You should watch the A Good Girls Guide To Murder series!

yeah the more i’ve thought about it i realize i exaggerated it. and i did say i empathized and agreed with the way she was feeling. totally justified. but i still dont like the way she talks to him about the issues (or how she doesnt directly voice her issues and instead makes snide passive aggressive comments)

both carmen and sydney can be mean and aggressive. carmen is definitely more like his mother. intense, domineering, abrasive, direct and verbally abusive at times. deep down though he just wants things to work and for people to care the way he does. sydney is as her old employer stated, impatient. she’s sarcastic (passive aggressive/indirect), and there are moments where she simply is just mean. but she’s also driven and ambitious and is just trying to roll with the punches that is this dysfunctional and chaotic situation. a lot of people like claire/carmy and claire together and want to see him happy. see him catch a break from all the shit. but its not enough (as we see in the finale). carmen has some deeply rooted issues and a relationship with/claire isn’t the solution. the goal shouldn’t be for him to be happy, because shit happens and humans aren’t happy all the time. the goal should be for him to be at peace. i see them as a couple as a quick fix for carmy. which is unfair to claire because (as much as she may want to) she can’t fix him. they introduced claire in this season for a reason (the drama/conflict it would bring). she is used as this sort of “manic pixie dream girl” that is supposed to show him he can have fun and be happy…right at the time where he is supposed to be building this restaurant with his partner. this restaurant and it’s success it’s what would make sydney “happy” and claire and carmy’s relationship seemly directly interferes with that. my question is do you care about /prioritize sydney’s happiness just as much as carmen’s? and if not, why is that?

Real good points that i agree with as well. Of course i want Carmy as a character to be happy, i have first-hand experience with a similar kind of familial dysfunction and struggling to find my own confidence and peace because of it, however that means that i also understand the damage prioritising my own happiness over my responsibilities and the people around me's happiness can cause. Maybe because of the lack of depth in Claire's its easier for me to view her as a distraction rather than a source of happiness. But either way she wasn't healthy for Carmy and Syd's issues with the whole work imbalance thing made a lot of sense to me

the way i see it Carmy was brought up in a family that's very direct and aggressive and then moves on to jobs where people are just as aggressive and direct. meanwhile Syd is not used to that, even in season 1 she says that the reason she started her catering business is so that she could be free of people shouting at her. Earlier in season 1 carmy tries being direct and aggressive with her but he notices she doesn't take well to this method and she doesn't even take criticism well so he switches it up that is why he doesn't ask or expect an apology from her. Carmy might not be communicating directly but he is trying to make accommodations for Syd. considering that he is the one risking his own money for the restaurant and that Syd doesnt have much of a name so its carmys reputation on the line if the restaurant fails but he still treats her as an equal to the best of his ability. its a bit rude of her to be so passive aggressive most of the time because it feels like carmy is more accepting of her flaws than she is of his.

thank you that means a lot ❤️

yes chef 🫡