I hate it when I'm trying to argue with someone and I just start crying all of a sudden. It's terrible cause I can barely get my point out. It gets annoying after some time.

I think I am overly sensitive but I also think some people are insensitive so it’s not always me, I think low self esteem and my insecurity makes me sensitive

my friends always say that i’m sensitive so imma try to fix that-

I overthink a lot when someone says something to me I need to stop being so sensitive 😭

ugh I literally get so offended by everything & feel like every comment is an attack & I don’t know if I’m being too sensitive or not

I always feel like every comment is an attack towards me , when I'm in public i become so embarrassed when people look at me.. I went out with my son at he bump his head and started crying and everybody was just staring at me i was so embarrassed i just went home and cried 😔 i wish small things would stop bothering me so much

My husband told me I was too sensitive when he would say something hurtful and critical. Now I say, that's just your opinion and how your are speaking to me right now says a lot more about you then it does about me. He no longer treats me so harshly. Thank you Dr Paul

I'm 26, I've been sensitive since I was a child, and I'm not changing. Sensitivity is a beautiful thing. Everyone hates me because I'm a sensitive person and actually have emotions. Other people don't have emotions so they wouldn't understand. Everyone's trying to attack me!!!! I hate them all!!!

Everytime my friend laughs at me or gets angry at me, I will just be sad for days, Thinking about it alot before i sleep whixh makes it hard to sleep and whenever i remember it i feel sad.

Thank you so much! This helped me a lot. I'm really sensitive about a lot of things and they sort of just pile up overtime and i think about them constantly. And cry because of remembering what happened, how I could've done better, etc. But what you said just now, "if it were someone else, the same thing would've happened to them too." And that "being sensitive isn't a bad thing." I really needed this Thanks so much. It clears up my worries a little bit better and possibly come up with a solution too. :)) Your voice is so soothing too tbh!

This is brilliant. Absolutely brilliant. It's been brought to my attention recently that I've been too sensitive with one of my friends. Now I'm not gonna change who I am for someone. Or anyone for that matter. But I have noticed that I've been scrutinizing little details of the interactions between us, which is causing me to be way more overly sensitive than I need to be. I realize after watching this video I am taking it too personally, much more than I need to be, because really the interactions of my friend is just the way she is. Kind, but often times blunt and short. I've been taking it way too personally, which causes me to feel like I'm being attacked, when really she is doing no such thing. It's something I've created in my mind as a form of self sabotage and limiting belief, which will ironically push her away if I continue doing it. But realizing that I should not take her behaviors so personally, when she is just being herself, and focus more on what she is feeling instead and less on me, should help a lot. Thank you for this enlightening information and perspective.

Haven’t even watched it. I already know that I need it and will love it. Thank you Dr. Paul! I am having more and more parenting wins, thanks to your helpful videos Dr. Paul. Thank goodness for you.

So need this.

When im so angry, i cry it gets really annoying

This helps me. The part where you said I can imagine you being in the situation, made me smile. My mother in law just complained at length at me for turning off the light. I got offended because I felt I was falsely accused. I could tell that she was angry mainly because of other things that had happened these 2 days. So while venting to my husband, we solved what we think was the real issue she's been experiencing. However, even after that I still feel very angry at her and this emotion can last for a few days and hindering me from doing other things. This is how I found ur video. The way you explained was soothing. It's true that it could be anyone

I'm not sensitive. I 'm strong. But my parents interpret identifying an emotion and expressing that as ''sensitive'' so I grew up being told I was sensitive. I wasn't. I knew what I felt and I expressed it. They gaslit me for years and NOW I am very, very sensitive to being gaslit..

I needed this, a big part of my life i feel i've been surrounded by insensitive people. I've been so caught up by the "they wont change, people wont and dont want to change so living just isn't for me" mindset that every day just feels very miserable. I think that redirecting my energy to not think too much about others' thoughts like you advised can help. there will always be insensitive people and i think it's best i relearn how to reign in my reactions so i dont end up sad and angry towards people all the time

I have always been so sensitive and will cry over anything, now I’m having to go to trial for divorce and I’m so scared I will become a basket case. Thank you for not making me feel bad about myself for being sensitive ❤️

im a guy who cries when someone yells at me and i think its embarrasing so thx for trying to help me

Thought i would see how i could help myself, came here. I am amazed, this new perspective really makes me realise i blame myself for nothing when the situation can be turned around. I will use this next time i feel my sensitivity is creeping up. Thank you!

