life after quitting my 9-5 in tech | feeling like I’m not enough…

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Have you ever wondered what life would be like if you quit your 9-5 to pursue your dreams?
Well I've done it, and things are not exactly as I imagined...In this chatty vlog, I share a few days in my life after quitting my 9-5 job in tech. Things seem to be going great on my new career as a content creator. However, recently growth on KZfaq has slowed, and I started to feel like...I'm not enough.
I open up about the loneliness and anxiety I feel after leaving corporate, share my journey of uncovering the roots of these feelings through therapy, and finally learning to live by what I love, not what I fear.
I hope this offers you a virtual escape from 9-5, and lifts you up if you are also feeling down:)
xx,
Evelyn
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00:31 what I've been up to
01:30 getting lunch
02:08 turning hobby into business
03:38 friendships in late twenties
05:16 feeling stuck
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09:43 living by love not fear
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➭ how old are you? 29 (born in 1994)
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@QueenXKnit 5 ай бұрын

I have found what has the most helped me in my life is to completely reshape my mindset. I stopped dreaming of a better life, whatever that means, and learned to appreciate and enjoy my life for what it is now.The more I wished for more, I wished I was doing something else, I was somewhere else, the more unhappy, anxiety-ridden and depressed I was. I learned that my value was not in how much I was paid, what job I did, or where I lived. I was valuable because I was. At the end of my human journey, I don't want to have lived my whole life rehearsing the past, plagued with feverish unattainable dreams,that are the product of capitalism rather than a soul call, and cursing at the life I lived in the present. I learned that if I wanted to be happy, I needed to be humble and grateful. After I taught myself this lesson, I stopped crying over thing I didn't have, and opened my eyes to everything I already had, inside and out. I was enough, I dind't need to do more and be more, I could be just me. I hope you find your peace too Evelyn

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

That’s such a refreshing and insightful message…thank you for sharing it with us. The part I struggle with the most is believing that I am valuable because I am. I may appear confident to some people, but deep down I don’t know what it’s like to feel like I’m enough. And I’m going through the grief of having realized how little self worth I have had all my life. But that’s the first step:) in 2024, I want to learn to practice self compassion, to live by what I love, and probably read a lot of Berne Brown…grateful to have you with me on this journey. Hope you have a wonderful year ahead🫶✨

@SLBlue8 4 ай бұрын

Such a powerful insight. Thank you for sharing this when I need it the most ❤

@houdy5675 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for writing this

@mariagilyova3445 5 ай бұрын

Dear Evelyn, I'm a therapist. Congratulations for starting your way to the better life via therapy route ❤

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you! So much respect to all the therapists out there making people’s lives better❤️ my therapist helped me see so much I couldn’t have seen on my own. Very very grateful.

@cattmono 5 ай бұрын

I just got fired without reason (right before Christmas) and this video is what I needed. Thank you for your input, I love your videos very much! I hope you keep being happy and healthy

@julietteprt5673 5 ай бұрын

Sending positive vibes your way! I got fired from my marketing 9 to 5 two years ago, I'm now living my best life and I "created" my dream job :) There is hope!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

I’m sorry they fired you without reason, right before Christmas. What a heartless thing to do. I hope you still managed to have a lovely Christmas - in their face. An employer like this doesn’t deserve you. You’ll thrive and be happy in 2024 - I know it🫶✨

@shalynthng7049 4 ай бұрын

I just had an awful night looking at other people's achievements on social media and feeling bitter about myself. As I click into your video today, while having my lunch, I never would have thought that this video would bring me close to tears. You are definitely not alone in this journey :') felt like I was meant to watch this video on this day, for a good reason.

@Waheedalabloomer 5 ай бұрын

I know it must not easy for you to share this deep insecurity vulnerably. I hope you also take time to celebrate how far you have come and inspire your little community here, Evelyn. have a good and light-heartedness holidays and recharge

@davidcallow 4 ай бұрын

Hey there, you know it’s very easy to get lost in the numbers (especially coming from corporate), I think it’s important to understand that the audience you build are here for the journey you’re on. Nothing has to be perfect, keep on creating content and pushing forward 💪

@manuelendra3546 5 ай бұрын

You are the only KZfaqr I know who is not a glamorous person that noone can ever be but someone who shows themselves as an authentic human being, ups, downs and everything in between included. Your vlogs feel like reading a very realistic biography or diary. Thank you ❤

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Ahh thank you so much😭 some KZfaqrs stop watching KZfaq after it becomes their career (I get it, it can be so anxiety provoking), but I still love watching KZfaq because of the comfort it brings, and for feeling like I’m not alone b/c someone out there is going through the same struggles I am. Nothing, nothing means more than hearing you say that you relate to my content in the same way. trying my best to stay true❤️

