Sainthavi's Perspective on Living Abroad | Can you relate? Let me know..

Totally relatable! Lived with lots of help most of my life in India and boy! what a shock everything over here was... Missed home and mourned deeply, was dizzy, got headaches and super-terrified of everything especially the high speed roads here, with no practical skills!!! Faith kept me from collapsing and an understanding, loving family patiently supported me!! Somehow learned to drive, cook, clean (just the survival basics, I guess!!) and work flexibly online part-time... I keep ferrying kids around for school and countless activities! Thoroughly love the fun interaction, beautiful nature and quality family time and travel here, doing things together, also enjoy volunteering at our church pre-school... Yes, life here is a roller-coaster! Lovely discussion. Thanks for sharing.

This is great. Finally somebody talk about it. Watched it entirely and very valid analysis. Always the grass is greener on other side. Totally relate with my lifestyle of working mom of two kids.

ரொம்பவும் யதார்த்தமான பதிவு. I recently started my channel just few days old actually as I felt I had to share my journey as Sahm expat mom for past 17 years . This space of homemakers has lot left to be explored , our journey and experiences to be shared , for the world to take note of the countless sacrifices we made without any expectation in reality . When you said I signed up for it , I so much could relate to it … hats off to you for making this video , it has motivated me to publish the raw and real intro video without makeup face soon 🙏🏼

Good conversation Saindhavi ❤ I am sure people will have an awareness seeing your video. I feel the same being in this country for 25yrs 😊

Nothing is easy in life - we have to work for our choices…some call it sacrifice, passion, routine, torture, normal - it’s all perspective 😊

You said it right. 100 percent true.You hit the nail on the head for those parents who are ambitious in sending their children abroad.

Thanks for the detailed video. I’d have to agree with you on couple of points but not sure if I’d agree with you on everything. I’ve been living here for more than a decade and before moving to the US, have lived in other countries and that was before marriage. India has all the help but you’d spend 3 hours on commute in cities like Bangalore and Pune. I’m a working mom and I straddle between both worlds. If you a working women in India, I’d say it’s equally hard if not harder to manage home and work and of course you end up sacrificing. The difference I see is - house help/ maid take undue advantage and this is the feedback from friends who moved back to India and couldn’t manage with all the luxury (well, I’d even question if it’s a boon or bane) and ended up in the US within an year or two. I feel it’s much better in the US as you get needed house help to clean up the house once a month, you get cook for $15 an hour to cook up food for 2 days and you have a good work-life balance.

Hi Sain, Very true whatever you spoke. Same blood. You both are awesome couple. Thanks for sharing.

Perfect topic, 100% reality . You read my mind . Please give tips to overcome pre- menopause symptoms if you know . Will be useful for lot of ladies .

Not only in overseas, for any working women, Same situation in India too now a days! Chose to work from home, during pandemic! Ended up with multiple health issues.

Same blood Sainthavi! I am a working mom of two boys (11 and 6) ,cooks three meals a day and have no outside help. My husband shares half of our work and he is my pillar of support. .. east coast snow la 10 years irunthu ipothan TX vandhurukom. I have been working in US alone for 10 years adding to my India experience for 4 years.. I have been working in US since my elder one was 1.5 years old. Managed to finish my MBA in UIUC part time. Life has been hard and sometimes brutal and I have already started graying… day care pickups, kid sickness , parents health issues, work stress, been there done that.. My moment of ‘ennada life idhu’ was when I was coming back from work from a train station in east coast (4 months pregnant then). The snow had fallen between morning and evening and my car was fully covered and hardened in snow. I was cleaning all the snow on the car in the parking lot in less than 0 degrees outside in the dark so that I can drive back home. That time I thought what life is this. However, I have crossed so many challenges in US life and made myself a strong woman. I also have so many frustrations just like you. We have to vent out our frustrations but I know you will be working even more harder than the previous day. I felt I was seeing a mirror image of me in your videos. I am a fan of your college videos and they are very useful. Probably someone could take a movie of all our life experiences.😂

ஆனாலும் யாரும் திரும்பி வர விரும்பறதில்ல 😊

Very good conversation Sainthavi!! 200% relatable 😊😊

Very true! U read my mind! Shocked to see this video ! How can two different person think the same way!

