when everyone dresses the same irl it reminds me of my old sims saves where i was really obsessed with certain jeans or tops and would put every sim in the same outfit just different color variations

People really stay wanting their products spoon fed to them, my favorite example I’ve seen on Pinterest was a pic with a vase and some dried flowers in it: “Where are the flowers from?” “the Earth”

you bring up such an interesting point about what tiktok specifically has done for consumer culture. i’ve had ppl on tiktok call me a gatekeeper for saying an item was thrifted instead of going to my closet, finding the piece, reading the label, and responding with the exact brand!!! i think the internet has spoiled us by giving us instant access to so much info and now we feel entitled enough to pester people we don’t know for details as small as the label on their top

Agreed. These people sharing these “dupes” are sharing Amazon fashion, under the pretense that it’s “better” when it’s all crappy fast fashion at the end of the day.

also a reminder that you can enjoy and love a piece of clothing or accessories without ever purchasing it!

I was hesitant but “if gatekeeping makes people shop less…” convinced me you’re right. Everyone has to have the exact thing only for it to be out of style in a few weeks and then it gets donated somewhere or put in a landfill. It’s wild!

I cannot express how the Pinterest comments boil my blood. On a celeb pic from the 90s some idiot will say "where can I find this dress, trousers, top etc" like bro...in Kate Moss's wardrobe archives?? They will ask where plain white tees are from for gods sake. I'm all about gatekeeping, if you're too dumb to do the search, you don't deserve it 😂

You were so real for this, a large part of why I love thrifting is bc I can just tell people I don't know and it isn't a lie LOL

Laini teaching basic critical thinking skills 💅🏼

The thrill of the hunt is one of the most enjoyable parts of fashion. Narrowing down in exactly what you want, trying on ton of options and not settling, randomly finally finding the perfect leather jacket on a Thursday afternoon in July… yeah I’d take that any day.

Ive been accidentally gatekeeping because I thrift everything and cut the tags off cuz Theyre itchy. Literally cannot tell anyone where they can get my clothes.

Congrats on the birth of your daughter! Could you do a video on unpopular fashion opinions when it comes to dressing children? Looking forward to more videos from you this year, you’ve been doing amazing!💜

So I see that the 'dont give a f*ck' thing you mentioned experiencing in one video you made during the 1st half of your pregnancy continues. That is absolutely fantastic. I really enjoy the polite assertiveness and no-nonsense, yet never rude content you've been making for many months now. You're articulate, sharp, solid. Keep keeping those gates where gatekeeping is needed!

i also kinda like gatekeeping because i think everyone nowadays kind of dresses the same, even within certain niches or aesthetics! like why do you want that specific thing, can’t you just use it as a reference and buy something similar? 😗

The best moment is when you find something at the thrift you’ve been searching months or even longer for, and just happen to come across it 💕

I recently deleted Tik Tok because I felt like my FYP became one giant ad for clothing, "dupes", and other stuff I don't need. I kept seeing the same items over and over, and even though I knew the trend would die out in a couple months (i.e, the platform uggs), I still felt a pressure to buy the OG uggs or find a dupe. I'm hoping that I'll be able to find my own sense of style again this year without the influence of Tik Tok and other social media. Great video Laini and congratulations on your baby girl!

in response to unsubscribers... the truth hurts..and its really applaudable as a fashion influencer to guide us in the right direction. it's like you aren't gatekeeping gatekeeping. Wanting your followers to be on the same page as you on this is the ultimate sign of respect and support.

for me it's the entitlement... they expect you to constantly be online, spending every minute of your time responding to every comment asking for a link or the brand. I love when influencers share new and fun brands, obviously, but it's 100% a choice. But if an influencer doesn't want to share a brand, then i 100% get that. As an influencer it most also be hard to constantly be copied. I know it's the job of an influencer to 'influence', but when someone wears a super cool unique outfit and not only does the follower/subscriber take inspiration of it, but suddenly ff brands start to copy it... that must suck.