@sabrihaamin4043 Ай бұрын

Ur videos give me so much joy!! Ur such a cool human I genuinely look up to u. As someone that’s only lived for 20 years watching ur videos makes me feel like I will be ok in the future

@thezengirl3685 5 ай бұрын

Dear Evelyn, here I am, half way across the world, nodding my head to everything you’re saying. I feel your “stuckness” every day, and I’ve been listening to the two podcasts you mentioned every day, feeling that there’s something inside of me that wants to break out but gets stifled instead, I want to start something, but somehow the first step takes forever to happen… Wish when I’m back to China, we can catch up and exchange ideas!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Getting started is the hardest part. Sending all my best, and happy 2024🫶✨

@msda. 5 ай бұрын

I appreciate your honesty so much and I can relate a lot with being too hard on myself and thinking I'm not good enough. I was fired a couple of months ago and I'm still figuring what to do. I feel so frustrated with job interviews and I've been thinking a lot lately that actually I don't wanna go for another 9:5 but also I need to pay the bills 😅 it's a hard but beautiful moment as you said. l like the onion analogy. Also, fun fact: I was so amused to see your olive oil is the same one we have in Brazil 😂 I was like: wait I know this! Lol

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

~*gLobALizAtiOn*~ haha...interviews are always tough. It means you are putting yourself out there for people to judge, and it can feel like a job offer defines quite literally how much you are worth. No matter how much I try to tell myself that's not the case, there might be a day that I might need to go for job interviews, and I'd go through the exact same struggles too...remember to take care of yourself:) No matter what happens on the job market, you can still use good quality olive oil to keep yourself happy and healthy:)

@AnalogDave 5 ай бұрын

I can sum up my 20s about the same way you are. I didn't really know "who I was" until my 30s, and now in my 40s I am finally confident in who I am. I'm not sure what you are going through is because you quit you 9-5 or if it just because its what happens to people in your stage of life. Probably some combination of both, but I went through very similar feelings working a full time corporate job during the day and taking night classes at university through my 20s. (yeah, I didn't graduate until 29) Good to see you posting again if that's what brings you joy. Happy holidays.

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

thank you so much for sharing. I feel like I've always known who I am, strangely. But we are always changing and growing, and every once in a while I feel like I'm getting to know myself again. In my early twenties growing and changing was quite a painful experience - perhaps it always will be. But now that I'm older, I relish the fact that I have grown, and become wiser, more than ever before. Perhaps I'll go through less changes in my 30s? Idk...Developmental psychologists say that we do. I'm excited to find out. Thanks for being here. Happy 2024✨

@MessyGoals 5 ай бұрын

You're channel is the perfect mix of thoughtful narration and travel/daily life. I always feel like we're going on a journey with you, even if you're just hanging out at home. I think a lot of us struggle with these things so I appreciate you sharing how you work through them!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much🫶when I film a video I think of it as spending time with you. So happy that it comes through that way. Can’t wait to take you along new adventures in 2024!

@user-vg9jv7cu6r 4 ай бұрын

Dear Evelyn, many thanks for your videos. I would like to tell you how much I appreciate your grounded point of view and that you show us a little of Guangzhou.I would love to see more of your beautiful city and the life that happens there. I don't usually have a lot of patience to videos that show just Europe and those kind of lifestyles as a good life, so your channel is one a feel really happy to have found! It's a breath of fresh air. Hugs from Brazil.

@jeretso 5 ай бұрын

Working in an office I get to listen to people talk about their kids, sports, traffic, divorce, health and vacations. BLAH, BLAH. I'm gonna miss them when I'm gone. And I sure would like some sweet company(Cups by Anna Kendrick). Good People .

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

I remember working an internship when I was 21, and hearing my coworkers talk about redoing their garden, fixing their toilet and I thought “ughhhh I don’t want to spend my life stuck in conversations like these”. But now I do miss human company so dearly. Lesson I learned: surrounding yourself with likeminded people sparks joy. And that could happen in the office or outside of it. I’m working to build more face-to-face human connections this year. Wishing you a happy 2024✨

@jeretso 4 ай бұрын

@@tapiocapress Happy New Year! You can do consultations for us new to travel.

@glitchscribble44 5 ай бұрын

Honestly same. This video is so relatable on so many levels. What I’ve found that helps my anxiety is to just keep moving and to avoid thinking about myself all the time and prioritizing helping others. But anyhow thanks for sharing! Your videos are very wholesome and I always look forward to watching every time you upload ❤

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Sending virtual hugs! Lately I've been realizing a lot of my anxiety comes from not believing the world is a safe and loving place, and not believing that I'm enough. These are big topics to work through, and this year I want to find a balance between building up my mental health and still being productive - in a feel-good way - borrowing Ali Abdaal's term. Hope you have a wholesome and inspiring 2024 ahead✨

@camscornerbooks 5 ай бұрын

The Body Keeps the Score is the most life changing book I’ve ever read. I adore it. I recommend it to everyone.