Thanks! I personally struggle with taking things too personally and always thought it was a bad thing. but you helped me to realise the benefits of sensitivity and how to regulate it :)

Thank you so much, this is so informative. I used to be not too emotional, but lately I've been crying over little things and its embarrassing because people think I'm making a show when in reality it's very hard for me to control how I feel

So good. I’ve never realized how selfish I was. I’ve never considered thinking about an other person feels. Having this approach makes me see the person as they are having their own experience, independent than mine, and makes me want to help them understand my point of view or just having compassion🙌

This incredible and showed up on my feed at just the right time. Thank you so much for all that you and your team does!

Social distance have u heard enough about that?? Love it !!

I had a pretty good day today. Our teacher gave us some corrections for my group's project, and finally we could understand some things that we were doing wrong. I got home, and my parents were waiting for me. They were watching a funny series on the TV. A while later, we were eating dinner. It was delicious, my dad prepared it and told me it was a surprise for me (he knows I really like that dish). I couldn't be happier, but then they wanted to watch this other series, which is long and dramatic. I wasn't paying attention at the beggining, but slowly as the chapter progressed I started feeling quite upset. I thought "Ugh! This series is unbearable, so negative! I was feeling good today, I didn't want to end the day with a negative series...". You know, my family likes to watch a series when having dinner, (sometimes also during lunch), unlike me, but I don't want them to stop doing it for me, so I justy finished eating, brushed my teeth and went to my room. It's silly, you know? It's just a series, it shouldn't affect me, at least not as much as it did, but the thing is that it did, and that makes me feel frustrated with myself. Not being able to control how I feel or react to things also affects me in those moments when you're, for example, discussing with someone and you need to convince, or be firm, things like that. So it's funny that watching this video not only it really helped me understand those situations, but it's just so obvious! Shifting the focus from yourself to others, watching the scene from a third person's perspective, or even thinking about the triggers has instantly helped me to dissolve those bad feelings, and get back to normal, no matter if was just a series what caused it like this time, or if it is something else. Thank you very much!

Excellent advice of shifting the focus to the other person!

I can’t help crying In front of my cousin when he called me a “baby” so thanks for this video 🙃👍

Thank you for this insight! You're an excellent communicator and teacher! This video just helped me!!!

Probably the first video on youtube I actually felt like i learned something and you Sir are deeply entertaining

Wow these tips are fantastic. Thank you so much for this video. I especially appreciate the point of thinking of the other person for a moment.

Thank you so very much for this video I am looking to redo a lot of things in my life and this will help with so much of the changes I have planned. I look forward to watching more of your videos

That's so true. I have tried to remind myself that majority of the times, any negativity with interactions I might experience from people isn't personal, but I still can't get rid of the negative feelings I get from it. And I remunerate soo much AND I think about how someone else would've handled it better. In my defense, I'm not used to confrontation or having to challenge people often, so I guess I'm still learning, but it's really annoying I compare my reaction or response in different situations to how others would have handled it. I'm naturally a happy person, but I feel like lately I've become more and more sensitive and so even slightly negative interactions can have me thinking about that for days or even WEEKS, etc and I hate that I feel like I don't have control over my mind and emotions.

I'm not sensitive you are 😕 lol. I needed this. My husband says in starting to get to sensitive about things over time.

Very helpful and insightful on redirecting emotional energy towards a better use! I'm genuinely applying this in my mind to real situations where I lost my cool. However, placing someone else in that situation gets me even more fired up! I've seen SO much destruction by others bc someone failed to stand up. Maybe it's selfish, but then I realized I'd rather be the one insulted "bc I can take it!" WOW full circle! Haha thanks Dr Paul! Taking a longer route but your message is clear! Thanks!