As always such a great video Sainthavi 🥰🥰 each and every word is true and we all can completely relate ! 24 years here in US for me and I came here 2 weeks after my wedding! Not easy at all to handle all the work here and your video was like a therapy to me 💜

This is totally relatable. I strongly feel new immigrants need to be well prepared to face all challenges before moving to North America rather than repenting later. Thanks for putting up this awareness video. You did a brilliant job explaining the reality of life in the Western world ❤️👍

Nice topic & true information 💯😊

நல்ல அனுபவப் பகிர்வு. தமிழில் பேசுகிறேன் அப்பதான் என் உணர்வுகளை உண்மையா வெளிப்படுத்தமுடியும்னு சொன்னீங்க. ஆனால் 90% ஆங்கிலத்தில்தான் பேசினீர்கள். ஆயின் உண்மையான அனுபவப் பகிர்வு. நன்றி.

I can feel you ,Saindavi , I am working in healthcare. It's a lot , especially in your early 40s. It's like too much on you... and the back home people think that we all are living a luxurious life here, at the cost of losing ourselves sometimes... thanks for bringing up this topic..and last but not least , my husband is also a very helpful guy, but he can not cook, which will be the most wanted help from your husband..

Ur perspective are On point ❤, u spoke my heart . People should come to a clarity before getting into marriage . In recent generation the level of sacrifice is coming down , so it’s hard for them to cope up in a marriage life . Well said saindhavi. 😍🤩

Very frank and true.. Final note is lovely.. It was like a stand up show injected the reality in a nice manner. Your Narrative made to wait and watch till end.....

Seemed to be listening to a person next door.. Very casual talk.. nice one

Can you imaging how you might have evolved all these years, if you were in a village? To an entirety different person.... All the pain you have explained is worth alot, to became mature, productive and a broad minded person. Staying in comfort zone is a curse. It kills who you are. So, encourage people to come out of the comfort zone and explore the full potential. I strongly suggest today's youngsters to go abroad or nearby city and start life from scratch. They will love their family and hometown alot. And being productive is so addictive.... I hope someone can relate to what I said.

Hi akka, I am living in Canada, I can relate you in some situations. But the same time I came from a lower middle class even my mom and dad are doing agriculture till to date, before mrg um nangatha ella velayum pathom , after mrg we were in India with our in laws, actually it was soo exhausted always in kitchen feeling not worthy everyday. Ethukume na sari kidayathunu ninachen.Ithula vera suthi irukravangala inum kulanthai ilayanu torture, The minute my hus said he has a dream of going to Canada, we were prepared our mindset, India la en hus vela senja my in laws ku pudikathu, but here when i go home , he will make tea and food for me. Also engayo oru moolela pathiram kaluvitu iruntha enna oru gov job la iruka vachrukanga, i can help my parents by my own, India la irunthruntha ithukula 2 kulantha irukum , but my mental health would be same like I am zero nu. I am not saying , having baby is wrong but elathayum vida nama confident ah irukanum atha oru job tha kudukum especially from a lower middle class girl. So its depends on from where they are coming.

100% True words ... You spoke my mind Sainthaiv Akka.....More relatable to every women's life.... Awesome words.....

Life is all about compromise among partners. Life is not about lovey-dovey. I agree it is very hard to excel both in career and family life equally. Its all about balance. Kids have their own choices, but if both partners want to work we cannot give kids choices. I cook one Food and all has to eat. If that balance has to happen, as kids grow we have to sit as family and talk about family goals and it's all about team work. If I hire a person to do mowing , I will be paying $300 every 2 weeks, to clean pool is $500 every two weeks etc.. it's all about choices.. it is not necessary to have such things.. I know there are times I have payed $700/ month 15 yrs back for daycare. Then only you can imagine now. Honestly both spouses and kids have to work together for happy and successful marriage no matter where we live. Thanks you Ducy for bringing this discussion in your channel.