@SLBlue8 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing your vulnerability. Often we see the upside of people's life on social media and I start questioning myself if I'm at the right place. Growing up in Asian household, it was challenging for me to have a close relationship with my mom. I grew up feeling not good enough and that feeling lasted until now. Recently I joined a big tech company as TPM. As an introvert I prefer a small company setting without the politics, and here I am struggling each day feeling I'm not good enough for this job. Feeling uncomfortable with my current position, I do hope that I will overcome this challenge and will not be defeated at the end 😊 Thank you for the book recommendation as well ❤

@CallMeLexis 5 ай бұрын

thanks for this, stay strong !! 💪

@courtneyb3173 5 ай бұрын

This is the first video I’ve seen from you channel and wow! Thank you for sharing such raw and honest content. People definitely need to see and hear your experiences. I appreciate it ! Keep it up!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for making your way to this tiny corner of the internet🫶

@user-vq5cw1po9o 4 ай бұрын

Happy I found your channel. Keep following your dreams❤

@randomythandIe 5 ай бұрын

your realizations hit me. sending you virtual hugs.

@sreypichtvshow6059 4 ай бұрын

I noticed you've been doing your edges more when looking at your posts on your channel and you are doing good!! It looks so cute on you💖😘😍🌺

@RaychRamos 5 ай бұрын

so much feels in this video! was in the same place way back 2018 when I quit my day job and decided to pursue content creation. (I did go back to work after 6 months hehe). sending you love and thanks for sharing this! I hope you feel better (but do know it does and you will be better to! the challenges will make you stronger and wiser.) Keep on going, Evelyn!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you🫶 wow I’m so overwhelmed by the support from you guys😭 I took some time off to go to Japan and recover from just…being unkind to myself. Feeling much better now and ready for new adventures. Happy new year✨

@alessiagandolfo9305 4 ай бұрын

I love that book! Our body holds so much memory

@jijimo5125 4 ай бұрын

Needed this. Thank you

@bjournals 5 ай бұрын

we missed you really. your absence was felt. I usually watch your video every weekend morning while eating my breakfast. Keep it up. you shine in ways you never had before through having an international audience. Listen to podcast Hidden Brain - Episode How to Believe in Yourself. it speaks about this stuckness and how it is actually one of the steps to acquire more success. this hump is part of life. much heartfelt support to you Evelyn Love from Saudi Arabia

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much❤️ hidden brain is one of my favorite podcasts, but I haven’t been keeping up with it lately. Will definitely listen to that episode!

@247hustlerr 3 ай бұрын

Hope everything is ok with you. Waiting patiently for the next one. Much love from CA, and happy lunar new year to you.

@stepsoflife 5 ай бұрын

I tried starting my own business. It was definitely gazillion times harder than showing up to a 9-5 job as to actually bringing home some money. I failed, so, good luck.

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you! We never know until we’ve tried:)

@n.nguyen 5 ай бұрын

This video is wholesome! Thank you so much. You're not alone!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

❤️

@malakissami8199 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this with us, there are a lot of people in the same situation including me so it's so helpful to know that we are not the only ones and everything is going to be ok. So thank you again and sending you love from North Africa

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

sending so much love

@LS-zt3xz 5 ай бұрын

I just wanted to comment on what you said about feeling stuck in the place that you are (both physically and mentally), as that's something I definitely relate to and felt throughout every stage of my life. I recall you had shared that you'll be moving to Berlin next year -- I am super excited for you and think that it'll be a great move for you, but would just say to be cognizant of a different set of challenges that will crop up in Berlin that didn't exist in Guangzhou (e.g., not being able to speak/read the local language, often being the only Asian person in the room, gloomy weather for 6 months out of the year, etc), and to really take care of yourself mentally and emotionally to prepare for that. I hope that didn't come across as too didactic! Good luck in this new year and hope to see you some time in Europe!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

thank you so so much for this thoughtful message. I have looked into the challenges of living in Berlin, and being the overthinker that I am, I'm already worried about them...but, what you said about taking care of my mental health is such good advice. I'm working on that, also on building a support network in Berlin (so many lovely people here have offered to meet for a coffee - thank you so much!). Lately I've been thinking about visiting Berlin for a month before moving there for the longer term. Thanks again for offering your perspective. You offered it in such a kind and encouraging way, and I appreciate it so much. Happy 2024✨

@jinglesparkle 3 ай бұрын

I found us in very similar situations, except that I was laid off and started a KZfaq channel from 0 subscribers. It has been a year, and it definitely seems there’s not much progress, and I feel anxious quite often. Thank you for sharing your experiences, and your videos are beautifully made ❤

@helentsokana 5 ай бұрын

I get so much enjoyment from watching your videos. I am so happy to witness your channel's success, well done! 💕

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much. Happy new year✨🍾️🎉🫶🎊

@elaine7304 5 ай бұрын

i like your sharing Evelyn! you are a very good observer and you can express your feelings very well! Just know that you are not alone, there are ppl motivated by your videos.

