I wanna start off by saying I absolutely do not judge you. My heart goes out to both of you because you got into cohabitating without knowing the weight of how God feels about it. I’m happy that both of you actually care and are being convicted about it. I acknowledge how terribly hard it must be to know you’re doing something that doesn’t please God but it seems impossible or extremely hard to get out of. I know it doesn’t seem logical for either of you to move out but it won’t make God adjust His standards. Y’all can’t do this alone, you need help navigating this. I’d say talk to someone you respect in church that can guide you without judgement. I pray that God gives you both the grace, help and courage to do His perfect will.❤❤❤ Still love you both and are rooting for you.❤

I believe the bigger question to be considered here is, how much do you love God to where you are willing to put His will before your own. Because God calls us to love Him more than anything or anyone else. So how much do you love Him? Remember His great sacrifice, Jesus, how grateful are you to Him for that sacrifice ? Let this sacrifice of living together, etc be a sacrifice to Him as a thank you and an expression of real love for Him. Remember, this is what God ask of us, to truly keep Him first. In doing this you will reap favor and blessing upon the Lord for your union. When you look at it in these ways, is the sacrifice really that big compared to what Jesus did - his life, his death. - These words aren’t just for you but for me too, trust.

But this problem is easily solvable: just get married. If you do not want to get married (but continue having sex anyway) that's very telling not about your relationship with each other, but your relational position with God... which is actually kind of frightening.

I’m truly praying you both. It’s not worth it to make excuses for sin that God has convicted you on. The sacrifices we make now cannot be compared to the glory that awaits those who are obedient to God when He comes. Our excuses hold no weight against His perfect standard. Just like Adam’s excuse was not acceptable to God is the same way ours are not. Remember that with every temptation God has graciously provided a way of escape (1 Cor. 10:13). In our temptations He invites us to come boldly before His throne and ask for help in our time of need (Heb. 4:16). God bless you both in your journey 🙏🏾🙏🏾

Like James said, conviction is good. It's a sign that your heart is soft and not hardend to the Word or Holy Spirit. Keep letting Him transform you. 🙏🏽❤🙏🏽

God will not change his standards for anyone. You should not be living together without being married, and then profess to be followers of Jesus. You are being deceived. Sin is deadly. You don't want to give the devil an end road into your life. Remember, his MO is to kill, steal, and destroy!

Please do not look for a comment that agrees with your sin. Get married in court and then plan for your big wedding. You are already living together so stop the bs. You know it’s wrong. The end.

I love you guys, I'm 19 and look up to you guys I always say, we are called to judge righteously but everyone is on their own journey. Y'all are amazing ! Keep it up.

The fact that you are even feeling convicted about this means that God is present in your lives and wants to bless it. There is no better place to be than in the center of God’s will. Praying that you will get the support and peace that you need in order to lay down some of the idols of the dream wedding for now (a big party can come later and at any time) and not let any circumstance block the blessings that God has in store for you both. Love you and praying for you and rooting for you guys!

Or just get married! If you know God called you to be together why not get married?

Your walk isn’t anyone else’s business, what God has said to you guys is your own business. Keep trusting and walking in that faith, your journey is very new don’t let’s peoples false judgement bring in false conviction! If you feel like sleeping in the same bed is starting to feel wrong sleep in different beds etc. you don’t have all the answers that’s OKAYYY !! Sending love❤️

Enjoyed this video and the very intimate conversation. Caleigha’s tears are real, and a way of acknowledging our wrong. This has know age boundaries. I went through the same thing of guilt and had to give my special friend now spouse for 30 years an ultimatum because God was dealing with me in that very similar situation. Follow your heart and God’s direction to allow you to walk in a way that you know you will be pleasing him. I’m 74 and I’m enjoying you all sharing to the world your love. As they say “Been There and Done That”. Such a beautiful couple. Thanks 💗 ❤️

You guys will never truly understand how much your relationship has inspired and encouraged me, lol! It's so refreshing to see two young people who are genuinely in love and transparent about their lives and relationships with God. It may not be your intention to come across as Christian life coaches, but you guys have been such incredible role models for me, not only as a young person but also as a Christian. The world needs more Christian influencers like yourselves who are willing to be vulnerable and talk about the good and the bad, because you'd be so surprised at how many people are going through the same exact things, needing to know they're not alone. Anyway, I'm so glad you guys are doing this podcast, and I'm excited for the content that's going to come from it!