Excellent vid to help one take things less personal by mentally replacing another into the situation...and more...definitely another vid that I have to bookmark for repeated viewing. Reframing the experience. All takes comimttement but the end result is one has a healthier life. 💯 🇨🇦 Also the discussion about "self focus" equals anxiety was really powerful. Again, viewing this vid when needed in the future is in the bookmark option. Giving space....so much to practice. Thank you.🌈

I hate my sensitivity every time I talk to someone I’m scared if they will come at me I always tell myself taht I’m strong but... i really suck at being strong

when you cried in front of your whole class because your team lost a math game:

What a kind spirit this man has.

Great video with some brilliant insights. Thank you

Thanks for this i had an experience a day ago which did trigger my buttons! However looking at as another focus...distance can reframe it! Helps thanks for sharing UK

my new years resolution is to stop beating myself up over things that i can't control 💪

Thank you dr.Paul I learned something today. 🙏😄

here after having a fight. i should really start standing up for myself and stop crying,, this is really helpful too btw!!

This is so good! Genius! makes so much sense

Thank you. Thank you. THANK YOU!

my friends make small comments about me sometimes and i really over think them, then i’ll ask a friend about it and she’ll tell me i’m being too sensitive. thank you for this, i really need it and i’ll probably revisit this video often

Thank you ! This video really helped . 🙌🏾

in grade four i once cried because someone called my handwriting garbage im in grade 7 now and im not as sensitive as i used to be but i just dont want to be sensitive at all hopefully this helps

Thanks that was really helpful!

This was so helpful thank you

This is a great video. Thank you!

I needed this

Your voice is calming and relaxing

Thank you. This video helped me a lot

Another great tool. Thank you

Excellent. Exactly! Not so personal.

Thank you so much..

Your information is so helpful

Thank you

Thank you so much this really will help me... This selfish, self-centred, easily butt hurt me...

Thank you so much, sometimes, when something happens to somebody else, I take it personally because I am empathetic with them, I know it's good but sometimes It harms me

Funny how you think the older you get,you should become less sensitive. You have a point in being less self centered. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

Very well explained

thank you for making this video my family tell me im over sensitive all the time, they always have and i dont want to be anymore

After hearing tht line. Sensitivity is not a bad thing... ❤️I love being sensitive

i needed this.......

When ever I get rude comments I ignore then it just hits me and I start 😢 crying

Thank you so much man❤ , I'm so sensitive so that sometimes I feel insecure even with my family! But I've created a method that helped me a lot , the method is that before I go to bed I meditate and remember all the times that I felt insecure, and look at myself as a third person ... I actually don't know why is this method is so affective and good for me.

Wow such a helpful video ❤️

Another great video sir 👍😊, oh.. too much of sensitivity(both physically and mentally) caused me lot of good and bad experiences

The thing is, I don’t take things personally all the time, I just get angry that regardless of whether this person is personally triggering me or not, I shouldn’t have to deal with their bullishit. I know that they don’t personally mean to attack me, that If someone else was standing in my shoes, they’d also experience this, but that’s not enough for me not to get annoyed.

I wish just reframing was that easy. My ego shows up and gets louder. Because I'm in the process of learning to trust myself, I have to acknowledge what my ego is saying (warning me not to be a co-dependant doormat), validate my hurt, then I can turn my attention on reframing and removing myself. Doing all this while trying to stay grounded is no easy task 🤦

Thx I would try all your types 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

Thanks for this. The stupidest stuff upsets me. I used to be able to defend myself but somrthing happened and now I can't. Someone started an argument on me the other day for telling someone else that I have autism and that made me feel a certain way towards something (it made sense in context) but someone else didn't understand that and started going on about how I should tell other people that because there's no need and they also have it and they don't tell people (again me saying it made sense in context they just missed it somehow) so I told them how it makes other people feel and how we aren't all the same, this guy continues on saying that I'm speaking for all ppl with autism even though I stated that I wasn't talking about everyone with it, just my self and a few people I had talked to. So I told him how to felt and all he had to say to it after upsetting me was "I'm not reading that." And it just made me angry even though I didn't do anything else and It was just a misunderstanding which they didn't want to admit. Whenever I get all sensitive I cry even when I'm not sad just angry and then it makes me sad that I was sad and then it's this whole thing of me just being sad over the stupidest things. I think this video actually really helped. Thanks for everything.