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

I feel the warm company in the comment section, and that really keeps me going...thank you so much. Hope you have a lovely 2024 ahead✨

@j-trandell9274 5 ай бұрын

I appreciate your honesty - your reflective honesty. Seeing a youtube creator express such integrity is inspirational. Keep on keeping on, Onion Peeler! 🎉

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you!!! the phrase onion peeler reminds me - maybe that’s why I cry sometimes, because hey it’s peeling onions haha! Wishing you a very happy and fulfilling new year✨

@damsel72 5 ай бұрын

I love your-there is nothing wrong with you. You’re beautiful, young, smart, and have a nice apartment. I love that you show us so many different places where you live. ❤ from California

@nadjae.327 5 ай бұрын

Evelyn, I absolutely love your videos. I relate to you SO much and feel so comforted and inspired watching your videos. Thank you! Virtual hug from the other side of the world 🤗

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Sending big hugs your way - you make me feel less alone too. Very grateful for our little community❤️

@wanderwise 5 ай бұрын

Brilliant video, your vlog style is so relaxing and open. Keep it up 💚

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much…happy new year🫶✨

@janeysdiary 5 ай бұрын

You are so brave for what you have done and I only wish you happiness and success on what you put your mind to! I have family in GZ so it's awesome seeing you walk around 💖 It is so easy to feel lonely but keep in mind you're building a lovely community with us :) x

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much🫶you guys lift me up when I feel down, truly. Thank you for being a part of this community💖

@moonyuelune 5 ай бұрын

MISSED U SM ILY

@pepostudios 5 ай бұрын

I love your honesty, Evelyn!! I get so much value from hearing your insights. I’m a couple steps behind you… still working a demanding 9-5 as a consultant, so it’s really inspiring to see how your choices have panned out. Thank you!!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

🫶you got this! Consulting is my favorite part of my professional career. I learned so much about how to tell a story, how to work with people from different backgrounds…but at the same time, it really was the most demanding. hope you are taking care of yourself and working towards your dreams✨

@jessiejessie3430 5 ай бұрын

Love your video, thank you!

@dreasmile 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for getting vulnerable with us, Evelyn. This was a very cozy vlog and I appreciate you also showing us the less glamorous days. I hope you’ll feel better! 🫶🏼

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

I’m here to share the most real and authentic parts of life with you❤️thank you for being here even on those less glamorous days. Happy 2024🫶✨

@AmethystBlossom 5 ай бұрын

hi evelyn! echoing what so many others have already commented - thank you for sharing this with us and being vulnerable with us. the holidays are a particularly difficult time for me generally, so i really appreciated your candidness about how you're feeling and the reminder to remember the things you love and make you happy. i'm sure things will improve some day (whether that be those feelings of being not enough, loneliness, or general holiday sadness), even if that day isn't today, and until then, i appreciate your company and thoughts along the way! 祝你新年快乐，迎接新一年的快乐与成长！sending you all the love from the other side of the globe

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much

@allmylovemish 5 ай бұрын

i literally feel the exact same way as you - i quit my nursing job a few months ago, and i have been having so many unglamorous days lately, especially in the midwest winters. its like a whole new world of obstacles im navigating now, but at the same time i feel so free. ive been meaning to put my words into a youtube video, and you are seriously such an inspiration to me

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Ahhh I lived in the Midwest for many years and don’t want to look back to the brutal winters🥶hope you stay warm, and - I’m so glad you can relate. Makes me feel so much less alone too (because that’s why I make videos to talk about these feelings - I feel alone in these feelings in the first place). Thank you for being here with me❤️ happy new year🍾️🎉🎊✨

@krisliuliu 5 ай бұрын

thanks so much for sharing this. the good and the bad sides of working a 9-5 then quitting. nothing is perfect, life isn't perfect, we aren't perfect. it's so nice to hear that from you as someone that's doing well on KZfaq, empowering the rest of us. much love xo

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for saying this…I’m still struggling to truly accept the fact that nothing in life is perfect. I think a lot of my anxiety comes from not coming to terms with the fact that I’m not perfect, and constantly imposing unrealistic expectations on myself. It’s exhausting. I’m working to change that in 2024:) hope you have a wonderful new year ahead✨

@BettinaRae 5 ай бұрын

I completely relate to you feeling this this isn’t what you imagined. However ironically I think the fact that your life “doesn’t look like theirs” is exactly why your content is so interesting. Keep living YOUR life. That’s why we follow you.

