Your hatred for Sadness means this movie is probably perfect for you! As a therapist, I often have conversations around how we shouldn't be trying to resist what we perceive as "bad" emotions, like sadness, anger, anxiety. They all play an important role for us!

I really like that depression (personified by the greyed out console) isn't depicted as just sadness but a lack of ability to feel any emotions/ being emotionally shut down. I love that scene with the parents where Riley's finally able to let out that breath she's been holding because she's gotten catharsis by being able to talk about her feelings at last & not just putting on a happy face.

This movie was particularly meaningful to my Autistic kiddo. They have a very difficult time recognizing and naming their own emotions. Personifying them in this exaggerated way was really enlightening for them.

I like how Mary near the beginning of the movie is like "Sadness, don't touch or do anything", then a minute later when the mom is asking the daughter to stay happy for them Mary is like "But she needs be be able to feel sad". That is exactly what sadness was trying to do the whole time instead of bottling it up and pretending everything was just fine. I got a chuckle out that. Also, Joy was the root cause of all the problems, toxic positivity is a real problem with some people and not acknowledging all your feelings is not healthy. In this film, it was not letting sadness do her job that was the root problem.

This is by far my favorite Pixar movie. It’s just so brilliant. Also, as someone who struggles with it personally, it depicts depression so well. “We can’t make Riley _feel_ anything.” That’s the crux of depression, you’re not happy _or_ sad. You just don’t feel anything. That plus the idea of “toxic happiness” and this movie just hits so well. I’m so glad you got to experience this!

I love how you basically went through Joy's character arc with her, starting by wanting everything to be happy all the time, and seeing Sadness as the problem, and then learning along with her how important and necessary sadness really is! And don't worry, you're not the only one! I'm pretty sure the majority of the audience went through that same journey, and that was almost certainly the point. You've probably had your baby by now, so I don't expect you'll see these comments anytime soon, but I just want to say congratulations! I'm sure you're going to make a wonderful mother- so kind and caring and fun!

I love how completely taken in you were by the notion that Sadness was sort of the “bad guy” and if she was gone everything would be happy all the time, only to figure out that the movie had you right where it wanted you. 😆 If you think about it, when people can’t feel sadness, they have a hard time empathizing with others. They tend to be difficult people to live with, even dangerous. Sadness is an important part of being human.

I love reactions to this film when the reactor forgets how important it is to feel sad emotions....and then they realise. Particularly funny in Mary's case considering how many sad movies she's watched here and how much she loved them 😂

I was fortunate enough that my kids were around Riley’s age when this movie came out. My entire family was the exact target audience. I grew up as a military brat, so I understood the stress of moving and leaving everything behind. Every three years.

Turns out you can't just paper over your sadness with joy. That was a very powerful message.

Not so fun fact: the voice break as Bingbong says “take her to the moon for me, okay?” was real. His voice actor was crying as he delivered his final line.

The bit in the memory dump where Joy is talking about Riley growing up, and just wanting her to be happy, hits me so different now I'm a parent 😭 ♥

"take her to the moon for me" gives me chills every time

I had the opposite reaction to you when I saw it. For me, Joy was being a bully and picking on sadness. I hated the whole "let's just stay happy" vibe Joy had. It felt forced and artificial, whereas sadness felt genuine. (And that's weird, because I'm a pretty happy person.)

The look inside the boy's head is the funniest and most accurate scene ever.

This is one of Pixar’s very best! Clever, clear, relatable and deep.

We all try to bottle up our sadness. When letting our sadness out and sharing it actually helps us be happy. Such deep messages in a kid's movie. I'd recommend watching more Pixar movies as all their movies are very special. Wall-E, Up were also made by Pixar. You can start with Coco, Finding Nemo, Soul, etc.

"This is all your fault. Push her off." Actually, no. It was Joy's fault for not letting sadness do her job.😊

After all the talk at the beginning about sadness, 20:34 was a perfect moment in this reaction. It's not often that a film does such a great job of making you feel a certain way and then teaching you something so important about emotions. A lot of us felt exactly what you expressed when watching this movie, and to see you go through that journey made this a great reaction!

