Letting Go of Resistance to Difficult Feelings
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3 жыл бұрынA woman asks Rupert for guidance about inviting difficult feelings closer.
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@joshconn17 3 жыл бұрын
This is very similar to David Hawkins letting go teachings. Where you actively feel the feelings, letting them be, until they eventually let go and surrender to your inner consciousness
@jaimelouro6500 3 жыл бұрын
🙏THANK YOU Rupert 🤗
@mindfulkayaker7737 3 жыл бұрын
This is Rupert!!! One of the greatest spiritual teacher of our times For me the idea to bring our sad fillings close to us is one of the most important lessons in the Rupert and Francis Lucille curriculum Thank you again
@emendatus1 3 жыл бұрын
All of people here misunderstood Rupert. You cannot bring feelings closer. It is physically impossible. They are already part of you. What you can do is you can stop resisting them. And I am deeply and most vitally interested how to do it! If anyone knows some method please share!
@SedonaMethodPlus 3 жыл бұрын
@@emendatus1 Hi try the Sedona Method (www.sedona.com/Home.asp) - this is all about letting go of resistance.
@asepbedog649 3 жыл бұрын
the mind like an waves, trueself awarenes is an ocean... not separates.. waves come n go.. and ocean not resist, nojudge to litle, big waves.. mind like cloud , trueself/awarenes like an open sky.. sky acept, no resist dark clous, thunder.. let it be there come n go.. the attitude of the ocean n sky its attitude of our trueself.. let come n go what ever hapen in our live dont judge dont resist... acept that.. there no right no wrong, like or dislike.. awarenes always wellcome with love n joy..
@andyakarudolfhessiansack7936 Жыл бұрын
I find that Rupert, and other teachers like Moojibaba, and Lucille all bring their own unique wisdom to the table of being. Moojibaba was an introduction for me, a smooth easy invitation. Rupert I a more precise tool, used to hone in and define. And Luccille is a sergeon, dissecting and promoting deep introspection. The universe provides, we receive when open.
@dmitrytolmachev888 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Rupert.Nothing can trigger your fear,when you invite it with open heart
@sadafpouriliyaei9068 Ай бұрын
Wow, so beautifully put. Thanks Rupert 🙏🤍
@pallabdatta6926 2 жыл бұрын
You don't need to "LET GO" anything unpleasant to you, everything "GOES" away when it becomes fully solved, fully resolved, fully suffered and fully worked upon, when all the BACK PULL and INTERFERENCE of the unpleasant gets released from you, when all the agitative VIBRATIONS of the unpleasant leaves you. LET GO needs EFFORT and RESISTANCE which everytime ends up in failure, the ACCEPTANCE of this failure and unconditional SURRENDERING to this failure helps the unpleasant to GO AWAY effortlessly and irresistibly.
@navaneetjeevan2554 3 жыл бұрын
Everything seeks liberation in the light of awareness.
@SnakeAndTurtleQigong 3 жыл бұрын
Sending gratitude and a happy Christmas
@meditationamsterdam 3 жыл бұрын
For what it’s worth here’s what I do with unpleasant feelings: First I imagine they are a part of me representing a hurt and abandoned puppy which I could never push away Then I observe them so close as to infuse them with a sense of “I”. Not the idea of them but the actual sensation in the body is filled with “I”. And then the Self absorbs them. They integrate. When they are accepted by the Self, they loose any separate nature. You love them as Self.
@mikedelferro 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Rupert! You have changed my life and my music.
@sflyogatherapy1857 3 жыл бұрын
I absolutely love this and is in total alignment to how I have worked through my addictive personality ☺️
@nazeem5676 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Rupert ;)
@MauricioCoghi 3 жыл бұрын
This has been the best Christmas present. Rupert thank you very much!
@constipatedbowels3473 2 жыл бұрын
One doesn't need to push the emotion away or resist or embrace the feeling!!!....The feeling shows up as a threat to the ego,and the ego tries all sorts of tricks and methods to dismantle the danger the feeling poses and in this process,misses the thing that ego is ACTUALLY supposed to do with that emotion!!!....The Emotion is an indicator of what may be wrong in our body-mind complex or our interaction with the external world and our response to it is an indicator of how good/bad the Ego and intellect are at dealing with the problem intelligently and compassionately!!!....So the feeling ,the cause that triggered that and the response that ego exhibited to that feeling need to be examined,evaluated to gain deeper self knowledge!!!.....