Kids should learn reality. My son learnt his lesson after going to college He is my first child and now my second one is well prepared to start his college life! But as a parent we learn along with them.

Nice listening to you. Am in India..... My brother went to US 25 years ago to study PG. After that he started to work ....Did not marry for long time.... got married to a person in US at the age of 46. Comes to India rarely. A family lost their Son / brother. It's painful.

I love you sainthavi. Every women have this problem, some of them saying in front most of them are not showing our emotions. What we have to do hope everything going to normal one day we gave to move on. Have a wonderful day guys. Thank you so much for sharing this topic. This is my first comment

Thank you ma’am for a honest video ❤️

It's been 22 years for me after getting married and settled here as a stay at home mom.I Iwas saying this for so many years to my family and friends..but I don't think they understand until they experience on their own! But they get used to it..just like how we r surviving with our husbands support and love.Hopefully it's all worth it for their personal growth ❤

Same blood akka. You words was my reflection I say the same to my relatives and friends in India. I had been in India , Belgium n USA the most luxury life is in India. Here in USA I preferred to be SAHM as you, this work itself is full time work. I always feel my choice was right as I cook food 3 times a day n know what’s happening with my kids. I forwarded ur video in all WA group. I have been watching ur videos for last 2 years I see so many comments for this video semma ponga I think u were mind voice of all women in USA. Kudos akka keep ur good work. U made my day 😊

Namaskaaram... Just started watching your video... would like to share few points here... disclaimer: I am no expert in relationships or life decisions...only sharing my point through... Our basic Sanathana Dharmam values (for all Bhaarathiyaas) is to be born, learn that we are born to fulfill our karma(bad and good) and attain salvation... that is the main purpose of each and every jeevaathmaa... but with so many changes all over the world, we are struggling to deal with reality and so called reality... trying to fit in -in this world and find our place... when it is not our teaching at all... we are lost in worldly things and we are not sure what we want in life at all... that is what we need to teach our children.. to know their Self...to grow as a person...find inner self and attain salvation/moksham and never be born again... :)

Great points Sainthavi. You should also do a video about the H1/H4 and Green card struggle. It has becoming like bonded labor now. When we tell the reality to folks back home how people caught in the limbo are stuck here w/o getting to go back home even to visit, they discount it or totally disregard it saying that we are jealous of them coming here!

Hi Sainthavi. This is wonderful topic. I'm living in Dubai. I'm not working women. But it's not easy both roles balance even as a home maker. Compare to Dubai its very difficult in Europe and US. Here available everything near by home and office everywhere. Really very tough life in US. Really appreciate you all working womens.🎉❤

Sainthavi I appreciate your honesty dear Love you from Pennsylvania

I came to US, 3 years before getting married I got settled and then my husband came to US. It was crazy 3 years, coming here with your partner is the best. I love my work and my family, my husband had to quit his job for a while to take care of the kids. He learnt to cook, clean and slowly changed from Mom’s little prince to best Dad and husband. I think it depends on your partner, I feel I’m lucky and have a happy life when compared to sisters in India. I have worked in both India and here, working here is easy for women here than in India. My son does dishes now and my daughter does laundry and help with cooking. It’s a team work even if one player is down it’s hard for the team to survive and be happy here.

Looks very genuine conversation . I am also having same situation in Netherlands. But we always have a choice to go back to India and live a peaceful life. It's us who chose to live outside India , so we have to focus on life goals as it's different for each family. Was working in India as well as here and have pros and cons everywhere.

I FEEL SO NICE AND MOTIVATED AFTER WATCHING THIS VIDEO.. AS I FEEL SOMEONE IS TALKING MY HEART !!!!

Very nice session...