The lost of Bing Bong will forever be the saddest part to me, because it represents the lost and forgotten art of the childhood imagination. It reminds me that whenever there is a problem that seemingly doesn't have a solution, Bing Bong reminds me that not finding a solution is because of a failure of imagination. So I double my effort to think outside the box for a solution. This movie still makes me emotional even today even though I've seen it dozens of times. And it's one of the few PIxar movies that has a depth that may entertain the kids, but it's the parents who leave the theater with tears.

This movie is INCREDIBLE with color theory. Riley: striped shirt as they're moving with all colors on them to show theyre in harmony, or so it seems. yellow jacket on the first day of school because she's still young enough to be excited. Striped shirt sans blue and yellow at the dinner table because all of her emotions are fighting for control with joy and sadness gone. Black jacket because she's emotionally shutting down. Emotions: joy has blue hair, backing up the theory joy and sadness go hand in hand. Disgust has a purple ascot, suggesting disgust is mainly motivated by what scares us. Anger is wearing a red tie showing how when were angry, we can't see, hear, or feel anything else. Think, "seeing red". And finally Sadness is wearing a white turtleneck as a combination of all the emotions, like how all light is combined to make white light.

Next summer they’re coming out with a sequel that focuses on Riley’s teen years. This is great for kids to understand their emotions. Especially those with special needs. My daughter who’s autistic has learned a lot from this. I like the meaning of this that shows that not every good memory has to be a joyful memory. The reason sadness has to touch memories is because Riley needs to feel that emotion. Her body is telling her she needs it. Sometimes you need to enjoy a sad memory. You have to have sadness. If you deny yourself the ability to be sad then you’re going to damage your body. Joy is wrong in the beginning by allowing the other emotions to give Riley feelings except for sadness. Some memories of a deceased family member can make you happy.

I cried when I watched, and cried again watching you experiencing it especially now that you're going to be a mom. As someone who has a great difficulty understanding emotions, watching it for the first time is a core memory and its message is something that I carry with me ever since.

It's interesting that people struggle so much with Sadness' character. She's simply responding to the situation like all of the other emotions. Of course Riley is sad; of course Riley's past memories are now tinged with sadness. That's simply the way of life as things change and we mature as people. And then, despite it being Joy who forcefully removes a core memory, Sadness is still blamed! Why is it so bad to acknowledge when we are sad? Honestly, even the crying at school scene is caused by Joy because she didn't allow Riley to simply process her feelings as they arose. She kept having to force toxic positivity until Riley broke down. The parents certainly didn't help. The mom was unintentionally manipulative by leaning on Riley's happiness instead of allowing her to process her feelings with a safe person, and the dad enforced discipline as soon as Riley struggled externally.

This is my favorite Pixar movie, and I'm thrilled that you enjoyed it. I like how everything cherished is destroyed and there is no going back to the way things were, but we learn (as sad as it is) it leave room for richer things. Bing Bong sacrificing himself for Riley's happiness gets me every time. I think the main emotions of Riley's mom and dad being what's typically undesired was also a great choice. We should embrace our sadness, anger and all of our emotions. Cinema Therapy did a great review of this movie that everyone should see. They mainly discuss Depression and Toxic Positivity. I enjoyed seeing your reaction of Sadness going from contempt to appreciation. That is what this movie was trying to achieve, and that perspective is so important.

Bing Bong's sacrifice get me every time.

Wow, I never expected you to be so against Sadness in the early part of the movie. We all get sad and how else could that be personified? Sadness wasn't the problem. The problem was that Sadness was always being denied any healthy expression.

Re: why Mom's headquarters is ruled by Sadness, and Dad's by Anger. One of the variants of Sadness is empathy. One of the variants of Anger is determination. As the movie says: there are no bad emotions. Did you watch all the way through the credits? You don't need PIN to buy something online; you need the security code, but that is typically written on the card.

I can't be the only one who loves Encanto. The music alone is worth watching it for.