@shyamverma9515 3 жыл бұрын
MASTER SPIRA Ji, Very "DEEP GAZING SOLUTION" for "RESISTANCE" in deep MEDITATION. Thanks. 🎉🙏🎉
@maryberry6067 2 жыл бұрын
WOW.. Everything is seeking the light.
@simonaschmidt 3 жыл бұрын
Love this! Story time! Thank you. 🙏
@CactusLand 3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful, thank you, that really helped me.
@michaelrohmann8167 Ай бұрын
Danke.🙏💙
@ElleAshterra 3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful timing. Was just contemplating transmutation. Thank you Rupert for clear explanations and dialogue 🙏🏼
@kunals6069 3 жыл бұрын
Finally it is clear to me, what is letting go. Thank you so much.... gratitude and love you. Happy Christmas!
@PsychedelicActualization 3 жыл бұрын
Meditation means to be constantly extricating yourself from the clinging of mind. By letting go of even the thought 'I,' and 'me' what is left? There is nowhere to stand and no one to stand there. No separation anywhere. Pure awareness. Neither this, nor that. Just clarity and being. ~Ram Dass 🙏🏽
@emendatus1 3 жыл бұрын
Dont think it will be easy! A giant like Ramana Maharshi needed very lengthy and most severe austerities to achieve that. Sw. Shivananda the same before he could feel himself everywhere!
@rathodnarendra5255 3 жыл бұрын
@@emendatus1 this is true that it's not a easy , because before we only give our attention to body mind and world , but when we use to rest in a being we are one with all the totally ( what we imagine )
@bettywu-lawrence4423 3 жыл бұрын
I like your style of helping people!
@patriciahowellcassity767 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@rto9364 3 жыл бұрын
What a beautiful analogy. Thank you Rupert.
@Misslotusification Жыл бұрын
R.D. Laing - 'There is a great deal of pain in life and perhaps the only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid pain.'
@kathleendavis2986 3 жыл бұрын
Blessings love and light to each of you. Happy holidays to all who celebrate them. 💕💞
@thewayfarer1571 3 жыл бұрын
Happy Christmas, Holidays and New Year, to you and all the beings you inspire. Thank you for your timeless truth that you serve with such sweet simplicity and patience. Thank you!
@mariabentele7909 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! 🙏So good. I love the story telling.
@geneedgerton4482 2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful.
@sahiljain8705 3 жыл бұрын
Ahh his teachings thnk you very much rupert👍
@chimenerf 3 жыл бұрын
Whoahww I understand something!! What a Christmas gift
@mohdshahnawaz3864 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely loved this video. Thank you so much for this valuable information mate. Lots of love from an Australian 🇦🇺❤
@alfreddifeo9642 3 жыл бұрын
Thank You for sharing this and all your video with US. MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY HEALTHY NEW YEAR
@doyleharris2527 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us all. Have a very Merry Christmas. 2021 will be the great new start. God Bless.
@IamVegardEid 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. Crystal clear explanation of dissolving appearant bad emotions into the vastness of our Self. The timing was great for me, and I am very happy that so many people recieves and benefit from this grace given message ❤️
@GioiaIris 3 жыл бұрын
OMGoddess... Perfect Timing. Thank you Rupert. You are a Gift. I would say "I love YOU" if we were two separate entities. 😊❤️🕉
@pessoa288 2 жыл бұрын
What a video! Thank you Rupert!
@fouadmidrissiii9530 3 жыл бұрын
amazing thank you
@carrieolson3352 3 жыл бұрын
I’m going to have to listen to this again...having just recently discovered Rupert, and so very grateful for it, much of what he explains resonates with me. But this one I’m going to have to listen too again...
@depressionbeard9882 3 жыл бұрын
It all comes down to looking fear (as a blanket term for all ”negative“ emotions) in the eye. When a monster hunts you in a nightmare, it will be terrifying and you will try to run away. However, and quite counterintuitively so, if you actually find the courage to stop running, turn around and face it, it will stop being a threat and disintegrate before your very eyes.
@SKRithvik 3 жыл бұрын
How wonderful. I hope it works for me.