Good conversation. Thanks for sharing 👍🏻 I could understand ur lifestyle.. I am working mother in Chennai, born and brought up in Coimbatore.. husband ku tirunelveli la oru village dhaan native.. traveling, meeting friends, relatives, people, sometimes just nature helps us to relax a bit from this hectic schedule.. in some of our travels, have felt the love parents here whose kids are in abroad.. andha love va epdi courier pandradhu nu theriyama irukuraanga.. how much ever technology improves, idha panna mudiyaadhula.. stay happy and loved ❤

Akka honestly speaking it’s 100%related with me same blood akka ,I agree with whatever you said , nice topic 👌👌👌

Whatever you says ,is all those words that are in my mind Sainthavi.You are reflecting the views of women here..Happy that you shared and keep rocking 👍🏻

100 percent true neenga sonnathu ellame can't skip even a min of your video actually bore eh adikala avlo relate Panika mudiyudhu..its so frustrating living abroad..I have a toddler at home.. nimathiya ukkanthu sapda Kuda mudiyala Vela Vela nu odikite iruka vendirku...watching this from Germany...

Yes. I understand.

100% correct, I'm in Houston, Texas, past 12 years.

100% I related to you. past 10years I lived in Chicago recently moved to Florida.

This conversation has deep meaning.. much more relatable.. in India also we women go thru this.. ayo vitrunga da saamy engaiyaachum odi poyidrean.. or en da kalyanam panoam kind of a thing.. as Vinod said what is there as a lifestyle is luxury here.. for tat luxury only we run run run n get drained here with lot of sweat. I am relocating to the US next month.. This video is an eye opener for me to get prepared.. Because it's too late to decide to stay in India only. But I will get prepared. This hairstyle suits u well Sain than the usual one u put.. pls maintain this.. meaning the side partition one is good on u.

I understand .My daughter is facing it .Thank you for sharing .

Nice video, more than feeling bad I was literally lol. I came here like 20 years back , my dream about US was like Karan Johars movie but the dream collapsed as soon as I landed On a winter snowy weather, the snow looks great in movie and Reels , but reality 🥶. In 20 yrs so many experiences. Lived life in a suitcase for 3 yrs , consulting job required us to move almost 12 different states in 3yrs, then child birth in a new city with in a week we moved, and begged for help from neighbors whom we met 3 days before my labor pain, as my first kid was born in India, no idea what a contraction means and when is the right time be in hospital and reached just 15 minutes before my son was born, no parents or close friends in new city and my husbands new job demanded him in office in 3 days. Husband was like a mother who use to take care of me, a toddler and a new born along with new job, I got in to postpartum depression for 2 yrs and we did not know I was going through that , but all was good like any other parents we also were on our busy schedules with kids classes and our jobs, when I look back now last 20 yrs it feels like a blink of eyes. Now I am 42 , my 20 yrs old son is in Caltech almost 5 hrs flight journey away, my younger one will leave for college in fall. My greatest fear is next what, we have so much time now house does not get messy, don’t have to cook so many times in a day, no more need to drive kids around and due to COVID now we WFH LOL……Best thing about this county is it made me strong physically and mentally compared to my cousins my age in India. Self love , I matter , my health matters and my happiness matters this is my matra, which I see still missing in most of mothers and wife’s in India . This is not a frustration comment, just this is how I motivate my self every day❤❤

Agree to one extent .. but in India as well , it’s not easy to work and handle home simultaneously. Imagine getting struck in traffic for 2 hours morning and evening . Working in shifts . Family time would be zero.

My in laws will come but won’t take care my kids. Just play.. mil want to take care my husband food. She won’t eat what I cook.. My sis in law is also in usa. She will come to visit our home. She says you r not taking care my parents and your husband. They are not considering taking care of kids, cleaning the home, dish washing, and laundry. My parents force me to go work. Over comes completed 10 years 😢.. Sometimes mental and physical pressure

Loved the way you spoke! You were brutally honest speaking about 'women's choices' in life

If u have posted this 1 year back ,it would have been a blessful to me.. After coming here at the age of 40 , we r struggling with two teenagers at home in US

Now no close relation we are not sharing. I hear your feelings like your sister no worries take care enjoy the present moment

I totally agree your point mam.