I am a Christian and now married, but trust me we did not meet as Christians either nor meet any standard. I will say it was super hard to try to please God when we were not walking together or evenly yoked, it seems like you guys are on the path to knowing him together, learning, and moving toward his purpose for you. He is merciful and gracious and I know as Christians we tend to lay the hammer down sometimes harder than God himself, but He does love you and will move in your heart as the conviction comes and you will join on that day knowing that you are making a covenant together with Him in the midst. Lean on him for his timing and his purpose for you!

I am confused by the comments. I think having these discussions is important and the question of if living together is the right thing for your journey and commitment to god is a valid question and a decision that must be made. However I do not recall that the Bible states that it is a SIN to live with a significant other. The only thing that is condemned is sexual immorality. If you are not being sexually immoral it comes down to how living together might encourage other kinds of sin, and should therefore (in due time) make your choice of no longer living together a lot easier. If anyone in the comments can provide further information on where the Bible states that it is a sin to live with a partner pls enlighten me or share your views and beliefs. Much love to you two on your journey.

If you don’t wanna move out I’d suggest having a separate bedroom in the house while keeping your main bedroom, which is good for space and privacy but also helps with temptation and convictions.

I know you guys from TikTok and so it’s cool to see y’all on KZfaq. I can only imagine the pressure to have the “perfect” wedding and have everything to the T. Even in the depths of our sin, God’s grace covers a multitude of sin. Our issues are not too big or too difficult for Him. I do think tho that y’all’s convictions speaks volumes and bc y’all are feeling convicted, lean into it. I understand the idea of physically separating seems crazy and impractical, however I do believe that God will help you guys through the change if u so decide to. Get counseling (if not already), seek accountability from an older couple. I truly believe God can use y’all’s situation to reach other ppl. Stay blessed

Caleigha if you and GOD I'm not convicting you but, it's very important for you to read what the Bible says about marriage. James there are people that have ranch's and went to church. We owned a farm but, the animals do not come before GOD. He would take care of your needs. You two are beautiful just don't keep shacking.

You are a very refreshing and entertaining couple. A wedding is just for the guests. It ends up not being just for you. You spend outrageous money for individuals that just needed that party. You just need to say your vows before God with no one around. This is just you two, no one else is in your relationship except for you two. The love you two radiate is more than a couple that had a grand wedding. Love you guys!

I just love seeing ya"ll together

There’s so much grace! More than y’all even know! It’s of course not excuse to continue on in sin, but sanctification is truly a process. Stay connected to the vine (which is Jesus) and submitted to Him and His will will be done in your lives 🫶🏾 I loved this episode! I don’t follow you guys closely but I see your videos pop up every blue moon. I saw that you guys posted about Jesus once and it’s so easy for us as Christian’s to want to immediately condemn other believers but it’s evident y’all are early in the journey and if I’ve learned anything as someone who thought they had Christianity down packed- it’s that purification never ends so even those who are a bit more mature in the faith God is still doing a work in them daily 🥲 Take it from me, you can do “all the right things” as a Christian and still have a jacked up heart. So I say that to encourage you to press on because it seems as though your hearts are in a sweet place of conviction and humility and God can work with that. 🤍 We all were once there no matter how much other Christians claim to be so holy. Yield to that conviction from the Holy Spirit cause there’s so much freedom on the other side of it, truly. And blessing! The flesh is weak but the spirit is willing Matthew 26:40. 🩷 I love James’ humility and Caleigha’s sensitivity to the spirit. James encouraging Caleigha that her feeling conviction is beautiful was such a heart warming thing to see. God can work with a humble heart vs one full of pride so yall just keep truckin.🤍 oh, and surround yourself with godly community!

My lil girl is 11, and I can see so many changes in her. She sleeps almost all the time, and she has a really hard time trying to jump on the couch, or jump down, and she’s getting so irritable or just mad and she’s always been such a sweetheart.

I desire to obey & love God by marrying first before sexual relations.

Thank you for your vulnerability! Your vulnerability and openness is what makes your story beautiful! Praying that God gives wisdom and the strength to help you along this journey as a Christian couple! I am in a relationship as well! My fiancé and I are not perfect but what helps us is having a heart to always asking God for forgiveness is we fall!