There is nothing wrong with gatekeeping in my opinion. I think it’s so much better to feel individual and unique, your style is such a large form of self expression. Is it wrong to gatekeep with friends? I have had more than a few friends who want to get the same exact pieces as me and I tell them but often times I’m like “why did I tell them? They are going to copy me” I don’t want the negative reaction if I’m not honest but I had vintage pants from the 70s and my friend searched high and low for ones similar and even down to jewelry. It became overwhelming to be asked constantly about pieces so I stopped telling her altogether because I felt like what was part of personal self expression was being duplicated too often

Yes, for all the reasons listed. I also hate when people accuse others of gatekeeping because let's be real...Everyone does it. If it's not with fashion, people will gatekeep anything else they "consume." For example, music. Everybody has that one song/artist they loved before it became an overplayed tiktok audio. Gatekeeping is people's way of keeping things special to them still special. That's really not a crime, as long as you aren't mean about it. Also, there's a noticeable difference between commenting an insincere "link???" on everything and showing a genuine interest in the style (which usually involves first looking into it yourself anyway).

This video made sense! And your daughter was not distracting. The best thing you can do if you love fashion, I think, is to be a little on the outside of the fashion community. It’s kind of the other side of gatekeeping, I just don’t really seek out what other people wear and instead look for inspiration in how to play around with what I already have. That way your style is really yours!

Love this!! U articulated a frustration I (sometimes) have with influencer culture but couldn't put into words.

The thrill of the hunt is the BEST! I’ve been searching for the perfect slip dress for over a year (I’m very picky lol) and I finally found it on eBay! I almost cried when I won the auction 😂

I agree generally with a lot of the points made but I do think it’s easy to get really wrapped up in being special and unique in a way that’s actually deleterious for the gatekeeper themselves. I’ve had friends who if u wore a similar item of clothing to them they’d have this mini freak out cos their sense of self was so wrapped up in their style. I think not gatekeeping at times (at least on a smaller scale) can help ppl feel liberated from the need to be unique to this extent

I love the idea of not being able to buy a piece of clothing immediately (and I say this as a very impatient person) - as you said, if I am willing to wait so long for that one item it means I’m going to get my wear out of it and also the thrill of finally getting it is so worth the wait

I keep seeing people asking for a specific item in Instagram posts even though the influencer tags their outfits in every post, and it makes me go "Please put some effort into looking for that specific item??" Like come on. But yeah at first I was a little wary of this video's title, but you make such good points! I guess it's because I was thinking of gatekeeping in the video game/comic book space, where gatekeeping is toxic af.

I will say, I’m plus sized and have issues finding brands that can fit my size. So sometimes I want plus sized influencers to post so I have more options bc the world ain’t for me sis

I love the way you describe the thrill of the hunt. A lot of the clothes I’ve thrifted online recently have been my dream pieces that I searched for years to find. It feels amazing to finally get to wear them!

my best fashion advice is to have a mom or grandma with a fashion sense. i'm not even trying to gatekeep but my pieces are all 20+ years old so that's that. if this doesn't work, befriend your neighbour, help people move out, send letters to that aunt you never see. you get relationships, amazing clothing and the great stories that come with it.

Seeing a clothing item on a screen and immediately being ready to buy is insane to me

ie: Issa Rae posted a group photo over the summer and she was wearing this BEAUTIFUL dress. I checked all the tags on posts of posts, searched throughout insta and finally found the designer. I scrolled until I found the dress on their page- so I could get the name. Then, got their contact information and had one of my friends inquire on whats app (bc i dont have the app/account) for the price/availability. I've done this so many times for v specific pieces- sometimes I'm successful, sometimes I'm not. But I love the hunt and thrill of looking for items.

really loving the honesty about style on your channel lately - its so refreshing

I feel like tiktok has completely changed people's mindset on this topic. So many people on tiktok will ask questions(not just related to fashion) that could have easily been answered if they just used google or Pinterest or just common sense. I also love the effects you mentioned of gatekeeping