This is such a fantastic movie. It teaches emotional intelligence and the dangers of toxic positivity in such a perfect age appropriate way to introduce kids to the concept and even get adults thinking about it. So well done and so clever and witty. I cried lol

So this movie has actually been used by mental health professionals as a medium to help children understand how complex & important all the different emotions are (as a late diagnosed autistic adult, this movie & something called an emotional wheel really helped me understand what I was feeling when I literally couldn’t identify my own emotions)

I´m weirdly surprised Mary hated sadness so much, I´m almost dissappointed. I think people confuse things at first and it seems like the feelings control Riley but what is actually happening is that Riley is just FEELING those feelings, trying to not feel sad and be happy like her parents wanted her to be.

The ability to allow ourselves to feel sadness is essential for psychological health. It allows us to empathize with other people's sadness and suffering. And it is only after acknowledging and accepting our own sadness that we can have a true and stable joy, one that is not tottering on the shaky foundation of needing to deny or ignore all sadness and suffering.

"Spirted Away"

Me: Great! I love this movie! She is going to love it! Mary: Oh, it is about feelings. I hope happy feelings. I do not want to be sad with an animated movie. Me: *Nervously sweating*

There is a wonderful animated movie from 1982 called The Secret of NIMH that I think you would like. Not many people seem to know of it but I really think it deserves a revival and a wider audience. It deals with some rather serious themes as you follow a widowed field mouse trying to care for her three children, one of whom has pneumonia.

the evolution of your reaction to sadness was great. 10:09 annoyance 10:22 hatred 10:43 viciousness. you should put this on a t-shirt and sell it as mercy on your channel lol 11:25 violence 20:25 an epiphany 29:05 acceptance 30:52 this was hilarious

I was sick going through a heavy treatment, I had the help of my therapist, but everytime I was crying my mom was worried that I was depressed. I showed her this movie, so she could understand the difference between sadness and depression. I wanted to show her that mixed feelings are also normal. I was feeling like shit back then, but I was also happy that my body was responding to the treatment. She used to say "you should be grateful". Well part of me actually was. But I was still sad and angry. Thanks therapy, thanks Pixar. ❤

Hi mama Mary -- the animated movie "Brave" is great and it touches on similar themes :-)

I love this movie... it not only teach us the importance of sadness but also in her mum's head you could see the sadness was the main emotion driving her life. BTW... great Pixar movies are also Coco (2017), Brave (2012), Soul (2020), Luca (2021) or Turning Red (2022) and from non-Pixar movies Spider-Man - Across The Spider-Verse (2023). These are all great movies to watch!

As my kids were growing up I was hit with a wave of sadness that they will never remember those early memories that I cherish so much as parent. It's so bittersweet and this movie captures it perfectly.

I thought for sure that you had reacted to Big Hero 6 but I didn't see it in your list SO if you haven't, Big Hero 6 is outstanding!! Also oddly enough takes place i San Francisco. It is a pseudo Marvel movie with a "sort of" cameo by Stan Lee in a creative way. One of my personal animated faves! Super sweet and meaningful.

Aww this is the PERFECT parent movie! Appreciate that little one while you're their entire world. It doesn't last long!

This is going to hit you in a new way now that you are a parent. Hope things are going well with the new baby! Don't worry, it gets better, lol.

Minnesota is similar to Scandinavian Countries. Cold, Progressive, a lot of Swede and Norwegian settlers and traditions. San Francisco is a major Californian metro area with nearly 8 million people, less than 3 Million of whom are European ethnically. The Bay is huge, diverse, wealthy, segmented, and municipal divisions have wrecked central planning so the housing market is one of the highest cost in the world.

21:05 So as someone from that part of California, San Fransisco is just very DIFFERENT from the “Midwest” United States where Riley is from. Not better or worse, but if you move to San Fransisco from there expecting things to be similar, it’s going to be a major adjustment.

Aww the skating scene was so touching! Wish you'd included it. One of my favorites.

Animated movie? The Iron Giant. I first learned about it from a father at work who told me he was taking his son to see it at an arts museum. He said the place is filled with fathers and sons watching it.

Hahhah watching "Inside Out" when pregnant, the feelings amplifier. Good timing.

Please watch Kubo and the Two Strings! It's magical!

This movie is awesome, hopefully you saw the end credit scene with cat and dog. Very good reaction, a joy to watch.