@JannikBoRasmussen 3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful video.... Excellent point that you don't have to bring the feelings close, you have to stop pushing them away. And likewise, I can also warmly recommend to invite even such feelings as shame and guilt inside as well ❤️ Merry Christmas and a happy new year to Rupert and Ellen 🥀
@fa_bhr 8 ай бұрын
Thank you for all the wisdom ❤❤❤❤
@claudelebel49 3 жыл бұрын
"at its heart you will find the peace that you previously sought by avoiding it"" Stop resisting or at least notice that you are :)
@paperprincess1050 3 жыл бұрын
'The closer something is the less easy it is to label' very good
@Bobsbigbuoy 10 ай бұрын
Love Rupert. The thing is, feelings are reactions to thoughts. They do not arise in awareness of themselves. So one must observe the thoughts with extremely alert but calm attention. The idea is not to allow any linkage of a feeling to the thought. Rupert has confessed that he loves thinking. This may not be a problem for him, but for most people, Eckhart Tolle’s emphasis on becoming aware of the thoughts, and not to think compulsively is critically important. One observes thoughts arising, without linkages, in meditation.
@megiMove 3 жыл бұрын
Just as Krishnamurti teachings. Look at it without knowing or trying to understand it. As soon as u label it ur back into the mind. Just be total attentive . And you will see it will disappear 😍🥳❤
@mrwise7067 Жыл бұрын
It’s inspiring to know that releasing just one negative feeling will take out hundreds if not thousands of negative thoughts with it.
@luis55ful 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@carlavela7106 3 жыл бұрын
""So you have to kiss the toad"" 😂😂😂😂😂😍😍😍
@jaroslavfricek7772 3 ай бұрын
Rupert👏❤️
@lamaelcharif1523 3 жыл бұрын
When we belief in every difficulty there is bliss, that is acceptance, right there!
@ac35ad 3 жыл бұрын
This was my understanding of the movie The Babadook.
@joannashemtov9163 3 жыл бұрын
So true.
@aditiaher7 3 жыл бұрын
Kiss your sorrows! ❤️
@kreagan4826 3 жыл бұрын
the need to speak up from the spiritual "seekers" in the audience, somehow, really distracts my ego and flares it up. then super ego comes in like "just let her talk, you should have compassion". i guess i have a long way to go, but thats ok, because i have already been a long way and i love the journey. thank you for the unexpected message
@eddieneal9920 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah and it's usually all women who have no clue at all.
@LIMITSDESTROYED 3 жыл бұрын
Jealous of all of us. This man is Sunshine. ❤️
@marthonymaciel2116 11 ай бұрын
Voce mudou minha visao muito obrigado Deus o abencoe
@Silensio 2 жыл бұрын
I'm a simple man, I see Rupert's video - I hit the like button
@ilzitek2419 3 жыл бұрын
Yes.
@Iamthatknows 3 жыл бұрын
Aware, Accept, and let go.
@shoonyah 3 жыл бұрын
"There is utter intimacy between awareness and experience" .... " Everything seeks liberation in the light of awareness" .... "Let the resistance go" ... "You HAVE TO kiss the toad if you want the prince within" - RS Honestly, I sometimes wonder just many more toads are left in the inner-well to kiss God?How...many...more ? I don't want any prince, I just want the toads to go away. But I guess the only way to it is through it.
@jaypalnitkar4400 2 жыл бұрын
Profound, brilliant, simple and damn effective ❤️🙏
@marijkev3468 Жыл бұрын
Pity those endless questions of some people.
@rsindhu4608 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! There is so much clarity in the way you explain. I have been following your pointings and i feel very light and at peace. As I go about my routine during the day i feel the peace in the background... Am I on the right path?
@abby999 3 жыл бұрын
there is no wrong path!
@abby999 3 жыл бұрын
i myself often have the same question, but teacher after teacher have pointed out time and time again that all paths lead to the same place. even when we feel completely lost turned around and upside down, we are on the right path. everything is always unfolding exactly as it should - the only way it can.
@sanneknigge806 3 ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@-report1070 3 жыл бұрын
wowwww
@entschnabler 2 жыл бұрын
I found it interesting that to the frog Prince there is a common version, at least in germany, in which the princess throws the frog to the wall in disgust instead of kissing him and that turns him into the prince. There are good psychoanalytic interpretations for this that have to do with the emancipation of the daughter to the father (who demands of her to fulfil her promise) and also the prince to his mother (who as a witch kept him in the well). So i always wondered where that kiss the frog thing came from. But of course it works just fine in Rupert's analogy.
@plumeria66 Жыл бұрын
Disney always waters fairytales down to commercialize it.