Everything takes time even your relationship and growth with God so remember the only person who can judge you is God and His Understanding is Supreme 💕💕

Awww. God knows your heart - be encouraged. Sending hugs/love both of y’alls way. ❤❤ I do enjoy your videos!!!

Love you guys!! I’ll continue to pray for you both. Continue to seek God, pray, and seek Godly council.

As a Christian myself, remember that God looks at the heart. Marriage is a covenant with commitment- not just a big wedding to make you “right” with God. 🩵

I watched from start to finish. ❤ love your guys honesty. It speaks volumes about your relationship and journey with God. that you are open to correction when its coming from a place of love.

God is fascinating. I encourage anyone believer or not to try the NIV bible, and commit to reading the track plan "Chronological Bible in a Year". It's amazing. God is amazing. Caleigha is an amazing stuart for God. That's what it is all about. We are suppose to minister to each other: family, friends, and teach our children about God.

So proud of yall ❤

This is my first time watching, saw your video on my recommended page and I really appreciate the vulnerability. Most people when they are figuring out their relationship with God while at the same time, a relationship with a significant other is usually done in private. People will have a lot to say when judging from the outside. I will say that when I feel a conviction from God, I do not feel relief until I do what God is trying to tell me to do. However, ultimately the decision is between each other and God. I encourage you to lean into those convictions God is trying to tell you, and watch Him bear fruit in your lives for following Him. Also, a lot of times God calls us to do the uncomfortable and less convenient thing but in the end works for our good and shows His glory. We are put in situations that test our faith to show God, do we really trust Him like we say we do? What comforts are we willing to sacrifice for Him when the time comes? I hope you gain peace over any decision you make!

Aww God bless you both. Just keep putting God at the center of your relationship and He will keep growing in you both so that your relationship with glorify the Lord even down to the circumstances under which yall get married 😊

“I feel like God is disappointed in me.” 😔 That hurts my heart how you feel that way sis. For what it’s worth, I don’t know either of y’all personally but you seem to be really beautiful people who wouldn’t harm anyone. That to ME is the standard for God’s judgement; one’s soul, and how they treat others. Because of that, I can’t think that God would be disappointed in you because of your living situation, now, would other living people/Christians be? That’s a different story. I would encourage y’all to know the distinction. Bc I think we can conflate Spirit/God’s judgement w the judgement of others who preach the Word very strongly and make it seem as if there is only one way to have a relationship w God and any other way would be “sinful.” Honestly, as a Catholic that is more spiritual and not as devout, this is the thing about organized religion (and the Bible) that has always been insufferable to me, you know, the automatic guilt one is made to feel when they don’t follow every single verse and or scripture to a tea. I am of the belief that what feels right to YOU, without causing harm to anyone else, is what’s right. I also, like James mentioned, question certain parts of the Bible due to the amount of males who’ve written it and translated it into a thousand and sixteen languages. I do believe, due to the imperfection of human beings and their temptations to subjugate and or manipulate others, that there were people who added in concepts, judgements and incorporated THEIR beliefs while positioning them as the word of God. I have to go by what I feel the all merciful and beautiful God would actually say and condemn so I take everything w a grain of salt. I understand not everyone can b this way. But no one can tell me, or you, how to have your relationship with Him.

If you got gave a man ultimatum to marry you your marriage is doom from the start . You want a man to marry you because it was his choice you are his choice than gave his ultimatum

Also being a Christian is one thing being a Christian in the public eye is another thing 😂😂😂, sorrry you had to find out the hard way. The truth is, there are standards to live by and when you’re struggling in that aspect the public eye would only magnify that. I’d say pace yourself,don’t focus on pleasing people or becoming what the ‘church’ wants you to be . Take steps to intentionally work with the Holy Spirit to be and live like Christ according to His Word. Read books and listen to sermons,I’d suggest Jackie Hill Perry . But all in all ,pace yourself and be led by the Holy Spirit. He’d guide you always ❤❤❤

Yes continue to above all Love each other and Jesus Christ…. I’m enjoying your podcast! Awesome topics ! You two are so genuine!💕💕

Nobody is perfect we’re all trying to do our best as long as you are happy and respectful of each other. Ignore negative karma nobody is perfect. I always say when people point a finger at you with their index finger the other 3 fingers 👉are pointing at themselves indicating that they are nowhere near being perfect. 🥰💕

Awwww u guys are so cuteeee...❤❤❤

Hi! Absolutely loving your videos. You guys are so cute!! My husband and I were just wondering, in the video you mentioned not being able to move out but have you thought about staying in different rooms?

