don't disrespect your family even if your father or mother abandoned you don't go into messy details. Some people use this against you to humiliate you when the relationship is over
@chunguzamambo22343 жыл бұрын
Thanks dear, you are right
@YasminMahnaz3 жыл бұрын
Wow . That is true in many cultures.. I thought we should tell truth a little so that other can prepare what they have deal with in future maybe. Isn't it like lying ? I wonder what dr Zulu would say?!
@asantesana56893 жыл бұрын
@@YasminMahnaz I did not phrase that well by all means be honest but carry yourself with dignity and Respect in a relationship, sometimes people come from broken homes and they go on to be in abusive relationships because they carry their past.Healing will help regain one's self esteem leading to better relationships.
@kikikiki32163 жыл бұрын
Home truth, thanks for the reminder, an ex did this to me.
@felixamollo59263 жыл бұрын
This super wisdom...Thank you Benjamin & Joyce together with the management 🔥🤙🔥
@evelynhephi18893 жыл бұрын
When one partner is growing nd the other is not might lead to separation. 🙏🏾
@kmags80653 жыл бұрын
This is so true
@maerivers47463 жыл бұрын
This man is too wise he is quick I love his advice it has helped me in so many ways !!! Yes ladies do try to tie men to them then they complicate everyone life even the child’s!!!
@salina90333 жыл бұрын
Joyce your hair❤️👌
@user-wc3xi5ci3i3 жыл бұрын
And her legs 💕
@ruthkibu21373 жыл бұрын
Wow, super awesome. Thanks Benjamin. I have learnt a lot.
@justmo68963 жыл бұрын
May I have wisdom,he is remarkable!👏👍
@lilianikerubo79093 жыл бұрын
Very true accept. It happened to me l accepted and moved on now am happy with my daughter she is now 7yrs
@tinachristine45733 жыл бұрын
People who run around confessing their past running around with mungiki to their new loves are so naive it's ridiculous.
@melissagitts3 жыл бұрын
Bitter truths. I'm unlearning this
@cathy38423 жыл бұрын
My x left me without telling me y n I kept begging him but it was too late,I got so heartbroken n thank God for healing me
@hellenanyango12413 жыл бұрын
It's two weeks now since he left without notice.. Thinking about it makes me wanna cry
@wellness2543 жыл бұрын
Hugs...try move on and be happy. You deserve to be happy..self love
@trizahkabui15523 жыл бұрын
It's really heartbreaking 😔hugs, you shall overcome
@dosiakumbe81053 жыл бұрын
Hang in there! Stare at yourself in the mirror and remind yourself that you deserve a better kind of love! Love does not ghost on you! You should not entertain ghosts in your life, you need something real ❤️
@damarismwangi10383 жыл бұрын
Watching from Kuala Lumpur
@jemfridahanangwe11523 жыл бұрын
Thank you, thank you, thank you again ,I would have messed if I didn't watch this,🙏
@Africanhistory8633 жыл бұрын
Thanks alot Benjamin nd joyce 🙏
@jacqueypatrick40903 жыл бұрын
I wish I listened to this earlier 😭😭😭 I think I lost him Long time ago now
@nebby7603 жыл бұрын
There is this lady I love but her past scared me, I had to run for my life 🤣🤣🤣
@adeolaadekanye24383 жыл бұрын
Correct guy!
@hshshsushssheheuueww16833 жыл бұрын
By the way a certain guy ask me,what do I want in my life in terms of r/ship and I had no answer, because for me I want this guy who is ready to convince me (kunikatia hadi niingie box) and not someone to interview me
@hshshsushssheheuueww16833 жыл бұрын
@@usajimary yeah me too very boring questions,,, hope mine is still there who is not a interviewer
@melissagitts3 жыл бұрын
How did that go for you? Not explaining what you wanted ..did it work?
@jeccym87153 жыл бұрын
I hate interviews as well uuff
@kikikiki32163 жыл бұрын
Never tell a guy about the type of relationship you want.. He will play the role to fit what you want... Say something like, a thoughtful and person and see what the guy is about... So it's like saying when you see your guy you will know it.
