This feels like I just watched someone humble brag about their accomplishments. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate that she was able to overcome adversity. Her family clearly had the resources, the language, the connections. I just wish the obstacle course I’m dealing with weren’t related to crippling health, being a single child with an unemployed parent who doesn’t have the language to get a decent job. Still, I hold onto hope and the decisiveness that I CAN get through this.

It is true she made a lot of effort, but now the economic and security situation of Iran has become much more difficult for people than before. What if she lived in a normal family? Was this way still open to them? I am much younger than her, but still, our current education system is worse than before. The situation of 90% of people is not such that she can go to English class. I just hope that one day Iran will be freed from the oppressive regime.

00:00 🏡 The speaker describes their childhood in Iran during the Iranian Revolution, highlighting the tense atmosphere and personal experiences. 01:57 🌍 The family faces upheaval due to political turmoil, leading to relocation and subsequent challenges. 05:09 🎓 Despite cultural and social hurdles, the speaker adopts a resilient attitude, actively participating in various activities to integrate. 06:01 💼 The speaker's professional journey involves climbing the corporate ladder, encountering setbacks, and seeking belonging through work. 08:00 🗽 Amid the COVID-19 pandemic, the speaker contributes to community resilience efforts in New York City, fostering a sense of unity. 10:01 🌱 Reflecting on societal challenges post-pandemic, the speaker emphasizes the importance of overcoming obstacles and fostering belonging through community engagement.

Why do i feel like i I just spent over 10 mins listening to someone talking through their CV

Not too much to take away from this one, felt like a brag to me

I appreciate her effort but this is more braggy than enlightening.

I think her speech was so impressive.I want to hear another stories of her.

Loved hearing your TED talk Maryam!

This is a very timely message for me. I just got hit with a huge obstacle and I have no idea how to beat it. I can only move forward. I'm still working out how.

I liked listening to this lady's story.

This was so timely for me. Grazie!

Greetings from algeria ❤

She was born and raised rich

Greetings from Chicago!

Beautiful human being ❤

This is an excellent presentation, a message that truly addresses our human-ness. A moot point though, America is a nation of immigrants, therefore it is understandable that many of them experience non- belonging -ness. Especially when faced with earth shifting obstacles on their life’s journey !! 🤔

Interesting perspective..

What a speech

🙏🏻I rarely get sick in the sea. In a way. We're in the sea of humanity. The sickness of sameness's sanity? Once you take a bite you've bitten.

Making your sense of well-being contingent on the approval and acceptance of others is not a new strategy. That's pretty much the status quo in the social media era where people seek belonging through online communities. Some of those communities are downright miserable and hostile to the outside world, but they have a sense of community within them. This strategy for self-regulation is not ideal and can be associated with various forms of mental illness like histrionic personality disorder or borderline personality disorder. It signifies an unstable sense of self-esteem with contingencies on success and belonging. A better approach would be what researchers call "hypoegoic self-regulation" where you act according to principled reasons, and do not focus on reflected self-appraisals from others. Ironically, that is what those Iranian guards were doing when they said dogs are harem. They were living according to a set of principles. But what those principles are and how they are derived is kind of important. With respect to Islam there is an understanding of the nafs, especially among the Sufis, that the human ego is considered illusory and the basis of all psychological suffering. If true this could explain why hypoegoism is found to be the best self-regulation strategy. Basically it just means you don't think about yourself in every situation and experience the fear, anxiety, rejection, etc.. of that perspective, and instead live in the moment and act appropriately to the circumstances and your guiding principles. The more you focus on your own situation the more feelings like fear and rejection play a role in your experience. Something to think about anyway. Would recommend reading The Handbook of Self and Identity and Handbook of Personality and Self-Regulation by Leary and Hoyle respectively. They will provide a concrete understanding, and evidence, for why these are not great self-regulation strategies.

VERY INSPIRING story from an accomplished soul groover!

Of course I was moved by your story, who wouldn’t be? I feel for all of us struggling day in day out with the “IS. Sucks and not in a nice way most times. Now struggle like that and even if you never give up you still cannot win. Just square your shoulders chin up take a cleansing breath and head back in win lose or die. You will never be defeated if you do not lose your sense of humor. Joke is on them because they will never know.

Beautifully presented. It was heartening to see a woman talking about escaping the Islamic revolution in Iran, wearing a red dress cut above the knee. Although it is obvious that the family was well to do and well connected that they had the option to live first in Paris, then in an affluent community in California. It's not the pit that a lot of refugees suffer and we all know success breeds success but this is still a recipe for community, collaboration and communication. Everything that is wrong with inner city isolation and hostility can be relieved with these three things except bigotry and belligerence.

nice? i'm absolute agree with here

KZfaq mods come quick, this woman is wacking off to her own ego for more than half of this video

This made me feel bad about myself.

TED became very weird lately

"Just be type A" lol

I disagree with this POV.

“Your search for belonging” I can tell this is unfathomably booboo from a light year away

Read the bible and follow the instructions!!!

That was awesome. Thank you goddess. Community. One consciousness experiencing itself subjectively. Sui generous perspectives as the universe has solved for everything. One energy connected in a fashion called entanglement. I am sentient consciousness manifest in holographic fractal dimensionality as energy. I can neither be created or destroyed, only altered in form. As above, so below. As within, so without. A grain of sand in the universe, a universe in a grain of sand. All is in everything, everything is in all. I am that I am. I am. Namaste. In Lak'ech Ala K'in. Tathata. Shivoham. Ashe.