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

ahh…thank you so much for saying this. I took a break from KZfaq and didn’t get to reply to this until now, but I remember seeing this comment and walking around the streets in Japan thinking: this is why I should keep doing what I do. Thank you❤️

@facisseJ 4 ай бұрын

I’m also reading the Body Keeps the Score - it’s a lot to take in, but wow, it really puts things into perspective. I’m also 29 and completely rediscovering myself as a human. In astrology, 29 is around the time Saturn returns to its position when you were born. It’s called your Saturn Return, and it’s kind of like a coming of age. “Generally speaking, this powerful time is defined by profound growing pains that catalyze radical metamorphosis.” - from an article by The Cut if you’d like to read it, it’s super interesting! Anyway, I just wanted you to know that you’re not alone in feeling like this. It seems like you’re working really hard on improving your existence, and I’m right there with you. I’m proud of us for doing the work, and I truly believe it will pay off. 😌

@poppycalliope 5 ай бұрын

I always appreciate your honesty and the way you talk openly about your feelings. Your channel is very relatable and I'm sure a lot of us want to hear everything you say ❤ I'd love to know your final thoughts on the book you're reading once you're done, I've been interested in this book but haven't got it yet

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you❤️ I still haven’t finished it haha. From the first half, I learned about how traumatized people - myself and others - feel. It feels very cathartic to make sense of lots of feelings I already struggle with in my life. The second half is more about how to grow out of, or with trauma. Will report back!

@poppycalliope 5 ай бұрын

@@tapiocapress thank you! Happy new year 💗

@AnrupB 5 ай бұрын

You are enough because you exist. You bring a lot of beautiful energy to the world because you exist. It’s more than enough. (I tell myself this regularly too - I have ADHD but ALSO feel the same pressure on myself. Working through it). Hard but necessary journey. Also, women are often left undiagnosed with ADHD and symptoms can be anxiety, depression and pressure because of the endless ways ADHD can manifest. I would find a specialist who has knowledge on ADHD in women, there’s still not a lot of research on it compared to men. There are some tests online you can start with. You got this. ❤

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you! I have read about how ADHD often gets misdiagnosed as anxiety too. Will continue to explore this. Happy new year🫶

@itsyunhui 5 ай бұрын

我确保每次看Evelyn的视频都会点赞👍

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

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@jaya566 5 ай бұрын

You know, i feel you so much. The entire thing like stuck, free, lonely, attention, on your own way. oh god - i felt like you're talking about me. But I'm happy for you, it's gonna be okay x

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

It’s all gonna be okay! Happy new year✨

@gretapoggi7946 5 ай бұрын

Hi Evelyn, I am so excited to see you moving to Berlin and to know your first impressions about the city!!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

I’m so excited to move there!!!!

@edwin.t 5 ай бұрын

Hi Evelyn, thank you for this video. I quit my 9-5 recently after experiencing a slight burnout and possibly existential crisis (I'm in my late 30s). Been bumming for a little more than a month now and also experienced a spectrum of emotions similar to what you felt. Stuck, uncertain, feeling less than etc. The holidays certainly didn't make it easier. Your video articulated quite a bit of what's on my mind lately and is a wake up call for me, after a month of constantly trying to distract myself with videos and games. Hope it gets better for you and everyone in the comment section.

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Sending my thoughts to you! The freedom of carving out your own path comes with uncertainty, and anxiety, and the feeling of loss and confusion. Take your time, and take care of yourself:) hope you are looking forward to a fulfilling new year✨

@huy3967 5 ай бұрын

(From California, USA) Thank you for sharing a bit of you.

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for tuning in! Happy new year✨

@rosieg1246 5 ай бұрын

evelyn im so proud of you for seeking therapy and help :)

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

🫶🫶🫶

@mundomire 5 ай бұрын

I feel pretty much the same, but I still work my 9 to 6! job. Can’t quit right now because of mortgage. Best thing that happened to me to reduce stress levels is my little dog ) she gives me so much joy )) I wish you all the good things in 2024! Don’t be too harsh on yourself, remember that you are perfect as you are.