@cathy38423 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@tesss_tequila3 жыл бұрын
Wowww...came at the right time
@alukwejoy8082 жыл бұрын
What I needed to hear
@marymugo73873 жыл бұрын
My best friend disclosed my past to my boyfriend and it caused me a lifetime relationship 😭😭😭😭
@agathanabakooza27433 жыл бұрын
Don’t worry honey same issue with me 😢😢😢😢😢
@mapalokaunda79002 жыл бұрын
Powerful 🙌🙌
@fiae28973 жыл бұрын
Especially if you had multiple partners, he will not take you seriously. 🙄
@lucieblessing13 жыл бұрын
What if you kept silent for the past and mayb comes to realize something you did and you didnt tell before... Si apo ndo utaachwa mchana ketemee😒😒heri umwabie relationship ikiwa young akitaka akuache iko nini... Coz kufichana past lifes thats thy begining of untrust to the rlship my view though🙄🙄
@sophiakarimi35893 жыл бұрын
Very true..... Secrets of past do destroy you alot and you can't keep them forever....its healthy to share past
@neemamnape46563 жыл бұрын
Some people will take it okay...then after watause it against you....its tricky
@Krizadh3 жыл бұрын
You can share just enough that is relevant moving forward and you cannot do that day 1
@sengabas61173 жыл бұрын
Do not tell them until you are sure they are the right one. If they're going to leave, they can leave without you having to divulge as soon as meet.
@kikikiki32163 жыл бұрын
I will say answer all his questions in a descrete way without going into too much details.
@ebbykerubo953 жыл бұрын
Let's call bygones be bygones
@katlegoletsholo3063 жыл бұрын
I wish I saw this video much earlier...
@positivesoul.94903 жыл бұрын
No ring on Benjamin's finger... 🤔 Who else noticed it??
@liliankerubo93193 жыл бұрын
I'm a good liar about my past ,I don't know why😂😂
@honeybee89273 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@rachelmuthoni21713 жыл бұрын
This is the mistake I did
@DH-pd4xp3 жыл бұрын
Me too being "transparent" subjected me to a relationship riddled with accusations, mistrust constant criticism and condemnation, thank God I learned my lesson.
@edinakimeu31813 жыл бұрын
Nice show❤️
@temitopeoyeyipo27943 жыл бұрын
What if d Woman ghosts d man bcos she discovers he is a Narc; At least, U can't tell a snake Pls I want to go
@jeccym87153 жыл бұрын
You run for your life, my former bf was a narcissist, nobody told me to run🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️,
@sheribelle3 жыл бұрын
Run, hide, disappear, change location, don't look for closure and never look back. Narcissists steal, kill, destroy in totality. The worst experience dating them. Run.
@motherandson44023 жыл бұрын
Some pretty interesting comments. I believe a Godly will be different the past is not important to the relationship because with christ we are new creation all things are make new through Christ.
@johanneskapeuasha94983 жыл бұрын
Will you still be in a relationship with me when I am sick (STI and HIV + being damaged) due to my past? A women past will always tell the type of future she will have
@omobege48703 жыл бұрын
What if one party is not Godly?
@neemamnape46563 жыл бұрын
This is nice but honestly I had to slow down the speed to understand... My advice to viewers play it on 0.75× speed
@YasminMahnaz3 жыл бұрын
Haha I love it. I usually speeded up at least 1.25×or even 1.5x but all speeds too fast. I had put on normal..I was even thinking slow Duan video but I understood!!!
@adeolaadekanye24383 жыл бұрын
Lol best tip!
@jeccym87153 жыл бұрын
I don't really understand like what re the things that I would share with my partner concerning my past and he will run away???? I don't get it, Nice one but short😍😍, we need part 2 pls😄❤
@reubenbokea54593 жыл бұрын
You can't relate if you don't have a dark past.
@jeccym87153 жыл бұрын
@@reubenbokea5459 I asked for examples, to be able to understand, I didn't relate with myself, I'm just trying to understand
@blessedemily36523 жыл бұрын
@@jeccym8715 e.g sleeping around,stealing if you ever did e.t.c
@michaelguya53473 жыл бұрын
A lady once told me about her past and that was the end..Zulu is right.
@makenaodero3 жыл бұрын
What if she told you their past so that no one else can come to tell you. You know those friends who like destroying people's relationships.
@jeccym87153 жыл бұрын
And what was that that made you run away? Because if you run away from her for sharing with you her past, instead of embracing her you avoided her, makes you a COWARD with a capital letter!
@sophiakarimi35893 жыл бұрын
You never expected her to keep the past if you truly cherished her......nobody who is perfect we all have past
@jeccym87153 жыл бұрын
@@sophiakarimi3589 👌👌👌👌
@leratorato67513 жыл бұрын
I think is transparency, and trust to tell a person your past
@syliviakemunto23923 жыл бұрын
Naked truth 😜
@sbundwandwe65633 жыл бұрын
Steve Harvey lo lol
@bettynyakiba89223 жыл бұрын
A man who is scared of your different opinion or positive defiance is not your guy.... i always say its ok to disagree...its not a big deal