I agree with you. Even I am in Texas. I am facing same issues what u have explained so far. Enakkum same polambal.

I don't about others I'm also not from US I just came to chennai from my hometown kinda semi rural area (Kumbakonam) staying in a PG(like hostel) to attend classes before that i attended in online mode in home due pandemic and other personal things. every damn word u said in this video is true akka.I have classes between 10am to 6:30pm sometimes it will drag to 7pm also i have to come back after that to my room clean my utensils, laundry the clothes if there is any,take care of my health too .i have to fresh myselfs then sit for my studies(my study hrs are so less like 1or 2hrs nowadays🤧 coz my course is like that)coz i have to sleep little early like around 12 or 12 : 30 to wake up little early in the morning or else the restroom will be housefull then i will be late to class.sometimes i was like neenga sonna mathri tha "just enna thoonga vidunga".since i came to chennai everyday I'm planning what are the things to be done today which i doesn't done in my home.i have to be self dependent and plan daily or else everything will mess up.i was able to relate to ur words ka.this is my POV tho.for some this seems like a rant for others may be relates.i do comments very rarely in any video but this one relates me a lot akka TO THOSE WHO CHASING THEIR GOALS AND AMBITIONS PLEASE NEVER GIVE UP GUYS STAY POSITIVE ,STAY HYDRATED❤

Loved your video.. this is the first time i am watching your video.. i agree on your points.. we are living in Germany for 12 years. Going through exactly waht you saying. It is a never end story as you said😅😅😅. Ipo dhanda en masula irukara barame koranchudhu moment😂😂

Simply i can say , you are speaking my mind sain

Your video will be an eye opener for all .. this will be helpful to the young generation ... nobody has said the reality.. I'am in India nobody is there for help because we can't afford housing loan going on parents died after i gave birth to my daughter before her I have a son 2 years elder than her... husband's parents settled with her daughter as she is working so no help from any side. So I choose the path of home maker like you said I have a very supporting husband (love marriage)and children but when I do household works I use to think what am I doing why did I study. But as you said preparation is must this would be the solution both for men and women..

Hello!! In my opinion I think it is important for a woman to be financially independent. At the same time man has to be involved in domestic chores as well and it is important to find the balance.

Homemakers also can get social security in the US. It will get paid out of the spouse’s contributions

Same blood in kuwait also even no theatres enterrainment allowed here maid also we have to provide above 35000

Hi… what ever you spoke is real.. I’m in the same phase of thinking…

Such a great insight and very true facts.

100% true. I agree with each and everything you said even sometimes I wonder why we came here better we will go back to India.

You can get made furniture that doesn't require assembling. Of course it costs more. There are several different aspects of life abroad that are much better than India The only difference is the problems are different in each country. It not good to compare.

Nice Speech. Same blood😊

Moments I enjoyed int his video: 1. When you said thawin is listening to the stories. Yeah as it is interesting topic Dating.😁😁😁😁 2. When vinodh asked are you sharing your frustration or advice at 11.45 byte 😁😁😁 I can't stop laughing I am same as you sain, you have spoke my 15yrs of life in US. As of now I m stay at home mom. when I use to work, I try to put 200% I wanted to give my best. Which obviously conflicts with family. It is always "ikkaraiku akkarai pacha " remba valikudhu boss 😅 PS: I was listening to this while cleaning home onky😅 - ippadiku, why blood same blood sangathu urupinar

Hello dear ….100 percent true …you are a wonderful women ,and I was also working as a volunteer for eight years here ,I have service mind like you too,my son is in middle school now ,life is going with lot of responsibilities and frustration,and we don’t have green card yet ,struggling to settle here ,sometimes “what is this life “….couldn’t go to India due to visa issues ,and parents also not in condition of coming here ….oh my god ,I am seeing myself in you always …since I was brought by good father I am able to manage everything…thank you so much ….if I have a chance wanted to meet you one day but I am in new Jersey ….will see in future ….lots of thank you to your service ….