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much…all the best to you too! I feel like the reason I was able to quit is I don’t have a mortgage or plan to have children. But, sometimes I find myself wondering if I’m throwing my financial future away by giving up a steady income and not investing in real estate. And that’s what’s mentally exhausting isn’t? Wanting something that you are not working towards? Maybe I’ll try to figure out a better goal-effort alignment when planning for this year:) happy new year🫶✨

@hazzah3104 5 ай бұрын

I think our mood comes a lot from how we fuel and give ourself nutrition. A good book recommendation I haven’t been able to put down is Nourishing Traditions by Sally Fallon. She demystifies all the beliefs about nutrition to how we have evolved through our traditional history. Once the body is made right the mind will have an anchor to grow and flourish. All the best ❤❤

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for the recommendation! I feel like my physical health declines when my mental health suffers - because I often can’t eat well, sleep well, or neglect taking care of myself. Reminder to everyone to please take care of yourself even when you are feeling down✨

@freeda_taiyaki 5 ай бұрын

Hii Evelyn:) your videos always bring me joy and warmth. I think I had a similar path in life. I remember reading the joy luck club in high school and recalling my “fun” Asian childhood experiences. It was so stressful that for a while I had hair loss problems. I had the pattern of moving between countries to escape the dullness of life but in fact I was just trying to run away from my past. Fortunately I got into mental health therapy some while ago and I try to write my thoughts down when past memories of traumatic episodes or anxieties hit:) Also, sometimes I wonder if perfection, like many things else, can be a social construct. Why do people wish to be perfect that much? it’s almost like an endless chasing game (I don’t know the answer haha) tbh you are doing great and I admire your dedication and courage to turn a hobby into a career. Bravo ❤ at the moment life may seems mundane but I’m sure you will find the little sparkles here and there:) whether it’s in Guangzhou or Berlin ❤

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story...For me the experience of realizing that I am living with childhood trauma is clarifying. So many things are finally making sense. Even at the very beginning of this channel, when I moved back home during the pandemic, I was trying to process my relationship with my mom. But wow I have such a different perspective now. It's an empowering new beginning, where I now get to face the root of my insecurities, my pursuit of perfection, and start living life how I want to live it. It's the start of a long journey, and I'm so grateful to have you coming along

@theehappysunflower 5 ай бұрын

You're not alone Evelyn! Moving from the US 7 years ago I'd say most of my "close" friends are online or in other countries. Grateful to have social media & places to communicate, but I do crave more in-person quality time. If you ever want to chat with someone about the highs & lows or to visit in Europe when you make the move to Berlin, I'm here for you! xx

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much❤️ One of my goals in 2024 is to have more in person quality time. Hope I get to share some of it with you in Berlin!

@swatibaruah6986 5 ай бұрын

Joy luck club is one of my favourite books. It’s heartbreaking and beautiful 🌸♥️

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

Your mother is in your bones❤️it changed my relationship with my mom in a good way. Glad you find it enjoyable too!

@jennyxing 5 ай бұрын

yes!! onions have layers, and at the core is our most authentic self. finding it/getting there isn't easy though. thank you so much for being vulnerable in this vlog- I am also on a journey of self healing from my childhood trauma, and one book that's helped me is "how to do the work" by nicole lepera. you may find that you relate to some of the inner child archetypes she talks about. I'm writing this comment on the train on my way back to shenyang, my hometown! I will be supporting you in your journey Evelyn in 2024 and beyond!!!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Adding the book to my TBR…Thanks so much for the recommendation! ahhh hope you have (had) a lovely time in Shenyang! I made a brief stop at kaleidoscope books on a layover, and bought a bunch of prints. Wishing you all the best in 2024🫶✨

@vena3628 5 ай бұрын

love your vids

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

Thank you!!

@comfyera 5 ай бұрын

As a fellow small KZfaqr who also works in Tech (and who also goes to therapy!) I super appreciate your authenticity and vulnerability. I hope you'll continue sharing yourself and your thoughts on the internet. It's much needed, and it makes a difference. ❤

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

🫂thank you….wishing you the very best, and happy new year✨

@comfyera 5 ай бұрын

@@tapiocapress thank you for taking the time to reply and happy new year to you as well! ✨

@janellekiara7220 5 ай бұрын

Fellow ex 9-5 employee here. Evelyn I can resonate so much with the seemingly incessant need to be hard on oneself, I’ve also been thinking of being checked for adhd and am pretty sure I have it but wouldn’t be surprised to hear a professional say the same thing to me “ur too hard on yourself”. I think it’s extra difficult for people like us who tend to never be able to live up to own lofty expectations and so when reality doesn’t match up it can feel devastating sometimes. Thank you for sharing this. I’ve been going through a tough time as well and am sure some of that has to do with the whole end of year blues so it’s always soothing to see how you’re handling it and putting yourself out there by getting more comfortable with being uncomfortable. I applaud your efforts to continue learning, growing and developing this chapter for your life ❤

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Ahhh you said it so well:) thanks for sharing! I’ve been reading more about ADHD and realized sometimes it can be unclear whether anxiety is the cause of inattention or the other way around, as these two symptoms often coexist. So I recommend going to see a mental health professional if you are struggling with either or both. My goal this year is to practice self compassion (still learning this concept…shocking how it feels impossible to treat ourselves how we would treat a friend) take care, and hope you have a wonderful year ahead🫶