The way people expect influencers to share every little detail of everything they wear ever is just ASTOUNDING and it often comes off very obnoxious and entitled when they demand that info. If I was an influencer, I would hate linking everyrhing all the time. It would make me feel like I was just a marketing tactic and my whole purpose was to sell clothes and it would kill me

I agree with some of this however as a plus size person I have a different perspective on it. It’s genuinely near impossible to find certain items to dress the way I want to so if I see an influencer my size wearing something I love I will 100% ask where it’s from. It’s very different to a size 6 girl asking where a white T-shirt is from that they can literally find anywhere.

Gatekeeping doesn't necessarily reduce consumption. Part of intentional and thoughtful consumption is finding the exact item you're looking for over time. Someone may have found it. I end up consuming much more trying to guess or dupe the exact one item that I wanted all along. Also, the perspective expressed in the video seems to come from people who fit the market ideal. For those of us who might be different colors, sizes, etc. Until VERY recently it was impossible to find a "nude" in my skintone. By default that was pinkish tan color. Even now I can't participate in the winter tight trend bc the thick tights aren't even sold in brown. When someone finds a back or there is finally a product for people neglected by companies/marketing, sharing is the best thing that marginalized people can do. We can't speak with our dollars if we don't even know that things exist or how to get them. This is even more the case bc a lot of these items are performative. How many companies finally came out with brown bras, etc. and have already discontinued the products? It means we can be stuck trying to get our hands on items that won't even be brought into the permanent line. Gatekeeping isn't always the solution. Now, how or when we ask is a different topic (I'm referring to your tiktok examples).

Thank u for articulating this! I suppose the trend cycle has always worked this way, but it definitely feels like the "tiktokification" of consumerism has made things even more of a frenzy. I think young people are especially vulnerable to getting swept up in hopping on one link/product, with the desire to fit in etc. Also, your point about feeling relief when something is out of stock is so relatable - do I actually like it or do I like the instant gratification? Another great vid Laini/Lucy!

Yes you’re so right on this. Also if someone says it’s thrifted & they don’t want to say the tag, it could be cause they don’t want to support the fast fashion brand

Laini I am SO WITH YOU with your last point. Often, when I like something and I see it’s sold out, I’m so relieved because it’s one less thing I feel I have to buy! I’ve pledged for years to not shop fast fashion with only a few exceptions (sometimes I do get my denim from Urban), and it’s saved my ass so many times with fashion trends. But even still, sometimes I’ll find a trend that was spearheaded by an indie fashion house or sustainable brand, and I’ll feel like I need it (like the House of Sunny Daybreaker Cardi), I’ll save up for it for a few months, and if I still like it, I’ll purchase it. Giving myself the time to discern is so helpful, although I do think the Daybreaker Cardi is not all it was cracked up to be (I bought it during 2020 and I’ve worn it maybe three times lol). I loved this video, I resonate so much!!

I really like the video essay format that you've been doing, I love to have them in the background! Thx Laini

I have never relayed to a video MORE IN MY LIFE. I am on the never-ending hunt for good pairs of jeans. I look EVERY TIME I go thrifting, and when you find that pair that matches the silhouette you’re going for (not the exact pair, but the SHAPE), best feeling ever. Also, recently I was looking for some cooler alternative to the Ugg minis because they feel kind of basic to me, and I found a slipper for $20 that is a similar vibe but they look way different (quilted in top and the color is different), and someone asked me if they were The North Face slippers. NOTHING better in the world than looking good and finding clothes that match the vibe you want without just buying the exact same item as everyone else.

i totally agree with this take, laini! my best friend and i were bored over break and walked around the mall for an hour and couldn’t believe how EVERY SINGLE STORE was selling the same shit. it was very uninspiring. then we went thrifting and found so many good things, with originality and that were actually built to last. i’m going to challenge myself to adopt your ‘hunting’ before purchasing mentality in the new year