Best constructive channel on KZfaq

okay i have to watch this everyday

Hi dr. Paul hw r u? Thanks again for a nice video

Thankyou for your wonderful birthday greetings. 🎭🤾🏿‍♂️🎭

I really wish I never minded being insulted or Certain criticism that affects me to heart but that's reality and I hope to soon be able to get used to them and become a stronger individual who doesn't care what others think 💔💖💜

Well that really works

I get triggered when it’s hidden in speech, the words words words words words then punchline, it feels inviting and fun but I hold back and eats me up

I hate it when I get into a fight and then someone want us to explain what happened then all of a sudden I start crying

I needed this thank you I am only 11 and my parents are calling me a baby

Tysm I always called a crybaby I hope this works

I refuse to get into a discussion with anyone when I feel triggered. I give myself some time to calm down and then I'll tackle the convo.

No one really calls me sensitive but I know I am. A couple days ago someone called my face hideous on an app called yubo and I made a joke out of it at first with all my friends. But then after some thought I realised it hurt my feelings a little. And I told myself I shouldn’t care about this strangers opinion I don’t even know them. And I had a conversation with all my friends and they were there to reassure me that the person probably wasn’t having the best day and wanted to take it out on someone. They called me delusional if I thought I was hideous but I really need to learn how to not care about someone else’s opinion especially if they’re a stranger. I’m probably talking to myself but if you’re reading thanks for listening to my venting LOL

Stir or steer?

And can you do a video on how to establish better sleep habits and be a non grumpy morning person for my kids and spouse?

Im crying while watching this video

1:51 I believe you meant "steer"... 'stir' is what you do to a drink (pronounced like "stur").. 😀 I love your content & videos, Paul!!

I personally cry with I agrue,get frustrated, when no one understands me. It really difficult I personally don't like crying. I try to hold in my tears but it escapes.

Im way to sensitive, I have always been sensitive, it can be the dumbest thing and I start crying and I don’t know why my mom gets so annoying she says she can’t deal with my sensitivity, she feels like she has to walk on egg shells and I feel bad.. that i constantly make her feel that way. She says “ your about to turn 15, grow up” I feel like every one hates me and I’m starting to hate my self too but I hope this helps me!

I know my myself that I am really sensitive, even as a male, I can't control it.

What happens if it’s what other people feel that causes my anxiety? I fear people that are angry. Which ultimately made me lose my job. The environment was so toxic, people weren’t happy no matter what I tried during that job. I even tried doing more work. I’ve even asked them what I could do better or why they were upset. Communication is supposed to go both ways and nothing worked. I’m not a person who gets mad for some reason. I just don’t lose my temper with others. When I do finally lose my temper it’s more rage and rage isn’t anger, just another form of it.

I need a bro-coach… broach? I’m a guy who feels this the more I age. I get so wound up in my head that I’ve already determined the outcome of a situation without even having experienced it. The outcome just feels negative and then I just automatically feel attacked or I retreat into myself and get sensitive about it for no real good reason. Or if I ask someone a question and I feel like the response is very defensive I feel unfairly treated and it spirals. I’m going to try and just replace myself with other people like you said. I feel like the more I understand the better I can cope.

I know some words trigger me and when they do, I get to this mode where I can't control my voice shaking. I feel this weird warm, shaking in my guts. I want to stop the person from talking and beat him up (coworkers, bosses, strangers, clients) but never did (thank God). I feel like I'm being attacked and insulted. I asked myself so many times why I feel this way 'cuz I hate it. I lose my cool and feel bad after. Maybe it's my ego, or too sensitive, that's the reason I looked for this on youtube. I'll try the advise and see what happens. Thank you.

Hello Sir. Thanks for this video. I have a question, and I hope you would kindly take time to answer. Sometimes when there is a difficult conversation that comes close to triggering a stronger reaction from me, I have tried to calm down for a second and think about it from the other person's perspective l: like what you said as putting some space...but then I come back to myself and become defensive because I feel If I don't stand up for myself, no one's going to..and certainly not the other person in front of me. So why am I'm trying to understand them when they aren't... What do I do to resolve this practically..

Great video, trying to figure out how to apply this approach to racist comments and behavior that I sadly experience in this life

Pls make a video on how to take good decisions