LGBTQ+ Baby Journey | Choosing our Sperm Donor!

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Update on our baby journey! After having finalized which clinic we'll be going to and what IVF procedure we'll be choosing as a lesbian couple to conceive our child, our next step is choosing a sperm donor - the process was quite interesting! In this video we cover how we selected our donor, what options couples have, and what the process looks like!
This video is brought to you in partnership with European Sperm Bank, where your path to parenthood is supported by a wide range of services; they offer comprehensive guidance for every step of your fertility journey. From selecting the ideal donor to connecting you with the best clinics worldwide, they're here to answer all your questions and assist in making informed decisions.
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European Sperm Bank helps aspiring parents around the world fulfil their dreams of having a child. At European Sperm Bank, they work towards creating an open-minded society that embraces all forms of family. They recruit healthy people to become sperm donors, thereby helping those who wish to have children but are unable to do so by themselves.
We hope you enjoyed this video and found it helpful!
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@behoour 4 ай бұрын

My Wife and I did this 22 yrs ago, damn time flys, now we have 22 yr old grown ass twins who are both Graduating from college this year! We chose to have a known donor, but they still aren’t interested in knowing who he, but it’s nice to have to option if they ever do. Good luck!

@81suze 4 ай бұрын

I have quite a few patients who are donor kids and most of them search for their biological parent at some point. Often when they become parents themselves! So a known donor is important I think! Identity development etc but the family they grow up in is their heart family !

@danellemoore1461 4 ай бұрын

I would love to know how many of these personality characteristics end of revealing themselves. Biology plays so much of a role in our personality, but nurture puts all the love on it and makes it shine. I am sure being raised by you two will result in an absolutely amazing, creative, kind human. It's so interesting to think about all of this.

@rosemargriffith 4 ай бұрын

Sending so many positive baby vibes on your beautiful journey! Side note - your hair and makeup is looking gorgeous, both of you.

@AlexisLilian 4 ай бұрын

Aw thank you ☺️

@josepha133 4 ай бұрын

I can't tell you guys how valuable all this information is. Thank you for sharing.

@arialba7890 4 ай бұрын

It feels crazy, I am watching your videos since years and now this, I am so so so happy and excited for you!!!!

@danidorsey679 4 ай бұрын

Omgosh my wife and I just started the RIVF process too 😁😁 so excited to follow this with y’all

@robinhazen8034 4 ай бұрын

I'm so happy for you both!! Best of luck as you start your new family! 🍀💖

@youknowg001 4 ай бұрын

Wishing you all the best ❤ congrats on this amazing milestone 🎉

@ShrubabotiBose 4 ай бұрын

So happy for you two, make sure you both get enough rest in between the stressful time, it would be undoubtedly an emotionally overwhelming ride for both of you. Wishing the best!

@fenjakl.b9280 4 ай бұрын

1:08 this one made me chuckle. Music taste would absolutely be a criteria for me too😂

@elisamusic1303 4 ай бұрын

I'm so excited for you guys 🎉

@franziskaprz8581 4 ай бұрын

All the best for your journey! Thynks for letaking us with you!

@adriannabureta9071 4 ай бұрын

Sending you lots of love, take care girls and good luck with the whole process!

@magbower4686 4 ай бұрын

Wow! Smart way to choose which one for the best to have baby! I wish you guys lot of luck!!!

@RikkeGade 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for bringing us with you on this journey. It really helps to demystify the process of having a baby as a queer couple. I also hope everything goes well. It sounds like you found the perfect donor for you guys! Love from Denmark

@claireglendenning1 4 ай бұрын

Wishing you the best luck! Love your videos and thank you for sharing.

@Betsy1403 4 ай бұрын

Good luck. I jope everything goes well.

@AlexisLilian 4 ай бұрын

Thank you! 💜

@moonbeam2951 4 ай бұрын

How sweet. Good luck!!

@mickeyvranic6709 4 ай бұрын

Excited for you both 🎉. Thank you for making is video, my wife and I are just a couple years away from this journey and also want to so reciprocal IVF

@lalanifaure744 4 ай бұрын

Courageous you two ! congrats!

@shalenah 4 ай бұрын

aw thank you for sharing this journey with us. so beautiful

@richardbrooks7157 4 ай бұрын

You both are an amazingly great couple you both are so so happy and great xxx

@scubagoldfish45 4 ай бұрын

So excited for you!!

@gillianslattery1765 4 ай бұрын

Wishing you health and a successful journey, lovely girls 🥰

@mariecolard9036 4 ай бұрын

Merci de nous partager tout le processus pour la fécondation. Vos explications sont très claires et complètes. Vous serez de merveilleuses mamans.

@alexarmstrong5235 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, this was such an informative video :)

@shopofhearts 4 ай бұрын

Sending good vibes to you both and sending lots of loves from Albany Oregon USA

@5chicklets 4 ай бұрын

Wishing you all the best. My wife and I have 3 beautiful daughters through iui !

@leahstumm9662 4 ай бұрын

Happy for you two💜💜

@infinitelove6622 4 ай бұрын

I hope to see me and my partner picking donor in future like you guys 😅i love you guys ❤

@Kate-nr3fx3fi9o 4 ай бұрын

Savour and enjoy this very exciting time in both of your lives🌹

@theinfoman464 4 ай бұрын

hey all the best on your journey! it might be hard but you guys would make it im 17 and in the future i too would be going around this route if ivg hasnt been out yet(i hope it comes out soon have you heard of it?) anyways best of luck

@mariammairis 4 ай бұрын

I too get emotional when talking about emotional things 🩵 thank you so much for sharing. When the time comes I will be so grateful to have resources like this video.