Exactly!!! You’re not a bitch Laini, this video is so real and the way you’re so candid about stuff like this is the reason why I’m such a longtime subscriber. it’s so much more fun to find your own version of something you like! Tiktok is a hell scape for “gatekeeping” and other buzzwords lol. I saw a tiktok where a girl said where she got something in the caption and people were still commenting asking where it was from. I replied to one girl saying read the caption and she accused me of being rude to her ahahah. I also literally hate the overuse/misuse of the word dupe. It’ll be an Amazon knock off of something and people will be like “it’s a dupe”, no that product was made as a replica of the original product.

I’ve never heard of gatekeeping in terms of not sharing links. Usually when I hear about gatekeeping in fashion it’s about turning away people of color or fat people from certain trends. So I was kinda relieved by your actual content.

Laini you are soooo real for speaking on instant gratification!!! Convenience in our culture has become so crazy, and it has made us super impatient to an insane extent. I agree with you 100% about the thrill, and I think more of us (myself included) should learn how to be patient and take time when considering an item to buy.

oh my god thank you for talking about this!! i wrote a senior thesis on social media and its connection to over consumption and it really needs more research surrounding it. something else i feel like you slightly touched on is the algorithms !!! i have gone through so many phases where i see something i like on tiktok then i like the video and i start getting enough videos that make me feel like i need to buy it and then every single video on my fyp has that product or brand in it. maybe i bought the product already, maybe i didnt, but suddenly i feel like everyone and their dog is wearing this sweater and i feel like its outdated and too trendy when in reality have i ever seen anyone wear it outside in the real world? 9/10 the answer is no. the overall entitlement for someone to share where they got things is insane. imagine chasing someone down a street yelling at them because they dont remember where they bought a shirt three years ago. and then there are influencers who make fun of the people who 'gatekeep' and say 'well im not going to gatekeep so heres where x,y,z are from' as if thats not fueling the expectations for people to disclose information/the cycle of overconsumption

I never heard someone else put it into words but I also really enjoying holding off waiting until I find the perfect version of the item I want. It literally took me 4 years to finally find the perfect pair of overalls. Anything I ever tried on I either didn't like or didn't fit. And once I put on the perfect one- no amount of instant gratification can compare to how I feel when I wear these overalls now!

“I love to shart on myself” don’t we all Laini don’t we all Also the little Lucy noises were absolutely adorable

“Yes I’m sad I don’t have them but…I’ll get over it” I cracked up. So true, it’s just clothes.

gatekeeping is giving the possibility to create something new, i feel like we need it more

I get what you mean in this video but the reason I ask others about the specific product they are wearing instead of searching it on my own is because I want someone that can vouch for the quality of that specific item. There’s so many times I’ve bought a piece and it looks terrible after a few washes. Sadly, this is not even dependent on price. Certain items from H&M last longer than designer items. To me it’s not just about the style.

Congrats on your daughter! So happy for you. I just adore you and your videos. Can you do a really colorful look book? Like mixing colors?

This video is so fucking important!!!!! Like why do we need the same stuff as everyone? I loooooove Depop and thrifting! The best stuff comes to you when you look and find what speaks to you!

The most annoying thing is going on pinterest and seeing three desperate people comment "where is it this from?" "where can I buy this?" on every single pin. Pinterest should be for inspo, not for shopping

Sharing a positive experience where someone gatekept something- became obsessed with the vibe of a crochet cardigan an influencer had and couldn’t find the link (like Laini, I don’t like to ask lol, she just didn’t have it tagged and probs thrifted it). I spent a long time searching on all the secondhand apps I have and most of the vintage cardis were pretty pricey- and though I would have gladly paid for the perfect one, the ones I was seeing weren’t quite “right”. Finally, after changing up my Poshmark keywords I found the PERFECT one for only $12 and let me tell you it was so satisfying! The seller just described it differently than I would have (beach cover up vs maxi cardigan) so I just had to try different things to find it.