@claudelebel49 Жыл бұрын
Everything wants to be kissed.
@mouthearnose Жыл бұрын
8:58 "Letting go of the resistance"
@MrMugenwii Жыл бұрын
kushmarati was the first on this subject though it was a bit hard to understand on how being one with the feeling fully, liberates you.
@tryadifferentone354 3 жыл бұрын
I don't know what's going on then, I have no problems with having my feelings get close at all, in fact they are so close to me all the time that I am told I have problems with emotional regulation. I'm ALWAYS in touch with my feelings, I kiss all the toads and NONE of them have become princes yet. NONE. I kiss them, hug them, feed them... I am more than intimate with them... they are devouring me. And I am so tired. I am so so so so so tired...there must be something wrong with me, some piece is missing! You have no idea how tired I feel of all of this.
@scott8411 3 жыл бұрын
By kissing the toad. It means to bring them in so close that you don’t see them. Stop looking at your feelings. You’ve already devoted enough time to them by giving them attention. The point is to first feel them out as to see there’s nothing to be afraid of or resist. Then you lovingly ignore them because you are no longer bothered by their presence.
@scott8411 3 жыл бұрын
And that’s when they become a prince
@lemostjoyousrenegade Жыл бұрын
♥️
@Misslotusification Жыл бұрын
Howzit going now?
@tryadifferentone354 Жыл бұрын
@@Misslotusification on and off.
@ahvyahvyahvy 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Rupert 🙏🏼 and I encounter many patients who just dunno how to deal with their resistance towards certain emotional feelings. A further question on this video is “how we can bring the unwanted feelings close? Thanks💜
@mimisapphire8329 3 жыл бұрын
It helps me to just become deeply present, stop thinking about them, stop labelling them. You may only be able to do this for very short moments at first at first, before the 'toads' appear again, but keep doing it, when you remember, and eventually awareness becomes more constant. The toads don't bother you so much. You begin to see these feelings as just energy - awareness itself.
@emendatus1 3 жыл бұрын
You cant bring them close! There are already part of us. There closer than the closest. You can stop resisting them. This is the right way. But how to stop resisting? Anyone knows? Is there a video of Rupert explaining this?
@depressionbeard9882 3 жыл бұрын
So, in practical terms, bringing your feelings even closer than looking at them basically means ”being aware of being aware of the feeling“ (i.e. maintaining one’s awareness of being aware while also being aware of the feeling), right? Just double-checking my takeaway from this clip. Merry Christmas and happy holidays to everyone.
@emendatus1 3 жыл бұрын
You cant bring it closer, because the feeling is the choppiness of awareness. Waves in the ocean of awareness. There are made out of awareness. The real job is to stop resistance, or to stop pushing away them. And how to do it if someone knows please illuminate.
@constipatedbowels3473 2 жыл бұрын
@@emendatus1 You don't need to push the emotion away or resist or embrace the feeling!!!....The feeling shows up as a threat to the ego,and the ego tries all sorts of tricks and methods to dismantle the danger the feeling poses and in this process,misses the thing that ego is ACTUALLY supposed to do with that emotion!!!....The Emotion is an indicator of what may be wrong in our body-mind complex or our interaction with the external world and our response to it is an indicator of how good/bad the Ego and intellect are at dealing with the problem intelligently and compassionately!!!....So the feeling ,the cause that triggered that and the response that ego exhibited to that feeling need to be examined,evaluated to gain deeper self knowledge!!!.....
@user-nh5dm8xg3j 6 ай бұрын
😊😊😊
@mrwise7067 Жыл бұрын
Sedona Method Can I let it go. I Use this method everyday 😊
@natashabakaeva8975 3 жыл бұрын
Fantastic! When i brought the feeling close, the only thing that left was the question Where is it?
@emendatus1 3 жыл бұрын
You dont need and you CANT bring it close. Because the feeling is the manifestation of awareness! What you need to do is to stop resisting, stop pushing it away. And I am interested in how to do this. How to stop resisting? If anyone knows please share.
@Matheus-yb2mr 3 жыл бұрын
@@emendatus1 Detach from your identity/ego. Usually, when I'm meditating, I like to rest my awareness on my own personal representation of the word "infinity". The more I open my focus in an attempt to find a limit, the less there is actually something to focus on. Eventually, I end up as pure awareness. This is the state I try to maintain, and when I'm here, this is usually when the emotions I've been holding down start to come up.
