My fiancé's family is from the south. This is gonna be so hard 😭

Not really too hard. Think of: auntie Uncle and also niece and nephew and sister-in-law and brother-in-law and Grandpa and Grandma and mom and dad and so on so even in America we have complicated system

Thank you so much for this. My family is from the south and I knew there were other pronouns my family used but I always had trouble keep track which pronoun was appropriate for who.

I was thinking that too! I love it!

That's normal and more polite way to address someone as your family member even though you are not related to them. Its the same in Philippines.

Yes, it's actually very common outside of western cultures.

yes! it's the same in Chinese as well

Well, not that strange once you realized that people in the US use "hey bro, whatsup braw", XD

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me too

Yeah, in many local, adults usually call children is "con" or even "em". That's a very sofly way to call

Hi Jeff thanks for watching. If you're in your upper 50, people will call you "Chu" if their parents are around your age or if they're around 20 years or so younger than you :) In the south most pronouns are the same except for "Bố" (dad) will be "Ba" and "Mẹ" (Mum) will be "Má". There are a few other pronouns that are not in the basic list above too but you shouldn't worry about those :)

Nope, in the South there are a number of key differences. Your parents are ba má not bố mẹ. The eldest in a family is anh or chị hai followed by ba which is different from the North where anh hai is the 2nd oldest brother. Furthermore, old people can refer to those 2 generations younger than them as con as opposed to cháu.

We still use Mẹ, but we do use Ba

In the South it's different in a few ways beyond what other have said: - we tend to use more cô/chú instead of bác even for someone who may look older than our parents - ông/bà/cô/chú/bác are generally paired with con, not cháu (I never use cháu as a pronoun) - in colloquial speech instead of cô, we even use thím/dì (wife of uncle / maternal aunt) for older ladies as endearing way to address.

Southern use the word "con" instead of "cháu".

That's why non Vietnamese shouldn't feel offended when Vietnamese ask for their age. We do that to know how to address you.

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This is just a part of pronouns, not enough

Hi Harry. Thanks for watching. All your observations are correct (which is very impressive :) ) For number 1: Old people (with grey or white hair) are usually called Ong, ba to show respect, as they are the highest in the ladder of pronouns so there wouldn't be the problem of "offending them for calling them older than their age". For number 2: All the rules mentioned in the video doesn't apply on people who are in the same family. When you're family, all your pronouns based only on one things: relationship. For number 3: That's true and I myself do the same thing. I don't know why though haha

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1) That’s correct 2) In this case, you will call your mother-in-law “mẹ chồng” (your husband’s mother) because ‘’chồng” is husband in english

In the second question, you can also use the same pronoun ‘’ mẹ “ for calling your mother in law because it’s more relative

1) you're correct 2) you just follow the way your husband does. And everyone's happy :D

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Mo Adam thank you for your kind feedback :)

There's no difference between them. But, " tớ" is more used in the North.

The pronouns system is complicated but also flexible, it's hard for us to explain further without a context, but here's an example, when 2 older people talk to each other, even if they are a bit older/younger than the other person, they probably won't use "anh - chị - em" but will call themselves "tôi" and the other person "ông" (male) or "bà" (female).

Yes, that's true. And you can address a monk as "thầy" and a nun as "Sư cô". The eldest monks or nuns in a monastery are called "sư ông" for monks and "sư bà" for nuns.

Yikes, "deity/king/ruler"?? Assuming I'm the "subject", I'll just bow and shut up, rather than pick a pronoun(!!) ...But for teacher/student or boss/employee, it is typically Anh (or Chi) / Em--or, does age still matter in those contexts?

As a student, we do still call ourself "em". However, as a teacher, it's not. They often use "thầy" (male teacher) or "cô" (female teacher).

Not-so-smart aleck For teacher/student.In this case the age doesn’t matter at all.No matter how old or young they are.You always have to call them Thầy or Cô and call yourself Em.For boss/employee,the age still matter.you can call them Anh/Chi/Em or Sếp which is means Boss.

In Northern Vietnamese you would refer to those 2 generations younger as 'cháu' while in the South it's still affectionately 'con'. Technically bác and chú mean paternal uncle (the first is one who is older than your father and the latter is younger) but you can use either as a foreigner.

20 years is considered 1 generation. So if you are 20 years older or more, you should be chú, and more than 25 or 30 years, bác. Actually, you don't have to be too accurate at this case.

As far as I know,The Bác or Chú is all fine in this case.Some would call Bác while some would go with Chú.However most of the Vietnamese would use Chú as the way they show their respect to the parents of the person they are talking to if they don’t know the age.And Chú is sound more common than Bác in daily conversation.

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1. Tất cả các bạn or Tất cả mọi người 2. Exclusive-we: Chúng tôi Inclusive-we: Chúng mình(more intimate/small group) or Chúng ta (generic) 3. Họ 4. and 5. is Anh ấy and Chị ấy respectively, but you should choose pronoun based on how old the other person is relative to you as the video above

He/She: người ấy ( that person).