Same feeling, Sainthavi 😪. For the past 6 years ,I'm experiencing same. Some days, it seems frustrating. Taking care of everything by ourselves, mudiyala kanna kattudhu.

Honestly if someone comes here @21-22 for Master’s and starts adapting to this lifestyle, life in US is much better in terms of infrastructure, work culture, quality of life etc. I am unable to adapt to Indian lifestyle for more than 2 weeks during any of my trips in these last 15 years.

During Corona and Post Corona, we stopped all the help that we got from Maids. Till today we do not have any maids and we do everything on our own. Yes, both has to take responsibilities at home and split the work to ensure we do not worn ourselves out. But I think it is workable, especially when we see our moms working 24x7 with 9To5 teaching job in school. I really think it is possible, if one is sincere towards life and do not slack around! Live a very intense life. Of course weekends once or even twice we ensure two go out and enjoy one or two good meal or dinner! Very remotely a super star cinema and that's it - mostly netflix and prime like fillers here and there! I really really think its workable - if the couple loves each other so very much than their individual ego and success.

So true what u said in this video .

excellent sainthavi for articulating your point of view very well. It is not easy; but life is same for women in INdia too: if women go to work and cannot afford to pay the hired help , women in that situation will also feel the stress; I have lived in this country for a long time ; yes, I ws one of those women who wnated to study and very ambisious etc; learnt it the hard way. It is a good kind of advise ; coming prepared is a good idea. I wish I had such a youtube video to lewarn from it.. take care; wishing you the very best!!,

Somewhat I agree . There is lot of sacrifice we do and acclimate to this life style. I came in 2000 with my 3 yr old daughter. I raised and my daughter is in CA. I 32:30 work too. But onething I became very confident and groomed myself well and realized how much potential I have. Would not got been how I'm today in india. Adapting to US life style made me a strong woman.

Hai sister am ur new subscriber I watch ur videos nowadays it's really inspired to me u r very practical character sis keep rocking

Very useful informations for all the persons in the world I like your videos Really unforgettable person Stay blessed my dear child God bless you my dear child

Thanks for sharing it’s exactly related to me 200% but what I felt now initially they said me to take care kids now both going to school so do job and support house which is not bad but in my case my spouse wnt move his own coffee cup also and if it’s morkulambhu means there should be a bonda , sambar means means there should be poriyal and apadam and he dnt like rice cooker rice have to boil and stem rice that too matta rice and white rice for kids so my whole day will be in kitchen these days my kids is little 9 and 7 still dnt know to do there own chores much .. wen they married in laws said strictly said no job but now he want to go job im pg holder but what is the use it’s means 11 years never tried any career related stuffs it’s frustrating oly sorry for huge comment they way you spoke sainthavi which is my inner voice and I’m dealing this past 2 weeks .. happy some one talked abt this .. but compare to India we ppl are struggling a lot I means I’m saying abt my circle cousins sister they had maids, driver, cook and visiting parents place offen getting good food any times here 7 days we have to cook my whole family dnt like outside food and no Indian restaurants nice here .. if spouse support is there means will start career but hard leave little kids now they are growing little teaching them each and every time dnt want to miss this age and there tiny happiness thats y i love to be home maker atleast till there middle school. Any one day if I got sick even 106 fever also I have to stand in kitchen take care my family that’s my current suituation ..

I am going to work because of societal pressure not that I want to. In my family one of my close family member compares me with their grown up children in NJ and says she is able to go to work and their kids are now doing well and says if I don't go to work in America ( both husband and wife) we will not be able to afford my kids education and consider me to be useless. I felt hurt and joined work and struggling to handle everything. Also when I go to temples, other social gatherings the first question they ask is are you working? If so what kind of job? How do I come out of this pressure, I too want to be a housewife and take care of my household.