@trapdeath99 5 ай бұрын

This was uncomfortable but gave a chance to reflect on our thoughts... Grateful that i found you on KZfaq

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Grateful to have you here🫶

@klarali 5 ай бұрын

Heyy, I appriciate your vlogs so much. It´s a really brave thing to go out on your own and work for yourselves. It´s a dream that I´m also working towards and you sharing your journey is inspiring so much. It´s comforting to see you sharing both your highs and lows because it makes me feel less lonely in not always being on top. And also! If you want some insights about life in Berlin I´m totally up for sharing. I lived there for the last 5 years but moved back to my homecountry this year. So if you have any questions just hit me up. :)

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!! Working for myself has been a scary adventure, and I feel so inspired and uplifted by you guys. Thank you for being here:)

@kadeeeartiaga 5 ай бұрын

I couldn’t relate more of this video 🥺

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Sending hugs!!!!🫂

@shafaghkamkar4009 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing this. Wanted to say more but then I realized it’s the internet and it’s not a fully safe place haha but please know you’re not alone in those feelings

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

🫂take care!

@carissamorgan7992 5 ай бұрын

Dear Evelyn, I appreciate you and the content you create so. It’s a refreshingly honest parasocial friendship. Keep doing the hard work “peeling back the layers of the onion”, cry as needed, find joy, create, rest -show up in whatever form that takes today. :)

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much🫶 I’ve been taking some time to recharge, so that I can show up for you and for myself with inspirations and joy. Have you have a wonderful new year ahead of you✨

@crazybotches236 5 ай бұрын

trust the process

@moonyuelune 5 ай бұрын

daily serotonin boost thank u so much 🩷🩷🩷

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for the early comments!!!! Happy new year🫶

@QueenXKnit 3 ай бұрын

Missing you Evelyn

@silverdove88 5 ай бұрын

Dear Evelyn, I've watched a few of your videos and love your authenticity and aesthetics! I'm mid-thirties halfway around the world and few years into healing from my 'typical' Chinese upbringing - there's quite a bit of 'get's worse before it gets better' stuff which took me awhile to figure out if it was worse since it was suppose to be or worse because I did something wrong. derivativesFrom my perspective of what you've shown so far, you have a solid foundation to hold you, Sending love

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you

@silverdove88 4 ай бұрын

@@tapiocapress Happy new year

@Kissestokitty 5 ай бұрын

I hope you the best

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

All the best to you too🫶

@HaoShen 5 ай бұрын

Hey Evelyn! Very inspiring story and nice to see you back on track as you wish for. May I know where I can buy you cafe chat in China or welcome to Shanghai if possible? :) Merry Christmas ahead!!!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Happy new year!! Thanks for reaching out:) I don't have plans to go to SH yet, but when I do I'll post on IG beforehand. Hope to get to meet you there!

@Kira8210 5 ай бұрын

Hi Evelyn! I have the same of insecurity as your too (Quitting my corporate from Japan based consultants company since April) and i take break until like July to keep up with my family and disoriented daily activities. August is the day when my part time job comes when i begin to online selling my old video games & then become their admin. That month till October is the day i can confidently say i'm glad that it is not necessary to go back to corporate job some time soon. But my family is quite toxic , because the earned money that i got still not enough for them (Yeah i spare like 30% sometime can go to 50% if said money is required). Even tho i have old friends to keep in touch, but around this month i'm feeling down (cause christmas & new year lol). Sometime it's okay to feel upset & "not enough" but i'm sure us (non corporate worker) and the others can make it slowly but surely :) Have a merry Merry Christmas & have a nice next year too :D

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

wow...I just spent Christmas in Japan. My first time in the country, loved it so much. I can relate so much to the toxic pressure your family/society puts on you. I read a book last year called Convenience Store Woman by Sayaka Murata. It's a satire of the familial/societal pressure in Japan about having a "real" job, getting married etc. and I remember thinking "wow...that's so similar to the toxicity in China..." I'm so proud of you for making your own career work financially, in such a short time. We all have one life. Gotta do what's right for us. It's tough to face so much external pressure, and not have the support of people you love. But you are not alone...so many people in this community face the same struggles, and we are here to lift each other up:) happy 2024✨

@_bmee 5 ай бұрын

wish i has the courage like you to quit my job, hope things will turn out well for all of us

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

🫶

@boomboom1258 5 ай бұрын

Girl, it's always an instant click for me. I'm tired from my day job, but hey... let's catch up with Evelyn

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for catching up with me🫶happy new year✨🍾️🎊

@moonyuelune 5 ай бұрын

I SCREAMED I SCREAMED

@LifeLoveTravelAdventures 4 ай бұрын

@9:40 ❤🤗

@simplecreations5838 5 ай бұрын

Hello Evelyn. I am currently trying to become a Pinterest Manager for Brands and Businesses. It is tough, lonely but fulfilling. I wish you the very best of luck and I'm happy for the success you've already had. You're such an inspiration!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

All the very best!!! Ahh I love Pinterest but feel like I never learned to use it properly…it’s so cool that you manage Pinterest professionally for brands and businesses! wishing you a very happy and fulfilling 2024🫶✨

@simplecreations5838 4 ай бұрын

@@tapiocapress Thank you. I could help you out, if you'd like.