Oh wow, you're spot on with my feelings in regards to gatekeeping fashion as well. For me, when I started improving my fashion sense and trying to dress more out of my comfort zone, I had people regularly asking me where items of my closet were bought and I always felt really self-conscious and reluctant to tell them. I thought at first maybe it was because I was scared I'd be judged on the brands I was buying, but for sure a part of the reason was also that I hoped they wouldn't go out of their way and specifically buy multiple items of clothing I was wearing on a day to day basis. I think one of the most fun parts about fashion is self-expression for sure! I completely agree with the fast-fashion mindset of buying into trends that we see people wearing on the internet as well, this type of fashion consumption isn't sustainable in the long term

this reminds me when I saw hand knit sweaters from a girl selling them go viral on tiktok and I wanted one so bad but everytime I went to her online shop, they were sold out even five mins after she restocked so months later I was still thinking about the sweaters so I learned how to make them myself and now it means so much more to me than if I bought the same sweaters everyone else on tiktok has. Mine are different and unique :)

This is the tea!!! I agree with everything you said 100%. Searching and shopping around for unique and specific pieces part of the thrill!

ive been watching you for months now, and you have become my fav youtuber easily. all ur vids feel like a facetime and natural

I’ve been a long time viewer but I rarely comment, I just want to say that all the content that you have been putting out lately resonates so much with me rn, even the things that I don’t completely agree on I find myself thinking about it later on and slowly agreeing with you. Kudos to you for making so much content while you were pregnant and even after giving birth! Also love the hair and the make up on this video!

We are all so oversaturated with items that we constantly feel the need to over consume. Like someone else in the comments said: you can appreciate an item and love it, without owning it. I enjoyed that criticism of consumerism and its relationship to the fast changing trend circles. I personally would always feel fine with sharing where I get my items from but i am not internet famous and therefor I dont feel I promote overconsumption. I feel like that you, Laini, found a good way to bring sustainable fashion closer to a lot of people to show how to do irl and online thrifting, and also by rewearing outfits and showing the same items over and over in your videos. I love that! If I buy an item, I dont only style it once, I want to wear the crap out of it in every way possible.

lollll i could not agree more… people act like it’s a human right to have a particular product just automatically supplied to them. if I thrifted something or found it in an online marketplace, u can do the same thing yourself if you really want it. I gatekeep the main online marketplace website i use also bc i don’t want the prices to inflate rapidly like they do on more popular platforms like depop

These are really good points, Laini! You are always pushing me not to look blindly for particular same, trendy pieces. I’ve actually found myself being more cautious when it comes to buying clothes, I spend a looot of time searching for pieces. And it actually helped me with my shopping problem. Now I don’t want just A thing, I want THE thing 😊 I really do think a lot about particular piece and spend WEEKS on searching. It would be so much easier to just have a link, but I would have so much more stuff and I would feel overwhelmed and bored so quickly.

this is the most genuine channel I have came across when it comes to fashion opinions 🤣 like if she hates it, she would express it. not even sugar coating. for this topic, I like it a lot cuz damn I also secretly gatekeeing things 🤭

More proof that social media isn't reality!! We see the same items all over online but see far fewer people wearing it irl. How is it that trend cycles happen before the product even makes it out of the purchaser's house, sometimes before it's worn even once?!

i love this video so much ! i agree not only does finding your own version of something allow u to like it so much more but also it contributes more to your own personal style in a way i think

sometimes i'll reverse image search an item and end up finding something similar, yet completely different from the item i initially searched and it's great! i like the hunt of the search, too. how else will you find your exact style or end up doing the *unthinkable* and actually find something you like on your own instead of just buying every single thing you've seen on someone else! lol. nothing wrong with liking the exact item someone is wearing by any means, but ya know, that's how we all end up wearing the same thing and end up getting sick of it. anyways i liked the video. it was honest and refreshing.