6) you : When there are more than 2 people you can add the word "các" in front : Các cô/chú/ bác/ ông/bà/anh /chị/cháu/con/em. 7) They are /them(men): các anh ấy / các chú ấy/các chú ấy / các bác ấy/các ông ấy 8)They are/ them (women): các chị ấy/các cô ấy/các bà ấy. 9) They are/them : Họ ( When there are only men or only women and when there are both gender. In general, but not to use when you are adult and the people you are preferring to are very young children). They are/them: - Chúng nó/tụi nó/bọn nó/mấy đứa nó/mấy đứa kia( use casually, preferring people about same age our younger than you. They are/ them - mấy thằng kia(men)/mấy con kia(women): casualy even consider that not polite when the people you are referring to are a bit around your age or younger. 10: You: mày( singular)/ chúng mày(plural) can be casually/friendly or sometimes consider rude depent on relationships and your tone/voice when speaking. .....

1, Mọi người / Moi ngu uoi/ 2, Chúng ta /chung ta/you with everyone in there Chúng tôi /chung toy / you mean you and your group front of others people 3, Họ 4, anh đó /anh dog / 5, cô đó / coh dog / 4 and 5 is very complex in many situation so with a foreigner like u, just say that or call straight their names if u know their names. Native people would understand

No, it's not required.

No, it's strictly by age like unie and oppa in Korean.

If you in a resturant

Thanks for asking! For "tôi" and "bạn", in general, yes, you can use it for anyone if you don't know how to address them. If a 30 year-old unmarried woman talks to like an under 10 year-old kid, she will be called "cô", and the child will be "cháu". So, for pronouns based on age and gender, how you are called or addressed depends on the age and gender of who you talk to.

I think you have to ask her who she is talking to. In casual communication if there are 2 younger people, she needs to call out their names and tell ""em"".

G G It is acceptable to use for the people around your age.But bạn and tôi are sound unnatural.So you can use Anh/Chị and Tôi instead of.That’s very common and polite as well.

Yes, or we would say that we don't say it loudly.

@@Tiengvietoi thx but some pronounce it nonetheless

@@juliannaruffini Indeed, we still need to put the tongue or related pronunciation organs into the correct positions for the final sounds. Otherwise, it would become another word, like "bố" and "bốn".

@@Tiengvietoi but the word "ban" for "busy" , the "n" is not silent.

they always mean the same

Kaleboy100 i personally think +/- 20

15 - 20 years is fine to be in the same generation.

Hi Adrian. No need to say sorry at all, it is actually a common question. We do have a set of just simple "I" and "you" in Vietnamese, which is "tôi" (for I) and "bạn" (for you). However, when using "tôi" to call yourself it's a bit more formal and not as friendly as other pronouns that are based on age, so people use the others more. "Bạn" is normally used to call people around the same age as you only.

Yes, just think Vietnamese tend to talk as a 3rd person. Vietnamese have "I" as tôi (tui, mình) but it sounds rude if you talk to an older person.

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78deathface yeah, that's right. If she is bác, call her cô. But be careful if someone like to be call Em if they are older than you. You should call her chị to be careful.

only when she's your lover you can call her "em" even that she's older than you ;)

This can be tricky. Some women (and men) like to be perceived as being younger. However, in Vietnam, being "older" also means you get more respect. So, if you don't know her well, it's better to call her "chi". Maybe this app will help you a little bit. It "calculates" when to use which pronoun: play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.ionicframework.vnpronoun2794112

Sometime they're happy becuz that's mean they're beauty and young

Kaleboy100 u can use "con" to address someone as younger generation as you too, it has the same funtion as "cháu"

This way of using is usually found in south Vietnam

ok thanks,

We use: Tớ (I) - Cậu (You)

@@Tiengvietoi Thank you so much!!!🤗

anna- rozalia it depends on how close you are to them. "Tôi-Bạn", "Tớ-Cậu", "Mình-Bạn" are the formal and a bit polite. But vietnamese mostly use "Tao-Mày", "Ta-Mi", "Tau-mi","Tau-mày" and so one and this form is used with people use extremely close or so~~

Younger aunt and younger uncls --> Mợ and Cậu (South Vietnamese).

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Because we like to be as specific as possiple

I say this because I made the mistake and called a woman chi once by mistake when she was about 5 years younger than me. I could see the disappointment on here face so now if in doubt I default to em even if I think they are older. win win :)

Be careful at work. Asian people has so many rules about positions and seniors at work. You should call an older women at work "em", would be considered disrespectful.

Cô also means Miss. I have heard old men called young girls "cô" nothing to do with age. For example, Boss: ông chủ ( older boss) cô chủ (younger female boss), cậu chủ (younger male boss). There is no em chủ.

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No problems! We're already happy that you are learning Vietnamese. What you can do to memorise is to create a table with correspondent pronouns, and then put them in an conversation sample. Also, to begin with just pick the ones that you use more often than the other ones. Once, you have mastered them, you can move on with the rest. 😊

Bo is father but maybe just popular in North side

Think of it as Mr., Mrs., Ms., but more personal. Lol

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