@FobDog 4 ай бұрын

Glad for you girls

@rockydavis94 4 ай бұрын

Congratulations

@marycanary3871 4 ай бұрын

I am not donor-conceived, but I am adopted (with 2 biological siblings who have very different experiences than I do) and I am an (lesbian) OBGYN. I would love to reach out to you with the advice I have based on adjacent personal experience, professional experience, and research in the medical and alternative family communities. What is the best way to contact you with some information?

@AlexisLilian 4 ай бұрын

That would be amazing! You can send us an email to alexisandlilian@gmail.com, thank you! 😊

@starr6198 4 ай бұрын

Weird factoid here, but a German friend wasn't allowed to donate sperm in the US because of fears of the transmission of Creutzfeld-Jakob Disease (Mad Cow) resulting from the previous consumption of raw red meat (a Bavarian dish). He is perfectly healthy, well-educated, successful and a long-time vegan as well but he was restricted for this reason. Useful info to show just how careful they are in the screening process when accepting a donation.

@barnaliadhikary9421 4 ай бұрын

All the best

@aurora3655 4 ай бұрын

It’s so complicated!

@sylvialambley2585 4 ай бұрын

I was donor- conceived, and info about the donor is/was not available to me... but I am trying to find some loopholes to learn more. I'm curious where you found "feedback from the donor conceived community" through your research? Would also be open to chatting if you have questions or want to talk about what I wish I'd been told etc... Love your beautiful content! Xx

@annajones2232 4 ай бұрын

How did you decide who would carry the baby?

@aidanshaw3611 4 ай бұрын

Good luck :). How come this procedure is not legal in Germany? In which other countries from Europe is it legal?

@myflyingkidney 4 ай бұрын

do you mind sharing the clinic you ended up choosing? and some others you looked at? I am also looking at the same procedure you two are, but I need to freeze my eggs first (I might be potentially transitioning, and even if not I am old and don't have a lot more time). My theoretical future partner will be carrying the child since I am trans, so for me pregnancy isn't an option. But since biologically we are dealing with same bodies, everything you are going to will apply to me. I heard clinics in spain are also good as well as denmark but austria is closest to me geographically. And I need to choose the clinic first since I will have to store the eggs there for future. Thanks for any info! (even if it is in a private message)

@veins2820 4 ай бұрын

How did the cyst removal impact you cognitively? Noticed any changes?

@annajones2232 4 ай бұрын

Your child from a popular donor will have many half siblings, did you ever think that was strange?

@nihalhathaway4089 4 ай бұрын

german rap - out. I agree so much hahaha

@marcelevitta1774 4 ай бұрын

Little Brilliant is coming...

@catharinamariatheresia1626 4 ай бұрын

I am a blonde Alexis looking for my brown-haired Lilian. In the North of the Netherlands please.

@SamarkandChan 4 ай бұрын

Just be very aware of the fact that donors donate globally. So try to look for clinics that have global limits

@djilalimhamed5500 4 ай бұрын

Vraiment je vous suis vous super sympa très jolies reportages ❤❤❤ amitié sincèrement et vous jolies bises ❤❤❤🎉

@aurora3655 4 ай бұрын

Is empathy genetic?

@lighthouse1136 3 ай бұрын

Please find someone who is willing to get to know your child one-day. I've watched several documentaries abt this and a high percentage of donor children, who didn't know who their donor fathers were, or could never meet them, felt a strong sense of loss/grief ..and confusion around their identity.. even when they came from loving homes. It sounds like you are sensitive and conscious around this..

@nikid.9418 4 ай бұрын

what's wrong with a big nose...?

@pernilladomander7648 4 ай бұрын

Why not just adopt a child?

@chocolateprincess2656 3 ай бұрын

Wondering the same

@nihalhathaway4089 4 ай бұрын

I don't think kindness is very genetic haha

@kirsten7467 4 ай бұрын

Please get a known donor. Its very important to know where you come from.

@jazmin6031 Ай бұрын

Wooow, super expensive😮

@gurmeharsingh484 3 ай бұрын

You should consider lilians brother or first cousin for sperm so it fertilises with alexis egg and it will be the same as male version of lilian is her brother or male cousins

@Anonymous-sb9rr 3 ай бұрын

Why is queer awareness a criterium for a donor from the sperm bank? If he's not gonna be involved in your life, then who cares what he thinks?

@Applecider-Poetry 3 ай бұрын

As a long time childcare worker and lesbian, I need to warn you that all children want to know who they are. There is no such thing as an anonymous donor. The agencies will change, laws will change and your children don't have to listen to your opinions. It's much less stressful to pick a close friend or even a relative to be the third parent. That's what you're signing up for even if you deny it or try redefining what you are doing. Most kids want to know who they really are even if they wait until you're dead. Why hamstring them with something less than the truth. Anonymous donors are often lied about. The agencies often produce a hundred under recorded siblings per donor. It's SO MUCH MORE FUN to pick out a daddy. Some fine gay man with talent and intellect that you are close to and want to include. Or you can do the right thing and adopt an infant keeping in mind open adoptions when viable. I say it's better to raise a motherless child than to have a kid that has to check their DNA before having unprotected sex.❤❤ sorry my opinion only. Remember all chickens come home to roost. The truth cannot be suppressed forever...