@TheCrimsonStitchery 5 ай бұрын

I sympathise with the loneliness of being self employed, youtube is a hard one cos there's this idea that all you need to do is hustle and it'll eventually work out...but actually success is totally out of your hands due to the fickle changes in viewing trends and the algorithm. It's not you ❤

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for saying this…some part of me still feels like there’s a way to study the algorithm, to strategize my way to KZfaq success, and I enjoy figuring it out. But, it’s a hard balance between accepting that success (or anything at all!) is ultimately out of our control, and still trying our best. That’s something I’m working on in 2024. Wishing you a great year ahead!🫶

@TheCrimsonStitchery 4 ай бұрын

@tapiocapress you can definitely strategise and upskill, that's never a waste 🤗

@yangnanli2212 5 ай бұрын

开心一些～～

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

谢谢🫶✨

@poterliu 5 ай бұрын

美好的生活，一切顺利。

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

谢谢❤️

@lorenagonzalessaar6488 5 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@richardcooper 5 ай бұрын

Always like, and already subscribe long ago ;)

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

Spotted an OG😊

@chi2om 5 ай бұрын

New watcher. What is your educational background? You said psychology which was my undergrad major. I’m doing MIS. I wonder how you got into tech before.

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

I did psychology and economics for undergrad, and MIS for grad school, which landed my first job in tech consulting

@anitaunbound 5 ай бұрын

Dear Evelyn, thank you for your honesty and courage to share this. But let me tell you, you are good enough, your existence ads value to the world and I hope that you can feel this too. I suggest you read Radical Compassion from Tara Brach, its about dealing with difficult emotions and self-believes through meditation practice (if you're into that kind of stuff :) I loved it because its really practical

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you🫶🫶🫶I have heard an episode of Tara Brach speaking about radical compassion on Sam Harris’s making sense podcast. Radical Compassion sounds like a perfect book for the new year. My goal this year: practice self compassion, and live by what I love. Wishing you a wonderful year ahead✨

@Youtubwatcher109 5 ай бұрын

I am a Chineae too. Will you consider finding an ordinary job in China just for living instead of being a full time KZfaqr ?

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

When money becomes a problem, then yes I would consider (have to) taking on a job, wherever I might be!

@jocenasty 5 ай бұрын

🫶🏼

@scotttan6377 5 ай бұрын

May the New Year of the Dragon bring fun surprises and exciting opportunities to everyone who has watched and/or subscribed to Evelyn's channel #tapiocapress ! 100K subs in 2024 ! @11:16 Let's hope Evelyn's "onion" is small ! ( lol )

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you🫶✨happy 2024 to everyone! My onion feels like Inception…I’ll probably spend all my life peeling it (and crying along the way - pun intended), but I’ll learn to enjoy the ride! Grateful to have you here!

@Mia-mi9kx 5 ай бұрын

Do you get the Red account lol, I'd like to follow!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

I do! It’s @tapiocapress and I primarily post book content there

@quynhhodiepnhu1701 3 ай бұрын

Hi author, The channel name seriously give me a hard time to find 😢, all the time.

@tapiocapress 3 ай бұрын

ahh so sorry to hear that! Have you tried to turn on the notification bell next to the subscribe button? This way whenever I post a video you'll get a notification:)

@justStardust940 5 ай бұрын

which part of china is your ancestry from?

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

I’m from Shenyang

@RoadDestination 5 ай бұрын

I'm seriously considering to ignore this advise.😇

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Hahahah you gotta be more specific! What advise? Happy new year✨

@RoadDestination 4 ай бұрын

@@tapiocapress 新年快乐！I was referring to the very start of the video: "Don't quit your day job".

@XYZ-ib4go 5 ай бұрын

My comment is gone, has it been deleted? 🥺

@tapiocapress 4 ай бұрын

Oh no…😭I don’t delete comments. Hopefully it’s still there somewhere!

@sauravlahiry6951 5 ай бұрын

hi sis, very very happy Xmas to u and ur beloved parents. sent u an Insta card

@joshmok 5 ай бұрын

I just quit my job a month ago thinking that life would be SOOOO GREAT, just to realize it's so lonely 🥹 But yeah, signed up for some society events to get to know more people. Stay hopeful!

@tapiocapress 5 ай бұрын

Thank you! All the best to you too!