laini! you make some of the best fashion videos on youtube. plsssss make more fashion + critical thinking vids like this. thought provoking. love it 🫶🏽

oh you're so right about the thrill of the hunt!! i have a million things liked on vinted and when i finally buy it after like 6 months, i will never stop wearing that thing.

i've been subscribed to you for a while and I just wanna say, I love how more outspoken you've gotten! i love these rant-y vids

Laini you’ve been GLOWING ever since you’ve had Lucy 🥰🥰🥰

Laini YOU ARE SO RIGHT! Good for you for speaking your mind on a subject people might find controversial. It for real needed to be said! Also your daughter sleeping on your chest is so sweet. Sending good vibes and love to you and your precious family! 💙

i like gatekeeping when i have fast fashion clothes on. however trust me, when i’m wearing my favorite clothes (which are all thrifted) i won’t hesitate to tell people that they’re actually vintage. i want people to start thrifting more and unfortunately where i live i don’t see many people do it

I mean…if I’m just going to end up trying to get the same item I might as well just ask 😂

I’ve started knitting my own clothes so that I know it’s what I rlly want because why would I spend HOURS on something I hated ! Also no one can copy it exactly

I’m a part of the plus size community, and our options for cute, accessible clothing is very slim. So when I see a plus size creator showing off their cute outfit, sometimes I’ve gotta ask, because despite months/years of searching, I just can’t find pieces I want in my size. I think there’s an appropriate time and place for asking, of course, but I think it’s silly to be upset if the main purpose of whatever media you just produced (tiktok, reel, photoshoot) was to show off an outfit, and people ask for details about it. Idk, just a different perspective.

the little lucy noises towards the end made this video even better 🥺🥰

Laini you look so glowy and radiant! I hope motherhood is treating you well

Every single thing that you said.. really resonated with me. I’m always late to trends.. and only put on stuff that I really like. I scroll through Pinterest for inspiration.. Colors, textures etc.. and lastly, I love to hunt for something without a link. I have done all the things you’ve mentioned in the video😂

Completely agree and have used the same search tactics for years to find a unique secondhand/vintage piece via breaking down style elements, using keywords, Google image search, etc. It’s the thrill of the hunt that you mentioned- it absolutely does slow everything down, which makes it either very special when you find the perfect piece, saves you from buying something on a whim, or saves you from buying it all if you lose interest during that waiting period. Like you also addressed, a lot of people tend to latch onto the idea that they need *THE* exact item they saw somewhere or on someone. There will always be something to buy. There’s no need for FOMO over material things. The amount of human-made *things* on this planet will always far outnumber the human population. P.S. Happy new year! 🎉 I hope you and your family are doing well! ❤ Also, your daughter’s baby sounds are way too cute! 😆❤️

rian phin did an interesting video called ”post-gatekeeping fashion discourse fatigue lol“ that goes into this topic if anyone is interested too :)

literally same to everything you said! i've shopped like this for sooo many years and it kinda baffles me when people need everything to be linked.

Loved the video! I totally agree with people needing better internet etiquette when asking questions, like there's a time and place, but personally I'm never a fan of gatekeeping, it's always struck me as a bit classist :/ Brands pay thousands of dollars to promote their items why should we then become gatekeepers? Plus, especially in the case of small businesses who don't have large marketing budgets, nowadays going viral and sharing through word of mouth can be really helpful!

This!! The whole culture around shaming people who “gatekeep” has never sat well with me or seemed to be a positive approach to fashion, love u for making this vid

the thing about me personally being asked is that everything I own is basically thrifted, use be my mothers/aunts/grandmothers/cousins or I did something to it, changed the buttons, tailored to my personal body, added whatever, etc like... nothing besides the basics I have will be accessible to anyone besides myself and my own closet. I do like exclusivity, love it actually why would I want another fucken clone.