Hi Mary, from Iowa, USA. Glad you liked this movie so much, it was really good and creative. Take care

"Don't steal the card. Do you know the code?" Mary seems to think we have security on our credit cards in the US. Nope. We just sign a slip of paper and absolutely no one ever checks to see if it looks anything like the one on the card. Or even if the name on the card looks like it might belong to the person holding the card.

My cousin also can’t stand the sound of balloons. While she was away at college, her younger sister filled the floor in her bedroom with balloons thinking that the older would pay her to clean them up so she wouldn’t have to deal with the sound. The little sister ended up having to clean them all up and pay the older sister fifteen dollars in emotional damages (their dad is a lawyer).

It’s okay to be normal, and sad😢❤

As the wise man said, "Inside my heart is breaking, my makeup may be flaking but my smile still stays on".

My favorite running joke in this movie besides the broccoli is the chewing gum commercial jingle.

This is absolutely one of my favorite movies. It is nice to see how others react to the same scenes that touched me deeply.

I only just now realized that Anger is voiced by Lewis Black. Perfect casting.

12:22, this is "outside USA" version. In USA, it's a hockey game.

My mom also does not like the sound of balloons being rubbed. Doesn't bother me though. The scene where Bing Bong says "Take her to the moon for me. Okay?" with tears in his voice, the tears were real as the voice artist, Richard Kind, got emotional during the take and they kept it in. The bit at the very end where she bumps into the nerd kid and we go inside his head made me laugh the hardest. "GIRL! GIRL! GIRL! GIRL!" Notice how most of the mom's emotions are variations of "Sadness" and most of dad's are variations of "Anger". And the cat has no one at the controls. So true!

The best analysis and reaction to this movie I have ever seen is from a channel called "Cultured Bubble". She talks often and openly about the difficult and abusive family she had, and the therapy she has been doing. And watching and talking about movies is something else that she considers helpful in that. One of the bad things she grew up with is what people would refer to as "toxic positivity". The only emotion she was ever allowed to show was joy. Anything else was shouted down or punished and not allowed to be expressed. So it led to this difficult state of not being able to understand or even recognize what other emotions were. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/d9OBrdObxJvedo0.html So in this movie, it's instinctive for us to immediately dislike Sadness as a character, but never experiencing and processing sadness the feeling is very damaging psychologically. I think it's easy to view this as a one-way situation of the emotions in the head controlling, but I think it's a two-way situation. I think there is also an aspect of what is happening to Riley externally influences some what emotions are happening inside her. She is experiencing a very disruptive situation, which I think is shown by Sadness being very active and doing a lot of unpredictable things in her head at the start.

8:09 "Oof, forced happiness" It was at this moment that Mary realised the point of the movie

The scene where Disgust was introduced? It was animated with different foods for different markets, to better reflect foods kids hate. In Japan it was green peppers (piman).

34:21 Here are some animated movies I recommend that aren't in your archives: 1) From Pixar: Monsters, Inc. (2001), Finding Nemo (2003) and its sequel, Finding Dory (2016), and Coco (2017) 2) Wallace & Gromit's first three 30-minute claymation shorts: A Grand Day Out (1989), The Wrong Trousers (1993), and A Close Shave (1995)

something to note is that sadness or joy isn't "making" riley feel anything- she DOES feel sad, and then tries to push that feeling away. but the movie does put you in such a trap to dislike her, even though she is actually what riley is feeling.

I don't think it's just the importance of an individual having and valuing their own sadness. Like Riley's Sadness did with Bing Bong, it's the acknowledgement from her parents' Sadnesses that convince Bing Bong and Riley someone else was listening (commiseration), that the things that have been weighing down on Riley's spirit since the move were real, that someone actually understands, empathizes with, and cares about those things, thus that they're not just left to deal with that weight on their own. Mindless joy or any of the other ends up only being denial or avoidance. And Joy, despite being Riley's dominant/leader emotion, learning to recognize and accept there are things Riley needs to be able to feel, and express, that are outside of her ability, is Riley's first step to emotional maturity.

San Francisco is an amazing and beautiful city...and I love my visits, but I was born in the Midwest US (Michigan), where forests are nearby and lakes are the size of small oceans and wild animals wander through the backyard at random. It can be a kids paradise to grow up in, at least it was for me. It was safe to play outdoors, my brothers and I learned to swim almost the same time we learned to walk, and summer was a cold orange soda and a new comic book being read in the branches of my favorite climbing tree. I love travel and big cities and food I've never had before...but my core memories are always going to be the stuff of Midwestern US childhood...no regrets!