Hey James…Helzberg would be a great company to partner with for when you propose to CaLeigha

Y’all should elope and still have the wedding. Don’t burn with a passion.😭 1 Corinthians 7:9

I'm team James, the proposal is about James. The wedding is about Caleigha❤

Live your life as long as you have God he will guide you 🎉

I love Peony’s I think they look as romantic or more than roses.

Hey 😊 , this one of your old subbies , lol. 61. I love watching your vlogs, shorts & podcast content. I hope you guys don't pay too much attention to the "when's the wedding questions"😢 I love the open disscussions ❤🎉❤.

Amazing couple Love your guys

What God has joined together… the legal portion, the signing of paperwork is for assets and kids (mans law). people join in marriage for all different reason. please do not confuse the two.

You two are naturals in front of the camera 🎥 ❤

I’m so confused…in another video Caleigha said she dropped out of school to focus on being a content creator. Now she says she graduated …..🤷🏽‍♀️🙄 which one is it? Also, I love The Lord also, & it’s definitely not easy to walk this walk, but the Holy Spirit gives us, strength, guidance, direction so continue to pray & trust The Lord for a deeper walk with Him, for the Holy Spirit to be manifested in your lives, & He will lead you. Also praying for Caleigha’s condition, (ADHD) because it’s so hard to watch her talk on incessantly & then lose her thought, & James just keeps on hanging on! God bless you man….🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🙄🤷🏽‍♀️😉 btw, Caleigha be kind to James, let him talk! 🤭🤭🤭

This was a great episode ❤

He’s so sassy !!🤣🤣🤣😭 lmao

Get married in court the lord doesn’t care about a party and you will have time to plan your dream wedding

Thanks for ssharing ❤

People don't know the struggle we all go through..after my divorce I decided that marriage (certificates and wedding) was not for me I was open to live with someone and just go with the flow and I would say that's between me and God but the thought of having sexual relationship with my partner with no marriage even at a court house would put me in the same place you guys are in..I would be having tough conversations with God and myself everyday. You don't have to have a big wedding,you guys love eachother..you have lived together long enough to know you can survive anything..so just think about it

Girl run...this guy does not want to get married.

No those things you two are doing and you say you're Christians. Are definitely not Christian like. You must've come from a Christian home and as young people we have to grow. Well it is your decision I loved the Lord so much until I made a decision. You guys have to make your own decisions.

Proposal is major part on the guy, the wedding is 75% 25% tboth.

Yikes 😳 the judgement in these comments is outrageous. I’m a Christian. I’m married. However I wasn’t always married….if we all had the same exact journey there would be no room to grow. If we were all perfect what would we learn from Jesus the one true perfect soul. Being a Christian means loving your neighbor, accepting your neighbor, meeting people where they are. Stop shaming this couple. Christians get a bad reputation by picking and choosing parts of the Bible to follow. It’s not ok for them to live together but it’s ok to judge them? Hmmmm hypocrisy *cough *cough. Mark 2:15-22, and Luke 5:29-39. The Pharisee rebuke Jesus for eating with sinners, to which Jesus responds, "It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick." The narrative primarily shows Jesus' emphasis on mercy as opposed to self-righteous judgment.

Are yall waiting until marriage 🫶🏾

Marriage in the world (the legal document) is not the same as married in the spirit. Do you feel committed to each other? I believe you have built your ministry. I believe that you are married in the spirit. Marriage in the world is about transference of property and legal protection. Do not let "the carnival" be the focus and do not let the Pharisees and Sadducees out in the world convict you for your living situation. God ordains marriage--chosen. People get married everyday and they are not committed to growing together. The document means absolutely nothing if you are not committed to God as the head of that marriage/ministry. The most important thing is your commitment to God. If you want to get married, get married. But don't let the wedding of your dreams be the deterrent or the delay. If God called either of you home, would you be okay knowing that you have put marriage off for the wedding of your dreams? No regrets.

It’s both because the man has his parts & the woman has her parts so it’s a couple’s enjoyment to add their expertise! 😊♥️♥️♥️🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾😍😍😍