Yes i hear you

Nice I understand what is going on ❤😊

Exactly you have relate my issues. Hats off dear. We are in malaysia. Last five years back we came. No maid, no helper. Struggling lot. OmG .. no words to express our struggles. But good news is... Iwe are leaving to INDIA very soon. I will start my career with happiness, joy and fun..everything.

Love marriage also doesn’t mean you know the person in and out. Only when you start living under the same roof, you would know the cons! Also people evolve or change for good or bad! All marriages have risks - infact the % also depends on the 2 people involved rather than arranged or love

So much is relatable, Saindhavi. Staying in the US for 15 years has taught me so many life lessons and sacrifices. Working and taking care of family are completely two domains with their own challenges. Even though I'm a stay-at-home mom, raising kids alone in the US is more challenging than in India. There are good days and bad days. Looking at our kids and their bright future, mom needs to adjust and sacrifice things. You completely make sense.

IN THAT GOOD NIGHT MOVIE... THEY DID NOT SAY SOLUTION FOR THE PROBLEM BECAUSE... WE GET USED TO THE PROB .. LIKE COUPLES HAS TO ACCEPT THEMSELVES COMPLETELY WITH ALL PLUS AND MINUS !

Excellent dear, fully agree

Hi Sainthavi, True😢 Same feeling here, I agree with you dear.

GOOD VIDEO, I don't feel so bad about bathroom cleaning as it is our bathroom and not Neighbours, I agree cooking for years is frustrating for women and they should be really honored for lifetime cooking for their family.

100 percent true all your thoughts

Awesome sis.., i can totally relate... Same blood😂

I agree with you 💯

Last 5 min i laughed forgetting all my sorrows 😊

You have given the ground reality of living transcontinental. Tnx for spreading awareness. Actually it is a trade off of inconveniences and comforts either side. It is a package (like Thali in Indian restaurants or combos over there) and one has to choose by his/her preferences of what you don’t mind suffering from. There are a couple of related themes you might want to address later. 1) Parents perspective. Why they want to send their kids abroad - keeping up with the Joneses? Better financial conditions? Kids insistence to go abroad? Better choice of careers etc 2) Some parents and kids who have not seen videos like yours tend to think that their friends and relatives are exaggerating the troubles with an ulterior motive since they are jealous that these desis might become competitors and comparisons! and their suspicions are not entirely imagined. (Human mind works in devious ways!) A neutral person’s perspective like yours will help in making more objective decisions based upon what one wants from life that are non-negotiable.

This is just what I needed to hear at the right time. In our case we are totally confused about where to live.. omg I can relate to you on so many points..it’s an excellent message and you are doing good by sharing this with new comers to US but kids these days know what they want they are able to decide unlike 90’s kids . It’s better they are prepared for the outcome life is not a bed of roses anywhere but in a foreign land life is super crazy. India has everything these days and the weather is awesome unlike here the cold weather doesn’t agree with me. We get domestic help chauffeur and ya we can go to the Doc off in a jiffy of course money is the attraction here but then will that give you happiness we have to decide. It’s not like people are not having a good life back home they save money and go on vacations and enjoy. Above all they are happy. Having lived in Chennai I cannot fit myself in any other place in India it’s the best place for me.

Ha ha you are speaking my mind …. I haven’t take any help in India and here too… But here is terrible life

Dubai also same aka, within 60 days after c section joined duty, career vs motherguilt facing daily...many people send 6 month kid to india..maid cost around 50k ...visa process all tough...

I wish someone would have made this video 20yrs ago.we would not have sent our daughter to US who found it impossible to adjust and came back with whole lot of health issues mental and physical.All parents trying to marry off their daughter to a "settled abroad" groom please see this now.Sainthavi kudos to you.👍👍👍👍👍👍👍