After losing my sister 6 months ago this movie got SO MUCH HARDER to watch. All the core memories now fully blue

Pixar was always better than Disney at telling stories. While Disney is based on wishes (when you wish upon a star) and getting anything you want by just wanting it enough, Pixar recognizes reality. You can have a character that has an inflated view of themselves, then crashes down when something happens, but then they accept what they really are and grow from it. This movie really shows feelings in an interesting way, allows one to see the utility of all emotions, and shows how memories can become more complex combinations of feelings as one matures.

Animated movies you should see: -The Kung Fu Panda trilogy. -The How to Train Your Dragon trilogy -Zootopia/Zootropolis (in the EU) -Monsters Inc and Monsters University -Megamind -Incredibles I&2 These are a good start.

Glad you really enjoyed this one, Mary. One of my favourite animation movies. Inside Out 2 is out next year which follows Riley in her teenage years.

I was so glad you mentioned balloon sounds! 😂 it makes all the hair on my body stand up every time

You were so harsh to Sadness! That was hilarious knowing where the movie was going.

People have joked about Pixar movies having a pattern in theme. What if Toys had feelings. What if Bugs had feelings. What is Cars had feelings. And now this movie What if feelings had feelings.

This movie is brilliant in so many ways and I think it does a good job of showing how important it is to not suppress your feelings/emotions. I suspect it also helps people understand how depression can feel (or rather the lack of feelings) which is very important because I know from personal experience that a lot of people have a hard time understanding stuff like depression and anxiety if they haven't gone through it themselves. My favorite part of the movie though, is how the message of the movie is starring you right in the face from the very beginning of the movie. Notice how Sadness, Anger, Disgust and Fear are all designed with one color, but Joy is both yellow and blue. The movie is telling you from the start that there's no Joy without Sadness. They are also the first two emotions to show up. I also like the mixing of colors in the memories at the end. To me it signals more emotional complexity. In other words more emotional maturity which is also hinted at by the bigger, more complex control console by the end with the dreaded Puberty alarm (hinting at the plot for the sequel).

One thing I think Mary misunderstood a little at the end, the parents weren't saying that they hate their new home, just that there's things they miss about their old home too. That's normal in a transition stage. You can be excited about a new chapter in your life and being in a new location while simultaneously feeling grief for the previous one, miss your familiar surroundings, etc.

I think the main two messages of the movie are, burying down emotions causes emotional damage in the long run, and growth might mean leaving some things behind, but also brings new "islands" and new people into our lives. I believe it is a great movie to watch when you are about to be a parent.

I live in Minnesota and so I am a bit biased but life is pretty good in Minnesota. The winter scares people away but we who stay love our state. We're renowned for our niceness.

I grew up in MN and still live there!

Hi Mary! I hope that you & the baby are well! Please jump into the final Harry Potter! 🖤🌹🖤🧛

Soul, ratatouille, and the toy storys are other good films in this style of animation that are pretty wholesome

No heaven without hell. No day without night. No happiness without sadness. If every day of your life was happy you would never even know it if you had never experienced sadness.

The smartest animated movie ever made!

I would like to see your reaction to "Your name". I think you would enjoy it

the whole point of the movie is that we need to accept and make room for sadness in our lives.. it serves a very important purpose. Love your reactions, as always.

Please continue with Star Trek.

When they're tossing memories, they're not just getting rid of stuff she doesn't need. They're getting rid of stuff that was associated with the island that was just destroyed. And for the record, if at any point you've ever said, "I'm not a kid anymore.", that's how you know YOUR goofball island has been destroyed.

