Let Go of the Guilt: How to Stop Beating Yourself up and Take Back Your Joy

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Let Go of the Guilt: How to Stop Beating Yourself up and Take Back Your Joy

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Do you beat yourself up when you don’t do things perfectly? Do you struggle with that nagging feeling that you've never quite done enough? Perhaps, for example, you have felt guilty about motherhood when you're achieving success in your career.
If so, you are not alone. The same character trait that drives you to succeed as a successful woman may also be weighing you down with a feeling of guilt that you should be doing more.
So how do we learn to let go of these feelings of guilt so that we can live a life that is unencumbered by the unnecessary weight of expectation we place on ourselves (or others place on us)?
Valorie Burton teaches us how to do just that and take back our joy in today's inspiring episode of Successful Women Think Differently.
First, we start with an understanding of why women are more prone to guilt and examine what guilt looks like in our everyday lives. From saying yes when we mean to say no, to letting others cross our boundaries, there are myriad ways we allow ourselves to feel guilty (without even knowing it) - and then make poor decisions.
Recognizing that guilt is just a message and so an opportunity for change is a positive approach to take. Learning the difference between authentic and false guilt is the start of our journey to take back our joy. So don't go on that guilt trip if you don't need to - it will only leave you in debt! Please join us.
"Most of the guilt that we're feeling, it's not authentic. It's not that we have caused harm or that we have done something wrong. It's that we are telling ourselves that we've caused harm or we've done something wrong." ~ Valorie Burton
In This Episode:
- Are women more prone to guilt?
- What does guilt look like?
- How guilt can lead us to make bad decisions
- The difference between authentic and false guilt
- Understanding how we perceive guilt as a debt
- Why vague or outdated expectations can lead to feeling that we haven't done enough
- Why guilt can lead to enabling behavior
- How have you been beating yourself up?
- What expectations are serving you well?
And so much more!
Coaching Question:
Is this authentic guilt or false guilt that you are experiencing?
Connect with Valorie Burton:
Check out all of Valorie's books here- valorieburton.com/books/
Website - valorieburton.com/
Facebook - / valorieburton
LinkedIn - / valorieburton
Instagram - / valorieburton
KZfaq - / @valorieburton

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@nyamburakihato8206 Жыл бұрын

I love what you said about distinguishing between real and false guilt, then acting accordingly. You distilled it down to a very simple step that all of us can take. Thank you for your thought provoking insights🙏

@Refreshing_Words Жыл бұрын

This is so good Valorie! I’ve read the book, but this is great reminder that is timely for me as a single mom of two young adults.

@ciselyjohns7279 Жыл бұрын

I’m battling false guilt after the traffic accident that claimed the life of my special needs aunt. I was her caretaker/power of attorney. She was in a vehicle/train collision as she was being transported by the assisted living facility she had been living with the for four months. I wasn’t driving the vehicle that tried to beat the train. But I feel guilty because I took on the responsibility of taking care of her when her mother-my grandmother died. The guilt has been heavy. I loved her so much. We were more like sisters instead of aunt/niece. My mother, who’s deceased, was her sister. It’s so much😢

@susancherian-josephotregon4004 Жыл бұрын

Thank You for another great episode!! This is my favourite thus far, as it is based on your book Let Go of the Guilt!! I love the self coaching question of is it false or authentic guilt? For me, it is mostly false guilt around the choices I made around my finances and launching a private practice, publishing a book, making some big purchases but at the end of the day, it caused me to self reflect, be intentional in letting go of my guilt and taking intentional steps in learning from my poor choices and making progress in improving my financial freedom. TY for this podcast as it is so empowering and it helps equip us to be the best version of ourselves. Love you and God Bless🤩🤩

@leazy1618 Жыл бұрын

I'm working with someone perpetually playing the victim financially. I've been helping out with small amounts every month but I notice I'm only ok to her when she can use me for something. When there are others who are more useful to her I get put on the shelf. Another colleague confided in me I could see what she's doing to you, only you can stop it. And I was I feel guilty at times for even wearing reasonably nice clothes because of this other one. She pleads constant poverty but she always has money for takeaways on a Friday. I don't. This is new territory for me. To set boundaries and stop give give giving because I feel guilty.