So TRUE!! The THRILL of the Hunt!!! 😂🏅Love Hater Laini, so hilarious. Video was actually very insightful, loved the other perspective, I really enjoyed it… I’m a gatekeeper now jajaja 🤪

I had no idea what gatekeeping was. I don’t use tiktok or read the comments on Pinterest either. lol. your video was actually recommended to me. I was sick for two weeks and couldn’t work so I started watching fashion video which I don’t usually have time to do. I know I had a trauma a few years ago and my brain actually does not work the same anymore. Before, i had the best visual memory and could make up outfits in my head and I was very artistic and added lots of charm and details to my outfits. Now, my brain has remapped itself and it doesn’t work like it used to. So now I do copy what people have bought because it’s hard for me to come up with cute outfits on my own. I sometimes comment on vlogs and ask where something is from. I don’t like buying things online because I don’t like risking not liking the fabric or the cut. But if I can see the cut on someone and I know they say it’s comfortable, then I’ll want to get that specific one. It’s not always about the look but the fabric and cut. I honestly never buy things online if I’ve never bought that brand before, unless someone I trust recommends it. If I don’t know or trust the brand, I don’t want to waste my money or time returning things. And if they never respond to my comment or tell me what the brand is, then I just assume they have a healthy life and don’t read all of their comments. Or they simply don’t have time to read comments. I don’t care if they don’t respond. They don’t owe me anything. Fashion is your talent, but it might now be someone else’s talent. I’m great at organizing things and keeping things clean, but that might not be someone else’s talent. We all have different brains that work differently. 🤷‍♀️

my friend always has the funniest response to ridiculous tiktok comments.. one time someone asked where she got her book and she went "the bookstore"

ur makeup is so gorgeous would love to see you do like a quick tut on what you do / the kind of products! I know its probably just that new mom glow

I never would have said I love gatekeeping before this (although I wouldn't say I was ever opposed to it) but this video has turned me into a gate keeping advocate lol

this is kinda random and not rlly about fashion, but this video reminded me of that "amazon must have" craze on tiktok in like 2020-2021, where people were buying the most ridiculous, useless shit I've ever seen in my life for the sake of buying it just bc it was inexpensive. yes, some stuff was cool, but there was stuff like a soap dispenser for washing dishes and I remember thinking like "is it rlly so hard to pump a little soap of a bottle??". idk it just reminded me of that

Hi Laini ! First time commenting :) You made absolute sense, love love love your degrowth approach to fashion ! Plus, Lucie is absolutely adorable !

Loving this new mom energy lol! I also agree 100%

i have to say i am shamelessly the "where is this __ from?" girl on pinterest, but pretty much never to go buy that exact item. it's a really fun part of the research process for me, and has helped me find a lot of cool small brands and go further down the rabbit holes of finding out who the top designers are right now, and why, and really analyzing the specific aspects of the products and designs! this vid is so good and refreshing as usual. you've totally shaped the way i approach my style and im so so grateful.

I love gatekeeping too it makes us different and unique and help us to find our own style ig which is always a good thing

Hello miss Laini :-) I just have to say you are my idol. I love your fashion philosophies. I literally only get on KZfaq to check for a new video from you. As a personal style vet, you’ve helped me find my personal style. Now, as a new mom, you inspire me to be a hot mom after I’ve just finished my first trimester of my first pregnancy. This is ultimate big sis stuff-you doing everything a little ahead of me and showing the way. God bless gatekeeping. God bless hot moms. You’re so cute. I love your makeup today and the little Lucy oohs and ahs. Xoxo gatekeep girl

love the points you bought up!! totally with you on this, consumerism culture is actually in insane on tiktok and i’ve seen people literally harassed and almost crucified because they didn’t provide a link within 1hr. the person had to make a WHOLE other video explaining that they were busy and didn’t have time to provide a link

Where’s your baby from?

lucy icon!! ALSO UR SO REAL UR OPINION IS SO REALLLL