My favourite secret but not-so-secret fact about this film is that the colours of the outfits the characters wear is very telling of the scene that's playing out at that time :)

The broccoli pizza is an inside joke (an Inside Out joke?). Pixar headquarters are in Emeryville, California, not far from Berkeley. There's a pizza place in Berkeley called Cheese Board Pizza Collective that's connected to a cheese shop. They have a changing menu, but they make only one type of pizza every day, and it's always vegetarian. A lot of Pixar movies feature landmarks near their HQ. Hawaiian pizza was invented in Canada. It's not fair to blame the Hawaiians for it. A Belgian who can't have French fries? I didn't know that was possible! You don't need a PIN to use a credit card in the U.S. Debit cards yes, but credit cards no. It's convenient, but not very secure. Did you notice how the parents had all the same emotions as Riley, but they're less extreme and more cooperative with each other? That's pretty realistic. Part of growing up is learning how to integrate your feelings, so you're not bouncing around from happiness to sadness to anger to fear to disgust. I saw Inside Out in the theater when it first came out. I remember thinking during the scene where the mom tells Riley that they have to keep acting happy for dad, that it wasn't a good thing to do to a kid. The mom meant well (both parents did), but it's not good to stuff your feelings for someone else's peace of mind. As we saw, sadness is important. Riley breaking down in tears and telling her parents how she really felt was necessary for her to get over her crisis, and for the family to start functioning as a unit again.

Three weeks?! Wow! In the States, and in Canada, the dad's mind had hockey highlights, but in Europe it was soccer/football. 27:34 -- yeah, that's a rough moment. *Turning Red* would be a great movie for you to react to (if you hadn't seen it already)

I love how this movie makes you look at it totally differently once you've reached the end. Sadness seems so annoying and accidentally destructive at the start, but she was just acting the way she was because Riley needed to feel sad. The toxic positivity was denying Riley's ability to mourn the loss of her old life. It's excellently executed how it's easy see sadness as a nuisance at the start only to realise how important she is by the end. Such a well done film.

Did you miss the end credit scenes?? I love the cats emotions!

Great reaction! This is the FIRST movie (at a late age 35!) that I can ever remember making me emotional enough to (almost) shed tears even though my roommates were there! (I DON'T like crying in front of people). This is actually THE movie that showed me (firsthand!) the value of sadness expression ... Before then, I always thought of crying as totally worthless and a waste of time (and rarely did it myself). But then during this movie, particularly when Joy was in the pit and said "do you remember when she used to stick her tongue out when she was coloring?"-- THAT line struck me as so sad that it almost instantly triggered tears from me. I did suppress them (my roommates were there) but suppressing them was PAINFUL, and later I realized I was actually CRAVING more tearjerkers! Upon some research, I found out the craving was likely due to feel-good brain endorphins that often get released with crying (or even almost-crying). The endorphins apparently are designed to dull the pain of whatever original stimulus had triggered the crying. But considering those "feel-good" side effects... after I realized how that worked, I became a tearjerker-seeker lol.

The journey with Sadness is so relatable. That's why we apologize when we cry. We're trying to shun sadness

I love this movie. My family went to Disneyland last Halloween and dressed up as Joy, Sadness, and I was the memory worker Forgetter Bobby.

15:03 inside out 2 has more complex emotions and thank yu for pointing out there are more colors than emotions!

What I love about his movie is how the emotions in the adults have matured along with them into something far more complex and positive than the simple one-sided emotions we first see in adolescent Riley. In mom, for example, her “headquarters” is run by sadness, but that doesn’t mean she’s sad or depressed all the time, it means that the driving force of her personality is empathy, the ability to feel and relate to other’s emotions. Dad has anger in the drivers seat, but in him it manifests as drive and passion and allows him to be a successful business man and family man. It’s never really shown, but I suspect the mature form of fear would be a protector, disgust could potentially be an artistic person who sees the beauty in all things, and joy could manifest as an inspirational leader. Emotions are complex, but I think this film is very thoughtful and thought provoking when it comes to our internal mental health and personalities, and though simplified for a young audience the more you think about it the more it makes sense even for adults. One of Pixar’s best films, imo. Another one that touches on this aspect of personality and our inner selves is Soul, which never really got much attention as it released during lockdown but is a fantastic look into what drives a person and what their core values truly are.

One of the Top 5 of my ALL-TIME movies i have ever seen.

I love this movie and cry throughout it❤ accepting who you are and what you feel is part of healthy people's lives. Please seek help if you are in need of it and just know, all of us are allowed to be embarrassed about anything. Incredible movie for an incredible audience❤