@emendatus1 3 жыл бұрын
@@Matheus-yb2mr How do you know (detect) that you are in the state of pure awareness? Also, can you maintain that state in a busy city, street? Or in a bus, underground? When you are very close to other people?
@natashabakaeva8975 3 жыл бұрын
@@emendatus1 rupert told this in this video, i tried and it worked)
@celinecloutier763 3 жыл бұрын
Also ...yoganidra... LIAM GILLEN.
@DJ-gs2uw 3 жыл бұрын
🙏🧡🙏🧡🙏
@yerberohamsa 3 жыл бұрын
What happens with the feeling when one embraces it?
@challo8067 3 жыл бұрын
It loses its juice, and with practice, the habituations of the mind fall away
@honkhonk5181 3 жыл бұрын
That lady has an amazing unintentional ASMR voice
@mrcitrus6 3 жыл бұрын
Narconon is a good alcohol and drug rehab...
@Olga-kr3mq Жыл бұрын
How do you cease the resistance? Is there a guided meditation to do that? Isn't ego going to resist the "ceasing of resistance to feel the feelings"?
@MostConscious 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Gods
@kerem1002 2 жыл бұрын
So how to kiss the toad? How to do that? How to come close to the sorrow?
@Weltuebergang 3 жыл бұрын
in the version of the fairy tale I know, the princess smashes the frog against the wall and that it changes into a prince... Don t know how to relate that to this teaching :-)
@Misslotusification Жыл бұрын
6:56: Kissing the toad
@trh53085 10 ай бұрын
You couldnt ever watch this teaching too many times
@ss-moon Жыл бұрын
Bad bad
@claudelebel49 5 ай бұрын
YOu ARE FEELING MISERABLE, LET IT BECOME A MEDITATION. Sit silently, Close the doors. First feel the misery with as much intensity as possible. Feel the hurt. IF SOMEBODY HAS INSULTED YOU, FEEL THANKFUL TO HIM that he has given you an opportunity to feel a deep wound. He has opened a wound in you. YOU JUST CLOSE YOUR ROOM, SIT SILENTLY, with no anger for the person, but with total awareness of the feeling that is arising in you -- the hurt feeling that you have been rejected, that you have been insulted ....... Osho
@emendatus1 3 жыл бұрын
He says cease resisting the feeling. But he doesnt explain how to cease. He doesnt explain everything. He gives general information. But the necessary, vital info which is required to do the job he hides. In fact resistance is normal for our condition. When something hurts me, I naturally try to avoid it. How can I stop resistance when something is hurting me, causing harm? If there is some method then please explain fully, dont hide anything.
@keithcaskey4114 3 жыл бұрын
There are several other excellent clips where he describes the process of dealing with painful feelings. Search his name plus “dealing with painful emotions” on KZfaq and you’ll hopefully find one that resonates. He describes the process in several different ways in different clips addressing people with this same question. Hope this helps. 🙏🏼
@aguslezana 3 жыл бұрын
If you explain to us your context it could be easier to give a pointer. For example if you meditate, if you practice self inquiry, etc
@emendatus1 3 жыл бұрын
@@aguslezana When any kind of feeling, emotion or thought troubles me, I feel bad. At the same instant there starts the process I dont want to feel bad. These 2 processes go parallel and continuously. I am asking is there a method to get rid of this. To stop to feel bad. To stop identification. Even better to detect that identification starts and be able to not allow it to start. Are there methods or everything depends on persons maturity and experience?
@aguslezana 3 жыл бұрын
Your resistance to the current experience is the cause of suffering. Pain is a part of life, it could take time to accept that because we are so used in our society to run away from it. I can only speak from my experience, meditation is a soft and a good place to start, with time wisdom start to grow.
@aguslezana 3 жыл бұрын
There are no methods, i know that at first it could be overwhelming. Thats why i suggested meditation, also if you can get in touch with nature it could also help. With time you will start to experience a deeper connection with life
@discokev100 2 жыл бұрын
Albert Einstein - 'If you want your children to be intelligent, read them fairy tales. If you want them to be more intelligent, read them more fairy tales.'
@kamleshbagrecha7957 3 жыл бұрын
🙏🍑🍓🍉🙏
@bobbyd5608 3 жыл бұрын
I found the questioner annoyingly sychophantic
@thestuff4321 3 жыл бұрын
Yup. Let go of your resistance to it 😆
Sounds True
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